Enneagram: The High/Low Side Of Type 7 

God my 7 hates sitting here watching this long im just trying so hard to finish it

It's eerie how correct this all is. I've never understood why on the one hand I'm this hedonistic pleasure seeking person, and on the other hand I dive extremely deep into a topic, and become an expert in it. Both of these seemed so far apart to me. And then this video just NAILS it. Really got the shivers from that.

Pretty crazy to hear someone say straight facts about you for a half hour that you thought only you knew. Thank you so much for posting this!

Wanted to know a bit more about being a type 7 and the 7 in me was like "ughhh why are these videos so long".... 7 is pretty fitting for me...

22 minutes in: "Oh thank God, the 5 part, my reward for fighting my ADHD for this long."

I am 7w8 and I become more 5 these years. I travelled the world, dance ballet, play piano, gun shooting, archery, flower arrangement, salsa dancing, diving.... Arggg I interested in almost everything when I was younger. Now You make me understand why I love being alone, minimalist and introvert these years. Am I transform into 5? Or I just be 7 and have more of best in 5?Thank you! Ps:I have partner who is 1w2.

This man just called me out for 28 minutes straight

My husband is a 7 and I am a 1. On our honeymoon he suddenly became serious and had a weird personality change and I was asking myself - who did I marry? It turned out he was stressed about making our flight, and over the years when this personality change would happen we called it his "Business Mode" and I learned not to take it personally. I never realized until now that he was turning into a 1 - Mr. Get-It-Done without lightness and joy. My mind is kind of blown.

7 8 Wing and wow!!!! This was spot on!!!!so me!! I finally figured out why I’m so irresponsible at times. 😭

You are amazing Dr LaHue! You get straight to the core of each type like no one else on RU-vid. Thanks for sharing your mastery.

Brooo 3 mins in and the tea is hot

I love your videos so much! I am in an addict in recovery. Studying the enneagram has given me such a great place to work from therapy wise. And yes!! I am also a 7 and proud of it. The fact I’m a 7 explains so much. So many things that my mother, the 2 in my life, has told me many times that she just doesn’t understand about me. Going on 3 years clean! Bumps on the road here and there but working everyday and your videos have become a huge part of that for me. We are actually doing an enneagram/trama class as part of my iop program and it is amazing! Keep sharing and thank you so much you are changing lives…

INFP 7-4-1 tritype here, the seven going to one becoming methodical is like an INFP grip by their inferior function Te to do all the work for them, becoming critical and harsh to others and to themselves.

Thanks Dr Tom. I’m a 7w6 who sometimes wonders where my joy has gone. I am learning to sit in silence and confront and sit in uncomfortable emotions. This has helped me see the joy I bring and not let it be self serving. I find that a bit of stress to bring productivity helpful. It frustrates my 1 wife to no end that I can get so much done with such little effort when I am motivated and focused.

The accuracy here- whenever I'm really on my game I can sit and watch multiple hour lectures about neuroscience and endocrinology no problem but when the gas tank runs out I'm "back on my bullshit" which I feel is a highly appropriate way to describe 7's

I just took 4 enneagram tests, with all different results. However I got 7 2x, and 8, 9 and 2 as wings or influences as the repeating numbers. Your description was interesting - I am definitely a 7 who goes into 1 to fix things, but I live in 5.... My 20s were very hedonistic and irresponsible and I was a bouncing ball of light and energy. However I have never been shallow - I LIVE for deeply understanding the world around me and practicing patience. Yes, part chaos and joy fairy, part military general, and also part therapist /researcher/ introverted intellectual. My brain loves to go so fast it has scared me into vices, and I have always been envious of the laid back people who it's easy to be around.... Because I am not them. Even my procrastination is intense.... Uf. I must figure out which wing I have.

This was awesome. I've always crapped on enneagrams but I heard a brief description of a 7 that sounded arrestingly like me. This expanded version sounds exactly like who I am when I'm healthy, and where I go when I'm not. I love the call to action to stay present as well, because I'm unusually future oriented, like it seems most 7s are, and need that constant reminder.

The 7 in me is twiddling my thumbs at 12 minutes in on 1.75x speed. 🙄

Ohhh I see why im 7 now. I never really related to the loud energetic version of 7s and I thought i was 4 for a long time with a 3 wing because I always felt like something is "missing" like I need more and more but it didn't stem mainly from envy like a 4, but more of gluttony like you mentioned. I also do my best to ignore my negative feelings and I'm terrified of being vulnerable with people and just going below the surface. I can't believe I watched the entire video in one sitting, this was really helpful thanks!

Pro-tip: watch on 2x speed

Im a 7 who was always superficial and super extroverted. Now it is for me as you said at the end of the video. More introverted, turned inward and enjoying life every day, bringing you to my journey and wanting less, really think less is more. Does that means i am becoming a healthy 7? This is amazing, i appreciated your video!!!

As a 7 SP I actually named my Daugther JOY 😍🌟✔️ thx for the vids Tom ;)

I remember being in college and having this insight: I am here to lighten people up. I knew nothing about the Enneagram, and you are hard on 7s, but we deserve it.

The burst of energy comment is so accurate for me. I find that I am so hard on myself through all of my procrastinating, "hedonistic" energy and then I get that "inspiration" I can do sooooo much. It is so frustrating.

You Are Epic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wow, as a 7, this is very eye opening, Our pastor recommended we all take an Enneagram test going along with the current series . I can see where i spent couple years in the Outhouse and how my behavior and personality changed because of it. Great explanation , thanks !

Type 7 here. 11 minutes in eating candy, answering texts, tapping my foot 👀

I feel SO SEEN. Thank you Dr. LaHue!!!

(7/8 when I'm alone, 7/6 in groups of people) I find that whenever I intentionally activate 5 strategy in times of stress (instead of defaulting to 1 subconsciously) I feel that snide stuff show up where I'm looking down my nose at everything. I end up climbing into that observer perch and then using it to indulge my artificial self-soothing of pretending I already know everything without really testing that. The reason that impulsiveness doesn't really bite me in the butt hard enough to make me not do it is that I can pretty much solve all the problems it creates without too much effort. Even though the 1 arrow is pretty judgmental it is also very ethical and THAT is what makes me curtail the impulsiveness because the 1 will not let me lie or wriggle out of anything. Been studying the enneagram for over 20 years and I have concluded, much like Riso and Hudson, that the wings and arrows are less descriptive of decompensation and integration than just another set of options for volitional strategy borrowing. Being in 1 is hard and yes, I do go to rigidity when my fears overwhelm me, but there are strengths in that place that I can lean into and use positively. Same for 5. It's a great place but I can fall for its downside if I'm not paying attention. Mindful awareness of our grooves allows us to CHOOSE different behaviors and as I age and ACTIVATE strategies from different types, the personality becomes less and less tight as a suit and I can take better advantage of different ways of thinking and acting in different situations.

I am a 7w6 and listening to you leaves me speechless! 100% spot on !

Ok second comment but bro you’re seriously the best I have heard on explaining the 7! Thanks so much! I just want to hug you and say, “yes! It’s so true!” Don’t stop sharing with us!

I'm such a fidgeter. Never realized that's a 7 quality!

What a powerful message, I too am 7 with a 6 wing. I wanted to ask, I find myself swinging between a bad 1 and a healthy 5 within a matter of days. Is that normal? Of course when I “one” to execute tasks I am well aware of it but I’m not sure if it’s healthy to lean into that energy?

Very good explanation...your description of the type in frustration is perfect

Dessert first hahaaaa! Scary me! 7w8 but can also easily be 7w6. Spot on!

Eery how well you know me. Mind is blown this is so accurate. I could have titled my channel “A 7 does Benzo Withdrawal” I’m thinking of all my videos and how I’ve brought all these messages of the 7 to help people get through an awful time in their lives. I’ve been living more as my healthy 5 now for awhile but it is not easy. I miss my hedonistic 7. What a journey. Thank you!!

What should a 7 do if they find themselves in this quicksand situation? Not like a temporary type situation but like a lifestyle type situation?

Didn’t know u were a 7?! Me too. This makes me wish we still worked together! Would love to learn from u. Especially now that I’m a dad. Guess I’ll just have to settle for your RU-vid channel. Good stuff. 👍🏽

This is perfect. You’re descriptions blow my mind! My daughter to a T! Puts it all off, but gets it done! I’m a neat freak and will be like “clean your room! Why can’t you just keep it up and then it won’t be a problem!” She’s like idc! And I need to be “in the mood” 🙄 but once she gets in the mood which is usually only because she’s having someone over, she is very quick and always astonishes me w how she does get all the things done by the skin of her teeth! She’s far from a perfectionist, good enough has always been good enough for her! Always looks for the next adventure. As the adventure is happening she’s planning the next one! Very charming, almost everyone likes her. She’s never down for long. As a 4 mom she hates how deep I wanna go w stuff. It irritates her so much!

Wow. My therapist is having me study..I am completely. Blown. Away. Thank you.

my brother is a 7 and i respect the way he lives his life following fun

Thank you 😊 that is so helpful I’ve been wrestling with feeling so down for so long and not really knowing why and now i feel I do thanks again

Thank You! A spot on explanation! Good luck to all the 7s, including me! 🥳❤️

I’m a 0

I'm a 7 and my husband is a 2. This was great! Thanks

Tom, your cabin + paths to neighbours analogy is BRILLIANT - thanks 😄!

Now I'm wondering about stress and growth paths going far enough to cover 4 types, rather than just 3! I've definitely embodied both the 7 and the 5 since dim dark youth, at one time or another. Reluctant responsibility backstop 1 at the very bottom, 8 marshalling the energies to enact (impose?) my thoughts at the top. I suspect there might be something about high/low energy cycles and being a massive ambivert, that just slides up and down that 7-5 line all the time.

Tom- you’re the BEST!!!

i'm afraid we just have adhd

amazing insight into my type of enneagram. thank you so much

Wow! My best friend, my soul mate sister is a 7. I am a 1. You are 10000% correct for both of us. I think we both were brought to tears. Thanks so so much for sharing your knowledge.

I find it awesome to hear that I'm a 7 and a 4. Doesn't bother me one bit. It's nice knowing why I am the way I am and what I can do to "help" myself when I find myself going in the wrong direction. So cool !

I’m brand new to this - but 2 tests I took labeled me a 7 w/ the next highest score a 3 - but it looks like you’re only allowed to lean towards one of the 2 numbers on either side of your number? ie 6 or 8? Thx!

Your harsh towards 7’s but it’s the TRUTH 🙌🙌🙌

Where are my ENFP's?

Incredible! Only just discovered what an this was! Thought it was a medical procedure. Ha! But bloody hell I'm a 7! I'm really into astrology ( studied it all my adult life) Your interpretations are spot on. Than you so much. Xx

Also, watched the videos with your girls and laughed til I cried! So awesome! My wife & I (she's a 2) just had our first child. Gives me hope that I can be a good father to her. We're already having adventures! HA!

I have ASD and ADHD so I can relate to the fidgeting, lack of focus, rocking back and forth, etc of 7. Always need stimulation.

Me a type 7 in quarantine: am I being attacked or something...

Ok so hear me out. I impulsively AM going to sell my car. BUT it's in the name of getting out of debt so it's smart. LOL

HA! I can definitely relate as a 7w8. I have a lot to say but then I'll rationalize my position as someone who works for myself. What I say can be turned against me and I'll lose clients, money, etc. Sometimes I feel like I have to have a surface personality just to stay balanced but my 8 slips out sometimes 😂😂😂 "7 under stress becomes more responsible." Well.... I plead the fifth.

It makes such sense that the 5 in my Tritype disintegrates into 7, and I get distracted and scattered.

Thank you so much for your videos. I am a 7 and I am learning how to sit with boredom and be still and it has been tough. I am asking God to help me and lead me to where he wants me.

I so relate to when you were talking about 7 just needing to "finish the collection, but it really just leads to more, more, more, and more...its never enough" so true

Thank you so much for this video. I’m a 6 husband is a 7 w8 and we’re having an argument strongly influenced by our personality types and I feel like this will help so much! The way your explain things is amazing

I feel seen! But hearing all of this is such an eye opener because I thought I was just hardwired to constantly seek pleasure and not face up to my responsibilities. Looking forward to tackling life head on and not seek instant gratification all the time 🤗

Hi. Why does 7 sound a like person with ADHD? Any connection there?

im an 7w8 I cant stop getting myself into trouble and offending others

It’s like you are reading my mind with the pen cap thing and I deal with fear by reading and observing the world as a spectator.

Thank you very much for this 🙌🏾❤️💚💛

he just said the 7 is peter pan, I literally call myself peter pan all the time!! spot on holy smokes

Im a 7

Why i can't be responsible even i am under stress 😪💔

I'm a 7 but I'm also strong in 5 and 3

Held absolutely no punches on us 7s 😂 Oh well, we need it.

I can't believe how spot on this is and I makes me want to reconsider actions

After watching all of your videos on 7s… I still want that jet ski. lol

I’m a 6 with a 7 partner, trying to learn more about the 7 so I can better communicate and care for him. This was awesome, thank you. It’s easy for me to focus on the negative qualities I might bring to him, but I like that you emphasized the dynamic between the 6 and 7 that could be an awesome partnership when healthy.

Fellow 7. So what collections have you had?

I am sure I'm a seven w 6. How can I develop my a wing 8?

This video was awesome for me. Spoke to me so clearly as a 7. God bless you, brother!

You helped me see that I am a 7! I also love that you’re a Christian too!

😮‍💨 I feel relieved why I’m like this

Thanks and blessings to you too.

Wow so on point for me! Glad I found you four years after you posted this!

Wow 💯 correct

The is so accurate, it’s shocking! 😅

Red Pill: So for a Type 7 to be successful in life, he/she should learn on how to constantly live "under stress" because that is where our type really shine. And for that to happen? We must face our very own fear - pain, suffering and deprivation (FOMO for that matter).

Thought I was gonna die. Multi-tasking didn’t cut it this time. Thought to amp the speed…slogged thru it “virtuously”. Please! As a 7, you should/could/would know better!?

What's the enneagram that's like this but 75% *LIKES* to be still physically, but mentally researches like crazy or avoids chores until one feels like doing them (ok let's make that 65% haha). I thought I was a 9 at first but there were a few things I didn't resonate with. I'm only extraverted around people but at home, I'm super chill. I've always paid bills on time my whole life (I'm 40). I relate a lot to 7 and 5, which makes me think I'm a 7w6 perhaps. I've never been super gluttonous, on a macro level, but micro maybe (at home avoiding "unimportant" household things until I feel like doing them). I'm seen as a very optimistic person, if someone were to describe me, but mentally my optimism starts from cynicism, then soon turns optimistic. And I've ways love diving deep into my feelings (internally. Only share sometimes with people I trust), so I really never run away from my feelings about something. I assess, think of consequences, and then take action by accepting consequences so it doesn't kill me later or I just dont go down that route....What am I man lol?

is it normal that I consistently keep getting enneagram 7 and enneagram 2 as my results?? Each time it is different. I also very between ENFP and ENFJ - anyone else between two numbers??

Gluttony yes. That's why oniomaniacs/hoarders/compulsive-emotional over-buyers are often 7's ...

7 wing 8 here and I feel very seen.

I'm here hearing about how sevens have this tendency of taking responsibility at the very last minute, just when it cant be postponed anymore.... while I have just 7 hours before a deadline and I'm not even halfway.... and even so I decided to write this comment first LOL

Type 2 here watching this to understand my 7 daughter better. Laughing at these replies from 7’s: “ugh, soo hard to watch this long video” 😂 there’s my daughter hence why I’m watching it

Thank you for this

Thank you..your last 10 min of talk were the most precious for me..I am definitely a 7..and that's great..even though I struggle with going deeper..committing myself..nr5 here I come..thank you🤗😘💖

So when I read, research, watch videos, and plan for my upcoming trip to Italy I am leaning into my healthy five-ness? Unlike when I went to Spain, hadn’t done a bit of research beyond knowing one museum and one church I wanted to visit, and hadn’t even booked any accommodations until the day before because I couldn’t decide where or how I wanted to break up the 12 days.

Ok so I feel incredibly seen you have reprimanded me for my very true (very well hidden) weakness which i thought no one would ever know about! I am a pure pleasure seeker, but also can cause destruction with this for e.g. binge eating / over spending etc. I am a really restless person and i feel impatient and youre so right about i can bring either the whole joy to the room or take the whole joy away. I don't allow the latter because i just isolate myself entirely until those moods have passed. I have bipolar and so much of this resonates with my illness too. wild times

Haha! This is so true that as a 7, under stress, I am a 1. One time, my ennagram 5 bf, hid about a huge debt that he incurred, I scream at him and become so judgemental. And then, I become like a disciplinarian and tell him off. 'You need to clear your debt bitch, and this is how you do it because you are not making sense' hahaha! It's bad. We had to go to therapy to remedy the situation