Hey, what's the good in pointing at my mistakes if I'm already aware that it's wrong? I don't need that, thanks. Also, I'm not checking just because I'm procrastinating. I love to find common language with my "opposites". It can be very useful, in my opinion, because we're known to conflict more. If we get more insight in how we operate, I believe it can help to find peace and cooperate better.
My dad is an ESTJ (I'm an INFJ) and he's awesome. He's always taken his responsibilities to his family very seriously and enjoys being a reliable provider and problem-solver for his loved ones. Despite his orderly and structured life he can be very warm: he dotes on children and animals and chats up random strangers in the check-out line. I don't think he ever truly understood my creative/intuitive side, but he always encouraged me to make my own choices in life.
That’s me (INFJ) and my bro. My bro thinks I am from outer space. But yeah, my ESTJ brother is ice man in business and saves or say hello to stray animals in his spare time.
My mom’s an ESTJ and shes always on the go 24/7 trying to resolve some issue or mark something off her to-do list. Shes super intense about everything which often leads to conflict. But she’s one of the most successful women i know in business and the most loving mother. This type may be annoying but very good people in my experience
Your last sentence "May be annoying, but very good people". Couldn't agree more as ESTJ myself. I always tend to think of myself as a weirdo until I took the personality test and finally understood that this is just me. My personality. And how ESTJ "tick" in general. Through my entire life, I always had conflicts with my friends because of them not being organised, honest or whatever, but in the end, I am always there for them 24/7, whenever they need me. Also I had to stop video at 1:30. Because that moment perfectly reflects me. If I had even the smallest evidence about what other side says, I'll consider that as an excuse (which is shown in 1:30). Say its stubborness, or whatever, but thats really how ESTJ's are. In the end, most of the time we were right, but when we are not. Its extremely hard to accept that. One fun story: I had a friend who I met in college, we were in great relationship (with conflicts here and there lol), and I helped him to pass over 20 exams. I'm not even joking with the number. It could be even higher. I graduated before him, when he had 4 exams left. After that we had another conflict which lead to (currently) pause in all contacts between us, and he is still at 4 exams left. And I think about him every day, but my pride won't let me to contact him because I believe that he was wrong and dishonest to me. He obviously isn't contacting me neither, but if he did, I'd accept to hang around or even help him with remaining exams. That's another example of ESTJ's for you. I really wanted to improve myself on that field, but it always end up the same. Then I took personality test (few times to make sure), and every single time I ended up being ESTJ. So it was kinda "relief" when I read everything about that personality type to better understand myself. And accept who I am. Some things can be changed, but entire personality type? I highly doubt. Especially when you are not young anymore and followed that path for entire life (I'm neary 30yo). You can't change that over night. Its impossible. Just go with it! :)
I'm INFPs that had an ESTJ friend. As friends, we were so different; I would say that I drove her crazy because, as I saw, she is what it says in the video. Still, her emotional intelligence is higher, so she doesn't have problems understanding others' feelings. That is why she tolerated me so much, but until some days ago, we no are as close as it was :( so after that, I started learning more about myself found I'm an infps. I suspected she was my opposite when I checked the other traits I didn't get. After a couple of videos, I confirmed it, so I wanted to understand more profoundly and change some of my characteristics since I know that I must change some of my things.
INTJ's cast aside emotion and are very organized, but are not nearly as annoying as these guys can be. At least they're direct and don't make a big deal out of everything.
@My Girls Breathe Fire Did that strike a nerve? I was just being an ISTP and calling it how see it. 5 minutes of engaging with an ENFP is like kryptonite to me.
Tbh I'm here bc my bf is estj, aand..... Im enpf sometimes inpf always change between them.. And i just realize how different we are and how i have ruined all his plan lol oh god.. Now im worried
INFP: I hate myself.... I am my own worst enemy.... ESTJ: I HATE THE WORLD! EVERYONE IS MY ENEMY! This is what I am getting after watching INFP and ESTJ commentary (I thought it funny to post this) I am sorry for any offense. Thx
Wow this is very interesting and very clever of you to realised that! And actually very accurate, at least about me (ESTJ). ❤️ P. S. I am so glad knowing I am not the only one who all the time feels like she must fighting the others! That's very hard, fighting all the time with EVERYBODY. 😔😞
I'm an INTP and I think you're both stupid for being afraid of other people hating you or hating yourself, I don't really care if I offended you, and yes, all of us *are* robots.
Sorry for all complaining about ESTJs being too bossy sometimes. Me as ESTJ always want things to be done sooner, and need to be planned. Bc there's no one planned it, then we who planned it. And about desire of high position, it just simply bc thats our own happiness. ESTJs have all rational trait, we only see facts, and the only facts that matters people's life is money. Like how Feeling-types happy with their relationships or Prejudice-types happy with their freedom, we ESTJ happy with competance and strictness. Its all based on my own opinion. It could be different with any other ESTJ. And i made it simple, it could be too harsh or maybe too much. Edit : i do thanks for all critics you give to ESTJ. I'll learn more to be a healthy ESTJ 🙌
An INFJ here, thank you so much for being a mature ESTJ. I have a question, is it typical for a common ESTJ boss to falsely accuse their subordinates for them to feel controlling or secure their promotion? I'm sorry in advance for the question... I just want to understand my boss, at least
As INFP, I will accept your different view. We all have a job. ESTJ provide hiring and funding; INFP provide educating and healing. We have to support each others to keep our world stable :D
@@jhoembaliwag3191 Okay. Kinda offended that I feel like most ESTJs are immature is being implied here. But, whatever. If you want help on understanding your boss if you still have the same boss then let me tell you. We find comfort in order perfection and excuses or going back on a promise frustrating. And, well, I have never accused anyone but, my family likes to say I like to push the blame on someone. But, that's only because well, I believe it is their fault at least partly. And, I do like to control I suppose but, I do like to give others a little freedom and trust until they mess it up. But, in a workplace environment, I probably would give very little freedom cause someone messing up could mean that person could be fired or me which is not a risk I think many are willing to take. Now, I'm gonna stop now before I go on forever. And trust the video. It's me approved! 👍
I'm an INTP female dating a ESTJ male for 3 years. We are great together because we combine our minds to conquer a common goal. As long as I don't get too rebellious and he doesn't get too bossy, we coexist perfectly. Two brilliant minds have to come together instead of trying to get their own way 😂 if I derail his plan that he carefully created in his own mind, it's like a trainwreck but patience is key! I admire his ability to take charge of situations and he admires my creativity and humor.
You sure he ain't an ENTJ? ESTJ actually hates creativity as it actually frustrates them. They only trust professional with certificates. If you don't get those, they won't take you seriously.
@@luisl8851 i'm an ESTJ and i love creativity? i love surrealism, as the paintings makes me free my mind from all the work - yes, i love being in control, but sometimes i do wish someone could also be competent enough to not have me as a caretaker - and i myself write some poems. if you're not as ESTJ nor did a good research over the personality, shut up.
yooniveous. Well your very rare than and i must say im impressed! As an artistc ESTP , never thought yall will do anything with art! Anyways my dad is ESTJ, his got short temper and very controlling personality, everything should be planned, thats where we clash and thats how the world views estj as being very bossy and angry to everyone. I hope im wrong:)
I'm an INFP my father ESTJ. This is the most hilarious mix. He's my opposite. I hate shedule, he is control freak. Before therapy we were not able to support each other. Now it's going better.
lol, same here, mr. i can't ... in fact i have been ruminating on how i tend to intensely dislike people with these traits (when it comes to considering who, in my world, would be one of these types; not as a general rule of ready hatred lol)
Why are so many people triggered at ESTJs?A lot of butthurt people literally hate us because we don't take their excused and get annoyed when they delay promises. We are hard but fair get over it. Be nice to me and i will be nice to you as simple as that
I can tell you a pessimistic point of view of why people triggered about ESTJ, base on your comment. (Note: I try to help you see a different perspective. This is just my guess what people thinking.): Try to silence the victim (A lot of butthurt people literally hate us because we don't take their excused). Impatience (get annoyed when they delay promises). Narrow-minded (We are hard but fair get over it.). Can be seen manipulative (Be nice to me and i will be nice to you as simple as that). This is my just my guess of pessimistic point of view (not fact). Don't take so seriously other ESTJ. Thank you. Hope it help see a different view! :D
@@darktinylight3949 hypocritical they can't hear excuses but expect others to "understand" lol. Hard nosed and lack of empathy. We aren't robots and the feeling types see this as harsh because of of this. Fairness actually takes into account of all factors, not just "logical" ones. Just saying
I love my ESTJ friend! She’s very generous and responsible. She likes to write things down and likes organization. The opinionated part is on point. She makes her decision clear as though permanent yet she is also willing to listen to other opinions as long as it has a good foundation. Has strong sense of justice. She reminds us of things that we need to do. Seems arrogant but actually really caring. When in bad mood, cannot be touched LOL. Do not like surprises so she can prepare. Hardworking! Has set high standards for herself and people she cares. Usually takes things seriously. Pretty sarcastic! We’re friends but sometimes she acts like she’s my mother! 😂 -INTP
This is a great video about ESTJs. There are so many negative stereotypes about ESTJs that it's hard to find a video like this that doesn't make assumptions about them. My mom is an ESTJ (I'm an INTP) and this video describes her perfectly. Personal story: the part at 1:25 about not wanting to listen to sob stories reminded me of the time when I watched her play Project Makeover (the match-3 game, you know) and I asked her why she was skipping the cutscene. She said that it was a sob story about how the character got into the situation and she would rather not listen to it and just continue playing the game.
The fact is that there are more INFs in the comment section than ESTJs. Says a lot about ESTJs. They never search and procrastinate about such stuff xD _I'm an INFJ by the way_
@@antoinettenovella1630 Outside of professional life, sure. But in a workplace setting or a legal one, no. Unless involved directly in our lives outside of the professional or legal, we may have some expectations. However we are generally independent on that regard. If you want our advice, we'll give it, but we usually just live our own lives outside of work. At work, if you signed a contract and aren't fulfilling it, you shouldn't be surprised if people check you for that. No one is special in this world.
INFJ here, raised by an ESTJ mom and ESFJ dad. I have a younger ISTJ brother which resembles my mom a lot personally. I'm 28 and i think my mom is the best mentor / parent for me all this time. Kinda hate my dad for his impracticality, and he left our house long time ago, so i was pretty much raised by a single mom. I love her, so does my lil bro. She taught me so much things about practical things and problem solving, but yeah she turns into absolute beast when got angry, haha. ESTJ can be loving, caring and nurturing too, y know. But well i guess you cant do much about the dominating part, its not that bad tbh.
Yes, ESTJs can be caring, loving and nurturing. As an INFJ, it feels amazing when one takes you under their wing. They make you feel safe and give you their strength.
Infp raised by Istp father and Entp mother, certain my sister is an MBTI type that preferences thinking and judging (paternal family traits). Other than that, no clue, she is an enigma. In times of hardship we are there for one another without question. I value that but we are not close.
I’m an INTP. My dad is an ESTJ. I dunno, it always seems like my dad views me as a resource and doesn’t put much attention into my life. I despise him deeply, with what he told me “Do as I say, not as I do.” It’s the most hypocritical thing on the planet. He makes my head hurt.
Strange.. Cuz usually estjs will tow the line and do the right thing..not demand others to do something they wont do themself. Thems the rules they live by, high bar, be ethical and get it done. Keep in mind all personalities also manipulate and can have personality disorders. Narcissism is confused for estj due to confidence and that "being right" attitude among other traits that are dominant and scary to other personality types. Id like to know more about your dad, signed by an estj-a nurse.
Sounds like he displays some toxtic behaviors--MBTI doesn't account for mental or personality disorders, so be very aware that, as an example, he could have NPD or some kind of other underlining issue going on. Of course, without an official evaluation it's difficult to know but...look up online warning signs and other such tips to see if he, in your opinion, exhibits those kinds of behaviors.
That is by definition hypocritical but he's maybe right and wants you to make better choices than he does. And you're the one who admittedly despises your dad, he doesn't necessarily despise you, he hopefully loves you but just has a hard time showing it (or you have a hard time seeing it). Love isn't just an emotion, it can mean putting the other person first.
At the beginning I thought “that sounds smart, doesn’t sound like me.” But then I gave the benefit of the doubt because I may be too young to fully grasp myself and the way I prefer to do things as well as my talent and ability. Then I listened more and thought “huh sounds a lot like me, shit”
Sadly, yes. Most of the comments are my opposites and a couple INTP's also known as if my sister populated the Earth. This comment section is not what I expected. Who says we raid the INFP one and get payback for this!
I don't have all these qualities but I have definitely gotten good at being the taskmaster in meetings. Like making sure we are actually doing what we are supposed to, following the rules/instructions, and everything is scheduled, and everyone knows their roles. I am also pretty decent at problem solving and coming up with solutions.
I'm an infp raising an estj or possibly estp, she tests both ways. I call her Wednesday Adams. The lack of emotions is just astounding to me but her utter indepence is such a relief to me. She really has her shit together. The other big thing that makes me a nervous wreck is her fearlessness.😂
As an INTJ I can say that we would be the best leaders for this entire society, but we are normally afraid of giving that step ahead to take this responsability, we also see it like a pain in the ass, but the truth is that its time for us to do it, this world needs some help and even tho ESTJ are great leading to get things done, they tend to lack of empathy and they can even be close-minded to that sometimes, we might lack empathy too, but we are smart enough to understand it needs to be given. INTJs tend to respect people philosophies even tho we dont fall for any, we love what is fair, its fair to live free, its fair to live good, its fair to protect the animals and the earth and we are not afraid on pursuing these goals even when a bunch of rotten lives that threaten these need to be taken. We wont be making a damage, the damage has already been done and we are smart enough to underatand it, i which i could have a child with an ESTJ this having the estj willingness and the intj brain xd
But what happens when you clash? J types in relationships often have conflicts because each side is trying to reach their own goals. The S/N(iNtuition) difference is also hard to get around as you may trigger each other and lose productivity on what each person might see as small insignificant details or worse completely false statements (based on different modes of perception, ESTJ might read an insight gained from Ni as a lie, for instance). As an INFJ I often serve my ESFJ mom if I’m living close enough by, but I think her initiatives lack depth and they are inherently present-day sighted (not future-sighted). I’m thinking “let’s change the world,” she’s trying to be active with the latest trends in home design, and doing crafty or hosting types of ventures (like Airbnb). ESJs have Ni blindspot, which makes them not very in tune with the subconscious mind, which is why they may not be trusting of anyone who can “see past” the surface appearance of what’s happening, or the don’t have deep insights nor wish to: in my exp, ESFJ for instance they can be doing the same work they did 20 years ago even though times have changed, they don’t work to innovate or revolutionize anything, all change must be gradual, but the goal is still to make the best of present conditions, not so much bring about something new. For me, I have big dreams that involve the world or myself changing in big ways, many times I have to just set boundaries and say I don’t want to get roped into another Si goal,not if I’m going to make my mark in my Ni goal/vision (which are very personal and often not shared by others, and often at odds with the present day reality) No one, but especially not an Si type, is going to(automatically) champion an INTJs vision like an INTJ would. But hey If you can find an ESTJ who’s down to serve your vision and doesn’t think your visions lack precedent or are impossible or impractical, then it might work out.
@@Chierushi i might be too naive in a sense, or maybe not, but all im asking is for this ESTJ is to be smart enough and really in love. I wont be easy, but it will be worth it is all im saying.
@@jaycircuits ..INFP here ..and believe me ESTJs just don't understand , they don't even try . You INTJs are lucky having Te function , otherwise ESTJs would reject you , like they do with us INFPs .
An observation: I see a lot of INFPs on this video trying to better understand ESTJ, but...no ESTJs on INFP videos trying to better understand us. 🤣 The difference in the functions is real.
@@yes-ky9kh Was responding to OP, but WTH I'll bite. Just because Fi is down in the stack, doesn't mean it's not exerting influence. However, Fi is personal values not group, therefore not overly externally sensitive. My dad is not that concerned about about my (or other) feelings, but he sure is sensitive to his feelings/values when he feels disrespected, un appreciated, etc. Contrary, my daughter is INFP, and I had to learn to respect that dominant Fi. If I pushed on her values with my Ti, she could get defensive and emotional, because in a sense I am attacking her personally. She is also empathetic, but I think that is because having your values/feeling so present makes you sensitive to the values/feelings of others if you value your relationships. OTOH, for TE/Fi types, the Fi is subservient to Te so you get the classic "manager" personallity that is far more concerned with tasks then other people's feelings. IMO, if you placing other people's feelings over getting stuff done, you are not ISTJ/ESTJ.
@@MrLuigiFercotti the thing we're talking about is trying to understand the opposite type's feelings. I said it's a wrong judgement to think that ESTJs don't care about INFPs. You can see so many ESTJs on youtube that they care about INFPs' feelings or even are in relationship with them. So don't think we are giving hate to our opposite type or bully them if you've just seen one person like that!!
I'm an ENFP and my best mate is an ESTJ, so we're basically almost polar opposites. We butt heads a lot but it works really well because we learn a lot from each other. Being so close to someone who experiences life on the flipside of the same coin is one of the most challenging but most rewarding things I've ever done.
ENFP and ESTJ are energizing types I think, according to socionics. Can rev each other up because you’re, like, trying to make up for insecurities that the other person subconsciously triggers in you. You do so by responding with your strengths (which can trigger the other person, they respond, and so on).
@@Chierushi we apparently both have same functions but in reverse order. I find ESTJ quite doable abd secure as ENFP and I'm able to help them tap into emotions and get them over THIER insecurities.
Actually ESTJs and ENFPs have the same cognitive functions and they're more similar than you think. They're even more similar than ENFPs and ENFJs bc they have not any cognitive functions in common.
I’m an estj & my twin sister is enfj mixed with enfp... I get soooo frustrated with her 😂 I often have to take a step back and realize that she’s just in a different headspace than me & I need to be more outwardly emotional for her to know I care
Going to be honest here, I am intimidated by ESTJs. I think they would hate me. I am a very lenient, indecisive, sensitive, emotional, and soft person. I think anything is possible and I live in a world of dreams. I take forever to make up my mind and change it 10,000 times a day. I cry easily and sympathize easily as well. I take excuses and understand people. My kindness often gets taken advantage of. I don't like organizing people and micromanaging them. I think there is not one way to get things done, but infinite. Everyone has their own ideas and interpretations and they are never-ending. They can be productive in their own way and not have to do things through exact implementation based on somebody else's exact direction. A lot of people call me childish, immature, naïve, unrealistic, and a huge daydreamer, but that's just me. These people are scary, I know they're trying to be efficient and get things done but nonetheless, they scare me.
I am an ESTJ + Capricorn (The Ultimate Emotionless EVER) but I tried to improve my EQ and sense of empathy since my childhood and I can clearly say, I can get along with people like you if you don't be too selfish and respect my personality. But yeah, I tend to be attracted people who have goals and work for it more. A well self-educated ESTJ can be less scary :) Oh, and forgot to say about my Emotionless character, years of self-development made me a more sensitive person and now, I try to get rid of over sensitivity...
As an ESTJ, I can assure you there are 2 things that drive me up the wall. Excessive laziness and excessive crying. I can’t tolerate it. I have compassion. I understand when people are going through rough times. But if you’re going through rough times for 6 months… I cannot comprehend it. I can’t. I understand people work at their pace but if something is not going right I like to fix it or remove it from my life immediately. There was one colleague who cried all the time. At first I felt so sorry for her. Bought her lunch…helped her out… “my husband is controlling. I have no money. I don’t have food for my kids” Then it became a norm and it started bothering me. Why the hell was EVERYTHING in her life so dramatic. One day she deleted a folder by accident. I told her the network just needed to be restored she should wait for our network person. I kid you not. This girl would not stop crying. I got so angry and told her to get a hold of herself. It’s just a effing folder. So what if it got deleted even if it can’t be retrieved…suck it up and start all over again. She went to hr and complained about me. I bought her lunch…lent her money… helped her with her work for 6 months. And. She had the Audacity to complain about my anger?????? That day onwards I stopped helping her. I was done. 2 months later she was fired. She was milking the system and accounting got a whiff of it. She cried when she got caught….in front of everyone. I rolled my eyes and said it’s about time. Useless.
I might not agree or relate with you but I don't hate you. I don't believe in hating people, also it's nice you seem self-aware unlike a lot of people. And we need creative, more emotional people in this world. That being said you might get "better", I used to be more disorganized and shy as a kid and cried a lot, not by choice. And I am still working on some things, like I'm an extrovert who currently spends too much time alone. But it's up to you whether you want to change or you're content with the way you are.
Like a burnt marshmallow... hard on the outside, but have a BIG soft heart on the inside. As an ENFJ myself, I LOVE ESTJ’s❤️ the kind of people that are ALWAYS there for you
Me an ENFJ. My best friend is INFJ married to an ESTP 🤷🏾♂️. They are so so opposite, it’s incredible to watch. I always think she (ESTP) is crazy. But he gets my friend out of his comfort zone. Idk how he does it.
I’ve always mistyped myself by looking at just letters but if we take cognitive functions into account, I’m an ESTJ. I’m socially an introvert in real life but I’m a strong Te. I’m brutally honest and I broke a lot of friendships by not considering their emotions(too bad lol). I come off as ‘too harsh’ but the hurtful truth is better than pleasant lies. How does one improve with lies?
@@achyarfauzan4880 what? No man. I was always doing the best for what I do. Especially comes with my major i passionate. Sorry you have no idea what my father thinks everyday not encouraging and rather criticizing me, when I actually wanted to be accepted of my artwork. Ciao
This is relatable to me at least in the workplace, that is I feel this way but am sometimes shy and bad at verbal communication and being confident. I'm practical and swayed by logic and detail-oriented and organized and want to find the best solution rather than pretend I'm right and don't like things up in the air. i But I also don't come across as caring sometimes and I'm socially awkward and like spending time with people but get bored easily if I'm not doing anything. And I try not to say anything but I get impatient with people when they slack off or do things in what I perceive to be a wrong way.
I would love to get to know another sensor, they avoid me like the plague. Not sure what repels them. My dad was a sensor, we had issues in that he was irritated by my habit of procrastination, but were always very close. He was a very caring, attentive and loving father. Even as a very young adult I worked for his business and nothing changed despite the prevalent close quarters where I still lived at home.
This is the closest I can get to my actual personality, with Myers Briggs. I have elements from a few other types I would combine to make a more accurate picture.
INFP trying to better understand these peeps checking in. I may be intimidated and out of my depth around ESTJs, but the world would be on fire without you all, so thanks for keeping it all together while we INFPs are, I don’t know, crying at a rainbow or whatever.
Aww thanks. Also, I like rainbows, sunsets, fresh snow, the beach, etc. I just prefer to stay busy and enjoy those things on the go. It's good to relax occasionally though, ESTJs are known for being bad at taking vacations.
In regards of estj They are sociable yet within the same time you kinda feel they are introvert They are a bit mysterious when it comes to emotions, barely you can find them associated with emotions They’d prefer keeping any thing correlated to their emotions locked to their core, Well it’s for the reasons of the way their mindset works in which they feel who’d listen to them, to begin with Thus, no need to invade others into something useless as my emotions, that could be just a whim They are also kind of people whom you feel you really want to know about Nevertheless it’s hard to approach them, but in reality it’s vice versa, cause they are simpler than how they look or perhaps not (not sure of that one ) For friendships, they are really one of the loyalist, though they can meet a lot whom always hypocritical with them, for which they hate associating with and they make it clear; they like honesty in other words They are responsible ( sometimes when they get their vc u gotta see they are super different, it’s just as if they turned into other person )(quite rare though) And very knowledgeable in what they are curious about If they are not curious, let it be whatever, no space available for u bro They are not soooo intelligent but neither fools They are at the mid But when it comes to business or work, well they rank Not cause of their brain, but more accurate it’s cause of their experiences for which they can correlate with They don’t really care about how others view them , they don’t give it a shit Aside from their loved ones I remember that girl, in my high school, she was so cool man, she was kinda overweight ( she was still new) So one of the guys picked on her and said u chubby fatty, u don’t deserve sitting with us She just told him, yeah I’m fat, ur stating facts my bro, plus ya ig i deserve a higher place than u He was bleached 😎 I thought by that time, she must be sad from the inside but showing she’s not ( who likes being called fat) But I assure u bro, for real she really didn’t care, her mindset was marvellous, she’s blunt , never ever have she cared about others pov I remember after we got closer as colleagues ( don’t romanticise us, man, otherwise she’ll kill me, she already brother zoned me 🤓) I asked her, do u feel bad when someone tells u ur fat, and bullying you She laughed and told me; bro, u still u don’t know me, me getting bullied, and called a girl who knows her from a long time and told her in sarcastic way, gurl it seems I’m getting bullied Drawing that confusion face over her friend :You ! GETTING BULLIED! No way, hahaha, you. Are to be the bullier, not the bullied one She then inverted her gaze over me and told me, got it, bro! Plus when someone states I’m fat, it doesn’t really affect me, cause I AM fat, and so what, y would that affect me, I’ve got lots of things in my life for which rather than regretting not having other things, u can just be grateful, I have got my iq, my morals, my personality, my parents, my beauty. So if the only loss, I gotta have is not having those standard body proportions, then let it be so. What’s more man, I’m a foodie, I can’t restrict my diet, just for the sake of being slim, nah bro, it doesn’t deserve that much, I live to eat not eat to live For real, I was amused by her mindset, I liked it, and I looked up for her, she was quite a model character to take upon ( a funny fact: the one who picked on her , pursed her later on, but obviously rejected, he got brother zoned too🫧, dunno why she never been in a relationship 🧐) Btw, they hate lies the most And it’s one of the mistakes , that you think an estj can’t understand emotions It’s just they don’t know how to react to Yeah, they are serious but funny too They just know the time They could be kinda an orthodox But not 100% Also, one of the things they hate the most Is that they can’t help the ones they love And when there is a misunderstanding bW the very loved ones I think that’s enough guys, but there is a lot more if you want to know about estj Estjs themselves, don’t know the much about themselves All of those were based on people I’ve met, and sure it differs from a person to another So maybe it’s not that accurate Btw, I ve studied psychology! Edit: I checked the grammar, guys, I guess I forgot to proof read it, Anyways It seems I forgot to talk about some of their flaws, that I ve been told Demanding, Inflexible (appears to be) Bossy Feelings things I already said earlier Harsh Independent So the girl I said earlier, she’s the one who told me about her flaws, and those they were The bossy point, honestly from my side, it’s a kind of okay with me, but there are individuals who detest being bossed around From my pov, she’s the healthy type not toxic And it was really disheartening hearing her saying that about herself without a blink of eye, Btw the emotion thing is smth I deduced, even though we know each other for so long yet she is not open to me. Yeah still brother zoned 🥸
Wow, u wrote so much Btw i liked ur profile name And , for real, i really liked ur friend, to the extent of even i wanna befriend her 😅, Although im not sure about the bossy thing But i guess i can keep a blind eye for that, considering her mindset Its valuable, we gotta set our mindsets to be the same too 🎉🎉
ESTJ - a great leader who always goes by the book and works hard but lacks empathy My horoscope sign - Capricorn (the insensitive stubborn workhorse) This is scary lol
After my job interview, I was hired as management trainee. My boss said I look like someone who being good with leadership and management. I never believe her, mostly cannot believe in myself. I think i am not suit with the job. End up, someone let me take this mbti test and yes, i am ESTJ My boss just BRAVO
I have an eye for details but I don’t necessarily enjoy dealing with minute details. I see myself more as a big picture thinker who wants to delegate the minutia to someone else.
I've got ESTJ multiple times doing the test, and it is honestly the type I feel more comfortable with, I don't relate to any other. But I feel like I'm certainly not the stone-cold stereotype who doesn't know how to express, feel or understand emotions. My emotional intelligence is great, but I still value facts and logic over emotional states, I don't think that comes to discussion. Things are what they are. But that doesn't mean I can't open up to people or understand their feelings! Damnit
Hello! I definitely relate with what you said. I read descriptions and I don't think I am that bad as others think estj are. Don't pay attention to them, people that mock others for little things usually don't know a lot about those subjects and should learn more. And MBTI is a theory that can't be learned based on stereotypes and funny videos, is about psychology and how the brain functions in different people, not behaviour. INFPs are not little fairies that don't have a sense of reality and only daydream as others say. There are stereotypes about every single type based on stupid and not complete descriptions and please please please, don't listen to immature people. Unhealthy types are a thing and the can act terribly and when people are in a grip they seem unhealthy too. Take care of yourself and have a great day!:)
You seem like a weak minded ESTJ (kind of opposite of what ESTJ stands for). Most important thing is what you think estj is (not what "has been described"). Caring otherwise is not ver estj style thing to do :)
@@tomjens2046 Also, a lot of people who put too much trust in 16 personalities are usually mistyped. It's all fun and games until you come across people who know about cognitive functions and scold you because newbies justify their actions using this "new cool test". I am still in awe of how much ignorance can be in people when they have the internet and research things to a t. Which type are you, Tom?
Can anyone explain? I scored ESTJ twice on different perosanality websites just to be sure it's accurate but I am NOT a leader nor assertive! Im really confused. I prefer other people to lead and I really hate leadership. I even scored OWL on the DOPE test (dove owl peacock, eagle) and owls are methodical but non-assertive. I am really confused. I scored ESFP when I was in college year 2015, but last week when my employer required me to take this test, I am now ESTJ. I dont really kno whats going on
Those free tests aren't all that accurate, and the questions are often written in a way that makes them difficult to answer. I think it's better to learn about the cognitive functions and take it from there. Also the descriptions of each type are just sort of broad characteristics or tendencies, so you don't have to relate to everything about them.
ESTJs are quite admirable in their ways of always getting their ways and needs met as they are really goal-oriented and efficient. Unfortunately, it's extremely difficult to live with them and keeping the peace (me, INFJ with an ESTJ mother). She's an extremely nice person but living with her is an absolute hell. How do I tell her that I don't want to be social the whole time, that I love being in my room all by myself the whole day and that I hate being bossed around without any attempt in conversation always ending up in a fight with the argument of me being dramatic and lazy. Does anyone have some advice for me please? I'm really desperate at this point :(
(Edited) Just tell her that; maybe show a video or recommend a book that will help explain it. BUT you're going to have to compromise with her as far as socializing goes, first of all you're still under her roof and secondly she doesn't want you to end up being a complete hermit or agoraphobe. I would definitely tell her she's a nice person and that she means well but that you feel like she yells at you too much. And remember it "takes 2 to tango", which means both of you are the reason you're fighting but you can only change what you do and ask her to consider changing. Hope that helps.
..if you are lazy with tasks and keep the house a mess, this affects her negatively and causes her harm: stress. Tell her your brain uses different parts than her brain does and that your feelings are felt more intensely and that tasks accomplished don't give you dopamine like it does for her. She might be a bit more understanding then.
10 years ago I was an ENTJ. 5 years ago until now, an ESTJ. It was an interesting transition, but I do like being an ESTJ. I find the differences quite interesting as well and I can relate more to other people who are ENTJ because I used to be more like them in the past. XD
