Seven Types Of Narcissists 

1. The Status/Vanity Narcissist 2. The Entitled Narcissist 3. The Malignant Narcissist 4. The Covert Narcissist 5. The Fragile victim mindset Narcissist 6. The stubborn know it all Narcissist 7. The Control Freak Narcissist

"You're not allowed to be you, because you are supposed to cater to me". Excellent phrase to remember when trying to sort out what is going on in the muddle narcissist create. Thanks

Thank you again sir! The worst part is, their “victims” are smart, kind strong people. I’ve seen some amazing people broken by long term marriages with these types. 🌟 keep spreading this info

"They can argue with a tree stump..." LOL! Oh yes!!

... I think you should add an 8th ... the FULL SPECTRUM NARCISSIST ... they are all the above ...

Sometime I don’t remember why I left. Just hearing this video reminds me that leaving was the right thing to do. Thx Dr. C

when i listen to your show i feel not so alone!

I have a covert narcissistic father, and because he was so secretive about his abuse toward me it took me a while to realize that what he was doing to me was wrong

MY HUSBAND IS STUBBORN & KNOW IT ALL AND VERY CONTROLLING !!!! IM EXHAUSTED N READY TO FLY AND BE ME AGAIN !

"The Fragile Victim Narcissist." I have a sister like this.

My father is all the above, experienced every type. It’s like banging your head on a brick wall, look after yourselves and don’t expect anything good from them and you’ll be ok.

Malignant Narcissit , one of this destroy me like i dont even know who i am anymore , sometimes i feel i did wrong and i cant stop loving the person .

It sucks when the court system enables narcissists & forces families to keep putting up with their nonsense... it’s very unhealthy

It sounds like the ones i know have all 7. Incredible. Peace to the Survivors

"you're not allowed to be you, you're supposed to cater to me". Perfectly said.

THERE IS also THE ONES WHO ENCOMPASSES ALL SEVEN TRAITS !! I LIVE WITH ONE OF THAT TYPE "ALL SEVEN"

I'm so tired battling these 7 demons in one person. How did life get so crazy , when all we want is peace and love .Also how did they get to become so nasty and cruel. Thank you Dr Carter. You seem to have much incite on these rotten heartless people.

My head is spinning and I'm dealing with a hybrid! Thank you Dr. Les

I worked for a seriously messed up narc; this person would argue with a tree stump just like Dr. Carter stated. I listened to a heated argument one afternoon over the differences between the Almond Joy and the Mounds candy bars......dark or milk chocolate. I had to leave the room and go outside to get away from the two children arguing about candy bars instead of doing their damn work. Oh and BTW this person was well into the age of 60 plus. Never ever do they grow up.

I AM STILL IN AMAZED THAT SUCH COLD HEARTED EVIL WALKS AMONG HUMAN DAILY!!

My husband, is entitled, stubborn and definitely controlling; my brother is covert. Learning a lot with these videos.

My ex used a different narcissistic mask in the presence of different people. For instance, he was an entitled, covert type with others, the fragile victim category type with me, and the covert know it all, competitive narcissist with everyone. He had an armoire full of masks.

I feel there is room for a full spectrum narcissist. The narc I know is at least a mix of malignant, covert, fragile victim. Maybe it doesn't matter the label - the term Shape Shifter comes to mind as they use whatever narc tactics work with their victims. Another excellent video Dr C. Thank you!

My ex is all of these categories, Especially malignant. Such a destructive dangerous person.

The knowledge is coming to me late in my life, but ooohh how thankful I am to understand what has been killing me all these years. Teach a man how to fish and he can feed himself for the rest of his life.

Every narc I know is a combination of several of these categories. Thank you for this information! These videos are helping me heal

I love how you chuckle while talking about these creeps. It helps me lighten up, even for a while, during my healing from the trauma of narc abuse. I find the ex narc a little of all of these types. Thanks again for your wisdom and kindness Dr Carter ❣

Thank you. This is excellent. Lately I've HAD it with my mom and her covert Narc tactics. Today I finally told her I refuse to live in your vortex of me, me, me, I, I, I...forget that. Ever since I was a kid, she had this neurotic obsession with being a victim and making me feel guilt for having any sovereignty or happiness. She wears her arrogance with the mask of "I'm a good person". She uses God to justify being WRONG. Every time she wants to hurt someone, she will claim she had a dream from God and this is what He said about you. I'm sick of the pandering for attention, the lack of empathy, the deadness in her spirit, the chronic lying and manipulating and reinventing history to make you feel like you're going crazy when you know exactly what she said. I've been laying down the law with her these days. I love her but I will not put up with the bull. I have the right to have peace.

"They can argue with a tree stump." Hahahahaha! And then there's Gus, who right now is about as active as a tree stump!

Gus is healing my heart, what a sweetie 🌹🌹🐶🐶🐶

Hi Gus and Dr C. These subtypes are good. For covert NPD it is “quite a trick” to be grandiose , always right AND be able to play the victim role when needed.

The Fragile Victim Narcissist, in my unprofessional opinion, also tends to have crises (usually caused by a bad decision they've made) and then everyone has to drop everything and come running to help.

Les Carter is a genius. He has helped me for the last 6 months. Thank you!

Wow. I wish I have learned this before. This should be part of school curriculum.

Thanks very helpful reminders I’m 68 and just now figuring this out I never put it together all the narcissist around me until recently & my sister hit all marks ,Ive been a magnet for them my whole life. GEEZ !

I love when Dr. Carter said, "They could argue with a tree stump." I laughed out loud! So true!

My ex had a few of each traits for sure but definitely a covert. He robbed me of happiness, joy, trust, security, stability..the list goes on and im so happy I'm free of him.

Jesus is my friend who helps me, People scare me. I keep to myself. I socalize in my job because I have to, I try to keep a positive attitude and pray alot. But at the end of the day I go home with me and Jesus, leaving the rest to God.

Totally know a full spectrum narcissist!!! Thanks again Dr. Wes for a most informative video and clues to watch. Gus is such a great listener!!!💕✌

Thankyou Dr C!! So good to know im not crazy but I do feel very alone. Its a heavy weight in my chest of deep sadness. But these videos help so much. Thanks again...and go easy on Gus..😘😘😘

Excellent video! My ex is ALL seven of these, depending upon th setting / who he is with / anddepending on the environment he is in. He is a chameleon and also a Jekyll & Hyde. 😐😳🤥 Is there a name for a narcissist who falls into ALL seven categories? Is that called a JACKPOT narcissist? 😆😦😟

I came to Dr. Carter's videos to get insight into the suspected narcissist in my life, I got insight and education on this that has been very helpful and validating. The most important thing I got from him, however, is insight into myself, and how to be a better person. Thank you so much for that 😊

Hi Gus...love you guys.- Always help me feel better. My mother has NPD; right now I'm no contact. I'm much more at peace when she's not in my life.

I like the way that you mentioned their lack of a sense of HUMOR! I find that if we can't LAUGH at things(including ourselves, at times)...life is not as much fun! Quite frankly, I get along better with my DOG than I do much of my human(control-freak) family! My dog always smiles and wags her tail at my jokes!

I was watching Gus all the while, his relaxed posture reflects on you. Many thanks for opening my eyes in many ways.

And someone that has more than one or all of these is a evil, dangerous person! My Ex husband. I wish I could do more to save my children from him.

I find that one of the best things about Dr. Carter’s videos is that if you have narcissistic tendencies, you can see yourself in them. For instance, I have just seen that I am in the helpless narcissist category. If I can see it, I can change it. Not every narcissist is of a malignant nature.

Amazing but true! My Narc has all seven of those sub-catagories!

Thank you so much. This is the clearest explanation I have heard of the different types of Narcissists.

Someone hit the dislike button before the vid even started. Someone really needs to get a life! lol On the bright side, Gus is in the background so all is right with the world! :D

Finding your channel has helped me so much after a year of being unable to help myself. Thank you!

I'm hooked on learning about narcissists bc you're so pleasant to listen to!

Love Gus. I miss my boy Crosby who looked a lot like Gus. Best friend I ever had for 14 yrs, my bud through many narc experiences.

Such a lovely dog😍

This is very enlightening. They want to rob me of being me. Such insights are strengthening. Thank you, Dr. C.

My mother has all of these, she seems to shift between them depending on her needs at the time. She could cheerfully argue with her own shadow!

Hello Guss. When the video started and I saw Guss sitting behind you, I felt comfortable. My dog, sits beside me all the time.. She helps feel more confident to approach people. She's my lucky charm. Guss is a good reference to me. Thank for the video. I took a lot of notes. The first sentence I decided to write in the notebook was: I AM NOT CRAZY. It's time for me to look ahead.

I was green , vulnerable and beautiful. He took advantage of me by sweet talking me and taking me out . I wasn't into him at all he force me and beg me to go out with him . he look like an gaint ogra with a nice sweet smile . He drop me like a rag , telling me that I only used you and that I needed to seek help .he between malignant and covet . He stalked me for years and I had to go into hiding as I was in danger . He ruined my life mentally and physically and I am broken .i can never share this to my family and I live with this secret buried in my soul .

Love your videos! Malignant narc was the one.

Hi Gus!! Thanks, Doc! Your channel is SO informative and vital to “Our protection” God Bless!

The cushion in the background is a dog. Also, great video once again :)

I had to watch this video twice, because I was so absorbed in what dr. says that I missed Gus! Thought it was a cushion!

My soon-to-be ex has all of these 'qualities'. It's been a horrid experience. Sometimes my 'narc' will have the audacity to ask me if I love him. Here's what I say. " I love the man you pretended to be". If he says , "what does that mean.?" I stay completely silent, because we all know he knows what I mean. Thanks Dr. Carter and Gus.

"You are not allowed to be YOU because you're supposed to cater to ME". With this type of reasoning my mother threatened to excluded me from the family when I was 25 if I continued to pursue my independence and pursuit of happiness.

They are all pie charts of every type with varying portions of the pie, it seems to me. Snobby, hypocritical, gossiping, condescending with their incessant complaints and criticisms, fantasy driven, disrespectful on the sly, conscience an obstruction to getting what they want, shallow, demeaning, mocking, blaming, demanding, self pitying, creepy no humored robots I know I sure love mine! Another great summary, Dr. C. THANKS

Dr Les you are fantastic! Thank you so much for what you do. You are a blessing to so many people. xo

The best therapist I ever worked with (I spent years with her) burst out laughing the day I came into her office with a book titled, “The Characteristics of Healthy Families.” That was 30 years ago, and I have not come near changing my opinion that her reaction was appropriate. In 2022, it’s getting to where you have to guess which letter of the alphabet someone is before you can even have a conversation with them, so as to begin trying to see if they’re emotionally healthy or not.

That dog is so cute.

Thank you, Dr. Carter. Your channel is helping me understand a situation in my family!!!

After being married to one for 25yrs. It's hard for me to deal with this. But I'm doing better with the invo you are helping me. Thank you...

Narcissist didn't expect me to hold on so strongly to my boundaries

Had to add this video to my favorites so I can always quickly access it. Hi Gus! Today, when I got up and turned on the computer, I found an email from the narc I used to know and haven't responded to in almost four years (full no contact) since his last big tantrum and his refusing to have anything to do with me to "punish" me. In the email, he lies and says it's all the fault of his father- that after the last time we saw each other, his father threatened him with being disowned if we continued to associate. However, his tantrum was in full force way before I ever dropped him back off at his house that day~ sulking, looking furious, refusing to speak etc. The same routine he'd pulled before on a number of occasions including the follow up ghosting/refusing all contact. He then listed a number of horrible events that have happened to him since we last spoke- his father's death, his mother's declining health, a car accident and related lawsuit plus other legal issues. I guess that's a sympathy ploy and a version of playing "poor me, I'm a victim!" He then said he'd thought of coming over to see me many times but was afraid to as he didn't know how I'd react. I'm guessing that's his way of shifting the blame for his behavior onto me~ he's "willing to associate" but I'm just (implied) being unresponsive and hateful~ the old " It's not me-it's you!" routine. I must admit there was a strong temptation to write him back and calmly explain how I knew he was talking garbage etc but that would just segue into him playing the victim and denying everything and trying to convince me of how wrong I was about everything. Who needs that predictable routine playing out? I'm staying full no contact but have to wonder how long it will be before they finally give up and leave me alone. If I relented and renewed contact, all I'd have to look forward to is more episodic tantrums erupting. No thanks! Oh yes! He also made it a big point to say that after his father's death, the house, the car and his father's company are all now solely in his name. I don't care. Another thing is that he said his father's Cadillac had been destroyed in the accident 5 months prior to his father's death but since his office is on one of the regular routes I travel to certain stores, I'm pretty sure I'd seen it sitting in the parking lot after that date. Time travel, perhaps?

Dr Les, Thanks. I have been married to two of the types of narcissists you describe. I like having Gus there relaxing to remind me that there are NON narcissists out there! Blessings!

Wow...this was SO helpful!!! My dad can have some very obvious narcissistic tendencies like the whole "my way or the highway!" or "honor and respect me!" or not allowing me to make my own adult choices. He LOVED pulling the "if you want to be treated like an adult then act like one!" crap but then would be angry if I chose the opposite of what he felt was "right" and give me the same speech over and over again. So much control. So much pride and ego and can never admit or apologize when he's wrong. My mother is more tricky...I've seen her more as a victim of the narc but after this video im thinking she's a combination of the covert narc and the helpless vicitim type. Is she a full blown narc?? Not sure...but she has tendencies in those two categories. Really helps to understand the different types! Thank you!!

Hi Gus, I hope you got a few review questions right. Remember it's Dignity, respect and civility. 😊

Thank you for these videos, they are a great help. It’s sad that so many people had endured this treatment but what I’ve taken from this is how exactly not to treat people, I never want to be like them, they are cruel, cruel cruel.

Thanks Dr Carter! Great video! I can see my ex-narc in all those categories😖😖😖

We need more people like Gus. :)

Great simile/metaphor with the fish/narcissist. Crystal clear. Great Communicator! So precise. The line of the know it all, was: "no! No! You don't understand!"

Gus is fantastic!

Gus is very cute. Thank you. I find your videos helpful. My sister is my primary narcissist, so I have had her from the day I was born. Sometimes I feel like I am taking a Master Class in Narcissism when I consider all the narcissists that I have met and continue to meet. It makes me tired.

Thankyou. I recognize these traits in a few people. Also, recognized a trait you mentioned in myself! Time to correct that non quality! Thanks again. :)

He told me he had no empathy. Yes he wants me to cater to him. And I wouldn't!!! Now he's really showing his true colors. Got to get a divorce asap...thank you..

I thank you from California. I got a covert narc and a fragile narc to apologize. One indirectly and the other one directly. 7 types breakdown helped me identify them. Thank you. No way have done it without his help. My whole family are codependents. We were all at the mercy of this fragile narc. Took my life back. Don't feel depressed anymore. My brother is a good man and he married a fragile Narc. saw him exhausted all the time. I started to worry. But I have been feeding him fuel through powerful text messages. I know she did not see it coming. This is so powerful. Thank you. You are doing Gods work. A million times thank you.

Thank you Doctor Carter. Your videos are so insightful and helpful. Anytime I feel like I may be slipping back and wanting to break the no contact, I just watch a video of yours, or two, and that desire goes away so wonderfully.

You are so wonderful to help us all out like this. What a beautiful teacher you are!!!!! My MIL is a shade of all of these. It’s been a total nightmare but now I’ve got tools because of you. THANK YOU!

35 yr survivor.. still hanging in there. Thankyou for some new tools!

I didn't know then but I know now he was a Narcissist I was impressed by him and I did everything to please him then he just left so easily ,it was like 4 months ago but I can't move forward I still think about him and hope that he changes and realize my value and come back to me🤧🤧help!!

I think my sis is BPD w/co-morbid NPD. As time goes on, the NPD seems to be taking over. The only one of the 7 that doesn't seem to apply is Favored. Today she's going to tell her new psychiatrist how I'm wrecking her life and livelihood. (After not paying her measly third of the rent for five mos. while telling me she was.). Thank you, God! Maybe this guy will see past the bi-polar diagnosis she's gotten from the last few ... because I'm just that horrible! 😁 I don't dare let her see my current glee!

Helpful as always and so good to see Gus. For those trying to get out of a narc relationship, a dog can really help; I havw a rescue dog and it's more like he rescued me.

stepdad is a malignant, somewhat stubborn, & status/vanity narcissist, stepbrother is a stubborn & status/vanity narcissist, and ex-boyfriend turned out to be a covert narcissist who tried to ruin my social life. they all made me very unhappy and i never knew why, thanks for the video!

This is spot-on. We all may possess a trait or two of these types but just that: a trait. For most of us the trait is not extreme or pathological. For the narcissists, however, one or more of these traits are dominant. And there is no convincing them of such. The very pathology keeps them from seeing themselves.

Another great video. And I love Gus snoozing in the background! 💜

I''ve learned so much from you. I can certainly understand how different they can be. Being in a relationship with one is devastating to say the least.

Without getting too much into it, your videos have helped me unpack the trauma with my mother.

The ex Narc was never satisfied. Always whining and complaining about his financial situation. When I decided enough was enough and stopped giving him money he went quiet. I was tricked (manipulated) into offering money for his past due bill. The next day I realized it was all a show, he played on my empathetic spirit. I am so thankful that I came to my senses and realized I was being played. Thanks Dr. Carter for this video. I knew I wasn't crazy, he's just a miserable man boy.

smells fishy..but could be a shark an eel, octopus, carp bottom feeders sting ray

Excellent video, as always. Thank you so much!

#5 ! Finally someone who put into words what I have been trying to figure out for the last 2yrs. Thank you!

Love your videos very helpful and easy to understand i was blind sided by a narcissist its hurtful to say the least when you find out they are nothing like who they pretend to be that person don't even excist i felt so betrayed, humiliated, crushed , and everything else im 51 years old and i thought i finally met my soulmate but i always had this feeling in my gut and there were signs they really think you're stupid but never thought a person cold be so cold ...WOW is an understatement