Absolutely true Amitji. I left friendships because they expected that I'm available all the time for non-sense activities and talks. Life is a lot better without such kind of persons. I'm thankful to God that those kind of people are distanced now. It also gives time to think, learn new things when we're unburdened.
Same happens with me, I am like a Bakra to all with unlimited time but they also guilt trap me that if I don't stay connected to all then i'll be all alone in my old age. I am also scared bcoz of that.
I remember in MS Dhoni , his friend came to meet Dhoni in five star hotel (after becoming famous cricketer) , they were not able to even talk freely as they were used to do during struggling days.
Mostly aaj kal ke bachchey sirf selfies mein filter laga rahe hain , friendships mein nahi ! Anyone with whom they can have a good time , is a friend for them. You’ve touched upon a raw nerve for many ! It’s a topic that often creates friction between parents and children nowadays and both shy away from talking about it .
I am senior citizen and luckily I have 4 real friends.We are friends from school time, collage time,and two from when I was working or practicing as lawyer.We don't have any expectations from each other.But at the same time we are just emotional support for each other.Therefore always happy whenever we get chance to meet or talk on phone.I really wish everyone should get true friends in life, it's beautiful.Thanks a lot sir, love watching your videos.
Sir any advice you would like to give to a 21 year old boy who feels like his relationship with his friends is not that strong and he only has friends for name sake ....feels depressing at time too....have stopped talking to most of them ...and not interested in making new ones because scared of being cheated/betrayed, no more exitement left as I used to have when I was young while meeting people ....is something wrong with me .
I have filtered out 95 percent of my so called friends in the past one year.. Soon after that, my thought process, outlook towards life changed drastically.. I invested my complete time on learning about the things around me, economics, finance, investments, people psychology etc and felt so empowered with my knowledge that I didn't need any fake friends who were trying to make use of me.. You will know you are on the right path when you throw out unwanted people in your life.. Amit ji is right in what he is trying to inculcate in this video..
what r u doing sir?.......i am in the last year of my college and still very confused about my life though i am good in studies and parents are saying that go and prepare for govt job....but still i am very confused
Very true. Wealthy and rich people have very limited friends. They spend most of their time in staying and thinking in a lonely place. I will definitely filter out friends.
My hyper emotional brother faced many losses due to his friends. Soon he realised the reality of fake people pretending to be his friends. Today he has friends but he has put a border line between them and him.
Whatever you said is 100% true... Just got 5 friends... All of them are my friends for over a decade.. and we hardly stay in touch other than 1 friend... Whenever we do, we start from the same place.. no expectations from anyone... No going out on coffees/movies together... Hardly get to meet for 1 hour in 1 year.. sometimes not even that....
"Dost vah hota hai jo aapke khushi mein khush ho dukh mein toh sabhi aa jaate hain." Kya sutra hai.Bilkul original thought hai.Amit sir ji ko bahut bahut dhanyavaad aur koti koti pranaam.🌹
A very eye opening thoughts, we are having disguised friendship, we all laugh and dance in groups, but that's only for party, not realistic meaning to the so called friendship. Great story sir
Sir, You're always right but this video is worth watching more than 4 times so that it's digested, absorbed and assimilated. Thank you very much. We're learning a lot from you. May God bless you. 28.11.2022. Lahore, Pakistan.
Women don't have much time to invest in frivolous friends who are not at similar phase and context in life ....that's why we lose networks over time which sometimes is not good to move forward.
Thanks.. you made a real story..real friends are those who celebrates your success by heart, Not by mouth. Who become Light house in Dark time..save you being depression Real friend enjoy..with a cup of tea.or coffee.. Not with PAG. ?! If you want friend..Never Do business with him in Partnership .and never asked for Money. Never Competite..Never be jeolous or depressed to see his progress. Enjoy your own means..and let them enjoy their assets.
Bahut sahi bole hain aap sir. Since childhood I never had more than 2 close friends. In adulthood too, I have only two real friends. I am happy with this. There are some people to talk with, we share ideas and knowledge, but they are not really friends. I can totally relate with you. It's good to know that you actually supported this. Because growing up, my lack of so called 'friends' made some of my elders worried for me, I too sometimes thought that am I weird or something? That I don't have more than 2 friends at any time.
I filtered my friend few years ago now no one remained the same...girls who I thought as my besties got married and busy with their own lives..I'm very lonely..to the extent of going crazy.I live in negative household and have no one to talk to.. suffered from anxiety depression hypertension. Recently lost my mother and no one even asked if I'm alright.
Guruji, I wish, you or some one made this video 10 years back. Ethics, Values and Morals in a friendship, between 2 friends , is never the same on both sides. It will be exposed when actual critical situations come.
1.Sirji dost wo hai jo .sach hai usko sach bole. E.g. genuine success ko appreciate kare.. aur faltu gain ko shanti se bole ke bhai isme bahut khush hone ki jarurat nahi hai. 2...aap bole ke chhoti chhoti dukhi event muh dikhane aa jate hai wo dost nahi hote.... but sir genuine dukh hai usme genuinely sath nibhaye wo bhi to dost hai.. suppose I have depression and someone who supports morally n emotional level pe.. wo bhi dost hai.
Very good info.. Have filtered out more ppl out of my life in the last 5 years than in my entire lifetime. Focus on what matters! Keep inspiring sir, God bless you!
We can learn from everyone we meet, and it's important to filter, preserve, and execute the lessons we learn from all interactions, even if they come from a bad person or friend.
Very correct Amit ji… you saw the true colors of people at the time of your success when they react and behaved with so much jealousy… Like minded people connect easily, I am following your channel. 👍👍
A human being needs someone to share feelings, frustrations, happiness, sadness, etc. A friend gives an emotional support system which at times family members cannot give. How can we as humans beings be so Mechanical in our approach all the time and have no friends but only have acquaintances.
@@ashitmukherjee5934 This is not totally true. Friends outside of family can greatly advise/ help/ guide in student life, work related, life etc. Family members are not always experienced enough in different areas of life, work etc.
When you are disconnected within you need lot of people outside for validation. Real friends show mirror they don't validate unnecessarily they call out your behavior when needed.
Sir, this is your third vedio I am watching as I was not your follower till today. But yes all these three videos I liked today spending time on Sunday. And you are absolutely right on all these three videos. 1. Tendering or helping on money to relatives and friends . 2. House buying advice. 3. How many friends you should have. I fit perfectly in all these three videos positively amd have adopted my life since long except on friends. But simce last two years I have learned a lot on friends as well and have filtered out all of them and spending time on learning new things, family first etc.
Sir tussi great ho ... Dosti ke chakkar me maine apne irreplaceable and irreversible 10.-12 years barbaad kar die is anmol.jeevan ke... Aur jis din sare dosto ko laat maari uske do saal ke andar govt service lag gai... Now I hate this word and concept like turd ... Ulti aati hai wo filme dekhke jinme dosti ko glorify karte hain.... Munna bhaiya etc... Bollywood ne ek tatti cheez ko leke aise package Kiya ki wo sweet lage
I'll filter out a lot of people from my college today itself. I can relate to you 100 times, there are people who use me for a lot of emotional support. They play the victim card mentality in order to look nice and harmless. The only thing that saddens me is if we look from the start of our schooling to our job/business then we have really few friends who can be counted on fingers but somehow we live in an illusion that we have a lot of people around.
So very true in real sense, most don't understand the real concept of friendship, in most cases its the no/strength. In reality it's absolutely just the way you explained. Many think and I know, I don't have any friends in a small place like where I am based for they believe in no. And I continue to seek that different level of friends.......
Absolutely agree with this! Keep up in bringing excellent content like this one👏👏👏. We need more videos that can bring more clarity and sense in today's society
Best video on friendship I have seen till now. 🏆 Most people are not worth making friends or even allowed to come beside & sit. Every word you have said is true. I am 45 years old & I wish I had understood the facts told in this video at least 25 years ago, when I was 20. Thank you very much for making this video Amit ji. 🙏 Please keep up the good work.
Thank you for endorsing my belief. I thought only I feel this way. Listening to you has brought me immense relief and trust in my choices. Excellent video!
It was a great clarity giver video. I can relate it with me very much. I m a family man. I Don't have many friends who chat nonsensely or party, I used to feel that I m missing something as I don't have many friends. But now I got clarity that it's ok and rather good to have few friends which can be counted on fingers. But they should be sensible progressive and open to critisizm, Not selfish I fit in your criteria and happy with my family More friends leads to more time wastage more problems even money wastage sometimes.
Yes. This is how u shud filter out acquaintances. No need to brag ur success story and create jealousy. Lesser the friends whom ubshare some things , better it is.
There is so much to learn from your videos..The information that you deliver is incredible , and truly commendable.I resonate with all your thoughts and opinions.
I am totally agree with u, I have realised that a small group of quality circle is enough who can be happy with u when u succeed, and jo log he outside fo friend circle they are contacts because times comes when you need those people in certain cases mostly for work related( I think you should touch the point about the difference between:' contacts and friends' in the video.
Thank you sir for opening my eyes ..... In my case I thought being available all the time with my friends would help me grow .... I don't have much friends but those who were there have now been filtered out .... It feels positive now
Sir aap sahi ho. Meri bhi ek 2 saal ki "dosti" thi. 4 logo ka grp tha just because we were in the same coaching. Umne se 2 toh mere school mein bhi the aur theek thak dost the. Unn 2 mein se ek ko toh mein school mein apna best friend bulata tha. Abhi ki hi baat hai kal humara jhagda hua (whatsapp grp mein ki regarding despite of having holidays we weren't meeting. I was initiating plans but they were least interested.) and conincidently joh mere sabse acche dost the unhone sabse rude, disgusting replies and talks diye. Mujhe bilkul bhi pasand nhi aaya. Infact the 2 friends of school kind of ganged up on me (mera mazaak udane ke liye). Yeh ek kaafi shocking day tha mere liye kyunki ab mein unn dono ko ek "bhai" Ki tarah nhi dekh sakta. Humara relationship itna fragile tha mujhe kal pata chala. Ab mein unn dono school ke dosto se NAFRAT karta hu. Bhale hi hum bahar se dost lagenge par andar hi andar mujhe pata hai ki KATTI HO CHUKI HAI.
Kash mujhe pehle ye sab samjh aa jata I am ...age 30 +... , my friend circle is very big and m abhi tak apni life m kuch nahi ker pata , chalo der se hi samjh aaya lekin aa gaya thanks .
Family is someone you inherit...you dont have choice there....on the other hand you have liberty to choose friends.....there are certain things in this video which i dont agree with but over all good POV!
Thanks for picking up this topic sir….I am in a situation which makes me feel that I am lonely and others have friends that I once used to have . It feels sick!! Watching your group enjoying and having fun together whether it’s a party or tour sometimes make me feel sad But your videos confirm that I am on the right path. Thanks once again for the insight…I enjoy your videos Love from Indore❤
You r my best friend I always get good time in listening you. Your videos are very useful in improving my mindset I am getting more and more happy in listening new content
Sir mai sabse pyar se baat karti hu but dosti nibha nahi pati as mai bht aana jana ,saath ghoomna nahi kar pati hu.to mujhe lagta tha meri social skills weak hai.but now I realised I am good coz mainkhud par aur family par focus karti hu.thank you 🙏
U r absolutely correct,I think ppl make a lot of friends today in who they dont invest much emotionally also because they dont hv soo much time.Its just to spend an evening in good company. The current generation does not live with the family due to various reasons ,cud b education ,job etc .
Amit ji Great guidance for today’s youth And whoever has taken the steps to weed out the unnecessary burdens Will be successful in life So kudos to your followers who has put this into practice
It's really really hard to find a friend who can be a sounding board and give a fair assessment of the situation / reality check. Eagles are solitary and fly high. Thankyou for sharing your thoughts Amit ji.
Sir bohot sahi baat kahi apne. College friendship end hone k baad mujhe smjh aya shyd uss wqt mujhe smjh b na aata. Aaj jb already ye sb ho chuka now i can actually realise ki kon dost h kon nhi...or ab to mai kisi pr dost ka tag b nhi lgati. Thankyou for your valuable words 😊
Sir you are doing extraordinary job,yes its meaningfull only for those who deserve and understand this and care about your genunine efforts.with regards.please keep it up,you are truly returning precious knowledge to society as your whole life meaningfull experiences.
you are right Sir. i have understand it very late. Now i didn't have any friend which is true to me. friendship and acquaintance are two different things , that I understand very late. Thank you very much for such a wonderful video on this topic .
So dont confuse friendship with network circle And What friendship actually means is partnership cum alliance In hindi i think the word "mitr" defines it well
Wow you are brilliant sir wat you saying about not just friendship and orher realationship is very true and they way you explain is very simple and meaningful
A mind boggling video. I knew some things but you have given a new horizon which is 100% correct. You are so true, raw and kitni intelligent baatein boli hai. An amazing video, mere toh aise dost v the jo mere khoobsurati se jealous hoke mujhe block kr diya😂😂😂😂. I also believe in quality of frns n not quantity
