Thank you so much for your kindess on this and previous videos. I feel so fortunate to be part of this community! I want you to know I am over a week out from this surgery and everytbing is healing well! ❤
The heartbreak is real and don't worry about crying about it all. We have been through this experience. Was at work, extreme sharp pain, told the manager I had to go to the bathroom, laid on the floor, shouted for manager to call my husband, next thing I know I'm being carried to the car and wanted to go home. My husband said he took a look at me and thought "nope". The ER surgeon said that he saved my life. It was a shocking experience and took about two weeks before I sobbed about our loss. And I was scared to get pregnant again since the ectopic was my first. Well, time heals. Four children later here we are. Y'all will actually be fine. Just hang on tight to each other. Time; just time. I pray for y'all.
My god young lady you have been through hell and back. My heart breaks for you and your husband. You are an inspiration. Prayers and good health to you.
I am so glad that Dr took the time to actually sit down, in your room, and talk to you like a person going through a huge thing. I'm glad he answered your questions and made you feel comfortable. We as patients need more of this. Again, very sorry for your loss.
@@ykook7000. One would hope, but it doesn’t always turn out that way. Even if it may have started out great. People can change onto someone you don’t know. I lived it. My kids, sadly, lived it, too. I carry a B lot of guilt over marrying him. Divorced after daughter told me he treated me like shit & I deserved so much better..😢
Dont forget your body will also have to cope with the crash in hormone level as well as everything else. I think a previous reply said that your baby's DNA will be mixed with yours, so that means that any future baby will have a part of this baby with them too. You will never forget this one, or their due date, but be gentle with yourself as the grief is as raw and real as any other which many people do not understand.
I am so thankful that you and Zac have each other to lean on during all the trials you face in life. You both are loved by this RU-vid community. If we could all show up to your home and give you hugs I'm sure we would. Better days are ahead.
I delivered my first child at 28 weeks. The second pregnancy was ectopic, and I experienced the same surgery as yours. The third and fourth ended in miscarriages with subsequent D&Cs. I am always amazed at the strength of a woman.
At the strength of a human body. My neighbour, a man, has died this week after 21 years fighting several cancers. It is incredible how mean and awful a part of our bodies can be, and how resilient the other can be. A positive and strong mind helps a lot too. Maggie has all the weapons of a great warrior!
There are no adequate words dear sweet Maggie to say how sorry I am that your joy turned into this horrid experience. It’s high time you and Zack caught a major break and the joy you both deserve. Sending healing thoughts and love.
I am so sorry you have had to endure this hell. I do really think the way you have shared has educated so many people, as most don't understand ectopic pregnancies at all. This comment may sound really weird, but these videos have given me something. My husband died suddenly just 3-1/2 yrs after our ectopic pg. My mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer just weeks he died after so our lives and many memories those years became a blur due to grief and stress. Your videos about this have brought back many of my memories of our own ectopic experience, and this video brought back the moments when I had just woken up from my surgery. When my OB told my husband she had to take my fallopian tube, he knew how upset I would be so asked if he could be the one to tell me. Watching this video, I remembered waking up from the anesthesia, and the man who never cried had tears in his eyes and told me so gently. I had forgotten that moment and it all just came back so clearly for me. For a minute I felt him like he so close and right next to me again. When we lose loved ones, they and the memories start fading, feeling further away each month, then year, they are gone. The moments we can suddenly feel them again like they are still here mean everything, and this video gave me one of those today. ❤❤
I am so sorry for your many losses. Thank you for sharing, I’m sure it will be helpful for Maggie to hear about what others have experienced yet managed to come through. Sending love from Texas.
Sending you lots of healing love. About 10 years ago I became pregnant and was so happy! I was a week out from getting my first ultrasound and I started bleeding. It was not a lot but I felt something was wrong. My friends kept telling me that spotting can be normal during pregnancy. That evening I had excruciating pain in my right lower abdomen. It came and then went quickly. I dismissed it that night but decided to go to the ER in the morning. I remember them taking my blood and my HGC levels were showing I was definitely pregnant. When they did the sonogram I remember the technician not saying much. When the doctor came in and told me that they had to terminate the pregnancy I was devastated. He looked at me and said we have to do surgery immediately, you will die if we don’t. The doctor said if I waited any longer I would have potentially bled to death in a matter of hours. I had never even heard of an ectopic pregnancy. It broke my heart. It was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. I think about that baby a lot. I hope you recover quickly and know there are a lot of women out there who are here to support you!
I've been following you since i found you which was after the rupture of my colon, (from infected diverticulitis, June 5, 2022.) Shorthand:on toilet-severe pain began- I was -only a few feet from my bed. made it there then passed out.-woke up in the hospital bed after having major surgery to clean out my gut and with my new friend, SURPRISE, my stoma! Maggie! You have been to Hell and back and pulled through with the awesome strength God gave and of course with the and the strength that comes from Zach and the rest of you're family; loving you and keeping strong through your struggles. You are loved and admired by all here at IBD. And some of us are so thankful for you because you taught us all how to deal with all the issues regarding our new way of life! Between you and Erik gan Ostomy you saved me by taking a lot of my fear and anxiety away and really educating me about the variety of items that.ave made life easy all around! God Bless you and yours always. And i know you will be a great Mom when the day comes ( and I have faith that it WILL) Until then, cuddle close with hubby and your fur babies and just breathe in all their love for you. And please remember the one who takes care of us all, our Lord and Savior, Jesus who showers us all with his love and healing! Amen. Just another Ostomat,e Susan Thein, New york
My heart goes out to you. I’ve had several ectopics and several emergency surgeries. Methotrexate didn’t work for me on those occasions. I had one fallopian tube removed and later on had an ectopic in the remaining tube that also required surgery. The doctor left my remaining tube even though it was damaged. I was devastated, but my healthy daughter was conceived with that remaining tube that was previously operated on. I wish you the best. Everything will be okay. It’s so hard. I completely empathize with what you’re going through. Xoxo.
i was really thinking that because your hcg levels were dropping, you were not going to need surgery. you really have been through things and i hope you start to feel better soon
You are one of the strongest women I have ever seen. You have been through so much and you are still fighting. Thank you for sharing and Prayers are happening for you.
I am so sorry that you felt like it wasn’t okay to believe yourself about your pain until it became critical. 😢 I know that we as women are gaslighted so much by medical professionals that we fear censure if we go in “too soon.” God bless you and praying for peace as you continue along this journey. 😊
Gosh after having my own near death health scare I could hear the fear and uncertainty in your voice before the surgery. When you talked about the phone call I replayed my cry for help as i went unconscious. Im so greatful for my boyfriend. I woke up diaphoretic and cyanotic in the ER. I was afraid of the hospital shower so i had body wipes for 4 days.... i smelt awful in the ER. After 4 days i felt so icky.
Maggie, I appreciate your courage to share your experiences online. Despite your loss and grief, doing so will help others. I'm saddened they didn't just go in like they did year's ago. Your Doctor is correct about having hope. Heal up and get reassessed in another five months. Hold your gut with a couch pillow when sneezing or coughing. No bending or lifting above 5 lbs for six weeks. You don't want excessive scar tissue to cause pain later. It form's quickly. Big side hugs 💜🌻🪻🌷🌸🌼🌹🌺
JFC! This just devastates😭 me! I really am very sorry that you went through this. I wish you all the best of luck in the future. Nothing is impossible. Never give up hope
Prayers are being sent to you and Zak. I am so very sorry for all you’re going through Maggie. You are a trouper for sure. Please take all the time you need and never ever apologize for crying. 🙏🙏😊
Much love to you both... It is scary how things can escalate but so glad you got a Dr that actually sat and spent time talking to you. Zac you are what everyone woman would wish for calm and loving. From a Rainy Chilly Scotland I hope each day is getting easier. My rescue dog Piper sending tails wags to you pack ❤
I am so sorry!! I have had a cesarean with my fifth child. I have had a horrible miscarriage. Then my rainbow baby died. The emotional pain and trauma was quite an awful journey. I’m in my late fifties now. I have had seven children and now have eight grandchildren. Sending lots of hugs and prayers. ❤❤❤
I had this with my second pregnancy. I was in absolute pain, and the surgeon said I had an hour to live. After the surgery came the guilt. My body killed my baby. That was 25 years ago. I had 2 children after that, but I will never forget the pain of losing my baby
I had an ectopic pregnancy in 1988. It was a horrible experience. I had about the same scenario as her. I had bleeding for a day or two. When the pain hit it as very sudden. The hallmark of an ectopic pregnancy is shoulder pain which I didn’t know at the time. I also thought it as gas. I begun to feel faint and nauseous but I didn’t want to call my husband he was watching a ballgame on TV. I called my doctor he said go to the ER NOW. My blood pressure was dropping fast. The doctor on call checked me out and immediately called to get the OR ready. I had a right sided ectopic pregnancy where I lost my right ovary also. They said I had a pint of blood n my abdomen. I had two miscarriages after this. My incision is vertical and I’ve not been happy with it.
not your fault... a lot of things can go wrong... there IS NOTHING you could have done to change what happened. NOT YOUR FAULT! had a gf w ectopic, and I had a blighted ovum/missed miscarriage. sucks.
We are all behind you. I was in bed for the first day having had a cesarean for my second child at 28 weeks. I got up on the second day and walked around a second ward. I bumped into a friend who said how come your out of bed. It gets less painful if you can walk around. When it's across it can.pull more. I was told I couldn't have kids due to another problem. One born at 26 weeks one born at 28.i guess what Im trying to say is your a fighter girl. Grieve cry and process the whole thing. You have a wonderful man ZAC to help with things. You are a STRONG PERSON.
So thankful that you got to the hospital when you did! I don't have your issues but a spinal cord injury for 35 yrs. It's amazing what we can do to get through some really bad things. Prayers for you and Zak!!!!
That cramping…that’s how my perforation started and one of my bowel obstructions. One minute you are fine and the next you can’t move because the pain is so bad. Absolutely horrific. Breaks my heart that you went through this and it makes me even sadder hearing you question what you were feeling. Having my doctors beat it into my head that it is all in my head I get those same thoughts. It is scary going through stuff like this and you help so many people; you gave people a place to come and talk to others who know what is it like. Stay strong and hope your recovery is going well
Jeez, all that was waaay more than enough! Glad it's over and you're home. You've been handling it all so well, as usual. I'm sending you healing, strength and peace. And much love. ❤
I'm from Birmingham, England, and wish I could cross the pond and just give you, Zak, and your dad a big hug. My heart goes out to you all. You are all amazing ❤
I also had an ectopic pregnancy about 8 years ago now.. and watching how you handled this made me so proud... for lack of a better word.. It's a different kind of impossibly hard. Much love to you Mama
Oh my goodness. You poor thing. I just want to give you a hug. Your ability to stay positive is so inspiring. It’s hard. I could use a little bit of that myself.💗
I feel so heartbroken for the 2 of you. Maggie, you're always a beautiful bright light to watch. So inspirational. I have lost 3 children, aged 8 months, 16 years, and 38 years. You can survive and find joy again. I'm very happy about your birthstone ring and it's a lovely idea. ❤
You are a wonderful woman, so strong, brave and loving. Thankyou for the videos you make and share. I have had a LARS from rectal cancer leaving me with a Barbie butt and permanent colostomy and your ostomy knowledge has helped me so much. I wish I could give you a big gentle hug and I wish you all the very best for a speedy recovery.💐❤from 🇨🇦
Oh my goodness, sweet Maggie! I’m sending you love and hugs from California. My heart is so sad and all I want to do is hug you. You are so brave and amazing. I’m keeping you in my prayers every day for a quick recovery and brighter days ahead. ❤️🙏❤️🙏
Hi there! I have IBD and am on my TTC journey. I’ve been dealing with 3 years of infertility, and have now had four losses. I had an IUI in February, and that ended in a chemical pregnancy. I did another IUI in March which resulted in a super rare type of ectopic pregnancy, called cornual ectopic pregnancy. I feel your pain. It is not only physically painful, but it’s also emotionally draining and incredibly traumatic.
So sorry for everything you've been through! I just had a really bad miscarriage this time last year. Hope you get your rainbow baby soon! Just had my second C-section. Currently taking care of a toddler and newborn while recovering from my C-section. It comes with the guilt of taking any pain medicine because of breastfeeding. We just push through and do our best. Hope your recovery goes smoother than from a C-section. Take it easy and don't work out for 6 weeks if so. Don't give up! It took us 4 miscarriages to get to this point, but miracles happen. Doctors gave us a 3% chance of having a baby even with IVF, but we defied the odds and have 2 kids.
I have watched you for years but never left a comment. Today i want to reach out and tell you how incredibly strong woman you are and I look forward to the day you and Zach are holding your newborn. big hugs from canada
God bless you both and the strenght you have. Becoming a mother isn t always easy but you have been through so many battles, you deserve a chance that s comes without so many complications!!!!! I have had my issues and a long wait, but the stork brought my angel girl from China 28 years ago and completed our lives..... Your amgel is waiting somewhere for you and I hate to see you suffer and put your poor body through so much but you are a warrior and cry all you want.... You ll get there one way or another but after this horrible situation, plan on pampering yourself to get your strenght back... YOU BOTH NEED A BREAK.... SENDING YOU OCEANS OF LOVE FROM THE CANARY ISLANDS . I WOULD LOVE TO GIVE YOU A HUGE MOTHERLY HUG BUT I GUESS ZAC TAKES CARE OF THAT❤❤❤ ANNE
I’m so happy that you’re still alive! I’m sorry this happened, I know I keep saying that but idk what else to say. I wish I could help you like you’ve helped us by making your videos. I’m sure these videos will help someone going through a similar situation. I hope and pray you have a speedy recovery and that if you get pregnant again everything works out and you get a live birth. ❤ You’re so strong and this experience has just made you stronger! XX
dont worry about crying your going though a lot and its ok . i hope u feel better soon . u are really strong and i love u for that. give zack my love . he a really sweet husband im glad he was there for u.
I'm so sorry you've been through all this. And sorry for your loss. Go easy on yourself - what you've been through, physically and mentally, will take time to heal.
Sweet Girl, I am so terribly sorry. I lost two by ectopic pregnancy. Nearly killed me. I was devastated. Obviously having my own was not going to work. My husband and I adopted two new borns, 4 years apart. The rest of my story is one of joy , love and great happiness. Both now happily married. We have 4 beautiful granddaughters! Our son and daughter are close to us and each other. They love the Lord and us . What more could we ask for. I cannot imagine my life without them. Not sure where your journey will take you, but I am positive you will be very happy.
If anyone in the world deserves a miracle, it is you and Zak. You are a warrior and he fights right by your side. Beautiful. You are blessed to have each other and will have (human) children in some way or another. I know your fur babies are your children also! You are a incredibly strong soul.
Warm hugs to you both. I completely sympathize. C-section. Gall bladder. Barbie Butt surgery (rectal cancer). VSG. Oh, and a craniotomy (brain cancer), but that was the opposite end 😅. Keep going, warrior! 💜
Sitting here with a headache and so overwhelmed by your story . My headache is nothing compared to your storu. Thanks for opening my eyes to my blessings. Now let’s work on making your dream of becoming pregnant happen. What I can do for you is pray that your dream comes true. I am very sorry for what you just went through. 17:55
My heart goes to you, dear, you have been through so much. But I have a feeling, good things will definitely happen, and you both will make amazing parents!
You are genuinely one of the strongest persons I've ever had the pleasure of seeing you've been through a lot and you keep coming out stronger and you always remain positive I really hope you accomplish your dream of experiencing a successful pregnancy really hope you give yourself the time to heal and cry just go through it
You are amazing too. You’ve been through so much but you continue to smile and stay optimistic about life and its challenges. I’m so sorry about this difficult phase. Better days are ahead. I am glad you are safe and the surgery went well.
I am no doctor but I feel that the surgery should have come earlier. I have felt that she was not cared for as correctly as she should have. I have cried line a baby bc I have felt that she was helpless, only really supported by her husband through all this ordeal. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's how I feel about her. Now I am beginning to feel angry for her.
I had 2 c-sections before my ileproctocolectomy. First was rough, but the second I knew what to expect was easy. Even my ostomy was surgery was easy, as I knew what it was all about. I have a high pain tolerance and know the faster I get up and about, the better it is. I feel for you and send lots of love and strength.
I'm sorry you are having a rough time. You are strong! I don't have the right words for comfort you, but If I did, I would write them. Just keep putting one foot Infront of the other. We are rooting for you! G-d Bless.
You're loved by millions of people in this world. Please don't think like you're devastated for the experiences you've gone through. We are always here for you.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I've had Crohns for a long time now. I will see my doctor/ surgeon on Thursday for an office procedure. It never ends. I did not have children as I also had endometriosis and then uterine problems. Whatever you and Zack do, stay healthy. Self care should be a priority.
For being such a tiny woman, you sure are strong . Most people couldn't handle what you've been thru. You always have a smile on your face and you never give up. Please pursue your dream of having a child, You & Zak would make WONDERFUL parents. I'm praying for your quick recovery,and also for the little Angel that you lost.
Losing a pregnancy / baby either through ectopic or miscarriage is really rough. I miscarried my first pregnancy at 9 weeks gestation. I was devastated. Subsequent IVF rounds that failed to take, a second miscarriage. The most important thing is to be gentle on yourself. Rest as much as you need. Cry as much as you need. Those intense emotions need to be released so you can heal in every way.
So sorry this has been your journey. I hope your path forward brings you happiness and peace. I’m grateful for your willingness to share. A mentor figure passed from colon cancer and she told me “motherhood is the greatest gift.” I was pregnant with my first at the time surviving HG. I hope you are able to experience motherhood. It is the greatest and some journeys are very hard. It isn’t talked about enough and those hard journeys aren’t normalized. You are worthy of motherhood and if you are lucky and choose it, you are going to kick ass. Best wishes - L
You’ve been through hell lovely Maggie, what an absolute nightmare. I’m so sorry, sorry doesn’t seem enough, but I’m sending you my heartfelt condolences and much love, from England ❤❤❤
Please allow yourself to go through whatever feelings you have. You are so strong, and just by sharing your story,please know how many people you are inspiring. I wish you a speedy recovery, sending you much love from me in the UK 🇬🇧 🩷
My deepest condolences to you and Zac on the passing of your little angel. He or she made you a mama and that will never change. You will always be a mama to this little angel who now is where Love dwells.
I know this has been a tough road however you have handled this with so much bravery and class. Thank you for sharing. WOW! What a road. so glad you are ok.
I have had 4 boys through c section! 4 scars, for recovering times with s newborn. It's hard. So hard. I feel for you. I also feel for this situation but was happy to hear the doctors opinion. The biggest tip I can say with that scar is to get large diapers for you! Best thing ever. Now they make period diapers that are nice. By Always I think. Put one on and then a pair of really tight shorts like spandex shorts. The pressure is really helpful and will take away that worry of feeling like things will come open. Make sure to allow air to your incision that will help a lot also you do not want an infection. I only have had one, but that pain is no joke. Air, air, and more air. I am sending you so many well wishes and healing love. You are so brave. Allow yourself to heal no matter how long that looks for you. Physically and emotionally ❤❤ Lots of love from Alaska, Tschandra
I'm so very sorry. I've had 2 c sections, not fun, but keep moving around. You will feel better if you do. The incision will burn a bit, or it did for me. Hang in there. You are so strong.
Maggie, I am sending you hugs from NY. Though our medical situations are different, I have been there with three of my own losses as well. I went on to have one baby (whose now 25). Just take one day at a time and be good to yourself. The body can do amazing things.
I am so glad you're being taken care of. May Jesus keep you in His care. I love you, sister. Please take time to heal and don't feel obligated to update if you don't want to. I'm happy you're alive, this was a very serious medical situation and I am grateful you're still here, and I appreciate your vulnerability. Praying for you as you process and heal from this scary time. 😢❤ Better days are ahead. 🌞
Sweet Maggie, hope you're feeling better soon, don't worry about crying at the drop of a hat, you were pregnant and the hormones take time to settle down, been there 8 times, but we were blessed twice, give yourself lots of grace and a little pampering, 😊. Sending hugs and prayers for you both. ❤
I am so very sorry for what you went through honey, I will be praying for you 🙏🏻🫶🏻💕 You are the inspiration I had to get my J pouch taken out and have my backside sewn up and go through that surgery, you gave me the courage to do it the year after you had it done so to see you go through this it’s really hard and giving you a big hug. Keep your chin up ostomate You Tube friend 🙏🏻💕👍🏻
I just cant believe all you have been through. Thank you for sharing your painful, yet Maggie strong video. I am so glad you are home and able to heal now. So thankful for the positive convo with the surgeon. Hope is here.
I am so sorry for everything you have gone through. You were in a very serious condition and I am very happy that your husband was able to get you to the hospital so quickly. You have suffered a lot. Dealing with infertility takes over your life. It is so painful.I went through infertility for many years and my husband and I went the adoption route. I hope you feel better soon.
You all are so loved! For my 3 c-sections, placing a pillow as hard as comfortable against my stomach gave me a bit of an easier time getting up and about!
I’m so sad for that. Be stronger my friend. Fell better. Watching your history from hospital for my ileostomy. Sending a lot of love and prayers for you and your husband.
