Sorry about the make-up fam, tried the glowy look. Came out a little too glowy! I'm going to stay consistent this time I swear! Had to remove some toxic people; now we are on the up & up.
@@Loobaloopaloooo ofcourse.. my comment was sarcastic I was like the fuck? How does a sociopath which admits to using people and feeling no remorse get to call other people toxic😂
For anyone who has suffered at the hands of a sociopath: grey rock. Present yourself as the most boring person ever and these people will leave you alone eventually (only after trying to get a reaction out of you). The mind games they play can be destructive for people with high levels of empathy and who are self conscious. Stand in your truth and don’t play along their charming games.
EXACTLY! My friend got taken advantage of by a guy because she felt like she owed him something and I’m like… what did he do to deserve this loyalty for you? You guys just meet last month and stepping all over your boundaries!
Sociopaths are very good at portraying as specific personalities for other people, but the downside, is a perpetual imposter syndrome where they can't find their own personality and struggle to know their inner self
@ApacheHelicopter I know a full blown sociopath, and he can't be left to himself. He finds no solace in bring alone with his own persona and thoughts, its like being in a void. He needs constant outside stimulation and needs to constantly manipulate and cause drama to feel anything
@@IoIocaust as a fellow cluster b I heavily relate to that guys struggles. This shit is hard, facing yourself is hard. You should give him some support if it is possible (if you are friends of course) Hopefully he gets some therapy. You know, if you at least somehow matter to him (he may actually listen), you could explain some social stuff to him and maybe he finds safer way to get his stimulation.
@@Piggyinahat Social stimulation doesnt cut it sadly. He needs to go rock climbing or something. I've known the guy since childhood. Constantly seeking thrills since childhood; stealing from his parents, smoking, stealing, hyper impulsive. he would buy an airsoft on a whim and shoot at cars for fun, no concern for being caught or anything. And he got into drugs to I guess cope with his numbness, and that's where I sort of cut ties with him.
Honestly takes courage to use the name "empath" nowadays (with so many people ridiculing it). As an empath (diagnosed with mirror-touch synesthesia) I applaud you👏🏻
The problem is that neurotypicals cannot believe someone does not have empathy, remorse, or the ability to have a conscience. When a sociopath says they do not feel bad or show signs they do not care, BELIEVE them for your own safety. Sociopathic individuals can ruin you and can be quite dangerous if covert. This young woman has decided to educate us and I am so grateful. This takes courage and I know you are one of the rare individuals with this personality type that is working on healthier relating. There is hope in that.
Yes, neurotypicals are incredibly stubborn about refusing to believe someone can be devoid of guilt. It's a special kind of arrogance to believe all people are good or "doing the best they can". These people are often very proud of their worldview.
Oh you do when it reaches the tipping point with these people and it's like they're always finishing each other's work or something they know you've been burnt one too many times already by people like them they sense it on you. So it gets increasingly worse gradually until one day you get stalked by a whole group of them, and the weird girl from high school 18 years ago still keeps trying to find a way to pop up and stalk you no doubt one of those people even when they were barely at school. You see how much they feel bad about it which is never not a shred of care or remorse about how they're hurting you when they'll just keep going and usually no insight into how messed up they are they're completely screwed up to the point they're hurting people. Who knows how many people they've sent over the brink over the years like how many people? i bet a lot and it's not seen as a real crime just because it's "not provable" just because it was internal abuse they did to you. When you get what a danger they can be to you man you'll never see anything the same again because even if they don't intend it they're certainly going to make you get realistic about things really fast and make you see how so much isn't what you thought, the false beliefs and perceptions you were taught, and how to avoid cult behaviors in groups of people which is really difficult when it so easily turns into that it's always easier to follow your own path.
I've been diagnosed with borderline and I sometimes actually thought I might be sociopathic. For example, this feeling of emptiness, being controlling, not having a feeling of my inner self, etc. But then I noticed that it is not constant, that my mood can change and then this intense worry of abandonment comes out
If you are empathic and treat other human beings with genuine love and concern, you never have to worry about abandonment. The only thing you have to worry about is not ensnaring yourself in the web of an anti-social personality type.
SAME. I have a severely bad habit of getting personal information out of people and then using it against them when I get angry. I will literally bring up your dead parent/family, sexual abuse, appearance flaws, etc. just to hurt you so badly that you have trust issues for the rest of your life.
@@genesmolko8113 oh that's so not true. I have a huge heart and a lot of empathy for people, but I cannot keep anyone for too long. In case of some relationships I fueled it by my insecure attachement, but mostly people just forget about me. I actually believe that I'm a good person and I cant see a specific reason for this
As someone who's already skeptical and hyper-vigilant, hearing this doesn't make it any better when it comes to interacting with humans 😅 but I'll never apologize for it though. Everyone can benefit from that. In general, most people tend to be too trusting
hey, a lot of diagnosed sociopaths are getting therapy and can control their urges, they probably won't hurt you. Diagnosed people are way safer and honest and open than "normal" and undiagnosed persons. 😀
@@Piggyinahat Even so, given the option of kicking it with a sociopath versus a non-sociopath, I'd still choose the latter. I remember my doctor used to have a sociopath working at his front desk. I could just tell because of a feeling I just get when I'm around them (hard to explain but it is not pleasant). She would walk around always smirking as if shit was funny when nobody said anything funny, and if you needed a medication refill, she deliberately would not forward the message to the doctor (and these were some serious medications that people couldn't just simply go without). My point is, if I imagine myself trying to grab a drink with this girl, I know for a fact it would be a miserable time. I'd rather go with someone else or just alone, whether she's getting therapy or not. Why take the risk that maybe they could be a harmless sociopath or else maybe they could be one of the others who by the end of the night will have your body cut into a million pieces and stuffed into a suitcase? (Not a "stereotype" by the way, so don't start that BS--most people with ASPD are found in the prison population--especially among murderers--and this is a fact.)
I have a few buddies in my life that are sociopaths. I can feel/see them work on others. I catch em if they try working on me. I love how they are resourceful.
As an empath I need to watch your videos.. coz we don't even imagine those things... 😢 .. we always try see the hidden goodside of every ppl we come across, and we get easily manipulated .. thank you for showing us the opposite world unknown for us
I think sociopaths think they hide in plain sight but it’s glaringly obvious for the most part. It’s the subtleties and not so subtleties that give them away. This makes me grateful my empathy is up running. Thanks for sharing your experience xx
Yeah people just walk head first into psychopaths like blind mutton, meanwhile my remaining empathy helps me spot them within one interaction lmao. Because it's also true what they say, eyes are literally the window into the "soul" . hahaha
THAT is the KEY 🔑... You’ll do something, it might appear generous & kind. To the empaths out there, ask if the person is actually GIVING of their TIME, RESOURCES, & with AUTHENTICITY. Chances are, whatever it is, it’s easy & “looks good” to the neighbors. 😎
bro I appreciate this shit so much because I hate how people in our world act like everyone is so perfect and sweet and innocent and then slander anyone who makes any kind of mistake or acts out in any way (cancel culture) and its just like nah give me the RAW UGLY HONEST TRUTH. Tell me how fucked up you are. Because we're all fucked up in some way, we just either self aware or in fantasy land.
I have an old sociopath forcing himself on me with his money and gifts and kindness… and he makes me feel sick. Everyone else loves him. He’s pushed boundaries with me now. I never accepted gifts. I barely ever responded to him. But he crossed the lines recently. And I’m at the point, where I don’t even care about the consequences now. I no longer ackbowledge him and I’ve blocked him. He thought he was safe because we are a part of a big hobby group. He found out my surname and stalked me at work, and even knows where I live now. But I’m not running scared because although I’m a neurotypical (potentially bpd though) and I’m naive initially with people with personality disorders… I also tend to attract them… Because of my naive persona Once I figure it out, it’s game on. I come from a long line of sociopaths and psychopaths unfortunately. I wish I didn’t - you’d think I should know better earlier (I know, I should). But, at least when I figure it out, I’m a snake in the grass. I got an ex boss fired from her 10 year position where she had bullied and manipulated her way to the top, and it resulted in many people (maybe 50 or more) being “paid to leave” because they disagreed. I played the long game. I was scared at first. Terrified of her. I lost years of my life, and so much sleep, and ended up a depressed alcoholic for 2 years. She had a whole little clan of HR people around her too, manipulating and intimidating me. But I kept my nose clean. And struck while the iron was hot when she tried to demote me… and she also turned against one of her minions. Im not smart with this stuff at all. Im taken in so Easily initially! But once o start to put the pieces together , I remain quiet but I won’t back down. And im sick of being intimidated by these people. No. Im sick of it. Im sick of people being told to be scared. Sure, be scared. And weary. But get your ducks in a row. Learn how they work (such as listening to these videos), and once you’re aware, cover your butt, and take notes. Remain calm. Keep your composure even when pushed. Take the falls where you have to, and strike when they think you’re dead. I’m sorry. But neurotypicals need to fight back and set boundaries and change things, or our world is just going to get worse. Of course many people with personality disorders grew up in abusive and neglectful situations. But so have we. I did. I was also horribly bullied throughout school (primary and high), I was humiliated, I was made the scapegoat, I’ve ended up in countless abusive relationships, some which I thought would kill me… but I’ll be damned if I’m going to shrink now I’ll have empathy and compassion, but I refuse to put up with bullying and abuse
100% correct. The most important lesson that a compassionate and empathetic person needs to learn, is to recognize a war when they see one. I am quite compassionate myself, always willing to negotiate and compromise, rather than fight. But we MUST realize when the time for talking is over. There are people in this world who will never extend the same understanding to you, as you try extending to them. And when the gloves are off, they're off - war is war, and it demands strength. DO NOT back down from these people. Stand your ground, fight proudly and fearlessly. It's the right thing to do.
I feel like they also love involving court and authorities because there know they can manipulate them. My brother is currently battling a sociopath in court over their child. It’s very sad for the child.
This happened to me. I had someone mirror me and be so nice to me at first, and then ended up slowly pulling away from me, and eventually discarded me pretty badly. I learned. I am a lot more careful with who I let in and open up to. Because I genuinely though she was my friend at one point, but I was wrong.
THIS! I had someone try to project all of her qualities to isolate me from family. Gaslighting, domination, control, smearing etc. She was an in law. Totally insidious.
I'm never one to try and diagnose anybody, but alot of my friends often say my ex was a sociopath. Your videos kinda helped me because ots helped me realise, no, he wasn't a sociopath. He was just a really bad person lmao. He could feel anxiety, guilt, things like that. They didn't seem "normal", but I don't believe they were fake either. Which tbh almost makes me more mad because he didn't even have a mental push to be sh1tty, he just did it anyways lmao. I love your videos though, and your makeup always looks amazing!! Thank you for helping take a stigma off speaking about serious mental health stuff!!!
@nelly belly, Well I disagree that narcissists have empathy. They definitely do have feelings, sometimes very intense ones, but ultimately their feelings will always be focused on themselves. Everything is always about how it affects them and their own lives, and they don't really give a damn about other people unless it helps them in some way. But I do agree with you that, based on what Jax has said above, her ex may indeed have been a narcissist.
@@shylock5477 Only for cunning, animal manipulation of and predation on others. No IQ for higher intellection and ethics, nor to see negative longterm ramifications.
I'm dating a sociopath. He does all kinds of things for me without my asking, but always throws them in my face when it's convenient for him and wants to make me look unappreciative. I'm am currently working my way out of this very toxic relationship. Just feel like I need to be careful how I handle it.
I hope you find a way out of it. My ex was a sociopath too it ruined my life. I've seen some people say its the woman's fault for choosing them but that's not how it works a sociopath usually selects a victim they can feel superior to its scary. Good luck to you though! I hope things get better for you!
Speak to a domestic abuse phone line and they will help you make a safety plan. Sometimes saying nothing to the actual person is safest as it doesn’t trigger their loss of control/power and the rage that can happen - this is when people are physically hurt, so please be safe
@Lunali Yes, I am mentally scarred probably for life. Luckily he is not very intuitive, so my quiet planning will go unnoticed. He's also narcissistic so he's too worried about himself to pay much attention to what I'm doing. Thank you for your comment.
I'm being targeted with these behaviors at work. I have done nothing to provoke. I recognize what's going on. The managers are being turned into flying monkeys. What the heck am I supposed to do in this situation I was put in to.
These demons aren’t hiding anymore. They are bold. This is why the true people of God need to rise up with boldness as well. Yah please give your people the boldness!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I grown up with a father who had NPD and sociopaths and borderline traits. I had myself high HPD traits however I believe I never fully have develop the desorder. I can spot cluster B mile aways and I also have some tacticts IoI While they are thinking to find another victim, I mirror them and I act like them the all way. Especially narcissists got frastrated and they disappear. Yeah you guys may manipulated most of the people but cannot manipulate the one who were raised by a narcissist. We know all the tacticts too well IoI Great video btw!👯
@@Lm56lm I recognize them based mainly on the eyes. They have a specific stare, and sometimes they do the smirk (creepy AF). also it may appear silly but narcissist have specific eyebrown. However, most of it, I'm an healer and there is a negative attach to them especially narcissists. I'm less good at spotting sociopath but narcissts well I can write a book about It IoI Once I met a guy on tinder and I was sure he was a narcissts. Why? The stare.. so I decided to met him in purpose and then it during the conversation I told him I was a narcissist (I faked it), and his reaction was hilarious, he was so mad, I removed him from the spotlight IoI 🤣🤣
@@Sarit473 Men on dating apps score high on dark triad traits. If someone wanta to study narcissism and psychopathy a dive on tinder will provide good insight. That's why so many women experience burn out, especially women, because those are types who totally drain one's energy. I think I know what you're talking about when you mention the stare. Is a mix of contempt and disgust with some sparkles of indifference, sometimes you can even see it on photos, "the smirk" 😏 is there. Once you learn about it you can't unseen it. That contempt stare...
literally what my ex did to me. despite being a young teenager i KNEW he was manipulating and love bombing but i was extremely lonely so i just let it happen. it severely damaged me and my ability to have relationships going onward. i failed school because of this man. three years later and i realize he was actually quite pathetic and a complete narcissist. i look down on him now. if you do this to people it's only a matter of time before they realize the truth -- that you're literally just a parasite.
Humbling advices 🙏🏻 I appreciate your efforts to get over your temptations. It's hard to fight when your worst enemy is yourself, cause we can be, after all. But everything is possible, so I definitely will become the master, not just of my emotions, but my whole being 👍🏻
As someone who has BPD, I am quilty of some of those tactics. But one thing I never understood was, how could I manipulate someone without knowing I was manipulating them? Without having a goal or purpose? I don´t have any rational explanation of why I am doing those things and most of the time it´s really just overwhelming despair or anger that pushes me to be mean to people or use them in any way. I never realize it while it´s happening because my emotions make me think that what I am doing is justified and neccessary for me to survive. Later when I calm down and see things how they really are I feel guilt. I think many people are not aware of the fact that manipulation is not always concious and the person who does it is driven purely by emotions, not an intent to manipulate.
yes, a lot of gaslighting happens without bad intend, through an impulse or confabulation. You may even feel gaslighted yourself by your other person. Most people have automatic thoughts, which push as to do subconscious behavior.
Recently I fell for a sociopath's tactic. It was an insidious request that landed her what she wanted and screwed up a bunch of plans from my end. Then she gaslighted me. I was pissed at myself for accommodating her. I'll never be agreeable in such a way again and was taken back by what an idiotic decision I made. Life's a funny thing and without realising it she made an error, which gave me the last laugh on her account. Karma or luck?
Perhaps both. I wouldn’t ever believe myself immune from sociopaths, because some are so good at appearing normal. It’s a good thing I keep to myself and rarely ask for favors, because sociopaths often reveal themselves in how I observe them treating others. So don’t blame yourself, u just crossed paths with a skilled sociopath but I’m glad. U got the last laugh!
So insightful. Im trying to learn how to be better at this as a way of self defence. Its hard to not let my emotions overwhelm me but in time i think all is possible. However conditional love doesnt work on me anymore. Some people say im cruel but...i call it a boundarie.
Kanika actually did do a video about BPD a while ago, although she doesn't personally have this, so she did clarify that she wasn't an expert on it. Quiet BPD is more inward turning emotional instability and lashing out at yourself, rather than exploding outwardly at other people.
I've got a question. Why do you feel like you should learn to better control your impulses if you don't really care about the consequences of them anyway or how it affects other people? Why is there a reason for YOU to stop this behavior? Does it make you feel uneasy in any way?
Because she is smart and very self aware. Only the dumb ones act careless. To put it another way. Dumb sociopaths play checkers. Smart sociopaths play chess. They know when to sacrifice a pawn to win the end game.
I have PTSD and I have to isolate pretty much all the time. If I had a diagnostic test and found out I was a sociopath, I'd probably limit my social interactions as much as possible in fear that I would manipulate others. You're not a bad person, you're just a byproduct of a broken down society. Your smile does charm and your dead eyes are hard not to stare into. I've met one of you before. Extremely beautiful person like yourself. Your kind doesn't scare me, the psychopath does.
i know you said it but...i so need to learn to do that! you know when you meet the wolf inside you in order to recognize it outside! let's put it this way
Ya it’s so obvious like everything you said is just the tip of the iceberg. Tbh I am thankful that I have so much experience in my life because I am able to manipulate if I HAVE to. I’ve always said I don’t know much but I KNOW exactly how not to be. Thanks to the clear contrast of me and then looking at my immediate family.
I would love to learn more about you personally, like your favorite foods/color/interests etc. would you be open to doing a Q&A? unless it’s an already existing video I missed
No matter what your personality type we all need to do the same thing, and that is finding our purpose in life. The only way to do that is to look within.
think the strongest part is when she says "we have the choice not to act on our impulses". I live in a country where you can get away with a lot of crimes only by saying they were drunk or have mental health issues... so strong to state that you are still accountable for your actions!
Very interesting POV, I just can’t help but to feel bad , because at the end of the night when you’re alone w/ your own thoughts I just feel like it’s like this is a normal thing, when you’ve already lost against your own mind is depressing
But I have adhd so I’m not a neurotypical but I’m not a soscipath. I’ve learned how to behave like one to survive. Yet my empathy is “oh ur an empath” which I refuse to acknowledge.
Try setting the camera just a tad higher so that it's shooting at a slightly downward angle. Not too extreme, just a bit. I feel like I'm looking up at the work of a plastic surgeon, rather than your face like someone would see in person(midgets excluded). When you look down a bit, it looks more natural imo. I just think it would be more flattering to you. That's your idea to use if you wish. Be always improving. Thanks for the excellent content. Very good info that's hard to find in a clear way elsewhere.
negging dudes who are Extremely attracted to the OP are super obvious to Cluster b types, try it on low iq'd neuro-typicals it may work on them, not on us, we wont give you the time of day while you struggle relentlesly to bring us down to your own obvious level of idiocy.
Holy shit what happened if a sociopath started dated another sociopath. And they both didn’t know they were sociopaths so they just played off each other
I'd like to know your metaethics. Could you maybe do a video explaining your metaethics and philosophy. When you say objectively these things are wrong, what are you grounding that in? As someone with clear aspd (although undiagnosed) I'm curious.
It would be really interesting to see you do videos on your opinion about criminals or crimes that have been committed and how you interpret them from your perspective
Are sociopaths good at answering multiple choice questions? Or guessing games? Example: guess my political leaning etc In my experience they can get frustrated and insulted and find these "useless" questions. And will avoid settling on an answer. Is this because they feel a lack of control or knowledge?
It's probably Narcissistic silent treatment. They don't prefer giving constructive criticism about an opponent, so the question is useless for them. Engaging in those topics would make them deny their own interests.
Usually a sociopath and definitely a psychopath know more about psych than most other people and even Psychologists, so depending on what they want you to believe they will answer the questions to portray that. It's just one of our superpowers 😆.
Very interesting. I engage in some of this behavior but it’s not all the time and sometimes I don’t realize I’m doing it in the moment. I’ve worried that I’m a narc or sociopath but I’ve been told by therapists if I’m worried I’m one of those I’m likely not
Absolutely love your videos and i admire your personal openness and to enlighten my being. As a highly empathetic person I do value your points and see logics in it In a way its liberating for me hearing from your perspectives. Saludos de Noruega 🥰❤️
Correct me if I'm wrong but I do believe there are some sociopaths who are on the autism spectrum (possibly other issues as well) who actually aren't so well with charm? I could swear I've seen/heard of several stories of some of them who really don't know how to fit into society and interact with people properly.. 🤔
I think there's a parallel that can be drawn between the two conditions, in areas such as lack of empathy and low range of emotions, although autism usually doesn't include antisocial/criminal behaviour. 'Antisocial' and 'asocial' mean two different things. So yeah, a sperglord is kind of like a sociopath without charisma.
Some people on the autism spectrum have a lack of empathy, so that's where it can overlap with ASPD. I don't think it's the same thing though. They come from different sources.
@@ladybaabaa3294 I know that they are two different things. But there are people who have both! My point was that some people who have aspd are not necessarily good with charm. And those tend to be the one's who also have autism or maybe other overlapping disorders.
I have autism. I can copy the pattern of the person I’m speaking with. If the person is a sociopath, I can use their pattern back with them. I don’t enjoy it and can’t mirror during sensory overload. So I move away from people accordingly.
I wanted to ask for your opinion on something. What advice would you offer someone whose parents are narcissists/display narcissistic tendencies? How would you recommend navigating such a relationship, especially when circumstances make it hard to completely break away (and maybe some small part doesn’t want to lose hope of having a genuine familial relationship)? Also, your videos are so insightful. Thank you.
Talk to a therapist and break of the relationship with him/her as fast as possible. You've probably been mindfucked by that parent and need to talk to a professional to untangle and unlearn a lot of the bad parenting. Also, if the parent is still displaying that behavior at that age, (s)he will likely never change, because (s)he has never become self aware enough to be able to catch there own bad parenting behavior. Sorry to break the bad news. Even biological parents can be flawed. Try to look for a healthy older role model that can replace your narcisistic parent.
Off topic..sort of... A lot of people mention your voice. And I agree. It is very pleasant. I just found your channel, and it is eye opening. Thank you. I'm seeking advice about how to co-parent with a narcissistic man? He dosn't care about them, but he wants them every other weekend. He is only looking at his phone, or are with his 20 year old girlfriend. (He is 45) They are left alone. He is trying to turn them against me all the time. What can I do to protect them, if anything, whilst they are with him? Thank you.
Hello Kanika, thank you for your wonderful insight. I am currently living with family members who may have the disorder but they have not yet sought help. I am a medical doctor but not a psychiatrist. I have observed many cluster B behaviors from them. Can I call them out on their manipulation and gaslighting? But it will end up with them on a rage or weeks of silent treatment. I would like your perspective on how to go about approaching their negative behavior without their often violent responses. I do care about them but their behavior is driving many away and they are unaware at the moment.
Hey, Kanika. I'm not a sociopath, but I have no idea how it feels to be repented. I've never had remorse either. Can anybody who isn't a sociopath relate to it?
Hi! Just found your channel. Great videos, very thought provoking! I have a couple of questions: 1. In an other video you said something along the lines that you actively choose kindness and compassion and try to avoid harmful or abusive behaviors. What if harmful or abusive actions give you something you desire? Are you able to still choose kindness knowing, that you loose something by it? 2. I was wondering about the feeling of emptiness and hollowness. I understand it, having had somewhat similar feelings before therapy. I’m not diagnosed with pd though. You seem well educated on your disorder and probably have som understanding on how emotional trauma has had an impact on your personality development. Has any therapist or doctor said, that you don’t have a core-you? As I have understood narcissism, the core is so vulnerable and wounded, it needs to be protected even from conscious awareness. Would you want to be connected to it?
God loves you so much. Know that. Forget your parents. You are the one to break the cycle. You being honest you're redeeming yourself. God is with you you deserve to be happy. He loves you n I love you ure gna be okay❤🥺
