I honestly don't think education is her issue. I've seen some of the smartest people, write poorly because they don't take the time to look over it. I think she should signup for a life coach. I seen a comment from what I believe to be her, could be wrong. I just got a different vibe. But We all need prayer, we all need to grow. The fact that Tony has proven to have a young audience, gives me hope. Our women can be saved. Only thing I don't like is the fact that some women are so judgmental to the point, Tony felt the need to turn his comments off.
@@roja_xo5527 For one or two minor mistakes...maybe. But, not the entire email that Tony shared with us. There were run on sentences. No punctuation at the end of sentences, etc. Sorry, that IS NOT the sign of someone that is scollege-educated. If so, I wanna know which college she attended to ENSURE that NO ONE that I know attends this fine institution of learning.
The fact that she's listening to Big Brother Tony at a young age, she's already a level up from where she was before. Sometimes we take baby steps before giant leaps. Hopefully she's getting the reality check she needs so she can move on up. Thank you Tony, btw can't wait for black Friday, told plenty of friends to save the date!
Oh yes she's bout to level up. I wish I had knew of Tony when I was 23 6 yrs ago. I was lost with a newborn from a now little boy who's dumb as ever along side w his fam & his gf.
Heyyy I'm 23 and look at Tony as my Uncle too 😅🤞🏽 found him at age 22 and he completely changed my life. Thank you so much Tony for giving us women, even younger women healing, guidance, and saving us from heartache. God bless you and your family 🙏🏽
She’s actually quite reflective, she just needed someone with sense to “spell it out” for her. She’s looking for a savior/ cop-out guy but what she doesn’t realize is she gotta save herself!! Everything she wants in life, she has to do for herself. Young lady I’d you’re reading this, focus on personal development and self-improvement. You WILL attract better men that way! 💕
I can relate to that "dating down" and "less-attractive than I really want" error. Once it's done, the other person thinks that you're beneath them. What I learned is that their mind shifts to, "since I got you, I can do better than you." Their confidence is built and they'll push you to the side to look for "better." I forgot about the "Waiting to Exhale scene, with Lela and Wendel, until I reflected on two previous relationships. If he ain't your kind of cute, you must mute. If he got kidnapped and you wouldn't give a ransom, he ain't handsome. 🤣🏃🏾♀️
Sometimes, the faults we see in others are simply a reflection of our own character. Gotta check yourself before you wreck yourself. I agree with Tony on this one.
Women REALLY need to stop saying they don't care about looks. We ALL do!!! It's ok to be attracted to a man physically. Just don't let the attraction stop there.
This twenty-two year old young lady needs to focus on self-improvement. Most young men around her age are for sure immature and are not looking for anything more than a good time. The letter alone speaks volumes to her need to further her education. Men should be the least of her concern. Please listen to Mr. Tony Gaskins.🧐
The women in these comments are so judgmental. Most of y’all have or going through the same thing that is similar. We have all been stupid or just lacked the knowledge. This community is supposed to uplift each other not tear each other down
Exactly. I can admit that I can be a bit judgmental in certain areas, but we have to be honest with ourselves. Many of us have been fools for love and it’s all about learning and doing better. None of us are perfect. The same way I might judge others, I also must look in the mirror and check myself and my own decisions and mistakes.
@@AmberBrooklyn24 yes we have all been stupid in some way or another. The comments are so awful and judgmental knowing that most of us have been there at some point even if it’s not the same situation. I just wish this community could be more uplifting instead of saying how stupid she is and etc. I have done soooo many stupid things in my marriage I couldn’t dare put no one else down.
They are very judgmental, she should've took her time to write the email that much is true. But it's sad how they were so quick to say she lacks education and she's dumb. Too many of these grown women allow themselves to get dragged through the mud by men. When they have "all" the sense, even with the knowledge of Tony. I don't blame him for turning his comments off. Be quick to pray instead of judge.
@@Jas-qm4cg exactly. Some of these women only here to judge. I personally didn't think she was dumb, or needed extra education. She needed to double check that email. But all in all, I think she needs a life coach, as well practicing being a God-fearing woman.
I just want to applaud lil mama for listening to Tony. I swear if I had him (you, if you read this) in my life at her age - 22, and really listened the way she does, boy oh boy would I have a different story. There is hope for the youngins, especially with mentors like Tony. 💯💯💯 Tony, you are definitely walking in your divine soul life purpose and mission. You are REACHING each and every soul the MOST HIGH intended you to reach. 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟
At twenty-two, kudos to you, young lady, for reaching out and being open to grow, learn, and seek to protect your heart (body, mind, finances, peace...) early!
A couple of takeaways here: 1. Please proofread your emails before sending them to Mr. Tony Gaskins. 😬📝 2. It was refreshing to hear a staple childhood story to help us understand life as an adult. 📖 3. Trust the process and date within your league to prevent creating something you don't want. 👍🏽
Become what you want to attract because you will attract what you are! Not who you think you are, not who you want to become but who you are at the core. I learned this one the hard way. thank you for your time tony I appreciate your message 🙏🏻
In all the confusion (that email was confusing), the things I took away from this is: 1. Become what you want to attract. 2. Stop dating down. 3. Become whole and fill your own void. 4. A relationship is 2 whole people complimenting each other NOT completing each other. Lesson learned. Thank you Big Brother Tony.
That "ugly duckling syndrome" is very much real with some men. I've met men who weren't looks challenged but they had insecurities that was obvious in hindsight. These men would ask me, "why did I choose them"? Almost as if they were in awe of my looks and who I was and couldn't believe a woman like me would give them a chance. Ironically, giving them a chance, these same men end up cheating on me and inadvertently I became the insecure one🤷🏾♀️ smh (go figure)... I feel as though when you date a man who is "not on your level"per se, you inadvertently give them confidence they never had and now they become OVERLY confident and end up arrogant, cocky and just a misfit for you... my experience at least.
I was just talking to myself about how I was dating out of my league,and you post a video about this! I was stroking my ego and nothing more. I so wish I had this advice when I was 21, but I don't know if I would have listened, but I am listening now at 26. Thanks tony!
Tony is always on point. It's very important for men and women to become what they want to attract instead of expecting qualities in another person they don't even possess themselves.
Listen here, you can read people so well. The way you break things down is truly remarkable! I never comment on any you-tubers channel, however, I’m compelled to tell you how great of a gift you possess! You are truly needed in the world because this world we live in is occupied to such a capacity with deceit! Thank you for telling the truth! No matter how hard the pill is to swallow! We need it to grow!! Thank you again!
This young lady is still young and learning. We’ve all been there. Let’s hope she’s open to wisdom and focusing on herself until the right one comes along.
@@WovenPsalm yes I agree. The situations aren’t funny & the message Tony have the young lady was great. It was how he is able to read between the lines and break it all the way down. It was the fact that she had that thang on her or gangsta in her past for me. I know Tony may not intend to be funny, but the fact that it is helps me digest it.
If you want high quality men, then goto college yourself and get a man that is actually working to get out of the struggle by bettering himself. Most college men come from 2 parent home. College is not an option but expected. If you have 2 high earners, then you both will have that nice middle class lifestyle. It is alot harder to get a man with intellect if your not where they cultivate. Most of the young men in college are not trying to be in trouble. Your still young and that is where the majority of highly qualified men are before they get plucked off by other young women. This is what my father told me and this is where my three daughters found their husbands.
My father found my mom in college. I found my husband in college and so did my daughters. There is huge concentration of people your age living together, working together and playing together in college. Go to college to better yourself and look for your lifetime mate. Yes you can find your lifetime mate outside of college if you are highly active in your community but it is way easier in college to have young love sweetheart style. It is where you create best friends for life. It is at another level than high school or workplace environment where it could be construed as workplace harassment. College is best. In high school, your parents watched your every move and you're not who you think you are untill you are on your own but yet not quite. It is the best place to be while developing yourself and finding who you are and finding young sweetheart love.
I just love when your son comes in. He’s so polite☺️ this young lady is very young and has the mindset to match when it comes to finding a man. She don’t know what’s she’s asking for tbh lol. She just needs to experience life a little more and honestly focus on herself before trying to impress ppl with whoever she’s dating. Great video tony.
Tony, I just want to say I LOVE how you interact with your wife and children. It's just a beautiful thing. God has truly blessed you with a beautiful family.
Indeed Tony! Thank you for that truth, sounds like some identity issues and that comes with a whole lot of drama, problems and fakenes. Thank you for dissecting again Tony. Learning so much for myself and equipped to help others. God bless!
After a great night of sleep this is perfectly clear. Like I posted last night she is lost & confused. Amazing breakdown Tony. I pray she betters herself & stop seeking herself in others. Blessings 💫❤
She's very reflective as she should be. That is FEMININE energy. And unlike many grown women older than her she openly could admit her flaws and failures and is looking for a better approach. People love to dissect the way someone speaks but that has nothing to do with how intellect connects the dots if you listen with intent. She was a savage. Only cared to use men not love them. She was willing to sell her soul if it meant getting what she thought she wanted or needed, only to find out it was dark feminine energy and she was exhausted from living in that energy. She should focus more on knowing herself first... And stop dating if she really wants to change... Because she will see beyond her description of those men she now attracts. She doesn't want an intellectual, she wants someone who talks about more than the hood, material things, being macho that's is normally present in men from the hood or being hard all of the time. She wants someone who speaks more about growing, doing better in life, has goals, etc. she'll attract that after she works more on herself. She doesn't know who she is yet.
So many comments have been judgements; Stating how I’m dumb etc. I am lacking when it comes to education. Which is utterly invalid. I’ve been to college and excelled. I received exceptional grades and I didn’t go to school in the hood. I was 18 with a associates degree with no work experience. It was hard to survive. I will take fault, I should’ve been in a clear space when I sent that email. Completely a mess. The email was poorly, composed. Sis, You are the only person that understands what I was trying to convey. I used to do unspeakable things, I made some of these thugs look like amateurs. I was a terrible human that lacked a conscience. But I got my life together. I’m financially stable, growing my business and I let go of bad habits. I don’t need a man for necessities anymore, I think God for that. But he’s right I don’t know who I am. I don’t fit in anywhere. I’m an dark skinned Afro-Latina woman who doesn’t speak Spanish, in the Spanish community. I’m “racially ambiguous “ in the black community. I’m adopted and was raised by black people. I don’t feel like I’m enough. That’s all I’ve been taught. I feel dead inside. I don’t know who I am. The only association, I have is who I was when I was in the streets. Only I know what I did, when I was serving satan. It has nothing to do with intellect, or wanting to be saved. It has everything to do with me wanting to; eventually attract a person who doesn’t want to have a live fast, die young experience. I don’t want to date who Is similar to my past self. They will surely kill me. I came close to death so many times. I didn’t care because it made me feel alive. I just needed to feel something. I wrote him because I want to change that dark energy that’s hunting me. I’m not in the struggle anymore. But there is something malicious gaging in the depths of my soul. It hinders God from completely using me. So I signed up for life coaching sessions.
@@amyfisher3918 don't be offended by the people in the comments who speak on what you wrote. You are more than a letter and don't ever think differently. Not everyone hears with the same set of ears... Some only listen to judge. I knew exactly what you were trying to explain. I wish I could've hugged you. I've never lived that lifestyle but I grew up around it and seen it with my own eyes. And although it is displayed differently I've seen it In both men and women. I know first hand how that spirit grips onto people. You are blessed to have realized it so young... There are so many people still in that place and they are NOT happy but they don't know how to escape and they're in their 40s &50s and too embarrassed to tell anyone. Praises to THE MOST HIGH... You have a testimony and don't let a few comments take that from you. There are women coming up after you that need to hear your story maybe even older than you! Sometimes the biggest gifts are born out of darkness. Don't ever dim your light again😍 and don't ever try to validate your intellect by naming off your education level... Let them think what they want. These are just people in the comments... WHO WILL NEVER DICTATE HOW GOD CAN USE YOU .....You work on validating yourself! The rest will follow! AS A MAN THINKETH IN HIS HEART (MIND) SO IS HE💋💋 and that's not man gender... But HUMAN! I tried to send you a message by clicking on your name but couldn't. But keep going!
Sooo cute...Beautiful baby..love the name.. The gentleness is such a good example for your son..Kids totally model what they experience not just witness in other interactions...
No lies detected! Work on yourself young lady. Listen to Tony! Elevate yourself and those around you will want to hear your amazing testimony. But men who are gorgeous and intelligent have a lot of women to choose from. Unfortunately people don’t care about your struggle until you’re successful. Keep grinding, God will lead you.
THIS IS AS REAL AS IT CAN GET...WHERE (I'll wait) could we ever get told the absolute truth like this. I commend this young lady for inquiring and speaking her truths. Sometimes we don't see until the mirror is "held" to our face. If she receives and FOLLLOWS this wise counsel, she's going to be one amazing woman because she's already on the right path at such a young age. Peace and blessings to her journey.
I'm in Orlando. For those that don't know, locally, Pine Hills is an area of Orlando, and it's nicknamed Crime Hills because of the high crime rate. And Windermere is a very rich area of Orlando.
Oh! Wow. Ive been studying Christian metaphysics since 1987. And his statement "you got to become what you want to attract. " found a place for me to work somemore. I'm from WV but I dont sound like it . 25:yrs in DC may have had an effect. Lol. Mr. Gaskins face when sees his child!! Total love!
