Why the hell, at retirement age, should I... 1) get married 2) cohabitate 3) impregnate 4) raise some other fool's kids 5) tie myself down inconveniently 6) throw away all the peace, quite, rest, adventure and fun.. that I had been working my whole life for 7) make myself more valuable dead than alive 8) support an entire clan of strangers that weren't there for me when my a$$ was in pain working with ailments all those years 9) give into a self defeating trend of stu_pid decision making 10) make myself more miserable with drama 11) leave one stressful life for another 12) put myself at a disadvantage 13) subject myself to people's bullsh$t 14) do anything other than enjoying my life in my retirement? WHY???
I go to Philippines and Thailand every year for 4 months. I could never imagine wasting my time on a dating site when I can go to any market and meet a decent person that showed up for work that day. That's just one example. You don't need a website in Asia unless you are so insecure. Just smile be a decent human and things will go alright
Your not far wrong although dating sites especially for Filipina who would like to meet a western guy maybe easier ..plus ya can check them out before meeting…charrr 😊
@Matthew-gz4oh I simply gave my opinion, not an direction. I take it you are a follower... See where I said " I COULD NEVER IMAGINE etc." It's Amazing what a genuine smile and a kind act can produce among people not innodated with hate ,crime,division. Good luck to ya Matthew 😉
best advice I've heard on the ytube in a while, real, sincere with personal experience to back it up. Peace and you'll find a good laaaaady in no time.
The most dangerous time is right after a break-up because miss the companionship and start another relationship immediately(rebound phenomenon). Best course of action is to not date at least 3 months post break-up. Get your head in clear and thinking mode then restart
Old guy here married to a lady from Cebu for coming up on 11 years. Just a thought: avoid the "professional daters" you mentioned. It's hard: people can and do lie. When I was searching for my wife I screened through hundreds of Filipina's and I am not exaggerating. When it came down to a final decision it was down to my wife and a lady who worked as a real estate broker in Manilla. My wife worked for the government in Cebu,has a degree and speaks 4 languages. That the one I didn't choose was from Manilla was the deal breaker for me. "Manilla girls" have a well earned reputation for being true gold diggers. Not worth the risk for me. That wife and I have been together for 12 years and married for 11 says it all. Enjoy life partner: I had a heart attack last week and dealing with that as we speak.
Been watching all your videos, helpful advice. One thing, it's always 4:15 on your clock I think you need a battery or time is not an issue and that's cool. Peace..
When you meet a girl who's looking for a husband, you tell her you don't want to get married, If she dates you anyways, It's cuz she believes she can change your mind, but eventually she will get angry and break up with you
How did people met before dating sites? I been married for 56 years ,yes we had our battles but I would not want to be without him. Why would any man over 50 dating a women that has a few a kids ? I would not raise someone else’s kids. Most of them of these guys already raised kids. You can date but don’t marry.
@EvelinHolmes Those little hearts with those single struggling moms deserve a chance . I say date that single mom . It mite be the most loving family you'll ever experience. ❤️. I am proof! I'm a Papoo now ! A grandpa. So awesome 👌 💖💗🤎
@@sfrealestatedealmaker6001 you didn't even hear me did you??? The Little hearts deserve a chance too. I said that in the beginning 😉. You could have been in their situation at no choice of your own.
Hi Brent, You strike me as a "straight up" guy. I was in Dumaguete January of this year. Wish I had run into you and we could have hung out and had a few beers and a burger. I met no women in the Philippines in the month I was there. I'm a 66 year old single (never married) American with a modest amount of assets (enough for the Philippines). I'm in good shape, I'm polite and quiet. I felt like I was on the dark side of the moon there. No one would even have a conversation with me. The hell with the country and the hell with the people. I'm never going back.
Facebook is a common cause of drama and jealousy. I wouldn't even add a girlfriend of mine on FB until at least after a year of knowing her, if at all. That being said, any form of dating her is easy. Can't go wrong with either.
There’s lots of pitfalls to dating here on the Philippines, I used a dating app with verification as I too had many many problems from the typical overtly sexual and scammers too. Try to stick your list of likes and dislikes, there’s plenty of gorgeous Filipina out there ..don’t rush in. It’s not a Filipino trait to move in asap or buying phones..the filters for some women are just another weapon to lure you in charrrr. Good luck 🙏
Brent - these dating sites have become a very profitable business for a lot of these ladies and they know it.... The RU-vidrs are just trying to promote their channel in paradise. This isn't to say these couples are not happy, but its very transactional...if you don't have something (money/security) it's highly unlikely they would be with any of us older men.
Why does everyone say “it’s transactional” when it comes to dating in Asia as though it’s not transactional in the US. When you get a divorce and they take everything you worked for, it doesn’t get anymore transactional than that. Or how about when they get pregnant and get you for much more child support than they deserve. Seems transactional to me 😅
@@75daddygonzo you must be paying to write that comment 😂 dont worry age is just a number , your her one and only , her soul mate , your pogi and maco 😂😂😂
@@CIRCLEofHATEand you must be very naive to write that comment. Either your hate blinds you to the obvious, as your name suggests, or you must just be that inexperienced. I’m much too prudent to deal with prostitutes and too frugal to be a sugar daddy but I know man’s God-given role is provider and woman’s role is caretaker, no matter how much people try to pervert these relationships people are essentially trying to have their needs met that traditional roles were created to meet
Thought provoking video, I'll be back in the Philippines December/January for Christmas and new year looking to visit Mindanao as I've never been. just subbed greetings from the UK😊
For a single guy not interested in the bar girls, pros, etc, does the PH really beat out Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia, etc? I have decision paralysis, I'm thinking about Colombia due to proximity, language, spring like weather, activities, however looking at a $400 Airbnb in Medellin vs $400 airbnb condo in those Asian countries really has me thinking about Thailand or PH instead. I like staying in a modern high rise condo.
Yes don't waste time or money on Date sites! The best is just walk around and let it happen or a good recommendation. This country is quickly becoming like Thailand for Pro women. Really sad but It's getting more expensive and full of scammers. The Philippines has had so much publicity over the last few years on RU-vid, I think soon the people will learn and choose another country!
Maybe you need to Relocate, Duma/Valencia has many Expats, hard to find a pristine pinoy that's not playing {that wants an expat}. In terms of Not Settling, maybe that's the issue. If you go for the prettiest, surely it will be a short relationship (unless you're Tom Cruise). If you want something serious, stay in your Lane. Approximate same age(ok + or - 15years) and similar looks. Otherwise, You are Only Playing Yourself. Good Luck. By the way, I like your Candor.
I certainly think too young and the location can cause a problem, but if your not willing to commit you’ll find it hard to find a “true” Filipina. Most really want the real deal..😊
You shouldn't even be looking for a filipina who wants an expat. That is a reg flag in 99% of cases. Finding one who is open but shy about dating a foreigner. If shes already had a foreigner or two she is done.
They say your ready for a relationship when you don't need one that's what they told me in the program it makes sense I'm clean and sober so I understand it
so you understand his gay feelings , is it true almost all recovering addicts have had homosexual experiences and still feel the guilt and many experiment again to explore those feelings , i think Brent is confused
You can rent a motorbike walking distance to the pier in Bohol (Tagbilaran), you need the paperwork to take one on roro, you may not be able to take a rented one off the island
It is the same in every country I have been to. The big cities are mostly westernized scammer hos do not look there. Go out to the suburbs, the country, the mountains where xpats and western culture are not prevalent. There you will find a good woman but it will take effort to drive around to look for them.
I found it easier and free... to get in Facebook groups for Filipinas searching for foreigners...right before I arrive or after I arrive. I am also very honest. I tell them I am not looking for a relationship but if something happens it happens. I make no promises. I have decided to try to be single. Too much responsibility for a filipina and her family. My opinion. I enjoy your videos bro! I also posted in a Facebook group and just ...Hello Ladies. In 24 hours I had over 400 comments and friend requests and had them calling me in messenger in the middle of the night. I had to turn my phone off. I just picked one or two I am interested in to have a good time. Honesty is best.
Well not too burst your bubble but sounds just like the dating apps …Filipina are famed for having numerous bogus profiles and especially for scamming foreign guys. Better to date on website with verified accounts or meet in person aka coffee shops and quality resto bars.
A filipina who specifically is looking for a foreigner is a at least a yellow flag and usually a red flag. It means that her intentions are not pure. It is better to find a filipina who is open to dating a foreigner but is also skeptical. She should be open to a local man as well.
@@wanderingdoc5075 A potential red flag is a Filipina that’s already a dated foreigner…but if she’s entered into the relationship in good faith thinking there’s longevity but thrown under the bus..well that’s different. Breaking news a quality Filipina is not going date you for “short time”..unless your Brad Pitt.😂
I also meant to say ... everything you said is correct 💯! You got it figured out now. Just have fun and if something happens it does but you are the prize "there" and they are a million more waiting for their chance. So....take it very slow. Like you said think with the correct head!
My opinion is that any man who is considering the Philipines should just live life and experience the beauty of the nature that the Philippines offers, integrate with the local culture and people. Just travel with an open heart and at some point when the time is right, a good relationship will present itself. And it’s also my opinion, that many of these foreign men really don’t have any experience dating in the own country, but think that they’re going to come here and be gods when they enter the Philippines. That is not the way it is 🙌 Men need a reality check. Most men would never get the caliber of young beautiful Filipina girl in their own country 😎
Brent, thanks for addressing the issue of comments being removed. Idk if you saw the one guy's comment that some get flagged by RU-vid and you have to approve them to be posted. I asked him how it happens and what to do about it, but no response. I thought Americans have freedom of speech, but apparently not lol..
You're right Brent there are tons of beautiful great women there just looking for long term and definitely look for one that has never been with a foreigner
Are you sure you want to be in a relationship. I'm coming strickly for the cheaper cost of living. My love life is going to consist of a 1-2 times a week PAY FOR PLAY than send them the HELL AWAY! I love your show and that southern draw and honesty 😊
It's all pay for play one way or the other.....she traveled and had three months of fun with a mutual understanding. All relationships expect something in return.
@@markc7274 there you go with that word relationship again... Stop saying that! I'm aware we ALL pay ! But I prefer no strings attached.. oh and here's a tip angel if shower at home. Now don't let the door hit U!
Here’s the problem ..Your dating not only usually a demographic which is poles apart from what you really want ..me I would not bother dating say 18-30..even if I was in the west for the same reason even more so I would not date here..unless a unicorn. Too immature .. no social skills ..no life experience ..no money ..blah blah. Plus they may look cute but most have little sex appeal ..use dating apps with a hard hard filter ..me before my relationship(now 5 years) I only dated professional city girls as the province girls are usually users and have little about them ..save the obvious, and I honestly cannot be bothered with the drama.
If it's any help... I'm a male from the UK and I find I get on with Canadians, Europeans, Australians and Kiwi's but I don't get on with any North Americans. I have lived and traveled all across Europe , Asia and North America. And I would never settle down with anyone from the USA. Hope this helps why Asia's may not be for you.
If it is so easy like everyone says why not just meet one at the shop or the mall ? Just talk to them , be cool . Your a smart guy . Shit . It's hard in Toronto but even at my age i still can get lucky . Ok . Maybe I get a few 5 s . But I'm not jerking . 😂
That fairy tale the vloggers all push about girls coming up to you in the mall. How come every vlogger has the same exact story " i was in the mall looking for a sim card . . . "
I think you should go find a partner in the USA. Wait till you are 65 + and have a pension and financial stable and marry a Filipina. Philippines 🇵🇭 is for serious old folks to settle down for their 4th chapter. Remember, Philippines is the best to retire if you want to add more years to your life. You still think you are young and full of energy but look in the mirror and realize, what do I want in life. Just stay away from the Philippines 🇵🇭 till you are 65 years old. PERIOD
Too Add to that I think it's Great to Visit the Philippines 🇵🇭 and chat/Go on dates enjoy your time but not Bring them back to your Country.. Keep them as a Holiday Girlfriend until your ready to relocate to the Philippines 🇵🇭..
I am sure there are plenty of scams. Gotta be patient. What I don't understand is Expats keep mentioning about how beautiful these girls, and I've seen many, but you guys hook up with not so beautiful girls. Desperate much.
Because for a very long time, the real 8+ rating Filipinas aren't lining up for a western rescue pup with $. There's enough Filipino guys their own age who are successful to take up the prime women.
