it hits home want he says. Been dating this guy for like two years.I am 27 he was 36. We met when i was 26 doing my masters then. And the stipend thing happened, he even wanted to pay my rent and even wanted to get me a car, i said no. As soon as i was done i applied to do my phd. I think he started to get scared, the relationship suddenly became quiet and a few days before i decided to end it. He called in a month to ask how i was and how sorry he was that he wasnt supportive of me to pursue my dreams. So i forgave him, 2 weeks later i was receiving calls like, uko wapi sahii, na nani, why are you not this and that, started even dming my male friends online... i decided to just call it quits. please dont waste your years. watch the red flags...n always put you first
I just love Benjamin because he opened my eyes and everyone around me saying that have changed but it's you Benjamin who did a job in me. I really thank you am from Uganda love the show
Who else is watching while reading comments....I'm taking notes in every episode and I always feel transformed thanks Mr Zulu and your team every show is super
wow this I totally agree. If as a woman you cannot pay for your own lifestyle, you ain't ready for dating....finally someone agrees with my thinking. Thanks Zulu.
Actually we are ending up with peolpe for wrong reasons .If you can take care of your needs,it's easier to choose a partner with the traits of a life long partner
Started watching shows of Benjamin Zulu when i had my first heartbreak recently... I feel he is God sent coz the wisdom he speaks is profound hits to my innermost core.. Jst at 20, i feel more focused in my studies, my dreams and my walk with God. I love u Mr. Zulu. Keep sharing these wisdoms, its saving lots of youth here. God bless 🙏❤.
Same here,,..am 21 and got heartbreak last week..I felt it was the end of the world but now am strong again...and just want to focus on my staff... dating now Ni Hadi nifike 25yrs... Thanks Zulu 😘😘I can't get enough of his shows
For a financially stable woman, sometimes u can just desire a man to give u money, not because u can't afford.... But Kuna that cute feeling that comes with it.
Stand firm no one should pay for you fees my siz was paid fees and that guy married him after that she got several abuses until today and the guy keeps reminding him of the fees he paid its not worth it. I salute you benja wise words as usual.
I just reflected on the fact that the things addressed on this show encompass the motivation, self-assurance and life advice young women without a doubt need as young adults from 16-30 years of age. It is the readily available precious information we should be seeking in self-development books surrounding matters to do with love and romance, finances and self-esteem. What makes the show such a treasure beside Benjamin's advice is the personal experiences of the Host and Guests interviewed that make you reflect on your own experiences hence connect with the topic of the day, and leave this chatroom a little better than you came.
I like this. I wish he can do more of this relationship teachings. After watching this I know that I have made a blander in marrying someone I don't love at 23 years because of the pressure from my parents. My mom's biggest fear was that I might get a child out of wedlock. She mislead me in my life. It's a long story. But I did not have a good childhood. N when I met my husband I thought he will rescue me from my narcissist mom. Now I am 38 n three kids, a good job but unhealthy marriage. I keep cheating my husband from time to time to fulfill the feeling that I want because I don't have feelings for him. From South Africa.
I love Benjamin’s wisdom I wish I had this kind of advice in my twenties our girls listen in and build your Carreers so you have leverage and don’t make any important decisions before you are 25 food for thought 🤔 thank you
I have been following full circle for some time because of Mr Benjamin Zulu and kindly asking if the host may speak english or production can look into putting sub titles for us who cant understand your beautiful language. I really feel left out. Ms Mwitwa - Zambia
@@karuthisimon867 Hi Karuthi, I am doing great thank you. How are you too? It seems like you are looking for friendship, are you happy to be friends with Jesus? He loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him. Please give Jesus a chance to love you unconditionally as your Lord and personal Savior ❤️♥️
I just learned of this beautiful show last night by "mistake", BUT I thank God. This show is absolutely a godsend. I am watching from Dallas, Texas, USA. Please keep doing a beautiful job in teaching and preaching. God bless you all!!!
Ben, you are just God sent. Thank you so much for all the life lessons that you pour into our lives. You never disappoint, always apt/on point. God richly bless you!!! Hello from Ghana.
Switch TV- please, this show has great insight however... would you please include closed captions? I understand all languages spoken however I see lots of other Africans here concerned that they are missing your great advice.
This is a very very considerate comment Their attention has been called to this severally but they chose to do nothing about it. We really have no choice but to enjoy the little we can hear
I am 16 i have listening to you since forever dont worry am not in a relationship because of your advices you have saved from a lot of hyenas til i reach 25 relationships are bullshit i will focus on self development thanks so much
Mwikali and Ben if you read the comments, you have a lot of foreigners who watch this show.. So they miss a lot when you switch to Swahili, please work on sub-titles. Great show!👌🏿🇰🇪
19:13.....my life is soo boooring....oooh my God i want somebody to talk to....😂😂😂 Woow!!! Mr.bejamin i always salute you for pure enlightenment to us gal, môre grace🙏
Maybe you need to make some adjustments, do a self evaluation, try to change your type, men love feminity in the way you dress up and the way you behave and speak too and always look good. Some things could also be spiritual or generational curses, so pray over that too. Perhaps you will get different results.
Man! Mr Zulu speaks so much sense into me. I am so glad I get to hear all this truth you share. Thanks for encouraging that 2-5 years to focus on yourself & career post graduation. I needed this. Asante!
Ooh my God! ! Benjamin Zulu you are a God sent. Thank you so much Sir, I wish to meet you one day and tell you how much you have really done in my life. How I wish I listened to you from the beginning. God bless
Bravo Benjamin.... Although the term 'stupid' is a little counterproductive. Let me tell you it is actually all rounded women that are the biggest targets. The younger the worse it is. Don't forget that there are narcissistic predators with the ability to shape shift into perfect lambs when they are really wolves.
You know I wish I knew how I could contact this guy. So I have been reading a book that was telling me that courtship is not for someone who is still in school. I got confused because I will only finish my first degree when I'm 25 years. I prayed to God and asked Him to make it clear for me if the author is right. Then I was browsing looking for something to watch and boom I found this guy Benjamin! He has answered my questions. I believe it's not a coincidence, I'm glad God has answered me.
Its infuriating to date once you have your own things, i still feel the need to be taken care of every now and then. Am 26 my boyfriend is 33, we are both having stable employment. When we met i was an intern and he used to buy me gifts occasionally and pay for dates. We have been dating for 4 years now and for the past three his been so stingy, his communication is on and off, we have that relationship where sometimes if i don't call he doesn't call. I am still with him because am comfortable in that space, i can go visit whenever i want and not have to worry about anything. Its a mess i don't know .......
Both of you got comfortable. That’s what happens when you’re dating one person over a period of time. Men get bored and women get complacent. That’s what happens in relationships. Two people get comfortable and just stop doing the extra things since you’re both comfortable
I am here trying to imagine how many people, especially girls does agree with him. Is so unfortunate wengi wao ni wachumia tumbo dah!! (Means that is poverty which drives them to perform things aren't supposed to) SAD!
Most men don't give money for free. Only very small minority of men give without any expectations. But Jesus gives everything for free. Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Please give Jesus a chance to love you unconditionally as your Lord and personal Savior ❤️♥️
@@diplomatdiplomat2800 I don't know how this turned religious.. and yes, you may say MOST, not ALL. I know several men who help with absolutely no expectations. I have helped countless, and continue to do so. Just because a majority displays certain behaviors doesn't mean that's the definition of the entire group. He said it with a lot of certainty and that's my problem.
Thanks to him he's always having such good advice so nice of them and somehow you get to know better about how this life is thanks so much Benjamin Zulu what is the best
I pay my own bills monthly, I have never met a man who can support me instead am the one helping out,so was I born unlucky or it's because I have a good heart,
@@BlackPanther-lt7wr how can u identify that this guy is stingy when he's approaching you, btwn I don't love a man because of material things,I love a man for who he is
@faith. because I love him, tell me can you see your man suffering when you're in position to help him out???can you?? Am sorry but I just don't understand how I was created, I have a different heart
