Love this video. When Tony talks I listen...and to anyone who complains about the commercials...think of it as a children’s learning segment (Dora the Explorer asking the child which way, suggestion, or object do you use to get to the goal). Those pauses are geared to make the child think...look at the commercials in the same manner (even if it is only advertising). Same thing when Tony looks into the camera and says “nothing” 🤗🤦🏽♀️🥰🤣 priceless!!! But it makes you think!!
Love this analogy!! If we would resort to our "childlike" state of mind when it comes to receiving messages, how much trouble would we save ourselves. LISTEN TO RECEIVE
Some women: If you're not giving it to him, isn't he going to get it from somewhere else? Me:😑... if you are giving it to him, he STILL could be getting it from somewhere else.💅
"GRATITUDE DON'T MEAN CHANGING YOUR LATITUDE (going from standing up to lying on ur back)" - TONY "THE G.O.A.T " GASKINS !!!!!!!! PREACH MIGHTY MAN OF ALMIGHTY GOD!!!!!! I FELT THE HOLY GHOST ON THAT ONE RIGHT THERE SMH I DIDN'T REALIZE THAT A DATE AND A PLATE MADE ME FEEL THAT I "OWED HIM" SOMETHING. MY BODY IS PRICELESS!!! I CANNOT BE BOUGHT!!! I HAVE TO BE SOUGHT! POINT BLANK PERI-YAHHD!!!!
True. Rambling thoughts here.... Especially, if you are abstinence when you meet him and he is not. Now all of a sudden he'll decide to be abstinence because he met you. Ummm, how long did it take you to discipline your sexual appetite 🤔 I know it's different for each person...I don't condone sex before marriage. I feel certain kind of way of using my desire to be abstinence to be an influence for a man to be with me. If he's not on the same level of discipline, we are not compatible. We have different mindsets...A man can have sex with someone else either way married or not....Annd, he can have sex with you before marriage and be about you and marry you and be faithful. But, he can also see you beings abstinence as a challenge and go as far as marrying you for the sex and visa versa "you" as well...and not truly know the person. People do marry just for sex....Like marrying for money, status, etc... I play my role until. She's still can be blind and not see the red flags because she's so caught up with the fact he's trying to be with her without being sexually intimate. He's showing her attention, action, etc...I guess I'm saying or agreeing withholding yourself sexually or giving yourself sexually in a relationship, one still have to get to know a person. A man or woman can have a reason why they are marrying you. Showing that they will dwell with or without sex is not a big thing for me regarding a man's love. Yes, you run a risk if sex is the common glue of the relationship. But, I need someone who has discipline himself as well when we meet or give him space to try. I don't want to involve myself in a relationship until he develops his relationship with God for himself. If he wants a life change just to be with you and not God, it's not going to last.. Friends until...If he can't be friends, he's not for me. Friendship is key for me. That's why you gotta pray and be patient for God to reveal a person's intentions and level of maturity to be in a relationship. I have known women that were virgins or women practicing abstinence, the man still cheated on her in the marriage 1-3 years in. Crazy....he found a jewel before marriage to commit to only to decommit himself once married. I also feel men have brought into the idea that if she's a virgin or practicing abstinence that she's a decent woman to marry. The man as well should get to know the women too. She may be good for someone else but not you. God's blessing adds no sorry. Watch and pray and let patience have its perfect work.
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Seeing your body as a reasonable sacrifice for a man but not for God is bad business for your soul. God will and always does run circles around what any man can do for a woman. But you have to be humble enough to believe that and know God will keep me off my back he will sustain me and reward me in due time.
“YOU GOT WALK HEAVY, YOU GOT KNOW WHO YOU ARE! WHEN YOUR FEET HIT THE GROUND THE devil GOT TO KNOW THAT YOU JUST WOKE UP; HE GOT FEEL THAT YOU COMING..That’s wisdom right there... AMEN BROTHER!!!!
Interesting video Tony! I have been considered a “trophy” by some men. Recently I was walking my sick dog down the street with tears in my eyes and a man pulled over and got out of his car and told me he saw me walking and had to pull over. He said he would take care of me. My dog was dying and I was a mess and I told him nicely that I don’t need to be taken care of. My ex personal trainer told me the men approached me at the gym because they thought I was naive! I thought it was because I have a very approachable aura. I love that saying, “what you think of me is none of my business”. Now go on about your business, like Tony says! ✌🏽
Wow! He could have been an Angel in disguise Some come to tear down some come to build.. The husband I have now told me the same thing. Not know I needed help . He never said monetarily he just said ill take care of. No sex, drugs, disrespect. None of thst. Weve been married 6 years. I want for nothing. But God is my source Not what Tony says. Blessings to You
Faye Crawley wow! Well the timing wasn’t right for me and my intuition did not tell me to give him a chance. I agree with your statement though, some people cross our path for a reason. Blessings to you also.. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hi, Mr Gaskins. I am not new to your channel. I have been watching your videos for about 4 months now. I've never left a comment. But, today, I just want to say thank you for your work. I sincerely appreciate your ministry and may God continue to use you as His instrument.
I love you guys. I love your Queen Mrs. Gaskins getting you a new desk Mr. Gaskins. I love how you both take care of each other. Thank you for setting an excellent example of a healthy relationship. I am spreading the word about you to all my girl friends and encouraging them to listen to your message. I am purchasing your books and sending it to my friends. Thank you so much for all you do Mr. & Mrs. Gaskins. May God continue to bless you and your family.
This is a wise, young man. Filled with the Spirit; great intellect, but as raw and country as they come. Not lacking confidence which makes him all the more endearing. Wiser and smarter than his peers. The ministry and comedy of Tony Gaskins at times. He breaks it and them down when needed.
This TWT was a think piece for me. Wow… so thankful to the young lady who wrote in. Tony, your response and insight about how men read women and how our mindset determines our walk has brought a deeper lesson of self love and self awareness. Thank you so much for the lessons, and I thank God for using you as a vessel. God’s light truly shines through you, and I’m blessed to have learned so much from your teachings and wisdom 💜
Ladies.., It’s been 8 years of celibacy and I am proud of it. I have handled everything on my own being my own BOSS! and I love walking in my light and in my truths. God has mold me and placed me as a “Orange Moon”. I will never allow myself to be placed “Awkwardly” in compromising my beliefs...there’s marriage before sex.😎
I have made the decision to abstain as well. I don’t crave sex. However I do desire companionship with the opposite sex. Have either of you had relationships over the years as a celibate woman? What is it like? Are you dating or do you just refrain from relationships altogether? Since I have made that decision I have avoided relationships altogether.
@@jsue6994 no, I don't date,no relationships,just enjoying being single and celibate by choice, I miss having companionship sometimes but I am dead set on staying this way until I meet my mate and at 58,no sex until I marry again 👑
@@jsue6994 Hey Sweetheart!! Congratulations on being a Blossoming Woman. Don’t avoid meeting someone just be yourself.. you are glowing let these men know I’m wanting marriage before sexing. The gentleman that couldn’t hang with my intentions on what I was wanting.. called himself leaving me 4mos.. guess what?? .. He’s back because it’s my intellect and my heart that’s captured his attention..,and still gotta wait.😉
Come on Tony, you really did it tonight . Speak on it. We as women needed this. Thank you for your input. Be bless and be safe. Love your talk tonight.
I am here and listening, and putting in the work. On the way to and from work. How much my perspective has changed, and eye opening to the "grown boy". Thank you.
I've always hated podcasts but listening to you is not only comforting but also very enlightening. You're like the father I always needed. You have taught me how to respect myself emotionally, physically and spiritually. I've gained so much peace from listening to your words, please never stop.
"Now he got that 19 on his breath." 🤣🤣🤣😅. This is so powerful especially the emphasis on knowing who you are and changing your mindset, it truly does change everything without a doubt. Thank you Tony! 🙏🏽💫
Exactly Tony, this Trophy woman applies to every woman Because trophy’s are different and come at different levels and shape. So a woman should have her standards before a man even approach her
There’s levels of trophies. There’s super hot men and women and so on. We women try to deny that but these men keep speaking their truths whether we like it or not.
In grade-high school everytime a guy would touch me in anyway I shoved them. But that kept me in detention. And I was labeled a B and stuck up. What I don't understand is why you gotta be nice to people you're not interested in and doesn't respect common boundaries. I've seen so many woman allow themselves to be in put in situations because they've been taught to be "humble" and for the simple fact those people teaching them that. they've had ugly ducklings spirit's trying to make them feel less then. But they listen because they want to be liked and accepted. Its sad how they lead their babies.
I agree sis. You don't have to tolerate physical touch from random strangers or those who just want to grab a piece of you. Especially women should have boundaries with men. That doesn't mean you're a B. It simply means you have respect for yourself and your body which is the Temple of the Holy Spirit. When you allow men to touch you or disrespect you, you are letting them know that you don't value yourself enough to protect yourself and your body as well as integrity. The only one who has a right to touch you is your HUSBAND!!! Gotta keep this truth STRAIGHT! Pray and be strong SISTERS, BE STRONG in the LORD!!! We GOT THIS!!!
@@nataliasolakian6717 thank you sis for the wise words amen we gotta stick it out people feel way to entitled to next person you not be able to change a person but you can correct behavior 🙏🏾.
That is so true. There is so much emphasis on being agreeable, forgiving, and passive that it makes women believe they have to accept anything. Places other people above them in value. Disempowers and "declaws". That's why we see so much bullying in younger years, which leads to abuse in adult relationships.
Amen people will try you especially if they think they can get over on you. Taking your kindness for a weakness...I learned the hard way but now that Tony Gaskins is my favorite new mentor I am getting much needed training and therapy. Thank you Tony Gaskins and your family.. God bless you and your family..🙏🙏🙏
That was a very great way to help us ladies to know our self worth. A woman's body is a temple before it is put on a pedestal. It really already up there. Thanks for that in-depth talk of information. I had a dream about a man that had a interest in me. I am a book lover. In the dream he knew that. I had no idea that he saw that far into me. I am a seer an I saw something about him later on that I just turned my head before he got close to me. I have learned something from GOD with this gift that GOD has given me. I keep an has always kept my distance from him. The women around me knew him before I did. They wanted him. I did not. An I was deciphering them an all that was said. I can also pick up people's thoughts also. I do not tell people that. It is discernment. It is best to keep your mouth shut I found out until you can be with a person who is trusted with similar gifts. Then in the back of my mind is this owe no man nothing, but; to love him. Then you have to know how to love a person with an with the wisdom of GOD close up or far away an with different degrees of space. This what U heard you said. I enjoyed the talk helps me to see who I am also. I live your wife note. I am smiling. Along with GOD she has your back.
I really appreciate your perspective on things TG. Your videos have helped me tremendously in my healing process!!! I must admit, I was one of those people that thought everything was sweet and because I put good out into the world, no one would have ill intentions towards me. Oh, but I learned that lesson the hard way. NOW, with Mr. Gaskins assistance, I walk heavy in my value and self worth!!! 💙💙💙
Amen! I’m so happy for you Brother Tony!!! That smile about that desk blessed my little soul!!! Sissy did amazing picking that out! We need a vibe when going the Lord’s work, especially from our home office. Let’s go family! 🎉🎉🎉😇😇😇🥳🥳🥳
Tony, you are hysterical and right as always...whether we want to admit it or not! The note under the door had my dying...🤣😂🤣🤣. Make up all the words you want...I know exact what you are trying to say! It makes you who you are and keeps it real and grounded! We don’t need a bunch of fancy words, just heartfelt words! Keep doing what you’re doing and God bless you and your family!
The lessons that I have learned from Tony is priceless. Learning and kmsl at the same time. Staring into the camera and grabbing the purse, just tickles me.
TG, I really was bout to pass this video up because I was like this one don't apply to me because I don't think I'm a trophy woman. But God knew I needed to hear that I need to make them know I'm not what/who I used to be and I'm not accepting what I used to accept. My mama just told me this the other night because I'm dealing with a person (not in a relationship way, but its complicated, I wrote you about it) that has known me for a long time (since I was 17/18, i'm 42 now) and he keeps approaching me with the same stuff that I've told him that I don't like and she made me see that he knows the old me not the new renewed mind/spirit me. I've got to let him know that the way he speaks to me and things he says to me are no longer acceptable. Thanks for making this video and being obedient in your work for the Lord. Message received God.
“Gratitude don’t mean changing your latitude ...” -TG Thank you Tony. They need to make an emoji for Tony’s being on your back motion he does with his hand, it takes me out every time !! 😂😂
This video resonated with me so deeply. I am a woman who’s been approached like “the trophy” many times the last few years. It’s so funny to see the men shocked by my humor, wit, and education. It’s a very big change for me because I grew up beautiful in my own way - heavier set, glasses, short and clumsy. My parents made sure we were healthy and immersed us in school, arts, and volunteering. We knew that inner beauty/skills/kindness were important more than anything. Then in college, I “glo’d” up and became conventionally attractive. It’s interesting to navigate the world now because I feel like the beauty opens so many doors yet comes with it’s own complexities. All that’s to say, I love this sermon! You have a new subscriber here 😊
I really enjoyed and know you are so on point about seeing where I ( a Christian woman) had lost my credibility with guys I've dated because I had compromised my standards
Tony I’ve been watching your content for over a Year already and I know that it’s God that brought your videos into my life. I was raised by a loving father figure that taught me so much about men and life. Then you come into my life as my second father giving me straight up advice about men and life with humor just like my father does. I don’t get tired of learning and listening to your advice! I have learned to automatically observe and detect people’s energy because of all the knowledge I have obtained from 2 wise men. God bless you!
My femininity is firstly having a personality relationship with my ABBA,along with a powerful prayer life,shopping thrifty,wearing long-sleeved long dresses&skirts,wearing my natural hair,getting my natural nails done,being fit,smiling,cooking homemade meals,no profanity,forgiving,apologizing when wrong,catering to my husband,loving my dark skin,&being my husband's peace!APTTMH!
" KNOW WHO U ARE ONESELF "!" HAVE CONFIDENT IN ONESELF"!"LOVE ONE SELF"!"ALWAYS KEEP GOD FIRST!"SMILE AND LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT ALWAYS"! THANK U! TONY! LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE! 😊🙏
Lol...LOVE IT...."Gratitude don't mean you have to change your latitude." Lol...oh so true...I knew this since I was in high school in the '90's, I just had a different type of logic from my fellow female classmates (and the guys knew it)...a plate of food on a date in exchange for a woman giving her body does not equate.
Love all your videos I needed this today!!! Not compromising and knowing who you are is a great point!!! I was glad to be able to meet you in person and I have been following you every since women need your videos keep being a blessing
This was an amazing video! I’m going to share. Gifts don’t mean anything. He’s probably giving someone else the same thing. I’ve seen it happen. She gets gifts and her husband is always gone. Anyway, Tony should create his own dictionary. I commented on that awhile ago. I would buy it😆Thank you and be blessed.
I went on my first date (which I didn’t know was a date. Keep in mind I’ve never been asked about before🥴) and we went to steak and shake and I assumed he was going to pay because he asked me if I was hungry. But I still asked him if he was going to pay because I didn’t want to be blindsided 🥴. Thankfully, he said yes because I believe the man should always pay but like Tony said it doesn’t hurt to offer. The important part is how he responds. Also I’m in high school so nothing fancy, although it was nice to me 😊.
Good Stuff! Keep your head up Sistas and walk like you know. The person who likes what you bring will notice and approach...Allow the ones who can't handle you or are not attracted to you pass on by. Being nice to all is great, because the person across the room (you didn't notice) is watching to see how you handle those situations. He will see that you bring peace and will make note.
I am told I am beautiful/ pretty all the time. But I'm that beautiful/pretty EDUCATED black woman. Therefore, my cut off game is on FLEEK when it comes to grown boys. Tony is keeping me up on the game.
