How To Get Your Ex Back After Months or Years Apart 

if you love somebody never give up no matter the time fight for yours

Ur advice has a lot of positivity, at any time within a relationship (especially when things aren't going so well) it's encouraging to hear these things.

On behalf of everyone that has these struggles and myself i have to say thank you u r a lifesaver. I'm only 1 female out if I'm sure a lot of people, but ur advice has guided me through some doubting times. Thank u for ur reassurance and help. I hope u go far in your journey to help people understand each other. :)

I'm losing my hope. It's been 3 months since the break up. I've changed, I'm improved, and I know she noticed... But she doesn't want to meet.

Your advice has helped me a lot, especially this new video about being apart for a while. I'm grateful to have found you. Thank you. :)

Hello Brad! Great Video btw. Here is the situation I am (other's feel free to chyme in, it would be interesting to hear your thoughts) in. My ex broke up with me over a text saying " that she wants someone who is going to make her their priority and make her feel like she's their everything" she also said that we would argue whenever we would go out and that we wouldn't go out enough she also said that we weren't getting what we wanted from each other and that she wasn't happy. let me fill you in a bit more on my actions that led up to this moment. I just graduated from college and moved back home. I wasn't sure what was going to be my next step career wise so i was deciding on whether or not to take some classes at a CC to apply to PA school. I was broke and would go see her whenever I had money to take us out. I fell into this phase of my life where I felt depressed because I was broke, didn't have a job, and didn't know what career i wanted to pursue. during this phase I didn't communicate with her for about 3 days and on the 4th day i got that break up text. It hurt like hell and to make matters worse nothing in life was going the way i wanted. at this point in my life I had no job, I was broke, I didn't know what I was going to do with my life, and i just got dumped over a text from a 3.5 year relationship. It's been 3 months now since I had any type of communication with her. I used the pain i was feeling and directed it to motivate me. I began to hit the gym, read books, and focus on my science pre-reqs. I lost 28lbs already and look a lot leaner than before (220lbs - 192lbs), i got a 3.5 gpa this semester, and I've been keeping my mind busy reading books and hanging out with friends. She hasn't contacted me at all. I do still have feeling for her and i would like to get her back but i don't want to do anything dumb and ruin my chances. she's intelligent and beautiful and is in her last semester of law school. Any suggestion to how i should intitiate contact with her?

Hi Brad. My guy left a month ago after my anxiety got bad and we were in a push-pull situation for a couple weeks/months. (I lied to him out of fear, looked through his phone, a couple other small incidents that I immediately apologized for) He's a defensive, independent person who takes care of himself first. I realize (in horror) that I needed to fall flat on my face to learn not to act out in this way in relationships. We were very compatible, worked well together, had great compassion, and brought out the best in each other- but two intense souls that learned a lot from each other, and of course, went through tumultuous times together. I am at a complete loss. I have honored his request to "give him space" of a couple months and he has told me that "he doesn't think we were meant to be together" and not to wait. Knowing how logical this guy is, and how attracted to me he is (he acknowledged that it would be a lie if he wasn't), and how much he cares about me- I want to put in every effort to show I have changed and that he is either the catalyst to my change, or the end all be all. I realize that love is a choice- and I choose him- but I fear it was too late. He is determined to move on, has cut me off social media, but still smiles at me when we see each other at school and does not ignore me in that way. He says he thinks that maybe we were meant to be good friends. I see the reality that exists where we are more- but I don't think he'll be able to see my change and growth without time. He even refused to say "never" when I asked him to break my heart right then and there; he stated that he didn't know- it would have to be "years", though. I feel like if I give him space, he will realize what he's missing- but I'm afraid he'll find someone less anxiety-ridden and calmer than me, when in reality, we just had really, really shitty timing. Any tips?

I've just started watching your videos, and now I'm hooked. You have a new subscriber, and pretty soon I'll be a customer. P.S. Nice shirt! Where'd you get it? I could probably get my ex back if she saw me wearing that! Lol

THAT WAS A REALLY GOOD VIDEO - BEST I HAVE SEEN ON GETTING YOUR EX BACK !

Hey Brad! I had a Friends and benefits connection with a girl from America (I’m German) during my semester abroad last spring for 3 months. She even introduced me to her parents and took me to the airport asking me to come back on my last day. During that time she friend zoned me after about one month because things were going to close for here and we implemented no contact for about 2-3 weeks. Eventually we became good again and vibes were there right after the first time after the no contact period. Now back in Germany on helloween I saw her post on social media a pic with a hookup guy and texted her on 3 forms of social media desperate text messages which was obviously a mistake but I did it and can’t change it. As a result she blocked me on every form of social media and said she doesn’t feel the same about me and also texted to friends that I’m obsessing and it’s scaring her. She also wished me the best of luck in life. Now I listened to a lot of your videos and saw my mistakes and learned a lot about them and I’m also become more emotional separated from her. However, this January I will return to her college town and I think about which is the best way to get connected again to her since I only screwed up on social media but real life was always a nice time for both of us. Do you think there is a good chance she is going to talk to me again and even more? If yes, what would be your way of initiating contact with her since I will have a new number in America. Thank you and lots of love!

Brad, you are the man. My ex and I dated over 3 years ago. She just got out of a long term relationship, so I gave her a few months to heal from that. This video is going to help me try and rekindle our relationship.

In this video you told us what to do... But we need to know how to do what you are explaining. Practical steps. Good Job Brad, keep the good work

Thanks brad your advice really help me.. I really appreciate it.. my ex gf is back with me she call me back and I followed your steps and we are getting married soon... your the best brad!!!!!

Man... The things you don't learn when you grow up without a dad and end up being raised by women smh... This rabbit hole led to u, and you've opened my eyes to sooooo many things I never even thought about lol... Thanks for putting these videos out

I liked your video because you were honest in your title. You shared some tips on making the Ex rekindle her love for you. Thank you.

great work with the videos!

thanks for the tips, i appreciate you doing this

Thanks mans, thats great stuff. This is my situation, we broke up a year ago. If wasnt for this Corona Virus thing i'd manage to run into my ex or meet with her eventually.

every video .. i mean every single word you say is so true ... just loved it .

Hi brad i just want to say thank you!!! I dumped by my 3 years boyfriend. I tried to contact him with the useless ways. It just made me more depressed... He found a new lover and go on his life. But i couldn't get over him... As you said that it was just a rebound and they broke up in 2 months. But i had not any courage to contact him again.. i met a women, we talked about relationships... She said, i had a longterm relationship when i were young, we broke up and i found a new one, i married him...Now i am married, also i have children but i still think him.. it made me encourage, i called him again we met and talked friendly. I used your methods.. today he called me and said, break up was a mistake, but also it make me learn what i had with you... We decided to talk about our mistakes to start a fresh relationship. You have great job and you are the best, I love you so much!

Hey Brad! Appreciate all the videos, they've been so helpful. Months after our breakup, my ex and I are gonna meet at a store; he's going to help me pick some gear for my backpacking trip. He initiated the BU but checks on me once every other month (by email only) and even sends me pictures of his trips. This after being very very cold for a while and that I decided to go silent and focus on myself. Now....I know he cares about me but he's got a phenomenal EGO in him that I can picture him playing the "the tough man" when we meet. Any advice? Thx in advance

Hi Brad, brief background. I've been with my ex for 3.5 years and he wants to marry me. I broke up with him coz I wasn't sure. After 7 months (July) he coupled with a girl 14 years younger, and totally my opposite. They're still together for about 4 months now. I went recently to his office just to see him quickly, bought him coffee (which will bring back memories to him) and left him a letter with everything I feel - without begging. He hugged me tight when I saw him. Just letting him know that I still love him should he wished to come back. But your videos are saying I should chill and just keep it as friends. I'm torn between keeping my cool or making an effort to show him that I really do love him. Okay so currently, his new gf of 3 months gave him an ultimatum to marry her, otherwise nothing physical will happen between them. This gives me a window to make a move :)

My ex and I broke up as we didn't see each other very often because she was busy all of the time. This video really helped, as I now know I shouldn't bring up why it ended in the first place. Thanks so much :)

This channel is pretty great and helpfull☺ Thanks for the help BTW😁

thank you that was helpful 😊 i hope al get the ans i need from him sooner or later as per now i will keep off!

I broke up with my ex 11 months ago and I can't stop thinking about him, no I didn't cheat he was being a jerk and being disrespectful, he now has a new girlfriend and I can't stop thinking about him and I am still in love with him we stopped talking after he got his new gf which has been now 2 1/2 months. I thought I was ok but I am not and not sure what to do next, I have a new job and I am also looking into going back to school and I have started working out again to just keep my thoughts at bay.

Brad , first of all thanks for the awesome tips , me and my exgirl been broken up for months , did the no contact (about 45 days) , worked on my self and then reached out to her with something in reference to a good memory and kept it casual, had a good continuous response from her , "how are you" "whats new with you" "oh guess what happened to me the other day" "oh by the way my son says hi" etc. , we talked casually for 2months , brought her coffee to her job (she works 1st shift and I work 2nd) talked on her break , eventually my daughter's bday came up and I invited her and her 2 kids to come with anticipation, she ends up cancelling last minute and gave me a lame excuse smh , 2 mos after that incident she reaches out to me to see how I'm doing and to tell me her grandfather passed and hopes I'm doing ok , we been talking here and there and I've been keeping it casual and flirting to a minimum , I wanna ask her out to a fall amusement park with her children but I'm afraid of her cancelling on me again, she said over a conversation that she still wears my shirts and still got them (what do you think she mean by that?) have sent her every 2 weeks very small romantic gestures to let her know I think about her here and there , am I on the right path you think? I can use some advise man , please help!

Hey thanks for the advice brad! Great Chanel.. She broke up with me about 2 weeks ago.. And I started doing no contact last Thursday.. After I made the common mistakes first. I hope it works! It's gong to be so hard not to contact her.. But I hope she is missing me.. Thanks again keep up the good work

Had an awesome relationship. We connected mentally/physically/spiritually/emotionally very well. She knows I wanted to marry her, I gave her a promise ring. We mutually broke up to work on ourselves and then get back together when our drama was gone. She started a 2nd job. 30 days after that she broke up with me for some douche. She told me they've already talked about marriage. I told her I'd drop everything and marry her that day. She said it was too little too late. I'm really confused...

Omg sex! That's the very reason we broke up..i still don't want to give it up 'til marriage hahaha!

Hello! It's very nice of you to help people like this! I also need your help badly! :) Me and my ex broke up a year and a half ago. I must state that we loved each other truly and deeply. We had plans about the future, we were very committed to each other and would give anything for our time together! But we also had some disagreements about the place in which we would live when we get married about some views of the world etc... Nevertheless I did not mind much about these disagreements but he did. The main reason for our breakup was that I was not ready to accept to live in his hometown with his parents when we get married, and sometimes said some offensive words about that, which really hurt him. I was also often obsessive and jealous. So it was my fault. Since I realized all I tried to contact him but he never answered any of my sms, after some time and a lot of messages he even blocked my number, he blocked me on facebook too, thus making it impossible for me to contact him, since we live far from each other. Then I went to his hometown and arranged the meeting (I managed to make him believe that I was a business client in order to make him appear), so when he appeared and saw it was me and not the client he was angry, he told me that he is happy now that he has a new girlfriend and soon will get engaged and even married. But I know him really well and I know that he said some words in anger and not meant them really. After that I texted him a couple of times, but again no answer. Nevertheless, something tells me I should not give up. I am convinced that we can be extremely happy together again, since I realized my mistakes, matured a lot, and would do the impossible now just to make him happy. But here comes your role. Can you help me by advising me how to even make him contact me, or answer my messages, how to make him listen to me, to give me another chance at least for a talk? Is there some wise strategy? PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAASEEEEEEEEEEE help me! :)

Hello Brad, i stumbled on your video and i must say you are savvy on the topic, i think most of us are grateful because you find the time to alleviate that pain many of us are feeling. I wanted to explain my situation and let me know, if you can, what do you think. My ex-gf contacted me about 3 weeks ago and we have been texting everyday after that, she claims that she has changed. I broke up with her because she was the type of girl who would be so preoccupied with the things that were going on in her life (mother issues, she lived alone with friend who was like a sister and she put her ahead of everybody, among other work related problems) that she would barely pay any attention to me, and i, being the idiot that i am, always tried to up the ante to see if i could catch her attention, to resume i ended up resenting her because i felt i wasn't that important to her, she barely showed affection towards me, just in the short bits when she was happy which was about 10% of the time i was with her and . In the past three weeks we have been texting, almost all day, I have only seen her twice but she hasn't been clear about what she wants. I say this because she again she shows no effort to make me feel wanted, she never asks what i am doing, or that she wants to see me, she has been kept busy due to school and work, but yet she continues to text and I, since I most likely love her, do the same thing just waiting for her to say i cant wait to see you or something along those lines, something i believe people normally do when they like each other. But no, again her effort is weak and it makes me feel unwanted. I have tried my very hardest to be the same way towards her but sometimes i slip and shot the occasional "gorgeous" or say something i naturally feel like saying to a girl i like. She doesn't reciprocate the feeling. She seems to be happy just by texting or seeing me a 3-4 times a month. We have many things in common but the one thing we don't share is the way we show affection, I show quite a lot, she shows almost none. Would i be making a mistake by trying to take her back? Should i just ignore her completely? Thank you very much Brad.

I was in relationship with him only for about 5 months. It was my first genuine, relationship in which I ever got. First person to love. He? Loved me so much like i meant world to him. But i never knew why he brokeup suddenly telling me that " you have to make your friends understand" and he left me. It has been 4 years. Today I texted him in out of surprise cause i always missed and loved a little in somewhere. But i don't know if he's still the same.

I love you brad

it's been 6 years for me. We are on good terms but we don't talk regularly. We talk like once every year or two over the phone. it was just recently his birthday so I texted him and we talked for a few days after that and it was so nice. I really miss him. I broke it off when we were in high school over stupid stuff which is a shame because hes such a sweet genuine positive guy and loved everything about me. ugh, i miss him.

wow Brad Browning literally everything I want to know and need help with you have made a video on I Am Definitely Suscribing

I need advice, I split with my after 3 years, two months ago, for two months I acted like I didn't care and kept contact minimal as we have a child together, now I'm trying to make a effort and she's having none of it because I left her alone for two months. I wasn't that I didn't care, I just was hurt and she's taken it as I don't care

Two years after the relationship i still ha e strong feelings for her constantly thinking about her. A main reason was i wasnt the same person in real life then on the phone. advice would be appreciated please. Any symptoms which may suggest she likes me back would be great ive notice she sometimes looks at me whilst im not paying attension but i think that's not enough to know for sure. Help me Brad.

Brad,your video is very helpful.

Thank q Brad by ur advice it really work for me...... And I wish all ur success in ur live

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This video was very helping and thanks😃 but, it's been a year since my ex broke up with me cause I moved and before I moved I never told her goodbye😪 and she took it really hard as her friends told me.Then she went out with another guy to try to get me off her mind but they broke up in two weeks her friends told me.Now I moved back and I really love her still and its like she doesn't even know me and I want to get her attention and possibly get together with her but I don't know what to do? Can you help?

Hello Brad. I will try to keep this as short as possible for you. I believe my 5 year relationship with my boyfriend will end today. For a bit of back story, I'd like to tell you we casually started seeing each other after he ended a very toxic 6 year relationship with a girl that was his first love. He didn't really have much single time between her and I. I wonder sometimes if I have just been a massive rebound for him. From the start, he has told me he wanted nothing serious and to keep it casual between us. He wanted the freedom to see other women and he told me I had the same privileges. The problem is that I have had little interest in other people for a long time and I have expressed this to him and I have also told him that while I'm not too thrilled about him seeing other women, I want him to do that anyway. Well it has been almost 5 years later and he hasn't dated anyone else. I know he does care for me and love me. He has always told me I treat him like a king and he wonders why I stay and put up with him. Within the past year though I have found out, not to my surprise, that he doesn't want to marry me or have kids with me (neither of those matter that much to me). He doesn't even want to live with me because he likes his alone time and I would crowd him eventually and we would split. But he also said a few months ago that if he were to live with anyone I would be the best candidate. Even though I haven't put pressure on him for making huge life changes together (only said I might like to someday, when I thought that was what I really wanted, in the early days of our relationship) he said at one point that me being here was enough pressure. He doesn't want me to stay with him for another 5 years and regret it. He told me a while back that he has kept me at arms length this entire time. He hasn't ever seemed to be 100% in this even though he hasn't exactly taken measures to see other people. I think my biggest problem has been that I have been low-hanging fruit for him for too long. When we see each other we usually do what he wants and even when he genuinely asks me what I want to do we end up doing his thing. I'm happy just to spend time with him but why bother asking me if you don't really want to do what I want. He wants to do what he wants to do most days. That is my biggest problem with our relationship. I feel like he doesn't see value in me. I get the sense sometimes that he might be happier living his life pretty much alone. On one hand he tells me that I'm better than most people but on the other hand he tells me he believes in soul mates and that I'm not his soulmate. He has always been decently hot and cold in this relatuonship. Something else he told me recently was he never got really close to me and never really has with other people in his life like friends and family. I can see that. I don't need to date a bunch more guys to know what I want out of a relationship. I want a life partner that grows and changes with me not apart from me. I want love and trust and honesty and respect and for him to value me but I just don't know if he will ever want to give that to me for the rest of his days. I love him and I'm willing to let him go because I do believe time apart will help. What do I have to do in the months ahead after this split with a man that might just be a lone wolf? And also, I want to try the no contact rule for sure but if we split today there is the issue of tomorrow. We play Dungeons and Dragons fairly frequently with a mutual friend and his sister. We might play tomorrow. Should I keep to those plans and tell him before that I'll need some space for awhile and then start no contact or not play at all? Oh also if this matters I'm 26 and he is 29. Thank you if you can help.

Hey Brad I loved your video! My situation is a little difficult and i could really use your help. I haven't spoken to my ex for 3 years. One day last week we started texting again about good old memories and fun times we had and well everything was great. We are both at different colleges and he is actually in the National Guard. He came home on Saturday and we made plans to hang out so he stayed the night and I'm guessing you know what happens next. The next morning he changed into a different uniform and left his other uniform in my closet ON PURPOSE. He told me he would be back home Thursday (tomorrow) and we made plans to see each other again. We are seeing a play on Sunday together and have sleepovers (with no sex) and he wants to hang out with my family but... he wants to be friends? I'm trying to avoid the friends zone i want more than that from him. He is also giving me kind of hot and cold treatment, i could really use your help please! Thank you, your videos are also very helpful:)

Hey Brad, your voice exactly sounds like my ex. lol :D

Sir my bf break up with me 3 months ago and today I call him he answer the call but talk like stranger . How I convenes him that I love him

Brad, I commented long ago about an who lost all his trust in me and resulted in a really bad break up. After dating other people and starting to communicate again, we ran into each other 6 months later when I flew over to see some friends in the same area as him. 2 months has gone by and now we are really really close. I know were just friends but it honestly like were best friends again and nothing ever happened. I was supposed to leave a month ago but he practically begged me to stay cause he sees I'm happy here and I like it, so I did. We hang out almost everyday. He either comes over to my place or I to his and we cook for each other and watch a movie almost every night when were both free. One night I laid my head on his lap and he put his arm around me. We talk to each other about our current relationships and usually come to each other for advice or when we have a problem. He started acting awkward sometime after that, but at the same time in a close way. He'd tickle me and sometimes id see him stare at me and then just wave of flick me off to be funny. When were alone in the car he plays old music we use to listen to together and we both bring up good memories from the past. Im leaving going back home 6000 miles away tomorrow and he and I just spent my last night here together. We just hung out in his room and watched a movie. We laid together on his bed and when I was falling asleep he told me he needed his hug incase I left and he doesn't wake up to say goodbye. He hugged me so tight, we hugged each other laying there together like we used to and it was like we didn't want to let go. After that we both fell asleep as I waited to be picked up from his house and we cuddled the whole time. He threw his arm around me just how we used to sleep when we were dating. He'd hold me, leg interlock, and we even held each other. It was so nice and felt so right but also weird. When I was leaving he held me even tighter and said that I better come back. The only reason I say "weird" is just because IDK where we stand really. Truthfully Id take his friendship over nothing especially since the way we've been so close is just so amazing and unbelievable. But Idk if I'm just looking into it too much and maybe he's just a really good friend that'll miss me, or if theres something more. I would love to be with him again cause thats all I wanted before. But this all only happened the night before I left. We didn't do anything sexual, it was all innocent and romantic in a way because we both were ok with it happening. Did it just happen cause I was leaving? I don't know what to think. What should I do?

Hey Brad Me & my ex had this relationship of two & a half years untill this february. I betrayed her & hurt her in several ways.I begged to her for couple of months after breakup. Then finally did no contact period for 30 days in August. Finally texted her after a month. At first she said dont text me please but later we started talking.I asked her does she still loves me. She said yes but cant be with me,i said ok.We met in October.On the day,she started talking about our relationship & how i didnt trust her then started crying. I hugged her & asked her not to cry & kissed her on her forehead. Later clicked photographs.Then we went for the drinks there again she started crying. I hugged her & gave her my sincerest apologies While returning from the bar we were on the stairs and we hugged & kissed. .At night she texted & she loved the kiss. Next day again she texted & said i cant get that kiss off her mind. The day after I went to her house & stood outside at a distance & asked her to come to the balcony. She came i called her & waved at her & talked for 2 mins then hung up & went away. She texted it was the cutiest thing but really wish that i would have done that 8 months ago. I said its past & i cant do anything about it i am sorry. We talked for few days then one day she texted dont text me ever again we cant be together so no point of talking.I said okk & didnt text her since then. Its been 5 days now & didnt text her. She says feelings i have for you i cant have them for anyother guy .DO I STILL HAVE A CHANCE OF BEING WITH HER ?? What should i do next ?

Had a fantastic 2 month relationship with no fighting and he dumped me randomly with no reason given. After 35d NC and improvement posted on FB I texted him and he ignored me after one friendly reply only. Ran into him a week after and we had a brief friendly chat and I said I hope we could be friends and he said 'no I don't think so' (wtf) then ran into him at a work function a few weeks after and he ignored me completely, laughing with some other girls. Absolutely devastated there's no reason not to be civil at least. I know he's probably a dick but he was never like this at all when we were together. He's been non stop flirting with this girl on FB meanwhile he used to like a year ago and I'm positive it isn't to make me jealous. He's just trying to get another gf and there is no justice in this world. (I am a med student and a model and he was sub par looking (though I liked him anyway bc his personality) What the hell was his reason to breakup and not be civil/friendly at least!?

I was with my ex 8 months and we spent like 20 hours together everyday we've been broke up for months she's been in new relationship for a month could this be a rebound I hope so

I have quite a unique situation and would like to get you opinion on it Brad, is there any other way I can contact you? It's something that I've been struggling with for over 8 months with now and I've watched a series of your video's although because, like I said, my situation is quite unusual I need some specific advice.

This is insightful, im trying to find a way to rekindle the best relationship in my life after 7 years apart!

Hey Brad I just wanna thank you from the deepest of my heart.Your technique has shown its results thnx brother I'll always b great full to you.

Told my ex that i knew why her first husband blew his brains out....how many decade's should i wait lmao. Yup i went there.

I promised I’d do anything to support our relationship and help him build our future together. He’s been so pessimistic and things I’m not capable of changing for the better in the future and kept saying that to end our relationship. I wish he could see how wrong he is with that kind of thinking, because I’m a fighter!

Yes, time heal all wounds. All you have left are scars to remember the pain they inflicted on you.

HI brad, how do i get back my girlfriend? we just broke up after 2 years, after we broke up 3 weeks later she spoke with another guy and they are gonna be couple i think. How do i win her back? I know im the best guy and kindest guy she ever met, but we argued alot. How do i win her back if she have a new boyfriend?

Hi... it's been almost 1 year with me and him. But we were always in touch. And close. Even tho he was dating right away. But that didn't last. I feel stuck... I never moved on. I miss him badly. We started kinda dating again but it wasn't a good timing. Now we're like friends with feelings. He handles it well. I don't. We go out but... I want more. I'm usually the initiater. I feel weak. Drained. Sad... We have what it takes but he's not making a step. Even tho I know he still loves me... I feel so bad and I have no idea what to do at this point

I have a very unique situation. I'll be as brief as I can. My ex dumped me last January shortly after New Years. We were together for 5 years when she suddenly suggested we "take a break", saying she had been thinking about forming sexual relationships with people and didn't want to cheat on me. I've watched multiple self help videos and read articles about trying to swing things back in my favor but there is one snag. My ex and I still live together. Aside from the fact she is a general distraction from me being able to move on, So many of these self help options tell me breaking contact is the best way to evoke emotion in my ex, but we live together out of convenience, as we are having trouble with affording our own places currently. We both are now members of dating sites, but she is already out seeing people casually and even though it's been a while, this past year has been unmitigated hell and I still have no interest in anyone else. I've tried to break away from old habits of familiarity, but I've stumbled along the way and didn't stay true to them just because I already agreed that we would be friends. Things were complicated even further by the fact she had gotten pregnant with my child and decided to get an abortion. I really don't know what to do anymore. She recently even told me the reason she now spurns my sexual advances and submits to others is because she isn't romantically interested in me anymore, but she still loves me. She'll go out with other guys, but then, for example, when she went off to Jersey visit family, she happily kissed me multiple times on the way out! I'm so confused!!! Is there any way for me to live with and still nurture that disconnect enough for her to miss me, without being a jerk? Or have I thrown myself into a hopeless trap of my own design? We both work two jobs, so I thought that would be enough time apart to initiate her to miss me a little, but from what I can see, nothing is working! Should I stay with a friend for a while? If you can, please help, Brad... :(

Hi Brad My ex and I dated for a month. We split on a mutual understanding because we spent so much time together and didn't get a chance to miss one another. It's been a few years since the breakup. We do see eachother every now and then... And it's never really awkward. Lately I've been starting to catch feelings again for him...

So my ex is going to a retreat for 3 months....can I still get him back after then???

Hi Brad, my ex & I have been broken up for almost a year now. 4 months after the break up he reconnected with one of his ex's the ex before me I believe & they actually got married a few months ago, but shortly after they got married, he has reached out to me on & off. He has expressed to me several times how much he misses me & he regrets his decision & realizes how easier things were with me. So is he just experiencing some nostalgia or do you think we still have a chance of getting back together in the future ? I'm so hurt & confused & just don't know what to think anymore 😕

Hey Brad!! I am new to your channel and already loved some of the videos i have seen. However, i still dont know what to do with my particular situation. So basically me and my ex broke up 6 years ago (i know, lots of time), we were togheter for 5 months (keep in mind we were both really young, 15years old) and although we never lost complete contact of each since we live in the same town and have a common friend, we talked only a few times after the breakup. However, i know we both always tried to know about each other from that one friend. So basically we didnt have an awful breakup, we both agreed on breaking up even though i think none of us really wanted to since we really liked each other (i guess we were just too young and immature). I have dated one guy after him and i might be wrong but i don't think he has dated anyone after me (at least something serious). So basically, a year ago he followed me on instagram and i followed him back but we both did nothing until this year's february that he started to see my instastorys and started puting likes on my photos casually. From that we both gave each other's a happy birthday this year and he basically likes all the photos i put on instagram nowadays (i know this could mean nothing but i like to think positive). I have noticed that he does not put much likes on instagram of his own friends so i feel quite happy that he does on mines. However, none of us has tried to talk to each other because honestly i dont know what to tell him and we are both a little insecure. I trurely wanted to bump into him instead of messaging him because i feel the emotions would be better but i also think i would get really nervous and that could go wrong. I think i just need a really good motive to talk to him or to get him to talk to me but i just cant figure it out and i feel like i am so close :( what should i do?

There’s been some ppl (really rare) that have been broken up for a decade or more and that’s some crazy shit. Especially if you both have children, that have gotten back together. It’s rare as hell.

Hi Brad, I broke up with my ex a year ago and I still really love him, I really want him back but I don't know what to do. Since we started talking again for some months now, I see that he doesn't show interest in me, he had invited me some times for going out but I don't know what happens that he just cancels me all the time. I really love him and I would really appreciate if you can give me any advice. thank you.

it's been 5 months since my ex and I broke up. he inboxed me on fb 2 days ago telling me that he broke up with his girlfriend and wants to get back with me. But, during our period of no contact, I moved to South Carolina to attend med school at USC. I told him that I was going to be super busy until December. he said ok. but then deactivated his Facebook page. I wonder why.

My girl broke up with me 10 months ago, we have been having problems because I didn’t communicate and I still talked to other girls because I thought I need other options. (clearly I was wrong) I had people in my ear telling me things like she’s to young for you , she’s 21 and I’m 33. She was very mature for her age. I met her at a church function and we hit it off right away. People didn’t think she was spiritual enough for me so I tried to find someone that was but never had a true connection like I did with her. She broke up with me 10 months ago. At first it didn’t hurt then I found out how much I missed her but it was a bit late she was talking to someone even had sex with someone else. We’ve been talking all these month I’ve tried begged even did all the things I didn’t do before. She says I’m the perfect guy I do all the things she ever wanted but she says it’s to late. We even went out for drinks one day and came home and had sex but still nothing. I’ve given her gifts been there for her in everything we even talked about maybe moving in to help her with school but she won’t budget. Now she’s living the night life and she seems happy. I haven’t really talk to her in 2 weeks. She text me about her passing some test about a week ago , I just Congratulated her told her I knew she could do it and that’s it. She use to watch all my I.G stories till I told her why she watches them if she don’t care I blocked her then unblocked her and now she don’t even look at them. I’ve offered to make changes in my life to make her happy and enjoy each other but nothing. Sometimes I see her struggle with bills , school and stuff but she says she rather work for it her self then have me help her. Lost for words ,still love there girl but trying to give her space. We have said bye to each other like 3 times and I just think she really moved on. She tells me all the time to move on. We have gotten into fights in arguments but we always stop talking for a couple of days and I always break it. She sometimes response right away but sometimes she don’t. We have gone on dates and hung out since the break up but she always tells me it’s hard for her to give in and give it a chance. She says she stop loving me and she don’t find me attractive Anymore but we always have a good time when we hang out. She use to spend the night all the time after we hung out but now she just goes home. Like I said Im doing the no contact rule but she did text me about her school and I just responded short and sweet. I really need help. I’ve tried dating after her and even told her (she was surprised ) but all I see is her. We dated for 2 years and 2 months from now will be a year since our break up. We have t really cut communications all these months till 2 weeks ago. Also wanted to mention she did try to give me a chance in the new year but she found out I had lunch with a friend and kind of said that was it. (Honestly it was really a friend) she just didn’t like her . She okay with her now and she knows we are good friends now but she did try to give me a chance 8 months ago but I blew it. Really need your help. Spend days and nights in bed think I wish she was here. Soon to be my birthday and I wish she was around. Sorry for the long comment.

I fucked up really bad I lied about basically everything because I hated myself and didn't even belive in love and that reflected in how I treated her I cheated because I didn't think I was in love because I didn't think love existed and by the time I came to terms with how I felt it was far to late she was betrayed and neglected and she found someone who did care it's been 3 years since they got together in the wake of everything I did she knows how I feel but still can't trust me I love her so much i want to fix everything I did I want to make her happy I want to make her feel protected but she has someone who does that for her I want her back but I truly can't imagine she will want to be with me I know I should get over her but I seriously can't

my girlfriend still likes me and we still flirt with each other but she says she would date me later in life but we still tell each other we think each other are good looking and we compliment each other all the time. How do I get her to date me now. We are 14

Hi Brad, we've been living together, even after the little incident. She's moving out tomorrow for peace of mind. We are married, and she says once we have some sort of friendship, we can date again and she said if I really want them, I can come and see them, she moved 2 min away from house, where we lived with my mum whom we looked after. I'm the gentleman that emailed you today, regarding the Order on your site.

Hey Brad, my ex and I had a really sweet relationship but for two times he asked me for a break until the third one he broke up with me with no reason. We never fought, we never argued we were always nice to each other. Back them his excuse was that we didn't have to see each other because he had track and when we used to hang out we would always go to a park that is it. He was always saying how he couldn't wait to have a car to take me out and take me out with my friends but everything suddenly changed. Now we are juniors we both have our license and we both also work but we don't really talk even though we have a class together. He contacted me before the beginning of the year telling me how he wanted everything to be okay between us so it wouldn't be awkward for both of us seeing each other at school and not saying hi at least. Months past by and we barely say hi. I don't feel the same as before but I feel a little spark still for him. The other day I asked him if he could train me in the gym to be in shape for a modeling runaway I have on July and he said he can but because of his track we'll have to wait until the end of this month but he told me to text him to see what we can do. since that day he has been staring at me during class and I can see in his eyes the guy I used to like and love at first. I believe we could work out again but I'm scared and afraid that I'm just putting my hopes up. What should I do?

Flirting is fun until someone catches feelings and it’s not quite what we wanted.

Hey brad! I hope you still respond to these things as I could use some wise advice! I really need help. I was dumped by my ex about a month ago now, and I'm entirely unsure about the way she feels or why she even broke up with me to begin with, I've been having a lot of mixed emotions but evidentially, she's the one for me. Anyway, I'll explain from the week before we broke up. So about a month ago, we were 4 months or so (8 months unofficially) into our relationship, she had just met my sister & her family (nephews ect) which she was pretty excited to do, but a few days past & we didn't talk much, this wasn't out of the ordinary for us since we both hate communicating via text on a regular basis, anyway, the following Monday, a few days later I knew she went out to London that day for a celebratory football parade so later that night I obviously popped up to her and asked how her day was, we talked a bit but this is where it all went wrong. I happened to ask one too many questions (unfortunately for some reason I let my past relationships get to me and for that brief moment of time I got jealous / anxious) anyway, after I asked one to many questions I added a comment "I hope you didn't let many of the lads near you" & this is where the whole conversation went sideways. She got upset, told me she got upset, said she felt really untrusted and it made her feel awful. We talked it out, kinda. To a fairly redeemable place. However, it was the following Tuesday morning I made things worse I think? Things just didn't feel right so I messaged her, 1 to apologise and 2 to make sure she and I were okay. But I grovelled too much and that seemed to just annoy her, regardless, later that night I complimented a picture and she responded positively towards me. I tried to talk about it again the next day just to clear the air, massive, massive mistake, I could almost at this point see the difference in the way she spoke. Regardless after that I left it a few days, and after a day or two she text me something along the lines of "hey, sorry I've been off recently, I just needed some time to think & vent everything, Im okay now" So I replied saying it's okay as long as she is and that was that. No response, so he following day I just wanted to call her, just for a chat. However she was out, so she replied to my phone call via text "what's up?" I said I just fancied a chat, exchange a few words, all is good" and she just claimed she was busy, with her friend. So I stated that's fine, could she spare 5 minutes? In which she gave the phone to her friend who responded with "hey she's busy right now, I haven't seen her in ages, tou can talk to her later, I'll take care of her" So I left it. That following day I get the dreadful "I need to talk to you" text. I knew exactly what was about to happen, and I'll be honest I totally freaked out, I just didn't understand. She broke it off with me over text, she said everything was too stressful for her, this happens to her all the time, it's stressful and she can't keep getting hurt. I tried to explain how it was literally our first ever little mishap but she wasn't having it, she just apologised and asked me to leave it, for her. So I left it a few more days and sent her a text asking to talk, giving her both options on the table, being friends and ending on better terms, or getting back with me, explaining I just wanted to understand because I felt I'd done nothing wrong & what we had together was amazing. Anyway, I didn't get a response so I waited nearly a week, spoke to a mutual friend & they agreed she was doing things the wrong way and recommended I wait for her after college one day. (We're 19 & 20) So that's exactly what I did. Frankly, this is where it all gets weird. Because I went there expecting the absolute worst... I'll skip out all the small talk & After the first 5 or so minutes, she gave me a hug and from that hug, she grabbed my hands, and held them both firmly. I stated that you don't join the race to trip on the first hurdle, that none of this was worth it, and as much as I don't want to lose her & want her back, I am willing to accept her decision because I respect her & her choice. I suggested maybe we talk when things are less stressful, and the entire conversation she had been agreeing with what I was saying & also explained a little bit how it wasn't just my comment that caused the breakup, it was her home life and college that was all causing a lot of stress. Anyway, it was then her who suggested that she will see how she feels when she got back from Germany (she went away for a few days that next week) so I said if it's space she wants, it's space I can give. She repeated that again, she'd let me know how she felt (which to me said she wanted to talk at the very least, just needed some space) she gave me another long hug, we both said sorry on each others ears and she held my hand as she walked away and smiled at me. I can't help but feel I made things worse, but it gave me a lot of hope that we could sort this out. Anyway, I left her alone... Kind of... For a week or so. Maybe 10/12 days. I waited till about 4 days after she got back from Germany & I hadn't heard anything, now I will explain I had liked some pictures she posted on Facebook, and a few favourites on her Twitter, not a syrup is stalker amount but the things I would've liked regardless if you know what I mean? Anyway, it got to this stage, and I lost my nerve again, and liked a particular picture of me and her together, 2 pictures in fact, our favourite ones, in order to get her attention. (I know it's stupid now but the whole situation threw me off so much when I know we both cared a stupid amount for each other, the fundamentals of our relationship were pretty deep) anyhow, she responded with an angry status on Facebook "FFS enough! - feeling pissed off" & tbh, I was angry at this stage too. So I popped up to her saying "we'll talk to me then!" And she just seemed to be angry, didn't really respond but more asked me to stop & say she felt like it was spam, she told me I shouldn't have done what I did, liking those pictures and on the day of the break up (this was roughly 2 weeks after) I shouldn't have messaged a friend of hers in America & she ignored me after that. I tried to say lets just be friends, but that resulted in he removing me off Facebook entirely. Frankly I didn't understand. The only other times I had tried to contact her, were the day she went off to Germany I sent her a very nice and short text wishing her a good trip, and when she got back hoping that she had a great trip and if she wanted to meet for a drink or something. So I hadn't tried to directly contact her a lot at all. Since then, absolutely 0 contact now, for nearly a week or two until just the other day before she went on holiday to America to see this very friend I spoke to I called her on a blocked number, she answered and I spoke, she clearl heard it was me, though she didn't actually say anything, even when she picked up. I made it very obvious it was me, I was cheerful but I just said "hey, listen I know you can hear me I just simply wanted to wish you a good trip in America because I know how excited you've been for it! Anyway, I'm at work at the moment..." And she hung up mid sentence I was going to say "... Just starting my shift, so I'll see you around!" Anyway, since then, again, no contact, she's in America for 2 weeks. And frankly I don't know what to do. I'm so in love with her, and I've never disrespected or sly'd her and like I said? This is our firstEVER mishap. & I just don't feel like it should be the ending of a relationship, specially one with so many good memories and we really did work well together. I want her back, so badly. She was right for me and everyone seemed to think we were right for each other. We are literally opposites of one another. I'm finding it really hard to let go of, I was patient with relationships for so long until I met her (I was too damaged previously) but she was the girl that I knew I wanted to be with. I'm having really mixed emotions, I'm getting angry at her, but I love her, I'm upset but moving on as well. I've made an effort to horde myself with activities, I've been out with my friends everyday, I'm a skateboarder so I've skated a lot and even picked up a job working as security. But frankly, I have no idea what to do. She seems to have just alienated me completely & for no real reason whatsoever. I can't help but feel I pushed her away by trying to fight for her but j made sure I didn't fight too hard & obviously I've not posted anything directed at her. Like I said, it's been a month now and she's away for 2 weeks. Her going away has made me feel so much worse, at the same time so much anger, but the fact is I really do still love her. I plan to unfollow her Twitter feed & remove her from snapchat (throughout this month, she's been checking my snapchat storyline fairly regularly but that's it from what I can see) but frankly I am desperate to win her back but I just have no idea how. The only 2 times we've had contact was when I saw her in person, which was pretty misleading after the way she broke up with me, and that brief angry conversation on Facebook where she removed me. I just don't understand any of this? I don't understand what she's feeling, and I really don't understand what I've done so wrong to deserve being treated like shit and for her to turn so cold on me. Please, please help me. I am so lost & i do feel lost without her. She meant and means the world to me.

My ex and I broke up 8 years ago. It was a mutual breakup, but we still remained friends for a while. The friendship ended when we had gotten into an argument, over something I don't even remember now, likely it was something really stupid. I didn't really miss her for the longest time, but in the last month or so, I'm just now starting to feel the effects of the breakup taking its toll on me. Neither one of us have dated anyone else in those 8 years. I've wanted to get back together with her, because I've realized how much of a strong connection we had. I hope I can repair the friendship we shared, but she too, has to want that as well. I hope for the best.

We have 10 children. We’ve been separated for years but still sleep in the same bed, still go places together and have fun but he’s interested in his current online relationship. We never stopped living together. We’ve been together 27 years

Hey Brad, unique situation here. This girl and I got to know each other over the course if a year, she slowly got into me after initially saying it wasn't gona happen. I was leaving for work, for a few months and after our last date we kissed (finally) and then we made plans to keep it going. It seemed to be going well a month in, even 2. Then after some time we hadn't spoken in a few days (which she likes, space is important to her) I started the conversation again. She decided to come out with "I feel like I'm going to get over this soon". I was shattered at first, but then I made up my mind to come back. So I'm back in town for 2 days now, and trying to get her interested again, because I feel she isn't interested in holding a conversation. Trying to figure out a way to meet her as a surprise as well. Any questions and/or input would be gladly appreciated 👌

Wow I had got a text from my ex and we broke up because of bad terms on my end tho... He stated that he still remembers EVERYTHING....but after years of us not being around each other he wants me in his life forever. I'm going to take that as a good thing

"sigh" my first love... met when I was 16, got married 2 years later, married for 12 years and have 2 amazing children as a result... I divorced him after he cheated. It's been 8 years. I still love him very much. I have never been able to move on...

Hi Brad. It's been 3 months already since we've broken up after a 3 year relationship. We've had contact here and there only under important reasons (bills) We had a talk the other day and she stated "we're taking a break" I stopped using all the social media because my mind keeps thinking she could be with someone else which is stupid because a lot of our mutual friends still thinks we're together and a lot of people that knows us, shops at the store where she works. This past Monday she came over my place so I can fix her car, we had a good time. We talked and laugh and we would flirt with each other, make eye contact. When I was done with the car, she couldn't hug me from the front but went and wrapped her arms around me from the back then gave me a kiss on the cheek and told me she love me. She said it helps that I don't talk to her so she can focus on her. Stating it is a slow process. What does it truly mean when she said "taking a break"?

This is very helpful an useful! Thanks for all these videos! Can I email you and get your thoughts on the break up that I am going through. I feel like sometimes things aren't working trying to get my ex back but I am trying to be positive about it!

Hey Brad, my partner / fiancé went from loving me to hating me in a day. Our relationship was good, but we had our little problems that everyone has. One day my boyfriend talked to his mother and found out that she had cancer. We started to fight in the evening about how badly she treats him verbally (I knew nothing about her cancer). In the end we fought about everything and nothing, and I said that maybe it is also very suitable that I move, I did not mean it! I have struggled for 2 months to show that I love him and that I will not leave him. Now he's afraid that I'm going to leave him if we start over and he thinks that my whole family hates him after these two months. What should I do?? He said one day that he loved me, talked wedding and he did not want to live life without me and now he barely see me.

Hi, Brad. In December, I began dating a guy, we can just call him Danny. Well, Danny and I dated for about 6 and a half months, we seemed incredibly happy and it was just overall amazing! We spent a lot of time together, had many things in common, and overall I thought the relationship was going fine. Until May came along that is... In May we began to be less intimate, mainly because work and stuff got in the way and a bunch of stuff. We still hung out a lot of the time, and had a blast. Later that month, around May 25th I had a birthday party for myself. He along with about 5 more of my friends came and we had fun, especially since he bought me a chocolate fountain as a gift. At the party, Danny spent more time with his and my mutual friend Kyle than he spent with me, and I thought it was just because Kyle is shy. After the party Danny kissed me goodbye and him and Kyle hung out. For that weekend after my party I didn't talk to Danny for most of it, I said the occasional hello how are you I love you whatever, but for the most part I was extremely busy. On Sunday I tried talking to him, and he just didn't talk to me. On Monday he walked up to me at school and told me,"I don't think we should be together anymore, I don't want a relationship over summer." I got incredibly upset, walked away angered, and later on that day forced him to tell me the truth because I didn't believe him. He told me by a message that I was immature, should act my age, and just didn't want me in his life anymore. I told Kyle and Kyle told me Danny was contemplating on breaking up with me or not and Kyle told him not to, but he did anyway. This aggravated me a lot, and just overall made me sad, mad, etc. I spent my whole summer trying to get over him, rebound over rebound over being single for a month. Finally, I just gave up. I faced the fact I can't get rid of my feelings that easily. Danny and I saw each other at theatre practice for the first half of summer, but never spoke. (Even though after the show I did tell him he did a good job.) Once school came back around, we figured out we have one class together. We sit near each other, but never speak. He always hits on other girls, and that just makes me jealous. This entire year I've liked him incognito and the only thing he's said to me was over snapchat saying "Don't go making up lies." and I didn't even understand what it meant. I just want to be able to talk to him, have him like me, and maybe even try out our relationship again. But, when it comes to this I don't know what to do or even where to begin. It's been 4 months since we dated and I need guidance. Please help me.

7:49 How do you "run out of time" on YT? 10 minute restriction was already long gone in 2014.

i broke up with my ex a 9months ago, and we was talking for so long, and i asked him and was begging him like something each and evry months and everytime he says im sorry, idont have any feelings for you. The past will never happen again. move on. but he says he has all my memories, and the memories are enough, but idont have that LOVE feeling. He is too strong in his decision. Its going be 9 months since the breakup. i really dont know what to do, im suffering each and evryday by thinking of him and his all words and memories :)

Hi Brad, Can I Email you directly as I feel none of your videos although they are good but they do not answer my questions as a result of my unique situation. At least I can tell you exactly what happened. Thanks man love you videos.

Brad, I feel like a lot of the advice you give circles around having an active, busy social life and making your ex jealous. But, what if that's part of why your ex left you? That he felt like you were too busy with your friends and flirtacious with other people? Wouldn't doing those things only further prove his point?

Hey Brad, So it has been almost 8 months that me and my ex broke up, she said that her family wont accept me so its better to go on our own. i tried to convince her that it could be dealt with and we could manage her family, but she doesn't wanna listen to me at all and gives me reasons and logic that honestly doesn't make much sense to me, i tried to stay as friends,i did keep distance as well but then i had to initiate the conversation mostly (i wont deny i did a bit too much there and was kinda chasing her ), told her how i feel about her and i'd really want her back and all, but she just kept pushing me away. then i told her that i wanted to built a friendship and I've tried my best but since it didn't get appreciated, i'd stop my efforts and just wont say anything. then she agreed on staying as friends and has been talking to me nicely and initiating contact with me herself for the last couple of days. Now i really do love her a lot and i really want her back. is there any way or any thing i should/ could do to make things better and will help me to get her back? your advice is much needed thanks

Brad , I dated my girlfriend for 5 years. We stayed friends immediately after for 18 months. To not sound mean, she literally has no one else in her life but me and her family, therefore we were always together!! We were never not except when she was working or when I was working. Now, I realized that I want her back but told me she can’t offer me more. Will NC actually work in this case ? I mean we were doing everything, shopping, movie nights, dinner nights, road trips, family gatherings etc….we never stopped

I had only one bf for 6year's, He is my childhood, our relationship since I'm in high school until in college, we've meet during no class or end of the week., we have alots of dreams in our life in how to help our parents.But after my graduation I need to work in another country for 2year's and now we are LDR.But sad to say our relationship getting coolder because we have different time and we talk only in social media . the sweetness is already gone but we both continued, after a 9months he said that he can't continue this situation , He broke up me in the nice way and he cried so much. I feel so sad at that moment I don't know what to do, only crying ! it come up to my mind that he had another gf that's why I never ask any questions,only saying Goodbye and I love you. and now we had no communication but I still love him and I want him to back. ((please I need your advice.)) thanks and Godbless

Thank you Brad

Hi Brad, hope you had a good new year. My case is a little more complicated, sort of relevant to the video topic. I'd appreciate the help. So, I'm in college, and three years ago, I had a few one night stands with a girl. So, we're talking January to mid March, we had a few arguments but eventually got back between April to June. Since then, a lot of **** has happened, I ended up waking up during an operation and I had to deal with the PTSD for a good year (still sort of affects me), her dad's cancer became worse (still has it), but we always sort of flirted since, she liked being around me, constantly rested her head on my shoulders, she let me hug her from behind etc. She was in a destructive relationship with her ex at the time, and they only just broke up two months ago (although on and off for months at a time). We recently met each other after being in different countries for thirteen months (gap year), and eventually our conversations got to the point where I ended up telling her she was beautiful and that I still have feelings for her etc. Roughly two weeks after she broke up with her ex, she ended up in a relationship with her housemate, a month (including a two week holiday apart from her new partner) later she made it public (she's never liked publicising her life). She just seems to be a different person altogether. She used to give speeches about how a partner shouldn't be your "be all and end all," but the only person she hangs out with is him (I don't mean to sound grumpy, but he isn't the most attractive person either), and rarely bothers with her friends. Their relationship is moving really quickly too. Since she made it public she's completely ignoring me as well. Every single bone in my body is telling me it's a rebound, but because they live together and sometimes her other housemates are rarely there, I'm worried it'll work. You're the expert :P, what do you think? Do you think it's a rebound or is it difficult to tell? If it sounds like she's making a go of it, then I'm willing to let it go, I just want her to be happy. I am worried though.

Hey Brad love seeing your videos and listening to your advice 👍 i had a question . i broke up with my ex gf in Nov 2017. I tried to talk to hear and get her back but i discovered she was indeed cheating on me. In Jan of 2018 the dude send me a DM on instagram of her and him together in a collage pic .. i haven't tried to contact her and keep my distance. my question would be , why would he send me a pic of them together on my DM Instagram..and did he send it to me or was it her idea to have him send it to me .. thanks

I hope this is applicable on us because we fought about finances.

Brad, I did the no contact as per your advice. My guy never returned.

I LOVE THIS

I don't think I'm a victim or have that mentality, she was my best friend, the love of my life, my rock she was everything to me, we went through so much together, at one point we were homeless living in hotels, I even had to go an visit her in a mental hospital, even though she's moved on I still love her and will till the day I die, I don't know how or what I'm gonna do but im just trying my hardest to keep my head up, it's hard when everywere I go I see her, I can't even listen to music, that's how bad this is.

What's up Brad? Yeah, so my ex broke up with me a day ago, pretty recently. I made the mistakes, I lied about a few little things and it made her push me away. She told me she doesnt have feelings for me anymore like she did. We were together a year and a half, and im pretty bummed it's over. Heartbroken to be honest. I love her and want her back, but I haven't initiated contact at all. Any tips and whats the odds getting her back?

Hello Brad, I wanted to share with you my very odd relationship, ive never asked to be in this situation but you know how the attraction/ love is... So, two years ago I moved to China (im from mexico) and I was living there and staying there for some time. I met my ex who is arab guy who was also there for some time, we dated and I swear it was the most passionate and romantic relationship ive ever been in. im 23 and he is 25. so, we knew that our relationship was going to me interrupted because we had to return to our countries. we always talked about how he was going to come to my country to ask for my hand, and that we were going to be together and that the distance would never come between us. we knew it was going to be a year of seperation due to his job. so we whent back to our contries and did the long distance thing, but after a couple of months i started to notice that he was getting bored with the relationship, so stupid me got clingy. I started saying stupid stuff like "why didnt u call me back? why dont u call as often". I pushed him away and then when my birthday came along he FORGOT that it was my birthday even though i reminded him a day before. I got so mad that i dumped him and he seemed releifed. i cried sooo much but accepted the break up. he however started casually texting me and sometimes called. it has been seven months since my birthday with the break up and he still casually calls me and talks to me about his activities, but NEVER intimate conversations. (maybe because he is muslim i dont know) . he doesnt tell me that he is inlove, NOTHING. but he mentioned that he will come in two months (like we planned before because thats his vacation time). Brad, what do you think his intentions are? do you think he wants a future with me? we talk like every week or two and we usually talk maximum 20 minutes. He will only be here for 10 days, do you even think thats enough time to rebuild attraction? I really wanted to know what is your opinion of my situation, I dont even talk to my friends about him, he just seems like an illusion now, i havnt seem him in 14 months, he seems unreal, though i think about him EVERY single day. he is still my first and last thought of the day :/

Heyy Brad...Im Nikki...its been an year and half after me and my bf broke up...It was not his fault or mine...he explained to me about his financial issues and told me his family needs him and a relationship can not make things happen...and it was true...Then he told me'Nik prepare for the worst and ul get the best...' then he left...he talk once a while when we meet some where randomly but it extends for hours .... and when i look into his eyes i still see that...' i love you nikki' but he never says that...he was the only person who saw the real ME and was a cure for the depression i had for years....and now....i see him getting harder and trying on his career but im scared if he will get to harder that he will be ok to forget me ...or im afraid he already did...one and half year and hes still in here making me want him forever ....what should i do..... it feels tooo hard to handle...i need him back but i know i cant change things with him...thats not correct... plz help