I hate how everyone is against OP because it’s not his fault that OP’s ex married the wrong man after the divorce, I would say the ex should stop living in some fantasy that’s not gonna happen. OP’s first mistake was not blocking the ex and OP’s ex should have gone after the bio father for child support.
because everyone is baby rabid brainwashed. a mix of stockholme syndrome and crab in the bucket and dog in manger. parenthood is sh**y. there is plenty of information out there that it is not the fairy tale crapola the media and others use as propaganda. the NO wins. anyone who tries and bully someone into having unwanted kids are the enemy
@@LunaP1sadly this type of person won't. She'll only care and be sorry about what directly affects her. She doesn't even care about how her current actions will affect her children.
So it's okay for the bio dad to decide he doesn't want children, but it's not okay for OP to make the same decision and be responsible about that decision? WTH
Pretty disgusting that his family take his ex's side. He didn't want kids and she did. So they weren't compatible and now they want him to break up with his current fiancée? Block them and go NC.
i don’t know why people think the transplant story is fake. imagine my surprise when i found out that my ex-husband is my 2nd cousin. he’s white and i’m black. his great grandmother was my grandfather’s sister. she was a white passing black woman. my paternal grandfather was born in 1899. i found this out in the early 2000’s. i left him due to him being crazy and abusive (now i know why, i swear it’s genetic) and confirmed it with ancestry dna tests with our son recently
Simple. There are folks on Reddit whose sole purpose is to "prove" a story to be fake . Some believe that because an OP "left out something" in the original post,he/she is hiding something. So their story is fake. With a story like this, there's a whole different line up of assumptions/questions. The whole: This story has to be fake. There's no way you didn't feel a familial connection to your spouse. If you look so much like her Dad, you would've gotten tested. Just to make sure. There's no way you wouldn't have told your "wife" before the surgery. People on Reddit forget/don't take into account that the OP has posted their story when their life has just been blown up. Some situations just happened. Others took place very recently. These are people looking for advice,not English/Spelling lessons, be called a lier or insulted and degraded by Reddit. Depending on the situation and the OP just how angry, deceived, desperate or heartbroken they are. Unfortunately,an OP has to view the idiots of Reddit to get to the people who truly want to help the OP.
I know my childs father is my 2nd cousin. When we did dna markers alot of them match. Our moms are from the same town in mexico and my grandmothers side of men, where cartel and promusicious. Long story short my daughter was from his sa. But i stayed quiet .
I feel so bad for the few friends that I blew off what they told me about exs, because I thought no one could possibly actually say shit like that. then my fiance and I got pregnant, and he dropped the mask that had been hiding the narcissism and I started to get the kinds of comments that I had once blown off as an overdramatic friend lying and blowing things out of proportion. and there doesn't even seem to be mental gymnastics involved, they seriously think they're that right on everything, at all times. literally cannot fathom that their bullshit isn't correct
Bro, I feel so bad for the original poster. Imagine living in a world where you’re the only sane person and everyone around you is crazy trying to claim it’s your fault a random child doesn’t have a father figure.
@@dollsite now I’m really curious about what being Muslim has to do with the story. Not being rude, I am genuinely very curious. 👀 Is it a part of the religion to accept affair children or fatherless children or something? If so then that is something I haven’t heard of. I always love learning more about other religions.
@@OMG_TheFrogs I'm Muslim we don't accept that craziness in story 1. Adoption was practiced by prophet Muhammad PBUH and some of his companions, but harassing a former spouse because the baby daddy ran off is not sanctioned in the religion.
@@L05-td6qm thank you! I actually looked more into the religion as well over the last month and let me just say, the Muslim religion is so beautiful. It is a shame that twisted groups are taking it and using it to promote violence and hate. Learning the true history of the last 40 years in the Middle East/ Muslim countries has been truly heart rending. Lots of tears
The sister may not like the new fiance or might like the ex because she's equally toxic and they can be the toxic sisters (by marriage). It's always "fun" to have a friend to bond with to mess with another person like op. Edit people can hide their motives with religious delulu
OP and his ex should have talked about children before they got married, but he's not responsible for her subsequent choices, or her son. She's a single mother who knows she chose poorly and is trying to latch on to OP for stability.
I think that maybe you aren't making it clear enough that the kid is not yours. You don't share dna, but ex is realizing that you are sitting on a pot of money for university costs
The 2nd story is wild, but believable, even if the odds are astronomical for something like that to occur. And I can't say whether I would continue the relationship or not, but I can't really condemn them for doing so. Whats done is done. They didn't grow up together, and they only know each other as they were before they found this out. The kids appear to have no "defects" because of this relationship, and they can stop having kids if they hadn't already decided to do so, to reduce that risk in the future. As for story 1...OP kinda gave away the religious group just by mentioning how recognizable it is. And if it is what I'm thinking it is...lets just say I'm surprised it didn't escalate further.
1st instance of incest isnt a major risk of birth defects as long as the couple is young and healthy. If they tried to have kids when getting past their 30s then complications would become a bigger concern. Now if there are multiple instances of incest in their family line the chance of children inheriting defects goes up a lot. Its an interesting topic if you wanted to look into historical royal bloodlines and how the inbreeding caused the downfall of kingdoms.
Story 1, op was/is very smart for divorcing his ex, He is very correct you can't compromise on children, Seriously if one of them clearly don't want children leave the relationship and move on, there are enough adults who was once children who had, one of their parents resent them that affect them now as adults, and hear them talk feeling that resentment from someone who is suppose to love them unconditionally is sad, Seriously op did the right thing and besides the only people responsible for that child, is his ex and the bio father of the child who's dodging his responsibilities, and honestly op should have just flat out made a post stating "i didn't make ex having another relationship and then lay down with another man to create her son with said other man, the other man she was in a relationship willingly with, she is a grown woman that made her own decisions on her own, that she is responsible for not me, i Don't want to hear any excuses and don't even bother trying to use religion we already sapeated years ago and afterwards she got into relationship and layed down with another man and had he's child so it's beyond too late to bring and she did in fact moved on from me before now, so no I'm not responsible for anything and don't bother lying saying i am when there's clear evidence I'm not and honestly after this post I'm cutting of people who bother to entertain her nonsense.", Because that way not only would op make sure everyone got the message without repeating himself, but make it so ex can't throw a woe was me party/ lie on social media, if op made it clear she was in fact in a relationship with someone else before bothering op and even if she did lie with that post to back up his claim, and a dna test people outside the situation with common sense would lose sympathy for her fast.
The ex tried to get him back mostly for the money he had. She wasn't looking for a father figure for the child. I wonder how many actually figured that out
NTA. A dad that has to be convinced,bullied, or cajoled is going to be a resentful presence in that kids life. If someone says they don't want to be a dad ,believe them.
2nd story ~ This is the strangest thing I've heard of. I hope they stay together & work it out with both families after they found out they're both brother & sister.
When women see you as a push over they will never see you as anything else. The ex thought she could break him down and get control of him. Plus society hates men who arent burdened by responsibility just as much as they hate seeing women with that very responsibility. Im a life long bachelor and the rude side eyes and insults i get reom older women is just funny. They hate seeing a guy who has a solid head on their shoulders and living life with little care
Kids are NEVER something you can compromise on. You BOTH want them or you separate. End of story. Otherwise, resentment will build on one or both parties. One wanting and not getting it annoyed while the other gets what they want, but they, too, are bitter as the other won't stop guilting them about it. Forcing another's hand put kids, mainly, but also the spouse whose hand was forced in dangerous/volatile situations. Idk what is with sisters taking their brother's crazy exes side, but that shows a level of toxicity and disdain of that sibling they kept hidden till then.
The more I listen to these stories, the more I see how nonsensical people are. How could OP be at fault for not wanting kids and how is it his fault the kid does not have a father? I actually commend him for his mature and selfless acts. Cant they find another man for the child? Ask BILL and see how fast they shot that down.
I have a weird sense of humor... I thought it was funny and something I totally would have said in the moment. Edit: My wife would have reacted the same way as OP's wife.
The biological mother in the second story failed as she should have kept her legs closed if she didn’t wanna be a single mother. The mother shouldn’t have had any kids if she didn’t wanna be a mother because she is a failure of a mother. What an unfortunate fate that OP and his sister had because when people find out than they are gonna misunderstand the situation
Yeah blame the WOMAN WHY could father NOT poke his baby stick? WHY could the father NOT WEAR A CONDOM STICK AROUND, SUPPORT HIS CHILD FINANCIALLY OR EVEN TAKE HIS CHILD DONT YOU BLAME THE MOTHER YOU would be screaming if she got an abortion I bet.
You are crazy lol. She was as the story said a kid. And it sounds like her parents separated her from the father and probably made her give the baby away. You are a horrible person if this is how you view women but especially a child
3:27 Dude if he had kids then he would’ve resented them their whole lives because he never wanted them and if they didn’t have kids she would resent him because she couldn’t raise a child: I applaud OP for divorce because it was never gonna work out period point blank
Wait, how was he an a hole for divorcing her over her demanding kids snd him equally determined to mot have any ??...its a huge decision affecting both their lives at least he was honest and he made it known how he felt...i myself wasnt given a choice when the mother of mine stpped taking B.C pills snd didn't tell me so i could make a suitable change in actions then was mad i didnt even pretend to be happy about it...we split up and me being a responsible guy got back together to raise my daughter...but then she did it again and i resented and hated her for it...i continued to be a responsible parent for my kids..the youngest 22 M..lives with me to this day ...but i could never forgive their mother for not giving me the choice
Story 1: Yes and no. Wrong on divorcing in the first place but that’s because by the you usually marry, you would have known each other’s stance on family BEFORE getting married. How you hadn’t even thought of bringing up such a possibility and determining if you were both on the page before marriage is rather shocking. Now I’m not saying all marriages would need to have children but that’s usually a topic couples bring up ahead of time and it may be they don’t decide to quickly but wait a few years or several but both should be at least thinking about whether they’d consider it all before trying the knot. No for not wanting to raise someone else’s child or break up your current relationship to be with her again and more so because you are essentially a rebound option now.
Never smashed my actual sister, but I did hook up with a girl who wanted to RP that scenario. I was into it until she pulled out fake birth certificates and photoshopped family pictures...Like, I was photoshopped into them. We matched on tinder exactly 3 hours before I went to her place. Second date was worse, she asked for a pregnancy scare and I realised the hotness/crazy scale just doesn't work for me.
Should have turned down ex's invitation to catch up. In her crazy mind you are still her husband. Now she is trying to kid trap you with someone else's kid. Should have blocked crazy totally after divorce.
Isn't it fascinating that of alllllll the people in the world, people can unknownly get into relationships with relatives. A biological pull toward eachother through shared DNA.. and thats why i got a DNA test done, no brother/husband for me 🤢 😂
Why do we have to listen or read the same sentences twice ? We are not morons and understand the first time. How to make a video last 30 min instead of 20 . Disgusting.
If someone doesn't want kids that's fine. Why should he change his mind. Its not like he lied or tried to change her mind. God above. He'd be crazy to let them back in there life. Family need to go to the pope and hope they can convince him he's the father. Jesus
Do people have a brain? How can you think you are wrong for not wanting kids? Op you need to be a man have a spine , letting people guilting you into living I life you don't want, wow dude get some help from being a people pleaser, when yo let go of toxic people no amount of apologizing make up for toxic behavior, stop trying to get answers it isnt worth the mental bs, when you continue to let toxic people in your life you will continue to have a toxic life, your choice peace or chaos
After my grandfather passed away (due to old age ) , we were going through his stuff , I found a book which was all about misogynistic views , that how a woman who doesnt want kids will be reborn as a Dog in her next life to satisfy her "urge for breeding" (because yk.. dogs have a lots of kids in their lifetime" , having a kid is necessary, and if you dont you are a sinner and all that crap. Which was odd because gramps never ever said anything along those lines. Ive since thrown away the book and havent told my family yet. Tbf the book was wild asf.
@@johnditoro1676 okay so bad argument, just because some believes in a different religion then use doesn’t make them “loony” I mean do you even have a reason for it being loony or just cause you don’t agree
@@landonpoland5092 As long as their religion doesn't teach them that significant portions of humanity or second class citizens or worse. Once you use your religion to tell me who I can or can't love, what I can do with my body, that certain racea are inverior then your religion is dogs**t.
1:32 oh man, off to a great start here 3:15 don’t no if I’d say asshole but definitely a manlet 4:17 don’t you need to be masculine to be a “masculine influence”? Kinda barking up the wrong tree there 8:03 no religion as well? Whew
No, she wants what she has Always wanted. Her and OP to be a family. The whole picture show. OP as hubby and Dad,her as wife and Mom, the house with the dog and both of them raising "their child".
@lindah3803 and to that kind of person "family" means free labor, simply put she wants someone to exploit. Not his kids, not his shit to deal with, her wants are not OPs obligations.
@@kinosaga21 True, it's not his obligation at all. I still think she wants her "picture show". Yes, that gives her the opportunity to use him as she wants.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it.
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
RELIGIOUS NUTS .Not good people of faith but those who think Marriage is for life ( even if he smashes her body into strawberry jam cause he's angry she was 1 minute late making dinner, answering the phone, making mac and cheese and he wants steak that she cannot afford off the pittance housekeeping fund.Or her pregnancy will kill her " oh god will save her" She dies after birth " gods will" she and baby die " oh such a shame he didnt get to keep either one oh well they are with sweet baby jesus now" suggest an abortion " no you monster!! But would have saved her. " you monster she should have prayed harder god answers all her prayers it's her fault she didn't pray enough." There you have it in a RELIGIOUS NUT SHELL Like I say plenty of us in faith who actually think WHAT WOULD IN MY CASE JESUS SAY OR DO.. I AINT perfect.
Every person who is getting married or even seriously dating should have a DNA Test. Not only because of adoption but also sperm and egg donations and also family secrets. I know two people who had to tell their kids that they couldn't date certain people cause they were their half siblings after they had already started dating them. They were told the truth after they had brought them home to meet the parents.
Won't happen because of risk-reward. Like, even a full 1st cousin is usually not a big issue if it happens for one generation, and everyone further than 2nd cousin is completely irrelevant. Therefore, the only real risks are literally unknown half siblings.
I thought it sounded like they were on the same page when they got married, but the ex changed her mind later, or at least pretended to not want kids at first.
