Thank you for pointing out what a double-edged sword California's public assistance programs can be. I experienced that first-hand when my mom went on welfare after my parents divorced. We quickly discovered that we could get better medical coverage being on welfare than any workplace insurance! What's the point of going back to work then?
Yes, California does care about people. Lots of social programs. The point of a career would be to make a difference, help people, solve problems, get the money, enjoy life and support the family.
I love your pre call banter Dr.John, don't change! I also love your high energy and that you're real. Keep on doing what you're doing! Your making a huge difference! I never miss your show!
I don't think you are "cringey" at all. I love how authentic and real you are. Keep up the pre show banter, there are definitely those of us that get it.
I had a supervisor try the same thing with me but I told him I wasn’t interested but he was relentless. Started making the workplace a hostile environment and again, I told him I wasn’t interested but he ended up moving me to a different department and one I didn’t want to work and he knew it. It’s annoying because I liked my job and where I was at and he retaliated because I wouldn’t go to lunch with him. Why should I have to move or pay for his advances? Since moving, he had other problems with younger ladies on the floor and he was moved eventually. It’s not ok.
As a woman, I hear this NP: "I was just nice to him. . . " Been there. What woman hasn't. Makes you not want to be nice to anyone for fear of how it will be interpreted.
Story of my life. Every man I am remotely nice to, and show any interest in friendship... (I am out, and gay,) Always confess their love for me. ... Smh. It's nuts. I'm convinced that men have no idea how to be just friends with women. I want to believe it can be different. And I'm going to keep trying to make friends.
If you are sexually harassed by a supervisor, I have found you either have to quit, or just grit your teeth and bear it. Almost no one will take your word for it, and fires on the spot (and I understand why they can’t do that). There is always an investigation, sometimes write ups or an “improvement plan”. Then you just have a horrible work environment, and are likely penalized in some way by your offending supervisor. Everywhere has HR policies that are supposed to protect against these things, but I haven’t ever seen it work out well for the reporting subordinate. My perspective is that of a petite woman who has worked in kitchens (am now a chef) for 12 years
HR is there to protect the company. The protection of the employee is only as far as to keep the company from being sued, and as little as possible. Always.
Octavia, you’re so strong. It’s ok to not be ok sometimes. Just know, that I believe in you and can’t wait to hear your updates! I will be praying for you and thinking of you. I wish I can help you.
If you are cringey than so am I! I'm just as awkward as you, so I appreciate your banter! You show me tips of owning myself and being ok with my weird self. I listen to your mistakes and things that go well and try to navigate my own awkward interactions! So thank you for being you! Love your show BTW! Helps me every week!
In 2 seperat colleges I've had an employer and a professor come on to me. I didn't see it comming either time, because both were married. I look back now and wish I hadn't deleted thoes conversations I'd had with them, because either one of them could have done the same to other girls.
Caller 2 didn’t show up to her court date, which is why she received the eviction and had a sheriff lockout. Usually a judge will laugh a landlord out of court if there’s no proof of another tenant, esp if the defendant shows up. Always show up to an eviction hearing/summons from the court, unless you receive a hearing cancellation in the mail- prior to the hearing, period. She could probably sue the kid and the landlord. The landlord also owes her reimbursement for a hotel or have moved her to another unit, ect since her home was inhabitable. Next time, get and keep renters insurance. Get some closure and sue them. Property management was my job for 11 years.
I enjoy the pre-call banter. As I listen to the call from the nurse practitioner it occurred to me that the supervisor's advances were a pre- interview test of her ethics. I'd love to know the outcome.
I have never been pretty enough or cute enough to be harassed by a guy in the workplace. I have seen it though. I’ve also been told as a (not attractive female) that I’m not approachable to guys. Prob why I’m single.
@@heidibonjour there’s no need for bs therapy. I am not some whiner that hides in the closet. I am very active, participate in two different sports, have lots of hobbies and interests, am retired (early), completely debt free and do not need to punch a clock. Guys like skinny pretty women. Bs therapy does nothing to change your looks. Some people are naturally pretty and others aren’t. I refuse to sleep around. I don’t drink or smoke. Therefore I’m considered undateable. Now if I was a Ho and hopped from bed to bed then I’d be considered dateable. So I know I’ll be single for the rest of my life
@@TheEquisshonestly I love your morals and I'm like you. I'd rather be with someone that has the same morals but if that can happen then I'll be alone ❤
John’s weird personality is just the best thing about him. Makes the show so great! If this show was ran more “professionally”, I wouldn’t be so interested in watching it. The lighthearted atmosphere is conducive for healing ❤️🩹.
I totally agree! Reminds me of friends I grew up with. Not just great professional advice but entertaining as well and I don’t even think he’s trying to be. 😂 Quirky is great.
unwanted advances at work, what woman hasn't had that? you get ten family or friends together. they each hold up a piece of paper with the date and a one line about today she told me, explaining what happened. Then you snap a picture and show it to the man. Tell him to keep things professional from this point forward or these ten people will be called in the sexual harassment case. trust me, it works.
First caller John could have asked what her husband thinks. If he's upset, I'd not work there for anything. If he's okay with it, then proceed forward with caution maybe?
Alarm bells are going off for me with the second caller. Parts of the story do not sound real. She canceled her renter’s insurance after the eviction notices ce. Really???? You are being evicted and you have the presence of mind to cancel your renter’s insurance?
Him liking her and her not returning his affections is problematic because some men will try to ruin a woman’s job/reputation/life if she rejects his advances. How do you not know this?
Wow that second call was a mess, it probably should not have aired. Geez the cringe of making that lady repeat that her husband died right after she already said it.
That's the issue, and one reason I don't even bother dating anymore. .Men have decided they are entitled to women who are 10 plus years younger than them, and it doesn't even matter how fat or gross the guy is, they legit have no boundaries. When I moved out of my condo a few years ago, a guy in his 70s, no joke, told me I will miss you, I want to take you out to dinner and we can go back to my place after, adding that he lived alone for a reason. After I vomited on the sidewalk I just walked away shaking my head... just disgusting! MEN you don't deserve a younger women, so please stop looking for 20 something year olds when you are in your 40s!
A lot of women, especially in their younger years, say “i want an older guy” and pair with the fact most men look better with age (even if they are heavier now), and younger woman usually look better, what do you expect to happen? My wife was one those women until she met me, who is her age.
@@karenmassey8354I wouldn’t even say entitled but there sure are some underlying issues going with people who leave marriages just to have a younger woman most definitely and we all know what it usually has to deal with
First caller doesn’t have a real problem 😒 You’re a 35 year old Nurse Practitioner and a doctor has a crush on you, i dont mean to sound insensitive but girl cry me a river 😏 I would love to have the “ problems” some people have 🤯
Arainea CuteBrownNurse: She is married and apparently happy with her present husband. No professional woman wants to be sexually exploited by a superior.
John gotta stop kissing these womens asses , she flirted with him covertly to get the experience in the field and when he stepped to her , he s all of a sudden the creepy old man
😂 you’re ridiculous. You sound bitter towards women. You should call John and maybe talk about it. It’s not ok and you shaming her doesn’t make you look any better.
