0:05 Talking About The End Goal 4:53 Certain Key Skillsets That Need To Be Strengthened Part 1 8:54 Certain Key Skillsets That Need To Be Strengthened Part 2 11:28 Critical Thinking And Boundaries 15:28 Emotional Dysregulation Causes Psychosis 19:55 Emotional Flashback Management Skill 21:53 Goodbye
There. “Now you’re emotionally satisfied.” I, for one ☝️ enjoy 😉 you’re gentle humor you use when you’re being Therapist. I like your raw humor when you are free styliin. ❤️. So grateful for your tutelage. ❤️
Will you Marry me? Guffaw. 😂😉😍🤗🌕full moon tonight. Happy Lunar/Chinese New Year to the Grand Pubah (spelling!) of Self Help “One didn’t realize they even needed!” I ❤️ur🔥self.
RICHARD GANNION; I wish more counselors, therapist, psychologist would get on board with what your teaching. I have two adult son's and see many young adults struggling with all these internal and external conflicts of negative self talk. Pyschiatrist's treat them as if there's a magic pill and it all goes away without helping them to overcome traumatic events, and that's frustrating. The hard part is those challenged with CTPTSD, have to be willing to participate and many need the assistance to move forward to improve their own lives. I'm very impressed with your informative videos of self improvement of HEALING ONE'S SELF😊👍🤗I really need help to get my son's on board to work your methods. Please Help?
16:38 ish - not recognising your belief, content of your journal. Do the Journals by hand. Count the numbers of differing hand writing styles. Some things may follow specific types of dysregulation. Something I noticed sometime ago. I can go through differing hand writing styles in one session, sometimes using mostly one other than at the bottom of a page etc. A somatic method of interacting with the 'hidden self' use a bit of string with a weight on it, and let hang from your outstreched arm. If you haven't over done sensitive hands/touch training in MA, then it shouldn't overly feel like you are consciously affecting the direction of spin, or other movements which can represent no, yes, maybe etc.
100% agree with you! Understanding yourself is such a basic necessity and when we’ve lived for decades without having that, it’s soul destroying. Finding a good psychotherapist alerted me to the existence of CPTSD and now it’s like my whole world has opened up and it’s given me the most overwhelming relief. I hope you are well on your road to thriving now ☺️
Mainstream psychology shifted away from the trauma model at least 50 years ago. Parents are paying the system to absolve them of guilt and medicate their kids into submission
There is a definite line between accepting your emotions and giving yourself license to have emotions, the difference being something like styling your hair in a mirror and styling your hair in a tornado during a blackout. Without over sharing i would like to impress gratitude with enthusiasm for these videos. They are CONFIRMING what I am seeing as an evolution of healing within myself in real time. Thank you for the work you do.
Francie Odendahl That could be the case, but there are so many reasons why people would lie, I don’t think it is always to fit in. It could be because they are afraid of getting in trouble, be it real or perceived trouble. Also there is a potential of being labeled insane and forced out of a position and possibly into institutional situations. This healing though I think is focusing on the fact that there is an emotion and then somehow coming to terms with it within yourself and not so much in just expressing them and releasing them, it is about understanding that you have an emotional reaction and that you don’t have to let it get the best of you while still having the emotion.
I had a sense of dread.. And then as I thought about me as a little girl I had a moment of sheer terror and then it got stuffed down and I couldn't feel anything for a while. It scared me to feel myself shut down. What did those people do to me? God bless us all and protect us and give us strength and courage and peace of mind in Jesus name Amen
Yes. You are not alone. Yuck. When I think about all of the trauma that was dumped on me as a little girl it sickens me. I have a visceral reaction to it. God bless us all and give us peace of mind and comfort and strength in Jesus name Amen
yes. this stuff is repulsive. the worst medicine that we need to hear. if we can bear this one time, we can have lifelong peace. we are not slaves damnit! Dr Peter Levine and Dr Gabor Mate discuss how this happened etc. Richard teaches us how to fix it...I am grateful 🙏
Ugh, god. Dammit. Emotional intimacy is a huge trigger for me in romantic relationships, I can feel myself splitting and it really keeps me from being authentic in those moments. I hate it :( I wall myself off and its painful. I end up getting cheated on a lot, maybe because I have this massive emotional barrier.
Me too. Looking back at the history of my dating/married life, I am hugely disconnected emotionally. I'm trying to be better. I'm trying to get better. I WANT to be better! I'll get there. It isn't comfy, but I know at the end, I'll be better. Better as a child, as a parent, better as a person.
I'm new to learning about all of this (co-dependency/cptsd), but feel it applies to me and my struggles, but I wanted to ask you, how do you know you are splitting or putting your wall up?
@@amyb7823 To me it feels like I start projecting a false self to the person I'm with, while my "real self" goes and hides in a closet in my mind. Its like I have a false personality that comes out - this false personality is way more agreeable than my true self, lacks boundaries, walks on eggshells, makes sure the other person is happy regardless of how I feel, laughs off uncomfortable questions, or fawns. So in relationships, the man falls in love with the false personality instead of my real self.
I am able to connect emotionally. BUT, when I am hurt I shut completely down and I immediately start planning a life without them in it. I don't want to be this. People deserve love and forgiveness and understanding. I have been faking that I don't feel it to the person to try not to hurt them. But in my head, you are no longer trustworthy and I won't let you in again. God help us in Jesus name Amen.
It affects so many people and i can see how this will help a lot with all the traumatised people walking around repeating the same self destructing behaviours everywhere. Sad that so many link PTSD only with ex military people. Thanks for articulating the steps so clearly!
Me too. People do something for me and I cry, not just when they do it but I can think about it years later and it will still make me cry. But the horror that was my childhood I brush off. I was beaten, oh well. What? I knew I had issues with abandonment and abuse but that caught me off guard. God bless us all and give us strength and courage and peace of mind in Jesus name Amen. You are not alone sister. It seems there are a lot of us.
God bless you and protect you and give you strength and courage and peace of mind in Jesus name Amen. You are not alone, you are loved, and we can all grow. Don't give up, God loves you and so do I.
Clover, you are loved, you are needed. This world needs you. I need you. We are all connected and have a purpose in this life. You are here to be amazing and for purpose. Be strong, you are beautiful, you are loved. ♥️
Thank you. I have now drawn the three smiley diagram on paper and taped it to my wardrobe door to remind myself daily of my intention. My cat joined in too ☺️😽
I was taught that way then I'm not allowed to have feelings I'm not allowed to have opinions and put tossed aside like nobody cares and put down like I'm a nobody in it nothing and I'm not important
Well, hopefully by now you know or at least sense that that was all bullsh*t. And the person or people who told you that are uneducated, ignorant and just plain wrong. Now that you know that they were wrong and ignorant don't allow those echos of bullsh*t back into your head. They're debilitating and will stop you from growing and being happy. As soon as you start to hear the echoes from the past, say "no" to yourself and distract yourself and go do something you enjoy. You can un-teach yourself to believe it. The were WRONG!
Somehow I knew this intrinsically. I’ve been using sleep hypnosis here on RU-vid for almost three years. My life is completely different. Thomas Hall and Michael Sealey are great
When I had a sudden realization that “I am not special” I was able to start healing. I used to think I was especially bad, deserving of pain, but now I feel I am just a regular human, no more deserving of ANYTHING than any other human being. The I figured out “I am not broken in need of fixing, I am hurt and in need of healing”
I feel like finally, someone can relate to & understand what I haven't been able to describe about how I feel. Thank you for posting these videos. At 47, I'm so happy to truly start trying to heal the right way.
I’m strong but I’m not tough. You are describing me totally. I look forward to the final step in healing properly. I’ve got so far and then got stuck. You’ve got it. Thank you sooooooooo much.
I seriously have no idea if I am a narcissist or not. I've been watching your videos and I seem to be both the narcissist and the empath. and I think i have cptsd...
Kacee Cloud I fully understand. I have found that to survive, I had to adopt some pesky traits. When in Rome, kind of thing. Recognizing these traits, tendencies and behaviors, was and is, the first step in rectifying or rebuilding myself. I wish you great success in creating a new you can love like never before ❤️❤️❤️
If you have empathy then you are not a Narcissist. You could possibly have some Narcissistic traits just from being around highly Narcissistic people. There is great hope and healing for you!!!💜🌈💚
How can I get a session mate! I was going to go to that best you exbo but I didnt make it. I think/feel I have cptsd/bpd. I do not have a conscious memory of the abuse I recieved pre age 5 (when I went into the care system) however numerous incidents took place that are documented in my care files as these took place infront of others. where can I find the scale you talked about at the end?
I have started learning to love myself a few years ago and an Author named Marr Kahn really helped me. His book is called Whatever Arises, Love That. I believe this is a beginning stage of reparenting onself which is a way to help grow your inner child. I love your content Richard and your videos are helping me so much so I thought I'd share this resource as a comparison.
If I had negative emotions, perceptions or feelings, I would always be told I was wrong and that I "shouldn't feel that way". Just as bad as not being allowed to have feelings. In fact, the same thing. Thank you again Richard.
And how impossible! You can't stop feeling what you feel. Fell what you feel and find human connection that validates you, your feelings, your identity and those who want what is best for you. Telling you to stop feeling is not helpful. For God's sake if we could stop the pain and suffering we sure as hell would! We need validative connection with those who get us. Huggles
That was my thought exactly. Where do we go from here? I need to start this program because I want to overcome CPTSD instead of being overcome BY it.!!!
Can you advise the difference between the emotional literacy course and superego course, recovering from covert narc abuse and have cptsd, still in trauma bond...where to begin?
So true about being able to handle most stressful situations that the average person can't, yet I completely fall apart over a scowl from a stranger or someone slamming a cabinet door. A phone call from my Mom would paralyze me in a state of fear and anxiety to the point of being physically ill for a week. If someone rings the door bell and they are not expected, I hide until they're gone. People don't get it and end up not trusting who I am.
I have a problem finishing my upper talents; I'm slowly heading in this direction of completing interests; I dissociate; nothing new; just unbelievably hard. Right, I abandon myself in a million ways; I'm getting better as I take chances; I wasn't allowed any feelings about anything; even when being stripped of my life.
Emotional dysregulation is exactly where my parents left me to swim for years. It is very catastrophic yes. People don't believe you, hell my parents refused to acknowledge i knew stuff about this as an older kid, much gaslighting etc. I say my interpreter is broken mostly and it's terrifying. You are a hope Mr. Grannon. Ty
Thank you so much, Richard. I spent so many years drinking and having flashbacks of my childhood. I didn't understand why. My husband would say, "it's over, get over it", and I couldn't explain or even understand why I was doing that.
9:39: State management: Not taking good physical care --using narcotics, eating poorly, sleeping bad, drinking too much, not exercising, bad posture (slouching or sitting all day long), superficial breathing, and being generally in bad physical condition make people way more vulnerable to inner-critics and emotional flashbacks. Those make them feel bad about themselves and the world, they do negative things because they focus on negative things (downward spiral) so they produce a lot more chaos and shit for themselves and the world but when it comes back they say: "See, the world is a shitty place and I am a shitty person" and it becomes like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Why do we do it? We can take the decision to change our ways of living. Commit and recommit until it works.
Ok I did the course. Finished about a month ago. It felt very validating at first, but then very boring. I thought it did not really do anything but just wanted to finish it. I think I did not even put my normal 150% effort, more like 60% (as instructed, not to "kill" myself over it). But now, after about a month from it, I do notice some differences... and since Richard stressed out that if this happens I should not brush it off but give him the credit, here it goes :D The end effect is that I have started to think more like what I saw most people around me think like, which is also what I used to actually hate. I saw it as animalistic and selfish. Yet I did start to care about my own interest and stopped dwelling about many things that do not directly impact me. I think that sentence "there is no objective authority to tell you otherwise" really sank into my subconsciousness. Sometimes I get parts of the audios replied in my head spontaneously, during the course of the day. I feel a bit like a prisoner who escaped and changed their looks, and yet has to make sure from time to time that no one is recognizing him. The new mindset definitely removes huge amount of weight from my shoulders, but in the back of my mind I still have a silent voice saying "are you sure you are not becoming a bad person?". On the other hand, nothing that I am now doing differently would be called "bad" by anyone I know. What strikes me the most is that all this change was only a matter of decision. I thought I had some deficiencies, was not strong enough, not this or that enough, but it was only about mind shift. Like in that elephant story. Really interesting :)
I did years of an er model that my therapist set up, every time I felt an emotion, I would go to this model and it had a thing to do to bring my mood back up. Years of doing this had made me automatically fall into flight mode and only now that I'm doing the emotional literacy work, I have realized that this has stunted me. Although my therapist thought they were helping, they actualy made my pain worse.
i love your videos because your tone and cadence holds and keeps attention. youre a very good speaker. besides also being very knowledgeable, i can tell you are coming from a good place in your heart , you make a very good teacher. Just want to show my appreciation. Thank you!
@@karo1564 someone I know goes into a pause then changes subjects very quickly if he doesn't want to answer a question or is proven wrong on something he denies aspergers vehemently and say it's just ptsd
I done a test for women for Aspergers and was very high on spectrum I am diagnosed with cptsd I believe it can mimic or I'm undiagnosed Aspergers I'm not sure but it's interesting. BlackMagnolia it's a very good question!
I did a counselling diploma and a bit of further training in transactional analysis, and I love how you’ve amalgamated the other modalities in these two videos. I’m looking at studying NLP this year too - very interesting! Thank you!
Richard, I am very fulfilled now. Thank you :) I realised I used to be emotionally illiterate, and I'm not sure how I became more literate, but it sort of happened slowly over time. I called it being numb from intense emotions. Then I met my husband and I started feeling again, true emotions and we both learnt NVC together, so we both became more emotionally literate through the course of developing our relationship, before the symptoms I had got worse. I ahve so few symptoms now, but all this info truly helps a great deal. Thank you so much.
I remember random 'waking up' episodes during childhood where I'd suddenly come 'back into consciousness' ... Example: I was 'suddenly' standing in a classroom entrance and I couldn't remember how I'd gotten there. My very early childhood was marked with many of these episodes when I would 'wake up' to find myself in some kind of time-out for something which I couldn't remember doing, with the adults seeming very perplexed. I wish I knew what had happened during these blackouts.
He is gourgeous. My inner critici.: Not for you honey I know. Thank g. It.s only me thinking it, you know. Suppose he would think that of me?!!!! Okay: little relapse
amber lee there’s a crowd of us- like thinkers- standing with you and keeping you company! 😬😉. We can grow in positive ways and move beyond the effects of the trauma!
Richard do you see this program helping CPTSR clients who have gone to the narkyjism side ie not NPD but with a lot of narky tendencies as their coping strategies?
"My Need" vs "Your Need" YES! I have trauma with sharing food. Every time I leave my room to go eat lunch, my Parent will come out of their room and hear me walking down the stairs and start talking to me, and I will warm up my food, and they will say "Mmm...that looks good" and get closer to my plate. And then I will start to have PTSD flashbacks and start flinching, and start wanting to cry...they will come closer with their fork and start eating the food I made for myself. and I am 27 years old. Once my parent asked "Can I have some of that? That looks good" when I was all ready to eat my plate that I made for myself and I said "NO!" and looked them right in the eye. And they walked away so sad and made me feel so guilty. I cannot face that guilt again so I will avoid eating and then binge eat when everyone is asleep to avoid that parent trying to eat all my food that I put my time and energy into making.
To make matters even worse, my parent never buys food for the house, so there is never enough food. I am in huge debt from doing a career they suggested I take on, so now I have no job and I am just living at the mercy of my parent. So we have very little food because they refuse to buy enough food for our household, and yet when I DO find something to eat, THEY will eat it all on me. I have major eating disoderds because of this and again, I am in my late twenties living at home. I cannot move out because of my debt that I have incurred by listening to my parent and trying to please my parent getting this corrupt career that was a scam.
I validate and hear your bad experiences, if I were there I would not let them take your food, in the same way you would likely defend another person from this violation. Be mindful though that your energy/focus is limited, and make sure to leave enough time to focusing on yourself/solutions rather then your family/problems.
@@ErizonMacani I am not doing what tf you or anyone else tell me to. I do what I want and not what a MAN tells me to do. This post was also 4 years ago.
I am having *HUGE* difficulties making sense of this emotional literacy blah blah blah (to degrees of rageful anger), although i am forcing myself to understand w.t.f. it is just about. So, i'm listening hard to what you're teaching, Richard, and the lesson resonates strongly and i have a list of words (on paper, in hand) that "they" say are emotions (but really these words are just adjectives), but how does 'depleted' (which is just another way to say 'fatigue') explain or better yet justify my self, my state of being, better than 'a limpy balloon'? Because in my mind the image makes better sense than the words. How does this 'literacy' resolve anything? Because whether i feel fatigued, limpy or depleted, i am still 'feeling' like i want to punch a hole through a wall and very much resentful.
The process is to connect what you feel with a name or label if you will that describes what you feel. With the word you can self dialogue to find out why you feel the way you do when you do. Then when you get to the cause you can process what you could not understand and override the feeling with the cognitive thought process. The moment you know why you felt x and it is processed you never relive that moment again. It is resolved. When young we don't have words. We have cries. SEL is the social learning process and where most of us got traumatized. Flashback us telling us or SCREAMING saying you are old enough to work this out. I am your brain and I was cut off so you would survive. Now let's work to translate if you will, resolve what we did not understand so it can be released. We don't have to resolve what we understand. We loop from what is unresolved until old enough to override with brain power we did not have access to when we were kids. Huggles and L'CHAIM
I think it's great that you recognize strengths and weaknesses and work with those. It's brilliant in its simplistic way. Society as a whole could do this more and turn out better people.
Hello. Today I saw your videos and I have very likely C-PTSD, but I am from Czechia and there are not enough information and support. I am 21 and I want to stop struggling. Where can I find your course please? I feel so lost for many years. Thank you in advance for your reply.
This has been extremely helpful! I really appreciate your free work. I'm in therapy but still am forced to live with my narc abusive husband. I'm starting a job next week for the first time in years. I pray I can get out of this hole soon!
What the hell is going on here?!! What exactly is the point here because I'am confused! If my ex Narc is married to another individual named Tracy, what exactly does that have to do with me? (Absolutely Nothing!)
Here is a list of what Abusers/Narcissists usually do to their targets : - Insults their target very often. Then lie when confronted about it, or say it was a joke. - When confronted with their behaviour, they pretend to be innocent and play the victim. - Everything is always your fault, even when it's obviously not. - They always have a justification for every bad thing they do. They think they're always right. - Very controlling, they tell you how to live, but they can live any way they want. Very hypocritical. - They accuse you of what they're doing to you (RED FLAG!), it's called Projection. - Portraying themselves as angels outside, when they are actually demons with their family and especially their target. - They want you to fail while pretending to want you to succeed (they're very convincing). - They never say they are sorry for hurting you (RED FLAG!). -Poison your favourite activities, they don't want you to be happy or to get pleasure. They also poison other useful activities like important skills which will help you in the future. They DO NOT want you to have skills, they want you to be as weak as possible. They don't teach you anything. - Subtly lead a smear campaign against their target, so they isolate it and make sure they don't get help. -When you want to leave the relationship with a narcissist, they beg you to stay with them and cry crocodile tears. They are the best actors. - Sometimes nice, sometimes cruel. You never know where you stand with them. Target will be walking on eggshells. - They pretend to be "victims", and they blame the target for their own behaviour. - They are incredibly arrogant and sadistic. They see the target as weak, and deserving to suffer. - They think they are models to be followed. - They are spiritually dead although they might loudly profess some kind of Spiritual Belief.
Here is a list of what Abusers/Narcissists usually do to their targets : - Insults their target very often. Then lie when confronted about it, or say it was a joke. - When confronted with their behaviour, they pretend to be innocent and play the victim. - Everything is always your fault, even when it's obviously not. - They always have a justification for every bad thing they do. They think they're always right. - Very controlling, they tell you how to live, but they can live any way they want. Very hypocritical. - They accuse you of what they're doing to you (RED FLAG!), it's called Projection. - Portraying themselves as angels outside, when they are actually demons with their family and especially their target. - They want you to fail while pretending to want you to succeed (they're very convincing). - They never say they are sorry for hurting you (RED FLAG!). -Poison your favourite activities, they don't want you to be happy or to get pleasure. They also poison other useful activities like important skills which will help you in the future. They DO NOT want you to have skills, they want you to be as weak as possible. They don't teach you anything. - Subtly lead a smear campaign against their target, so they isolate it and make sure they don't get help. -When you want to leave the relationship with a narcissist, they beg you to stay with them and cry crocodile tears. They are the best actors. - Sometimes nice, sometimes cruel. You never know where you stand with them. Target will be walking on eggshells. - They pretend to be "victims", and they blame the target for their own behaviour. - They are incredibly arrogant and sadistic. They see the target as weak, and deserving to suffer. - They think they are models to be followed. - They are spiritually dead although they might loudly profess some kind of Spiritual Belief.
I have started the course, the first thing I do (subconsciously, figured out in retrospective) is go "Okay, I should take care of my needs, this is the need I have, how to make my partner fulfill it? Ah right, I have this great tool, let's shame the shit out of him" - facepalm. You need to be careful too.. perhaps emotional literacy it is.. or flashback stopping.. in any case, there are quite many moving parts.. which I think is promising.
I find it difficult to quit smoking because of CPTSD. It gets in the way because I get far too anxious when I am faced with a problem than somebody who never experienced this condition. I don't want to be stuck with cigarettes and look forward to maybe lung cancer because I get overwhelmingly anxious over problems that need a simple solution, but to me, it might seem insurmountable.
Do many CPTSD people become narcissistic or are they just seen that way when they are suffering... I know someone with this kind of childhood and I believe he suffers from CPTSD but have been told he is a very extreme narcissist..I believe in him so I am confused
"Critical" is a loaded word with two meanings and I always go to the first one. Critical Parent means the vicious way my parents would attack me, criticizing me with every chance they got in the meanest way they could. Critical thinking is a wonderful tool to be able to see things correctly instead of jumping to wrong conclusions or following something which isn't true. I have always viewed critical thinking with terror because of the word critical. My epiphany is that I have stayed away from critical thinking because of my fear that I will be criticized, and not in the good definition of the term. To be criticized, to me, is a life ending threat. For me to criticize another usually invites them to attack me in what they consider self-defense. For me the use of the word critical is a lose lose situation. My "critical" solution has been to assume that every situation is an attempt to con me in some way and to immediately decline to participate in whatever is happening. Maybe I can change that now that I am becoming more aware of it. Maybe in your 3rd video.
I would replace the term critical thinking with cognitive reasoning . When you apply cognitive reasoning you remove emotion and think objectively. I have found when things do not make sense then a manipulator is somewhere in the mix.
What if your emotional disregulation (sp) between think and feel is more challenging because you are biologically a highly emotional/sensitive person? Is there any practices to help you engage/re-pattern the more logical neuro pathways? Or am I ahead of myself here. (At marker 17:49)
I am probably a 10 on the scale because of intense childhood physical and mental trauma followed by MST in the American military, followed by several severely physically and mentally abusive relationships. This has gone on to the point where I don't want to date ever again and have paired down my social circle to a very few people who haven't intentionally hurt me. The statement that I would need to do this with a coach or therapist due to the severity of my CPTSD was a little disheartening, because I do not have access to a proper therapist at present. I am going to do the work the best I can on my own though. I don't have a good track record of being gentle with myself, but I'll try. Thanks again.
I was feeling nostalgic and searched for 'the cure album' and this came to the top of the search. Best wishes to Richard , his homies and lots of love for 2020!
Hi Richard. I hope you see my question. I just want to ask if this way of healing the super ego will then also be able to be used on someone with NPD? I am not fully codependent but I developed codependency in a way through abandonment wounds later in life. I'm also an empath. I met a covert narcissist and fell in love with him despite all the red flags. I wanted to see the good in him and wanted to help him with his issues. After about a year and a half he discarded me out of the blue which made no sense at all.. I went through so much pain and then I stumbled onto narcissism and everything clicked into place. He wanted to stay friends, so I still stayed friends with him because our bond was just too intense. I now understand all the dynamics and I feel sorry for him and I know that this is also my codependency speaking, but I genuinely feel sorry for him, he is older and he is stuck in this loop and I cannot see how he is ever going to get out of it. I want to help him and I'm intellectually capable. I still care about him but also understand that out of a therapeutic perspective having close ties or emotional bonds would make this process more complex and difficult. I just want to see if I cannot open his eyes a little and try to nudge him into going into therapy which I might even try to help him cover the costs. This is not about me wanting to gain something, but it's about the empathic part of me that just cannot turn my back on someone that is lost and stuck in so much pain. You seem to be one of the only people that truly understands narcissism from lots of different perspectives and you are also one of the only people that seem to understand and believe that with the right approach NPD can be cured or at least helped in a big way. I also think that perhaps your approach to healing the super ego and developing an ego if maybe coupled with neuroscience and finding a way to safely stimulate the area of the brain that is underdeveloped could possibly ultimately be the complete cure for NPD. Too many people only spew messages of hate and intolerance (understandably so from the pain caused) all over the internet. Therapists don't even try to understand how to treat someone with npd and rather just show them away. I want to get enough help to be able to try and get him to develop his ego a bit so that it can combat his super ego.. I so hope you read this
@@oksanaml9279 for sure. I'm just trying to find out how to get started on it. I guess I'm just jumping the gun since he probably hasn't finished it yet.
You can use EMDR. As an adult you can override your emotional state and resolve what was not processed. EMDR overrides the same way your brain can with Richard's program. He is teaching you how to resolve them so they disopaite and put you in alignment with truth and reality that did not align when traumatized.
Wish I had a therapist here that I could talk to must needed.... thank you! Just found you on U tube and really taking in the words your saying.... thank you!
What I wrote is the tip of iceberg. I now go back and try to relive history and use my voice to protect my children from my mother and heroically put her on a plane. Or what ever the multiplayer memory surfaces, which is on a daily basis. But even as I replay me being my own hero or advocate, it still doesn’t remove the pain because those two monsters got away with their crap behavior. And they are still in my brain.
Where can I find more information for attachment trauma? I have a wonderful caring man in my life, he does not deserve to be loved the way I was loved. I want to heal and better myself so I can give him the love he deserves from me. Can you look into this more? if you haven’t already.
I can hardly handle watching it because its so direct . Ive been doing better; and I get the idea... its frustrating to have an idea and not the maturity to take a chance on doing things out in the real world... I like to play guitar; I can see myself playing live but cant seem to get their; I dissociate and stay at this child level.. im struggling to go further with the things I want power over; my own life... Id like to be an artist; but I cant seem too handle the reality of it; im scared to death of the negative I see in it... scares me; im back to childhood. just had a women who liked me; I could not meet up with her on time because I was to scared she was not safe... could not follow through;. I would like to tell someone how I feel just to keep them around so their not getting rejected.
that laugh at 14:20 is the one when you see the ridiculousness of our patterns. I laugh at my ridiculous thoughts all the time. smh. but now that I see it, I feel like Neo in the Matrix. I see the code sometimes now.
