9w1 and this is definitely me!!! My fiancé always asks me and in my head I’m shouting, “Don’t ask me where I want to go/what I want, because I want YOU to think of it. As long as you came up with the idea, I’ll love it!!!” Lol!! He’s a 5 and this is definitely accurate to him too 😂
Five here....a nice bouquet that I don't have to arrange myself and that tiny card on a stick with a hundred dollar bill in it. No poem. And then maybe pretend like you have stuff to do and leave me alone for five hours.
Interesting. So many of the 5s I've spoken to say Physical Touch is their love language. Some might be surprised by this, but a person who is frequently stuck in their head or holed up in solitude often appreciates a partner who can pull them out of their head and ground them in physical, sensory reality. Quality time is a close second, and words of affirmation third. I think the 5w6s are more likely to prefer words of affirmation, while the 5w4s prefer quality time & possibly physical touch.
I’m a 2, I feel like the Valentine’s Day “gift” idea is supposed to be sarcastic… of course we say we want those around us to feel loved, but what we reeeeeally want is a heartfelt card saying how appreciated we are, a backrub, and no expectations to do anything for anyone! :)
as a 1w2, acts of service and quality time is so true!! Gosh I love it when people help me because I'm always helping others. and time is something i value alot. i know you care for me alot if you're wiling to spend time with me.
Omg so crazy I’m a 4, and my top two love languages are tied for Acts of Service and Gifts! I’m surprised that gifts is low for 4s. I love beautiful things and when a gift shows someone truly knows me it means sooo much to me.
This 4w5 the most ethereal cynic. Y'all always have me laughing at my own ridiculousness, thank you 🖤 Edit: I'd agree with the love language poll as well 😁
I can't really relate to the love language thing as a receiver. But as a 5 my love language is gift giving. I pay attention to what people like or prefer and am always on the look out for gifts. For myself, I appreciate it when people acknowledge the hard work I put in to helping and serving them. Especially as I'd rather not have had to do it in the first place most of the time. 😁
9w1 and yes, exactly. I mostly don't care. I'd rather spend time at home making a meal together and doing everything we normally do in our regularly scheduled lives. Routine all the way! Luckily, my husband is an 8 and doesn't care about the holiday. We don't do presents, 1 less thing to worry about. Though as a w1; if you help out around in the house, I immediately feel loved unless it's not done right...then don't bother
Why do I keep missing these polls? Oh yeah, I only sporadically hop on Instagram. I must be an outlier I'm a 4w5 and my love language is gifts. I love when my husband brings me a coo rock he found on the road or a interesting shaped pinecone.
I can never decide if I am a 1 or a 5 because I resonate strongly with both of them in all of your videos. This one is no exception! I'd be happy with my husband cleaning the house (correctly) OR leaving me alone for the day with food. Both sound amazing!
1s are focused on perfection, either on themselves , others around them, or on socirty itself. enneagram is hella complex but the difference between 1s and 5s is that 1s are compliant towards people, whereas 5s are withdrawn from people.
1. Apparently I'm the odd One out, because acts of service does *nothing* for me. It's like, "Mmhmm, yes, thank you for doing that thing that you already should have been doing. Also you did it wrong." (And yes, I am a monster, and this attitude is why my husband is now scared to load the dishwasher.) 2. Love the bar graphs! 3. I think that "physical touch" and "gifts" both have a stigma about them that may skew the results. Those are my top two love languages, but it feels weird to admit it, because physical touch implies sexuality (completely unnecessarily, because I just want to hug you!) and gifts implies materialism (also unnecessarily, because I would love a hand-crafted playlist). 4. So yes, I want chocolate - but it has to be those one chocolates. :)
Also a type one and 100% agree with you. I took the quiz for love languages and got quality time and physical touch (quiz for single people and one for married couples). I see physical touch as presumptive quality time as you have to be in the same space and time to give someone a hug. But it was less awkward to answer the quiz questions thinking of my husband. And yes gifts sound materialistic, so nobody wants to admit it.
Social 8w9 here, and my love languages are Physical touch, Quality Time, then Acts of Service and Gifts were tied, and Words of Affirmation was almost nothing
I've always found it interesting that as a 5w4 my main ones are Quality Time and Physical Touch (!) Could it be the INFJ in me ? Because it's clearly not a thing for fives
9, and my live language is quality time....but the 9 clip....totally nailed that! however if you take me to a place I wasn't craving I would be sad, but don't ask me what I'm craving because I don't know until I'm not there.
The 1 is so me!!! Sure do something for me, but if it's not done right... don't bother. 😂 Maybe that's why my love language is physical touch; it's not hard to do right.
I’m a six w5. My love language is words of affirmation and quality time. I’ve heard words are big for sixes in general. Sixes are kind of the work horses of the enneagram. Words of affirmation make us feel seen.
@@bethanythatsme What's hilarious is I don't see myself as particularly interesting. I do make rather spontaneous decisions (especially when travel is involved), which often concerns my more reserved friends, and I am pretty quick to make random friends on solo trips... But while I'm friendly, I'm definitely introverted, as people quickly exhaust me. (Part of why I like solo trips- no obligation to stay with the other humans.) I don't see myself as interesting so much as I see life as interesting. I don't enjoy routines, and thrive on the freedom of making a spontaneous plan and just rolling with it. I don't see life with the limits others do. And while I don't own a pet because I don't want my spontaneity to be limited by such responsibilities... I would totally figure out how to make an exception for a camel. 😂😂😂 (The ones I've met have been so sweet and charming haha) But if we're taking Myers Briggs, I'm a total INTP. 😂😂😂
I’m an 8w7 and husband is a 9… very accurate I would prefer to ignore Valentine’s Day as it is silly. acts of service and quality time rank highest. Don’t get me a mushy card or flowers they just die. Just clean the bathrooms or the floors for me without me asking! Get me another houseplant that I can add to my collection!
8: Quality Time & Gifts My 9: Acts of Service I'm such a wing 7! Let's go!!! DO. NOT. Get this 8 a gift card! In middle school, my boyfriend wrote me an original song and performed it for our choir (I wasn't even in that class! I never heard the song!) I'm still moritifed!!!!!
Enneagram 8w9 here! Highest: Words of Affirmation & Gifts Then: Physical Touch and Acts of Last: Quality Time I think this may have Gifts may outpaced Words of Affirmation and Quality Time is inching its way up with Physical Touch. Acts of Service is nice but it just makes me feel incompetent🤣
I really hate the way 5's are portrayed by these two. No, we're not all obsessed with history. We're more about the principles behind things/actions. Sometimes that involves history, but it usually doesn't. We also don't assume everybody knows what we know because we've had too many experiences of people being clueless as to what we're talking about.
LMAO im an 8w7 and i want my partner to shower me with physical love and have long chats. Take me out to an amusement park or something skinshippy. I don't want a song or a poem LOL
