Enneagram: The High/Low Side of Type 1 

Low side to 4 starts at around 15:20, High side to 7 starts at 24:50 (type 1 here, judging why this info is missing) lol. I agree with the “people are stupid” mindset. It is my fav sentence

"...enduring and perservering, but not living" bingo! That statement resonated with me as a description of where I go when I feel overwhelmed and sit in 4. Interestingly though, I am able to sit in the meloncholy for awhile but ultimately my internal voice kicks my butt back to my "doing" of my 1.

7:40 - I would say that you CAN convince me that I am wrong, you have to hear me and empathize with me and it will disarm this self-righteousness because self-righteousness is a defense mechanism against danger for me.

I'm a one and I felt like a true "ah ha" moment in my life (which of course is always obvious to the people around you) was "sometimes good enough is good enough"

you absolutely nailed me. no wonder i scored a high 1 at 98%. it's such a difficult and stressful life.

just had a meltdown not too long ago about how people just had it easy at home while I got to do all the things that had to be done every day. Most of the time, I like to work and get things done, but I don't like it when it seems that I'm the only one who puts the effort to get things in the right order. I've never felt so seen as I watch this.

I’m a 1 and laughed the whole time because all of this is true of me at work 😂

"Have some compassion with yourself", that's great. Thank you.

I'm a type 1. I lol-ed @ "People are stupid"

“How do you know your way is the right way?” Because my way has proven effective and has produced results. While the other person’s way is unrefined, dysfunctional and accomplishes nothing, except showing how stupid they must be to fall victim to same patterns, again and again.

I think I’ve been so unhealthy for so long i mistyped myself as a 4, since that’s the direction of stress. In reality I don’t relate to the unhealthy behaviors of a 4 as much as I do the behaviors of a 1. My mind is kinda blown lol

Oh my GOD. EVERY SINGLE TRAIT mentioned here is SPOT ON. I'm trying to be more okay with accepting when I'm wrong during discussions and arguments, or when someone else's perspective makes more sense.

As a middle aged type one, graduate student and mother of six, having a self care plan is vital to maintaining good mental health. As ones, we often feel that we have to do everything for those around us at the expense of our own needs. Making intentional time for ourselves really does help with diminishing the resentment we sometimes feel. Learning to GIVE UP CONTROL is extremely important. For me, this has been crucial in maintaining good and healthy relationships with my kids. I had to learn that they are each the leader of their own life, and I don’t have the right to make all of their choices for them, even when I think what they are doing is leading them down a bad path. It’s their journey to figure out, and who knows, I may be wrong. (Although I doubt it😂😂😂😂😂)

I live by the 80/20 ratio in all things. 80% of my effort at achieving my highest level, giving at work, to my family, eating clean, working out. But that last 20% is for me. It lets me be ok not being so perfect, not hitting that highest level everyday.

the fact that 24 of the 32 minutes are devoted to the flaws of type 1 LMAO I feel personally called out 💀💀

Wow! This has really helped me to finally understanding my friend of 16 years. Our friendship has been challenging/tense over the years and with me being a type 2 I finally understand why I've had such a hard time with the dynamics of certain events. Prayerfully this will truly seal our friendship for a LIFETIME verses a reason or season. Thanks for the channel!

So helpful!! Here's a crazy dynamic: my husband is 1w9, me 4w5. When we've met I was disintegrated 2, but quickly became a self-efficacious, 1 integrated, 4. It went great for a long time, but then, it's like my w5 had me outshine his 1-ness (i.e. creative problem solving & much deeper analysis of methods, motives, beliefs etc), so in time he became competitive and resentful - envy - which spiralled into narcissism and a cycle of emotional & psychological abuse, actively pressuring me back into codependence. Still, the key to my health was to remain in the energy of a grounded, boundaried, world oriented 1. Though I can't even begin to explain how utterly repulsed I am at the idea of trying to be more Type 1, like him. It triggers my self-hatred so often, then I compensate by becoming very 3 or 7 - surprise, surprise! Any more insights into 1w9 - 4w5 dynamics, PLS?

"People are stupid" 100% HAHAHAHA! My husband, "you're angry" Me "I'm not angry, I'm frustrated." Again 100%. My MIL is a 1 as well, our fights whoa.... She's much more rigid than myself. She gets mad if we don't crumple up water bottles enough for the trash and she has two trash bags, so the main trash bag doesn't get dirty, yet she won't recycle... BUT when we get along which is most of the time, it's amazing. Her famous saying- "There are three ways of doing things, the wrong way, the right way, or Denise's way."

Your description about how a 1 feel when he is "certain" about something is so precise! Haha Facts don't really persuade us, at least not immediatly.

As an 8 I find ones hilarious. Their expectations & judgements far surpass their ability.

Spot on! That's me! It is very helpful to be aware of who we are and how we operate. Thank you, great video

These comments are so funny. They read with such a “matter of fact tone”. Lol. -type 4.

Thank you for this. Being a 1w9 sp, I want to keep everything in life in check and in order. So exhausting. Sometimes I need someone to tell me to relax.

I need you to show me why my way isn't the right way haha.

Interesting!!! My husband is a 1 & I’m a 7. You have pegged us for sure!!!

Thanks for the detailed info of 1. I’m listening all your videos of 1. 😍🌈 it helps me to understand that I’m not wired and a loser and how to improve, give myself grace and do something to make myself happy. 😭💕

I'm a One and this whole "you just know" thing is baffling to me. In grad school, my internship supervisor literally said to me, "Abra, you have a good gut. Just listen to it," to which I responded, "How?" as I was completely disconnected from my gut. Another example- in undergrad, my (still) best friend of 20 years (and also a fellow One) said, "what I don't like about you is when we are arguing. You always know why you think what you do and you expect others to know as well, but I don't. I know you're wrong, but I can't explain it, and it's frustrating." I've learned to connect more with my gut over the past 10 years, but it's taken a full decade for me to say I think there is some merit to it. Feelings/instincts/beliefs aren't facts. They are, however, evidence. So, they're worth examining and exploring, but... I just strongly don't relate to this whole "I know it in my gut and can't explain it" thing and my One frustration is coming out in the form of a ranty message on here. I'm choosing not to delete it (strong urge to do so), in case it's helpful to others (2 wing to the rescue! lol).

Thank you so much for making this video! This was very eye opening!

This really made sense for me and was touching, thank you.

As a 1w2 and a mother of nine kids with varying personalities.... married to a very stubborn 5w6.... I’ve had to learn what I can and can’t control. But I have certain things that I insist on keeping “right”.... my desk... the kitchen. And as a PICU and NICU nurse I think that my attention to detail and inspiring things are right is VERY useful! I’d love to see (and if you’ve done it I will find it, I’m kind of binge watching) relationship tips...(in particular how a 1 can deal with a very stubborn 5!)

It feels like you're Type 1, understands us so well! Actually, I think you're the only person who understands me at all. Thank you so much for your videos 🙏

This is very validating. Thank you. Feedback is a gift and being able to take the good with the not-so-good is great for my growth. Still working on being less critical of others when they don’t meet my standards bc it’ll trickle down to me and showing myself grace. ❤ I also find that play really gets me in that healthy 7 space - being able to engage with my creativity and levity.

I LOVE the analogy for integration and disintegration as an orchard and an outhouse. It really put it in perspective for me. Thank you so much! I watched this video to try to help me figure out if I’m a 9w1 or 1w9.

Being a 1 greatly appreciate your insights and encouragements. Bless you

I absolutely love the analogy of the outhouse!

Great information! Thank you for sharing!

This is what you did and this is the consequence! Yes! It's not personal, not a punishment, just the result. I could have protected you from it but learning from your mistakes will benefit you and society as a whole.

I'm a 1 and this is a great video. I am definitely in an unhealthy place right now, working on getting back to the top of the hill. My husband is a 9, it's an interesting relationship at times lol.

This was actually healing for me as a 4 living with criticism from a type 1 dad and and close friend.

Very helpful video. Thank you. 🖤

My mom and my sister-in-law is a 1. Explains so much.

So spot on! My 1 son is exactly as you’ve described! Such a “good boy” always has his moral compass pointing N . Was always a “mother hen” to his younger siblings. Got straight A’s because he wanted to not because his parents expected it or pushed it. Very self directed. Very opinionated. There’s a right and wrong. His 7 sister is much different. And it’s so interesting what you’re saying because it’s like she kinda drives him nuts but it does feel like he kinda envies her on some level.

Very helpful. Thank you

thank you for this video! I am TOTALLY A ONE.

What happens when type 1 s are not only under stress, but has a burnout. I feel I ve given up everything. Not even trying to correct things that I cant escape. Feeling like a 9, but my wing is 2

As a type 1 the idea that I can't put 100% attention on all things does kind of break my mind a bit… even though it OBVIOUSLY makes sense! :S

Dr LaHue, I am a 1 and your videos have helped me tremendously in these recent weeks with difficult times. I really appreciate the videos you post. Thank you for helping me understand my personality more, and what I can do to lighten up. Thanks again! 🙏🏼

So very helpful!!!

You are BRILLIANT,,, thank you

I'm a construction manager and someone told me to take the test today and got a 1. Insane how accurate.

I'm a one, and my son is a nine ... I married a 4 ... What a trainwreck ...

You nailed it.

I am Blood Type A. Which many times looks like an Enneagram 1.But I am 70 and still a Type 1. This lecture is solid. Good assesment. A lot of Type 1 are physicians.

This was incredibly insightful. I understand a lot of things better now. I definitely know that when I'm at my best I joke around a lot and am easily delighted. A also enjoy hooking up with guys who are probably 7s during those times (or maybe 9s). They annoy me at some points, being so childish, because I can't just stay that way. But when I can access it, they're right there with me, only with more experience living that "forever young" life. There was a lot I resonated with, but I think the one thing that connected for me building beyond what you covered is what it was like for me when I've experienced satori states (temporary spiritual enlightenment). I could heal people just by looking at them, and the way I did it was by simply knowing in my entire being beyond any shadow of a doubt just how perfect they were. My knowing of their perfection was so much stronger than their belief in their illness that their "illness hallucination" as I would call it, simply evaporated, leaving only their perfect health and well-being behind. I believe that is the fulfillment of the 1. We have to learn to stop trying to work with our intellects to CREATE a world of perfection, and instead allow ourselves to embody the KNOWING of the perfection that already exists. Our knowing is creative.

👁️ The comment section is a "spot the unhealthy 1" game for the rest of us. - 5w6

Spot on for me

Thank you sir

Good enough is good enough 🙏

When I know I’m right that’s it lol. As I’ve gotten older I don’t feel the need to prove to others I’m right. I will let you speak but do what I want lol

I'm a 4 but I relate strongly to the 1.

As a 1w9, can I try to correct (lol!!!) what you say about our gut here. Its more the opposite- usually I have all the arguments about why something is wrong for me, but if a stop and listen to my gut, it leads me orher ways, like, it tells me to relax, it tells "let things go"

I love your videos. As a 1 I can tell you that that curtain behind you should be ironed 🤣

I'm not a hater i want to share my opinions, i love your videos they are so produtive and you have my respect: You kind of being too hard to ones. You love explaining eights or nines i'm getting that bc of your mode. And all videos about explaining one are short.

This is true.

I'm 98% type 1. This video has been an eye-opener and a relief. 😌 I am 82% type 2, 51% type 3, 85% type 4, 76% type 5, 81% type 6, 51% type 7, 77% type 8, and 54% type 9. So, can you tell me what this means in a nutshell, please? 😄 I'm new to this type of personality rating. 👍

With all respect to you, you don't seem to really "get" 1s - our true motivation - I think a lot of us have a genuine desire to be pure, holy, what God intended us to be - but we sin in trying to attain that by will power. I think something to know is that often ones feel so much pressure because we can live in extremes - on one side compulsive and controlling, while on the other procrastinating to the point of laziness and feeling guilty so overcorrecting back to obsessiveness. We are not so much interested in being right, but in the right thing. So if you approach us with respect and kindness and understanding, we're way more likely to see it your way and bend. Ones need encouragement and kindness because we are sdo hard on ourselves.

I see that some 1s completely agree with the video and other 1s (like me) feel that it is very critical. I think it depends on where you are on your journey. I think the OP focused more on unhealthy 1s and/or 1s who are more outwardly critical and want perfection in their environment. Some 1s are more inwardly critical and so this video feels incredibly hurtful because we are already so hard on ourselves. I’m an SP 1w9 and I had to turn this video off last time I tried to watch it because it sounded like my inner critic during the worst times in my life (“you’re bad and because of that no one wants you around”). It felt like I was being shit on LOL, especially the part where he said a lot of cops are 1s. OP, also may have sounded critical because that’s how 7s get during times of stress AND if he has had a bad experience with an unhealthy 1, then he might be speaking to that person. For my 1s who are more inwardly critical and strive to be morally good, I think the world sees your ambition. We aren’t just called “perfectionists” we’re also called “reformers” and we can do so much good for the world when we loosen our reigns. You are doing your best and that is beautiful :). You don’t have to have such a stronghold on things to be good or to be happy. You already are good ❤️. The world needs you and you are so very loved. A song that I found to be really healing was “One” by Sleeping at Last. They also have a podcast episode that breaks down the song. Give it a listen! It will make you feel better

I'm most definitely a one, but I don't get the cop analogy, if you would have said a judge yes, but I dont believe ones take direction well from others, we are not good soldiers unless we agree with the orders

Embracing perfectly imperfect ❤

I’m a Type 1 balanced wing... I’ve never seen anyone else with a balanced wing before. What does this mean?

I’m starting to think I’m actually an enneagram 1. I don’t relate to a lot of frustration, or at least it never comes out, but I think I am afraid of being bad.

I am such a 1😂, I really felt like a 4

In closing you said 7, now that I understand myself better. I am trying not to leave this comment but I am nitpicky in the morning sorry.

I need to get healthy as a 4 if I'm going to partner with the less-compatible 1!

This is me to the T! Haha

I took the test today and found out I'm 100% type 1 with 84% type 6. Based on what you are saying i think I am far off of the 9 and 2 wings. Can someone be that far off?

As a 6... Somethings I understand about being a 1... And a lot that I don't quite understand the headspace of

My almost 30 year old son is a 1 and I’m a 4. Maybe why we seem to just get each other.

so what would it mean if my tritype is 174 based on what u said about 7s and 4s

I’m so confused by this enneagram lmfao??? Imma 4 I lived with 1 actual hell

Prosecutors and police officers Edit: more so prosecutors

Doctor of what.?

Not a lot of positives about ones according to this guy. Feeling worse about myself than before I watched. Almost the whole thing talked about the negatives of ones. I wish he had brought out a balance.

Why say "you know?" constantly? (The One talking. )

when he said 1’s are usually cops, big yikes

Wow. I am so so so impressive. I feel I am 200% understood.