Five Love Languages Test Results 

I feel awful when someone gives me a gift. I always feel like I owe them something back and feel guilty about the fact that they spent money on me.

“I guess I just don’t like fun.”

I'm an INFJ and my no. 1 is physical touch. Go figure...

it's interesting to hear you say you don't like people doing 'acts of service' for you because it feels like a transaction, but receiving gifts was second on your list - and that it feels meaningful when someone spends their time with you, but not if it's to help you out haha

Quality time every time!👍

True Love is self-less. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

Another INFJ here 🙂 Here are mine: 1. Physical Touch (it's how I both demonstrate and receive love) 2. Quality Time 3. Acts of Servive (more on the receiving end, but I enjoy doing nice things for others when I feel like it) 4. Words of Affirmation (I'm quick to give them, but struggle to receive them) 5. Gifts

As an INFP I got: 1. Words of affirmation 2. Quality time 3. Acts of service 4. Receiving gifts 5. Physical Touch Anybody else feels like a puppy when u know that "words of affirmation" is the 1st one? xdd

You are absolutely hilarious!! I love watching your videos.

I'm an INFJ, and here's my result... 9 Quality Time 7 Acts of Service 7 Words of Affirmation 5 Receiving Gifts 2 Physical Touch

I heard two type Timmy's love languages are quality time and acts of service.

Thanks for sharing your quality time with all of us, Frank!!

I got depressed the moment they asked if I was single or in a relationship... 11 Touch 7 Service 6 Time 4 Words 2 Gifts This makes sense to me because actions speak louder than words. And to clarify, I like touch from my loved ones only, I hate strangers invading my space. I couldn't care less about words (technically I could because gifts scored lower), because they're just empty air. Give me a person's presence, helping each other and exhanging hugs or whatever, that's quality time. And keep up that INTENSITY, Frank, you cracked me up with that!

INFP and my top one was words of affirmation! 🤣 I knew it

I’m a year or so late to the party on this one but here you go: #1 quality time #2 words of affirmation #3 gifts #4 acts of service #5 touch I’m an INFJ. Can I just say how the INFJs are so lucky that you are an INFJ and you’ve decided to make such an awesome channel. I enjoy your videos so much, thank you.

Good job buddy! You guys a great job.

Quality Time- 9 Acts of Service- 7 Words of affirmation- 6 Physical Touch- 4 Receiving Gifts-4 I've always wanted to spend more time with my partner with doing the things we're both interested in...because everything we do is like a way to speak but without the words. Playing piano, drawing-painting together, reading books and making a bunch of list for them, going to watch movies or have a room for all of them and sharing our thoughts together...oh yes quality time is what i would care the most with a great communication together. More than this just knwoing his existence right beside me is really meaningful and encouraging. Though i really don't like making my partner help me, or being too stressed that they will feel like 'i should be the one who is gonna help her'...i really do appreciate how he would be willing to help me, how he really cares about my mental health, physical fatigue my daily routine.. I may not accept his help because of not wanting to put more pressure on him but i would definitely be grateful and appreciate him with words after taking my responsibilities back. Making each other feel appreciated, cared and visible. More than physical touch and receiving gifs i care about our thoughts for each other, how we merge and how we use our words...(words of affirmation) As a physical touch...hugging someone is like a cure for the soul. I love giving it to my partner and receiving back a tight hug. Receiving gifts..actually this is what i mostly do for my partner but not able to get the same things from thim with thinking 'I hope he didn't put a lot effort for it, does it cause him economical problem'. But...if this is something which is simple but totally full of meaning for both of us i would definitely be happy with what he did, his thoughtfulness would make me do the same thing for him as well. It makes me dream about his mind, what he was thinking about when he wanted to get this gift for me and why. This is a warm feeling.

Thank you very much for your support and encouragement. You are doing great.

Loved this - Frank on top form!! I especially appreciated the voice/impression of the unsubscriber :-) xxx

Yeah, that QT baby! That's part of why I like watching your videos so much man is because it feels like you're going out of your way to spend quality time with us plebs, even though you can't see us.. and we're just watching a recording of you from a while ago.. and we aren't really interacting in real time..... but you know what im sayin

12 Acts of Service 9 Quality Time 5 Words of Affirmation 3 Physical Touch 1 Receiving Gifts I never ask for help so when someone just helps...not OFFERS to help...means so much to me. I also tend to isolate myself so I'm really grateful when someone is willing to really engage with me.

1. Quality Time: We could sit in silence, and I'd be happy. You covered it perfectly. 2. Physical Touch: I don't like it when people touch me, but I touch others that I love-- rustling their hair, bopping their nose, etc... and bro hugs. Other than that, if I don't love you and you touch me, I'm uncomfortable. 3. Acts of Service: Really I just like the thought behind it, and being able to help others out if I can. 4. Gift Giving: Sure, I'll take a gift. It's not my way of receiving or giving love. Thanks, though? 5. Words: I don't need people telling me they love me or lifting me up. A lot of the times, words are overused and lack meaning. I find it true that "actions speak louder than words". Spending time with others is how I show that I love them-- that I'm patient enough. Not "I love you; you're great; I appreciate you."

I may be a "weird" INFJ, because my top love language is Physical Touch....tied with Words of Affirmation. 😁 Each had 9 points. Next was Quality Time with 7 (I did expect that to be higher); Acts of Service with 5; and Receiving Gifts with 0. I'm not sure how that one got 0, because I actually like giving gifts, but only when I'm inspired by something that makes me think of the person. I DON'T like receiving gifts, which is where the 0 probably comes from (since the questions seem geared toward how you prefer to receive love, not give it). When I love someone, I use all 5 of these, in differing ways. I think the top 2 are tied because I love physical affection from my SO...but not so much from anyone else. Other relationships, I prefer the affirming words.

Clearly Im here because you tell us we are cool and attractive... 10 Quality Time, 8 Words of Affirmation, 7 Physical Touch, 5 Acts of Service, 0 Receiving Gifts... Acts of service for me is essentially the other person buying me snacks if they're already going to the store... that and doing the dishes... I hate dishes. Ps. You posted this so we would send you gifts 😂

I think this is the second time I've taken the test and gotten the exact same results on both: 1# Quality Time 2# Physical Touch 3# Acts of Service 4# Words of Affirmation 5# Receiving Gifts This is going to be a long read, so TLDR; I guess I'm just a "show me your love" instead of a "tell me of your love" type of person. Primarily I find that I perceive actions as more important than words or things, which also reflects in my Love language preferences. To me time is the most precious thing in the world. This means that the greatest gift I can give and receive is time - you could say, that my core relationship value is "time" and it is this value I measure my relations by. For example, someone voluntarily wanting to spend time with someone else, wanting to touch / be touched and voluntarily doing something for someone typically require some kind of personal proximity, meaning reciprocally giving the other the "gift" of time by being present. Conversely, if someone seems reluctant to spend time with me, be near me or help me, I don't feel like they want to give me their time, which, according to my value system, also means they don't really like /love me or at least know me well enough to be willing to express love in a way I appreciate.. As for words of affirmation or receiving gifts, it's not like I do not like love expressed in that manner, but they just feel a lot more ephemeral in nature. Once words are spoken, they are gone, even though they might be genuinely expressed in the moment. "Talk is cheap" is also a concern of mine, as words can more easily be deceptive compared to love expressed through actions (actions take time, words rarely do). I do appreciate words of affirmation, if they aren't just surface level praise or a genuine expression of appreciation of my having spent time doing something extra in a given situation or just noticing something I do which is immediately apparent to someone else. For example, it means something when someone expresses their appreciation when I've spent time to take care of a thing at work, which makes someone else's workday go a lot smoother or helping out at social events, even though I didn't have to. I feel kind of the same when it comes to gifts. While a gift can be an expression of time, it kind of often feels like a conversion of worldly wealth (ie. money) into an act love and thus in reality a bribe of money. The main exception to this is if the gift is something I know the giver has spent a lot of time on by either making it themselves, they have gone out of their way to acquire the gift or really shown consideration as to whether it'd be something I'd like. Then it becomes a gift of time, regardless of the actual monetary value of the gift and I'd actually be inclined to see the gesture as Quality Time though the person spent time with me "in absentia" in their mind.

5:54 Hey man, that video was good. You’re really good at making these videos. 🙃 Haha, anyway, I took this test about 5 years ago and got Quality Time and Physical Touch tied as the top two. Lately though I’ve been on the struggle bus with some depression, and this time when I took it I got Acts of Service as my number one (followed by Quality Time and Physical Touch). It’s interesting to see how my results have changed based on my stage of life and what I’m going through at the time.

Damn dude, this video made me wanna give you a hug. Actually, physical touch is my dead last love language too...so let me amend it and say that this video made me want to give you a Coke Zero shirt. My results were almost the same, except gift-giving and acts of service were reversed. It’s interesting though, because I think what you value in a relationship can change over time. My partner and I used to both freak out about giving each other the perfect gift - I think I got him like ten things our first Christmas together, because I figured then he’d like at least one thing, haha. But now that we’ve been together 5 years and live together, acts of service are more important. I think it feels less like a transaction and more like teamwork when I know he’s overwhelmed and I can cover his household responsibilities or vice-versa. Except when it comes to doing the dishes. He’s on his own with that one for all eternity. 😉

Frank! To be honest I think we would be pretty good friends. The five love languages is my one of my favorite tests to have people take because it makes it so much easier to show love to people and not waste my time doing things that don't mean anything to a particular person. I have tested time and time again as an "ISTJ" and I can't say that quality time is my recieving love language. However, quality time and words of affirmation seem to be my two highest giving love languages. My recieving are acts of service, gifts, quality time, words, and I scored almost a 0 for physical touch. It is not very often that I get to meet (or I guess get to know) someone who doesn't like touch either so thank you for all the efforts you put into making these videos. Although we are not similar in the Myers Briggs test, I still relate a lot with many things you say.

Did some math. So, while watching lots of your videos, I've spent 173 years of quality time with you, man.

Okay I’ve heard of this and saw this video after I just watched the one you uploaded today about the “new” RU-vid verification mark being taken down from most you tube creators over 100K. You Rock! Anyway back to love languages. Here’s mine and not that surprised actually: Your Scores 9 Quality Time 8 Words of Affirmation 6 Receiving Gifts 4 Acts of Service 3 Physical Touch I’ve never been a touchy feely person so no surprise there unless with a romantic partner in private. I will hugs friends so I think that’s why it made a 3. I really think it’s right on track for me as far as the top two almost being a tie. Both are very important to me. Thanks for the video even though I’m a year behind on seeing all your content. 😊 Btw your content will still rock with or without a checkmark from RU-vid. I know I’ll be watching. Tc

Frank,people are blessed by doing things for people. don't steal their joy just accept the the thoughtfulness and kindness. And you are way to hard on yourself. whatever you are from depressed to intense.,that is who you are and who we love. Raw and real just like life.

Good job buddy. You did a great job.

You got it. Quality time. Good job FJ. =)

1. Words of affirmation 37% 2. Quality Time 27% 3. Acts of Service 22% 4. Receiving Gifts 7% 5. Physical Touch 7%

Celebrating the 1M subscribers I've been binge watching his videos and man I like this guy. I thought he was going to do like other youtubers and be all like "oh I got receiving gifts as my last one because I don't care about it... I care about deeper things" (totally misunderstanding what really receiving and/or giving presents is about) So it was cool checking that our man FJ here is keeping it real (I don't know why I've talked like that, probably because English is not my first language) Anyway I also thought I was going to get that as my first one and it was my second one

my love language: the absence of love entirely

Why am i so intense while talking about love languages 😂 love your humor Also i got the same result and i relate to what you said in the description especially gifts and acts of service

I was introduced to the Love Languages in one of my Communication classes! Beyond personality, gender roles and life roles in general can really influence one's love languages. My top two are Quality of Time and Words of Affirmation (which is commonly in the top for women). It's also common for men to use acts of service as a love language, but I'd argue it's even more common for people who fill parental roles to use this language the most. Nothing quite says I love you like a parent making your favorite meal when you're in for a visit.

I’m ENFP and my results are (for singles): 29% quality time 27% acts of service 23% physical touch 13% words of affirmation 10% receiving gifts ...interesting

Words of affirmation is my love language. Acts of service is my second, quality time is after, physical touch comes next. Lastly, gifts. I like receiving gifts but I feel guilty when I do because I feel I can never repay for what they've given me. Acts of service is high up maybe because I'm married and we have two kids, so helping me is a huge yes and emotional turn on. BTW, I'm binge watching your videos on this insomniatic night. ( Is that a word) you are brilliant, so entertaining, and yes, of course easy on the eyes. Love your videos. How are you doing lately? I know you are taking a break of some sort. I hope you are good FJ, every little thing will be alright. 🤗

That was my number one Love Language to! I took that test awhile ago, so I don't remember the exact order of the other love languages. I know touch was near or at the bottom. I agree with all your reasonings with each love language. Re: Acts of Service- if I feel like I'm doing something for an exchange, I'll stop myself from doing it. I only want to do things if I want nothing in return. I feel like it's more genuine. But I have to be aware of that happening first! But I definitely feel obligated when someone does something nice for me. P.S.- I always get gifts that show that I "know" the person. I get compliments for doing that, but there's a lot of pressure!

Frank, I saw one of your video which blasted me out, I just wanna share that experience with you. You won't believe it!!

You're pretty hilarious in this video :) Quality Time is #1 for me. Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, and Acts of Service (in that order) are only 1 point away from each other, so I don't think the middle portion means much. Receiving Gifts is my lowest score, and I see it in the way you see Acts of Service. I feel bad getting gifts, because I automatically feel as though I'm under pressure to get that person a gift too.

Oh man I was wheezing laughing almost completely through the whole thing 😂

My number one is same as yours Frank. I want to have meaningful conversation and I need it to be organic not forced. I want authenticity and integrity and for conversation to flow naturally. It is really if not impossible to find. My most meaningful convos are here on YT. Pathetic but I am so grateful for the intelligent and understanding ppl I’ve actually met here. You are one of them Frank. U also have a great sense of humor that just naturally interject which I so appreciate also.

Okay I did your test thing and got quality time as top , then three exact ties on physical, gifts and words of affirmation. Low on Acts of Service cause I like to do things myself lol! I appreciate quality time is a few people I have dated dominated everything. If someone actually shared their time with me as much as I give to them that would mean everything. I love little tokens and comforts, something thoughtful is nice. I also like the comfort of physical touch because I am not that touchy feely normally but if they're in my "bubble" it means they're super special and a loving touch like a hug or arm can be hugely valued because it's rare lol

The test gives me a really difficult time to take with my lack of experience and messy interpersonal relationships, so I'm just trying to write my thoughts on each of the five. I'm pretty sure that physical touch is #1 for me. And by that, I don't mean I'd do it a lot, but it's the most meaningful to me. A hug from someone I really love is the best medicine for my soul, and also the thing that gives me butterflies in my stomach, if it's by a love interest. It's a hard thing while being an INFJ, and I'm not giving it to everyone. It's like if I'm getting hugsy, it's the first sign that I got super attached emotionally. I also realised that if I'm mad at a family member, I "punish" them by not letting them to touch me. After these, quality time for me is more like: "I don't really care if you don't give me your undivided attention, just let me be there and hold your hand, and give me some touches back to show that you appreciate it." What comes to my mind, is the introverts' comfortable silence, when both of us would be minding their own business while leaning on each other or something like that. It would be great. I don't know how high quality time is on my list, but cuddles are a priority. With gift giving, if I get an idea about what could be a good gift for someone, I get excited about it. I like giving gifts, but wouldn't do it for whatever reason. Words of affirmation and acts of service are weird things. I think I'm having a bad case of impostor syndrome, so compliments and getting helped out are things that can make me feel guilty because I would think I don't deserve any of these. They give me the illusion that people can't see me objectively. For some reason though, helping other people out makes me feel good. Also, I love being called cute, maybe because it's not a huge thing, it rarely ever happens though.

Acts of services and then words of appreciation..and then quality time. Uncanny because I never ask help from the others..but secretly I expect from my partner acts of services even unrequested.

I definitely did get quality time as my first one. My last was giving gifts but I feel like you do about service, with gifts. Especially with money, because I feel like I owe them that value back. I love giving gifts though and receiving thoughtful ones but I still don’t accept them well, as with compliments like you mentioned. Service was my second because I strive to help people and getting help just shows that they’ll actually go out of their way to do something for me. Words of affirmation was third, somewhat surprisingly that it wasn’t higher because I though for sure that would be my #1. I have a positive Instagram account, but I do sometimes struggle to accept others’ words of encouragement. Fourth was physical touch - hugs are nice when needed but I don’t enforce them typically.

Oh my, FJ. Once again you have your finger on the pulse of your people. Prolly 85 to 90 percent will agree that time spent with another is the best. But, here's our disconnect, my Least favorite language are French gifts. Kidding!! 🤑 I do not like receiving gifts. I actually have a visceral cringe effect when someone gives me a present. However, I Love giving gifts as often as possible. I bought myself the most beautiful blanket ever made....it was so soft and the colors were of a snow leopard. I put it carefully away so No one would manhandle it because yes, it almost demanded to be held. Then, one day my beautiful sister Maria was very sad. So, naturally I went and wrapped up my favorite possession in the world and gave it to her. That's love to me....giving what you cherish to someone you cherish more. It took me five years to save enuff dough to get another one for myself. It ended up on my boyfriend's side of the bed. Yes, I am a martyr....no, I don't want material things that can be broken or ruined. But, I have an identic memory so a word spoken 12 years ago can be recalled and still have the power to make me smile or blush. Thank you for telling your evil twin that you didn't need him to make another vlog tonight. He was a little- lot intimidating last time. Keep it real and attractive, FJ.💜

I am freaked out by the similarity of our perspectives! .... the thing that sruck me most is that bit about act of services... I also find it difficult to accept it .. to own it and to believe that I am worthy sometimes even when it comes from people in whom I have no doubt of their love.. I need to work on that And I also share your preferred language.. nothing beats time and pure attention to prove love. Thank FJ

I'm an INFJ and I feel like your personality seems quite different to mine (or maybe the way you are on camera) but I love the satire and dry humour thrown into your videos, it cracks me up!! XD

While searching through my emails for my more recent Love Language test results, I actually came across my test results dating back two years ago, and they actually still speak to how I would prefer to show/receive love. In order of most to least favored, they are: Quality Time, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, and Receiving Gifts. As a proud INFJ myself, I say this order of preference is pretty accurate!

8-Quality Time 7-Receiving Gifts 6-Physical Touch 6-Words of Affirmation 3-Acts of Service I like hugs as long as I'm the one who initiates them. And popcorn is my favorite snack...But if you give me your time, a thoughtful gift like a purple penguin squish toy because you know I love purple, penguins and ways to quell rage or a Komodo dragon tee, then our relationship is pretty solid.

INFP- Words of Affirmation followed by 1 point Quality time, then Acts of service, Touch, Receiving gifts. If I can have a good, long conversation (Words) one on one or in a small group for an extended (Quality time) period of time- gold. My sister-in-law also pointed out to me that I’m good at working, doing things for people and just hanging out. If you need your dishes done and laundry folded- yes. If you need someone to hang with or just sit quietly with you-yes. When she told me this I was surprised because I just thought everyone was like this. She said, “No, not everyone is good at doing both types of things. People usually work and fix and that’s it or people just chill and don’t work or know how to do things for others.” So that was interesting and made me feel good. I’d like to also add that my husband’s family is very xSTJ. Edit- because I can’t spell ‘hanging’

Hahha this one was so funny. When I went to Japan everyone gives small gifts to you wherever you go. Was customary and so sweet. I’m primarily an affirmation. I read some place ‘affirmation’ was huge for INFJ. Gifts are my last. Touch my second. Quality time is huge but I looove to be alone. I like to see people but I value my time alone. That’s probably why that’s number 3 for me. Thanks FJ I spend my 10-15 w/ ya every day! PEACE

Normally I don't take these tests if they ask for an email address, but you're pretty cool FJ and this peeked my interest lol, I got... Quality Time/Acts of Service - 10 (tie) Words of affirmation - 6 Receiving Gifts - 3 Physical Touch - 1 Interesting test... now I have to contemplate these results for a while. Nice video btw.

I love quality time. All of those gifts and affirmations and acts of service don't mean much if you're not interested in getting to know and understand me and my heart. I would however appreciate the thought behind the gesture as for some it might be their expression of love towards me. So I always appreciate the thought behind it. I just always wish it could be more.. that it could be deeper.. that we could find words and talk, unguarded

i'm infj and my scores are: 11 Quality Time 7 Words of Affirmation 6 Acts of Service 4 Receiving Gifts 2 Physical Touch quality time is top. obviously you can't top the time you spend with people it almost boggles my mind how this isn't top for every person. words of affirmation is second. i love to be complimented and i love charismatic people so this is no surprise. i love writing, poems and songs. it's very special to hear someone describe you and put into words how they feel, even if they have a hard time. i love expression through words. acts of service is third. so i took this quiz a long time ago and i think gifts and service was switched. i think it only changed because i was thinking more of 'it's nice when people spend time with me and help' more so than i just want them to do stuff. i want people to do stuff, with me AKA more quality time. people spending time to help you shows they care though so cool. receiving gifts is fourth. i love gifts, everyone does but i think why it's so low is that i feel bad when people get me stuff. i don't want to ask for a lot because i feel guilty for them spending their hard earned money on me. i get the 'liking gifts because they remind you of a person' thing because i'm like that too i just guess my mindset is more 'don't waste your money on me' handmade thoughtful things i guess is probably ideal. physical touch is last. i don't really need it to have a connection with someone, most of the connection is mental. i also don't like when people hug me unless it's someone i'm seeing. i even hate when my own mom hugs me. it's just awkward and i don't need it.

Hey FJ. I took the test and you were right, quality time did win, but physical touch came in a very close second for me. My scores are below. 9 Quality Time 8 Physical Touch 7 Acts of Service 4 Words of Affirmation 2 Receiving Gifts I thought words of affirmation would have come in higher, but my mother always said ways and actions speak louder than words. Apparently that is true for me too. The only way a gift means anything at all to me is if it shows that the person knows me well or that the gift will allow more time with the giver (such as a trip to Italy for me with the giver). Interesting test. Thanks for sharing some information about it and yourself. :)

Of course, being a hopeless romantic, I love stuff like. Truth. Starting at the top, which is the best it's got to be gift giving. I take a LOT of time and pride in giving the perfect gift. I get so excited to see a loved one's face when they receive a special gift that truly resonates with them. It completely warms my heart, brings a rush of joy and I can only hope that it does the same for the one I love! Numero two- physical touch, which to me does not mean PDA by any means, but hand holding is a big one, hugs after a long day, crazy eye gazing and night time cuddles are 'D-best' (actual license plate). Come on Frank, you gotta get on this program! Scientifically proven to improve mental and physical health and something that was not quite natural to me, but so very achievable. 10 second full out hug with the one you love. Bear hug that lover! Personally, I think this goes hand in hand with quality time, so I wouln't seperate the two. This is followed by words of affirmation, which is weird b/c I am a pro at giving words of encouragement, as I see such immense value in showing love by verbalizing it often. Everyone shoul know when they are simply trying their best or full out rocking it. Absolutely! I suppose I'm simply not surrounded by others who don't feel the same and therefore not used to being on the receiving end of this one, so it's lower on my list? Acts of service is definitely last. If you can change a light bulb that's great, thanks...(sound of crickets ensues)...I'm a pretty independent woman, so if it's not there, for the most part it's helpful, but not a critical part of love! Essentially, know how your love one prefers to have their needs met, verbalize and check in with your partner and you're on your way to relationship happiness, IMO. That and the key of compatibiity, and chemisty and you can go along way! Cheers to sweet lovin', now go get it!

Here's mine: 33% Quality Time 27% Words of Affirmation 20% Acts of Service 13% Physical Touch 7% Receiving Gifts I think your point with receiving gifts as a way of expressing intimate understanding and care is interesting because INFJ's seem to value when they are actually understood by others, and I think maybe the tangibility and permanence of an object can have the potential to really solidify receiving this deep care and understanding in one's mind. However, I also think that for different people the vehicle with which this understanding and care is communicated could be preferred in a different form, such as the acts of service or words of affirmation. IE, these are all tangible or sensory "things" that can be referred to or filed away in your mind as true understanding and care; we can discern that the only obvious reason someone would go about doing these things is with love, understanding, and good intentions. In that way, maybe it squashes our SE insecurity, if that makes sense (sort of a need for infallible verification). Although, I hear what you're saying regarding finding it hard to accept when people just do things for you (acts of service) and potentially feeling guilty that they've expended all this energy on you that you feel you have to repay them out of the kindness of your heart because you also want them to feel loved and don't want there to be a disparity or uncertainty in the communicated feelings of care for each other. I also am curious of whether we each perceive certain love languages as more "shallow" than other ones and if that factors into our equation of what is the most meaningful love language to receive and thus the most reliable communicator of actual love/care rather than what we may perceive as less personalized/based off of a true understanding of the recipient.

The Hierarchy Of the love languages mentioned in this video is pretty accurate for me. Though The Part Mentioned about the Receiving help feeling like a Transaction may not be because you cannot accept help and More of Having the clarity that everything always truly is like a transaction in a way that every action has some form of reaction or meaning to the person doing it and so it might be a good idea to understand it as a transaction and just be grateful for it rather analysing what they would expect in return or why they are doing it at all. Also, Regarding the Gifts love language, for me, it absolutely represents the relationship but also makes me feel like someone has put time and thought in understanding who i am and what i would like and that's the most fascinating and enjoyable part of physical gifts. And I Love Surprises so it just adds to that fact :)

My number 1 is gift giving. That is how I both give and receive love. I think its the most misunderstood love language. Its not about the money being spent. Its about showing that someone took the time to know you well enough to know what you like rather than doing the typical force something they like on you.

top to bottom: 1. Quality time 2. physical touch 3. Words of affirmation 4. Acts of service 5. receiving gifts. for me me, the first three are actually all almost tied. however... my scores are relationship based.. not platonic. I seldom let people touch me unless I have very deep trust with them, such as close family or someone I am deeply intimate with (which is currently no one). I am surprised Acts of Service isn't actually my lowest because I prefer people don't do things for me for the same response you gave, and while helping people is good, it can also be energy draining. when it comes to gift giving. I am the person who methodically puts my time, thought, and effort into giving gifts that the recipient will truly appreciate and enjoy, however, I can put so much energy into it that I would rather just conserve my energy unless that person has a certain importance in my life. I also do not care for gifts. I can really go without them and unless it's something of deep sentiment, or has very practical use, it usually just stays in the gift bag and I often forget about it. It really depends on what it is and who it's from. My last two were significantly lower than my first three.

I'm INFP 10Acts of Service 7Words of Affirmation 5Quality Time 4Physical Touch 4Receiving Gifts I had fun doing the test and really thinking about stuff I never deeply thought about before, I rarely rarely find accurate like tests. Keep us updated about any test you take. Sending love 💗🌸

I love the 5 Love Language as a book and as a tool! In my own book EDEN: A Relationship-Based Template for Co-creating Paradise on Earth, and in my Couples & Mediation work I encourage others to learn their, and their loved ones Primary Love Languages, and then regularly apply them to improve their communicating, relating, and intimacy. I AM INFJ- and i scored as having a dual Primary Love Language: Physical Touch AND Quality time. While I'm much more touchy feely and openly physically demonstrative than most, what i know about me is Physical Touch is only in a top dual position with Intimate Partner and my Kids- because as much as i looooove being touched by someone i want to be physically close to is as much as i don't want to be touched by someone i don't want to be physically close to! So, my Universal top primary with all people would be Quality Time (Presence) which is often what i want in connection with physical touch when i receive it, #3 for me is Words of Validation (i find this to be the most universally accepted/ received when you don't know what the other person's Primary Love Language is , and/ or yours vary differently from theirs- most people are receptive to a compliment, or affirmative word (whether written or verbal), #4 for me is Material Gifts, and #5 Acts of Service. When people don't know about the Love Languages, i find they most consistently tend to give to others the Love Language they desire and enjoy to receive most themselves- which often points to what they also feel most comfortable with. I was amused by some of your takes on this topic...but don't worry, your safe behind a computer screen so i can't hug you in appreciation. ha! ha! :)

My top three were only one apart-acts of service, verbal affirmation, physical touch. Bottom two -quality time and gifts. Interesting that this is the result, supposedly what I want, yet I am not instinctually comfortable with people helping me/going out of their way etc. I have grown in this area by forcing myself to accept help when offered, but it is more what I enjoy doing for others. Same with words of affirmation. Physical touch is important...if I am remembering correctly... Any who-I love spending time with someone I care about, even if just sharing space. Maybe it is 4 because I don’t let just anyone in my space. Physical gifts-I’m not surprised by this being last, but yet I have saved letters or cards, little stones, to remember the person/place. So hmmm, interesting. Perhaps I am simply fluid in my love languages😊.

For me (infp): 5) receiving gifts because what i need i can buy myself, and i dont like to have unnecessery things 4) physical touch I'm not used to be touchy 3) quality time It can be fun 2) acts of service It's good to receive help 1) words of affirmation For me it brings a lot of strength, because i have a lot of doubts about myself and my future, i like to feel that i'm supported and accepted. And i myself like to use this love language, i like to give compliments to people like "you're good at drawing, you're talented, you can make a youtube channel and upload your videos" etc. I like to use words as my expression of support.

The video isn’t over but I’m guessing quality time is yours. Mine is quality time big time. Maybe I’m INFJ after all. Watching you is like watching my twin. Everything you’re saying I totally relate to. Even though gifts is right above touch (don’t need either one ever, thanks), I love getting things for people that lets them know I KNOW them. I absolutely hate imposing on people too, but I love doing things for people to show I care - realistically I can’t spend quality time with everyone I care about, but I can do things for them when they aren’t around, letting them know I was thinking about them. The most frustrating thing for someone who’s not a words of affirmation person is to be around someone who acts like a baby if they don’t get complimented on everything - I ended a relationship over it. Had a light bulb moment - I said “I can’t give you what you need, so it’s over. Bye.” I’ve known other relationships to suffer from it too, even friendships. It just doesn’t seem to be a good match. I’m not saying everyone who likes compliments is like this obviously, but some people are nuts about it.

I am INFJ (supposedly), but my #1 is Words of Affirmation. The very very very most powerful way for me to receive love or gift love is a combo of that and gift-giving-- notes. I will treasure those forever and I spend so much time mulling over what I want to express, how to say it, and how the other person might need to hear it.

Haha I chase compliments with insults. Every time I receive a compliment I immediately point out one of my flaws... it's a lovely reaction. Quality time was my top love language as well.

lol Thumbs up for that commercial break alone.

Really good book... wish more would read it and use what they learn from it and wish they had one for families.

10 Physical Touch 9 Words of Affirmation 7 Quality Time 3 Acts of Service 1 Receiving Gifts To clarify my number one, while I enjoy touch, it is only for those I’m very close with. But I agree with everything you say about quality time. You mentioned that you appreciate quality time because you’re so down on yourself that when someone takes their undivided precious time for you, you appreciate it. That’s how I feel as well, but more so for words of affirmation. I’m terrible at taking a compliment from people I’m not close to. However, when someone who knows me well thinks of me highly and verbalizes it sincerely, it means a lot because I also am pretty down on myself and don’t always think so highly. Little bit of a different topic, the five love languages website also offers a test about an apology language. I’d love to see a video on that or see what your results would be!

Lol, you're so funny. I loved the Maurice Chevalier voice. I am an INFJ and my number 1 is physical touch.

1. Acts of Service 27% 2. Quality Time 23% 3. Words of affirmation 20% 4. Physical Touch 17% 5. Receiving Gifts 13%

Definitely on same page as you, FJ. Will take test & check it out. But your responses sound very similar to mine. "Live long & prosper, FJ!" Your Motown buddy. Took test, QT=#1. PS: would like to see your handwriting/signature sometime!

Mine is quality time too, however, I think it's tied with words of affirmation ..specifically encouragement, kindness, and respect. To me those things have to go together for it be meaningful.

My top one is quality time, and my lowest is also physical touch. My number two is acts of service, even though I’d rather not have people do things for me, I think I that one is more of a way of me showing love to others rather than receiving it.

1) acts of service 2) gift giving 3) quality time 4) words of affirmation 5) physical touch as a female infj, i'm constantly serving others. constantly. so i feel most loved when someone does the favor back and helps me with one of those mundane tasks that's so hard for us intuitive types. especially dishes, oof. but i strongly related to all your explanations and ranking.

#5 Receiving Gifts: When I receive gifts from people I feel bad about it because I know they probably stressed out about trying to find a great gift, spent money on me they might not have had to spend, and have high expectations of how I will react to it that I will almost definitely let down. Also I feel like people use this as a way to try and pretend they understand me because they can't actually connect with me through attention, conversation, and appreciation. But that might just stem from my step dad trying to buy my affection instead of treating me like a human being. Give me presence rather than presents. #4 Acts of Service I agree with FJ on this one. Again, I feel bad about people sacrificing themselves for me. I know it's supposed to be a kind loving gesture, but I would never trade my suffering for the suffering of another. Though, hypocritically, I'd be more than happy of the roles were reversed. #3 Physical Touch Being close to someone I love is important to me. Not so much that I need them beside me at all times. I just feel like physical touch deepens the connection. Just like how you can appreciate the sunshine at any time of year and always love a sunny day, but it's not the same as feeling the warmth of the sun on a hot summer day. Also, for someone to be comfortable touching me makes me feel special, because I certainly don't feel comfortable touching just anyone. #1 Words of Affirmation This is especially important to me because I am extremely harsh on myself 100% of the time. Hearing someone I love tell me something positive is the only positivity I will feel about myself for the whole day. Feeling good about yourself feels good, and feeling good increases your capacity for love. Simple as that. Also #1 Quality Time This is definitely the most important to me. To me the only true sign of love is being able to be alone with someone in complete silence, but pick up on each others body language - communicating on a deeper level than physical touch or verbal communication could ever hope to achieve. Nothing makes me feel unimportant faster than being interrupted, ignored, or placed 2nd - behind a text message. I'm a quiet person most of the time and have always had a hard time getting or keeping anyone's attention. To be gifted it without having to fight for it or even so much as ask is the greatest gift someone could give me.

I paused the video before you gave your results because I didn't want to be unconsciously influenced when I took the quiz. I expected my results to be very close to yours, but it turns out they're quite different. Mine, from first to last: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and receiving gifts. I share your thoughts on quality time, though. Someone's undivided attention is the best. I think for me, words of affirmation are bound up with that, thus my results. (I think if "gifts" were specifically "large sums of cash," my results may have been different.)

1 is touch and for me reason first Off I don’t want to be touched by just anyone just of opposite sex preferred and my second primary language is acts of service because I like to be there when needed. 2nd is quality time reason is I value my few and far between interactions with friends. 3rd is words of affirmation I like it to be communicated that I am appreciated Last is receiving gifts I still enjoy thought full gift and will keep it forever if it holds special meaning to me. That is my arrangement from primary language to least used language

My new puppy loves your voice. She was sleeping and when I hit play on the video, she woke up and stared at the speaker then slid on her belly over my lap close to the speaker and just keeps staring at it lol (few min later) now she is laying right next to the speaker with her face near it hahaha

I read the book and really tried to utilize the info in my last relationship to no avail. I think Quality Time was at the top of the list but everything else was a pretty even split. However, I do remember discovering the language I use to receive is different from the one I use to give. Gift-giving is far and away my language to show love and it’s maybe my favorite thing to do and while I LOVE getting them, I feel like Acts of Service feels next-level because the person is still taking time to figure out what I need most in my life but it’s usually to help me relieve pressure, anxiety, workload etc (or help with a project and then it’s bonus Quality Time too...cha-ching!).

INFJ female here, as expected here are my results: 11 Quality Time 6 Receiving Gifts 6 Words of Affirmation 4 Physical Touch 3 Acts of Service I expected physical touch to have to minimum scores, but I do like to hug people I love a lot, and it makes me entitled to payback if they offer a service to me... so PT scored higher.. Words of affirmation are something I don’t know how to react to generally, but I still need to hear them from time to time to know I’m on the right track, and since I do care to satisfy other’s needs. But nothing beats doing something together, exchanging ideas & this FEELING UNDERSTOOD, this is the most satisfying thing for me. And this is what I focus on while looking for a partner.

I'm an INFJ. My number one is physical touch. Number two is acts of service. I theorize that part of the reason why touch is number one for me is for the very fact that it's based in physical reality. It gets me into my physical body and the present moment. Which we all known involves using my weakest cognitive function! Physical touch is one way that I actually ENJOY using extraverted sensing. Maybe having this as my number one love language is a way that I am subconsciously balancing out my functions and strengthening that Se. 💪 With acts of service it's different. If my partner tends to physical chores and tasks around the house, it lifts that exhausting burden of having to go into my extraverted sensing in the mundane, tedious ways that I hate. Leaves me with more time to be in the clouds. 😶☁️ So there's that. Ha

1. Words of Affirmation 2. Quality time. 3. Physical Touch 4. Acts of Service 5. Receiving gifts I am also an INFJ. I recently read that book and another by him called “Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married”. Both were interesting. I take everything with a grain of salt. I definitely think all languages of love are important. I think it might also represent (for some people) what you are lacking or craving in the relationship at the present moment.

ME...all of those.. In that exact order. 🧡💙💛💚💜❤ Quality time, especially with your children pays huge dividends in the future.

@FrankJames the fact that you even know who Maurice Chevalier is impresses me. (For those who might not know, he was a very famous French actor in Hollywood back in the 60/70s. He sang the intro for the Disney movie The Aristocats)

Yes agreed, time is very precious ☺

Haha... no fun Frank, I actually laughed out loud. You know, in the I saw myself for a minute there. I feel the same way about hanging out, want to have conversations, bond, hear stories.

ENTP female here. My LLs: 1.Words of Affirmation 2. Gift Giving/Receiving (Buy me things and tell me I’m smart and pretty) 3. Quality Time 4. Physical Touch 5. Acts of Service I got this when I first took it about 10 years ago and I got the same exact thing when I took it just now. I think that’s what makes the 5LL so useful. It really is so uncomplicated and useful. Funny thing is, its beneficial for me to be in a relationship (or close friendship) with someone who likes to give Acts of Service because I’m pretty incapable of living life and realistically need someone to take care of my shit for me (bad case of ADHD w/depression). But the fact is I will never think to perform acts of service for someone else. It doesn’t even cross my mind. The only thing I do that is related to AoS is cook and provide food, but that feels like gift giving and quality time to me. I completely agree with you about gift giving. It’s a tangible and visual reminder of the love you share with someone and it shows they were thinking of you when they weren’t physically close to you. It can also totally be a way to communicate that you get a person on a deep level. 👏👏👏

Fascinating! I'm an INFJ for sure but we have almost opposite love languages Quality time and physical touch are basically tied in #1 Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Gifts is my last... Makes me feel like I owe someone something..

'like a transaction '😊 spot on!

i'm infp and i got words of affirmation as my top one, it's pretty much spot on haha

I took this test a while back and I believe quality time was my first. I'm not sure about the others. Good video!

I got quality time as number one, and I think you said it perfectly. Being with people is so draining that I really only want to use it up on people I love, so it feels like an honor for it to be reciprocated. I do wish there was a love language called understand or something though. You know like you tell a friend ‘I’m so sorry, but I’m drained and need alone time’ and they understand and know you still love them without making you feel bad for needing to disappear. 😂

I am an INTJ (probably) and I have almost exactly the same results as you, except words are in the 2nd place for me instead of gifts. I think physical touch might be a bit higher for me though, because I think I have been kind of deprived from it and that has bothered me a lot since childhood. I grew up in a family that never hugged or touched hands or anything like that (like literally never. Even when I was crying as a child or any other situation like that.), so I am not used to it, obviously. I like it when my friends hug me though. 11 - Quality time 8 - Words of affirmation 5 - Receiving gifts 4 - Acts of service 2 - Physical touch