In my life I found decluttering is such a help to my mental health. Both because of the dopamine rush of achieving little milestones along the way (seeing a new patch of floor!) But also because on a sensory level a messy room is a way less calming room. Good for you and hope you feel better!
in the most respectful way, I am so happy to see that you have a similar body type to me, as I don't see it a lot in the media I consume or in the people around me and you look so beautiful in your clothes, which gives me hope that that's how others might see me :) I hope your mental health is getting better and you can have the energy you want to have!! sending big hugs and love from the netherlands
I think its really amazing how you manage to film so many videos and also show that ur struggling and wanting urself to feel good. It feels real and familiar to smth I'm going through. I want to thank you for ur content and sharing your struggles. Wannna give a hug and best wishes~
Appreciate you being so up front about how you're feeling. I know decluttering my closet is always very emotional and draining - it's decision fatigue on steroids! You did really well! Would love some check ins or to see the "final" decluttered closet, but no pressure!
I'm so sorry you've been struggling and been ~going through it~ One wardrobe trick I've been doing that's brought me a lot of joy is storing my out of season clothes out of sight so they don't overwhelm me when they're not useful. I just packed up my winter/fall items and busted out my spring stuff, which felt like getting a whole new wardrobe, and I can hardly wait to get into my summer dresses. I try on the new season items, donating what no longer fits my body or style, and it's really been helpful for sustainability and my mental load. Maybe try putting your out of season stuff away for now, and don't even worry about them until its time again. I hope you feel better soon 💜
I went through something similar some months ago, turns out I just needed a change. For whatever's worth, I understand what you're feeling. I just wish I could help you the way you help me when I feel like a ball of insecurities, to use your own words. Lots of abrazos from Spain ❤
I really admire your authenticity & appreciate you discussing your mental health & insecurities in this video! I hope you know that you’re not alone we all go through those rough patches sometimes ❤❤❤
Girl same, my whole home is like a landfill at the moment. I'd also suggest asking for help if you have friends or family who can lend an afternoon to help lessen the burden of cleaning/organizing... but I also get if not cause that's where I'm having troubles; no one to ask. 🙃 The only real thing I've been able to do besides trying to remember to actually take my meds is finding small little joys to fill up the emptiness to get through the day. Things like a homemade latte, having a good laugh with coworkers, feeling good physically playing soccer, decluttering ever-so-slowly and doing little art projects.
A couple of weeks ago I did that because there was some stuff that didn’t fit me anymore 😢 I had a cry session after that… I’m recovering from anorexia/bulimia 😫 to all the people struggling… stay strong and never give up 🙏🏻✨
I’m watching this all the while I’m telling myself, get your shit together & organize, declutter, get rid… thank you babe!! Not normally a commenter but you made me & I love you for it!! True queen fashion… btw, that nude lace halter top, definitely do like a half & half. Cut half the inside & I swear it’s a slay. ❤️💯
I just put this on to clean my house to and realized that we have the same cami on 😂 I'm also 24 going on 25 in September so I totally feel where you're coming from. ♡
I loved the video. And wouldn’t mind it being longer ❤️❤️❤️ loved feeling like I was in the room with you as a friend. Sending love and hope you feel better in time
This is the fist time I have watched your channel. I subscribed. Please know you are amazing even when you are feeling low. Your genuine content is appreciated. Shine on and I hope you feel better - this too shall pass❤
Thank you Jessica, I’m feeling so much of the same emotions and kind of blegh and overwhelmed and needing a change. I am going to declutter right now! ❤
24 is really weird, but thankfully these crisis feelings pass with a bit of time! You’ll get back to you. Even at 27 myself I’m so much more secure in myself than I was at 24, mentally, physically, really everything. Decluttering is a really good step to get some stress off your plate!
Try Dedicating 25 minutes or even 15 minutes of decluttering or deep work in every way every day and you will see a huge difference and if you can keep going do it for longer have us as accountable support I’m going through the same thing I’m working on changing that about myself I have grown more in confidence and need a different perspective and mindset but not loosing myself I am just saying that you will get through this you are a beautiful confident powerful woman I’m loving your vibe 😊
That paisley skirt you're getting rid of is gorgeous one just like that is on my wishlist 😍 I'd describe my style pretty similarly to what you do and ugh all the 90s/2000s vibes! So CUTE.
to feel youself, focus on others. And other peoples needs, and how u can help them and bring joy to them. Than after, you can tend to yourself and find your true self. This always works for me.. because when we focus to much on ourselves we tend to loose ourselves (trust me... ik) i think its just how it works. But selflessness brings the most self assurance. (FWY, i am not calling you selfish! its just something that works for me :)
The horse top looks like a meme. Loved it and I wouldn’t mind if you would ramble even more about your clothes or other things even if it made the video longer 💕
I really needed this rn, the fact that when something is too small rn on you and you’re just totally okay with it and you’re getting rid of it. I’ve recently gained some weight and I’m about to declutter my wardrobe bc some pants don’t fit me which made me feel a little bit weird about myself when it’s literally okay, our bodies change and it shouldn’t make anyone feel shitty about themselves 🫶
You amazing woman! You did great work!!! Love your instincts and congratulations on all the progress you made! I live in the Midwest too and same same same about being soooo ready for spring. 🖤🖤🖤
You’re so beautiful and perfect 🥺 we are a similar body type so it really gets me thinking and feeling the same about myself. Thank you for being so brave❤❤❤ (and fashionable) 😂 😊
thanks for another lovely video !! i love ur style :3 i wanted to throw out there that i've completely revitalized old clothes by dyeing them - the helm you wore, for example, could def be dyed in an hour or less w a bottle of rit dye 💚
btw i forgot to mention it in the vid but i posted most of the clothes i got rid of on my depop! depop.com/jesssblair i’m only gonna keep my shop open for a week or two and then i’m gonna donate whatever’s left
I think it would be fun (if you're in the mood for filming) to do some girl talk videos while you do some self care. Whether it's like crafts or walking around or doing your nails. I loved when Jenna Marbles would do the thoughts from the bath videos. So if you got a tub and feel up to it that's an idea. Anyways sending you some love and strength ❤
Girlie i love this for you omg. These things are actually so helpful, like decluttering and stuff. It’s so incredibly helpful im telling you now love. Also you’re so fricken pretty, jealous as shit T-T
I really appreciate this video. You are not alone in feeling lost etc. Have you ever called a helpline? Call the local health line in our area just to chat about being lost and honestly it could help. I did that here where I live in Quebec and it felt like a weight had been lifted……please don’t do this if you don’t want to, I’m in no way telling you what to do, but since the internet is a big community but no one really knows eachother, that question remains valid and more or less all I can do. As a viewer, I LOVE your videos and YOU! If we were in the same area, I honestly would like to be your friend. But alas, we are internet strangers so I use my responsibility as a viewer to remind you what you neglect to tell yourself: you are unique, you are smart, you are struggling and beautiful and you know, that’s what life is about. I am rooting for you!!!!!! Sending peace from Quebec xoxo
13:45: I know what you mean about injury clothes superstition. I had a horrible bike wreck in these gorgeous tan Liz Claiborne t-strap pumps and they had blood stains on them so I thought it was bad luck to wear them but also bad luck to throw them out. The top is cool though. I like that it’s a weird off center square. Also super funny to me as a 40 year old that wet seal is sought after (no shade, it’s just funny how things change)
Incoming unsolicited advice! 😅 I think when we pin our sense of self on something as fickle and ever changing as fashion it can feel like we are never our selves because we are always chasing something new to complete our look, or us. I'm not saying give up fashion, because you are a wonderful advocate and example of sexy and beautiful plus size women. But perhaps you need something else that is more constant as well to ground you. Something that is less dependent on ever shifting trends. xx
i've been in a relationship for 4 years but we're not married and have no plans to be! i'm sorry you receive hate, there's no one right way to live ur life and other people should never judge u for that! sending you love