"1. Be a challenge, make him earn it every step of the way. 2. have a lot of self-respect. Always be your self-respecting, challenge-representing self all the time, no exceptions".
Can't teach what you don't know. Momma suffered too because grandma got married at 14 and didn't learn either. Fortunately, she didn't marry again after widowhood. Oh, but my mother married 5 times, last guy, she married twice. I learned from them. A smart woman learns from other women's mistakes.
@@rv1377 You might try a higher manifestation of abundance and love. Let your mind imagine it, let your heart feel everything you imagine. Talk to yourself the whole list of how it will feel. then go into public and watch what your energy automatically does for you. Feel your happiness of love inside, and your energy will exude it all around you. Don't ask anything from them, just feel their conversation and move on, go experience as many conversations as you can with others. Don't look for love, exude it and love will come to you.
I’m agree with Lili; that worked for me. But was really difficult to love my self with truth.simetimes we are think, yes, I love my self, I’m a very nice person but we are just waiting something else. When I found myself and when sincerely starts to think in what I want (for real) not the average things, then, this guy came to.
As an empath, why have them at all?🙄 They don't help put food on the table or pay bills, wtf?! I have come to understand what you said and had been rejected for the first time by a younger guy I fell in love with as a middle aged woman then realized he was trash. You can't turn it off once it is activated😔.
My mother taught me well while I was a young woman. She told me this and more. She noticed that men were looking at me when I was too young to date, so she schooled me about men early on! RESPECT yourself! You make the choice of how it goes. You are the treasure! Thanks for sharing. My friends and I have a saying...You may be alone while waiting on the right one but, you are not lonely or desperate! Love yourself and the rest will fall in place! 😊❤️
It's sad that my parents keep telling me that I should obey and do whatever they want me to do. They always tell me that how bad I am and always see the good things in others, the result is I have low self esteem. Even though I'm good looking and have many boys chase me, I don't know how to value and love myself. I tend to sell my self short because in the bottom of my heart I don't believe I deserve better. I ended up being with people who didn't love and respect me, it's just the reflection of how I feel about myself. I've learned it the hard way. P/s: Dear me, I'm sorry that it took so long but baby I love you, you deserve the best and never let anyone make you think differently.
"When a woman is a challenge has a lot of self respect and very direct about her boundaries", the second he said that I couldn't help but smile i swear he was describing me... It felt so good to be appreciated for having those qualities instead of been constantly told that you think too much of yourself or you obnoxious etc . Thank You Brian
Following you got me the most wonderful man I could ask for, you taught me to choose the right way and here I am all happy in life, I could hardly even dream of this a year ago. Thanks a ton Brian, I owe you much.
35 your comment has given me hope. I can't even get men to say hi to me❓❗️And I believe I'm pretty. I don't know what it is. I do know that I don't know how to tell apart most gay vs straight men 🙈... where do we meet men nowadays❓
I really wish I had seen this video in my younger years.(I’m not that old, 32.) I spent a lot of my 20s giving myself away to men very quickly, but it wasn’t because I was a “whore.” It was because I wanted them to like me. This video explains why every time I did that with a man, a relationship never flourished. I hope a lot of women see this video because women should know that they are valuable and worthy and shouldn’t give themselves away to just any man, especially if the only reason is because you want them to like you. Don’t do that. Love and respect yourself like this video says. Don’t give yourself away to anyone who doesn’t deserve you.
That should be added to the questions to ask yourself, am I doing this to get something or in other words make him like me. If you ask yourself that throughout it will help you keep the balance and healthy standards.
Honestly I think it depends a lot in the man. If a man hasn't had that many experiences at all, let's say less than three, and he likes you, he won't care if you give in the first week. But men who have been with plenty and you give it to him in that same week, they will treat you like every other woman before even if he likes you. It's weird. But it's the truth
Great points. If girls had strong support, growing up, they would become women who were strong like those you mentioned. Sadly, too many don't and arrive in adulthood; bitter, confused and weak.
I got my husband tht way and must say it worked. I just let my self run on my own rules, definitely not rude but the self respect worked for me. It really works no matter how u look no matter how beautiful or not so beautiful u r but darling ur self respect definitely works.
Oh my gosh! Everything I’ve heard since discovering you on RU-vid, (and buying all your Audible books, so far), is already making massive changes inside of me. Not being taught to value and respect myself growing up, (in fact quite the opposite!), I never knew how to do that. I tried and tried to, but I couldn’t do it. I didn’t know how. I just felt like I was as worthless as a piece of garbage. What you are saying seems to be like the mirroring that a healthy father would do to his daughter to teach her to love herself and to truly believe, deep in the core of her being, that she is beautiful and a deeply valuable human being, who can believe that no matter what anyone else says. Wow. My insides just resonate so deeply and feel so nurtured by hearing this stuff. It’s like an old, hard, dried out sponge having water just poured out all over it, saturating it with nurturing life. Like a dead flower coming back to life and blooming. Thank you!
Women don't believe me when I tell them that men like challenges. I hope they will believe this video. Everything said in this video is true and I've seen it happening!
Brian you're honestly so admirable. It's crazy how I sometimes sit back and already know everything you're explaining in these videos but still hearing it from another person is so powerful. When I watch your videos you really make me so confident in my choices. It's hard to explain and put into words. Sometimes in a hard positions you know your standards but I guess at times you can question them and watching your videos always remind me how important it is to never doubt your intuition.
Amen on the standards! My date and I are currently a bit very busy and we don't communicate as much because of our schedule (I am in class when he is free and he is working when I am free, it's a bit hard) Yesterday after 4 days of no calling, just a bit of texting, he asked if we can talk on the phone. I was busy trying to catch my train and I was not about to wait 1 hour for my next one so I told him "I am running to my train, catch you later". He said "see you later". When I got in my train I asked how long he would be awake in case we could talk but he said "I don't know". Obviously I was a bit displeased and just responded with "let me know as soon as you know". He immediately responded with "tomorrow, before noon?" And I responded with a simple "we will see". He called me today and we had a normal conversation, no passive aggressiveness, no shade, nothing. Just two people talking about their days, some plans for the future and how we missed eachother (and he initiated the "I miss you")
I love this! Thank you for the reminder to not fall into the needy trap. I started doing everything with my guy as I started falling for him and he started pushing me away. I saw your videos and reversed it, and let’s just say we are very happy now!!
Are you guys still happy? I have been a little needy, and trying to impress him kinda by cooking for him, giving him massages, etc., but I’m trying to pull back and wait for him to give instead of trying to please him. Hoping I can switch this.
Geez, I am going to watch this a couple dozen times to thoroughly wash my brain..it so needs this rearrangement. I was imagining myself as the goddess you were describing and it definitely feels attainable even amidst the pangs of doubt. I have been her before, with this one guy I reeally liked. For about 2 weeks I was all sass, from that clear place of knowing-not trying for his sake, or at least I thought. And then, I reverted back out of some desire to "seize the moment" (fear of abandonment) because he was so strongly coming towards me. I fell for the bedazzlement. Oh brain 🤔😂
Now I know why my bf chose me over prettier women out there. I remember he said that I am respectable and I respect him. :) Thank you Brian for this video. Your tips are all true when it comes to relationship. Of all love and relationship coach I have watch online, you are the most straightforward and realistic one. :) continue to inspire women all over the world. ♥
I don't usually leave comments on youtube but I just had to. Thank you so much for doing what you do. You have such a wise and beautiful insights regarding humans' minds and behaviours. Your words always speak so much truth and wisdom. Your voice is always calming and reassuring. You have no idea how powerful your words are, they make us so much stronger and wiser mentally, emotionally. They strengthen our faith in Ourselves again. I'm sure you have changed so many lifes for the better. Thank you very much for Empowering us all women. I truly appreciate all your effort and everything that you do.
Always be a challenge 👍 make him earn every step of the way. Know your worth. Communicate it. Know that there are many men out there that would fight for your time & attention. Show your standards always. Do not fear being called "high maintenance" by your crush 😁 let him feel like a man, fighting for the relationship. If I have a ton of self-respect, what would I do now? Ask yourself...let thinking override feelings (my paraphrasing 😄)
This is the one male with advice for woman I really really like. Not at all condescending, doesn't try to tell us we need to contort our lives around the eccentricities or egos of men...quite the opposite, he guides us towards valuing ourselves. Thank you Brian Nox!
I love this message. All of this is so important. I have friends do the opposite of this and are miserable and depressed. Keep the self respect high ladies because we have to live with ourselves and self love is so necessary.
His voice is so soothing, I want him to read me a book and or sing a song to me. His partner for sure is blessed with someone this relaxing. Sigh. I love the sound of his real name though, I wonder where it is from.
Brian: This is, bar none, THE best video on the World Wide Web. #1 primer for young girls entering the dating minefield, as well as women of all ages. It’s never too late, Ladies, for a mind-check. On a personal note, I said “Buh-Bye” to a former love interest 6 months ago. He first attempted to ‘Friend Zone’ me. Plan B was playing the “I need space” card. Both scenarios: I shut him down and showed him the door. This video should be MANDATORY VIEWING for every female on the planet. Thank you, Brian!
I'm in a relationship for about a year now it was very deep until I forgot myself to please his bossy attitude it didn't serve at all. At the moment when I understood I have to be the first priority I become a challenge again. Thank you Brian for making this video it helps me a lot about the confidence I have to acquire to save my relationship.
Thank you for this and reminding us even when we catch a feeling we still need to remind ourselves not to make it too easy for him. Bit hard but it's worth it.
If you’re trying to constantly play games with him and test him, if that’s what you mean by “challenge”, I doubt any man in his right mind will want to stick around.
Now I know what I've done wrong, oh... my entire life! And I've already sworn off men a few years ago because I got tired of being hurt. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, I'm sure you've helped so many people. God bless you.
Brian, you give such valuable, reasonable, understandable information in all your videos. What you talk about should be put into middle school curriculum and taught to ALL girls BEFORE they start getting in relationships with boys. If I had know even a fraction of this 20 years ago I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I’m so happy to have discovered you...better late than never. Thank you for enlightening me and so many women. Lots of love to you 🥰
Now I watch all your videos Brian. 😁 I feel like were talking in person and you're giving me lessons. Your voice is so comforting esp what im feeling right now. You gain a subscriber 😊
