Do You Feel Trapped in the Pain of Relationships?

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@violetafernandez496 7 месяцев назад

You can do this. When my daughter was a few months old, my ex turned the furniture upside down in the apartment. I called the police when he wasn’t looking and put the phone down. We continued arguing and he raised his hand to strike me in the face. I looked at him straight in the eyes and said go ahead, it’s the only thing left for you to do to me. He reacted and hit the wall instead making a hole. When the police arrived he cried for me not to leave and he was handcuffed because he kept coming towards me. 27 years later as a single parent my daughter is educated, humble, witty and beautiful. I was not going to raise her nor show her a toxic violent relationship. She is my only child while he is on child number 3 who is a 1 year old. His 2nd wife divorced him for DV after 3 years of marriage and his son is now 18 and traumatized because he had visitations. No regrets on my part even though I loved him and thought I had a life with him. My infant daughter was more important. God provides my dear.

@katherinealba6768 2 месяца назад

Well done you!

@vidareggum6118 Месяц назад

I hope you’re proud of yourself, because God knows you deserve to be! Your daughter is lucky to have someone like you. Way to go mom!!

@andresflores9135 2 месяца назад

She’s a married single mom. Not having to micromanage your man-child “husband’s” will give you free time like you wouldn’t believe. Have a safe exit plan ❤️

@chrisoneal2718 7 месяцев назад

Can you please do a follow up segment for the first caller Ashley? Not necessarily a second call, but just tell us what ultimately happened - did the police go over to her house? Is she safe now?

@youareloved8274 7 месяцев назад

My mom and a cop had to help me get out of my abusive marriage, I'm a divorced single mom now, didn't want to be, but can't stay with someone who makes you feel unsafe, Ashley, please don't stay with him if he ignores you and makes you scared for your life, that's not love

@tamarahollenbeck2988 2 месяца назад

Ashley, I was in the Exact same situation 35 years ago and walked away with nothing but my babies. It wasn't easy, but I did it. Today, I'm retiring from an advertising career, and i have 4 wonderful grandchildren in stable happy Christian homes.

@vidareggum6118 Месяц назад

That is so awesome! God bless you and your family

@analozada9475 7 месяцев назад

First caller self esteem is so low and she’s in such a state of denial that she kept having children with her pos husband out of desperation to save her non existent marriage. Some Women think that having children with a pos dude is gonna magically change him and it’s not. My heart breaks for the children that get brought up into this world under such dire circumstances cuz they’re the real victims in the end. 💔

@annt7384 2 месяца назад

Yeah, I was really confused by that.

@Nat-lg2ks 2 месяца назад

When a wife leaves her abuser things get very dangerous and thats why shes still there

@leahboynton1280 7 месяцев назад

This lady breaks my heart, I was her. All she needs is one support person till she has the strength and courage to get out. I said those same words, why can't he love me and how do i stay alive while being still married to him. She will need to go to a shelter when she gets out or move to where family is. He's isolated her by convincing her she's not worth anything. He has planted the seeds and now she believes his lies. Giving her a huge hug from Canada, you can do this. go to therapy, find at least one friend.

@megalopolis2015 7 месяцев назад

Wonderful advice. Having a plan and getting support is so vital to the process. No one deserves to be in that degree of abuse and isolation. I'm so glad you made it out. The caller sounded so broken and resigned to her fate. It broke my heart, too. I wasn't in physically dangerous situations, but mentally-emotionally. I didn't think I could do better, and he told me as much. I felt unworthy, dirty, and unloved. I had to get to the point where all of his threats--of suicide, taking our baby daughter to England, never seeing her again, and whatever else he could come up with--had to become nothing to me. I made a plan, including taking down whatever information I needed to track him, if he should kidnap my child, then just let it all go. I couldn't control what he did, just my response to it. If I died alone, it is still better than being with a loser like that. I had to become more tired of being with him than scared of being without him. I was alone in many ways for many years. I'm engaged now, and he is so sweet and wonderful. Completely worth the wait. I pray the absolute best for the caller, and for anyone else going through this.

@dontstalkmedeltoro8816 7 месяцев назад

I was with an abusive alcoholic for 8 years. I was like this woman. I thought i deserved it. I met a wonderful man that accepted me and my three very young kids as his own and we have now been together over 20 years. There is plenty of good men out there. But you're letting your kids think this is normal. I hope you read this and know that you and can meet a better man that will not treat you think way.

@Imaginarysonics 7 месяцев назад

Caller 1: He's a horrible husband but an amazing father? What? This guy can't even be bothered to watch his own kids and has a violent temper. That's called being a horrible father! Why on Earth would you want a man who you fear is going to murder you and take your kids and hurt them to love you back? Talk about compartmentalization. I'm sorry, but you need to divorce this man ASAP. A man like this at this age can't be changed or fixed despite what any podcasters/gurus tell you. Leave now and get therapy for yourself, caller.

@lindsaydeviveiros5533 7 месяцев назад

Ashley completely broke my heart. I pray to God that she and her children get out of this situation alive and safe

@jasonmedeiros9492 5 месяцев назад

I just left a relationship like this. She spent all day and all night outside smoking and playing Casino games on the phone! Then when she would be or on the phone with her friends she seemed wayyyy happier with them than me! F THAT.

@troisquarts3659 7 месяцев назад

"I haven't met people" is an unfortunate created reality so many of us live in.

@Brittany138 7 месяцев назад

Ashley; you 1000% will find someone who will love the effff out of you. Your story was me 16 years ago (minus kids). Physically, mentally abused and then stalked even after a restraining order. It was my very first relationship. My now husband of 15 years loves the efffff out of me (it took YEARS to understand why). I didn’t love myself. Move forward; it’ll be totally worth it! 💕

@megalopolis2015 7 месяцев назад

@sometimesising1016 7 месяцев назад

She might not find another guy. And THAT'S OK. Having a romantic relationship isn't the most important part of life. She has 3 kids to love and care for. That's beautiful

@cherylterrano9259 7 месяцев назад

My heart just breaks for this first caller. 😭. Dr John did a great job digging into the real reason she called. I hope she gets the help she needs and heals.

@brennanleyen 7 месяцев назад

Yes, she is in dire straits. I hope she gets out too. My story is just like hers. I got out after 7 years of marriage and 3 years of the long plan to extricate myself and little kids… so glad to be safe now. She can do it but it’s so hard with no sleep and pregnancy hormones.

@illpegyourdad973 3 месяца назад

Ashley, my sweet, beautiful Ashley, it will get better. As I write this right now, I am in tears. I know what you’re going through right now, I myself from going through something similar. I want you to know that there is better out there for you, Angel you deserve so much better than this, without a shadow of a doubt, and I know for a fact that, if you can find the strength within you to push past all these terrifying barriers, and get out of this house with this terrible violent man, there is a whole life out there waiting for you and your kids love and light and loyalty beyond anything you can comprehend right now. It will get better! I promise you!

@mominator69 6 месяцев назад

This sounds so familiar and she's right. She's gotten into the habit of blaming herself for every problem in their marriage it is either self blame or ab admission that her partner is a horrible partner and the marriage she thought she had never was. It sounds so similar to my situation in my early 20s in my marriage. I had no friends here where I moved to to be with my husband and I had no family here where I moved to to be with my husband. All of his family said you made the choice to be a stay at home Mom, you take care of the kids and the house it's 100% your responsibility. But I couldn't keep up, I couldn't keep it clean enough. I couldn't keep the kids happy all the time. I couldn't keep my husband happy all the time. I couldn't keep anybody happy all the time. It's an impossible task but people will tell you. It's all your responsibility if you choose to be the mom that stays home with the kids instead of working and putting your kids and day care for somebody else to raise. I feel ger heartach. Turning it all around at this point may not be possible. I couldn't go live live with either of my parents and none of my siblings, grandparents or family states away could afford to move me. I endured 34 years of feeling like I have to carry the entire family load on myself alone because he brought home a paycheck that he also spent the mass majority of. I after years of being a stay at home and finding a church and the kids starting school, I learned to budget $5.00 to buy a days worth of food for a family of 5 and subsidized by trading my babysitting for food because some of the church ladies or parents couldn't afford daycare but qualified for food assistance. I can't say it's great but it's better now that I know where I stand. I did have to mourn the loss of what I thought I had.

@selah5792 7 месяцев назад

Being treated like you don’t exist or matter over time day in fay out can eventually kill you. Your body starts to break down system by system as does your mind - it’s taken be five years to be somewhat physically and mentally functional after no contact.

@mystiquevening 7 месяцев назад

My sister got away from her narcissistic and physically abusive husband. She had medical documentation on injuries he’d caused her and a video (that lawyers and a judge saw, I saw it too) of her husband screaming that he was going to k*** himself while he held a large kitchen knife. When he saw her recording him he started chasing her with the knife and she says “oh sh**” and starts running and the video ends. He then locked her in a room and demanded she delete the video and she convinced him she was about to record but didn’t do it. Anyways, all the judge asked was that he attended weekly anger management classes for a couple of months and then he got partial custody of the kids. One of the kids broke an arm under his care and he didn’t bring them to a hospital, my sister did as soon as they went back home. He still has partial custody. He skips when he pays child support, the courts do nothing. Sometimes the hell you “pick” (my sister didn’t know he was evil) is only escapable when your kids are old enough.

@blueseptember2174 7 месяцев назад

I think there is always a way to leave but you will give up something. And you have to weigh if that's worth it.

@leahboynton1280 7 месяцев назад

Document everything and keep it hidden. It scared when she said I don't put myself in the way to be physically abused anymore, omg.

@mystiquevening 7 месяцев назад

@@blueseptember2174 I’m glad she left him, it’s frustrating though when people (I’m not saying you) are obtuse about the system and act like divorce will end the hell (at least for the most part). Every time my sister’s ex picks up the kids they all mourn over that time away, and fear for the kids’ safety. I think it’s important for therapists to understand what has to be weighed out when they say “just leave”. When delony said “they’ll take the kids from him not her” that isn’t often so, it can be, but not usually how it works.

@mystiquevening 7 месяцев назад

@@leahboynton1280yeah that was heartbreaking. It’s what children do when their parents abuse them and their only protection is to avoid the mannerisms or actions that may “trigger” the parent.

@blueseptember2174 7 месяцев назад

@@mystiquevening yeah I agree. You have to live it or be very close to someone going through it to get the nuances. Jon, doesn't get it, the reality, at all sometimes. But at the same time he is also right in his assessment of just do it, when there's a will there's a way. It is soul crushing at the end of the day and that needs to be talked about more ❤

@Jessica-el9tu 7 месяцев назад

You don’t “ babysit” your own kids, Dr. John. You just take care of them. 😎😎😎

@jauntydamemusic 4 дня назад

He was explaining that he’d never babysat or changed a diaper BEFORE he became a father, and his wife taught him how to take care of kids.

@blueseptember2174 7 месяцев назад

First caller, ive been there. One of the things that got me through was knowing one day maybe my getting through might give someone else hope.

@AlexBobalexRavenclaw 7 месяцев назад

Lynn sounds like someone who over-invested in a friendship or overvalued it, and her friend was less invested. So when bad things happened to Friend, she obviously brought her dilemma to those she valued more. I’m so sorry, Lynn. You sound like a good friend.

@wonder12374 7 месяцев назад

Lynn may have been so wrapped up in her wedding that she couldn't emotionally be open to why her friend could not attend the wedding any longer....loss of a child is traumatic and not something you want to open up about if someone gets upset you can't come to their wedding.

@allthemomthings9897 7 месяцев назад

Thank you to John and the team for the amazing work you do. I really appreciate how you handle people with so much care.

@creativelychimaine110 Месяц назад

“Behavior is a language. He has left you. He’s just too much of a coward to say it out loud.” Hit me like a gut punch. Well said, DrDelany. I wish someone had said that to me instead of me having to figure it out or tell me to keep working it out.

@AndiAlexander1 7 месяцев назад

First caller- take the baby into the bath/shower with you. Let her play with some toys or a little pile of shaving cream or soap while you wash your hair or whatever. This season won’t last forever. My husband was disabled and couldn’t watch the baby so I took the baby with me everywhere for the first year. After that, he became secure and independent.

@eurekahope5310 7 месяцев назад

I brought the baby bouncer, jumper, or chair in the bathroom and played peekaboo if baby started to fuss.

@margaretmartine9430 2 месяца назад

All good with just one, 1 and 3? Not so sure. Could never do it with my twins.

@ashley-js5rk 7 месяцев назад

21:08 she needs to leave him period. He’s trapped her with kids and zero financial support. She needs to reach out to women homeless shelters local to her. First is leaving, getting on your feet, then therapy.

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 7 месяцев назад

The 2nd call had so many gems. Dr Delony is a gift!

@RichardGoose 7 месяцев назад

Dang this one was heavy. As always, I’m amazed by how tuned in to what matters and helpful you were in this interaction. Keep doing your thang my man!

@aileenkrauchi6553 6 месяцев назад

I hope you called the local police for this Ashley person. My heart started racing!

@user-js9yb6fv3d Месяц назад

Heartbreaking. There are a lot of women like that. Even those who have financial independence don’t feel like they are worthy enough to leave.

@marissa7459 Месяц назад

Her spirit is too broken and with 3 under 3 it’s easier for her to stay. She also has no backbone. She’s passive aggressive and complains. John touched on this when he called her a martyr. And why women keep having babies with no good men is beyond me. There is responsibility on both sides. We all have choices. What you accept is what will continue!

@hoademo965 6 месяцев назад

Love John's statement. "Your investment didn't pay off!"... make peace with it. I have shared and referred John's RU-vid channel to many. I learned a lot from you John. Thank you and blessings to you and your fam. and your team

@hoademo965 6 месяцев назад

Jenna is always helpful. John needs her in the show :)

@jasminebaby3375 7 месяцев назад

The last caller best friend is self centered, I sense a little jealousy and childish. She sounds like the kind of friend that will take and take from you and mentally drain you too. Let her go and don’t ever look back, even if she apologized.

@leahboynton1280 7 месяцев назад

Caller #3, This is the advice I wish I would have received growing up.

@jasminebaby3375 7 месяцев назад

First caller needs child care asap, and a good sleeping consultant. I can’t imagine being pregnant with a 1 year and three years old who doesn’t take naps and forget about the countless middle of the nights wakes. For the past 4 years all her body is doing is making babies. Good luck girl and I hope you you get the help you need

@megalopolis2015 7 месяцев назад

The first caller won't be able to sleep properly while still living with that guy. Her whole body is constantly tightened up, ready for fight, flight, or freeze at any moment. She needs to get help to make a plan to get out of there sooner than later.

@hwinny2 7 месяцев назад

I doubt her parents are safe.

@rachaylifuchs 7 месяцев назад

Was thinking the same thing… a lot of people who end up with these husbands and don’t see a way out is because it was modeled I wonder what her parents are like

@mandycaldeira8261 2 месяца назад

I don't know if she or you guys will read this, but I've lived her life and would love to talk to her and help her through this. I wish I would have seen this sooner! Ashley, please reach out to me, asap!

@blueseptember2174 7 месяцев назад

Mine would say 'yeah, ill give you a break', then fall asleep so they werent being watched at all. 😅

@megalopolis2015 7 месяцев назад

Swell. :0)

@elizabethbrown5289 2 месяца назад

Ashley, it gets better. You and your children are worth more. Please start counseling and talk to a domestic voilence shelter. They can help you transition in safety. The most dangerous time for partners is when they try to leave their abusers. Get help. ❤

@amyteurlife9408 7 месяцев назад

Dad has lost control of his wife bc he's jealous that kids have her attention. He wants to keep her an emotional wreck and all her mental attention onto him. The kids will suffer bc mom can't be fully present for kids. He probably has other narc traits.

@ashleywobschall5803 6 месяцев назад

That poor girl is so broken.

@TwentyThree-23 3 месяца назад

First caller reminds me of myself before. She's pregnant with her 3rd (bless her strength) and that in itself is a lot of work and she sounds like she's going through depression. She needs to slow down and take time for herself. It's possible to change your life, you just have to figure out what that is. And some of it you won't like (like being a single parent) but you will learn to accept certain needs in your life. Good luck, first caller. This too shall pass, just keep a steady sail during this storm. ❤

@margaretmartine9430 2 месяца назад

This makes me mad: “you’ve created this world world…” Wow! Yeah, when our twins were this young they napped for 30 minutes max, if I was lucky at the same time. Not all kids nap for 2-3 hours morning and then in the afternoon. You can’t schedule anything around that, let alone take a shower most of the time. John, was too hard on her in the beginning.

@wmluna381 Месяц назад

Man, that sounds horrible.

@ms.emotions 10 дней назад

You got to plan the exit and surround yourself with lots of people. Report. Report. File a temporary restraining order. He WILL act out and you will be in danger but you got to go.

@megalopolis2015 7 месяцев назад

Ashley: You CAN get out of that situation. You need to reach out to get the proper counseling to come up with a plan. If you're in danger, I hope the show did call the police, so you can leave unencumbered. Your babies--and you--are worth it. Caller 2: I'd recommend staying where you are, especially since you feel so stable there. It would suck rebuilding all of that just to get ahead for a few months. There is a balance to all of this, and I think you and your wife need to look to each other more often to deal with it, not just tackling the circumstances, though being debt-free is a wonderful goal (and you're almost there!). You're a team, and that's an awesome thing. I would schedule more visits with the grandmother at some point soon, though. I'm sure you guys miss the heck out of each other, and time is short. To the bride: I wish the friend was able or willing to be there for you. I don't know which it is, but I know this whole situation sucks, and you're both hurting. I wish you could just call each other and resolve this whole thing, but I have doubts as to whether she thought you were as important to her (except for what she got out of you) as she was to you. Now is a great time to lean on your husband for support and comfort. I hope you can find healing, as well as some other friends who are willing to be a support to you, too. To the last questioner: You are FAR from the problem. If anything, the people around you aren't taking this nearly as seriously as they should. Your BIL didn't respect your boundaries, and was drunk around children, which was another inappropriate way to behave. I don't know if there is a way to come back from that. I would, at least until I saw a lot of positive change, refuse to be at any gathering that guy will be at, and your husband needs to be right by your side.

@lifewithlulu1183 7 месяцев назад

Some girls think if they are sweet and soft and fragile a guy will love them and cherish them. No. You can be gentle and calm and wise on the outside, but that's backed by the fact you know your own value and who you are on the inside. It is a good filter system to weed out bad men even before you end up with them and when you are with a good man, you keep him interested with your confidence and strength all your life.

@kaizenborntowin 7 месяцев назад

Thank you! 53:35

@OAmyM22 Месяц назад

My heart hurts for Ashley 💔

@margaretrich5406 14 дней назад

It's ridiculous what people will turn a blind eye to for the sake of "family," on the subject of "Jenna" & "Gropey McGee." I know people who side with creeper uncles & aunts who have a history of being completely inappropriate behaviors with nephews & nieces. Idc how closely related we are, if you are not okay to be around, my kids & I are out.

@aparelhodesoldar7604 3 месяца назад

First case. She needs to leave with a plan and QUIETLY. If he is controlling, buy a second phone and hide it. You're in a war zone. I've been through that. She is in danger.

@gemmabuick570 7 месяцев назад

Dr John needs some Family Domestic Abuse training, pronto! Yikes! Making this call may be the first and final time she finds the strength reach out for help. My heart goes out to her! it is not as simple as he makes it out to be. I hope she takes the opportunity to speak with a therapist and seeks out a support service who specialises in domestic violence. Keep safe xx

@jmac1221981 7 месяцев назад

If BIL willing to grope his SIL what else is he willing to do? Grope his 15 yr old niece? He’s a 🚩. Take it from someone who has lived experience with something very similar.

@NoEvidenceForGod Месяц назад

Haven't read/watched the Ramsey finance thing but I'm curious what kind of debt he's referring to? Debt can often help CREATE wealth. Especially in the property market. It irks me seeing people react to it as though it is inherently a bad thing.

@wmluna381 Месяц назад

Ramsey's plan is super linear and usually designated and good for chaotic financial situations where people lack financial education and/or have issues with self-control when it comes to credit/debt. Generally.

@danapriess8860 Месяц назад

I would let my babies play in the pan cupboard, empty it out, and climb inside while I was cooking. I could interact with my kids and keep an eye on them, and they would have fun. We would giggle and play peek-a-boo. You need to be creative, but leave him.

@bonniebonbasa3257 2 месяца назад

Why does someone turn the furniture upside down. This happens with someone that lives with us in our home. He is 40 years old and when he gets angry he turns over some furniture over till he calms down. I'd like to know if we are in danger when he puts furniture upside down.

@wmluna381 Месяц назад

If that person won't do that at work or at a friend's house they have an element of self-control and self-regulation they could care less to exhibit around you. Aside from the fact that such behavior is NOT NORMAL, I would not consider it safe. And it's extra terrible if it's being done around children and pets. If you're a caregiver to either and you have some control in the matter (removing yourself and them, they is the #1 plan). I've witnessed people acting like that. There's something intrinsically wrong with them that only they can fix. They usually don't want to. So it's up to you.

@wonder12374 7 месяцев назад

For the last call something tells me when the friend called to cancel her plans to come to the wedding she wasn't given the opportunity to be open as to why.... Did the caller respond with compassion or anger ....f it was anger then I understand why the friend didn't open with the fact that she had the loss of a child that's traumatic enough you don't need someone's selfish dramatic reaction on top of it.

@danapriess8860 Месяц назад

She is scared of her situation becoming very hard.

@annt7384 2 месяца назад

First caller needs to leave her husband even if he isn’t violent or abusive; he’s not participating in the marriage or parenthood. He needs to go.

@lav7161 7 месяцев назад

OMG!!! I've watched John for a couple years now and the first caller is so deep in her hurt that it's not even funny. 18:11 For her to even say such a thing and to stick around with an abusive husband who wants no parts of her is mind boggling.

@blueseptember2174 7 месяцев назад

Ashley, you just want him to be how he was or perhaps pretended to be. But hes not that way right now. There needs to be space to heal. Maybe theyll change one day but it would take life kicking him in the butt and years of consistency. Been there.

@jasonmedeiros9492 5 месяцев назад

HER HUSBAND IS CHECKED OUT

@melodydurrett9658 7 месяцев назад

Yeah we do make our own granola in Oregon😂

@Feliciations 7 месяцев назад

3rd caller. You are a terrible friend. Like really.

@megalopolis2015 7 месяцев назад

The friend said she would be the MOH. If she couldn't, then she should have declined. The bride can't mindread, and was obviously busy with preparations. She was there for the friend many other times. The friend seemed lousy for not being there for her for a change, although certainly losing a child would be a deterrent for much of anything. Again, the bride didn't know until afterward, when she had time to feel a lot of hurt, resentment, and confusion, with nowhere to put it.

@Feliciations 7 месяцев назад

@@megalopolis2015 the fact that she was mad, instead of empathetic, for a friend going through everything her friend went through, that is why she is a shitty friend. She got in a fight with her, instead of listening and having empathy. She needs to be less self-centered, like really. The world doesn't revolve around her.

@donnabaker4713 2 месяца назад

Sometimes, people are embarrassed to tell their friends who are doing well financially that they are not. that simple......

@melodyc123 2 месяца назад

She needs to put her kids on a schedule. If shes this overwhelmed with 2??? There is no way a 1 year old and 3 year old can be up for 12 hours and not be sleepy. Let them nap after lunch, do online therapy, wake them up after.

@margaretmartine9430 2 месяца назад

Oh yes, very possible. Mine were just like that.

@Nat-lg2ks 2 месяца назад

Take the baby into the bathroom with you in her paknplay