Stop overthinking it. Play your card and be willing to cut your losses if things don’t go your way. The world is full of ppl. Just say “her/his loss” and continue your life. Don’t get hung up on “this is the one, I need this one” just keep it cool
Quality > quantity. Any rational man would want to hold the nurturing and peace giving woman with no past rather than a girl that brings drama and was ran through. If there's another it doesn't mean it's the same quality. Can't blame men for not having the "well I'll just move on to the next woman, whatever" mentality. Especially in today's day and age where almost every man and a woman is a terrible partner due to internet,feminism, simp mentality etc. Stop overthinking it is a terrible advice... Unless you have no self respect and would settle for a used 304
I agree. Overthinking will kill it. I started seeing a girl who is WAY out of my league. Im just an average looking man with an okay job but I took my shot anyway and she said yes and we’ve been out 4 or 5 times now. I called/text her the next day after our first date and she loved that I did that. Trust your instincts and go for it. If it’s who you are and they reject it, then they are not worth your time to begin with.
Guy’s dating coach: “Don’t text HER after the first date” Girl’s dating coach: “Don’t text HIM after the first date” *guy and girl never see each other again*
Dysfunctional power play games that lead to nobody feeling fulfilled in the end. Dating is shit in 2023. Any man with common sense would see it as a lose lose situation
Honestly I think every girl would appreciate a message after the date or the next day. If you ended the date in the evening, check she got home okay, don’t play games, don’t waste her time, be a grown up and step up if you want to see her again. You can always say you had a nice time, wait a few days then ask if she would like to schedule the next date.
Never once have I ever thought “this guy is lame for texting me after our date” 🙄 There’s nothing wrong with the man doing the follow up… either the woman or the man. Don’t follow this shit.
We spend to much money and time. And some men open up car doors, you better send the follow up text. Just got you a free meal and princess treatment, that’s your job.
This is ridiculous 😂 This advice only applies if she is a superficial one. Many girls told me the exact opposite. I did what he is saying with my second girlfriend cause I didn’t want to look oppressive, but when we got together she confessed me that she really was expecting me to write her after the date and me not doing so made her think that I didn’t care and I almost lost her
I still think the fact that you’re taking her out and all that… the least she can do is do the follow up text after the date. Not the guy doing everything.
@@von6413 Men have to approach first because women are stereotyped as being “hoes” when they approach a man too fast, this is why most of us women rely on their signal.
This happened to me too. After I had sex with a girl. I decided to text her the day after because my friend told me I should have text her and not be a douchebag. She then revealed to me a few days after that the was right about to block me because she thought I didn't like her but then she received my message.
When a guy texts me after the first date, he will become so more attractive and respected in my eyes honestly . When a guy is playing game, girls find it out!
If you don't follow up, we'll think you're not interested. Terrible advice. A simple "Did you get home okay?" Is a great opener, shows you're interested in our safety, which is heart warmer for us. The lady can take the conversation from there
And when the man follows up he is considered a weak in your eyes. Then the disrespect happens because you don't see him as the dominant, independent man. You say 1 thing but in 99% of the cases do another. I've seen it happen, I've tested it and other men already saw how your actions contradict your words.
@AngelG No, not weak at all. Simply interested. A Man who's interested in my personal safety, in my humble opinion is a dominant man and one who seems would protect. That's what women want. I personally can't speak for the 99% of floosies you've been with. For me it's pretty simple, when a guy texts & I get that opener, I'll thank him for a lovely evening & take it from there. If she starts with the disrespect because you're being respectful and asking a simple question, she is and always will be disrespectful no matter when you decide to get in contact, put her in the bin. Women like Men, Men who go for what they want, that's a sign of dominance. If she says no or is impartial and you persist, that's seen as weak. I wouldn't want that. Take the 1st no & don't look back. Sorry for the essay, I do hope it helps x
@@andresvos I have a girlfriend, I never had issues with my interactions with women. And its often the case that women are the ones who approach me more often than I approach them. I see what kind of men women want to be around with and that man is never a weak minded individual (aka simp). The reality is simple though, but it's not even red pilled since red pill is more optimistic than it
….. just gonna add my 2 cents when guys do that I assume they didn’t like me and they didn’t care if I got home safely. Almost every day has told me “text me when you get home” I text them “I’m home 😊 “ and they either reply the same night or in the AM “glad you made it safe I had fun” or they text me before and we usually already planned the next date before the 1st date ended. I understand not being a simp or over investing or doing too much validating but when it’s someone you vibe with all those corny ass rules go out the window and you can genuinely enjoy yourself with someone (ps if she didn’t like you waiting to text won’t change it and if she did like you texting the same night or next day won’t change that either!
In my opnion, these mind games and strategies really depend on who you are and what you're looking for. If you find a good girl who u actually wana marry and start a family with, please don't play these games. If you want other stuff then by all means do this stuff.
Any man that wants to get married is playing the worst game of all. I cant even be happy for a guy that's getting married. I actually feel sorry for him.
Don't listen to him. If you like her tell her directly, doesn't matter on or after the date. If she doesn't appreciate it or doesn't like you back, at least you know where you stand, and you can move on quickly.
Totally agree, ive been in many dates and i can guarantee you guys when the girl likes you she texts you first at least asking if you got home and she had good time, if she doesn't, just don't bother shes not interested...every girl who hasnt texted me when i texted her later she wasnt that interested and the one who were interested always texted...so please guys never ever text her after a date, wait for her to do so,even she wasn't that interested she might become intrigued so its a win win situation
My bow boyfriend actually texted me right after our date and we talked for hours, I was so happy that he texted me. I think if you ask someone out and you’re sure the person enjoyed your company as much you did, you can definitely be the first one to text after the date
There is truth to this from my experience, but I would say you could tell her “text me when you get home” when y’all part ways and when she does, just respond with “Great. Have a good night!” And then wait a couple of days before reaching out again. Plus you’ll get an idea of how it went from her response. She’ll either just text you “home” or she’ll text you “Hey, I’m home. I had a good time tonight :)”
@Liberal Culler completely disagree most men tell lies to use and abuse and throw and also trap little innocent girls and women for prostitution ra*e early death n make money pimping n exploiting those innocents, so whose the master manipulater and selfish males here etc etc N if you said women are playing get your facts straight teenage and young girls may do that in self discovery but then again that's what men chase young women or girls not right age so obviously you will not have them long term in the process of their self discovery just like men do. Women on the other don't play they want straightforwardness as they've been hurt to many times by so many boys pretending to be men n leading in the lies but playing one to another and no care of the damage they do. G
@@angelg3642 most of women n girls I know the men have played games when they put their heart in it n lies n heartbreak. Some girls may play but most ladies just want to be happy with one guy.
@@tranquilgiftsonline The fact that they want something doesn't mean they don't play games 💀. Men play games only because that's how your feelings start sparkling and once it does that's when you start feeling attracted. Men are smart, women are not. As a woman all you have to do is not be fat, be feminine, not bring drama, be your man's cheerleader and you can have almost any dude in the planet. Even the nasty women with sh1tty attitude can find a loving dude by their side. I have 0 sympathy for you choices because I've seen it first hand how you pick your partner and how much most of yall can offer.
@@angelg3642 Bro please get off the Internet and start interacting with women in real life so you can increase your social and people skills. There’s a huge world out there and you’d be surprised at how decent some people actually are off of IG and outside of RU-vid
I see both sides of this, if the girl is thinking the same thing and waits then you may have blown it for nothing, i think bottom line is if they like you and you messaged it wouldnt affect it
True. It sorta depends on the type of woman. Personally if I went out on a date and enjoyed it and went back home and the guy didn't even text to ask if I got home safely (worse if I see him online) then I'd assume he isn't that interested in me. Then I'd overthink haha.
Good share. Let her text u back to let u know if she got home safe. If she doesn't, that means SHE DOESN'T EVEN CARE to let u know she's safe. So don't chase nonsensical or classless women. Enjoy ya moments & live in ya peace.
There’s literally nothing wrong with texting a woman after the date, a few days ago I had a nearly two hour conversation with a friend who was a girl texted her “ thanks for rambling with me for almost two hours” she responded positively and all though it was really a date we still hung out and talked there’s nothing wrong with doing this
It's not but if you ask her to text you to let you know that she got home safe, let her. She might even forget but at least in the morning she'll let you know. That's if she's a thoughtful individual and wants to prioritize you. Men set the pace in the standard. In return you gotta let the woman "wrestle up"
Fuck playing games. Fuck deception. Fuck these childlike standards. The dating scene needs more authenticity, vulnerability, care and less judgement. Start to take accountability. Dating will only get worse the more we continue to try hide behind these silly games
unfortunatelly my experince is that you have to. I made mistakes like this. The moment I steped out from the " I can replace you" frame to the " I like you wanna meet you more often" I always lost the girl.
Too many stupid rules these people make up. It don’t work that way just be yourself and go with the vibe. Stop overthinking every scenario and breathe 😊
@hishenmathurin2844exactly. That attitude got me nowhere. I thought about shit for too long and nothing is just gonna come your way especially a female.
The times I went on a date and haven't reached back after. This women never reached to me unless I text them. This women so entitled this days. Can't with this
Totally agreez i consider myself highly experienced in the dating world and its true...an interested girl will always text you after a date and will find anything to say ...if she doesn't say anything like i had goood time or did you get home or hey i got home...then there is no way she's interested...personally if they don't talk at alll i still say did you get home to be polite especially if you didn't drop her off , but in that case i know shes not interested....never let that drop your confidence level cause even the most high value men go through that sometimes....good luck guys
A man not texting or making an effort after the first will make a female want to leave more. Women perceive it as if you aren’t interested. This is not good advice at all.
she ghosted on me now. luckily I don’t do stupid simp things after the date like you said. if they’re gonna go they gonna go. i have to always remind myself not to simping, ngl.
i'm a girl and this is crazy. you want a girlfriend? don't listen to these guys. any of them. just be a nice person and you'll attract someone. thinking that there's some secret button you can press that'll make us love you is exactly what we DON'T like. be who you are, don't overthink it!
I actually did text the same night, hell, I called her on the phone, im sure she enjoyed the date because after going our on ways, she came back to me and we kissed for about 10 min and I still was able to see her for a second date. It really depends on the situation, who you went out with and how things developed.
Nah, any man that is successful with women will tell you exactly that. I for once partially disagree with him since context of your relationship matters but for the most part its TRUE. Women get insanely turned off from such men, you say you don't but 99% of women get turned off and start losing interest after that. Men don't take advice from women on how to get women for a reason - you say 1 thing but then do another. Most of yall have no idea what you're attracted to.
Nah this is facts and I found this out on accident I ain’t even have to ask. I remember a girl asked me after our first date (my ex) to text her and let her know I made it back ok. I got home, rolled one up and jumped in the shower and changed into my pjs I pick up my phone from the charger cus I was about to text her and I already had two texts from her I said “ you was pose2 wait for me🤦🏾♂️” she said “well you took too long😭😭” high interest women always reach out first after the date cus she wants to make sure she’ll see you again. Also, y’all shouldn’t be texting girls at the beginning unless it’s to set up a new date and you should probably wait a week before you reach out to do so, don’t reach out to tell her you had a good time. Seems like you want it to work too much or you’re too invested too quickly
if date goes really well i would expect to hear something about it from the guy. especially if i initiated the date. if he doesnt, i will lose interest because our chemistry will have died from the lack of communication after seeing each other.
Completely incorrect. It’s incredibly feminine to not chase, not court, not act like a gentleman and deliberately leave a girl thinking she did something wrong. Actual secure men do this. Two insecure people pretending to be who they’re not sounds like hell anyway
Mmmm, there’s been a time or two I liked a guy, he asked to see me again but didn’t follow up by texting me. I did not text first even though I was interested. I expect a man to lead. If he doesn’t, I assume he didn’t like me. I also like a guy more if he asks if I got home safe or asks me to text him when I get home. Not doing so is a turnoff. So Austin’s advice doesn’t work on secure women with options
That’s total BS I get more attracted to a guy when he texts me after a date especially that “let me know when you get home” 🦋🦋🦋 If he doesn’t text and sends a text the next day, I just lose interest. Don’t listen to this guys 🤦🏻♀️ if you like the girl be a gentleman.
This works to an extent. There have been recent cases of rapes going on around my city. You can text her post date to ask if she got home. There is a median between caring about someone's safety and not letting them breathe. Be the gentleman you'd want your mom, sister, grandma to have.
Quite the opposite. Being overly emotional and desperate is a female trait. Being cool and stoic is masculine. Women say they want attntion but when they get it they lose interest
Anyone who does not text me after the first date to make sure I got home or to say thank you will automatically NOT get a second date even if I like him. However if I enjoyed my date a lot, I’m usually the one to text thank you first. but yeah, no text, no second date. I don’t have time for games or inconsiderate men with no etiquettes.
Makes sense 👍. but im always curious about women's perspective on this, if a guy text first or shows interest or persue woman, how does women feel? I mean does it make a guy seems desperate & needy?
It's your job to text, he already took you out. So no second dates for you. And how tf is the man saying thank you to you ? Did you took him out ?? Kkkkk something isn't making sense
As a woman here: This advice is the worst. Guys don’t listen. It is such a turn off if a guys doesn’t take the masculine initiative to let you know he had a nice time, instead of waiting for her to do it. Just a big turn off, period.
Agreed up to a point. I always at least let her know her company was enjoyable if it was. By not reaching out first after that, you will grow on her mind if she's worth it. For many reasons, it may take a couple days to a week before she reaches out. Move on if you don't hear from her. She may even come around later than that.
I'm in my 40s and have never been on a first date! I get it, most guys don't have the courage to just tell a woman what's up. But this is solid advice. Keep it a mystery. She'll appreciate you for not ruining her fantasy
@@RoadToStrength-nv8ei in short; you've established yourself in her mind and planted the seed to be birthed within her spirit. She's going to follow whatever it is you say and want. The dating comes later after she's proven herself.
Don’t listen to the women in these comments king. They’re immune to the response. The can’t comprehend that this actually happens 😭😭. There may be that 1-2% of women who may actually tell you to fuck off if you don’t hit her up immediately but most would follow up if they’re into you unless they don’t like you an have another guy’s hot plate in mind for dinner.
Fucking horrible. I was getting too attached..didn't want her to notice it. We been texting for like 2 months. I didn't text her back for 16hrs after the first date. It really hurt her. And since then she hasn't replied. I feel I really hurt a nice person's feelings. I should never take advice online. Should have just done what I felt was right. I can't live with myself knowing I hurt a nice person. I don't even know what to do, to even get a reply now.
Just based on this paragraph I already know why she didn't text you back. If someone likes you waiting 16hrs is not a reason to completely cut you off. You exude desperation man she can sense that. You were probably mr nice guy the entire date and she was turned off by it. You need to be less desparate, show interest but play it cool and if she doesn't want you move on.
Even if i fell in love with you on the first date, if you dont message me afterwards, i am moving forward to a more caring guy, who is not obsessed with being in control, PERIOD
Hate to say it , this has always worked for me. I reach out after a date and becomes cold. She texts me after the date and we usually have a second date so will continue to do this going forward. Im not chasing women anymore
The interesting thing about this is, not reaching out to someone just to make sure they made it home safe seems like a lack of consideration towards someone that you went out of your way to ask out to begin with.
No matter how well you play the dating game at the start of things. Eventually, she's going to meet the real you. So, if you're planning on taking things further than just dating. Trying to be someone you're not is going to work against you. There's no shame in being a genuine and caring person. I've never heard a woman say they want a man who isn't caring or pretends to be who they're not.
I agree just tell her in person you had a good time and make your move and she’ll know you like her i agree if you dont hear anything from her after a whole week shes probaly not interested unless you hit her up and she agrees to hang then ya never know till ya make a move. But this is mostly true. Sometimes women will look for you to screw up over a text and see if you’ll give her valadation or send something foolish lol. But agreed you gotta give her time to process the date and make her wonder about you and embrace the good time she had with you on the first date
Actually if you play those games with me I will lose interest within 48 hours because i will figure that you are not that interested in me and/or too hard to communicate with. I will absolutely follow up ONE time with. “Thank you so much for taking me out, you chose such a lovely place/activity/some other genuine compliment about the effort he made. I had an amazing time with you.” If there’s no response to that and no follow up with me in a reasonable time - Never again will I text him. If I see you’re number pop up again later I will be ignoring it like you ignored me
This is completely wrong. You can tell if a girl had a good time on a date. If she did text. Shows interest. I am a woman. If you play games like that you won’t get a second date or you will be placed on the let’s wait and see pile.
This advice might seem like he's telling men to play mind games but it is actually right. You already did your part by setting up and taking her on the date. It is up to the women to text you back to let you know if she enjoyed her night with you.
There is a lot of bad advice on these quick dating vids but this is not one of them. This is absolutely correct. Never text the girl after the date. Maybe if a few days go by you can...
Question. The girl texted me first. I knew she would, the date went great. And I also told her to let me know when she got home. She said, "Hi Kenny. Home safe and sound and thank you for a wonderful day. I also appreciate your patience with me; I do ask a lot of questions, but as I can personally say ... I'm allowed. Have a wonderful evening and Olivia was so glad to see me.😁" I did follow about an hour later, I said, " Hi Donna. So cute!! Glad your home. ".. Then 1/2 later I said, "I also had a great time.. ".. Now,,, I , or we didn't call or text the next day at all. Question, I know she will, but how do I ask for the next date?? Call? Text? What should I say, and when? Thank you
If you text her and it turns her off, guess what, you just saved yourself time and energy. A woman who’s truly interested and HEALTHY will be so happy to hear from you no matter what! Trust me! Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. You win some and you lose some. Reciprocity should be what you’re looking for. Someone to match your energy, not someone you have to chase and run down. Haha If she likes you it will be easy. Simple as that.
She texted after the first date and we kept talking for a few days after. Even a happy birthday wish, now nothing at all for 2 days. God damnit man, why must they be so complex. Very frustrating I thought we were really going somewhere as we clicked so good.
Wrong wrong wrong!!!! I will not text the guy first If he says text me when you get home, he gets a 2nd date if he doesn’t say that it’s an alert for me to pay attention I’ll text say I got home & thank him again but that’s it It’s the guy that has to reach out initially
Had a date on Sunday and sent one of these messages. Thought the date went really well then she started getting cold over text and avoided my next link up request.. Hate modern women
Stupid advice, if you liked her and felt a vibe then text her.. doesn’t matter who texts who first, it’s how honest you are about meeting again, don’t be ambiguous and just let things hang.
