Does Sex Before Marriage Affect The Relationship?

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Marriage Helper: Building Deep Intimacy Before Marriage
This episode of Marriage Helper tackles a sensitive yet crucial topic: sex before marriage.
Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, offer an empathetic and mature perspective, emphasizing the importance of building intimacy within marriage.
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Here are the key takeaways:
Sex as Part of a Deeper Connection: Marriage Helper encourages sex within marriage because it fosters trust, vulnerability, and commitment. Sex becomes part of a larger tapestry of love, passion, and intimacy.
Alternatives to Premarital Sex: Open communication is key. Discuss values and expectations about intimacy before marriage.
Benefits of Waiting: Saving sex for marriage allows you to experience its full potential within a committed, loving relationship.
Honest Conversations with Kids: Parents are encouraged to have open and honest conversations with their children about sex using proper anatomical terms. This creates a safe space for questions and reduces the temptation fueled by secrecy.
Considering a Different Approach?
While Marriage Helper advocates for waiting until marriage, the video acknowledges alternative perspectives.
For Those Already Married:
If you've been sexually active outside of marriage, the message is one of encouragement: change your behavior and focus on building intimacy within marriage.
For Parents:
Openly discuss the benefits of waiting with your children. Help them understand why sex is best experienced within a loving marriage.
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What are your thoughts on intimacy before marriage? Share your experiences and questions in the comments below.
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@MarriageHelper Год назад

🔥Read our blog post about this topic here! 🔥 marriagehelper.com/does-sex-before-marriage-affect-the-relationship/

@luciuskaesar6409 Год назад

There are a few clarifications/additions I would make : First, we are designed to make babies, but that's NOT the ONLY design. We are also to raise a healthy family in a community environment. Second, "know" translates from the bible- in several parts of the Old Testament, to mean intercourse, but the Hebrew word also means to perceive or understand, which could add to the whole act. Finally, talking about rights @ 12:05 - 12: 30- as a human right yes, you can choose to do that, but as a Christian, talking about Spiritual rights, then you certainly should not. So, a Christian absolutely must wait. This was a very good video and I really admire the father-daughter relationship that you have. 🙏🙏

@MaybeDavid Год назад

My wife and I waited for our wedding night. We were both virgins. It was an incredible experience. We were always so grateful to each other that we both kept ourselves for each other.

@jameswcollett Год назад

I did the same. I think my wife did too. She divorced me. So that worked. EDIT: To clarify the irony, I should say that it "worked" for a number of years - sufficient to raise children and build up enough equity to then meaningfully torpedo with lawyers' fees and divorce settlement.

@koolsmoothfan Год назад

congrats to you guys and well done waiting until marriage

@cecilegee2453 Год назад

. Mm ñm... 😊😊

@azeezmuhammed902 Год назад

How old were you when you both got married?

@nicoleosaji592 Год назад

Daaa it is good but the pressure comes from the males

@quilenblackwell4820 Год назад

One of the many benefits of saving yourself for marriage is that it reveals the bad apples in the dating game very quickly. If someone just want to get in your pants they will FLEE when they see you are serious about chastity. This in turn makes it much EASIER to find "the one" because someone who is drawn to you for the right reasons will happily wait until your wedding night.

@glennwhite1841 Год назад

That is correct sir!

@anwaranwar-zl5nv Год назад

Reverend Jesus Christ is not God. Jesus Christ is a Muslim. Only Allah is true God.

@enzopied3015 Год назад

@@anwaranwar-zl5nv Lol he certainly wasnt a Muslim

@TheRVSN Год назад

"This in turn makes it much EASIER to find "the one" because someone who is drawn to you for the right reasons will happily wait until your wedding night." - unfortunately, black widows do as well. So the solution is elsewhere.

@johnhagan-zr4pm Год назад

@@anwaranwar-zl5nv It's amazing how you insult Islam and the Prophet Muhammed. Surely you know that the Prophet Muhammed respected and recognized Jesus and Christianity ?

@howardjohnson2138 Год назад

50+ years married - I've had one woman in all that time

@michaelmelamed9103 Год назад

50 years married and I’d had it in quite a few “before that time”.

@howardjohnson2138 Год назад

@@michaelmelamed9103 No, One Woman total

@speakrighttogod Год назад

God bless you and keep you and the wife!!! That's true loyalty, integrity, commitment, faithfulness, honesty, love, respect and honor. Others need to do the same. Just plain old the way God made it to be!!!

@MrOldclunker Год назад

Poor sap.

@originalmamagrizzly2478 Год назад

Right!! 👍👍👍

@joshuafusselman3323 Год назад

I am so grateful that my wife and I both saved ourselves for marriage, and that we don't have any other partners to compare to. I believe that God's commandment about chastity is such a blessing!

@stephenmason5682 Год назад

Good job you are compatible then?

@joshuafusselman3323 Год назад

@@stephenmason5682 Yes, sexually, I don't know how we wouldn't be. Emotionally and spiritually and intellectually we are also compatible, which we were able to discern before marriage/becoming sexually intimate. 😊

@stephenmason5682 Год назад

@Joshua Fusselman one thing that came to me was Size? We realised my wife was ' small ' while I was longer and fatter? It ended with me requiring stitches and a few visits to our shared Dr. My new wife was tense and couldn't relax! This went on for a few years, but we managed two beautiful daughters.

@MrGuggisberg Год назад

Must be convenient having the money for it.

@whitewolf6730 Год назад

Us too! I had decided that I was going to be a real Christian. I also was fortunate to have the discipline to ignore a pretty face. Besides, I was going to college for Scientific reasons. New that I did not want that confusion in my life!

@kbarnettbarnett8273 Год назад

We waited for marriage. We started dating at 14/15 yrs old and have now been married 53 years. It was important to us to wait and I’m glad we did.

@todoranandrei8716 10 месяцев назад

Hello, how old are you right now?

@kiavaxxaskew 2 месяца назад

Y'all are so blessed. This is amazing for the both of you and God because it glorified him.

@halima3u885 Месяц назад

well ofcourse if you were dating at 15 but most people dont meet anyone well into their 40s like me what then?

@kleinschmitterling Год назад

"Dating is for the souls to get to know each other. In Marriage, the bodies will do the same" Wilson Tamayo

@RoxanaAncora 4 месяца назад

👏

@firstnamerequiredlastnameo3473 Год назад

My wife and I went to our marriage altar as virgins. First time everything for us. Been happily married for longer than most people have been living. We still visit during our meals, flirt at home, and hold hands in public. We have always followed God's master plan for us as best we understood it. Life is good.

@alexanderchenf1 25 дней назад

What does “visit during our meals” mean?

@DonRood-fx3dt 6 дней назад

@@alexanderchenf1 I’m guessing the commenter is from the South, where “visit” is often used to describe talking, chatting, catching up…

@bridgetintheukraine Год назад

I would also like to add,that if you are emotionally compatible, you will be sexually compatible..because you communicate what you like and dislike

@kontinent1602 Год назад

Exactly! When there are great, grand, strong feelings , that is the best sign that you are compatible! What better signs to look for?

@DonRood-fx3dt Месяц назад

Disagree…30 years of near-celibacy in marriage tells me otherwise. Glad it worked out for you, but you really need to realize that “saving yourself” is not a guarantee.

@nerychristian 22 дня назад

@@DonRood-fx3dt That's more of a personal marriage problem, than a "saving yourself for marriage" problem. Sounds like the woman was never really in love with you.

@DonRood-fx3dt 6 дней назад

@@nerychristian Whoooosh

@victoriaani250 Год назад

There are actually humans who understand this and speak about it in our time and age!!! THANK YOU!!

@Portia620 Месяц назад

Agreed!

@kingsleyokoye8791 14 часов назад

@@victoriaani250 exactly. We need more of these

@deborahpacheco2799 Год назад

To me this is shocking that people are having intimate relationships with people on the 3rd date. That's awful

@czito Год назад

Try 1st meet. Not even a date.

@michaelmelamed9103 Год назад

Definitely not on the third date, but on the fourth date it would be fine.😉

@joanhampton2378 Год назад

When I was in highschool back in 'ancient' times the debate in my group was on which date you should let the boy kiss you !

@Sense2024 Год назад

1st date for me! 😃 (I’m joking)

@Sapientiaa Год назад

Are you kidding? Most of them do it on the first. In fact I know girls who have done it seconds after meeting an individual; they will let a bunch of guys run trains on them. I know girls who were doing this at 14, and nowadays act as if they aren’t promiscuous with men that they are interested in, but while they are dating these men they are also getting railed by countless dudes.

@gloriamariadc7757 Год назад

It’s hard to not feel like “damaged goods” (from my 30s) while listening to this as a chaste 53 yo unmarried woman. Honestly grabbing onto Jesus is all that matters regardless if ur married or not. Being married to a good healthy person would be nice, but accepting God’s path for me needs to take precedence.

@lucimga Год назад

The same here. Even though I kind of feel rejected.

@robertbrown9785 Год назад

great point- these two are missing a lot- especially the Grace of God to restore those who weren't as perfect as them

@4321grp Год назад

gloriamariadc, Amen!! How true!

@ray-vf6ux Год назад

@@robertbrown9785 this is for people that are younger then us. There is no condemnation in this

@princesszara111 Год назад

Your virginity has NOTHING to do with your self worth and the value God has bestowed upon you. That’s a man made construct typically to benefit men

@hrv4908 Год назад

God didn't make no fornication/adultery rules for nothing. Your virginity is one of the most important gifts a married couple give to each other. Spirit + body = soul.

@phildeajackson Год назад

Amen! That is so true.

@briancarton1804 Год назад

God didn't make any rules because God don't exist. What about a widow or widower who can't save their virginity for a second marriage?

@PaulStringini Год назад

Problem is too many modern Christians do not see fornication and adultery as essentially equal.

@hrv4908 Год назад

@@PaulStringini Adultery is worse because of vows made and a contract in effect.

@PaulStringini Год назад

@@hrv4908 Morally, sure, but fornication is a bigger problem so I see them as more equal in overall societal detriment. Most people don't have any idea fornication is even bad. There is still stigma against adultery.

@Nothern_King Год назад

We live in a world of no restraint and no shame. Nothing worth having is easy.

@Portia620 Месяц назад

Agreed!

@shrilakshmi4238 26 дней назад

Right ! No value for anything including oneself !

@MetroidJr1220 13 дней назад

Let's say you want to have a healthy diet, which requires time and effort to maintain. There are people who stand fast against temptations and keep the diet 100% of the time. Others indulge, have cheat days and ruin the diet before it's even established. Then there are those who can have a cheat day every once in a while, but retain the healthy diet every other day. The problem is that many people who believe they can have cheat days and maintain the healthy diet actually can't. But there are some who can.

@Sir.Rome.805 Год назад

My kids are 24G, 18G and 16B and ALL waiting till marriage. I'm so blessed to have happy and confident children.

@christos3280 Год назад

God bless you and your children

@satyrsatyr3872 Год назад

Your are a strong believer!

@halima3u885 Месяц назад

its all about self esteem

@alextrezvy6889 Месяц назад

"waiting till marriage" // This is the corrupt language. In fact: the corrupt language actually leads to a sin. They say: "Why I have to wait? What if I die before it will happen? What if I die tomorrow?". The answer is: you are not waiting. You are _creating_ you future, including marriage. You learn, build, grow, achieve, express, contribute, until you become mature enough to attract/marry the right person.

@bayani7626 10 дней назад

that's what your kids want you to believe. just kidding lol

@FrogFarmRecords Год назад

My wife and I waited before we were married. We have been able to freely talk with confidence to our children about waiting with a clear conscience. That is something many parents don’t have. We are very grateful for this.

@crimsonite1524 Год назад

that is so beautiful, i hope to meet someone like this too so we can be like this to my future children

@bibekjung7404 Год назад

KABEER SUPREME GOD 🙏-🙏🙏-🙏

@virginiajimenez7955 Год назад

I needed to see this today. I'm 31 years old and have never been with anyone sexually despite having many potential options. Sometimes I second guess my decision to remain chaste. The timing of this video has refreshed and affirmed my commitment to staying chaste.

@jamaica2010ism Год назад

Waaaaaaiiiiiitttttt!!!!!!!

@virginiajimenez7955 Год назад

@@jamaica2010ism That's sweet of you! Thank you for the encouragement. 😊💗

@mariajnojules231 Год назад

53 going on 54 and still chaste. Fornication is not love, fornication is sin and the wages of sin is death.

@endtimesareuponus8930 Год назад

@@mariajnojules231 60+ and still chaste. There's nothing good about sin. NOTHING

@rautierautenbach6621 Год назад

Gee well done and all my respect to you You will reap what you have shown:Purity and God's favour

@majesticmalfeasance Год назад

I often feel as though I'm the last guy on earth who believes in keeping myself for my future wife, so it's good to hear you two talking about it in a positive manner. It's also nice to see the "sexology" profession used for honorable purposes, as, I believe, it started as a result of the fraudulent and highly destructive work of Alfred Kinsey.

@timypaul Год назад

You're not alone. Myself and few other friends of mine are on this path. A man must be able to control and conquer himself otherwise he can't conquer the world. I mentor my sister and several people to follow this path. Some are getting married and are extremely thankful they waited. Keep on keeping on man.

@markmcflounder15 Год назад

To the last part of the posters comment. When I read about Kinsey I was so horrified! He was an evil corrupt man & the academic community was silent for decades

@tracyorata3270 Год назад

Nice that's nice

@mariocooldude9092 Год назад

Awesome 👍 bother 😀 it ain't easy 😉 lol

@jaime-tm7rj Год назад

You're definitely not the last guy on earth to believe that. I'm 30 and I'm still keeping myself for marriage. God's plans sometimes take longer.

@kinnish5267 Год назад

Promiscuity habituates your heart to use people; restlessness and dissatisfaction will haunt each relationship undermining your ability to stop and fully love another just for who they are.

@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485 Год назад

Pretty sure you are correct, it definitely won’t be blessed as it goes against scripture

@saintlucia1596 4 месяца назад

Very true

@Rita1984 Год назад

I’m an orthodox Jew, my friends and I all waited for marriage. Best decision ever.

@jaybah836 Год назад

I see

@cbobadilla72 Год назад

Can we all agree if you mindset is it to get laid days before your wedding you don’t actually love the guy and your in no shape to marry in the first place. That’s still cheating if your engaged

@speakrighttogod Год назад

Thank you! Tell the TRUTH!!!!!!

@JACCO20082012 Год назад

I questioned why they glossed over that as well.

@acfkelly6291 Год назад

Why is that cheating?

@pvmoore1154 Год назад

@@acfkelly6291 Foreign words like "commitment", "honor", "covenant", etc. Who in their right mind would want to marry someone capable of being that intimate with someone else days before a "death do you part" union??? Dumpster juice is what you would be marrying.

@boomer1049 Год назад

@@acfkelly6291 It's called integrity! What you do when you think the other person doesn't know!

@stevenfromer3816 Год назад

If only we could go back in time to correct the things we did to others and ourselves.

@MichaelRutzz Год назад

@@HelenaHart_SPELLS actually helped me save my marriage with this,thank you

@ojurdenis1190 Год назад

Me too😔😔😔

@sharoncrawford7192 Год назад

I've often wished I could.

@mr.2cents.846 Год назад

Yes. But we can confess our mistakes to Jesus and He will forgive us. That's why He died on the cross for our sins and rose again on the third day.

@HelenaHart_SPELLS Год назад

@@sharoncrawford7192 you could try now , fast result

@bobwilkinson1217 Год назад

Your presentation should be presented in every venue, schools, churches, and everywhere possible.

@INgirl812 Год назад

NO, it should NOT. Save it for your evangelical church group.

@maxcorder2211 Год назад

@@INgirl812What problems do you see being caused by this presentation?

@hotice8885 Год назад

@@INgirl812 , are you just as passionately against homosexuality, transgenderism, and mastuebation books being pushed into schools--or just this teaching?

@davidwooten3430 Год назад

They would rather entertain them with drag shows

@adandel2281 Год назад

@@INgirl812 Save it for your 304 group.

@jadedfarmboy7264 Год назад

The woman who wanted to have a one night stand before she married to try someone else, should be questioning her relationship with her fiance on the whole. For her to even consider it, means that she is not totally committed to the marriage. Commitment during marriage is hard enough. To start from a point of doubt is not fair to either of you.

@cryptojihadi265 Год назад

She's got a lot bigger problems than that. She's not marriage material, period.

@vikinorman317 Год назад

Would she want her fiancé to do the same with another woman?

@Portia620 Месяц назад

That’s is being unfaithful and gross! I’m not surprised at all!!!

@IdratherbeinHobbiton Год назад

I wish I had waited for my husband and I wish he had waited for me. But we both had other partners before we met each other. I pray we can instill this knowledge and moral into our children so they don't live with this same regret.

@ReVoX161 Год назад

May i ask why you wish that ? I mean at least you don't feel you're missing out, right ?.

@DavidJames-eq3lj Год назад

Your honesty is refreshing. Alot of "image-protecting" comments on here and that will always make people feel quezy. We are all born sinners and compelled to sin. As Adam and eve sinned in the garden, ever since then we find ourselves living in a fallen world. But where sin did abound grace did much more abound. The main thing is that your relationship IS heathy and there is an indestructible bond between you and your dear husband,sister

@mangot589 Год назад

There’s nothing wrong with that, don’t beat yourself up with regret. just as long as you’re the last for each other, that’s all that matters, eh?

@questioneverything594 Год назад

@@ReVoX161Yup

@questioneverything594 Год назад

You know you enjoyed the ride. 😅

@berealrb1496 Год назад

I agree, saving myself for my first marriage and I’m 53 ..

@Sense2024 Год назад

You’re not alone

@TexanIndependence Год назад

For your first marriage?? You are kind of running out of time on that, why not go abroad to find a decent wife. There are very few good women in the West, so that might be your issue. Just a suggestion...

@MisterDaryn Год назад

It didn’t save your marriage?

@berealrb1496 Год назад

@@MisterDaryn Single, never married..walking with Jesus pure relationships, no dating.

@user-eo1zs5tn4m Год назад

Western culture is everywhere now

@eugenelombard960 Год назад

We are currently living in a world where morality no longer exists. Abortion is just another form of contraception. Public schools and universities have become breeding grounds for all forms of vices. My prayers are for all the parents who still have young children and also for those couples who still believe in traditional marriage.

@chrisgemmix0815 Год назад

It's funny you say that morality no longer exists. I'd say the opposite is true, we've made so much progress in developing and applying ethical systems based on sensible human rights, finally starting to overcome religious pseudo-morals based on bronze age societies. Religious beliefs have kept us in dark ages for centuries, so let's cherish the ethical enlightenment that rational thinking has brought us.

@icedminttea2934 Год назад

@eugene Lombard I'm not sure it's ever existed. There's lots of examples from the past where people having multiple partners.

@beme2032 Год назад

There is a passage in the Bible of Abraham doing it with some strange woman on the side of the road. That’s a passage that never gets read in church. To the other point, morals and morality exist-just seems like not many people live by them. That’s probably why there is so much suffering in the world. Funny how people like to blame God/Jesus for what people have done.

@eugenelombard960 Год назад

@@beme2032 Please give Bible reference of Abraham doing it at the "side of a road" as I cannot find it. Thanks.

@ILoveSoImAlive Год назад

we are currently living in a world, where everyone lives in his own world. defined by information we consume and people we are hanging up with.

@justsewit_tk5477 Год назад

I was just having this kind of conversation with my son who is almost 18. We were talking about relationships with girls and how it is better to have someone who is committed to just one person rather than running off to many people with one glance etc. Commitment is crucial for a long lasting relationship - period! I have only had my husband and so we both don't know what we've missed out on because we haven't missed out on anything!

@WonderBoy0403 Год назад

Awsome and very rare story.

@virgilmihaila223 Год назад

Amen ! Well spoken and true. God Bless you Guys.

@fredstriker2042 Год назад

If you truly cared for him, you'd ENSURE he knows of dangers of marriage

@Masowe. 7 месяцев назад

@kongasmr2581 we kissed a few hours before wedding. It was magnetic to say the least. We held hands after the wedding. My husband kissed and held hands before me though

@timeforce80 5 месяцев назад

@@fredstriker2042 exactly if she cared she would say don't marry it's not worth the risk

@Rabbinicphilosophyforthewin Год назад

I basically got married for sex-I couldn’t control myself. But I have a hard time imagining it going differently. When looking at the person to marry, I had no idea how to weigh criteria. I mean, I’d never been married for years and years before, so I didn’t even know the right questions to ask-I didn’t know what I didn’t know. But. My wife had a tremendous faith, so I knew at the deepest level we believed the same. That’s what’s kept us together. Sometimes, it’s been just about the only thing, but it’s been enough for 26 years and it keeps getting better.

@HelenaHart_SPELLS Год назад

use the law of attraction in my bio for fast results

@MichaelRutzz Год назад

Actually helped me save my marriage with this,thank you

@Rabbinicphilosophyforthewin Год назад

@@MichaelRutzz I’m saying a prayer for God’s blessings on your marriage, wherever it is right now.

@MichaelRutzz Год назад

@@Rabbinicphilosophyforthewin go for Helena she will help you too

@Rabbinicphilosophyforthewin Год назад

@@MichaelRutzz who is Helena?

@km47804 Год назад

I’ve struggled with this my whole life. If you don’t “put out” on the 3rd date, they either ghost or put you on the back burner while they continue to sleep with other people…promiscuous men completely gross me out. I tried a one night stand once and it was AWFUL. After that, I said never again.

@AuroraBoarder1 Год назад

Good point. That's why communication is important. I once heard a story in the 80s when a man propositioned a woman on the 3rd date, and she declined, saying she wasn't ready. He actually thanked her. He said he wasn't ready either; he just wanted to show her he cared.

@timeforce80 5 месяцев назад

Too late now other guys are gonna go OH I SEE, you can sleep with the other guy right away but not me

@alanf.9490 Год назад

Chasity before marriage and complete fidelity afterwards is a law that brings happiness and trust. It avoids self deception and misery. Breaking laws like this leads to emptiness, unhappiness, broken relationships and heartache. It’s what the Lord expects of his children. God’s law of chastity is given to us because of love for us and knowing the consequences of violating it.

@jeralddyrek1780 Год назад

I finished one of my oil paintings and I titled it "Wisdom is the Final Frontier." In other words, with all of life's knowledge, will you have the Wisdom to use it?"

@samernammari8785 Год назад

It also happens to men. Comparing your spouse or partner to former partners is so damaging to a relationship.

@MichaelRutzz Год назад

@@HelenaHart_SPELLS actually helped me save my marriage with this, thank you

@melissap2957 Год назад

What about when your 2nd partner is much better than the previous one(s) and they feel the same about you? It definitely makes you appreciate them more and never have a doubt if they are your everything. If you had no previous experience, you wouldn't have this understanding.

@samernammari8785 Год назад

@@melissap2957 I somewhat agree, and I’ve had this experience before. I try not to make comparisons in my relationship though-I want to appreciate my partner the way she is, not how better or different she is than my previous relationship.

@mcmans. Год назад

@@melissap2957 Rarely are Sloppy Seconds Better...

@A_T__ Год назад

Everyone can do whatever they want. To grow up is to understand that there is a cost to every decision you make in life, and there is no escaping pay day 😆

@Star-bp5jj 10 месяцев назад

Well said

@brandonsmith2136 Год назад

im a single guy i started saving myself after a few horrible relationship ended badly because i sleep with a woman before marriage i decided to follow god and save myself for marriage and wait for the right woman this is a great video im sharing this video

@mak88119 Год назад

Doing it God's way is always best.

@chrisgemmix0815 Год назад

You mean not existing? That's sad.

@speakrighttogod Год назад

Blessings are the reward of obedience to God's will; curses are the reward of disobedience. God's way/mind on how to live is the ONLY RIGHT WAY! Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage is honourable in all [with your spouse ONLY], and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."

@MFPWM2010 Год назад

Raise your kids with a biblical view on sexuality and marriage.

@MrTruthAddict Год назад

Horrible idea

@leahclement4562 Год назад

I agree

@dianebenker3072 Год назад

I am 72 and wish I had heard this kind of advice when I was 19.

@timmcdowell4092 Год назад

I believe the proper term is chastity before marriage. Celibate is to remain unmarried

@DanielByers-qf9qi Год назад

Yes. Thank you. Few understand that. It is possible (actually, common) to be celibate but not chaste. Inveterate uncommitted womanizers are technically celibate.

@darienchrysafis3655 Год назад

My understanding is that we are soul and body creatures. The only spirits we have are either the Holy Spirit of the Living God or demonic spirits. Spirits are persons.

@priscillaashton4304 Год назад

Not true. You can be married and be celebate. Joseph and Mary were celebate

@timsans1170 Год назад

@priscilla ashton So says the Catholic. No one else believes that Nonsense

@sonofglory7029 Год назад

@@darienchrysafis3655 The burden of the word of the LORD against Israel. Thus says the LORD, who stretches out the heavens, lays the foundation of the earth, and forms the spirit of man within him: Zechariah 12:1 The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, Roman 8:16

@absolve4024 Год назад

As a woman I never compared men to other men. What did happen is the deep wounding of betrayal I felt in my own body. We betray ourselves when we just use our bodies intimately with people who can’t be with us through our lives. I think it’s men’s journey to logically size experiences against each other, while women’s journey can be more intimacy betrayal.

@heidiWava Год назад

@Absolve40 can I ask what you mean by the last sentence of your comment?

@joshuafusselman3323 Год назад

Thank you for your valuable insight!

@judymartuscello114 Год назад

I agree. I had many partners before marriage. The comparison thing does not happen with me. However I am deeply wounded from it on a soul level. ( Of course I was wounded from childhood which is why I became sexually active

@nocturnaljoe9543 Год назад

If you don't compare people to each others. How do you apprechiate them? What you wrote makes zero sense. Consciously or not. You are genetically wired to compare men to each others. It is literally what made our developement as the current species possible. The amount of copium here is making my head spin.

@kinnish5267 Год назад

Promiscuity habituates your heart to use people; restlessness and dissatisfaction will haunt each relationship undermining your ability to stop and fully love another just for who they are.

@aztecknight81 Год назад

If I could go back to that fateful day when I crossed that line…If I only knew what what I was opening myself to 😔

@89jmills Год назад

Media and society glamorize promiscuity to the detriment of the happiness of all. Young women in particular are taught it is empowering to have a decade long rumspringer through their twenties, then are surprised when they get to the other side of 30 unfulfilled and single, or maybe in a dysfunctional relationship due to the emotional baggage they have accumulated through a decade of bad decisions. Young men, similarly, think that having surface level interactions with women in a superficial manner are somehow more fulfilling than a deep connection with a life partner. Our values are backwards, and we are our own worst enemies.

@edrtcw222 Год назад

"it's my right to do whatever I want with my body" .... "sure it is, but realize there is trade offs to 'whatever' behaviors you engage in... and some of those include pregnancy, stds, future relationship issues with other people..."

@Selah888 Год назад

This comment section really blessed and motivates me more to stay pure and not settle for less.

@poisonedchalice Год назад

So grateful my husband and I were virgins and waited until after marriage.

@Faithfullfertilitytv Год назад

Love the intro showing non Christian and Christian perspective. We married as virgins too. Great content

@shahtalha9325 Год назад

As a Muslim all my family were virgins till they got married, same for parents, grand parents and great grandparents.

@Yazmin2002 Год назад

That’s beautiful! I wish our society pushed being sexually pure more than being sexually immoral

@stravadacreson6471 Год назад

But muslim do poligamy

@Juststayhopeful Год назад

@@Yazmin2002 Right

@shahtalha9325 Год назад

@@stravadacreson6471 Truth is most western people do polygamy (one man with multiple women) or polyandry (one woman with multiple men) but Muslims just do it in a legal manner by getting married and staying loyal. 60% or married couples cheat sometimes with multiple partners then you also gave open relationships. Also many men have 2-3 girlfriends at once but no one says anything to that. I wonder why that is!!!

@TribusCaputCanis Год назад

That you know of.

@baldwinndovi1637 Год назад

This is a good topic. I made a mistake i don't want to repeat. I have been living celibate now for five and half years. I think its better to wait than regret. Many Christian parents need to open up to their children and ensure they hild biblical standards

@Drspeiser Год назад

Super cool table. So thankful to God for my salvation and for the opportunity to do things God's way. The first time I kissed my wife was the moment the pastor said, "You may kiss the bride.". I have lots of regrets from everything I did before salvation, but I have no regrets with my wife whatsoever.

@Bergerons_Review Год назад

Just found the channel. I'm amazed that such a level headed straightforward channel even exists on youtube.

@annturner1256 Год назад

I don't understand why it's always the issue of a woman's virginity and not the man's.

@B3BOP Год назад

In my opinion it is best for both to be virgins since they can hold each other to that standard of keeping themselves for each other only.

@pgtips2 Год назад

It's not just the woman, both is important.

@ethanweber7976 Год назад

They just used an example who happened to be a woman. The rest of what they said applied evenly to both males and females.

@stormrider112 Год назад

It applies equally to both men and women. They wanted to use an example and it just so happened that it was a woman in this particular case.

@TribusCaputCanis Год назад

That's why the women are ditching it, too. It looks like a scam.

@hamjeepr8881 Год назад

Great discussion! I wish more kids today would listen to this.

@slimfbiggyansah4295 Год назад

Mainstream media will forbid them from hearing 😢

@Torahobservantcatmom Год назад

It makes a spiritual bond. You don't want a spiritual bond with a person you aren't married with. A persons soul actually ties with with every single person they bed. A person leaves the door wide open for demons to enter their life. They are giving Satan a foothold.

@TribusCaputCanis Год назад

What is a spiritual bond and how does it work?

@margaritapavic Год назад

Known exorcist Peter Glas has yt videos on this topic.

@rosesyrup1104 Год назад

Soul ties are not biblical. This is a pagan concept. I would suggest watching Doreen Virtue's video about it.

@joshlarkin5022 Год назад

I am in a younger generation (In my mid/late 20s) and both my wife and I waited until wedding night, that was the best decision ever and we are so grateful we waited. We got married in our early 20s.

@Sir.Rome.805 Год назад

So worth it to keep waiting till marriage for those of you who are still V's. ✝️

@nickeilfarquharson5571 Год назад

@Sir.Rome.805 Год назад

Not too late to become celebate if not a V. Do it for Him.✝️

@overbank56 Год назад

Interesting conversation. Single, never married, no kids & never been with anyone. 57

@danilaroche1156 Год назад

It's not too late! If you desire marriage go to the Lord about it. God is able.

@compass5507 Год назад

Keeping God's commandments makes life easier, more rewarding, and much less complicated and problematic.

@dee1nesh738 Год назад

Am a single mom raising a son 13)now and i tey as much as possible to talk to him. Am so thrilled to see him watching this (got this from him) its my prayer he will not make mistakes i made in life. Thenks for this

@timeforce80 Год назад

Why should he wait for marriage when every other guy is getting it for much cheaper.

@shahzebnasir4692 Год назад

@@timeforce80because he honours the others’ soul, understands the complexity and value of another human being and doesn’t just see a woman as an object that is a means to an end. He’s already laying down the foundations to be able to love fully rather than see every relationship as a transaction which unfortunately seems to be the case with you putting a price on it.

@timeforce80 Год назад

@@shahzebnasir4692 every relationship is transactional this is not Disney

@69erthx1138 Год назад

Based on the idea that we make decisions based upon a weighted average of our prior experience, it does stand to reason that "saving yourself" for the right person makes sense.

@jesse75 Год назад

That's logical. But we are not talking about that when inflamed with normal breeding passion. And a person doesn't even understand it themselves.

@samdye3038 Год назад

Exceptional advice! I believe this is in line with how God wants his children to behave so they can experience true love and joy!

@williss1192 Год назад

One of the best videos I've seen regarding this topic. Purity is very important, good job!

@thecommonmanperspective1871 Год назад

I must confess, I've given myself to one woman, but she has had multiple partners and she would describe her experiences. I was with her for 27 years and I never loved her because I couldn't get over the disgust I felt towards her. I regret ever meeting her. Sorry for the rant folks. It's just a very sensitive issue for me.

@Grace-to6hn Год назад

What made you stay with her for so long when you felt disgusted with her. I'm not judging, I'm just genuinely curious 🤔

@thecommonmanperspective1871 Год назад

@@Grace-to6hn , because of lust. I didn't have confidence in myself, I didn't love myself, and I was lost and lonely. Reflecting back, I was young and very misguided.

@wehavespoken9593 Год назад

And how do you assume she feels

@thecommonmanperspective1871 Год назад

@@wehavespoken9593 , she felt heartbroken and ashamed. I didn't love her, I was just using her. Our separation was a very bad separation.

@sarahalderman3126 Год назад

Why would you waste her life like that? That’s awful, for both of you.

@pete86 Год назад

So beautiful seeing this wonderful Father and Daughter relationship. You are both blessed.

@robtam7529 Год назад

I am single at 59 and dating. It is difficult at all ages.

@skip741x3 Год назад

Geez bro, im 63 and been in relationship for 28yrs.. if anything happened to her and I were on my own, I doubt I'd be dating.. I wouldnt know where to begin!...LOL a woman would have to approach Me to initiate anything...

@beme2032 Год назад

Beautiful video. Thank you. I think this needs to be played in every home. It should be a mandatory view in every junior high school.

@DonRood-fx3dt Месяц назад

Waiting for the “right” person and spending a lifetime continuing to learn about each other intimately is glorious. Waiting until you’re married and getting a “bait and switch” pulled on you on your wedding night and being largely “sexless” for 30 years and counting is a living nightmare. Ask me how I know…

@eliwilliamson7849 25 дней назад

Same.

@danielnovak4284 Год назад

Thanks for sharing this! It was very informative. God bless you both! Peace be with you!

@Anthony071177 Год назад

I really enjoyed this video and was glued the entire time to all the great positive information. It’s so different from what everyone else online and on RU-vid mainly focus on just for clicks. Your video here is actually helpful to so many in our current climate. None of us are perfect nor flawless; so we as a society need more uplifting positive information & help to bring us together and to keep us together!

@KinuGrove Год назад

Love how open and honest this conversation is. I need to talk about this with my kids so they don't make mistakes like i did.

@MdnoorMirza Год назад

Main problem is that men didn't follow theirs religions properly, In religion has every problem's salutation. But now days western culture is removing thirs religion, and saying so called modern . Culture is made by Religion and western countries is majority Cristian. But western peoples are trying to create theirs new worst , sinfully culture which couldn't exist before 200 years .

@jaredvaughan1665 Год назад

The honeymoon is 100 times better when both are virgins. And not surprisingly the marriage is statistically more successful also with less chance of divorce.

@danilaroche1156 Год назад

This is correct.

@joebloggs430 Год назад

BS there is no evidence of this. In the kind of ultra-conservative societies where people are still pressured into remaining virgins divorce is also taboo and wives are forced to stay with husbands because they have no options to leave the marriage and be indpendent.

@jeralddyrek1780 Год назад

Careful! Every three years begins a change in all of us! Even Nothing has nuances.

@prettyboishah2898 Год назад

@@jeralddyrek1780 What do you mean by this comment.

@Burt1038 Год назад

I must confess that, as a man, I feel crippling anxiety and cynicism when it comes to relationships, because I fear being lied to by women and am alarmed by the ease with which women will engage in treacherous behavior and dissociate from it almost immediately. It makes me very paranoid that I have to perform sexually right away or else a woman will make a fool of me.

@AaronSilver-Pell Год назад

Hear you man! There are good women out there and if not, well you can always be like Tesla.

@mrcalderoneful Год назад

@@AaronSilver-Pell What did Tesla do?

@konstantinosrope-maker1228 Год назад

@@mrcalderoneful Didn't focus on women, he just had birds iirc

@johnhagan-zr4pm Год назад

Do not make a rod for your own back Burt "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so" To be part of the world, you have to engage with it. The Internet and RU-vid may be unrepresentative and not real for your life So much has changed in dating/Hook Up culture, but things always stay the same. Approaching girls with a negative view of them, dooms you to failure. It's like talking to someone you don't like. You must realize that "being lied to" or overcoming your fears will only make you a stronger Man.

@johnhagan-zr4pm Год назад

@Merci Politely The quote comes from Hamlet. What it means is that how you perceive something, will determine how you experience it.

@WhyNotYouWhyNotNow Год назад

Thank you so much for this episode! I have a 14-year old daughter and am hoping we can talk about this topic openly and she saves herself for marriage. If you’re going to comment and don’t have anything positive to say, plz just move on.

@jaredbednar9667 Год назад

Goodluck

@deshajames2224 Год назад

Don't hope, you have to talk to her, make the space comfortable for her to talk.

@WhyNotYouWhyNotNow Год назад

@@deshajames2224 I have and I plan to continue

@deshajames2224 Год назад

@@WhyNotYouWhyNotNow GREAT.

@yogiine Год назад

What if she dont want to get married... then what? Not everyone want marriage.

@timexpeachtree Год назад

As a believer it warms my heart to be mindfulness of the lord and to blessed by his grace in this life and the hearafter and to have a lawful and happy marital life.

@alvingallegos6367 Год назад

This topic concerning being more conservative bringing purity to your life also reminds me of historical precedents from our parents being the influencing factor in a marriage partner from before the 20th century. That time points to no existence of dating which in turn creates less temptation and relying on the wisdom younger folks lack which in turn helps create a good blend and respects the individual's security in life including their spiritual level so in order to be evenly yoked with a believer that holds a proper understanding of God's Word because it takes a solid plumb line to stay on the same page instead of marrying a person that doesn't understand Godly wisdom.

@warrior7787 Год назад

Sin causes sickness in our bodies

@stormrider112 Год назад

I was reading through David and Bathsheba recently and it taught me a few things. I was struck by the fact that even if we repent and are forgiven for our sins, it doesn't mean that it doesn't have consequences that affect other people (e.g. David and Bathsheba's first baby).

@misskaykay1856 Год назад

This was such a wholesome conversation! I will be drilling this into my children’s minds when I become a parent some day! This is so important. And as a Christian, it’s even moreeee important

@juliad368 Год назад

What's important is not 'drilling' things into your children's minds but guiding them and supporting as they become who THEY choose to be.

@msdee2905 Год назад

Soul ties are real!!

@mrsdanmiller Год назад

Indeed….it’s undeniable when your mate dies

@stardust1621 Год назад

@@mrsdanmiller 🙏💜

@ghettomarc50 Год назад

100% real.

@BryceMWalter Год назад

Some people are more resistant to them than others but yes they are real. I personally belive they might effect women worse than men.

@nocturnaljoe9543 Год назад

@@BryceMWalter Is there anything that affects men more than women, in your feminized world view?

@johndoee3850 Год назад

Father and daughter, very good communication!

@lisajohnson4744 Год назад

Aside from the questionable claim that you’re “going to be comparing your spouse” to the guy you picked up on Wednesday before your Saturday wedding, the bigger question is, why do you want to cheat on your guy like that? What does the actual CHEATING, the INFIDELITY, say about the relationship??

@mmbtalk Год назад

Great conversation and I think this will be useful to many of our Christian young people in this current challenging generation. You are so natural and I hope as a parent responsible over many young people can learn your skills, but anyhow, I will use this video for our youths

@kenanishmael3328 Год назад

I totally agree . Make it valuable for your self , for your morals, feelings and relationship. Bring value to your life and family.

@wonkothesane7000 Год назад

I can still remember the first time I made love to my Partner. Most people I know cannot. They forgot about it before they realized it was special.

@MLWJ1993 Год назад

Exactly why would you limit the first time to be the ONLY special moment? Sounds like you're setting yourself up for disappointment, I'd aim for every single time being a special moment 🤔

@jamesbranner4029 Год назад

I believe the conversion of body mind and soul and making that connection with your spouse is the more important conversion rather than saving for marriage thats my opinion and i grew up with parents that had both conversations with me! 20 yrs and the longer we are together the better the intimacy gets and i thank god for that!

@venree7847 Год назад

A gem of a video! It was quite educational and gave me a deeper understanding and appreciation of my decision to remain celibate until I remarry. I intend to share this video with my long distance love interest so we can be on the same page when we meet again in the future. Again, thank you for sharing your discussion on this important topic. Its material is precious.

@Sijilos Год назад

I really wish you the best in that relationship!

@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485 Год назад

It’s the right thing to do, God bless you

@samsungs21ultra-cn8oj Год назад

The doctor is correct 100%

@johndoee3850 Год назад

91 percent.

@freeto9139 Год назад

Thank you for this frank and refreshing conversation. People used to speak more openly like this in the not too distant past. Judging by the comments; you have inspired a great deal of soul searching and inner honesty. Please keep it up 🕊️

@floydbuster9513 Год назад

Thank you so much for the video it had so much positive information, the only other area that I would add to it and I know you probably had a short time to do it. For those who have already been sexually you could have gave a couple of steps to get back to purity. God does restore our mind and can help us to be pure again. 😊

@justinhorrell2251 Год назад

I am a childrens and youth pastor and i love this "video saved"

@joseph4848 Год назад

So grateful to God I stumbled on this channel today.

@mypointofview1111 Год назад

30-40 years ago this subject was debated ad nauseum. Now it's reopened from the other end. Its a personal matter and people should be able to pursue what feels right for them without unnecessary pressure

@judygranberg4018 Год назад

Tried to tell some young people in our church this just a few days ago! Will certainly pass this on ( first time seen your channel-- subscribed!)

@Jummy_Endowed Год назад

Good

@cleipotzful Год назад

This was a very beneficial information especially for teenagers in today's world. I myself agreed into this. Especially in my own spiritual beliefs. 🙏 Thank you very much for uploading this excellent conversation.

@MrGuggisberg Год назад

Too bad no teens will care.

@cleipotzful Год назад

@MrGuggisberg there must be some few it depends how their parents will raise them I believe.

@Growmap Год назад

@@MrGuggisberg Some would if anyone ever discussed it with them.

@lilyvonbulo9636 Год назад

I absolutely agree and love this video!! The explanation of love is spot on!! I'm crying! Thank you for such a good video on this subject

@jesse75 Год назад

Please then don't trash the next guy you are with. Lots of good but not perfect around.

@eddylesjacinthe8911 Год назад

Hello Daddy and Daughter I love watching your show so much. This is the way father and kids relationship should be. Sooo good that is worth to suggest it to others. Good job guys. I love you dearly.

@basabipal5502 Год назад

That was really some very good and valuable advice to all the young people! Thank you ever so much! 😊🙏

@audrey6928 Год назад

This is wonderful!! Geeat, honest, teaching. As someone birn again and narried with my old sins covered by the blood, it definitely does effect intimacy. I bever understood that as i grew up Jewish and not taught spiritual ramifications, only worldly ramifications. I believe everyone should here this. Please make more of these!! Gis bless you both greatly

@endtimesareuponus8930 Год назад

So are you a Completed Jew?

@NordiskSeger Год назад

The sexologist is really bringing up some great points while simultaneously reclaiming the status of his profession (by speaking facts). Certainly a real professional at its finest.👌

@christianben2940 Год назад

I love this.... Please make it more Biblical..... The creator of marriage cannot be excluded from marriage when teaching about marriage.... Thank you for this good work.... More Grace and wisdom in the name of Jesus Christ... Amen

@carolinpurayidom4570 Год назад

The reason why they are keeping it relatively secular is because they are approaching it from a scientific viewpoint

@G_Demolished Год назад

@@carolinpurayidom4570 Marriage predates Christianity. So I’m assuming you mean it was created by Brahma.

@Book_Dragon2562 Год назад

Not everyone believes in God or wants to. Keeping it non-biblical and scientific reaches a larger demographic and makes an impact on those who aren’t already being pressured to wait.

@christianben2940 Год назад

Well well well... None of you have the answers to counter my point of making the teaching on marriage more Biblical.... Your points are noted but not useful to me... Thank you

@mrtechie6810 Год назад

@@christianben2940 he mentions Genesis.

@CrownedJulz Год назад

So glad this is being talked about with candor and honesty. There's too much justification for not saving virginity when that's the way God has intended.