Im a dark skinned Indian girl and Indian guys only appreciate light skinned girls...but other races appreciate me.... so i do agree that there is colorism within your own race from your own people
Yeah my friend (latino) is going to medical school soon and I asked him if hes willing to date an indian girl and he said yeah, preferably south indian for cultural reasons. He didn't give a rats ass that they tend to be darker at all.
And most women care about height, something a man can't change but he still has to suck it up and deal with it which is what dark skinned women need to do.
You think there are no white man that care if you are black or not? The fkn delusions on these statements. Do you keep telling yourselves these ludicrous things all days? I know pleeeeeenty of white Europeans that love light skins but not dark dark 😂 the fact is you have never had a open honest conversation with them about it so you do not even know. You are assuming and paining something you want to be true 😂
No, she’ll have better success finding someone who actually wants marry and provide for her instead of seeing her only as a resource, outside of the BC. That’s just facts.
It’s weird cuz light skin black men love dark skin women 😂 but dark skin women always want dark men which is cool but darker dudes do prefer light skin a lot from what I’ve seen. It’s weird tho cuz so many guys like darker women I think dark skin women just let the guys that don’t like them have too much power over their head space
@@ninaowusu8157 You sound crazy because Dark skin and light skinned women both want me. I don’t care about skin color when it comes to being attracted to a woman.
Ladies, We Have to 🛑 Allowing Bm to push and project their self hatred for their Blackness on to Us. Move arnd. Remember, A Man Is A Man! Luv Who Adores You, Not JUST tolerate You. Aśi-Aśi
I'm not black, nor am I a man... I'm a white girl. But I've dated a couple dark skinned women. Brown skin girls too. I've never discriminated when it came to women.... with men- I'm more picky. Ended up married to a mexican guy. A gorgeous one 😊❤ dark skin girls are winning babe😊 you're gorgeous ❤
What she's not saying are two things: (1) She desires non-Black men to desire her the way she feels she should be desired. The bad part about that is she's never been a man before and has never dated men from a male perspective, so her perception of "desire" is rooted in Hollywood fantasy. (2) The Black men she date or were in company of did not desire her that way she felt she deserved to be desired. The same reason: she's never been a man, never dated women from a male's perspective, so she's just talking out of her azz. What you never hear are the dark skin women who clearly knows they have access to men of different races, because they have what they deemed to be "successful relationship" stories. Now once the many stories are told, they are all pump and dump situations, but the women view them as "successful" and rewarding experiences. This is just a dark skin women who is lost in her own mental confusion and her only rationality of why the confusion exists is it has to do with her skin color.
Nah, she's not lost at all. Some of y'all just want to gaslight darkskin women for speaking out against the secret caste system of Black people. It is what it is these young dark skin women are refusing to remain quiet. They shouldn't. You only get one life to live and life is short.
@@maryamadedeji24 - These idiots make these types of comments based on the women they see on magazine covers. And you allow them about 15 minutes of free space to talk, they quickly begin to admit their opinion is based on what they see on television, movies, and magazine covers. What they don't understand is many of these magazines attempt to earn revenue having their books sold overseas via on the newsstand or overseas subscriptions. So, the women on the cover must relate to the overseas market. Saw it myself while in Saudi Arabi, Kuwait, and Iraq. A "Hot Girl Magazine" that featured light skin women or Hispanic women.....Those guys loved it, but a "Hot Girl Magazine" that featured darker skin women, and they were not feeling it, and would tell you "She's too dark/She's too African".
@@januaryman5485 - Now, how about you go and tackle that livestream you've been putting off for 2 years out of feeling like you'll make an azz out of yourself.
My husband is a black man that only desires dark skinned women in the way most black men desire light skinned women. It was almost offensive because he was very biased towards lighter skinned women in the way many black men do not like dark skinned women solely based on their complexion. I found it to be reverse colorism because it was that bad. I learned that because both his mom and sister were light skinned he did not want to be with anyone who reminded him of his mom or sis. His dad was a total colorist and also a dark skinned man who would never consider a woman unless she was extremely light skin. He also tried to influence my husband to prefer light skin but he did the exact opposite and with vitrial because he will tell anyone and I was never sure how to feel about it. My complexion is closely aligned with the young lady in this video. I think I’m pretty damn fire 🔥 🤎
As a medium black heterosexual women.. i think dark skin women are exotic.. seriously.. i dont care the size.. always gorgeous especially if she take care of herself
I’m a light skinned, curly hair mixed woman and this preference/fetish for the type of aesthetic that I represent really upsets me. Now I have to vet if the black man thinks I’m attractive due to social conditioning. If he cannot appreciate or has never dated dark skinned black women, I lose respect. The brainwashing is real.
I feel exactly the same way, it's really frustrating dealing with all the shade and the anger directed at me as if i would ever for one second entertain any of these men that consider me "their preference". I am 100% aware their preferences have nothing to do with real attraction or genuine interest, it's just about trying to exploit, objectify, and harness their perception of "light skin social status" for themselves. That kind of racist sexism being reframed as privilege is disturbing on soo many levels. As a mixed Black woman i am proud to be Black and feel most connected and comfortable dating Black men but wow, trying to find one who isn't self hating is super hard and leaves me paranoid as hell.
You just said it may be due to “social conditioning” and “brainwashing”. You losing respect for a man that suffered through that and not being patient with him is interesting. Wouldn’t you want someone to be patient and not lose respect for you if u suffered from some type of social conditioning and brainwashing?
Kudos for speaking about this colorism cause it’s the cultural elephant in the room. Dark skinned women are my preference, and respect for dating whoever celebrates you not tolerates you…
I bet you twelve Pokémon cards she has several guys in the friend zone that have great jobs and are nice that would be happy to date her. An imperfect understanding of hypergamy keeps many women single.
Of course not. Then podcast like this wouldn't exist and how else will we stereotype and generalize 😅😂. That would involve treating individuals as individuals
I hate when people try to force us to like what we don’t. I’m the so called exotic girl: Brazilian mixed race Beyoncé’s color and blue eyes. I’ve never dated a black guy in my life! I’m not attracted to them. DOT! Since I was like 4 years old I already liked blond blue eyed boys. My white mom who only likes black guys was kinda worried as we didn’t have many of this type in Brazil. Lol She always told me “you better go to Europe, we don’t have this type here” even when I was 5 and clearly had my preferences already. Today I’m married to a blond blue eyed French-Belgian pure race man. That purity is gone forever as we have 2 beautiful mixed kids. 😂😂 We don’t choose the type we are attracted to. We just are.
@@allwhatilove914 Well yes but if you only date 1 skin tone which for the woman in the video it is darkskin men, dont complain when you run out of options or have problems with dating that skin tone. The problem with what you are saying is that the appearance of someones skin color is not your type which would kinda be saying you care abt looks more that attitude and the connection between you and your partner.
I find it to be the complete opposite. As a light-skinned woman most of the Black guys, African or not, that I have met don't view women like me as being a Queen worthy of partnering with simply becausr I wasnt black enough. They all married darker skinned women. Meanwhile most darker skinned women in my surroundings married White or Very Light Arab or Latino men. The problem with dark skinned women is that they want to be seen and oogled at by random people from the street...but they have a whole untapped demographic that they can tap into but they want someone lighter or someone creme de la creme yo make up for her struggles. Any Subsaharran African man would go head over heals over a dark skinned woman..and there are hundreds of millions of them. Thats what other races do when they struggle to find someone. They expand their horizons.
@@thatchickdionne7609 I am not generalizing as I am bloodwise of both lighter African and darker African backgrounds. I may be light-skinned by sheer genetic roll of the dice..but the rest of my immediate family members are dark-skinned (and incredibly beautiful, God Bless us all. So are my cousins and friends and workmates. I shared my experience which was consistent w girls I knew in my shoes and the impressions that Darker Skinned males I met/dated/was matched with/taught had about colour preferences. Ultimately colour is not everything which males up the person. Faith, manners, couple-goals, and compatibilities are what should be the priority.
this is a topic my girl brings up im mixed my girl has dark skin and i think most people only care about the opinions of who there naturally attracted to initially and not else outside of that
Yes. She likes black guys who are not afraid not her… who typically themselves grew up around lots of non black people. Can’t source the token black guy at the mostly white school.
This is kind of a conundrum. Like… we are always focusing on the struggle of complexion or being black but doesn’t that kinda devalue it? Wouldn’t one Logically conclude that that dark skin would be an imposition on their children? Thus making you less of a serious dating option? Also cashay is a great girl and this no offense to her.
I get so tired of dark skinned black women and this talking point. Just accept that certain men don’t want you. Beauty is beauty regardless of color. Women like this chick need to let it go. I’m so glad that my dark skinned girlfriend doesn’t talk about this crap. All this is, is her personal insecurities. Until a man marries you, he doesn’t really want to be with you. And that’s the truth.
It’s a wig. But she might have long hair underneath. A lot of us just wear wigs/weaves to maintain the length we have or to simply grow out our hair or to give it a rest from heat and other styling tools/methods.
As a black man, I agree with you on both! Wigs & weaves disgust me. I only deal with natural black women; ironically, they seem to love themselves more (than women with wigs/weave).
Guess I go against the grain. I'm a black man, and have dated dark skinned women throughout my life. I look at women as who they are. Their demeanor. The character. Never about a skin color.
Sometimes take this with a grained of salt some women say this when probably they got a fucked up attitude or maybe the man doesn’t like them that much they kinda attribute it to their color..everyone has their preferences some black men like light skinned women am sure she has her type I know a lot of black men who love darkskinned women it’s just all about preferences
God told us to stay with our own nation of people aka Israelite, (negro black, Hispanic and Native) and we come in all size, skin shade. Don’t fall for the euro tricks because you hate yourself sometimes, we are got the most beautifully race of women’s on this Earth. God said So.
Ehh I think it’s the type of black men they like. Most black men don’t care bout skin color if they are attracted to you. I think the black men they’re interested in aren’t interested in them. Attractive dark skin women in an environment that’s black (neighborhood, city etc) have no problems with this. I think it’s actually a slap in the face to beautiful dark skin women who have black men (and non black men) all over them.
@@MostWanted0419Then why when BW says I want a guy who is tall, have muscles and successful nobody complain? Nobody wanna date BW because of their attitude and behavior! Must of them are single mothers, if BM was the problem then girls from others wouldn’t like us
@@LolaBonnie-hw1xo girl don’t try to be the victim, BM are unattractive because of their attitude and behavior not the color of their skin, divorce is high in the black community, how many single mothers we have in our community? The day you will find and answer of why nobody wanna marry your ass then things will change
I hate to tell dark-skinned black women the truth, but dark-skinned black men experienced the same colorism from women. Add in a preference for the thuggish, bad boy types and its a wrap for the nice guy types.
I like dark skinned women, but most are real colorist, and blame it on men. Stop it. Dating them is hard because of their insecurities, but I still like them.
Where did she grow up? I know plenty of black men who love dark women. Next stop for me is Nigeria. She’s in the wrong circles. How dark are the guys she’s finding? Every man has his type. Just gotta find men who like you.
they're talking about their personal experiences. when did they say preferences were wrong? everybody has them. it's about how you treat the person that isn't your preference that makes the diffrence.
So non black men treat you differently even though majority of them dont like black women much less dark skinned women? The white men who dated you are in the minority but thanks for forcing a narrative
I wish yall would stop pushing this narrative. Yall are the worst abusers. Yall want black women to believe men of other races don't want us then get online and complain when yall see us with white men. Pick a struggle. I've never had any issues dating outside of my race. Stop hating 😂
@@NoName-oe4gm thats not projecting thats literally statistics. And even just anecdotally speaking black women will tell you theyve encountered plenty of white dudes who fetishize or are colorists against dark skin girls etc. idc how delusional cashay is
Did anyone not see what just happened here😂😂 . The men that are dating her are dating her for the same reason those black men are dating other women. Those European men are dating you because you are exotic and different to them. Just like how those black Men want an exotic or light skinned girl as you say Moral of the story men in general like variety 😂😂.
Nothing wrong with that. You like what you like. Ok. When in other cultures, the African men are they like that as well? Shouldn't be an issue. You seem to be doing fine. Sure you could find a dark skin man who prefer dark skinned woman, bet you didn't like him for whatever reason. Do you...
And that's the problem you are spreading yourself far and wide, preserve yourself that way you wouldn't have so much to talk about, but u losing yourself in dating like stop be a wife even when you haven't found your husband... but women just talk to talk clearly... out of all the black men in the world, but the few you had (the exception) got you talking abroad like black men or if every race is your issue so guess what who cares who u date but come on now... if what u say is true, then why aren't u with that other race on men you speak so highly of in this regard. Make it make since. ...
