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I need to develop this skill

Did the same thing with my father toward the end before I cut off the relationship. He always tried to get all the life details out of me when I'd come to visit him and I'd just either be very mum or just change the subject to something in the news. Used to irritate him so much, lol.

I’m nervous about trying this with my mom as it’s an easy conversation when she talks about herself but I hate it when she badmouths people I don’t know how to divert the conversation without getting emotionally involved

That's the 'grey rock' strategy. And well done you!

@@jc_80 One thing I do when my mom starts in is just shrug and show little interest...is she tries to get me to co-sign her BS, I just say 'i dunno" and become very boring. It works for me, but then she sets her sites on my siblings. Best of luck to you!

@Jas Mac as I am experiencing with my mother , she probably thinks that she is manipulating her therapist. That’s why she is excited. For them is just about a game of controlling.

@Jas Mac I'm excited about therapy because I know it'll help soothe my anxiety. Wtf is with the absurd jumping?

@Jas Mac Jumping to conclusions.* Narcissists don't try to be friends with their therapists, in fact, they're quite avoidant of therapy because they know they'll probably be found out. A person could want to be friends/all friendly with their therapist for many reasons. Like, someone with BPD, for example. It could be rooted out of core loneliness.

@@bunilleactually, the only one doing the “jumping” here is you!!... Not sure what’s got you so triggered. But you’re jumping down her throat for literally sharing HER experience and HER truth with HER Mom. Of whom she knows better than anyone. So she certainly doesn’t have to jump to conclusions...she’s living it!! And since when are we making blanket statements about Narcs?...Everyone knows no two are the same. Furthermore, I don’t think you’re speaking accurately at all. In fact, I’d be willing to bet there are just as many Narcs if not MORE, who’d be more than willing to go to Therapy and yes, absolutely try to befriend the Therapist as well. This is 100% what it’s all about for the Narc!!!.... The game the chase, the manipulation, the opportunity to prove the healthy person wrong, winning over the therapist, soliciting/gaining of sympathy, etc etc. I know my delusional ass Narc Mother (along with plenty others I’m sure), would be lining up at the door. Are you kidding me?... This would be HER MOMENT; she’d be loving every min of it. UNTIL she felt she was being challenged , held accountable or uncomfortable in any way. It would be a wrap & she’d drop that Therapist in a heartbeat if things weren’t going her way. Idk...I just kind this to me sounds far more consistent with the behavior of a Narcissist, than wanting to befriend a Therapist out of “loneliness”. That doesn’t make sense to me.

@@krissymichele You really do sound like a narc deflecting with all of your intentional emotive language and millions of capitals to manipulate people's thoughts while also attacking me and everyone who you don't like, but oh well.~ Did you not watch the video? You can't diagnose someone just because you don't like them lmfao, go off. Ditto for you. You'd also love every minute of it until you're being held accountable, and you'd deny and deflect and blame everyone else if things weren't going the way you wanted it to. Man... Of course, loneliness and seeking comfort in your therapist doesn't make sense to you. You're the uneducated one and you just admitted it by saying that. You know nothing about personality disorders yet claim you do. You sound like a narc yourself pushing it onto everyone else, blaming them for getting kindness in therapy because they definitely cannot find kindness in your narc self. Please educate yourself about PDs better before you start yelling at me. Oh, and the gaslighting you're doing along with the deflection. Jeez. Can you look at yourself in the mirror and realise the one being triggered is you? Is being mature and respectful impossible for you when admitting your so-called "truths"? You can be truthful without insulting everyone you dislike, y'know.

How did u manipulate her to move out?

Kat Vond I didn’t do any manipulation. She moved out in an attempt to get me to do something not knowing that I wasn’t going to cave in and just block her. I told her she wasn’t allowed back in the house. Now she’s attempting the silent treatment-sent me a text saying she’s going to have no contact with me for awhile, which is exactly what I wanted anyways.

I had an alcoholic narc roommate that called the cops on me 12 times in month. The final call she made against me ended up with her being arrested. She also assaulted me that day. Bye.

Purple 23 thank you! 🙂

Many congratulations I know the feeling..last month I unfollowed one narc friend of mine she unfollowed me back.. whatta relief🙏

Haha me too!!😂

All true haha

Same

I understand it may not be feasible , but if it is could you do subtitles in Spanish?

Haha right!?

Thank you for this👍

Caroline Laronda, I hope this gets pinned.

Caroline Laronda - The hybrid is the most dangerous in my mind. You really never know what’s gonna hit you at any given time!

Thank you!

That's alot !

Thumbs up for u! I know its not easy. Im going through the same wt my husband. I just keep giving chance for him but nothing change so far. U r so brave.

Go you. that is SO AWESOME xx

👍👏👏👏👏👏

@@dyas932 That's such a problem...can waste Many years....waiting for another person to "change". You're right, courage is necessary, to do the work (with professional support) to change the only one we can...that's right...ourselves. It's the best thing ever! It does require being willing to feel the pain of disillusionment about what we hoped certain people could be in our life. But becoming friends with ourself, becoming real about our expectations of others, can't recommend this enough. (note* leaving can be done in stages, from the inside, in one's approach and attitude, ultimately, for me, the physical leaving was not the biggest part, but it was a great relief. If you are in danger...Especially, get some support...I wish you well being.

37 years! I’m still stuck too, 31 yrs !!I hope I have enough strength to leave too.

Maryann Petri,you are absolutely right

Facts 💯

Yes must be taught in schools too

It's spiritual...it needs to be taught at home or thru a good church..hard too find now a days

💯

You sound too self aware to be a narcissist to me. Most narcissistic people I’ve met are so grandiose they love being the way they are.

Maybe borderline personality disorder.

The fact your fingers can even type that, is amazing and should give you boat loads of hope to make necessary changes in order to build and maintain healthy bonds and relationships. Self awarenesses is the biggest step.

Dear are you a narcissist or a victim of a narcissist who gaslighted you into thinking that?

@@FH-er7us I'm not sure honestly. I just have such a dark, manipulative side. I had a troubled childhood. Was adopted, then those two got a divorce and my mom remarried into an abusive relationship. Not doubt in my mind that any troubles I have stemmed from that. I work on myself daily trying to escape it❤️

in no man's land, like me

dead 💀

Yes !! I feel so blessed to have her in my life !!

You would be still on earth

@@rachelsimbhu4383 if youtube is your life .

I think doctor Ramani already has such a video. Go through her library.

@@anastasiayatsenuk She doesn't have such a video.

It is a tactic of the narc to make YOU the problem. DONT BELIEVE IT!!! Setting boundaries and having your own beliefs is Not narcissism. Bless you!

To me, the fact that you are concerned about says you probably are not. They never believe they are the problem or at fault.

You might be a part of the problem if you have borderline personality disorder, or what is sometimes called Fleas (bad habits learned from narcissists). If you're willing to look at yourself though, and do serious work to improve, you're probably not a narcissist.

I am stuck with them at home unfortunately

@Jacqueline Filo same. Guys too. It's scary 😓

Humans, oh no!

@@tylerbrown6821 Many humans are manipulative, fake, trying to sabotage others out of jealousy, neglectful of their most basic duties in relationships, and cheaters, but NOT ALL HUMANS!

I advise you to not be scared of it, those narcs are gonna face a different and empowered Emma after all the knowledge you have gained in this channel ❤️

@@rastafairyanne from what you wrote you probably aren't, a therapist would help. what you describe is much more consistent with borderline personality disorder. narcissists will do anything to block any self criticism. calling a narcissist a narcissist is a great way to start a fight, not lead to a moment of self realization. i really don't know what direction to point you in, but but see if anything on borderline resonates more. you also don't need friends that send you videos about being a narcissist, life is a two way street like that.

I am in the process of getting out a marriage that I believe is narcissistic. I am watching this series to get more info

@@rastafairyanne how do u hurt ppl ? What do u do or say ? If I get to know more clearly maybe I can help 🙃

@@rastafairyanne Get some help for yourself. These videos cannot substitute for that.

Nasim Azad same happened to me!!!!😒

Nasim Azad Yup, There are different shades of narcs and different breeds. I was duped by a vulnerable covert cerebral narc who masquerades as the Nice Guy next door, the confirmed bachelor, never married no kids. He plays the victim, down on his luck, sullen 😔 guy who plays on your sympathy. He uses false modesty to fish for compliments, I’m so stupid, old, etc...to get others to lift him up and praise him. Master manipulators who APPEAR as the NICE Guy in public behind closed doors are Mean, nasty, cruel, cold, withholding, punishing, intimidating, scolding, sarcastic, scathing, sadistic, solemn and scheming. He contorts the truth to fit HIS narrative and SMEARS me to mutual friends behind my back to punish me, belittle me, insult me. He humiliated me to my face infront of his family and friends by embarrassing me or setting me up to look bad. He criticizes me with put downs cloaked in “ humor “. He only cares about himself and how others SEE him. Everyone is used as a pawn to manipulate for his gain. He’s a big spender, good tipper in public but cheap day to day, he gives me gifts so he looks like the Good Guy but those gifts come with invisible strings of payback. They own you, will mistreat you and make you feel indebted to him. When they buy you anything, they think they have bought YOU, they own you. There is nothing “ nice “ about him. I was Tricked, deliberately misled, lied to, manipulated and PLAYED. Be cautious of the person who can do no wrong and blames everyone and everything 🚩 They only keep you around to step on while lifting themselves up over you. If someone makes you feel small or insignificant and says they love you, LEAVE!

I know what you mean. I believed for decades that my brother couldn't be a narcissist because he doesn't burst into a room and start shouting about how wonderful he is. He shrugs modestly, blushes, and shyly admits to being the most amazing person ever.

@@phoenixrising8007 Oh my! you exactly described my ex! How they can be so similar! it's like they come out of the same factory!

Covert narcs are worst and more deadly than overt. Coverts are silent killers, because you don't know what they are thinking, and assume things are okay. They won't tell you the truth and keep their true feelings hidden. Overts are open, and you are aware of their motives. So, lets give a round of applause to overt narcs. Clap clap

cat sameeee

Ikr hahaha. It's insane. I thought there were 2. Grandiose and covert. This is way more complex. I have a feeling this is going to get technical. And I hope it is so!!

Black Weirdo oh my gosh! I did not notice the avatar but I thought that the comment was funny and as it turns out it’s my favourite avatar on all of RU-vid! Glad to see you here.

I thought the same thing. One narcissist is bad enough. But 7?! Holy crap!!

Ashley Thibault I think you have hit the nail on the head metaphorically speaking that is. Someone who lacks empathy and feels entitled in any and every situation is pretty much the definition that we need. Nonetheless, I honour Dr. Ramani for giving us more paths to study.

Teachers may be also nacicisists lol 😂

it is really hard to notice narcicists, having narciscist traits is not the same as having narcicism

I am a narcissist, and it's quite awful how everyone in the comments relates the awful people in their lives and discriminates it to everyone else with NPD. Not everyone who has NPD are awful, not to mention NPD is a trait that can't be changed.

tracy taylor,your pretty smile can make the news

@@lioydwilliams1850 wow what a super nice comment! thank you!

@@tracytaylor3836 you are welcome my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?

@@tracytaylor3836 which country are you from?

Indian people have cultural narcissism. Middle Eastern folk too.

The Japanese are another example. They think VERY highly of themselves as a nation and culture.

Generational narcissism is pretty much learned behavior. To put it in a basic way it is like living with a smoker and having to inhale second hand smoke.

Trust me, you don't want it....🤦🤣

They really need to change the guidelines

My exact question!!! It makes no sense😳

My son will feel guilt and cry crocodile tears, gets pity, behaves for a little bit and back to his tendencies. I feel even if he got help he could manipulate a therapist. If he ever admits and is remorseful it’s just for us to get over his treatment. Goes ghost for a little bit and comes back around like nothing. So frustrating!

Pera I wonder what role his parents/upbringing might have had in his behavior.

refreshingAnd I met my husband when he was 5 and adopted him when he was 10. My husband didn’t know he had a son until he was 1 and his bio-mom called to tell him he was the father. He took her to court, paid his support and got visitations. When I met his dad, he was neglected by bio-mom and I convinced him to seek full custody and he won. Obviously, do to the neglect on her part. She would have sexual relations in his presence and leave him to care for his other two siblings (by other men). I and my husband gave him a home with love and encouragement. We put him through college but we never do enough. So, yes I believe his first years were a huge factor in who he is today.

Not only that. I have been watching Dr. Ramani’s videos these weeks and sadly, most of the description she gives about the damages the victims receive remind me strongly of the femicides victims in my country (I am from Mexico) and I am sure everyone should gain this knowledge so the victims know they are not the crazy ones, they are now exaggerated, they should know *they are in danger* and run as fast as they can 💔

Seriously! I believe most corrupt leaders have NPD and so many wars have been caused by them, it's so sad to imagine how many lives have been lost to this disease

Nadine Whittome, you don't deserve to be with a narcissist!

Same! A life saver these past 7 weeks.

Chrissy I’ve had the same experience. Learning about NPD seems to validate the experiences that I had with my ex-N, confirm that I wasn’t “the crazy one” and helps me feel like I have the knowledge to avoid being victimized by NPD people in the future. It’s been very cathartic for me too.

YES. Please do a video on this.

Yes - Yes - YES!!! I would LOVE to learn more about this!! ❤

Yes! I'm currently that scapegoated villain. My in-laws treat me awful.

Yes please.

I was one too! But not any more. Now I'm divorced! Yay! My mother-in-ove even built a house to her daughter to impress me and make me jelous! Now she cannot finish it, too expencive! 😂 I just wasn't falling for her tricks to pull me in. But she was treating me like her scapegoat because I merried her son who was and still is her scalegoat. I just got tired of her games. Even my husband was like an enabler to her treating me badly. Like he ejoyed thay someone else took over his role ! I just gave up. Na. Not my game, not my war. Good bye. :)

Carissa Booyse, you got a lovely smile

Thank you!!!

My dad does that too.

My ex did that too, or make believe a scenario and it's not what happened. Paranoia, misinformation and adding their past some how into the situation. I think it's projecting and they are feeling that they are mistreated.

Sounds like my sister.

AmberP,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narcissist....

YES!!!!! Please this is the one I would love to know more about

Spirituality narcissists also.

Yaaas

Marilyn Larry You are right on! That’s what I’ve been living with too! At first in our marriage he told me I didn’t understand how to be a wife according to Biblical principals, even though I had been brought up in a Southern Baptist Church and went to a Christian College. He set out to teach me how the wife is supposed to be submissive to the husband. Then he would teach me to trust him to control ALL the money, etc. Now 17 years later I realize how I was DUPED! He definitely has all the signs of your typical Covert Narcissist and crossover with some of the other types. But this could be such a deep subject here because they can really use Religion to manipulate. Now I know better! They misinterpret the Bible to make it fit their agenda! Oh my God, huh! I hope Dr Ramani can tackle this subject for us. It might need its own series!

They use religion to manipulate and control you.

Glad you are growing

Dana Durkin, you deserve better

Honestly it’s quite worrying. Date : “may I have a drink”. Me:“get it yourself you malignant narcissistic”

I would

@@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807 Diagnosed NPD here and shamelessly cerebral. Ask away.

Sam Vaknin

@@AlastorTheNPDemon lmao,what an edgelord

@@TheGhjgjgjgjgjg Spam for a username... No profile picture... Yup. Checks out.

I agree. This kind of instruction is especially needed for middle school girls. My generations from the 70s was still programmed to behave as nice girls. Nice girls get destroyed by narcissits.

So sorry Cristy Marie, hope you will become even stronger by the experience and hope you continue to find at least online support.

Thinking of you, Cristy Marie. That's rough. Best of luck with it all.

Hang in there - you are strong! If you are seeking more info like this you will keep getting stronger

Haha good call!

Sounds like narcissistic personality disorder, pretty much describes liars and cheaters to me.

Cruelty angry self loathing master manipulators. Sadly I have a daughter with it. Is it genetic. Dad had it too. The actual disorder. Nt traits or patterns.

Lesley Ald I think my daughter has it too just like her father

Those are the biblical seven deadly sins. Lol very precise.

Patti Lynch,hope you are not with a narcissist!

Patti Lynch, you deserve a better man not a narc 😈!

Ellagrace W,You are beautiful,hope you are not with a narcissist....

@@jamesarmstrong4179 Thank you, no I'm married to my soulmate thankfully, but my family members are a different story altogether. But thank you.

God bless you, I'm 58, gone no contact for the umpteenth time, they dont change, blocked number, I'm staying gone.

Jonica Bradley, you deserve better

There's a subreddit for people who think they're narcissists, in general it's best to keep recovering narcissists away from recovering victims.

Spill the tea. I'd love to hear your experience. I just got out of a relationship with someone at least with the behaviors. Maybe not the diagnosis. But who knows.

@@missymartin8125 I had my diagnosis reassessed, found not to be symptomatic of the PD, but I no longer work with that therapist. I'm with another who has experience with Cluster B though, and he agrees more with the first therapist's assessment. I have decided against a formal diagnosis with him for many reasons, but we're talking as if I do have NPD - treatment is similar to depression and PTSD, and I recommended schema therapy for my case in particular due to most of my disorder stemming from conscious schema in my head.

Being around or with a covert narcissist is like Chinese water torture.

The Mom on Everyone Loves Raymond?

Hi Jennifer😊My father is a covert narcissist and mom is an empath. I had some emotional fluctuations during my adolescence and adulthood. My mom has been always supported me with unconditional love, affection, empathy. She never judged me or accused me due to my wrong deeds, choices, never compared me to other children. My mom is my harbour🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻Please get as much as information about that case from various sources because mother is the most important figure in the child's life and never get hopeless during bad times 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Sooner or later she will realize that something is out of tune about her father. Real love, affection, trust and empathy always win😊

Change your own life. She doesn’t know shit.