My parents adopted my brothers who are african american before my biological sister and I were born. My family has always struggled with this. We have had to move cities to find more diversity because my brothers would get racial slurs and be asked why they "don't act black." As I would be treated with kindness and respect, some people would not treat my brothers the same as they would treat my sister or I because we are white. People have asked me what it's like to have 2 older african american brothers. They are the only brothers I have and I look to them for guidance and as an example. My older brothers are my brothers, no matter the color of their skin.
I think there is a different dynamic between white couples who adopt black children and interracial couples who have mixed race children. Those should be separate videos.
No there really isn't... If a child is adopted or a child is biological they still have the upbringing by white parents while living as black person or person of color in the world so they shouldn't be two separate videos it works well
I'm biracial and was adopted by a white family. I was always in awe of the way my mom went to bat for me every time someone decided what I could or couldn't do. You never know how much your parents really do for you and how your experiences affect them too. These parents are awesome and I'm so glad they have these experiences to share!
My mom is white, thanks for making this video. My mom went to a black hair salon when I was younger and they taught her how to properly take care of my hair. Thank God for that lol.
I also had those experiences and sadly my mother never let me explore my other culture and I find that all throughout growing up and even now I am struggling with my hair because I have never had anyone to teach me
Wakka HOW SAD! RU-vid Mixed hair videos is your friend. Please don't continue life without the joy of ENJOYING your hair and getting the right products. God loves you and remember HIS APPROVAL when thoughts of insecurity come to mind. Be Blessed. There's even a line called Mixed Chicks
Mireille Kiala it s not necessary to be a brain surgeon to be somebody : at university we have faced so called top professors who were racists .... plenty of civilisations out of western civilisation where somebody is fully respected just because is part of human race ... no matter what condition he is ...or so called doctorates or PhD he is “displaying “
Beautiful. I was adopted by white parents @ 11 years of age and simple never had any issues with anyone in my universe. God is good. God bless everyone.
@@oof6471 black women's hair is a little hard to take care of. some people don't like their hair if it's curly and stuff Because it's harder to take care of
Segun B. I want to adopt a white baby in the future. I'm only half black though and my boyfriend is Puerto Rican. Lol that'll be a very colorful family!
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" Racism is a LEARNT BEHAVIOR" !! Words of Truth for REAL, but , extremely difficult OR IMPOSSIBLE TO GET TO THE MINDS OF THOSE WHO TEACH IT (Racism) and to give REASONS as to why it is taught !!!!
Isa Muhammad, you speak the truth. The only race is the Human race. All and everyone is just people. How long do you think it's going to take before it's realized and accepted by the all and everyone? A time will come when they will have to evolve or become extinct.
It seem to me that a lot of whats going on is these white people are trying to prove they're not racist by doing all this race mixing and having biracial kids....
White parents with adopted black,Asian or Latin children are more acceptable then Asian parents or grandparents with Half White grand sons and grand daughters. I experienced this myself. I was taking my grandson and my grand daughter to Australia. Both my grand children has their mother’s features. Blond hair blues with the exception of they both have almond shaped eyes. I was getting ready to board when the flight attendants asked me who those two children belongs to and where are their parents. I told the flight attendants that I’m their grandfather and they’re my grand children. The response from her and the other male flight attendants were hostile. Immediately they called airport police and had me in hand cuffs and escorted me to the back room. They separated me from my grand children. They asked me where did I picked up those children. They took my grand children and called Child Protective Services. Than the officers began interrogating for 8 hours. I kept telling them to call my mother in law to confirmation but they refused. Finally I said let me make one phone call to my son. Than they handed me the phone to make the calls. One hour later my son and his wife showed up and asked to see their children and told the officers to take the hand cuff off me that they have no rights to do that to me. They never apologize to me or anything. My grand children boarded the pane with me. Even when I take my grand children to the store I was questioned by police officers and had to verify that these children are my grand children. Now that my grand children are older they understood what I go through every time they’re with me. The most recent incident was last month. But my grand son finally told the officer that why are they harnessing me because I’m Asian that they couldn’t see past that he is my grand son. My grand son was so upset that he cries.
Same thing happened to my Chinese aunt and her biracial (half white and half white) son entering canada for a holiday some years ago. My cousin was left crying trying to convince them that she was his mother, they also questioned why she didn't have the same last name as she still used her Chinese one. His stepdad my unvle who is white and elder sister with different last names got through together with no problems on another flight. So it happens..
So what is right? The police shouldn't profile people at all? What is the point of having a tax system and police to enforce laws against possible and suspected child slave traffickers? It isn't the police fault that mixed race humans happen to incidentally fall into the suspected categories for child trafficking, it is just the statistics on the matter.
Growing up, I was constantly told that my name, how I acted, and how I dressed were "so white," even though I was raised by two black parents. I relate to this video in a different way, but loved it all the same.
Literally same and unfortunately when I was younger- elementary school age- I took this as a compliment and didn’t have the privilege of being around a lot of Black people till COLLEGE! So many people are not given the opportunity and are stuck in all white areas and live their lives in majority white societies. I loved this video, especially for those not of color that need people like them to explain things.
"No he's actually going to be a brain surgeon!" This is my favorite comeback. No but seriously, your race, your gender, your physical abilities or any disabilities, none of these things determine who you are or what you will become. And if we stopped treating kids that way from, well, birth, maybe they would grow up feeling more empowered to try different things and become pathbreakers.
@@heathercline328 you embody the characteristics of whoever raises you.. there is an Asian girl i saw on youtube who was raised by a black woman, from the way she talks, you can tell she is a "No Nonsense" person, and she was raised in the deep south
Last time i checked, good people want to stay together, not apart. What kind of looney world the left lives in should promptly be categorized as a mental disorder so they stop taking everyone else out with them.
As an adopted black woman raised in a white family in an almost TOTALLY white city I can definitely say it was hard to find my identity. My parents shielded me from racism when I was younger and it wasn’t until I dated a black guy who’s dad sat me down and had the “black people in America” talk with me that I actually understood some things. There are some things I wish I was able to be taught by my parents or that I had someone ANYONE around who looked like me, but also I’m so glad I was raised the way I was with the morals and outlook on life that my amazing parents were and are able to give to me. They’re great parents and that has nothing to do with their race. Plus, props to my red head mom for taking such great care of my hair!!
I had trouble finding my identity growing up too. My adoptive parents are Caucasian and I’m Guarani Indian from Paraguay. Growing up my parents never exposed me to my culture so I grew up thinking I was essentially white. I went to a predominately white school, lived in a totally white neighborhood, exposed to what people today call mostly “white people food”. It wasn’t until I married another Latino that they made me realize I was part of the Latin culture.
My mom adopted me from Haiti. Some people think it was a “charity act”. It pisses me off. But then I remember I have the type of love not many people have. I have exposer and insight of both races. I’ve learned not to care about race. And she’s good a braids lol. I turn 12 tomorrow, I was adopted on my birthday. I love her so much. Without her I probably wouldn’t have lived past 2. I just hope that people become more accepting.❤️🙏🏾
Watched through tears. I am the mother of 3 gorgeous, smart, loving all around amazing children through the gift of adoption. I have an Asian daughter and 1 white and 1 black son. Thank you for doing this video Buzzfeed, it was nice to see these other parents and listen to their stories. I especially liked to listen to the women who have older children since mine are still very young.
It’s sad that in the United States people really just think in race and people skin color. I’m not sure if Im the only one but at least where I was raised in the Caribbean mixed families are a norm. Its just normal and natural. Actually is very common that a white girl dates a darker skin tone guy or viceversa. Usually we joke around when saying: “I cant date someone as dark or as white as me, Im already this skin color why would I date some one just like me. Maybe thats why the mayority of the population is mixed. It was a shock for me to go to the US and see so many people divided by race. Specially as a child, seen groups of black people or just white people it was something I couldn’t understand. It was just not like I was raised. I wish someday everyone would just stop caring about race and caring about each other.
Girl stop lying! LMFAO! Race is an issue in the Caribbean cuz my family is from there! There’s a skin bleaching issue going on down there now and THATS the reason for race mixing! They want to have light skinned kids! Ppl from other countries LOVE pretending like they don’t deal with racism and colorism! Y’all jst don’t like talking about it and have decided to stop fighting it!
Lauren Cameron wow how sad that thats your experience. That must be you family then because certainly is not the way I was raised and not the way I saw it at the island I grew up. Skin bleaching? For real? Here where I grew up even my mom makes fun of how pale I turned out (just like her father side of the family). I have never seen skin bleaching products on the farmacy or stores unless is for under the arms or so. Self tanning and such is everywhere though. We are very proud of looking so different one to each other. Even though we might not look the same race we come from the same place.
Thought I was the only one seeing it that way. My family in Puerto Rico are all Puerto Rican, but many have different skin tones and they all still get together and party it up. Same culture, though, which could make a slight difference...but not a soul gives 2 shits if you "look different". Now I live in Florida, and it's nothing but petty individuals who can't even relax around somebody with a different skin tone. It sucks, bad.
I feel like all the people commenting things like "why do we need this video" or "race doesn't matter, it's just about raising your kids" etc, didn't actually watch the video. This is clearly an issue that is not spoken of enough. It is important, it is real and it needs to be discussed. There are so many parents that are in similar situations yet they do an awful job at it (anywhere from completely ignoring a child's background to brainwashing the kids into thinking their other culture/ethnic background is inferior)
Or worse, they make their black child believe that they're white. Like they aren't even that white-passing For instance, this girl did really believed she was white until 16. www.xonecole.com/parents-made-think-white-whole-life-now-im-reclaiming-blackness/ There's also a documentary on Netflix, called Little White Lie, made by a woman who has been in the same situation and where her parents told her, her blackness was due to a Sicilian ancestor. She did an interview on HOT97: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-TWHrA_-5Fp8.html I do agree with you that this issue need to be discussed, because we may end up with children who have been lied to their whole life and who have been they have white privilege, 'til reality literally punch them in the face.
I noticed that it takes some white people having to be intimately connected to a black family member for them to understand racism. They finally get it when it's happening to someone they love (especially their child). At that point they can't deny racism anymore.
@@mrheal420 With all of the talk of a "post racial America" after Obama was elected, yes, you'd think that some whites were clueless to how racism worked in America. Granted, I'm not talking about *all* whites, but the ones living in mostly insular white communities seem to be especially prone to the "maybe it's all in your head" type of response when race issues are brought up.
nothing wrong with Caucasians having Black kids, just make sure you live in a diverse community for the sake of the child and the family, one where you don't have to fear for the child walking outside
Bill While I respect you and appreciate your desire to state your opinion without hurting anyone’s feelings, I must say that I believe your ideology is inherently flawed. First off, how would I exist? It’s kind of hard to explain, but my father is black and my mother is white. I identify as mixed-race. If in your mind, an ideal society separates races, would there be a moral and just way to deal with me? If I were grouped in with one category, I would not have a relationship with my other parent.
I can't believe that person at the rental complex was really that comfortable to say such a thing to someone they don't know or no anything about. No wonder black people in America are paranoid, I mean seriously. They seem to have every right to be.
eiram31 people have no shame. Years ago, my kids and I were at Target. They were old enough to go to the electronics section while I shopped for a few minutes. I went to the electronics and asked a worker there for help finding something. She told me she would call someone else, because she was watching those two ‘black kids’ over there, because between you and me they steal. I looked at her, and said that they weren’t going to steal anything because their daddy and I weren’t raising thieves. Then left my buggy right there and left, with a stop by the front to talk to the manager
eiram31 that's just hard for me to believe that someone would just go up to you and say something like that,not knowing if she had a black boyfriend, or husband she could have said that, but I'm not believing it.
I believe it. Not only in America, in other parts of the world people also profile who they rent to, and openly so. I think this person was abrasive or brash to say the N word... but i dont think its surprising that many prefer a certain race or color in their neighbourhood, they just are more cautious how they go about implying it. He just felt safe saying it because of how this lady looks,... blonde .. etc, so he generalized that she was the same wavelength.
ALLTHE MONEY - the worst ones are where they tell you the rent on the phone for an apartment and how many units available and when you get there they tell you a higher price or even that they are all full. That happens ALL the time all over the country and in Canada too. Wouldn't be surprised if it happens all over the world either.
MY aunt adopted me when I was 7 and she became my mom and her ex husband who is white became my dad. He's still my dad even though They're divorced. I see him every summer.
When the mother said "I failed him, why can't he talk to me about that" it broke my heart imagine the mother the emotion she must have felt I can totally understand probably the son didn't wanted his mom to be worried such a kind child and loving mother, pardon my English
agreed, I feel like this video has an important message to other parents who are adopting/raising mixed or black kids, but the flip side would be good for children who may go through that identity issue
''goodness of their heart'' They adopted coloured children for their own entertainment. It's sickening how white-only parents steal the culture of these coloured children.
L5940 sickening? You’d rather have these kids go through foster care their whole lives and never experience the true love of a family? None of the parents “stole their culture” or “used it for entertainment.” My cousin is half black and half Puerto Rican (and was adopted by my white aunt and uncle) They adopted her because they couldn’t have children of their own-not because they wanted “something exotic to look at or steal a child’s culture.” 🙄 They love her with all their hearts and would do anything for her. They would never, ever see her as entertainment. She is their child and that’s it.
L5940 Well these kids do need some black influence in their lives but these parents really seem to care. And these kids have a good home instead of not having one.
Racism is a learnt behaviour. I grew up on a poor housing estate- My best friend was muslim. I'm white. My neighbourhood had black, white asian and mixed race. Although it was poor, we all relied on one another. I can actually remember the stage in my childhood where I learnt what "race" was. As a child you never even think about it... I now have a very fortunate life and if I can't have children myself due to my health, I would love to adopt.x
No it’s not. Racism is absolutely natural. You actually have to unlearn it. You naturally have a fearful response towards people acting or looking differently. It’s was the same with black towards white people. They regarded them as evil bc of their skincolor and vice Versa. Some even worshipped them bc of it. It’s just human nature.
I’m adopted along with my 2 other adopted siblings. And honestly it’s the best thing and the worse thing ever. People would stare when we would go out in public. They still do stare and I hate it. I’m proud to be black even if I wasn’t raised “black”. But I’m extremely happy that someone decided to take me into their arms. Life will always be different for me but I love it. My other siblings are white but they still love and care about my just as any other family would care for their own.
I think the benefit of being raised in a Black family as a Black person' is that you see people like yourself so you never feel like the odd person out and you learn tools for dealing with racism. however there is no such thing as really being "raised Black" A lot of what ppl think is being raised black is stereotypes. you dont ova to try to be Black you just are Black. Every Black family is different, having different social class and economic background. Of course there are common cultural experiences but those dont define who you are as an individual I think its vital to have Black people in your life as role models and influences but it doesn't make you any less Black bc you may not fit someone's stereotype of what a Black person should be.
I don’t get what the point is to raise children according to “race”. America is pretty annoying in that regard, unlike in europe people seem to identify with skin color a lot.
Stories like these warm my heart even though they encounter unique experiences most of us won't understand. I'm white but both my parents are black. They adopted me when I was 3 after both of my parents passed away in a car accident. Our skin color might be different, but they will always be my parents. Even though my appearance is white, I will always be black inside and identify more as black. My siblings and the rest of my family are black but they treat me like I'm no different than them. My parents adopting me and raising me around black culture was truly one of the greatest gifts in my life.
Bethany Talbot co washing is a washing method that black women with natural hair use... it helps us retain moisture in our hair, but remove build up too, it’s hard to explain why it was funny it’s an inside thing. 😄
No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than it’s opposite. Great quote from my president Nelson Mandela
Some of what these people say, makes no sense to me! I’ve never felt defined by the color of my brown skin, nor by the fact that I was born in Mexico. I’m a human being raised in America and I get along with bc of their character and commonalities that have absolutely nothing to do with skin color.
ish I’m a full Blooded, 47 year old Black man, born and raised in America by two Black parents who are still alive, with my 3 Black Biological Brothers and I’ve never heard of “co-washing” till this video. Who’s been keeping this information from me?
I'm from rural Germany and at my school were only two kids with dark skin, siblings. Their mum was African and their dad German. They were raised in Germany, and I never thought of them as anything other than German tbh 🤷
I'm a hairstylist and I have clients who are a white gay couple with an adopted black daughter and they have no clue what to do with her hair! They really were really worried about messing up so I helped to teach them some haircare, pointed them in the direction of RU-vid tutorials and other families 😂
True, but race is a part of love. You have to acknowledge it, understand it, interact with it or at least try doing those things when you raise a child of a different race. THAT really shows just how much you truly love your kids. It's those parents who do these things that make my heart flutter, because my parents often lacked this knowledge. I still love them of course but I often have to remind them that I have a different experience than them because I am not white.
Yes but "color" presents differences that need to be addressed. Color is more than skin deep and white families cannot provide children with the wisdom they need to survive in this world where color exist.
This people are sick racist as minority i would hate to be taken from my culture so that some white people could virtual signal how great they are this is disgusting in my point of view
Leggs why is seeing that sad? Those will be the people who can sympathize with someone who doesn’t look like them. Sad is the large majority of people who are clueless as to what someone else goes through.
ITHEREONETHATHASNT or just knew Billybob would let them off wit a slap on the wrist for a DUI, and Mary let them right on into college because she went to school with his mama... that's white privilege, guy!
I love this. I wish more white parents of black kids would understand everything said here. As a mixed race woman I try to explain to my white friends who have black children the disservice they are doing by not acknowledging that their kids will have a different experience than they have had. Also it is so important for our young boys and girls to have a connection to their black culture and elders to teach them the ways of the world and how to keep themselves safe. A parents privilege does not extend itself to their child. I applaud every one of these parents for taking the time to learn and grow. Special props to the lady who watches RU-vid video to learn about her daughter's hair. My mama could NOT control my hair. I was teased relentlessly. The other kids called me mophead and made me cry. Or teased me about putting my finger in a light socket, or whatever else they felt like doing. My childhood was traumatizing. I spent too many years in pain wanting to be someone else. I hope that little girl always loves herself and her hair.
I think its disrespectful when mixed race kids reject one side when they are both. Like your parents fell in love and made you. You are part of both of them. Don't forget that. Don't let society tell you that because of your skin tone or hair type that you are of one race.
THANK YOU! I get so pissed off when people ask me "What are you?" and I say "Mixed" and they go "Yeah but.......what are you?". WHY the hell is "mixed" not an acceptable answer? How could you POSSIBLY ask me to side with just one drop of blood in my veins because my skin is slightly darker than yours and deny the rest of who I am? MIXED MEANS MIXED, NOT BLACK, WHITE, ASIAN, HISPANIC, ETC ETC ETC, IT'S MIXED!
This is cool. I'm a 17 year old with black and Latino adopted siblings. I have one bio sister, 2 younger siblings who are black that are from Ethiopia and an older brother from Honduras.
Parents will always be parents - loving, protective and nurturing and I got teary eyed watching this... all of them are truly great parents to their beautiful children
I’m just happy you decide to bring a child in your life and take care of it. All these parents are a gifted. Thank you taking on a child that’s not yours & that goes for any adopted Parent. It’s always a issue with this Black culture and white culture. Is the child growing in the right house hold? It’s doesn’t matter as long as you Put love and care in that child. The child will love you
DJ NC that's ABSOLUTELY TRUE! But the thing is that we live in a racist country with a long, continuing, racist history. That's why these parents are doing what they're doing.
Completely agree but regardless of whether the child that's adopted is black, Hispanic or asian it's important to educate them and let them have interactions with their own culture. Just so they know where they come from and this way later on they're not having to go through as much difficulty when they get curious about their respective background.
Agreed. I read an article about a group of black adults who grew up in white households and their race was never discussed. They said they loved their parents but regretted being adopted by white people who didn't allow them to interact with their own culture because they grew up and didn't understand they would be treated differently than their white siblings and parents. Essentially, they had to learn how to navigate the world of racism on their own with no guidance. So yeah, race is an issue. If you don't want to engage with any culture outside of your own, then don't adopt children from a different race/culture.
I'm always amazed how black and white americans act like they are two completely different nationalities when in reality they are born and live in the same country
Cody Whitlock No it shouldn't. It promotes segregation that different colored people are different from each other and should be raised differently. That's ridiculous. Will the family with the white daughter and black son send their daughter to learn how to be black? I doubt that, so that seems awful to me that one is treated differently than the other.
Tender Sheep You obviously don't comprehend the message nor importance. Cody is in fact right, as well as these parents in the video. If you live in America or are even familiar with it's past and present history, you'd ought to have some idea of why that was said and of it's importance.
So I'm not mixed race but I was born in Nigeria but as a baby brought to Switzerland. I speak fluent english and Swiss-German. I never really thought about it on till I visited Nigeria and my relatives said that I acted weird. And I noticed that a lot of Nigerian people that I met would tell me "you are not white stop acting like it". And I just thought wait there is a way to act white. I was born in Nigeria I know that but I was still raised in Switzerland and I love both countries. Edit: Wow 310 likes didn't expect that thx a lot and I enjoyed reading your storys a lot😊
Kareen .I I can totally relate, I was born in Ireland but from Nigeria, so I speak fluent English and Irish. When I go back they’re always like “you’re oyinbo” or they look at me differently for just living abroad, even tho I’m still 100% Nigerian!
Erykahhh I agree I think ppl can grow and have a more positive outlook of life by embracing all the things that make them unique. They said it best with non verbal communications with all walks of life be it race, religion or anything else you learn how to express yourself to your fullest. Hell the more the merrier! Life is a long wonderful lesson!
P Chukan, good observation. Indeed, black/brown is a color, whereas being Irish is a nationality. A correct statement would rather be white, since white and black people can be Irish, regardless of ethnicity.
No, I'm talking about the fact that people still can't see past race. I'm not black, I'm a person just like everyone in these videos. These are amazing individuals raising children and they shouldn't have to explain why people are racist to their children. It shouldn't be a problem anymore.
TO RIGHT...BUT LETS NO FROGET WHERE 99% OF RACISM IS COMMING FROM - WHITE-HATING LIBERALS AND BLACKS..... DONT LET THEM CONVINCE YOU WITH THE LIES - 1/ ALL THE THINGS THAT THE SO CALLED P.C. BRIGADE HAVE CALLED RACIST OVER THE LAST 35 YEARS HAVENT BEEN. 2/ OPPOSING MASS IMMIGRATION IS NOT RACIST AND THOSE WHO HAVE THE SENCE TO OPPOSE IT ARE NOT WHITE SUPPREMACISTS - WE JUST DONT WANT TO BE INVADED AND REPLACED. 2/ THE LIBERAL/LEFT MEDIA - SJWS- THE ANTI-TRUMP/BREXIT BRIGADE ARE ALL LIARS WHO ONLY WANT TO BRING ABOUT THE DESTRUCTION OF THE WEST AND THEIR SICK UNWORKABLE GLOBALIST IDEOLOGY - SEE PAUL JOSEPH WATSON, UNDOOMED, MILO, LAUREN SOUTHERN AND RED ICE TV FOR THE DETAILS..
I'm mixed--white dad and black mom. Growing up, Kids asked me which parent was black and they told me that having a white dad explains "it". I was asked all the time why I don't talk like I'm black. Kids also teased me for my "poofy" hair and glasses because having both was dorky. Exceptions were made for other peers with similar "dorky" qualities but of a different race. I sing and people always assume it's RnB or Hip Hop. Then I tell them that it's opera 😂 Stereotypes are out there and people will want to put you in a box. Don't let them corner you. Be the exceptional, radically different YOU that no one else can be.
My mums white and my dads black and I get told I don’t ‘act black’ but I’ve literally grown up more around the white side of my fam. My mums amazing, she learned how to cornrow and do protective styles on my hair so mad respect for her
Abby Liu just hair styles that you can keep in for a while. Cornrows, braids, up dos etc. Some believe your hair will grow faster since you are not constantly combing it and causing breakage.
Kudos to these parents who love their kids so much they are willing to acknowledge their privilege yet provide the resources and empathy to their children for them to flourish and grow in the world. Awesome.
little rose It's weird that it is.. I have 2 biracial children and it seems as a black woman we get the weird looks because it's not common, black woman, white man. My son is 23 and my daughter is 16. Her dad was like how the hell do I do her hair!! 😆 We, thank goodness, didn't have any of the issues so I'm extremely thankful for that.
Swnsasy _ my mom is black and people ask me if shes my mom all the time when im literally with her all the time. Why would a 14 year old hang with a grown woman? 😂so yeah its been kinda awkward my whole life because people dont instantly get that's my mom
Brianna Carter same for my husband and i. No children yet but when we go out in public people often dont realize were together or a couple because im black and hes white
I have some biracial cousins. Once, I showed a picture of one of them to my friend and she said "but she's white" (I'm black). She didn't mean it in an offensive way because she was a great friend and a great person. But a lot of people are ignorant to the fact that biracial people exist. To her, she saw a very light-skinned girl with loose curls and she thought "white". So I think people need to be more aware that there's more to race than black or white
I am looking into adopting a baby from Nigeria. I am a single white woman with three grown children. I am so excited and color does not matter to me. I will teach my child his/her culture to the best of my ability. We will learn together. I don't even know my baby yet, but I know I will love him/her with all my heart.
if color isn't a problem why are you trying to abopt in nigeria specifically? Shouldn't you adopt in your own country instead and specify that you don't care of the ethnicity or the child?
Cedric Beachy just cause someone compliments one group doesn’t mean they are saying there’s something wrong with everyone else. That’s like someone saying wow that girl is beautiful and you being like but what about other girls?
I'm a mother of two mixed race children; white mother & half black father. My oldest son looks like he's only of white race while my youngest son clearly has the features and skin color of a mixed race child. I worry about what hardships they will go through as they get older with my oldest son looking much more white and my youngest son looking very mixed. I haven't really figured out, as a single mother, how to explain to them the serious topics such as police brutality or other individuals making racist comments. Thankfully, we live in a community where race is very diverse and we have yet to have any issues. However, I feel that as they get older and start middle school, jr. high, and high school they are obviously going to start hearing things from their peers and I hope that our very close relationship will allow them to feel comfortable enough to come to me and ask me questions. I don't want my boys to EVER feel ashamed of their race. I want them to be proud and I will continue to provide support and stand up for them when it is needed. These parents in this video are doing an AMAZING job!!!
I'm glad that you started to deepen your understanding of these issues since I feel often times many white people are dismissive of some forms of racialized oppression both institutionally and culturally.
I don’t know if telling your kids they will experience hardships because of their race is a good idea. Let them be, these hardships will thicken their skin, make them stronger, build character. This is just my anecdotal experience.
They'll be fine. :) You're on the right track! Teach them confidence, to embrace who they are (all sides) and that of others, and they'll do great. If they run into a few intolerant morons, who are certainly out there, they'll know that it's the intolerant's issue, not theirs, and a sign of insecurity on behalf of the intolerant. They shouldn't be feared but pitied. I'm 39, multiracial (Caucasian mom; black and native American father), very proud of who I am (I actually think it's quite cool, especially the ironic mix of history and family dynamics), and find that it makes me that much more accepting of others as well, which is something that I'm very grateful to have experienced. I was fortunate enough to be raised by a wise and compassionate mother (my brother mostly with my father by choice), who made sure to teach me about who I was, but also didn't make a big deal out of it and that taught me not to either. Yes, I ran into some issues, but that was much later in life and as a grown adult, likely because I mainly grew up in diverse and accepting areas. Either way, I think that I honestly grew stronger from the experiences, strange as that might sound, and even converted a few of the intolerant souls along the way. I think that, even with today's current political and social climate, mixed kids have it far easier than in '70s and '80s, when it was less common to see, less talked about and often looked down on (by all involved groups). I'm sure that it will continue to get better. Cheers!
One of my sisters is more tan than the rest of us, and slimmer, whereas us other three are more chunky (we have a Maori great grandparent). There’s been a few times where other kids would ask if she was adopted, or even if we had the same father. I think it was important that our parents taught us to shut that sort of question down straight away with “nope, just genetics being funny, we’re full siblings”, because we didn’t want her to feel different, or have that difference pointed out. Now we can joke about it sometimes, but yeah, I think another thing to be mindful of is to make sure neither child feels disconnected from the other. Make sure they are proud to be brothers and they know they will always have each other :)
I love this video! Obviously I'm not black but my Mom is, and my Dad is white; I'm adopted. I was a child of the 70's & 80's, & growing up in Holland & Wash. DC there were issues, but things are a bit easier now for interracial families. Then there's my sister, their biological daughter who I happen to think is the most beautiful mixed woman in all the world. Oh, and she married a white guy. Their kids are gorgeous. One Love, y'all!
I’m half black and half white too and it was hard growing up in an all white town but when I got out of that hell hole it was like I felt like a human being for once
Really interesting comments. As an anglo parent raising a bi-racial child with my Mexican wife, I have a challenge in understanding what "acting black" or "acting white" means. I want my child to be the beautiful, brilliant, funny, healthy, spiritual, loving, kind, talented person that "she is". I work hard to be the best parent that I can be to her by giving her all the time, guidance and love that I can give. God bless all these parents who clearly love their children and who are doing this important work with the tools that they have.
I’m mixed and Canadian. Where I live, it’s so normal, literally no one has ever cared or looked at me any different. So this video is very interesting to me.
Imagine if everyone was forced to adopt a child from a different race. No one want anything bad for their child so racism and prejudice would disappear overnight.
I don’t understand why people have such a hard time with biracial families. With people of one race raising kids of another. Just be happy that the couple is happy and the kids have a good life
My mom is Senegalese and my father is black. Yes we are all still black however there is a difference between American culture and African American culture. My family regularly introduce African culture into our household and I have visited West Africa 3 times now, and maybe even more in the future. I also have black culture integrated into my house with some old school rap music and learning about African American leaders and inventors. You can't just ignore skin, hair, and history.
It's sad to even think that you have to consider where you can even live because of the color of your skin. When will this stop being the norm? How about those people move out instead since they are the ones creating a toxic environment.
It’s ridiculous. I’m Mexican and medium skinned- the rate of anti-Hispanic activity is affecting my college search. Unfortunately, it makes me hesitant to choose an Ivy League although that is what I have worked toward for my whole life.
a emily Well you know what if I had the opportunity I would do it. Don't be scared to better yourself. Remember you bettering yourself will benefit your family and your future. Don't live with regrets. It might be hard but push through it. Tu lo puedes logra!!!☺☺☺
Logos de Cosmos no it’s not. Why is it that children don’t care about all that? You are taught these things. Yes, there are different cultures and ethnicities but the only race is the human race. When I moved to America I couldn’t believe how obsessed they were with “race”. I’m from Japan and my parents always taught me to treat others with kindness and respect. If you are a kind person, I will have nothing against you. Why would I judge someone based off of something they can not control? It’s the most pathetic way of thinking honestly. And the media in America doesn’t help. Never shows the good. Only the bad.
As a mixed child that happened to grow up in a “white” household with no other black influences in my life, i can very deeply relate to this video. Growing up my only influences were those of a white background and to this day i have issues of separating what i am being seen as to the world and the way that i behave.
Your adoptive family did the best they could you have to understand that and love them as they live you it's never anyone's intention to un ethnicise a person but they don't know how to make you black so they raised you human ...
Sierra Vickers Same. I don't know about you but it's like you think you're white, or rather like everyone else. Problem is that on a daily basis you're reminded in some way you're not. It's something you have to learn to live with or become bitter. Let's be honest though there are perks. You rarely get an unattractive mixed race person, we age slower, tend to just be built a little better. It's not bragging if it's true right : )
Florencia Lami, no, we ARE like dogs, and like dogs, mixing is healthy!! Mixing buries many harmful recessive genes. Bigger gene pool, healthier humans.
It's because you are white, culturally speaking. You have brown skin, that's all. It's good and you should be proud of who you are! Everyone should! White kids and black kids both can be proud that they are who they are!
I’m adopted and me and my sister are black and my parents are white and so are the rest of my adopted siblings and everyone ignores the differences in races because blood doesn’t determine love, having a heart and love determines love!!! 😍❤️❤️❤️
I love this so much! I'll never understand how people can judge each other based solely on skin color. I judge the character inside someone, not the flesh on the outside. Love has no color.
This was the loveliest video. The parents are brilliant and balanced in the hopes and views..What more could. Child want in a parent? Stability and love.