Emotional Growth Strategies: Fi insights for Fe users 

My male version of Fe is not so much fussing and focusing on the emotional states of others. But more about values and meaningfulness of shared collective experiences, as in beneficial civilization level interests.

I am a Fe user and I think I have a good emotional understanding of myself. The thing is, I consider many things (emotions, opinions, values) as quite relative and fluent, sometimes I struggle to have a strong opinion on things because I can easily imagine other people perspectives and I know I would think differently having different life conditions, so why would I make an extreme judgement when the answer to so many question is: "it depends". From my perspective, Te-Fi users tend to be more extreme in their opinions, kind of stubborn and less agreeable (when immature), which sometimes bothers me, sometimes is inspiring. I wouldn't say that Fe wants to create a sort of sameness (at least not my Fe), I deeply value diversity and I like that we are so different, we have inspiring frictions and create so different "chemical reactions" with different personality types. Also it's surprising for me that you feel unseen rather by Fe users than Fi, because I have it the other way around. Te-Fi may listen to me and maybe internally care a lot, but give me no external signs of that, so I feel unheard. Fortunately we have MBTI and I understood with time that external expressions of Te-Fi might be very different from their inside and we can both work on better communication, so the interaction is satifying for both sides.

My favorite moment was when the INTJ said: “It’s not necessary to go into more detail.” 😂 But seriously, the reminder to be rooted in your own personal values is so important for actually building the life that you want long-term.

The music at the beginning is kinda noisy tbh, idk if you planned it to be that way...

Hey LiJo As an ENTP, I can relate to needing cultivation on #4 about respecting others emotional boundaries The whole point of us clowning around with others is to break down weak emotional boundaries, as to install our creative Ti conclusions, But isolated from tact, we can end up emotionally distanced from people who we should have found value with making emotional connection instead of rational connection: The reason why we (ENTPs) love INTJs, since they connect over reason, vs primarily emotion Me and my INTJ SB/C wife should book a Snugg with you, so her and I can get your perspective on self growth, relationship, etc…?

Thanks so much for this video, I’ve been trying to understand Fi users because I know so many of them (I’m an ENTP currently working a lot on Fe development). I struggle especially when they are stubborn about their values or shut down when questioned, although not all of them are that way. Since you’re OP, not just MBTI, I would be interested in hearing your opinion on Fe dealing with Masculine vs Feminine Fi, because the feminine is more palatable to me whereas masculine Fi is downright triggering. Thank you so much for this video!!!

Thanks for this video, I've been working with fi fe issues lately, much appreciated!

Love the hair and the general look. Good stuff

Also, thanks for explaining the difference between Fi and Fe so well. I didn't have a good grasp of the differences between these two but the way you explained it is really easy to understand.

"The more you connect with what you care about, the more you'll give a shit about protecting those values" Having Ti and Fe this is perplexing, it's like what? What I give a shit about is the tribe. Trying to build strong opinions on values outside of that has me totally lost, there is no brainstorming. lol

Id love to see the same thing but the opposite direction, tips to do Fe for Fi users and Ti for Te users :3

1:03 that "Fi" or "nArCiSsM," to use the older term for it, can be converted to observation of the volume and range in other people's real time emotional exp. This must be so, only because the notion of "if you feel it in you then you can sense it in others(so long as you aren't being too into you at the moment of attempted observation or your 'Fi' can't properly invert its function.)" Any competent "INTP" can invert the fmow of introspection and expression in all 16 of his supposed "cognitive function" and use this to aptly emulate the 3 types in the shadows that sustain that dominant 1/4th that is the "INTP" persona. The same is true of any "INTJ" who feels they lack "empathy" and want to k ow what it's like to directly feel(through the fluctuations of pressure in the flow of another person's presence) rather than having ask and yet still doubt how others how feel in the moment.

Question, when Fe users developed that function to be well balanced with their Ti (for the sake of the question let's assume the judgment-bridged types) won't that set them up to then more easily develop their Fi as well?

Can an ESFP be more INTJ subconscious focused in such a way that the ESFP has alot of knowledge and a well intuition?

In my paradigm, focus is anchored in or flowes through vectors of least resistance. This state of least resistance is the optimal equilibrium or calmest(most coherent) state that one can know in any given moment, one can always get calmer to the degree their focus can be sharpened and this refined sharpness always gives rise to discernment of an even calmer(more coherent) state that one can possibly attain, expanding your range of discernment one step further as result. "Through calm, the force flows." - Yoda to Luke in the Japanese Manga version of their strory. In your own states and places of calm, it's almost tangible the very moment another person's focus penetrates into the bounds of said calm(destabilizing your coherence to various degrees of instability which all reflect the power of the invasive attention and/or your own lack of calm). That penetration is the very same "disturbance in the force" that Jedi sense as their enhanced Sapience gathers a multitude of data points to extrapolate the presence of many distant events and people which constitute said "disturbance in the force." They can do the same for reading subtext and even for sensing subatomic fluctuations within their own bodies and paraphernalia, allowing for correlating points of internal reaction where body and items have corresponding patterns reflecting interference of external force, just like the vibrating water in that cup as a t-rex stomped toward the protagonists in Jurassic Park(except the Jedi's body is the cup and their calmed mind is the still water jumping only by channelling ambient waves of disturbance into discernible meta data). This is the same with the fiction of MBTI whose 16 so called "cognitive functions" are just proxy for the dance of popularity which bisects the flow of possibility as expressed through the cyclic patterns of existence. Your "Te" is the "least resistance" centred in concentric cluster around the shaft of focus that is my "Ti" just as much as your "Fi" penetrates my "Fe" to cascades its waves of excitement into expansive stimulation that might give rise to a sharpening of your "Fi" as we feed off and through eachother to birth the very best of possibility.

I've revised the value of the little "i" and little "e" in your MBTI fiction. The little "i" now stands for "induce" as that's what it does, the "i" induces the function while the little "e" encapsulates what has been induced by the "i." Once critical threshold of encapsulation is reached, there is a quality shift which enables the "i" to further scry into the bounds of possibility to extrapolate even more for the "e" to experience and remember as the standard, state and nature or "substance" of "reliable evidence" for anything one believes in. It's the reciprocal intercourse between us that allows us to itterate and expound as we collectively grow into the potential of mankind. "i" and "e" are modes in the framework of experience, not to be taken as permanent or true nature of your psyche. MBTI is fiction.

The thing about the Fi that every intj can see but no intj can understand about fe when it is inferior to ti. As an entp, my values is my logic. As it is logic based values, my values are for example don't exploit me, physics, and understanding human behaviour. It is vague and incomplete. Those are my values. If i ever say i have more, i actually do Fe where i mimic the values bias of the person i am interacting with. You cannot stand up for your values if you don't have any. My values is for example not to have a favorite colour because it bullshit. And those are not values. You get a very unbiased values, ofc you have some, but those all conform to game theory.

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Your closing theme music feels like our childhood, remember those dark lonely yet peaceful cloudy days of heavy rain and exciting thunder? The days where you and I would relax with a few books as were read in the library escape sessions of the late 1990's? We were so young and innocent, yet to try our hand in the woe of wooing and loosing the hearts of so many lost and disgruntled millenials and maybe a hot Gen X or two? Long gone are the days of liberty, curiosity and hope for we've stumbled into the later years as life winds down and some of us get to joyfully observe the rising tides of our progeny leaping into their own fate...

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Hey, I want to ask if you could make a video about memory of intj, and perceiving things from different usage of functions, it would be so helpful because I am struggling so much with my Ni, I was damaged badly when I was younger, and lately I discovered myself, When I was (and it’s happening most of the time) in Present I wasn’t thinking about anything, logically or rationally, something like logic didn’t even exist. And when I somehow get into my head, I started to think, what the fuck is going on out there, why those people are like that etc. Analysing everything, and I just felt like i will burn in a second with all the decisions I made in the past. I have so small knowledge and I need to get to know how to be myself properly, because then and only then I can be normal. Thank you

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4:20 Yes; group dominance is antithesis of individuality or "individuation." This is you realizing the value of the little white spot in the black side of the yin~yang gyre, where the black represents so called "Fe" as it is dark to you but you recognize the exclusion aspect at its heart since that heart is white as the bulk of your "Fi" that is only dark place is the spot of its heart which ties the poparity together as expression of singular substrate... Should not an extravert "first function" be super social, odd that it's only social interppay is gathering~sorting mere facts through multiple vectors as means to cross reference then for thwir coherence and subsequent utility in expanding your overall body of trusted knowledge? MBTI fiction isnweird but it's less harmful than psychology and psychiatry which dispense forced "medicine" to "fix" the so called "neuro divergent" aka "Sapient~Free."

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LiJo, BGM is too loud 😂

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I disagree with this a lot. as an ENFP who only dates Fe users, advanced emotionally intelligent Fe cannot be like Fi. it's different. Fe users can't look in to find their emotions and values, they have to analyze their behavior from a third eye view because for them values can only exist if they are expressed. high Fe users have to learn the art of expression and refine their ability to express with nuance, precision, and in a way that draws others to buy into their experience. THEN they can understand themselves, but even then, they don't build an internalized system of their values through this, they can just learn to understand what they felt in that situation and that moment and in the next for many other reasons they might react differently than before without realizing it or realizing why. they're just not like us at all

Fi users be selfish and self-centered

2:59 - is your background real and the dog?