Love your deep thinking commentary. Opposite characteristics can be helpful in the sense of complementing each other in areas you need work and learning from each other E.g. one person thinks outside the box and one is good with detail. This can lead to huge frustrations in arguments but if you persevere can lead to immense inner growth. But I think for your foundational values, these need to be the same if you’re going to spend a lifetime together. So it depends on the characteristic you’re opposites on.
That is very insightful. What do you think are the foundational values? Commitment to each other? Having enough similarities (e.g. hobbies) despite being opposites?
This was actually the essay question on my SAT. My thesis was essentially: Opposites attract and compliment, but there must be a common foundation. An introvert and an extrovert can make a great couple and bring out the best in each other if they have the same fundamental values.
Polar opposites can attract, but in most cases they don’t make for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. There always has to be some common ground. My theory is that in order to have a healthy relationship, you need to have two people who complement each other rather than completely contradicting each other. So if one of you is bad at communicating, maybe the other one could be good at it. These complementary characteristics make up for the others short-comings and help the couple learn and grow from each other. So couples should really be complementary, not polar opposites.
I see a lot of fictional couples tagged as 'opposites attract' but they never really are. In the end something mutal brings them together: they have unexpectedly mutal fears, same sense of humor, shared life experiences, etc. The opposite traits are usually something external, or the very top layer of internal. And the attraction is usually intrigue(or in specific novels, sexual), not romantic.
i think it depends on the people. i’m an extravert all the way, but i’m dating a introvert. we are really different but a big a part of me loves his quite side. it honestly does just depend on the people
I think the middle ground of that is the way 2 go, find someone similar enough that you have common ground and what the same things, but different enough that it's intresting, and you balance eachother out
This is my earliest, gotta comment lol. Not too late ig. On opposites attracts and similar attract for me is 50/50. You'll both last if you both want to and make effort most of the time I think. Just my opinion no solid basis lol. Just "if it's meant to be it will be". 🤷♀️ Love your vids! ❤
Damn your videos are sooo good! I just love how you take some time to say interesting things we can all reflect on! Your style is soooo awesome and is super inspiring! I love your videos!!
It does depend ig. My bf and i are complete opposites on 90% of things but we’ve been together for almost 2 years. I’ve become more understanding and less judgmental because of us, and he has changed for the better too. I think the #1 thing that keeps us together is our same weird sense of humor. He’s helped me loosen up at times and I’ve helped him get his shit together. Golden retriever/black cat relationship i think 😂 idk i just love him. Thought about this question a lot.
Just a random point but in social psych we learn that friends tend to be genetically more related then non-friends... and partners of different races tend to share more common values then partners of the same race
Yes they do attract .my highschool psychology teacher said that .both my parents are completely opposite to each other and growing up i saw them compromise on their dreams and aspirations as they couldn't have divorced due to the conservative society in which I live . Moral of the story : Get to know people and see whether they align with your goals in life.
You’re talking about 3 separate things as if they are one attraction desire and attachment they don’t always come together. For example let’s say I have a gf, I’m at the gym I see a girl I’m attractive but I don’t desire her nor I am attached. I just find her attractive. One can also desire without being attracted. Those qualities are not necessarily mutually exclusive. I have a friend that’s been with her bf for years she literally tells me I don’t find attractive or do I desire him but I am very emotionally attached to him and that works for their relationship.
