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Do This to Become Non- Reactive to Narcissists//It's difficult not to be emotional and reactive when you're with a narcissist especially when their main goal is to trigger you. Remember that if they succeed in getting a reaction from you then they know that they have you in their control and you continue to be their narcissistic supply. It really is hard but you have to stop from reacting and defending yourself when the narcissists taunt and provoke you - especially during negotiations. Rebecca Zung, narcissist negotiation expert and top 1% lawyer, tells why it's very important to be non-reactive to narcissists and shows you how to do just that.
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@RebeccaZungEsq 2 года назад

Want to know how to be non-reactive to the narcissists in your life? Join me in this FREE webinar and discover the simple, powerful strategies I teach all my clients. Click here to sign up now:👉 www.rebeccazung.com/live

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 года назад

I'm excited to see you all there!

@lizapower4144 2 года назад

I see you.

@jimmyhunt8685 2 года назад

I see you

@malyssatfarruggio9100 2 года назад

I see you

@michaelcronin443 2 года назад

PO and ok over

@adiosamerica3948 2 года назад

I am the expert "non-reactor" to narcissist games because of the narcs in my family and work. These people are EVERYWHERE.

@melodienaber3238 2 года назад

Truth

@janicerockwell8417 2 года назад

Truth trumps lies.

@janicerockwell8417 2 года назад

I see you !

@Wau12345 2 года назад

Not everywhere. They are almost all around.. Not empat are inaff..

@dampergoldenrod4156 2 года назад

This is a recent phenomenon of the last 25 years people were not this sociopathic 30 years ago.. a lot of the sociopathia narcissism has to do with the female cultural today

@sleeperno1215 2 года назад

If you refuse an insult then to whom does it belong. Never leave your thoughts unsupervised. This is gold.

@PSBore 2 года назад

It’s like an electrical connection. It needs to arc between two points to come into existence. So when you don’t react, there is no connection. Don’t bring their insult into reality by reacting to it. My interpretation at least.

@keelyevans4695 2 года назад

That's how thank you for your honesty.

@keelyevans4695 2 года назад

@@PSBore we do it ourselves because of our heritages and whatever they decided to write up about you unless you write it then that's your own too.

@reneepatrick4685 Год назад

When someone throws an insult at u,throw it back!!Tell them it is not yours!! Tell them to keep it!

@evelyneliaz 2 года назад

The best reaction is not to react at all. Just walk away! That works for me everytime!

@damienwelch9067 Год назад

How u do Dat

@antoinetinker690 2 года назад

You literally have to be hella comfortable with yourself and remember your truth when ppl like this come at you. All they want to do is bait you into looking like the crazy one when it’s actually them.

@zellerized 2 года назад

Truth

@yukio_saito 2 года назад

02:56 1. Know your truth 04:59 2. Look at things as an observer 06:50 3. Never leave my thoughts unsupervised

@barbarawarren9443 2 года назад

Thank you, Yukio.

@carolnahigian9518 2 года назад

thank you for Wisdom; I wonder how many nice opportunities I missed ( when Mom or Father or Relative made Scenes)) I must Gain WISDOM,

@janicerockwell8417 2 года назад

Sounds biblical !

@jsf8145 2 года назад

@@janicerockwell8417 According tot he bible Jesus called Narcs a brood of vipers, which were the Pharisees who ultimately crucified Jesus. Bible also mentions have nothing to do with narcissists = 2 Timothy 3 👀

@michaelwilde545 2 года назад

I spent years being abused by a narcissist and now I encounter them often in my work. Just yesterday I had one try to bully me over the phone. She threatened me once and I heard it (I see you, narcissist), she threatened me twice and I told her that she didn't need to do that (I know my truth and my truth is that I will not be your new supply). She then tried a different tactic to trigger me. All of this in just an 8 minute phone call, so I declined to work with her any further. Thanks Rebecca! I'm getting better at this all the time.

@jenamirgholi6004 Год назад

find another job and make sure you do not find more of the same there too. Peace out

@Lisa-ee6tf 2 года назад

‘I see you’ as you project, lie, withhold, deny, betray, gaslight, provoke, deceive, cheat, minimalise, trivialise, discredit, slander, threaten, intimidate and silence. ‘WE’ see you!!! Our children are teenagers now, only a matter of time before they start to speak out!

@JohnBullard 2 года назад

Listen like a lawyer, remain as emotionally detached as a therapist, and win the game by not playing it. Put what they find irresistible in their environment, and subtly let them know you put it there, letting them know that you can manipulate them, but they are no match for a narc-wounding bad-ass who is willing to burn down his own house to kill the rats. For work narcs I have relied upon short, cutting statements and total focus on the job, treating them as a minor detail that I dipense with quickly. They want to provoke, and by trying, they provide opportunity for me to provoke them, and IT IS SO EASY. If you are a people pleaser that believes that your coworkers are in fact, your friends, you will be hurt when the narc ends that charade. Outwork everyone else. Be punctual. Don't take any shit, but reply to it like a robot drill Sargent. This has worked well for me.

@vivilinks9247 Год назад

Oh my God! you are such a genius.I have learned from your write up.

@shonnamay8331 2 года назад

I am learning so much for you! I have a narcissist boss ( and soon ex husband) I've applied everything I've learned and they're evidently in shock over my transformation! Thank you !

@sharonstrauss1146 2 года назад

Wow.you really were amazing to have endured such a challenging situation.All the best after all of that

@prophetsj1180 2 года назад

3:07 " Know who you are ". You MUST Know your worth. Know that you are worth much more than those cheap scums who want to destroy you. Very good point Rebecca.

@coggsy100 2 года назад

I see you! I’m finding it imperative to ignore their tactics...don’t give them any fuel!!!

@noracharles9366 2 года назад

Me too. Be strong. Stay the course. ...we can do this! ⚜💔

@marlabc2563 2 года назад

I see you.

@Keleia4Jesus 2 года назад

Stay strong. If you mess it up, let it go... Stay fresh with a new start!

@johndeal4381 2 года назад

Good analogy. Like getting arrested. And you always feel guilty that you've done something wrong when around them. You just don't know what the crime of the day is.

@rockergirl2489 2 года назад

So true 😩😩. Very draining …

@d.castillo9586 2 года назад

Bro 😂 crazy analogy but spot on "walking on eggshells"

@troy7621 2 года назад

That's correct.. before I watch this video, my techniques are crucial to add today, that when the narc is in your physical proximity, NOT to pay them any kind of attention, whatsoever.. They lose it - and when they choose to throw these odd temper tantrums in an effort to discover the attention that is non-existent/not going their way.. LEAVE. No matter how/what they do things to get by, around you, do NOT pay them an ounce of attention, legitimately. This entails re-focusing on a cellular device, grooving to music, looking out the window.. I mean anything, simply do not allow for them to steal your efforts. Never. And once it begins to arise to toxicity, they become aggressive, terrifying etc Leave. Do NOT put up with that kind of attitude/behavior! That is their decision, and when they make the choice to begin raging or screaming, as best as you can attempt, 'escape' the situation as hastily as you shall desire to. This is my technique/method, it does continue to resemble the 'Greyrock' method, and whichever that is chosen to follow, they do function equally. The attention that is spared their way can and will endlessly fuel a blackhole.. they'll never receive enough attention/or admiration, again, whatever the circumstances are, my lovelies, the mission and goal for today, for the week even, is to stay humble, don't begin to drown in the horror. (Being humble does NOT ever mean letting yourself be silent when it's painful! Speak up when the events or situations become toxic and terrifying, again, whatever applies to the circumstances, friends.

@Missy_561 2 года назад

This is so similar to a technique I have found has worked for me as well annnndd you can turn it up or down. Depending upon the narc or how you want the situation to go but wanna talk about narc injury and trigger then it's a good way and they are put on full display I love how you said leave as hastily as you wish and that was so profound it truly just depends on you and the situation and the narc but you have the control ...thanks for sharing because you conveyed this Perfectly sis

@user-lh3sw4tq2n 2 года назад

Thank you for wise and concrete advices🙏🏼❤️ Screenshot on this one.

@Missy_561 2 года назад

@@user-lh3sw4tq2n right I screenshot that shit too

@noracharles9366 2 года назад

Going through it REALLY bad today. Your words are 100% accurate ⚜🎯

@Missy_561 2 года назад

@@noracharles9366 sorry I have been too lately I'm praying for you to be comforted and assured and confident and strong and for all the fruits of the spirit to be blessed abundantly upon you and for you to learn whatever it is God is trying to you I have ti pray that for myself and remind myself there's a lesson in everything to kinda take a step back and access the situation or wreckage etc.....

@Inkironnrum 2 года назад

I have this 3R rule: React? No Respond? No Remain? Yes Remain silent. Remain non expressive. Remain a safe distance. I believe stating the facts may be the same as defending yourself; a victim. Please correct me if I am wrong.

@Lucky-wt6fg Год назад

I think that’s great, the only problem i find is the keeping silent part…….As it makes me more frustrated…..keeping it in all the time…..

@wiandewaal 2 года назад

I SEE YOU. I meditate sometimes up to twice a day to just observe my thoughts and emotions and I promise you, it's easier in your day to not react

@lesterstone8595 2 года назад

I listen to Rebecca Zung to keep me positive.

@vgwinva5669 2 года назад

Doubt is a self fulfilling prophecy 😣 need to reject any doubt in your thought processes ; it takes a lot of time to reprogram your thoughts

@katieown6127 11 месяцев назад

I’m gonna listen to this every day! I wish I had a specialist attorney who knew how to deal with this in court best! Could have saved me 50k

@vogeljennifer6318 9 месяцев назад

same here

@tlove6932 2 года назад

“i see you!” Keep vibrations HIGH; Observe as a 3rd party👍🏼💯LOVE these! Keep thoughts in check, especially when speaking w a Narc👍🏼💯💯🌸💗🌸😁

@mariarichards5221 2 года назад

🙏"I see you" not trggered, not reactive. 🙏🌹💝Thankyou, for this message.

@renee6019 2 года назад

"I see you" never leave your thoughts unsupervised and keep your thoughts high!!!🙂 thank you for your strategies on narc interactions.

@TheJennyg76 2 года назад

For years I’ve always begged him to let’s BOTH see a marriage therapist and tell our side & let them tell us what the problem was . He refused. But now my BEST defense is SECURITY CAMERAS with sound . I can’t defend myself to something I didn’t do or did do without proof. He HATES it so he stays gone 90% of the time . Win/win

@rebcczung7869 2 года назад

Contact me on whatsapp for consultation

@stardustsparkles22 Год назад

Smart ! I wish you all the best!

@sbrown4556 4 месяца назад

I view narcissists the same way I view aggressive drivers on the road -- most of my energy is put toward keeping myself safe, under control, and non-reactive. It is easier when you see the problem arriving ahead of time instead of being surprised and shocked by something unexpected. Narcissists are more or less that driver who refuses to merge properly. Laugh at it an more on.

@CLHS1944 2 года назад

Thank you! I have been non reactive. I remain confident in exactly who I am, not what my narcissistic ex lies to everyone in his efforts to get ppl to hate me while he plays the false victim.

@LazyBastard69 2 года назад

I'm so glad i don't have to negotiate anything anymore with the bad person. Everything felt like doing business. This is great advice nonetheless. Thank you

@luvualicia1955 2 года назад

Nice video thanks for this information am married for 13 yrs living with this narcissist is like living in hell want to get out but don't know where to go

@ruthgreen3150 2 года назад

“I see you.” Thanks for making such great analogies to better function when engaging with narcissists.

@jasmineflower9879 Год назад

Be the Observer : Be the ghost watching, ghost is not involved, only seeing & not kicking back. Meanwhile, you planning next move. Good Luck to us all !

@sallybrummet2560 2 года назад

I have learned a few words that work for me. I am not discussing this with you. Because no matter what I say I will be wrong and there will be criticism of me. That will probably go through theNarcissist entire family. He makes dialogue up to go along with his point of you.

@d.castillo9586 2 года назад

Leave him, IMMEDIATELY

@meltingmoments9997 2 года назад

I see you my bullying narcissist brother. Going through tough times but watching these videos is helping and giving me tools to fight back. 🙏

@Narcjus 2 года назад

Everyone should take this advice. Thankyou.

@francesw.5919 2 года назад

Oh geez, thank you for this video…I was bleeding all over the place with my narc mother. Philippians 4:8-9 came to mind when you said reprogram your thoughts to high vibrations. Oh How quickly the emotions can blackmail you…thank you!

@mvbigmagic4048 7 дней назад

Thank you for that verse. I'm struggling against my malignant narcissistic mother and thoses verses really embody the difference between me and her. I hope you are in a better situation. Matthew 19:29-30.

@dreapartyof_5 2 года назад

This was informative. Thanks for all you do❤️ U are truly a gem to us super empaths! I’ve experienced my first narcissistic relationship and my last💪🏾💯💯💯

@texaslovelylady 2 года назад

Narcissist end up being a training ground to make us stronger.

@texaslovelylady 2 года назад

But they are meant to break us. Like Japanese pottery, God puts us back together.

@vivilinks9247 Год назад

Infact I feel that most of the time, empaths are their most suitable targets/victims.

@joycebrown4776 2 года назад

What about the narcissist that realize that they can't trigger you. Because he would get so upset because I never would not feed into the mess he wanted me to feed into. Then he really would get crazy. But I had to stay in control and let him know you do not have control over your own mind, and you think you are going to take over my life. There is a way to handle a narcissist, just leave them alone, let them go and never return again to them. You have to let the narcissist know that you are a lot smarter than they give you credit for. Because the narcissist wants that control, and if you dont give it to them, that's when they figure out that they cant control you. Because they realize that they are the weak one, and that's why they want to control, because they feel that ,this is where their power is. So they want to control. They are some of the weakest people you ever can meet. Because they dont live in reality. They are so far from reality. Their world is so unreal, they are fake, phoney, and gas lighters. All they do is lie, and get caught in them.

@dancindebs1 2 года назад

I wish my shingles didn’t come out from his stress. Yuk. I got physically sick during divorce. The fire - way he burned me became very physical.

@dancindebs1 2 года назад

I wrote a letter within 48 hrs of closing requesting a change in wording. It was delivered to my lawyer and the mediator. My lawyer said under no circumstances a change was possible. I don’t think that is true. Is he brushing me off to get rid of me. A very wealthy client gave my lawyer to me as a gift. I think the lawyer was threatened by my husband and/or took a bribe.

@dancindebs1 2 года назад

Help. I go in front of the judge beginning of November. My SS check is garnished cuz of the narcs identity theft of me.

@robynrosner2259 2 года назад

They think they do not have to abide by Hippa laws. I think everyone should abide by them more (and not just drs and therapists (joke).) because it can do harm and outright harm to those they do it to. I always kept my patients confidences. Always. I was the patient advocate, not the hospital advocate.

@rockergirl2489 2 года назад

Don’t get in the trenches - brilliant advice. Thankyou so much for your very helpful videos!!

@wordswordswords8203 2 года назад

These are really good. Sometimes it gets really messy though, life happens and you lose control but these are excellent tips. Know your truth, is it true, clean it up, if it's not, move on ... observe, i like the windshield analogy. and then monitor your thoughts. that's a tough one for me but great to strive for. sigh. it's so hard. i want to go no contact but i can't right now.

@Armz69 2 года назад

My bad, i always felt the urge to just fight them back. Wipe their cowardly smug faces and make them realize how wrong they were. especially woth the covert passive aggressive narcs.. but you're right, it never works out. it's no use arguing with crayzees.. nothing they do made sense, so it's impossible to knock some sense into them either. It only made me look worse.

@kathystevens7532 2 года назад

I already did all this alone. I didnt know I was super empath, but it seems I did what you teach. A marriage of 40 years with what I now know was a covert narcissist, was exactly what you describe too. I was totally puzzled as to why he could change on a dime, and so many other things that were not logical at all, is no longer a puzzle. Thank you for giving me answers. I like things put in place so I don't have to wonder anymore.

@lindabell6954 2 года назад

I see you. Thanks Rebecca! do the work, learn how to not react. it takes practice.

@texaslovelylady 2 года назад

Yes when you defend yourself, you appear to be victim mentality. Hard to do, believe me.

@Sam-pl3yd 6 месяцев назад

Hia Rebecca 💕yes i look at them and say to myself i see you. I keep my thoughts properly happy 😊 and enjoy listening to you and not listening to toxic people. 🙏❤️❤️❤️

@Zarfilms2007 4 месяца назад

I see you. They are everywhere I can see them now and not unsee them.

@cherrybacon3319 2 года назад

Being an avid 'Treckie Fan' I took a leaf out of Spock's book and looked at things from a 'logical' point if view and kept my emotions under control. I found it a whole lot easier to cope with things. Words and treatment from a Narcissist will hurt like hell, but, they WON'T kill us. Detaching myself and using the Grey Rock technique helped me so much. And I felt stronger as a person. 🍒

@jasmineflower9879 Год назад

Spock is certainly a great role model !

@adaperez8659 Год назад

What’s the grey rock technique?

@cherrybacon3319 Год назад

@Ada Perez It means to show no emotion, or to keep your emotions under control so the Narcissist loses interest in trying to manipulate you etc and treating you horribly.

@texaslovelylady 2 года назад

Oh, I see you.

@petermarcus9456 2 года назад

"I see you", very cool. Getting blindsided is hard not to react too.

@christianachrist.6663 2 года назад

“I see you!!!” Omg!!! This is amazing!!! Thank you so much, my dearest Rebecca!!! You were sent from heaven!!! I really need your advice and experience to deal with a narcissist husband I want to get divorce from but he doesn’t want to and he makes my life difficult!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@tomjohnson8881 2 года назад

Thank You Rebecca, I will train myself to never leave my thoughts unsupervised. That the most important quote I've heard in a long time.

@Valoelify 2 года назад

EXACTLY what I've been looking for in the last few days! Wow! Thank you so much!!!

@carolcoates3750 2 года назад

I walked away from my sister four years ago, who beat me, for the last time when I was 65. I get texts saying she's been shot, nah. Today I got a text from her saying 'I know you hate me but would you do me one favour'? NO, NO, No but I haven't responded. Curiosity is driving me nuts but after researching your advice, been there, done that and got the tee shirt.

@sonnyca 2 года назад

Imagine a narcissist enjoy being cursed at 😂 What normal person with a healthy self esteem would want that?

@savetrump9120 2 года назад

So true. I wish I knew then what I know now.

@NopeNotTodaySatan 2 года назад

Omg right!?!

@taraarrington2285 Год назад

Right?

@daydaynj 2 года назад

Never leave your thoughts unsupervised! Thank you 💜💫

@damienwelch9067 Год назад

Wat u mean by that 🤔

@rockyandmiles9889 2 года назад

Sometimes I can’t help myself and laugh at my bosses narc stupidity .. boy does that piss him off 🤣🤣 but usually I just ignore him

@mattreynolds9079 2 года назад

"I see you." Great video by the way, very insightful!

@davidsisson2026 4 месяца назад

Shes so right. Starting with my parents. Then wordt of all my first wife. If young people are not taught , but their models are their parents, you are probably already in a hole. Then a life time of re learning.

@mariamvictor8242 2 года назад

Very precious.Everyone who see this video please repeat it frequently to yourself. . Share it.. Do thank you Ms. Rebecca. . God Bless you..

@louannestenson1286 2 года назад

Thank you so much for your wisdom. You are helping me a lot. ❤️

@davidwagenhoffer7708 2 года назад

“Sawubona”, Africans for “I see you”. It is a greeting like “bon jour”. Got that one from a fictional history by Wilber Smith. My life sucks. I can’t get away. They’re everywhere. Home, work, family. No one to talk to and the ones I thought I could trust-betrayal and smear campaigns. I’m tired and alone. Oh time to go to work and get some more “love”. Just venting and praying all the time.

@chlariepeace3093 2 года назад

I SEE YOU I SEE YOU

@clementinerounds417 2 года назад

I SEE YOU.

@christianpulisic7784 2 года назад

Clementine Rounds,You got a lovely smile 😊 dear

@peterknyk1942 2 года назад

Thank you Rebecca! "I see you" and I understand more and feel better as I watch you and listen to you, Rebecca!❤️🙏⚖️

@robynrosner2259 2 года назад

Health care workers are THE WORST at keeping confifences !!!!

@robynrosner2259 2 года назад

My worst nivhtmare sister was the worst. i know how to spell so sorry for the typos.

@peterknyk1942 2 года назад

@@robynrosner2259 sorry, but I don't understand what "keeping confidences" means! Just being honest! 🤔

@janicerockwell8417 2 года назад

Ditto !

@deborahkilleen4841 Год назад

I have a narcissists female living above me. She has harassed me for 4 years now, my anxiety hit the roof,until I stopped the supply! I get immensely angry how she manages to get away with everything she has done. She, has now run me down to all my neighbours, I am now trying to look after myself and get on with my life. I do try and make light of it, but sometimes it can be hard. I really feel for her husband that has been brainwashed poor man. Thank you so much for giving me the information that I so need.

@joywatkins4760 2 года назад

It is hard to do when it is your Adult child. It comes to the point where they say, I don't think you should come to my house anymore or talk to you, because you don't agree with them. So, now I haven't seen one of them since before Covid. then after a year, they say my grandchild misses me and they themselves want me in their lives, but I refuse unless he changes what he does to me.

@jbruce1pilot 2 года назад

I SEE YOU…!! Thank you..!! I get it..!!

@kathylethem6575 2 года назад

You have absolutely gave me the tools to reclaim my self!!!

@christianpulisic7784 2 года назад

Kathy Lethem,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

@rebcczung7869 2 года назад

You can contact me here on whatsapp for consultation

@shaniecegullison Год назад

It’s really tough! I’m a work in progress Not reacting is soooo hard when you’ve been beaten down and treated like shit You sooo badly want to stand up for yourself The worst is when them and your own subconscious thoughts attack you at the same time It can be known to cause a supernova for real

@sheilamore3261 2 года назад

You got that right anything you say or do will be held against you

@TheDotsgirl 2 года назад

I see you! Excellent. Thank you for the advice, especially appreciate No. 3 about keeping thoughts under control

@richardwalker1405 2 года назад

I see you. I love being an observer!

@michaeleckert5877 Год назад

I meditate.I walk and run to focus .I appreciate who I am.I act and move in rhythm. Accept what you are and work on those things that make me feel good about myself.I appreciate the differences in other people.

@johnpaulsecond4626 2 года назад

I SEE YOU, I GET IT

@marriana74 2 года назад

thank you so, so much. Watching your highly informative and educational ( personally speaking) videos has been literally mind-blowing for me. I must learn to protect myself from my H whose behaviour is identical to the covert narcissist's one. Yet another video with golden nuggets of wisdom!

@nickitaylor7581 2 года назад

I see you!

@rde4017 4 месяца назад

Once you know what to expect you can watch a narc in action and then it's just a box ticking exercise. They are embarrassingly predictable and that is how we can defeat them.

@bcdd8 Год назад

My favorite book!!!!! That book changed my life. The four agreements!

@tims9434 2 года назад

Excellent advice Rebecca. Thanks very much

@gempath5533 2 года назад

I see you! 😶 These people are so sick and twisted. Fantastic ideas of how to avoid engaging with them.

@funnyjoplingirl1 2 года назад

"I see you" that's perfect. Thank You!

@Lucky-wt6fg Год назад

This is excellent. One thing I do now, which I find helpful……in m6 diary I write down 3 nice or positive o4 pleasant things I have achieved at the end of the day. This helps me stay focused. When I look back a few weeks it s good. Rather than thinking about the bad things happening. Eg . Made a great cake today. Went for a lovely walk with my dog. Started reading my new book. My friend phoned me. I bought some fab socks. Did some of my garden. Hope that helps someone!

@izawaniek2568 2 года назад

Thank you for great advice on how not to react. Super valuable.

@kimsmith44 2 года назад

I see you! Thanks 😊

@peace_love_light911 7 дней назад

❤ Thank you for your time less wisdom and advice to help survivors never to give up. It is truly amazing watching them think they're batman and unseen. Creating smear campaigns but when caught red handed they threaten you with court. ❤️ ⚖️ 🪶

@therealcattogaming5811 2 года назад

Perfection 🌈⚡️🐂⚡️🌈 when you say rewire them 🦄🧬🦄 and your video “rewires” 🌈💎🌪💎🌈8:44

@bossladyakajerisalyers4917 2 года назад

If it doesn't apply let it fly..

@vtymes1982 2 года назад

I love that statement

@markkrotchen8921 2 года назад

Been watching you for the last couple years you've been very insightful this is the best video for my situation I've seen yet however you've helped me in many ways that I cannot explain thank you

@marydietterich5968 2 года назад

Thank you! When he had a temper tantrum I just said very calmly I can’t believe you just said that! Then after discard I sent him a copy of all the love bombing statements 🤣 I stated you never gave me a chance to respond.. I said that he needs to seek help regarding anger outbursts! I said no one deserves to be treated with disrespect And I said give me a call sometime to emphasize that I was not disturbed 😦 in the least! I said the reason I was hesitant is a feeling I had and now it was for good reason! I stated only the facts! Guess I am a real experienced non reactor!!! Thanks for making me feel better that I did the right thing!

@el620 2 года назад

You never explain, justify and overshare. I read the Four Agreements book many years ago and it is easy to forget sometimes when you deal with the narcissist that people never do anything because of you. People do things to others because of their internal issues not because of your problems. That being said the abusive narcissist in my life tried suggesting the book to me, trying to made me understand my own life…how ironic is that ?

@thegrail9636 2 года назад

One of your best videos

@jenbodhi1133 3 месяца назад

The observer advice is brilliant

@marisolmcwatters 7 месяцев назад

thank you so much, I became an observer and became non-reactive.

@RebeccaZungEsq 4 месяца назад

For extra support, check this out - slaythenarc.com

@caroladams5503 2 года назад

I See You! Great video and thank you for the free resources that you give. You are an amazing woman and I wished I had found you 3 years ago when my ex never acknowledged that he almost took out my left eye. I found you because I listen to podcasts to do what you said: anything to stay positive. Ed Mylett interviewed you. I listened to that podcast 10 times.

@musiclovetara 2 года назад

Thank you so much Rebecca! You are awesome & help me so much❤️

@ingac4297 2 года назад

I SEE YOU!

@roseenglish1127 Год назад

I see you are helping me to escape entering into the the negative ‘put down’ spiral that I am constantly pulled into by my partner. Thank you ❤

@miiak 2 года назад

Love this video, it's very informative. Thank you! 🙏❤💯

@christianpulisic7784 2 года назад

Monica,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

@speakingout9740 2 года назад

I SEE!!! Thank you so much Rebecca. I really appreciate your videos but I must say I definitely needed to hear this one. I needed this wise wisdom you’ve shared to help me cope. Thank you so much, I appreciate you. I can’t say that enough. Such a valuable tool of professionalism you are indeed. Learning to be triggered NO MORE I am is a lesson I’m wanting and needing to learning. I’ll be practicing this valuable lesson for sure. Thank you for the wise wisdom you are teaching those who are in need, such as myself, to learning better and healthier coping skills. Indeed I SEE and thank you again!