Detangling My Natural Type 4 Hair After A Depressive Episode | Natural Hair and Mental Health 

I needed this so much. I wish more people talked about how depression can impact our natural hair routines.

I’m so sorry sis we love you. And being bullied is the worst! Even if you have a loving family; I believe being bullied can still have long term psychological effects.

My almost 3 year old saw my laptop screen and said "Mama! Mama! She soooooooooo pretty! Her fluffy (what he calls our kinky curly hair) like mama and baby!" And he gave my screen a kiss. Now we're binging your videos because he loves you.

I haven’t washed my hair in a month. It looks as terrible as I feel. This was a comforting watch, thanks

My severe depression and anxiety got a whole lot worse when the pandemic started. We all understand.

Fabulous hair. I take antidepressants. Ocd and depression hit me in the gut when I first became an adult, to a severe extent. You all are not alone. Erase the stigma. We all need support because we’re human.

The comment section definitely passed the vibe check. Ya'll are some beautiful souls and positive balls of energy. You uplifting her in a time like this is so appreciated by me, it assures me that I'm not alone. And the fact that I'm just trying to get by is so much more than an attempt.

I’m 57 and have suffered from depression for over 20 years. This young lady is the most caring and compassionate person. Watching these videos has really helped this old baby boomer. God bless you child.

People don't realise how depression can impact everyday life, and essential self-care extending to hair care wish it was a conversation spoken about more.

First off, I love you. I was laying in bed, hair matted… trying to find the energy to detangle this mess after months of neglecting it. This episode hit me hard and has not let up. I typed in “Depression Hair” hoping to find videos specific to hair that needed more TLC than normal… I started watching your video and felt comforted by your rawness.. I went in the bathroom and started to work on it slowly but surely.. Thankyou. 💛🕊✨

Oh my goodness when you said your a highly sensitive person. I almost cried. I suffer with depression too, always have and I’ve recently discovered that High Sensitivity is real and I have the personality trait. I cry over everything and am often misunderstood by friends and family. Thanks for opening up and helping me to realize I’m not alone :)

You’re NOT alone at all. I was extremely depressed for two years straight and it was the darkest time in my life. I’m glad that you are producing content during this time. This is real life and people need to see this.

I know this has absolutely nothing to do with the video. But, you could be a great voice actress. Its so cute and sweet.

The struggle is real and nobody understands just how much it hurts. Leaving the house is hard, combing my hair is hard, socializing is hard, getting out of bed is hard, I’m aggressive at times, I say mean things, I avoid people, I get anxiety attacks. I hate this life.

Mental health is all that matters, take your time ❤️

I've been depressed for decades and I went to therapy it help me so much I now stand up for myself I also was bullied but today I have peace at 51 and everyday I get home from work I walk on the treadmill also to help with my day today stress and my God be with you praying you feel better

Sitting here crying and watching this because finally I'm hearing you vocalize exactly what I feel when I'm depressed. Joy-el, thank you for putting all of the truth out there. Our Black Girl Blues are real and weigh us down more often than not. Sending you love and compassion Sis. I'm sending that for all of my Sisters who suffer in silence.

When you talked about feeling like a white woman or man wouldn't understand I felt that. That's why I stopped seeing my therapist she was nice but I kept holding back because she wouldn't understand because she was white I really do need to find someone else

Just chopped my hair off because I have not been taking care of it during my fluctuating mental health episodes. This video is so on time, happy to know I’m not alone.

I hope it's not lost on anyone how unbelievably personal this video is. You're the role model I wish I had when I was younger Joy-El - I really struggled with my hair and I'd go months without detangling or washing it as a teen and college student. Things are a little better now that I'm comfortable with doing wash and gos, but it would have meant a lot to see another person with hair like mine who also struggled with anxiety/depression, I wouldn't have felt so alone. Type 4 hair doesn't give anyone break, and maintaining it is often overwhelming even on the best of days, and I'm so proud of you for shedding some light on how difficult it is for anyone with anxiety/depression. 💜💜

The fact that you can make a video during your depression shows power! The fact that you can sing during your depression shows strength! You got this girl you are loved I wish I could hug you. You are so beautiful and such an inspiration it hurts me to know that you are going through this. Always remember you are POWER🖤💜🖤💜🖤

The density of this head of hair is mind blowing!😩🙌🏾 Gorgeous!

This video was so important, I’ve never seen anyone talk about the neglect of hair that comes from depression ❤️ thank you for sharing

Just had an episode the other night, woke up balling my eyes out. It comes and goes. I definitely get it.

Wow it’s crazy how I could already notice the big shift in energy. I don’t have depression but I do have problems but I haven’t been to therapy. I hope you feel better ❤️ Please know we are patient. Don’t prioritize RU-vid over your mental health. We r all just glad we know you are okay. I’m not crying or anything :’) Just know you aren’t alone and if you feel misunderstood you have a loving community

Thank you Joy-el. You never know who you’re helping through your strength.

We love you Charmaine ❤❤❤❤

Forgot how a depressive episode and anxiety can make me neglect my hair. My 4b hair would be tangled, dirty and dry and I didn't care...I had no energy to take care of it...spend 6 hours of a wash day 😞😭 On my darkest time my hair was breaking , not growing. With this pandemic I for sure had depressive episodes luckily for a while I was in therapy so it was not as bad as it could be. This video helped so much. I am not alone. You are very brave for talking about this mental health in the natural hair community is rarely talked about and connected.

Going through post partum depression my baby is a year old and still it's not going away

I’m only 2 minutes in and I’m sending you a hug. You are a dear for not only filming this but sharing it. Believe it or not, you are a brave woman. 🙏🏾🤗

One of the reasons that I got microlocs was to have a hairstyle that wouldn't break my hair off when I fell into a depressive episode. My loose natural hair broke off due to being matted. I just didn't have the energy or motivation to do my hair.

I don’t even have hair and I watched the entire video just to hear your story. Hearing you talk about depression has made me face the fact that I’ve slipped back into depression without realising it. I’ve been fighting it so long I had forgotten how easy living life felt before it took hold.

Bless your heart precious! Girl, of ALL the places to share your hair AND your biracial struggles AND mental health challenges but on RU-vid!!! Lordy! These trolls can be vicious... you are so BRAVE. Thank you for being a LIGHT in the midst of your journey and in the world! THANK YOU!!!

I know it's hard... Hang in there Sunshine, kick depression in the butt!!!! Praying 🙏 Love 💟

Cardio workouts help. I have been through the most with depression. Been on anti depressants for about 36 months. However when pms hits the meds become less effective. I am a skinny girl and would've loved to exercise for muscle but I do 20 minutes of cardio atleast 4 times a week. Big help.

Talking about depression is the only way we'll get rid of the stigma! Not only can depression affect a natural hair journey, but personal grooming on every level. Those who have not experienced it may find it hard to understand. Thank you for sharing. I'm with you and sending good wishes .

It’s crazy how certain situations can trigger all the trauma you haven’t dealt with, or you have and it just comes back to bother you. I had a relationship end about a year and a half ago and it’s triggered trauma and different things will hit me randomly. Even last night, and it isn’t him who makes me upset it’s all the emotions and trauma that he triggered in me. All the fears and insecurities and things you think you’ve buried are exposed. It really sucks. Finding a therapist who can actually help you and not mask emotions until they come back is the best thing you can do. I plan on going back to my therapist soon so I can get back on track. Feeling broken on top of this pandemic has really taken a toll on most of us and I’m hoping we can come out of this better.

I love your vulnerability, and I think your sensitivity is beautiful. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏿❤️

Fighting numerous of battles myself praying for you and everyone else who are fighting these hurdles 🙏 💕

I get the sense that talking to us and this act of self care in general is therapeutic for you, and I just want you to know it’s the same for us just watching. I know I can’t understand the relationship black women have with their hair. Just watching your care for yourself makes me happy. Like, my 3 year old hid my hairbrush 3 days ago and watching this I working up the energy to just to go look for it, oof 🥴 I see in the comments how much you do for your viewers and I just wanted to echo that, remember we’re here and we love you, k?

You have a beautiful voice!! You should sing more often!

I hate to see you 😢 cry, my sister is on anti depressants and I've struggled with anxiety, we feel you boo😘😘😘😘😘😘

Never give up my angel. You are Gods child.,You are blessed.❤️

Recently, I asked my ladies Bible study group to pray for those who are suffering from depression. I thought of it because 1 of my fave YTers said "due to depression, she was done posting for the rest of the year." She said I could add her to our prayer list. I’m going to add you, too (& honestly we say "for ANYONE who’s suffering...") But, I do think there is Power in saying a person’s name. I'm glad you found 2 great doctors for you. I don’t have many bouts of clinical depression. But, I feel them & the lesser blues coming on. When I do, I hurry up and get some necessary things done. IF you feel yours coming, because your hair has grown so much now, see if you can get someone to put in 4 quick cornrows. Nothing fancy, just functional. Then that's 1 less thing you'll have weighing on you. Maybe? I am happy for you that you were able to get this video done and your hair detangled. I know that took effort. 👍🏽👏🏽

Your singing voice omg wow. Beautiful & so are you!

The fact that I found this while finally doing my hair after three months of doing nothing an a recent depressive episode makes me feel so understood. I’m finally getting a therapist and I am excited to start this journey. Thank you for this representation, it means the world to me

You are a beautiful woman I will be praying for you, my niece is going thru that as well,I know you will pull through .

What really helps is putting my hair in braids or twist (with and without added hair). If my hair is in braids or twist it's one less than to worry about when I hit a depressive state. Or you can just do some simple twist or corn rolls and slap on a wig. I definitely understand when it comes to mental health. I had to resign my job because it was making my ptsd worse. What I've learn so far is to trust your gut instinct and put yourself (mental health) first.

For detangling dry hair, I highly recommend African Pride's aloe and coconut water detangle and condition pre-shampoo. That stuff is a game changer and has so much slip that it cut down on my detangling time by like half.

Joy-el is now my favorite RU-vidr. PERIODT. Oh and you can sing? That's just not fair. You have a beautiful voice!

I literally just detangled my hair and twisted it just after almost a month. Your content is always timed perfectly. Your honesty is incredible, I'm on 3 different meds for anxiety and depression and I had a stint in a mental hospital about year ago. I was 1 of about 3 black woman, which is sad because it's not due to a lack of needing the help. I love that you sang the lyrics from " He still loves me" Beautiful voice you have. You are loved and appreciated and I'm so grateful to have discovered your channel!

Wish I could reach through this screen and help you detangle!! I find it relaxing and helps me deal with anxiety. Your talk helped me...and I cried a little. Thanks 😔

Firstly, thankyou for putting a depression and 'I struggle with showering' video out. I just felt understood. I must admit I didn't watch all your video as I am hoping to get into the shower soon myself, and didn''t realise how long the video was until I clicked it. Just having someone say/mean 'your feelings and mental health is valid', 'you need to rest, and not push when it is not ok to do so', 'your situation is understood', 'you can do small steps and should consider each of them a huge success', 'you are not a failure as a human being', 'your depression is part of you, and that is ok', 'it is only an issue if you feel it is an issue' etc. Especially from a stranger, means a lot as my depression tells me that 'friends and family and doctors and support staff etc are supposed to say that, so it doesn''t count'. You just helped me assertively stand up to my depression, and push back the anxiety and fears around showering... or at least try! (Yeah, I have those feelings because of how long it has been since my last one and therefore it is 'new'. I highly recommend NOT walking in the neighbourhood between my ears, especially regarding the mental gymnastics to make the weird antilogic make logical sense!). Given how horrible depression is (and wouldn't wish it on anyone!). I would like to suggest something to help possibly limit the frequency and/or duration of your depressive episode. I do have a big recommendation other than making a depression diary. It may not work, but it might be something to think about. I recommend having a chat with a doctor. Have a blood test and test levels vitamin D, vitamin B12, folate, iron, magnesium, full blood levels, calcium, and selenium. Not just with mental health, but with hormones. I am a female, and found I had the scary risky version of my episodes when I am due or on my period flow. I know some people get various issues at different times during the menstrual cycle (e.g. not the flow time, maybe after the flow time, or before the flow time, or that weird time that is like a week after the flow but a week before the before flow!). I also had irregular periods, which were weird. They were heavy for each month, but I might not have a flow time that month, so I would have the equivalent of two or however many months it had been since my last flow. It took over a month to recover from just one period. It was ridiculous. So I went to the doctor and I was fortunate that a certain medication could be used to regulate the flow time. Then when I was sure the flow time caused other issues, the medication was adapted to stop my period all together. Due to other health conditions including malabsorption at times, I was suggested to have an implant (family history does not like the implant down there, so I went for an arm one!). I now take medication, and have the implant. It has stopped the periods for me, and thus stabilised my hormones... and made my depression more managable. Since then I have had additional health conditions, and I am sincerely grateful that the treatments to stop the period is still effective (at least up to time of writing, let me not jinx it!), as I would not be able to even manage to think how bad the conditions would be if I was menstruating. It would be a horror show, and my health would have seriously declined. I likely would have moved in with my parents permanently because I would not be able to cope, and would feel like I was going backwards. I was also annoyed that what worked for other people in my family, didn't work for me. I think it was because I let it get so so so so much worse than either of my parents did. I saw them work through it, so I thought that is how to manage it... Maybe for some, not for me at that time. It's been about a decade since I last worked due to how problematic my functionning is. Hope this may help someone. Thankyou for reading.

As someone who has depression and body dysmorphic disorder, my natural hair journey has been quite tumultuous this year. I was diagnosed with these disorders two years ago at 16, and although I've made tremendous progress, I still have a long journey ahead of me. As of now, my hair is in mini braids to avoid any matting and tangles, which happens when I don't have the energy to wash my hair or I am feeling too "ugly" or "deformed" to look in the mirror. Mental illnesses is such an essential topic that needs to be talk about more in the BC. It's not a white people problem. I really wish you the best, Joy-el, as well as anyone who reads this comment. Like I always say, flowers do wither, but they eventually bloom again.

Thank you for this video. I’m literally going through a really hard episode right now. A 5 year relationship with someone I truly loved just came to and end on top of other life changing things going on at the same time. I’m jus trying to be ok and get my footing. But I appreciate knowing I’m not alone. I just did my hair routine the other day after not touching my hair for a while. I can totally relate and I’m so grateful that you shared this. Many people wouldn’t even think about the affects that mental health has on natural hair.

Thank you so much for sharing this sensitive part of your life with us. I have struggled with Anxiety since I was 14. For years it took the form of an eating disorder. I fought and was able to win that battle but as an adult I still deal with generalized anxiety. My struggles inspired me to study psychology in college and work in mental health specializing in anxiety and depression. Im sure you already know this but one thing I noticed about my anxiety and a lot of my female clients is the episodes of anxiety and/or depression is often linked to our menstrual cycle. Tracking that can help you prepare for hormonal triggers that may be going on that you are not even aware of. Also keeping healthy levels of Vitamin D, Potassium, and B Vitamins is VERY important for mood and mental health. I pray that you have peace in those time when your mind won’t allow you to rest. You have a beautiful spirit and this will not dim your light.

Going thru this now, I didn’t realise i have been in this cycle in and out for 3 years now. Lost my mom in 2019 she was 53.5. Lost my brother last year a year after my mom. I stay home my partner takes care of me. I forget that grieving take along time. Those days where i feel I’m just lazy and unproductive, i remind myself that I’m still depressed. Also nice to see a beautiful woman that looks similar to myself. I’m, hyper sensitive myself, it easy for my emotions to kind get me stuck in phases. I’m glad i found you, you’ll get through this. I keep telling myself this everyday❤️☺️

Thank you for taking the time to talk about your mental health. It’s not only important for you, but others who are suffering from mental health as well but might not be able to talk about it. It also tells me and some others they aren’t alone in this journey. Sending you virtual hugs 🤗

Sending love, hugs and prayers your way Hun. (from two saints)

I am praying for your recovery Joyel🤍 I personally don’t suffer from depression but I have faced anxious moments and fear Here’s a verse that changed my life: Philippians 4:6 and 13🤍🤍

Thanks, so much for sharing. I'm 59 years old and hae sufferred with depression for mor years than I can remember. Ironically, after I had breast cancer and chemo 4 years ago it improved more than i can explain. Why, don't know, but grateful. I will certainly keep you in my daily prayers. Oh, I started this natural hair journey after chemotherpy. Thought what better time to start with that natural big chop 😊 but still challenged. . Again, thanks thanks for sharing.

Go 'head "green eyed woman"!!! MAD LOVE dear sister, we 'bin singing da blues forever, just don't stay in them too long. Sister Joy-el, YOU are a bright, and shining STAR, so twinkle ON!!!! PEACE, and God's favor cover you continually.

I am glad you speak your truth and educate us on this matter because I been dealing with depression pretty much my whole life. Literally back in August of this year I had a nervous breakdown that I literally tried to commit suicide the same way I tried to in middle school. I remember that I started feeling dizzy from the stress and past out and I had very bad headache before and afterwards and then I came through. I do take medicine but I just got very overwhelmed that I could not take it anymore. I feel ashamed at times to feel the way I do but honestly whether I try to or not I can not help it. At times I still have suicidal thoughts but I just try my best to just keep on living and keep telling myself that I am worth it.

I'm so glad to see someone post something like this. I can't even tell you how incredible and insane it feels to see hear what you've said and see so many comments agreeing and saying exactly how I feel. It's nice to know that I'm not alone but then I wish I wasn't *actually* alone.

Jesus came to me in the midst of my depression and He still does. I had to fight my bullies, but the biggest bully, the devil, Christ knocks him down. Satan keeps getting up, so I pray for Jesus, no, holler for Him, and He knocks the devil back down.

When I go through a depressive episode I like to put my hair in a protective style. I hope you feel better soon❤

thanks for this. it's been a rough year and my hair is definitely suffering for it. hope you're hanging in there

This is one of the best hair journey videos I've ever clicked on. I am so proud of your openness, the knowledge you shared and how important reaching optimal health is for black or mixed-race women. I love you!! Keep striving.

When I start to feel myself losing the energy to really take care of my natural hair, I just put it into twists so I can not have to deal with it and still keep it protected

YOU ARE SO VERY BRAVE. KEEP MOVING FORWARD. YOU ARE A HERO.

i've been binge watching your channel and im obsessed with your hair you are the first 4c natural that i've seen that talks so highly of their hair and is always caring for it even when you are battling with depression. Its very nice to see. I gave up watching natural hair youtubers because they were always so negative and mean about 4c hair. I hope more 4c girls discover your channel and approach their hair in a more positive way. Also i know this video is 3 years old but I hope your depressive episodes have lessened!

no idea I'll ever find a video like this on RU-vid, thank you so much

I understand what you are going through. I wish more naturalistas can take a more holistic approach when talking about hair. Its not just what you put on your hair. It could be mental health, diet, etc. Since high school, I have suffered trichotillomania (hair pulling), depression, and a lack of proper nutrients. On top of that, I am diagnosed with aspergers. Every time I would try to style my hair and moisturize it, it would be dry no matter what. I wasn't getting the proper nutrients (as I found out later in life). The integrity of my hair was already damaged even while growing out. . After trying multiple times and depression getting worse, I gave up with at most times not styling or moisturizing my hair for at least 6 months to a year.

I just pampered/detangled my hair for the first time in year. Thank you for your transparency. 💕

Joy-el, you can be completely healed from this. 1st, be conscious of every thought you have. 2nd, replace every negative thought with a positive expression (preferably from the bible). Do not try to suppress any negative thought. It will only come back. Replace it with a positive until it becomes automatic and you will be healed sooner than later. You are beautiful. You are loved.💕

I’m crying watching this video, we are here for you girl, you are loved❤️❤️

Omg you can sing!!! You are awesome please know that.

I just want to say that I love you. You are a very brave and strong young woman. I am going to share your channel with my daughter who also struggles with mental health issues. Stay strong and God bless you always ❤️

Thank you for being transparent. We support you.

Girl, I shaved off half my head during a depressive episode. I realized I was getting tired of doing my hair and I wanted something simpler and lazy. I got the haircut where the back and sides of my hair is shaved and I love it so much. I put in a lot less work on my hair. I literally only touch my hair on wash day. When I go out I just do a quick high puff unless I wanna be fancy.

I have been doing good with my anxiety and depression until today :( today I took my Gre exam and it didn't go well. I washed my hair yesterday because I knew this might happen. Thank u for sharing 💕

You're so beautiful and sweet. It breaks my heart to hear that someone as kind as you has felt the darkness that is depression. My heart goes out to you and everyone else going through it. Ive been there and its completely incapacitating. Thank you for finding the strength to get up and not only tackle type 4 hair, but make a video for everyone else going through it. Whenever you feel yourself slipping into that dark place again, know that this internet stranger is thinking of you and cheering you along with every step you take towards self care:)

I always wanna give you a hug when you talk about your feelings and eyes get watery ! I was really depressed and anxious today and I have a black therapist but there’s still so much to figure out. I’m thinking about medication but I’m trying to take the right precautions. I feel overwhelmed but at this moment I feel relatively pleasant.

Really hope you're finding ways to manage your episodes better. I'm taking antidepressants. I know everyone it's a fan of them, but I had to take them. I finally reached a point where I didn't have a choice. And it's helping. I hope you have something that helps. Also your hair looks bomb; it's sooo full.

Love you! I've been in and out of episodes all year. Amla oil has been a life saver, I'm type 3 but it works for my type 4 friends and family. You massage it into the scalp before a wash, it helps with growth, hair loss and breaks up my dry patches. Sometimes in an episode the most I'll do is just keep putting it on and braiding my hair away for a few.

that fro is Wild! its beginning to take on a life of its own. always keep in mind the support u have behind u btw 🖤

Keep your faith and determination and pray for healing.

Please try song therapy when your energy shifts into depression or anxiety mode Joy-el. It works wonders. Your voice is amazing. Stay blessed. 💕

Its a blessing your parents are supportive regarding your mental health. Mine don't know how to support me at all. Its just information they know about me, but its never acknowledged or discussed. Support makes getting through the tough times a little better.

I am so proud of you because you are working through this episode. I too suffer from anxiety and depression and I have my ups and my downs. It does get better so please continue to endure. You are beautiful on the inside and out and someday you will find love again. This too shall pass. I promise it will! Also, you have a nice singing voice. Take care🙂

Thank you Joy-El. May your journey being you to deeper joy and peace. ❤️

I've been here many times since I became natural 10 years ago. When I feel myself going down, I moisture, seal and braid my hair in four sections even if i don't have the strength to detangle. It is at least some protection from further tangling, matting. If I go out, I wear something on my head. As I am feeling better, I detailed one section at a time. I rebraid until I have finish all sections and wash when I am up to it. I pray for your strength and healing. You are definitely not alone in this.

I was detangling my hair simultaneously with you while playing your video as my hair was in the same state and your energy gave me energy. Suddenly I was struck by how beautiful and angelic your singing voice is. You sound amazing!! You most definitely can sing!!

Thanks for sharing. I also have depression and anxiety and know hair is the last thing I want to fuss with. I can say starting locs has been helpful because my hair looks good the majority of the time and I don’t have to fuss with it. Just wake up, and go (I chose a semi free form approach, so mainly just separate the roots vs retwist, but I find even more manicured locs are easier than loose hair). I personally still recommend starting with a loose hair journey because that is how you truly learn those aspects of self love and acceptance tied to your natural aesthetic. Learning and loving your natural loose hair texture is huge. That said, you may want to look into locs an option for the future. There are SO many ways to start, sizes, etc and it can be overwhelming. Fortunately there are also so many helpful loc youtube videos. The freedom is amazing. I’m obviously partial to locs now of course lol.

Bless you baby, you helped this ole gurl, deal with detangling when you’re going through something.

Sending much much love to you and I know everything will be all right. I have dealt with the same thing and by the Grace of God You will be ok. You look beautiful and God Bless you!💖💖💖

Organic semi free form locs would be great for your hair type. It’s what coily hair is made for. All the best. Power to you sis.

You are beautiful inside and out. Keep fighting and know that you are loved and appreciated. 💗 💗 💗

I've been suffering for years and im on meds got worse during menopause...God bless you and keep pushing!!!😘❤❤❤❤❤

Sensitive people are a gift to the world, because they are the ones who make it a better place too, if they are able to get some strength and support constantly, in the way that less sensitive people have naturally. Both my kids are highly sensitive, one is severe autistic and non verbal, but the best person I have ever met (literally! his nurses tell me similar things, that he makes their lives better, that they think he is an angel in their lives etc) and the other is verbal and very intelligent, but also autistic, just less, But they both have vibes and ways of absorbing the world that used to be appreciated. Tribes in Sahara Desert (my son's therapist told me this, she has travelled the world and done autism therapy for children and young adults around the world, for the Estee Lauder family, for families in Canada, Pakistan, Kuwait royal family, etc) SHE TOLD ME that there are tribes in Sahara area, whose word for 'autistic ' and 'sensitive' people (from childhood) is something like 'the wise ones'...because they recognize that even though those people may need more support or understanding, they are the wise ones among them (they see things at a different level) and to be honest I agree. These people are a blessing. We cannot compare the usefulness of a metal mug versus a glass or porcelain vase - both are useful, one is just more fragile than the other, both add to our lives, one just has to be protected more and serves a different purpose. YOU ARE LIKE THAT TOO. YOU ARE THE PORCELAIN VASE.