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DUMPED FOR NO REASON? HERE'S WHY....
Everything seemed perfect. Then, all of a sudden, they come at you with those dreaded four words “We need to talk.”
Before you even know what hit you, your perfect relationship is over and you’re alone. What the hell happened? How did things go from one hundred to zero just like that? It happens more often than you think. And I’ll tell you why.
So why were you dumped? I think you deserve to know the truth.
This info is for you if you were ghosted after only a few dates OR if you were in a serious relationship that ended out of nowhere. If you were blindsided by a breakup and have no idea why they’re ending it, I might be able to shed some light on the issue.
Number One: They’re bad at dealing with conflict
This pretty common. No matter how self-assured and confident this person may seem in most situations, they don’t deal with breakups well. Breaking up with someone is difficult and for most people. This kind of confrontation isn’t something that we have to deal with on a very regular basis so it’s common that someone would avoid it at all costs.
This is not to let them off the hook but it might explain why they might have decided to skip having a real conversation. They took the coward’s way out.
Number Two: They have some kind of personal problem or secret
This brings us to another possibility. Sometimes if people have a problem or a secret that they’re not willing to share, they think the only option is to dump you to avoid having this conversation. You have to ask yourself, how well do I really know this person?
What do they do for a living? What is their middle name? Where did they grow up? If you can’t answer simple questions like this then they’re keeping things from you and that may have led to your sudden breakup.
Number Three: They’re afraid of what you might do if they were honest
This one might have more to do with you then it does with them. Are you someone with a pattern of extreme behaviour? Mood swings? Anger? Violence?
If you have a reputation for getting mad and getting revenge, they may be afraid to face your wrath.
Or maybe you’re very sensitive. Look back on your time together. Is there some reason they might have gotten this indication?
Have you been known to burst into tears at the sight of the Queen’s corgis?
Number Four: They Met Someone Else
One of the most common reasons for this sort of breakup is that your partner met someone else.
This is a hard one to come back from. They don’t want to hurt you slash look like a douche bag so that’s why they’re hiding this reason from you. I don’t think I have to tell you that if they chose someone else over you, or cheated, it’s a bad sign for things moving forward.
Whatever their reason was, this person has hurt you and left you in the dark, but you’re still not ready to let things go. Whether you think it’s worth giving it another chance, or you just want to find out what the hell happened so you can get closure, you need to take the next step.
Finally, just flat out ask them what the deal is. “Why did you end things between us? I had no idea it was coming.” It seems basic but sometimes it is that simple. Now that you’ve had some time and distance they’re more likely to open up to you.
But be up front with them. Tell them that it hurt you that they couldn’t be honest with you. Tell them that it’s important, if you’re going to have a relationship, that they open up if something is bothering them.
If you decide to get back together, it can be easy to just let the breakup fade from your memory. Since this wasn’t one of those long drawn out breakups where you air all your dirty laundry, it might even feel like it never happened. Don’t make the same mistake again. You don’t need to hold up a microscope to the relationship but do keep an eye on them for red flags. Are they suddenly quiet with no explanation? Do they seem like they’re keeping secrets?
That said, if you are giving it another shot, ultimately you do have to try to let it go eventually. People do make mistakes and if you two are back together, they must have realized how stupid it was to break things off without telling you.
Thanks for watching! Hopefully you now have some insight about why you got dumped and a plan of action for moving forward. If you liked this video, please hit the like button and subscribe so you won’t miss my next video. Trust me, it’s a good one.
If you’re still lost, please comment below with your specific breakup situation and I’ll do my best to try to shed some light on what happened. You may even inspire my next video!
Bye!
28 июн 2024
