I feel like you guys should mention that this is on RU-vid more. I much prefer this as a medium but I stumbled on it almost by accident. Love the content
oh and letting go of shame, does present the possibility that the person will not be as invested in the outcomes. there is no chance of change being consumed with shame (for me). i didnt really know when i took that jump towards compassion, but i had to take the risk to find out. So i did the best/am doing my best to extend understanding regarding a specific "shameful" act. (its not actually shameful, but society often sees it that way, lots of stigma) and now, i have so much understanding towards myself and how i ended up here. when my cats died, i was thrown into right now which is something ive not really had and all the things in life became irrelevant and the only thing that matters is figuring out how to tend to myself and grieve. oof...hard. painful and also incredibly freeing!
i personally cringe when someone says to me "you are not alone in suffering" or similar and i really dont think it should be given as some sort of phrase that is supposed to help? i dont know, it does nothing for me. i dont feel alone in my suffering. in fact, i know im not. I spent 10+ yrs thinking only of others, and abandoning myself. it got me into a lot of trouble being that considerate and that accommodating to others. it has basically killed me. so no i am not going to think about some stranger across the world....makes no sense to me. but i dont discount that for others. if its working for you go ahead! :)
