trends are ruining your identity. 

period!! im so sick of the internet to be honest

"Buy less, choose well, make it last." - Vivienne Westwood agree, I started following designers more and realize that it helps me find my taste in fashion. It doesn't bother me anymore if I couldn't afford those things because I was inspired on 'how I can dress' instead of how 'should' I dress (following trends) that I'm not even comfortable to wear. I think fashion is a matter of how long can you use your wardrobe and simply mix and match what you have.

the REAL way to glow up is to like yourself. that's it.

I notice this constant cycle of a new trend appearing, fast-fashion brands starting to market it and then because fast-fashion brands are marketing it, it is no longer cool and instead is viewed as cheap. This happens with every trend nowadays and it's why I don't really follow trends anymore and instead wear classic items mostly and leave it to the color combinations and textures of clothing to give my style an edge.

thank you for bringing me back to reality, it is so silly to always have the need to have a “label”. like no i’m not coquette downtown girl aesthetic, im me

It took me so long to get over the idea that EVERY piece of clothing I own has to be cohesive and fit into one aesthetic. The amount of times I saw a cute piece in the store but didn’t buy it because “it didn’t fit my dream aesthetic” is too many to count. I don’t have this mindset anymore, thank god. It’s so freeing to remember that I can like many different types of clothing and wear a different type of outfit every single day. We aren’t meant to dress in only one way.

These trends ruined me 2 years ago, I completely lost my sense of identity, dropped all my hobbies and just made TikTok’s in my room attempting to keep up with the latest trends. I was so addicted in trying to fit in, and I didn’t realize it then but I was so unhappy and sad. At one point I kind of realized how addicted I was to TikTok and these trends so I deleted the app all together. It’s been two years and I haven’t redownloaded it since. When I look to trends now and how people act as a result of them, I honestly cringe. Like genuinely, what the hell is deer pretty? I’m so much happier now, I invest all my time in learning and doing hobbies. I don’t even care about my appearance anymore, I dress comfortably and completely stopped wearing makeup. If I could, I would tell everyone to delete the app. It literally BRAINWASHES people and it is so sick. If you think you’ll miss out on anything, trust me you won’t . The trends that stick you’ll hear about it one way or another and the ones that don’t (which are most these days) you won’t miss out on anyway because they will last a week. DELETE TIKTOK!

One of the things I hate about aesthetics is that they try and box you in. I always found myself worrying about which hobbies or parts of myself I would have to give up to be in an aesthetic which is just terrible! We are all too unique and multifaceted to truly be one aesthetic and that’s a great thing!!

this just randomly popped up in my recommended but girl you're so correct about all!!!

People are creating new "aesthetic" everyday and some are basically the same but with different names lol. It makes people believe they can only like certain things to fit in that aesthetic. Like, voluntarily putting yourself in a box. We can like multiple things with some being the opposite of each other

also the whole classifications of “cores” and “aesthetics” lead a lot of young teen girls (like myself) to believe sticking to one aesthetic and conforming yourself to that is the only option. I’ve seen so many people comment “What aesthetic is this?” like bro it’s just cool clothes or the original posters personal style no need to add a label for everything

Thank you, I'm a teen girl, and you really opened my eyes. The only problem is that everybody has social media, and if you try to be unique, you get haters for trying to 'hard' or trying to be 'different'. ALOT of it is probably caused by peer pressure. You earned a new sub

If I hear the term "strawberry legs" one more time I'm gonna lose it

you can really tell how ppl needed this video by the comment. nothing makes me die on the inside more than when people see a cool outfit and go like "what aesthetic is this? what's the name of this style?" like pls be fr

Honestly I agree, the real glowing up does not require materialistic things. It’s so toxic to think an object can change ur life, sure it can improve it in some ways but it has a limit. At the end of the day ur the one who makes the real change in ur life.

Thank God that I deleted all my social media accounts, and this is one of the best decisions I've made, I just have pinterest and youtube

"you don't need to glow up, you need to grow up."

this is so TRUE and it’s why i decided to delete tiktok and instagram ♡

these videos make me ponder if i genuinely like the trendy things or if im just following the trend 😭

love this girl❤ hate when the internet labels clothes as certain “aesthetics”

i downloaded tiktok last summer after not having it on my phone for like a year and a half, and i was dumbfounded because the landscape had completely changed. it was so shocking that every other video was a girl saying she’s insecure about something or girls envying people’s literal genetics. one of the most baffling things i saw was the expression being used of “putting makeup on a pig”, and the idea of not feeling like beauty(or true beauty) is achievable even with makeup. at face value, this doesn’t feel related to the aesthetification of style and fashion and makeup, but would it be so crazy to propose its a coping thing. idk but this topic has been on my mind since redownloading tiktok and great video xx

It's like losing your old self

Thank you!!! I'm so happy that im not the only one who think that way. Trends are destroying us. Overcomsuption now is crazy☠️ We lost our identity, common sense and individual way of thinking and that's concerning. And I'm saying this as 19 year old. Period. Dont stop doing your job girl!! Greetings from Poland

Oh girl more people should listen

My idea of a glow up is me doing the things I’ve wanted to do for ages!! Like finally buying certain skin cares, taking care of my hair better, buying the clothes I! Wanted! In my mind glow ups are a you goal. Not some trends people expect you to follow. It legit been psychologically proven that if you are 100% perfect ppl WILL find you unnerving and boring. THIS WAS PROVEN BTW. If you look perfect, perfectly symmetrical, and like everyone else people will find how you look as low-key boring. People prefer, feel more comfortable with people with “bad” features Don’t glow up for other ppl glow up for your own goals

I loved how you point out these “cores” make you feel as though you are dressed up, or wearing a costume. That’s a great way to describe it. I feel like all too often the clothes don’t suit me, but are rather fueled by the hope of me fitting in some kind of category. Great video!

this video is so underrated. Not only when it comes to clothing but trends in general. I feel like Tiktok and Instagram Reels really ruined uniqueness

omll so glad that Ive found the blogger who has the same opinion as meee Im kinda tired of the internet, trends, soc media, cuz they just make borders around us and dont let us be free and create:(

1:42 this is so real because people randomly started separating everything in “aesthetics” after the tumblr era, and its so upsetting to see that it is still a thing to this day because at the time i was just 11-12 years old, i am 18 now and i remember vividly how bad i felt because i couldn’t find an aesthetic that fully felt like myself. i cant help but wonder how many young girls or boys feel pressured to find a “core” to represent them and stick to at all times when they can just be themselves and be however they want to be perceived as, especially when tiktok is so critical about styles that arent seen more regularly

My 2nd year of Uni's gonna start in a few days and the whole last month I was hyperfixated on buying new clothes and wear according to my "personal style". I bought a few stuff like tops, jewellery and shoes. For a long time I have been obsessed with mary janes so I decided to buy a pair of dupes, and after I did I tried wearing it and I got hit by reality so bad. I didn't like how it looked on me and wasn't going with my overall "style". Thats when I realised how much hyperfixated I was in getting a glow up and leveling up my style while I completely ignored my "personal style". I love baggy jeans because it doesn't touch my skin and I have sensory disorder but what I was trying to buy were "skin tight" flared jeans. That is why it hit me that I was just following trends instead of what makes me feel good and myself. Now I am returning the stuff that I bought and trying to not force a "glow up" on me when I don't even need it. :)

And I do think of style like food honestly street food, highend couisine, mom&pops (my favorite), homemade (favorite), etc these are different ways of consuming fashion

I decided a while ago I didn’t wanna be put into one box anymore because depending on how I feel on different days I want to dress differently and express myself differently.

That’s why aesthetics annoy me so much. People buy a new wardrobe every year, because they want to fit a new aesthetic. Often one aesthetics gets rebranded in so many different ways. I think trends are not always bad and can help you with your style, but don’t limit yourself to micro-trends, maybe let the trend sit for a while and then look if you still like it.

i don't even know what i, myself find cool atp. i try being my own person when it comes to fashion, but having a limited budget makes it even harder to actually build a good wardrobe, because i usually waste my money on clothes that i regret buying 1-2 months later. i want to explore accessories and jewelry, i've been focusing only on wearing "trendy" clothes, while not even trying to express myself with little details. anyways, hopefully i'll find myself a bit more, i'm working on my journey. you should too, never give up! ty for the video love, you're extremly beautiful!😚

This is the first time in months ive watched a RU-vid video fully that isnt like gameplay without constantly skipping or putting it on 2x because my attention span has just been ruined by tiktok i dont know but what you’re saying isnt repetitive and thats why its nice to listen to

nooo waittt but the glow up trend got me out of my depressive rut!!!! obv not following standards or fast fashion or wtv js nitpicking what i like.. IT HELPS IF U HAVE THE RIGHT MINDSET!!!!!???? I THINK??

I remember when glowing up meant looking after your mental health, working on yourself such as working out and eating better, using products that ACTUALLY work for your skin, keeping your ownership to minimum (not living minimistically, but, living within your means and decluttering what is stressing you/etc), basically being a you you love and adore - it was a way to find *yourself*, learn who you are, and enhance that whilst also working on things you weren't happy with and now it's some trend used to make people feel inferior... I'm at the point I've deleted all social media other than like one app to talk to my piercer/tattooist and that's it now. It's so sad to see what the internet has become in the past years.

I`m so motherfuckin sick of the internet and social media, never like feeling enough, even out of touch with nowdays fashion, cause it changes rapidly and I can`t take it anymore. I am so grateful for your video, it kinda opened my eyes right now on what`s going on inside of my head. Have a nice day everyone! and don`t let that shit ruin your authenticity, u are aill gorgeous and wonderful!

Beautiful smart young girl , which is so rare bcuz everyone has been influenced by social media and they don't know that they are brainwashed , they making people think if they follow new trends and being tiktok pretty makes you cool and let you be that girl, wtf is " that girl" , and plus that we're not just having fast fashion we have also tiktok beauty standards like if u don't have button nose big eyes with long lashes and plumpy lips and and a silk hair you are not Beautiful like ughh I'm really tired i have tiktok just becuz some times i need new recipes or some tips on something , I'm being myself becuz i realized that all of that shit they do it for marketing to keep up w everything every year and don't mess any trend to buy all the items that you're buy in ut becuz u think u gonna look cool becuz it's trendy , thank u for talking about this subject, keep doing a great content like this and we'll gonna support you ❤❤❤

i remember wearing a brown puffer with squiggly designs (when it was in) and people judged it because it was new and it was different. It was an up and coming trend that people didn't know much about until people started to wear it. So this perspective of me trying something new and people perceiving it was odd that I was wearing it, also shows that trends appear suddenly and then go away suddenly as well.

hey, I am Brazilian and I watching your videos to study english! (I think don't write so well sorry). This topic is so interesting, because here (in Latin America) we don't have access to most trends (clothes, bags, we don't have where to buy them) so if you have the clothes trends you are so rich or you buy in virtual fast fashion like Shein and need extremely consumed

everything u said was correct and I 100% agree it's so hard to realize these things are happening to us and how easily we get influenced nowadays everyone is dressing the same and has the same aesthetics no one is being themselves I miss when everyone was different and had there own identity.

i think the bow trend differs in some ways because people could participate without buying anything (theoretically) which i think is cool- i wish more trends were like that

omg I love this content! I’m 25 years old now but still struggle to define my identity, and after buying stuffs in trend sometimes really confused myself,like why? Do I really need these things? I think it’s an important issue for modern people 🥺

i completely agree w/ everything you said in this video! i hate seeing videos titled as "how to find your style and stick with it" because we should be able to wear whatever! we dont need to stick to one certain style/aesthetic

When iwas little, i used to where the clothes that are trending now, like bows and ballet flats. when i adopted these trends again , i felt like i went back to my original self.

Oh my god, I am so glad videos like this started appearing, honestly I always felt something weird about those trends and just something so stupid, I got quickly sick of it but I feel so damn sad that teens who shouldn't have watched that stuff that was at first for adults and now they will just go after anything

THIS IS WHAT I WAS NEEDING! i have to be honest... its been a while since i've seen myself with no insecurities. and the worst thing is to know that I myself am constantly talking about this with my friends!!! "omg they created a new trend", "wtf is a strawberry leg?" etc, but at the end of he day, i project this kind of things on my body. asking myself if having a nose job would be good, or go on a hard diet, etc, and this is crazy! in this current system, we are just costumers ready to buy everything, even if it will have no actual use. and worse, we start looking more and more similar, with no personal taste at all or buying the same things, even if we dont like them just because everyone is buying it lol we have to be aware to not fall for this tricks to buy and buy and buy, and compare ourselves with some tiktok or ig influencer cause it's dangerous and vicious. and thanks to your video, i've really put myself to think more about it and i guess it will be better to stay away from the internet for some time and actually just live my life hahahaha

Once I simply started to focus on silhouttes that look nice on me (and that I find comfortable and that I personally like), colors that are complementory to my complexion and that bring me joy, as well as fabrics that are better quality (cotton, linnen, viscose), that's when I got ahold of my 'style'. These are very broad personal 'comfort boundaries' and they allow for so much variety. Million times better than any trends I ever tried to follow in the past.

100% agree with what you're saying!👍🏼I'm so tired of the "glow-up" trend and seeing these fast fashion things influencers promote online. I think it's better to just find your own style and what makes you happy instead of being a sheep & following these trends shown on the internet.

im a teenager and snap and insta groups are so awful bc everyone just shames random people they dont even know by their looks and this honestly inspired me to stand up for this one girl and tbh i should've done it sooner

dayum right! altough i'm not a person who is affected by trends (bcs i don't like populer things) sometimes it felt bad that i couldn't place myself in any ''vibe'' but heeyy we're all unique and don't need to belong somewhere⭐ so thanks for reminding me that again😌💓bless you✨

I'm happy you explained it. I always try to tell people to be aware of what they're going with their choices. Actually working on confidence helps alot.

the inspire versus influence is a really cool sentiment! love that.

real trends are so stressing, i sometimes find myself feeling bad for not buying something trendy even if i don't really want it

SOO TRUEEE "it's important to see beauty besides social media and besides fashion" PREACH. the way people are so hella focused on fashion trends and social media that they have LOST sense of what is the beauty TO THEM. like what YOU find beautiful? what YOU think looks good and interesting? not them other people not them companies trying to sell you smth but YOU? you're so so right about that and i think people now have forgotten to buy clothes for them not only look in trend but look how they need to look how they want to look, just them and for them

great video! the way our society currently works depends on our insecurities so they can sell us the supposed cure, but defining your self worth through outside validation is a never-ending cycle, you cannot possibly keep up with all the new demands and trends. find what you really genuinely like and you will be much happier, even if it does not match up with anyone else's idea of "cool"

The moment I realised this was 6 years ago, when I couldn’t even put on a simple outfit for the day, before logging into Pinterest or Instagram to let it choose for me. I became “obsessed” that I couldn’t let *myself decide* but rather let current trends or aesthetics decide my decision. I only have RU-vid left and deleted all my social media platforms.

At the beginning of this june i was trying to glow up. by exercising, dieting, dressing "better" and trying so many care products. i started to feel bad in two weeks because i didn't feel pretty qnd genuinely happy so i realized something balance is so important. sometimes you HAVE to eat an unhealthy hamburger and then a salad to make yourself happy, then you take a long walk so you feel energetic. You don't need to diet all the time, you don't need to look good all the time, you don't need to wake up early on holidays, you don't need to give effort on your look all the time if you're comfortable. I'm going with the flow now and I'm feeling better. No one needs to glow up, especially if you are a minor. I just wanted to share. I love the video. Cheers

i thought it was a big problem not having a single aesthetic to fit in. thanks god i ended up in this video. thank you girl to open my eyes to a completely different perspective

Trends are ruining our image. These days it's almost impossible to avoid encountering so many passing trends in social media because the internet has become essential in our daily lives. This summer I did my best to avoid Instagram, Facebook, and Tiktok and switched over to Pinterest because it has little socialization compared to other social media apps. But even on Pinterest there are SO MANY aesthetics and trends that I still get lost in the app even when I set a phone timer. Almost everyone including myself gets FOMO at times especially when trends get REALLY loud. And it actually worsens my anxiety despite doing my best to chill down I still can't help but feel like I'm lagging behind because of how fast the trends come and go. It genuinely overstimulates me and even if i switch off my phone, the trends are still everywhere due to the people around me and whenever I go out of the house. People talking about different trends including my family relatives and friends is also hard to avoid too. Overconsumption, materialism, and capitalism is honestly so sickening but it's the world we live in and it's almost like we have no other choice but to live with it 😮‍💨

the “ aesthetic life” is never going to change or help how you feel about yourself as a whole. What you have to do in life is work on your inner self✨🩷 be polite, kind and educate yourself. It is amazing when a person is interested in helping the world and has hobbies! it’s so cool and interesting to be an advocate and help animals and people in need, instead of focusing on all of these materialistic things. Yeah , it is cool and nice to take care of yourself, ofcourse,and feel confident and pretty but you shouldn’t revolve around that concept of appearance. It’s never going to fulfill you, trust me🙏🏼

as a teenager, you really helped me with this video thank you very much🌷💖

I actually find the 'core' thing really helpful as descriptors. The problem is when people use it as a sort of identity or end all be all thing

I’m an eyeliner, 2016 eyebrows and red lipstick girl. I’m high school it was forbidden to wear makeup. When finally I was able to wear makeup I did it and I’m not gonna do: clean girl makeup… I don’t like now I look, I can’t do it. Just wear and use what you like.

As a woman that’s always have different aesthetic/ styles everyday to the point my coworkers waited for my “outfit of the day”, it’s still bit confusing/ frustrating for me having to reexplain TO MYSELF that “It’s okay to have different styles as long as you’re comfortable and happy wearing them! Also you’re thrifted these!” We don’t have to be exclusive nor in trend, we just have to be comfortable with our clothes!

this deserves more views because more people need to hear thisssssss!!!!

Super de acuerdo, el "glow up" se convirtió en una forma más de convencer a las personas de comprar cosas que no necesitan y promueve constantemente un consumismo desproporcionado

Finally someone speaks about that ! The glow up subject is so annoying these days

Very true! Sometimes i am afraid to wear something different because people will judge, i know we should not listen to people's opinion but sometimes it hurts, social media really ruined unique styles

Remember that chasing after these thigns will never truly fulfill you, it is what is deeper that actually counts. Follow Jesus and allow Him to change your desire to feel/dress/act a certain way because you may spend your whole life chasing this, even though you cannot take it with you after death, nor will it change what type of person you are. Please seek Jesus and allow Him to change your life. HE, Jesus Christ is the only way, truth, and life! Bless all of you who are reading this!

I absolutely love neon green and kelly green. I can never find the proper shades of green while I try to look for new clothes. Hopefully green becomes the next colour trend. I need more green! Especially green shoes, I can't find them anywhere. I had to settle on a pair of black basketball shoes and I used neon green and black beads on the laces. I've been emo for 18 years because I was born and raised as an emo. My dad was emo and my mum loved rock. Fashion has changed so much and I can't find anything that looks good when I go shopping, even online. I'm a guy but I have to shop in the womens section often because they usually have more choices. The mens section is mostly tshirts sadly. If you are a fashion designer, please use more green, I NEED IT! Also, if you cosplay, it is a good idea to buy a pair of "ballet" shoes. Walking around conventions in uncomfortable costume shoes are PAINFUL! Always bring a light pair of shoes with you so you can change them if needed. P.S, even though I am a guy I've started to wear bows because my service dog in training is a poodle. He has to wear bows in his hair to keep it out of his face. I absolutely adore my puppy so we wear matching accessories. I make the bows myself, they are very simple to make. We use "show bows" which look very fancy. If you have a poodle or a longhaired dog that wears bows, you should check out the dollar tree, they usually have a lot of ribbon.

i’m glad i don’t use tiktok that much anymore and explore my own interests and not something thats on the for you page and trendy

Trends are getting annoying at the point, people advertise and push “the shirt of the _______________(insert month)” and only wear it once before it’s not cool anymore, and if I hear the word viral anymore I think I’m going to lose it. I think TikTok is a big reason why trends change every second. One second Bella from twilight style is cool and the other second “clean girl is in style”.

this video was SO helpful and i couldnt agree more!

When you realize that stop using social media is the first step of GLOW UP!!

I was just looking at glow up videos so TYSMMM

Its easy for you to say when you are already pretty. Some people really do need a glow up.

Wow, I really liked your approach on the topic. I never thought about getting inspo from a lamp designer :))) but fashion really should simply be a representation of yourself. You don’t have to fit it a certain category

you are so rightttt girlll. God bless you.

Some glow up things are nice. -luxury shampoo and shower gel is so different, it smells amazing all day. -cutting hair into a nice shape. -and then I got myself a nice face serum and a really good foundation. It didn’t cost much (35$ in total), but I look young af. And also some new clothes are ok.

This video popped into my feed when I needed this most bitter truth but yeah ❤

DILOOO!! deberíamos desconectarnos más de las redes y dejar de depender en puras micro tendencias. GREAT VIDEO, BTW

This is just my opinion Glowing up makes me feel good it just feels like I am in my happy place and glowing up doesn’t mean your changing your identity you can still be yourself and to some people glowing up changed there life and they like it so it is ok and glowing up helped me find myself I love glowing up and feeling that way so yeah that’s my opinion.

This is the first video I see from you and all I can say is... THANK YOU! We were never meant to obsess over our physical appearance, to even know how we look like. Do you think that without mirrors physical attraction won't exist?

I HATE this phone Rhodes cover. This is so unnecessary

I feel like glowing up should be more mentally than physically

Thank you so much for this video. In my perspective, these kinds of "trends" can be sources of anxiety if you don't apply the questions you suggest, like "Do I really like this?" It's very important not to be consumed by them.

YES YES YESSS I wish this reaches everyone

Girl, thank you so much. I really needed to hear this.

So glad this is being talked about more! Great video! ❤

That's why i LOVE thrifting cause not only you help prevent amount of fast-fashion clothes getting thrown away in the ocean, but also discovering your own sense of style because in the thrift stores they are not coordinate in their specific arrangement like at the malls or they are randomly put in their racks and because of that, you find a piece of gem that you haven't think of buying that. Now I'm a type of girl that loves "pink" "vintage" "modest" or any type that I find comfy and cute clothes but more specificlly midi or long dresses🥰🥰

Well done girl, spread the word, fast fashion is killing our planet.

Now I found ur acc, I already love ur way of speech ❤ and I agree with u a lot! We live in that age when ur worth= the way u look and behave. But it’s unfair. People should seek likeminded people not relying on some kind of styles and fashion attributes . U just need to be urself not pretending another guy . Everyone is unique and beautiful

Romanticize your studying, romanticize your style, how about romanticizing going airplane mode and touching grass ♡

This is so refreshing to hear, thank you ❤️

you are so right about it. ur channel is great btw

make your own “aesthetic” and it will be your biggest mental and physical glow up

this isn't anything new but social media has made it sooooo so so much worse

i love frutiger aero but i hate it when ppl (tiktok users specially) try to turn it into fashion :/ like how are u going to make clothes based on a tech design style?