Emotional Intelligence - Why Your EQ Is More Important Than Your IQ 

SUMMARY - Actualized - Emotional Intelligence - Why Your EQ Is More Important Than Your IQ The number one key for success is EQ smart people on a iq level are too much in the head to be able to have success emotions create success and healthy relationships eq is not being extraverted ---> eq tests online ---> book emotional intelligence 2.0 ability to recognize your emotion in yourself and in others and the ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and your relationships 4 pillars of eq 1. ability of Understanding your own emotions, labeling them, recognizing them, having a broader range of emotions 2. ability to control your emotions, to discipline, manage them 3. ability to read emotions in other people, empathy, being able to understand what they are feeling, being able to relate to that, understanding their point of view, stepping in their shoes 4. ability to manage your relationships, how are you communicating, interacting within them? the more eq you have, the better you do in life, the happier you are what is eq? anger management accountability instead of blaming others honesty and trust assertiveness and confidence communication stress tolerance decision making - being able to decide, pricrastinating flexibility - ability to flow with life presentation skills - ability to speak, motivate, inspire people listening skills - can you really understand people, can you really empathize with them reflecting them? It relates to your relationship, business, happiness if you are frantic, sad, depressed, angry, guilty shows a lack of eq because you first dont notice them and you dont have tools to manage them which impacts your outer world how do you develop eq? eq is highly developable techniques to master emotions: books, meditation, journaling there are many practical techniques to use emotions and self control are very important for satisfaction in life Thanks Leo

My simplistic view on this: IQ (and other ways of measuring intelligence) = Potential EQ = Unlock the potential Is EQ really more important than IQ? If you do not have the ability to understanding something then it does not matter how high your EQ is, you still don't understand it. Which means that you cannot perform particular jobs. My complex view on this: Neither IQ, nor EQ, nor any other single set of abilities / intelligence determine if you will be successful or not. It is up to you to develop yourself in the areas as needed during various phases in life.

three years ago i watched one of your videos and it helped me to have the courage to change the course of my life. thank u.

This video helped me a lot, Leo. I found I am slightly above average in emotional intelligence. Turns out this is what has been holding me back from my dreams: I found all this default behaviour inside of me: DEFAULT BEHAVIOUR-> Being suspicious of people Feeling something-like 'being insulted’ when not replied to Getting bogged down by hurtful words from parents Getting irritated by people from the past should they try to bully me Getting irritated by critical comments passed by people I have begun disliking Feeling the need to rush with work, rush to work, rush with my endeavours so that I don’t stay ‘left-behind.’ Easily breaking down in grief I am reactive to rejections

guru Leo, your talks help me get out of bed in the morning, and give me something to think about for the rest of the day, thank you for your wisdom and effort!!

I am obsessed with this topic. Glad I found this channel! Subscribed.

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1. I can identify my emotions and I am self aware (tick) 2. I'm average at controlling my emotions 3. I'm good at understanding other people's emotions (tick) 4. I'm bad at managing relationships - really bad - No anger management problems - I am accountable to myself but I do blame the world for some things - I'm honest with myself, lie to other people - I don't trust anyone! - I am assertive - I could work on my communication skills although I don't struggle with it (communication skills mediocre) - I am frantic and stressed around work, calm when around people (not working) - I am always judging myself and thinking negative thoughts - It takes a long time for me to make a decision - I procrastinate weirdly (I used to think I didn't have procrastination problems). Not directly (like I don't say, that's it I'm not working or I'll do it later) instead, I set up barriers to working. I go and eat lots of food so I don't have enough energy to work, I sleep late so the next day I feel too shit to work, I find some other distraction that I feel like needs my immediate attention (although it may not), I make myself depressed with some other irrelevant thing (oh I'm so fat or oh he doesn't like me). - I have super bad presentation skills - really really bad. - I'm a good listener & people think I'm a good listener

Hi Leo, emotional intelligence is a difficult topic to me. Since my adolescence my mind had became a caos due to my parents divorce and I could never deal with that. Even so, I have been trying to figure it out a way to 'heal' this bad feelings and somehow you are helping me! Besides that, I'm not an English native speaker, but I can understand almost all that you say, I mean, you talk very clear, is music to my ears! Thank you!!!

External factors should also be factored in when examining whether or not you have a high EQ. Lets say person A has minimal amount of external stressors and person B has a large amount of external stressors, person A may have a more stable mood compared to person B even though he actually has a lower EQ (in the mood regulation pillar) than person B. So it's a rather complex thing to measure with a traditional self report test compared to IQ.

Great video. I am writing a paper on EQ for a communication class and this video really helped me understand the concept.

YES so true i have found people with EQ strong are quite successful then IQ

Well ... EQ is important because .... well emotions are information. Whenever you are trying to resolve a math problem and it doesn't work anything ... if you take a break , and get your emotions in check then ... something clicks , you get inspiration . Inspiration is what it sounds ... someone else in this universe is doing the thinking .... and you just get a piece of the information from nowhere . It sounds strange but ... really people who meditate in Asia get this fact very easily . When you rationalize ... you think with your head instead of getting information from somewhere else . Life is a game ... and someone does the thinking while others reap the rewards . It always was like this . We live in a Matrix where this stuff happens all the time . Like in the movie the Matrix . Why do I say emotions are information ? Well any sort of energy is information . When something changes like you move an object from A to B for example .... the information changes about that object ( the object is no longer in the same coordinates ) as well as it was done with kinetic energy . When you put a piece of paper in the fire, the paper burns generating heat, the information about that piece of paper also changes , it is no longer a piece of paper it is ashes . With time those ashes also oxidize ... and that is done with a very small amount of energy . The bigger the energy ... the bigger the information . The better you feel ... the more productive you can be . And it is also tied with your sexual impulses . Those who know this thing ... are more soft when talking, they are better listeners . Actually EQ and kindness are almost the same thing . I say almost because I am not 100 percent sure . But we do live in a matrix based on our sexual impuses .... and those who don't look at women as sexual objects are really winners of the game ... in many ways . A basic look at the game, how it works between people is the Karpman_drama_triangle . A third person always watches the conflict between two people . Do a search on that on google and you will see what I am talking about !!

At first when you look at the video it looks like boring but when you listen to it. The guy in the video says things that are interesting. It's just that every time the video starts to play, it slightly shock me to the features of the guy talking.But In general, I appreciate what this man is doing. Keep up!

Great video. I do disagree with one thing you said "if you lack confidence then you are lacking in EQ" I know personally that after doing the NBI profile($300 profiling that professionals use) that I scored very high in being emotionally intelligent. However, I lack confidence. I scored highly in all 4 quadrants of the brain (scoring highly isn't necessarily a good thing, it just means this is how you process information). I have always been very unconfident but been able to manage my emotions with intuition as to how other people feel. I truly feel I am very emotionally intelligent. But it is not an easy brain to have. I feel the need to take responsibility for what other people are thinking about me.

Thanks for video.

Amazing and I wish people starts to deal with subject seriously and teaching it in schools

Bloody awesome video mate, can really see the value in EQ more so after this video.

I've learned to handle and control my anger really well. Before when I would get angry I would take it out on everyone around me but now I redirect the energy elsewhere

i did the test leo! and i got a 78 out 100, I'm quite happy with the result but theres a lot more to learn and improve… btw i agree with dead4uman! the incredibly so deep understanding in your insights is refreshing to wonder about, you have completely restore my full interest in self development! i felt stuck for a while in this amazing way of living life´s potential.

clarity of thought is the twin to awareness of the shadows.

Good job! I`m learning and studying EQ, and I agree with you, EQ it`s more important that IQ.

EQ is also important because many people don't have much IQ but oooh, they are equal, in this modern society. Aka to handle Stupid.

Wonderful simplification of a topic that I would have shredded into a chaotic 2 hour redundancy filled talk. I find it interesting that basically you are describing here (during your treatment of empathy) more than empathy itself but what Tibetans call, Bodhichitta (awaking one's own emotions to the suffering of others as well as 'self'). Then you go an additional step and explain how possessing such emotional sensitivity is helpful in all aspects of life. I am impressed that this can be done, in English, so rapidly. Good job on a very practical, yet quite deep video.

Very informative, after listening mine is really low and it has affected my career and my life. Feeling like I have self destructed too.

I am glad TheFray started making these videos.

Well Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton (me lol), Mozart had Asperger's syndrome, which is associated with emotional detachment and low EQ, but they were very successful, so i don't care about my EQ if i have genius level IQ

You nailed it. Thank you for sharing. Subscribed.

i just realized from this video that i have very low EQ!

Your videos continue to inspire my energy beyond words. I am very grateful to create my new world through such a positive connection in life.

So much wisdom Leo. Your videos cost millions of dollars. See how you can translate all your videos, In different languages, like Spanish.

I like you, Leo, you tell me the truth... I suck at a lot of things but with your vids I can better fit myself to approach things/events...I like that... thank you...🖤

this really hit home

I dont believe the part about assertiveness and confidence being related to high eq. I've had encounters with a handful of full blows psychopaths and all were very assertive and confident 2 are in jail for life for murder, 1 raped my niece and 1 I caught having sex with her sons friend. My mom on the other hand is the sweetest thing anyone can ever encounter and comes from a family of extremely successful high achievers and has more eq then anyone ive ever encountered. She's also the least assertive person on this planet and lacks confidence at times

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Thank you for your video! I love your passion for personal development. Keep it up!

Leo! you are fantastic. So much value here and in all of your videos.. I havent been this inspired to learn in years. I'm curious how you lay your thoughts out to package your message in the most effective way. Is that something you studied? framing/answering why something is relevant to us.. ect ect Is there a process you use? Any recommendations?

If my IQ would be 190 I would not even care what my EQ is. sorry

I'm not going to lie I clicked on the video because of the creepy ass thumbnail 😂

that's the wrongest video of actualised.com i've seen yet. firste of all there is no such a thing called "emotional intelligent", there's no empirical studies or a test or any other way to measure a thing of a bunch of things that can allow us to call them emotional intelligence, like we've done with intelligence, the best name for it is emotional skills or talents, and that's what goleman did, he took a bunch of important emotional skills, like the ability to read others emotions etc.. and concluded that they should be called emotional intelligence!! secondly, there's actually many researches on the differences that EQ makes in jobs, they use a statistal technic called meta-analysis. and the results (schmidt and hunter 1998) were: 7% in jobs that require personal contact (like saling etc), and 0% in jobs that need no "emotional skills"

Awesome Leo! thanks.

I love your explanations man!

Hit the nail on the head of every one. My EQ is terrible I’ve only just realised after 36 years!!!

True dat! Actually I was not aware that one could change their EQ level! So that is good news!

This is what Jordan Peterson, a psychologist, not lke you, says on the subject. Answer by Jordan B Peterson, psychology professor at the University of Toronto, clinical psychologist, on Quora: There is no such thing as EQ. Let me repeat that: "There is no such thing as EQ." The idea was popularized by a journalist, Daniel Goleman, not a psychologist. You can't just invent a trait. You have to define it and measure it and distinguish it from other traits and use it to predict the important ways that people vary. EQ is not a psychometrically valid concept. Insofar as it is anything (which it isn't) it's the Big Five trait agreeableness, although this depends, as it shouldn't, on which EQ measure is being used (they should all measure the same thing ). Agreeable people are compassionate and polite, but they can also be pushovers. Disagreeable people, on average (if they aren't too disagreeable) make better managers, because they are straightforward, don't avoid conflict and cannot be easily manipulated. It should also be noted that IQ is five or more times as powerful a predictor as even good personality trait predictors such as conscientiousness. The true relationship between grades, for example, and IQ might be as high as r = .50 or even .60 (accounting for 25-36% of the variance in grades). Conscientiousness, however, probably tops out at around r = .30, and is more typically reported as r = .25 (say, 5 to 9% of the variance in grades). There is nothing that will provide you with a bigger advantage in life than a high IQ. Nothing. To repeat it: NOTHING. So yeaah... You don't know what you are talking about. It's sad how you profit with the ignorance of people.

Leo I was hoping for a longer video on this topic although I will check out the EI 2.0 book you recommended. Thanks for the video.

Great videos by the way !!

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO

well done leo ;)

Leo! I loved this video clip!

life changing vidz bro, bless up

I think IQ is just as important as EQ. Actually it depends on the nature of the job. Some jobs require high intellectual skills like scientists require high IQ and high EQ (persistence, collaboration, deep passion). It's easier to increase EQ than IQ. So it's good news for people with average IQ to succeed in life,by increasing their EQ. HIgh EQ people are likeable, which gives a solid foundation for influence ( leadership ). Basically high EQ people succeed by collaborating with others, motivating others, leverage their IQ with genie's IQ to accomplish a common goal.

Great explanation of EQ v IQ

Life changing advice 🙏

For a dumb dumb like me you explain things so well!! :)

great,top , thank you leo .

A recent analysis by Adam Chudhurski (2013) shows that without time constraints , the correlation between fluid intelligence and working memory capacity are largely reduced, and performance on fluid tasks becomes dependent on long-term memory; retrieval fluency, associative memory, and relational learning. Because Europeans emphasize speed and linearity in thought , they score higher on Raven's tests , however, without time any practical time limit (inter-day measures) a small percentage of individuals would do very well, at least through certain periods in development, in rarer cases exceeding between 1 to 2 standard deviations above there timed scores. This phenomena has been noted by high IQ (technically, high IEQ) societies. Conventional IQ tests are very carefully designed to be biased against certain minority groups. Currently many theorists of dual processing emphasize the importance of perception and associative-heuristic processes. Even the those who tend to downplay the role of perception on intelligence, like Johnathan Evans , acknowledge it's relevance to inductive thinking (feature-based induction). What IQ proponents have long taken for granted , is essentially, pre-analytic processing that accounts for designing the 'novel set' - which is then analyzed for structure. Tests such as the Raven's which provide relations in A,B,C form, and demand a subject to uncover underlying structure, take for granted , that elements of the set, [A, B, C], have been PROVIDED to the individual, and NOT SELECTED by the individual. In the pre-analytic phase of thought , the associative-heuristic system utilizes low level inductive and statistical based processes, to select elements to form a unique set. For example, [A,B,C]. After the set is structured, analytical thinking becomes relevant in uncovering the structural relationship between the elements (in this case, 1, +1,+1, between A,B,C). There is less argument towards the claim, as IQ proponents make, that a solution to a problem is 'novel', when none of the elements to solve the problem have been selected by the individual. In fact, with IQ tasks, the entire set of elements are spoon-fed to the subject, and the only thing relevant is analysis. (As if the cure for cancer is all jumbled up in one sentence, just waiting for someone to look at). Real world-problem solving requires relating broader concepts in viable permutations, through selective and analytical (IQ) processing. Novelty relates to the 'rarity' of an solution, not any particular process which it may be a result of. And Intelligence is a largely dynamic, developmental quality, that can never be pinned down by any test, especially rigid measures that are conventionally used. Maybe one day, we can infer a person's limitations from elements of structure, but that day has not yet come. For now, achievements (accolades) are usually better indicators of intellectual functioning

Emotional intelligence is also known as EQ. EQ means emotional quotient. The speaker is stressing on the importance of EQ over IQ. EQ is very important than IQ because, after a lot of research in 30 years, it is concluded that EQ is the key for having success and improving performance in business and careers than IQ. Life is mixed with emotions to become successful person which needs emotional intelligence more than IQ. People will assume that EQ is about sociability ,extrovert and being people's person which is not correct. Emotional intelligence is about something that dovetails very nicely with introvert.Definition of emotional intelligence is ability to recognize and understand your emotions in yourself and in others and ability to use this awareness to manage your behaviour and your relationship. EQ has four pillars which are knowing your emotions, controlling your emotions, knowing the others emotion and maintaining good relation with others. First two pillars depend on anger management, honesty, trust, assertiveness, confidence, communication, decision making if your low in any of these that sign that your having low emotional intelligence and negative thinking include in it. The next thing is we link work topics to judge the emotional intelligence which includes presentation, to motivate, to influence and listening skills. If you are not performing well in these things, then you must be having low EQ. We can develop EQ more than IQ. But it is longer process as it may take several weeks or several months to develop any of weak pillars of EQ. Stress can be controlled by meditation. Coaching, reading books can be useful to study your emotions as there are many techniques which help to improve EQ pillars.

You talk about knowledge others gathered, and you offered zero solutions to help people. I feel sorry for the people who wasted their time watching this.

Emotions = Energy in motion

Interesting strategy to warp EQ through the Big 5. My EQ is only around 120 (90th percentile) but my IQ is 30 points higher (99.9th percentile+). You failed to mention the most important part. Having a high EQ doesn't mean you're nice. It means you know exactly what you're doing when you choose not to be, and how. It doesn't mean you don't experience anger, it means you understand how your anger impacts your decision-making process well enough to nullify any influences it would have. When you are filled with rage and you use it to organize a movement built on propaganda to mobilize the masses against your enemies, then you probably have a high EQ and IQ.

Amazing Leo

Thank You!!!! Cheers!!!!!

Great informative video

ade God you have made us for yourself heart restless until rest in You!!!

You can be successful with a low EQ but you will never be fulfilled.

My therapist said I had high eq and so far I see only the downsides because I feel every thing 1000×

"Are you stressed? Are you always thinking of negative thoughts?" Who doesn't lol!

Hi Leo first of all thanks for all the great videos on different but related topics :P can u help me with understanding what emotions are in first place and how they differ from feeling wish u all the best x… new year

I really feel like my EQ has always been very low. My life has been a real struggle. I had behavior problems throughout my adolescence. I'm 58 now.

so EQ determines your happiness in life, while IQ determines your societal value?

EQ < IQ in my career: engineering. So it's definitely dependent on your career field. -SV

Could you please make a video explaining the quotation of great scientist Albert Einstein as follows, "Knowledge is not a true sign of intelligence but imagination is"????

I think most emotions works negatively in a person that's why Sociopaths and Psychopaths make very strategic decisions because of there lack of emotions.. same with high EQ normal individual who evaluates and manages emotions before making decisions w/c then leads toward their success.. but no one really knows exactly.. i'm just saying..

Great Topic

i like and love u very much u r really a genius person i didnot see like you any other person in the world

Leo I didn't found a more suitable video to ask you. I'm by far more sensitive than most men, and when I start feeling emotions I lose all my coldness and reason. For example: I met a woman, we had nothing in common, but with her I have had the most wonderful sex in my life, better than I ever imagined. Then I realized she is promised, but I'm already in love with her. Dont wanna forget her or what happened. I just want to stop suffering for falling in love so easily.

Basically - to dissolve the ego

Hey Leo, I was wondering how I can raise my empathy level. In school they gave us a personality test and I have the rarest type of personality it is call "INTJ" and that told me basically that I lack empathy and I've been noticing that it is very hard to put myself in someone else's shoes.

Awesome!

Hi Leo, What book do you recommend to develop EQ? I don't need to take a test at this point... This video was my test and I failed miserably in a few areas. I appreciate it

Umm He doesn’t strike me as having high EQ. He is SOOOO focused on 1) what is bad EQ 2) what a persons EQ score is (including his own good score). Note the positives and inspire more and much earlier.

Hey leo, nice video. I m pretty good at the most of the examples you gane at 9-11 min of the video. I considered generally myself as having pretty good EQ, perhaps I m wrong. But what I know for sure is that I really such at taking desicions. Seriously it takes me as lot of time and thinking to decide between things. Any advice about that? Thank you

superb video

so wise :)

Leo whats the clip on your finger?

yes, success is about relationships and manage emotions (hapiness) - steve jobs doesn't even have a college degree.

I have a high EQ but a low IQ but I fell pretty sad

your videos are amazing, i just have one question. what if you are always physically reminded of your past, but you want nothing more than to move on?

sweet thanks!

Thank You

But this does not answer the question of "why eq is more important than iq" More like: "this is why *for me* eq is more important than iq"

Is there any recommended EQ tests online I can take?

Hi it was great! I am just bit confused that is cognitive intelligent same meaning with IQ?

Your video is really good. I truly believe that Emotional Intelligence can help with any thing. #mastercommunication2020

so nice information. but if you write on the bored it's will be more easy for our understanding plz

I have an EQ of 80 and an IQ of 141.

My IQ is 236 My EQ is poor

Leo, your brain is about to explode lol too much data 😂

All they had to do was read the Bible and they wouldn't have to spend all that time studying. The Bible has all the answers. Thank you Jesus. Hallelujah.