Doctor Reacts: CHAOTIC Gynecology TikToks 

If this is true I hope she wins.

That's amazing, I hope she wins

@@kristalburns3490 it's 100% true.

Her name is Brandy Bottone if anyone wants to look her up.

Amazing! 🙌👏 Smart lady.

lets be real if this was true there would be a lot less people being born X'D

It was specifically, if they want to have a male heir. Totally played into their male ego. The implication being they aren't doing it right and being lazy about sex if all they are having is daughters.

You know, I've heard that the chances of pregnancy in general are higher if the woman orgasms, so maybe we should continue to tell people this now.

I've also heard that research suggests orgasms help people get pregnant. But all I'm saying is that if I was (somehow) responsible for peer reviewing research to that effect that was poorly done, I'd rubber stamp it just because it would make a better world.

Nope. It's waaaaaay older than the middle ages. It was a belief going back all the way to before the common era.

Those law makers (bunch of old men) sex ed comes from the 1950's!. They are dinosaurs. So horrifying that they are making decisions only an individual should be able to make for themselves.

More like incompetent. And we rely on them, trusting them to be competent in other important questions. Scary to think, but what if the majority of them are just as ignorant on other topics they make laws about.

I think the problem is that there is a medical term (which is very accurate) and then there is a general word used by public (not trained professionals). And there is where the differences can be seen and where it causes problems. Because "abortion" for dr. Jones is a medical term. While for the broad public is a word that means "killing babies". And while neither here are right or wrong, you just have to make sure when speaking with other person what meaning they have in mind. Like one would say that baby is only when it is born, the other would argue (like the man in beginning) that "baby" is a baby since the moment ova and sperm meet and then there a medical definition of a baby which is important to medical professionals. Hence for that man in the video any contraception is a form of abortion. And while he is technically correct (if you have in mind that he does not use medical terms here) he is absolutely wrong if you think that he uses medical terms. I'm really surprised that people here are fighting about terms. Leave medical terms for professionals, because they need to be precise. Regular people can use whatever language they want. Terminology is not an issue. OPINIONS are. Especially when someone says that you should have a baby when you do not want to.

@@kristinyt one would think, politicians should know the difference between terminology and opinion and when using terminology, they better be correct.

@@annapatton4544 yeah, absolutely, it is ok not to know terminology but it is not ok to use a certain word as term even though you use it wrong.

Ugh, that is so gross. Here's what keeps coming into my head--- organs/ blood/ tissues can only be donated with consent. Even if the doner is dead, and the potential recipient will absolutely die without a donation, they can't take anything without consent of the family or the doner before death. This sends me a very clear message: I have more bodily autonomy as a corpse than I do as a living woman.

I was told the same thing by a female doctor in South Africa. Its a messed up system all over the world.

Honestly, theoretical future boyfriend should be thanking you. If he “absolutely yes” wants kids, you two are incompatible for long term dating. You can break up sooner and cleaner, or even screen each other out of your dating pools altogether. No harm no foul. If he’s a fence sitter or lean yes, seriously dating you is a route to no kids. If he doesn’t like that, he can leave. No amount of negotiation or “trying to change her” is gonna untie those tubes. Saves both of you the trouble. And if he’s lean no or absolute no, there is zero ambiguity on future children so auto-check that box for compatibility. He doesn’t have to go through the ordeal of a partner that definitely wants children.

@@52flyingbicycles I never did get my tubes tied and theoretical future boyfriend did end up happening. He wants kids but is incredibly sympathetic towards my fear of another pregnancy crippling me. I have severe back and hip problems due to my last pregnancy. Whether it's my severe depression or the possibility of not having the kids he wants, his answer is always "I signed up for this when I decided to date you."

@@laurastradling-cloete6808 fellow South African, I just turned 25 and I'm getting a subtotal hysterectomy on Thursday. No kids, my boyfriend wasn't mentioned much, and his opinion was mostly ignored. I did have to write a pms-induced cranky page-long email to the gyne for her to review it with her peers but it can be done. It just takes fighting really hard and finding the right doctor. It shouldn't have to be that hard though.

Same here. Most people of the Jewish faith don't believe life begins at conception. Forcing religious beliefs on others who don't share those same beliefs goes against everything the founders of this country intended.

Right, we can't even agree between denominations so why do we get to tell people what to do

Both Muslims and Jews are able to have abortions within a certain time. If a Muslim or a Jew wants an abortion, isn't that interfering in their religious rights If they are denied having an abortion. I am not from the US, but I am so confused about separation of church and state. The founding fathers were mostly humanists and did not want any religion declared as a national religion. This is what confuses me, when fundamental Christians state that America is Christian. So confused.

The rule of republicans is: rules for thee, not for me! Remember it.

@@westzed23 Sadly for so many people religion is not just religion but part of our culure, our fundamental beliefs, our roots and ancestry and so many others bullshit. I am not from the US but Italy and we have the Pope literally in our capital so it's quite complicated for everyone to remember that RELIGIOUS AND POLITICS ARE TWO SEPARATE MATTERS.

Right? If they think otherwise, try inseminating someone with sperm that have been microwaved.

Yeah but I suppose it’s a two halves make a whole argument

@@dibsdibs3495 Sure they may have only have of human genetic material but still they are functioning LIVING cells. It's like telling people without legs that they are not human because the bottom of their body is missing.

Careful or they might make it illegal to shed your skin cells

@@Nenthil that’s not a great comparison, that person is still the same person. Sperm and egg separately are meaningless. The question is when is the life considered one that is morally wrong to end?

Well said!

i feel like there's a cheatcode here with old white trans men that we should really be tapping into.

But I don't like the signs that say "No uterus - no opinion". There are plenty of anti-abortion WOMEN who would be happy to impose their opinion on other women's uteruses. (uteri?)

Yes! Omg! 100% agree

Btw this isn't women's healthcare because getting pregnant has nothing to do with being a woman! Lots of men and nonbinary people get pregnant too, and lots of women can't get pregnant.

Blood, organs, and tissues can not be removed from my corpse to save the life of someone else unless given consent by me or my family. I have more autonomy dead than I do living.

BOOST more ppl need to see this!

Yes, they are full people not incubators!

I think the answer is never and that that's kind of the whole impetus of the legislation

Thanks for asking, your body has DNA, my body has DNA. Believe it or not, a fetus has DNA that is not identical to the "own body" that you speak of. Me having different DNA doesn't make you not a person, you having different DNA than me doesn't make me not a person. Either way, I can't stop you from simply being on the grounds that "I get to decide what I do with the finger I have on my pistol". Hope this helps!

Damn, it was nice meeting you. But don't worry I will give you cake that has something special inside to help you escape. Wink wink.

Two of my mothers pregnancies failed, and I’ve been born after them By that logic, am I a criminal too? 😰

HAHAHA

Geriatric pregnancy refers to the mother. Not the baby. But that's a funny description. I can see how you would think that, lol.

Thank you

Lolllll

God, how frustrating

Your dad sounds very toxic

@@elizabethm7163 Honestly, it sounds like the mom was blaming the dad for her toxicity.

My mum is a midwife and is very supportive so I’m very lucky in that sense. When the pill didn’t work, she helped me get an appointment with one of her fellow doctors to talk about the coil. They explained I couldn’t have the implant due to low bone density but the coil did wonders for my medical conditions.

I take BC to help control my irregular periods. I find it funny how people are so invested in other people's sex life...

@evewasframed, this is awesome, thanks for sharing your knowledge

God, of all the outdated medical stuff/myths we have still circulating among the public and doctors, why couldn't we have kept the orgasm one??

Ooh, and may I recommend Sawbones (podcast) to you? It's about medical history and they usually mention the medieval period

And IIRC this „knowledge“ about how you need to have an orgasm in order to get pregnant was not really all that empowering for women. It more worked in ways like - well, she got pregnant, therefore she had an orgasm, therefore she enjoyed the whole thing and therefore it could not have been rape.

You beat me to it! I wrote that comment above before I saw yours.

I'm really sorry to hear what you had to go through. Any chance that a friend can suggest you a different doctor?

@@paolagrando5079 this was a few doctors over several years. I have a better doctor now.

Michelle Mahar - Jah, they just don't get it! If you are under 35 and unless you already have children (whether you wanted them or not) Doctors are, to say the very least, "hesitant" to tie tubes or do a hysterectomy even in the cases of endometriosis. Bahstards! Pro-life my patootie!

@@michellemahar9030 glad to hear that. 💜

I am so sorry you had to go through that, and very glad to hear you now have a doctor who listens and cares about your health.

Exactly

I know right, and it is like, why do we keep voting in some of the dumbest people on the planet but I guess sane/smart people do not want the job - lol (It is universal BTW - from NZ)

In a mom group I am in, there was one mom who was 17 weeks pregnant... she found out gender and asked the group if she could get an abortion because she didn't want to have a boy/girl (i forget what it was ... because it shouldn't matter, you should love the baby regardless) and if she was being too dramatic. And OMG, the comments did NOT disappoint, absolutely EVERYONE thought she was being dramatic and was being absolutely heartless. Gender disappointment is very real and not even a horrible thing in itself, but I don't think prior to that post that I had ever heard someone even THINKING of terminating a pregnancy just because of what was between the fetus' legs. I myself was shocked when I found out I was having a girl, not disappointed just shocked/surprised, because I had such a strong gut feeling I was going to have a boy. Here abortion is available up until 19 weeks, but I do not think any sane person would seek out an abortion by CHOICE, or just because the weren't getting the gender they wanted, that far along without some serious medical concern. Within just a couple hours the OP deleted her anonymous, I really hope having all those mom's come at her woke her up to how crazy she was sounding/being.

I agree, if you don't want an abortion don't have one but that doesn't give you the right to dictate what I chose to do❤️ I worry about all these future children who are born to parents who don't want them what sort of life are they going to live? Are there not already enough unwanted children living the most horrible life 😥

Hallelujah!

agreed

@@torroberts6622 There is a statistically proven correlation between bans on abortion, and an uptick in crime about 18 -25 years later. Bans on abortion have a negative effect on society.

And there was me explaining the average life expectancy to my 4 year old today and how until you're about 3/4 into it you aren't old, just older than those younger than you (Because me and his father being 26 got told this week we'll be grandma's on our next birthdays! 🤣). I'm hoping to have a 4th when I hit 30 so my current littles (4.5, just turned 3 and 18 months) can get the focus they need first, then look into very permanent birth control (Hemorrhaged BAD with the first 2, and periods last a solid 2.5 weeks of heavy bleeding, if I'm not waiting for more babies I don't want the parts screwing me over!). I forget 30 is considered old in pregnancy sometimes. 🙄🤣

Yeah my 37 year old friend kept hearing that from her doctor during her pregnancy

New Zealand uses advanced maternal age.

I just went through my geriatric pregnancy this year at 36/37. It's not great on morale. Heh.

As someone who is currently 36, this comment made me die a little inside.

They don't care to learn and purposely ignore it when presented with the information.

@@mellie4174 well he was very grateful and proceeded to tell another guy friend of his who was also lost in the sauce. So we can't paint them all with the same brush that they don't care

Mine has a biology degree and understands the science but not sure it makes sense to him still

I had to explain to both my husband and my male best friend that PMS is not the same as menopause when I mentioned that I believed that the reason my ADHD was getting so much worse the week before alongside me just being very tired was PMS (After asking some friends who also have ADHD and are afab) and both asked me: "Aren't you a little young to get that?" They're both American, I'm German. And it is baffling to me that Americans don't even learn the absolute basics of reproductive health for both sexes.

Step 1. Stop marrying people that don't understand basic biology.

The audacity of some random nurse/unrelated provider to potentially interfere with YOUR perfectly safe care because of THEIR personal feelings 🙄

I was 25 first time pregnant 6 months and big. I was clearly wearing my wedding bands . someone asked me what high school around the area I graduated from .. . not in my home state . I told them I'd graduated in year ___ and from another high school in __ state . Their shock when they did the math was priceless and they tried to back peddle saying I looked so young ! (guess the no smoking, drinking and healthy lifestyle is paying off) it still was weird.

If only I could get my baby making equipment removed or made useless for free, then I definitely would. I’m 31 and don’t want kids. I’d say I’m glad I’m British, but you can’t get elective surgeries on the NHS😞I can’t afford to get it done privately either FFS😩I don’t care where I am in the world if I find out I’m pregnant (shouldn’t actually be possible cuz of the daily pill I take, but…) if I did end up pregnant, you bet I’m looking for somewhere to get an abortion! I don’t want a criminal record, but screw the shitty law makers who think they can’t say what I can and can not do with MY body!😡 Love MDJs channel/content 💖👍.

I only went on the childfree subreddit once and left because of the hate for kids. I don't want kids, but that doesn't mean I dislike or hate them, I have six younger siblings and enjoy spending time with them as their big sister. The hatred for innocent kids I saw there made me instantly despise that subreddit, it's not like it was the kids' choice to be born

My sister had a baby 3 years ago at 38, and I think all through her pregnancy was call that as well. Plus, all the doctors and staff were fairly young.

Yeah my OBGYN said I'm in "advanced maternal age" which made me feel old still -_- I'm turning 36 in September.

This just means you have more risks. It's not to make you feel bad.

I was deemed a geriatric pregnancy 10 years ago at age 29. I have a health condition that meant I couldn’t give birth naturally and I had to continue taking my medication throughout the pregnancy. I was shocked when I saw the word on my paperwork but maybe doctors use it when a pregnancy is more high risk? Not saying it’s right though.

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and have been referred to as a geriatric pregnancy by my (

Oh wow that's horrible

Honestly, from the moment she read that, my mind when straight into this exact rabbit hole. sigh. My inner anxiety pessimist was right again.

' if a woman was raped and she got pregnant, then she must not have been raped because the resulting pregnancy was “evidence” that she wanted it.' Unfortunately, somehow this misconception survived. I met a woman in her 50s who told me how she was raped at 18 by a man twice her age, who was also her boss, but she didn't believe she was raped, because she got pregnant, therefore she must have liked it. He also prevented her from getting an abortion (at the time, it was illegal, and he threatened to turn her in to the police). She was forced to marry him (cause how could you dare dishonour your family?) and what followed were 20 years of domestic violence (and probably subsequent marital rapes, cause that's the 'normal' dynamics between spouses). Absolutely apalling.

😬🤯😱

@@espritfrenetique 😨😱.thats horrendous !! Was she able to leave him ?!

Yup was used during my pregnancy also.

At... 35?! Whaaaaat XD

Same for me.

My second child is due exactly one month before my 35th birthday. On my records, it has maternal age at delivery as 34.9, which all of the personnel seem to get a kick out of. "Oh, sneaking in right under the geriatric line!"

It's so messed up. I live in Germany, and also had my first baby two months after turning 35, and the only thing it got me was better healthcare and more tests paid for by insurance to account for certain risks being higher at that age. but no one ever made any comments about it. To contrast this, I was born in Russia, and there, any woman after 30 who gives birth is flat-out called "old-birther". I didn't know there was a stigma against it in the US as well.

Hoping that gyno has all his patients "end the discussion" on HIM and walk right out of the office. Imagine yelling at your patients!

So surprised that doctors still give this excuse. With an informed consent process, how is this their fault/problem if someone regrets their choice? Still baffles me that this is a line of thinking that prevents so many people from making their own choices

I got a referral for my tubes to be tied and I’ve only had one child. I’m 27. I never had any pushback or “getting permission” 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m in Canada as well too and if your dr refuses to do a tubal they have to refer you to a dr who will.

@@haileydawn1271 the doctor who “allowed” it and did the procedure was my OB.

I’ve been trying for years now to get mine tied. I’m 35, no kids, no desire to ever have kids based on my man and I both having a genetic disorder that we don’t want to pass on. I’ve been told “but you might change your mind about having babies!” No, I won’t, my husband also doesn’t want them. Haven’t had any luck with any of my doctors, have an appointment next week with a new one. Fingers are crossed! 🤞

@@stames6678 best of luck! 🤞🏻

i wonder why no one ever says to pregnant patients that they might change their minds later...

@@a.a.erd.977 omg 😂 I've been reading all these comments about this and I'm honestly stunned. It just seems so rude to say it like that!

Interesting! In my experience terms like advanced maternal age seem to be more accepted here in Australia, in actual practice (i.e. clinical notes, handover). But a lot of our course materials in B.Nursing+/-Midwifery will still use archaic terms like "geriatric pregnancy", despite being timely materials. It's strange!

@@breeb2638 I wish I could translate you accurately the term doctors use in russia for pregnant women over 30, but it is not possible to express the way it is. It sort of means "elderly woman giving birth", sounds very offensive, but it is an official term.

"AMA" still sounds old though and it sucks lol.

"Primigravida" sounds like a really catchy Spanish language song.

I was born and raised in California, USA. (Not as bad for uterus-havers as some other states.) Um, yeah. Thank you for your well wishes. Things here really suck.

Thank you for your well wishes it really sucks right now

Sad but true. and hope you all manage to keep that distiction

It is butt over here so thank you for your condolences 🥲

Roe was decided by mostly men.

@@emilyg.6639 that is correct. And what makes it even more disturbing that men have that much power over our bodies.

To make it even more disturbing, as though it was possible, one of these men is literally creating and making up definitions of pregnancy, abortion and contraception in order apply their personal beliefs onto women's bodies.

No, our allies should have a voice too.

Let's amend that slightly - "never had a uterus, no opinion" (some people get them removed)

American here. So true. I now reside in France and once i have the nationality I'll be giving up my American nationality because my country disgusts me so

Etymology. Etiology is the cause of a disease or the study of causes. FYI, just intended to help.

You would think that would help, but depending on personal beliefs and location, could make end result worse.

@@pjk1714 Sadly I agree. In Italy we have an abortion law and recently it was made easier to get the "day after" pill and yet SO - MANY - CLINICS turned semi-private over the years and when I say semi-private I mean RELIGIOUS private! So OBGYN MUST NOT provide abortion if they don't want to be fired (or if they ever wish to work elsewhere); and of course the right parties want to surf on the wave of the US Supreme Court which is just 🤬🤬🤬

The problem is that these old men have their beliefs and don't care about facts or anyone else's opinions but their own. Trying to teach them anything would just fall on deaf ears.

It should be a mix between legal professionals (to make sure any suggested law is in-line with higher ranking law) & subject matter experts, I agree. If all laws were made that way, I think we'd have much better laws. I also want the same for politicians tbh. If someone is the minister for health for example, it has to be a doctor.

@@johannaleopold2612 fun fact many law makers used to be lawyers so thats sticky

That list is amazing but I want to warn everyone that that subreddit is pretty extreme in their views and there’s a vocal minority who definitely just hates children. Like yea we all agree we don’t want our own, but some of them take it to an insane level.

My country is unfortunately not listed but a neighbouring one is listed. I'm getting my first IUD soon-ish, I might consider asking my doctor about tying my tubes. I do want kids eventually but I'm on a lot of medication that have contraindications with pregnancy. Edit: I got my IUD 🎉

@@Alyssa684 Yeah I only went there once and I left instantly because I was blasted in the face with hate for innocent kids. I don't want kids, but that does not = despising them to the disgusting level those asshats did. I have six younger siblings and if anybody ever talked about them the way those people were talking about kids I'd deck them

So frustrating!! We should be able to make decisions about our bodies! The doctor could have an opinion about what we're requesting, but in the end should do what we're asking for, as we are the ones who have to live inside ourselves every moment of every day. Good grief...it's so frustrating!

She lives in the US lmao

@@a-ghost-named-Anna Dr. Jones does not currently live in the US, she currently lives in New Zealand, but yes, she is from the US.

They called mine advanced maternal age

@@a-ghost-named-Anna Yes and I’m sad for it 😭

@@tygrrv2 yup we just say "AMA" in Australia as well, and it doesn't start til 38

My eldest is 35 youngest 15! I was 42 When my mirena coil failed!

My half sister was 25 when her baby brother was born.

I think it should be "people without a uterus" otherwise you're implying each person has multiple uteri.

As a male, I dislike that other men do this.

Interesting. What is the plural form of uterus?

Uterussy

"No uterus, no opinion"

Mine said I wasn't quite considered geriatric as well (also turned 33 during my pregnancy). I do actually like her, and maybe it was just a note with regard to billing for my doctor. But she definitely brought it up, even after my reproductive endocrinologist who helped me actually get pregnant assured me that I still have plenty of time if I want to have another baby (especially since the remaining embryos I've got on ice are from 32 year old me's eggs). But I assume if I do have another one and use the same OB, they'll consider me higher risk because I'll likely be 35 by then (plus I have gestational diabetes this time around).

Weird accent - sounded more South African/Australian... perhaps a South Island thing? (Aucklander here) But definitely not normal Kiwi accent.

She's not from New Zealand haha. She's from the US.

That's definitely not a New Zealand accent. It's just someone doing a strange imitation of a New Zealand accent.

She’s from the US but she is hilarious!

@@NZTanzya Whoa whoa whoa, don't even CLAIM that was Aussie sounding!!! Not even close! 🤣

so use protection?

yeah but see that's the thing, they don't give a shit what women are interested in. they see women as the property of their husbands (why they stump so hard on virginity, why they won't sterilize you without his consent) so we're supposed to just have sex whenever he wants it and however many babies fall out of us as a result, that's on us to deal with.

y’all got terrible husbands tf

@@axelling_atk i’m a child

@@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans I’m talking to op 💀

Sounds similar to my story at Ft Campbell in ‘86. It was a horrendous birth and I had permanent damage, lost 1/3 of my body’s blood, had over 200 stitches which connected the wrong parts together and was never given so much as a Tylenol from a 5 day labor and delivery. My mother made the doctor apologize for mistreating me. And not doing a c section. 🤦‍♀️

@@lollylolly8186 OMG!!! Wtf is it with these places?! My mom hemorrhaged at 7 months, was put on bed rest. She was told she was severely toxemic, (Which I now know to be pre-eclampsia) but my brother's due date came and went with zero word from anyone. She was stuck between 1 and 2cm for a few weeks before the due date, up until delivery. 2 weeks after the due date he still wasn't out. They told my mom to "walk it off" 🙄 50 hours later he was finally born. They had to break her water and they just couldn't get the labor to progress for a long time. I was born in '88, and she was out of the service and living in a different state. When the dilation and progression issues started happening again they induced at 39 weeks. Still took 15 hours but it was a million times smoother. Honestly, she's Superwoman for not only being a mom, but choosing to have another kid after dealing with all of it. Same goes for you! That is an awful situation you went through. I'm so glad you're still here and you're super human!!!

Same, sis!

give new meaning to the nursing home.

@@babotond haha!

Yeah here in the Midwest it is still called that frequently.

Thanks for reminding me to try to get the HPV vaccine again! I messed up the first attempt somehow. 😅

@@itoshiibaka8267 Glad I could help, book it asap. 😀

I'm sorry you've experienced painful paps. They shouldn't be that way.

I hadn't heard about the self test one yet. I know my last one was a 5-year one, and I'm not due for another until 2025.

@@Black-Swan-007 Hi, thank you! You know, I hear that a lot - 'they shouldn't be painful'. Doctors claim they are painless and that there should only be some mild discomfort. But anecdotally, I know a lot of people who have at least some, if not a lot of pain during the procedure. I don't know why the pain occurs, but maybe everyone in medicine should take it seriously and we can move past that antiquated procedure. We have so much innovation in every branch of medicine, but we still use speculums invented in 1825. Not that it's bad that it was invented that long ago, but we surely can do better, as demonstrated by Australia.

Exactly. Perfect, succinct correction to the misuse of "religious freedom" by the right-wing bullies.

Dear God, how awful for her!

why didn’t they like..check?

@@axelling_atk no one could agree on "whose problem is this?" So I was bounced from gyno to gastro cause they kept arguing "oh this is a vagina problem" "nope it's an intestinal issue" and in the mean time I just became terribly ill and suffered a lot of pain xD Edit for more info: I can laugh about it now that I've had surgery to remove it, but I have many horror stories about it. Just wanted people to know that just because something is "usually gendered one way" doesn't mean it never happens to the other.

That’s horrible! I’m sorry you had to go through that. I have Crohn’s disease, which puts me at a high risk for them. I hope I never get one.

@@powers1217 I'm sorry you suffer from Crohn's disease, I also had a friend who would become terribly impacted because of inflammation caused by this disease, she would need to see the doctor once a month to have the blockage physically removed. I hope your disease doesn't complicate your life. I hope your doctor is kind and wonderful and does everything they can to make sure you're comfortable and well looked after.

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I wish all doctors were like that. My specialist is great, but gave me (25yrs) the "You're young still" speech after she asked me if I had any thoughts on fertility treatment. I have never had any interest in kids (or sex for that matter) so my uterus can shrivel up and die for all I care.

The “Fanny-fart” seems to happen most when I have my period. Just what you don’t want (when wearing a pad) a big bubble coming out the front. Thank god for menstrual cups!

No you're not the only one

Right, I was surprised at her answer to that one! That definitely happens to me! It didn't until after I had my kids, along with many other things 🤣

He said can they roll up and linger there. No, they are dispersed almost immediately.

Big difference b/w gas spreading up the front on the outside of genitalia (vulva) vs going INSIDE the vagina (an internal organ). I've heard plenty of the former, never the latter.

@@amymckay23 maybe for you. It's 100% rolled all the way in and come back out later in my experience. Lol

@@AlleenLoveHope usually the former, yeah, but the latter has 100% happened. Lol

Yes, this has been my experience with that subreddit as well, and it has made it hard not to associate the term "childfree" with that attitude in general, even in other contexts.

This should be pinned

Thanks for the heads up/trigger warning

Yup! I had my first baby in May of 2020 and spent a good amount of time in r/pregnant. When Covid hit, a lot of women were expressing their fears about giving birth and parenting during a pandemic, particularly being concerned about giving birth without a partner (as some hospitals were doing). That subreddit was infiltrated with r/childfree users harassing all these moms and telling them that "it was your choice to get pregnant, suck it up and do it alone". It was awful. I am 100% on board with supporting people who choose not to have children but there was NO reason for the hate and harassment that was aimed at the r/pregnant users.

It's an extremely toxic community. I'm really disappointed to see her recommend it tbh.

Yeah, it's pretty morally bankrupt. I'm thinking that disrupting the mating dynamic in this way may change the face of society in a few decades at an innate level. If the strategy to winning offspring in the game of life is as simple as a little patience and brute force - well there you go! Human males will no longer need to cultivate more evolved human characteristics in order to win babies that they probably won't or can't provide for. Will a society subject to the new permissive rule become more violent and less intelligent? I strongly suspect the answer is, 'yes'. This is not to say that instances of R@%e do not result in offspring but there have historically always been mitigation tactics in place to prevent or neutralize offspring. To retard the implementation of what should be considered for humans natural selection given the cognitive aptitude of the species will have long-term effects that most would consider deleterious. Now we could disincentivize female se%uality in the society in question but if you think about it that's like treating a bleeding bullet wound with a bandaid. Women because of the sacrifice and limitations are supposed to be the ones who determine who gets to have babies.

I never heard about that. I have Crohn's disease. Since no uterus and no sex I don't have to worry about pregnancy. But I can't imagine if I still had my uterus being denied much needed medical care. That's just insane.

allergic to what?

@@wastingjam4133 I was trying not to get too gross. I'm allergic to the dead blood and waste during a period. Something about chemical imbalance or whatever. I really don't know. I can't wear a pad because I have to keep it off my skin.

@@Neighbor-assistantYN Allergic, or do you just tend to get itching from yeast infections? Because obviously sweat and uterine tissue causes moisture and can cause crazy irritation. I have chronic pelvic pain, so I had to stop using tampons when I was about 18. I would always get yeast infections after using pads regardless of how clean and dry I tried to keep everything.

@@Panda72021 Allergic. After surgery I no longer have the monthly issues. I have to keep cuts clean too. My pediatrician (when a child), Gyno and PCP has no clue why. Scratches and scrapes tend to have irritation around the wound as well. I wish I knew.

@@Neighbor-assistantYN Wow, that sucks. Sounds like there's definitely a genetic component (like you said hormonal imbalance possibly) since you said your daughter also has it. Hope they can look further into the cause, since you are probably not the only ones who experience allergic reactions like this.

Yes, thank you, came here to state that

I honestly think you are talking about trapped air hanging out in the vulva, while Dr Jones is talking about it actually going into the vagina. The vagina is POTENTIAL space, but when empty it doesn't stay open.

@@abBensch nope definitely has gone up there a few times when legs are closed and laying or sitting a certain way.

And l believe you're a truly beautiful person. Much love and respect from NZ.👍🏻💖🇳🇿

Omg. I love this so much.