My aunt (dads side) went through trauma due to her interracial “adoption” (she was never legally adopted into the family). She is an indigenous Australian. I’m not sure exactly what trauma my grandma did personally, knowing my grandma she probably did a lot she wasn’t the nicest woman. My aunt experienced a lot of discrimination from her own biological family. Her biological brothers actually told her “she wasn’t a real black person” because she was being raised by a white family and I don’t know the circumstances that landed her and her bio siblings in foster care. I can’t even begin to imagine what she went through possibly never feeling accepted by either race. She’s not exactly a mentally well woman. Both she and my other aunt on that side of the family are both foster/and adopted kids and both have the trauma of being in the foster system but she just had that the whole race issue piled up on top of it all. I just hope that wherever she is now she is okay and managed to raise her daughter in a better environment then what she was. I haven’t seen her since I was like four.
I think, depending on the percentage of transracial adoptees in a given city, suburb, or town, there should be a mandatory lecture integrated within high school health class curriculums on this topic. A lecture that doesn't reinforce ostracization but instills awareness.
Unfortunately with transracial adoptions, you can’t prepare them how others are going to perceive them or help them with their cultural identity. I can’t blame the parent willing to adopt because no one prepares for understanding different cultures or race, that the communities they live in aren’t diverse due machinations old older eras. The advice I can say is just introduce them early to the racial and cultural communities and stop playing the “assimilation game” where we pretend the world is colorblind. I always wonder what the biological parents would want their child ideals and values growing up. It’s unfortunate that we live in a world where parents are forced into giving up their children due to economics.
I agree with what your saying and I admit it's probably true especially being mixed race. I do understand this acutely, but that said if push came to shove and I was doing the adopting, I don't think could would do what your suggesting. If I had the money and resources to adopt a child that was not related to my mix at all I think I would still pass on my values, culture, and ethics/religion since it would be my house they would be raised in. I do realize that this approach causes some detrimental effects to the children but I can't fault the adoptive parents for doing the way I suggested. It is the values or failings of the adoptive childs culture of origin that caused the situation either directly or indirectly. Why should the child be taught those values when the parents aren't even equipped to do this half the time? The only difference I would make in the raising would be not to teach them to assimilate, but teach to be self reliant individuals who don't need to emotionally or financially depend on anyone for anything, including me. That way regardless of what culture they end up going back to, they won't have to beg from anyone for acceptance, but can get to know there other side at their own pace.
Some parts of America are populated by unintelligent people that really is the fact. Some places people are raised in a culture to be professional. Mrs. Long should not hope for change when people are not capable of it and don't have the education or intelligence to recognize it and change . It would be best to find those areas out there as they do exist.
What about if white children are adopted by Black or Asian parents? And why does nobody never mention the Latinos? They somehow just seem to escape all those conversations....
The fact you see this as an apples to apples situation reflects that you don't truly understand the issue. I actually had to explain this to an Indian friend because her daughter was being raised as a minority in America - while she had grown up as an Indian in India (part of the majority). It's a completely different experience.
Also, just remember the racial makeup of America (which is where most adoptees go) is still very white. Sure, these situations happen, but outside of maybe a few southern cities or California, white children will not have to look far to find other people like them. Of course there are hundreds of thousands of edge cases, but just shows the reality of adoption in general.
Maybe it should be a requirement that the adopting family has at least half of what is very similar of the target chjIb's origin. You know, if you want to adopt an African-American chjIb, then you have a single African-American or dark brown skinned parent in the household with a quality plan to raise them properly. This makes sense. The chjId sees people that resemble him/her enough(nothing wrong with me) and they are being instructed about what that life is like. Also, when you have that, one whole side of the family looks like that chjIb, as well. And, even if divorce should occur, both parties should have equal stake in the chjIb's development--whether that be financial or visitation. Another thing would be--what's their school and neighborhood environment like?! You have to be careful not to create a "Losing Isaiah" scenario, a scenario where they hate their own race(Larry Elder), or scenario where a chjIb bleaches/tans their skin because they think their color is ugly!
As an adoptee, I can assure you that it would have been really nice if at least one person in my family was my body style and size. It was very lonely being the only fat kid in the family.
This is why the government loves it when people can't let go racism long wong anjamama or cracker yellow or nigga why must people dwell on the fact that they are what they are respectful saying if I don't like Samoans is it wrong of me is it wrong if choose not to live by them or even better what if I don't want my child to have sex or marriage and dilute my blood line. Am I wrong to want the best for my family. The point is you can never stop people from not liking other culture for what ever reason. As long as our government officials are not racially motivated. Sorry you're not Japanese but you will have to except it maybe you try and live with your people or just except the people around you and respect their space and rights
"we need these kids to understand that they're different because they are a different race from their parents" I propose we attach magnets to rev Dr king and put a coil of wire around his coffin, we could power a small city and all it would cost is our humanity.
I've had "the talk". One uncle was assaulted by a policeman. Another was harassed. I was illegally detained with family because the cops wouldn't walk 15 feet to read the fence sign proving our activity was legal in that area. Everyone should be skeptical and untrusting of police, though I agree blacks have it worse. Racism is an unfair evaluation of someone because of their race. "Long" to "Wong", first of all, was probably an unconscious assumption, not a conscious assumption. Secondly, if it were a conscious assumption, that may be dumb, but fairness has nothing to do with it.
What parents that adopt a child of a different race talk about the (racial) differences between them, that has more detrimental effects to the mentality of children as they grow up.
@@kaiiir9312 , if you tell your child as a parent that you are inherently different then that plants the seed of division between the parent and child.
