Enneagram: The High/Low Side of Type 3 

@Ryland Brayden Definitely, been watching on Flixzone} for since november myself =)

You said that same exact thing about fours

Unrelated, you look very cute in that profile photo.

That is exactly my struggle too as a 3. Took me about 3 weeks of quarantine to realize 😅

I agree !!!

Lol, well it is a capitalistic society. If people aren’t encouraged to put up, then the society fails.

Wow, your sisters life sounds like mine. Trying to get unstuck 😢

@@aalin5701 I feel what you said here so much.

This is me exactly. Exactly. I was always Extreme over achiever. But then I had major burn out and I have completely lost my drive. I feel like I've been stuck in an unhealthy 9 and I have completely lost my way back. I would love guidance for how to get back

This!! I feel every aspect of this 😩

You are so welcome

Omg...I married my outhouse

This is so relatable. Im working on this myself

Awesome.

Same, has been very hard. Married for 9 year's, I love him, but sometimes feel like I truly don't know who he is.

3w2 with a 5 also. How is it in your relationship?

As a female 3 who is quite vain, I do have very low maintenance for my hair which is noticeable by others. I pay attention to body weight and clothing choice but not skin and hair....Strange.

Find some way to make sure that your modes of production are inaccessible. For example, if you work on a computer, leave it at home and drive out into the wilderness. Bring someone along with you. Your goal of the day must only be to see beauty in your surroundings and in the friend you brought along. It doesn't have to be this exactly. You could take a trip to the park or bookstore or your backyard. The only real requirements are that you must plan to take time for nothing. (4w3 here. It works for me and I hope it helps you too). Meditation might help too.

@@karissahammond4587 I am also 4w3 and would prescribe similar advice 👌🏾

Thanks

Just a few spiritual destinations forr those who ask themselves how did I end up in Arkansas? Lol

Glad to help.

I don't exactly know what your life looks like, but I must say that is a very relatable story for me. My disintegration started for several reasons, but I did end up kind of losing a lot of my productivity. for me (being a sexual subtype) it was mainly because after I lost so much, and failed so much, I began to think that avoiding the situation entirely was the best option(taking on the Nine need to avoid). My philosophy of life basically became, "of course I'd like to win, but I'd rather avoid the situation and keep it a mystery than risk losing again". This bled into everything, school, relationships, really every area of my life. I realized my main problem was a paralyzing fear of disapproval. others love meant so much to me, that I shut myself out from it, in an effort to avoid losing it. This ended up leaving me depressed and demotivated, with a very marred sense of self-worth, that negatively affected everything. this led also to procrastination, and then inevitably to more failure. If this is relatable in any way let me reassure you. specifically on the subject of school, I started out (as in k-8th grade) being a top-of-the-class student, and then high school hit, and it plummeted. I think the main problem for threes here is that since we then have to be more self-sufficient, our parents, guardians, and teachers don't show as much interest in our school, and cease to praise our success. so, when we get a bad grade a few times, it comes as a crushing blow which we tend to interpret as "I am no longer good, I can't succeed, and I am therefore worthless". Then we feel even worse, because while people show no interest in our success, they publicize our failures, and humiliation and hopelessness become the subtext of our lives. the problem here is we make what we do, and others reaction to what we do our source of worth, which leads to this, Just know, you are created in the image of God, infinitely valuable, not because of what you've done, or anything you could do, but just because you are. Don't fear failure, and be so anxious about the future that nothing else can come to pass. Take life one day at a time, working through the challenges individually. Know where your worth is, so that you won't psych yourself out trying to retain it. Also(this was an important lesson for me), be okay with the fact that you might not always be the best. you might not always get the best grade in your class, and you might not always get an A, but don't let that make you think that there are no other options, or that its A or nothing. Be okay with a B. Do your best, but don't spread yourself so thin and let the challenges of life become so much that you feel their impossible to overcome

You wanting to be the best to be happy is your ego fixation. Is not a universal truth. Its all in your head. Thats what the enneagram is all about. Breaking out of our inner traps

@@Qar-bp1yr depends what you mean by the best. Watching RU-vid 6h a day and eating garbage like I used to does not make you happy 😁

Loyal to something greater than self

Withdraw bc I can do it myself faster

Disconnected from life, unmotivated, undisciplined.

What do I actually want out of life?

Where do I want to end up in life?