Omg!!!! Yesssss...So I work in the airline industry and 95% of the ladies that work with me are naturals. I’m currently mid back length and every time I relax my hair and wear it down, people have comments about MY HAIR!! They act like being relaxed is a disease. My hair is the healthiest and longest it’s ever been. I listen to my hair and stopped letting other people take care of my hair. Once I formed that bond...my hair flourished. #TeamRelaxed 😜
I was relaxed from 16 to 51. Natural 52 to 58. Learned so much about my hair so I do thank the natural hair community for all their wisdom and advice. But at 58 after much consideration I had enough of loss weekends, detangling, single strand knots, unpredictable hair, telling my husband my hair wasn’t dry so I wasn’t ready, wearing numerous hats as I never have worn braids, weaves or wigs in my life, spending $$$ trying to find the right “miracle” product etc. My hair is thick, coarse and BSL. It just wasn’t that serious to me at my age. I mean darn I want to spend my time and worry on more important things. My family. So I went back to a relaxer. Difference is I now know my hair and self relax every 12 to 16 weeks (not the old school way of 6 to 8 weeks). Coming up on 2 years this spring ( will be 60 this summer) and I couldn’t be happier with my hair. And my time!🤗
Thank you very much for sharing your personal experience. Yes, I believe the whole healthy hair journey movement really equipped us WOC with the right knowledge and education to achieve healthy hair and longer hair. I really appreciate your honesty regarding the struggles you faced while natural. Sacrificing quality time with your family is definitely a red flag. Glad to hear you are happy and enjoying your decision to relax. Happy hair journey to you💕
I think folks were afraid of relaxed hair because of their lack of knowledge on proper care. After caring for natural, you learn how to moisturize, go heat free etc. I also think a lot of people went natural to repair damage and never really wanted to stay natural.
4 years natural and relaxed this week. I loved my curls but I felt like it was a continuous battle with my hair with all the tangles. I feel now I can care for relaxed hair. No regrets
They said being natural was "easier" so I was excited to not face the relaxer again but... In reality it was the hardest 3 years of my hairs life. The constant moisturizing, detangling, braiding& un braiding, Figuring out a new style just no. I found Hairlicious and it was a gift from God 💪 Happy to come back to me. Ty Sunshyne🌞
Now this comment is the truth. Natural hair by no means is easier. Thats what I thought too. April will be 6 years natural for me. Im trying to loc my hair but if I continue to look like a rag-a-muffin I will relax come summertime. Tuh 💅
Girl!! I swear these bleached hair naturalistas judge too much lol but their hair not even fully natural because semi- permanent is still changing the natural state of the hair.
Right! I'm going to stay natural because it's better for ME. My hair is manageable and healthy and I was thin with a perm and that's probably because I over permed the hell out of it and didn't properly care for it. But NEVER would I EVER try and tell another person what to do with their hair! I wish somebody would! I watch and listen to women that are in a rage about another women going back to perming her hair. Like if you don't sit your angry, miserable a@@ back and mind your own business. I think those women may feel insecure because they don't want to be part of a small group of naturals, especially if they're 4c. Without a large mass of other naturals, they won't be as confident.
I think a lot of the people who are going back to relaxers, went natural hoping for a hair texture they was never meant to have. They wanted that 3b- 4a hair, hair like naptural85 or jewjewbee and ended up with 4b and 4c. It's beautiful but not what they wanted or expected. A lot of the naturals that have gotten relaxers have these tighter curls and kinks and it was too much work and not want they desired and that's ok. It's their hair and they can do what they please with it. I just haven't seem many people that went natural that got looser textures go back there's been a few but the majority is tighter textured hair. That's my thoughts on it
Exactly. All the comments complaining about tangles or hair not styling how they want it is because they never learned their texture. They were constantly just trying to alter it. But to each their own ig.
4c hair is no joke. I have almost tailbone 4c hair at its a lot of work. But for me relaxing would not work out because I would probably cut it all off because that is too much hair lol. Also I support any decision ladies make natural or relaxed as long has its heathy and happy.😆
I have 3c/4a hair according to that silly typing scale, and it was the devil. The soft looser curls had their own share of issues compared to the 4c ladies hair. 3c hair is not all that it is cracked up to be, i'm telling yall. I relaxed mine in NOV after being natural 6 years. No regrets at all, and I will never go back to natural. It was fun, but that relationship is over. I enjoy the ease of manageability and styling with my hair now :)
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e idk who you're talking to but no one asked for your attitude, in the video she asked WHY people might be going back to relaxers. I simply gave a suggestion, and everyone under my comment gave their thoughts on it as well in RESPECTFUL matter. Try again with your who cares cause apparently you do
I’ve been seeing the trend. I have followed you since I began my healthy hair journey. I was relaxed back then. I have been natural over 4 years and I’m not going back. I LOVE it. Whatever works for that individual is what I’m a proponent of.
I'm definitely team perm. I was only natural for a year but that year felt like 10 years Whether a woman wants to wear their hair natural or permed is a personal choice not a community choice
Girl I hear you. I had healthy relaxed hair but I had a daughter and I wanted to learn to love my natural texture as well as teach her to love her natural textures. She is the only reason why I'm not going back to a relaxed.
I see relaxed hair IS a part of my heritage because I am American too. The nineties had fun explorations of our expression with relaxed styles. But now we get to combine our natural hair knowledge with our relaxed hair science and thrive in the best of both worlds! I love our diverse hair choices because at this point, I've done them all lol.... including locs and the curl.
I was natural for 11 years. Went back to relaxer last month. Lord I tried, but was simply exhausted with the process of maintenance. What I learned in my journey: there is no easy path. Which ever way you choose, there is considerable time and expense associated with our unique haircare, relaxed or natural. Choose what’s best for you and just move on with your life. Thanks for this video, you are so helpful.
When I was natural I NEVER wore my hair out. Too much time washing, detangling, styling. So I completely just left it and let it do whatever(mostly braids and wigs). I just relaxed back in Sep 2019 and I am extremely happy..... I’ve always experienced breakage but I obviously noticed it more with wearing my hair relaxed but I just recently got my Olaplex (Steps 3, 4 and 5) and I used it during my last root touch up (just did it in Jan 2020) and It made such a difference. When I root touch, I air dry then straighten and wear that til the next week and it’s back to my regimen. I’m very pleased with my relaxed hair. One thing I’m worried about is getting box braids as the summer time will come and I prefer the braids..... we’ll see. But I’m very happy with my hair. I maintain it more, I wear it out more(don’t have to rely on wigs and weaves) and I can clip my ends and deep condition and everything under the sun....... VERY HAPPY! It’s not as thick as Vals but she is legit the reason I went back to relaxed hair. I feel amazing..... currently sitting in a wet wrap (gonna air dry instead of sitting under the dryer) ❤️
OMGGG!! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m so happy to hear that you are enjoying your hair more and wearing it out. That’s huge!! Olaplex is the truth and I’m happy to hear that it’s working for you. As for box braids, just ensure your hair is strengthened prior to install, moisturized while wearing it and strengthened after. Braids can be a bit drying to relaxed hair but definitely possible!! Enjoy luv 💕
just be careful who does it. I was bra strap, relaxed and the lady overdid it and now my crown is so broken it looks super damaged. So its either i cut it all off to shoulder or just gradually trim 1 inch a month
People shouldn’t have any comment about what a person does with their own hair. I really hate people sometimes. The beauty of the world is that you can do whatever you wanna do with your own body. It’s our differences that make us beautiful. Purple, Green, small, large, straight kinky it doesn’t matter. I’m sure all of your parents have told you “ if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”
Sunshyne!! Girl, I've been with you since you started back when I lived in Toronto, and you've helped me so much with my hair. I was natural for 10 years and hated it. I had 4c hair and it was so much work, and it was constantly breaking. I spent tons of money trying to find find products to use and I saw little in terms of growth. Now I have been relaxed for a month and have two inches of growth!! Hair is longer, thicker and healthier after relaxing. Your channel has been my saving grace, so thank you, sis! :)
Thank you so much for your feedback. I’m honoured and truly grateful for your support over the years. Through it all I’m glad that you’ve been able to find a style that works for you and your lifestyle. Too, it’s healthier than before. Amazing. Keep up the great work!!
My So-Called Teacher Life, you wrote my story. Only difference is that I was only natural for 5+ years. I went back to relaxed in September and just had my touch up. The length and health of my hair is so much better now. And yes @Hairlicious, Olaplex products and Shea Moisture have changed the game for my hair.
I actually just went back to relaxer in August 2019. After 3 years natural. I went back to relaxing because of so many reasons, like: 1. Not being able to assess and correct damage with my hair in its natural state. 2. Single strand knots. 3. The timely maintenance of natural hair was affecting my lifestyle. 4. I wanted manageability. Wanted to be able to bun my hair, straighten my hair, wear weaves without having to do backflips and tricks to get my hair to conform. 5. I MISSED LOOKING SLEEK! I have ZERO regrets lol I am getting a relaxer tomorrow (12 weeks post).
Wow! Thanks for your input. I completely understand where you are coming from. Zero regrets is a good thing!! Wishing you all the best on your relaxed hair journey!! Enjoy your hair.
I used to have relaxed hair and my hair was just TRASH then and that's why I really embraced the natural movement. Once I became natural, MY HAIR GREW in ways I did not think black hair could grow and then this year I stumbled on your channel and I have been binging your videos as well as the videos of other black QUEENS with relaxed hair and it HAS REVOLUTIONAZED how I feel about relaxed hair. I am really shook that even with relaxed hair your hair is thriving. I am going to take all of 2020 to learn about how to take care of relaxed hair and take the plunge back to relaxed hair. I will probably at some point miss natural hair as well but we'll see so far, I am enjoying learning about the dos and don'ts of relaxed hair and really learning from my mistakes when i was younger and had relaxed hair.
Thanks Alice for your perspective. I think that’s another reason as to why many naturals are now relaxing. I think with the help of YT, they’ve been exposed to more knowledge, ways, and methods as to how they can take care of relaxed hair in healthier ways. Its very possible to have healthy relaxed hair and enjoy it.
I know a lot of naturals personally & some of them are opinionated & they don't have any problems with people with relaxed hair at all. The only naturals I've ever heard complaining about relaxed hair is on RU-vid.
Honestly, I think people are going back to relaxed hair because (1) They’re tired of spending so much time doing their hair and (2) they miss seeing their length. Some of these natural hairstyles have to be set way in advance, and then the style is most likely stretched for a few days so that their is no over-manipulation. When I don’t straighten my hair in the summer it’s a pain to do....sometimes I just put a scarf on because it’s just too much to get a style to look decent. How do you maintain your ends (trimming wise)?
Good point. To add to that, even when all of this work is put in, there no 100% guarantee that the style will turn out the way you want it too. But that’s with both natural and relaxed hair. I maintain my ends by trimming with every relaxer. My stylist takes off what needs to come off, which is usually 1/4inch or 1/2inch.
yes this is me! I've been natural for 12 years and I love it, but I miss seeing my length and now that I'm in my 30s I have less time for wash day, so my hair quality is starting to suffer. I've been thinking of relaxing again so my time involved will be shorter, but I'm also am attached to my curls. In the end I figure if I want to be natural again, I can always cut my hair after again in another 10 years lol. Plus the natural hair community is kinda toxic and self righteous lol. I think now that I've been natural for so long it will be easier to care for my relaxed hair cause now I actually know my hair and what it needs.
After relaxing I usually air dry just to give my hair a break and then I'll proceed with my normal routine 2-3 days after. I also noticed the wave of women returning to natural hair and it honestly makes me happy to see us unapologetically doing what we want to do to OUR hair. Although relaxers seem "old school" to some people, our knowledge about healthier practices have evolved and we're in a time where we can successfully grow long and healthy relaxed hair. We are no longer relaxing every 4-6 weeks or combing the relaxer through the length of our hair, or dealing with scalp burns. I've debated going natural but I just don't feel the need to at the moment when I know how to take care of my hair relaxed and appreciate the lower maintenance. #TeamRelaxed
So you go into your normal routine after a couple days. Nice. Agreed 100% thank you for your input. It makes me happy to see us rocking our own hair and taking great care of it. No apologies!!
I did my first big chop in 1999 stayed natural until two weeks ago. I was ready for something different so I got my first relaxer after 20 years and I absolutely love it! It’s easier and with me working out more it’s conducive to my lifestyle. Stalking relaxed sisters channels to learn to maintain healthy hair again. I’ll ride out this journey until I’m ready for something else. The only constant is change.
LOL love this. Yesss, that was one of the many reasons I received in my inbox from naturals - need for change and something stress-free. Sounds like you’re making lots of great changes. Happiness is a priority💕 Wishing you all the best on your relaxed hair journey. Let me know what content you’d like to see to support your journey.
Love your hair and love that fact that you called our relaxer-shamers. I've been told by a "friend" that relaxing is denying my true hair and self loathing. It's a terrible feeling. I love that you encourage this positivity. Everyone's on their own journey!
Hello! I found your Chanel last night. I have been natural since 2005, 16 years!!! My hair stopped growing about 3 years ago. I am sick of waiting for the growth. My hair is mid back, but it has literally stop growing. I stopped enjoying my hair a long time ago. For the last week I have seriously been considering just cutting my hair off to a short bob. I am just sick of my natural hair. I even found the style that I wanted to get it cut in. I found your channel snd I am positive that I am going back to relaxed hair. I am going to follow your regimens and I am really getting excited about my hair again! Thank you sooo much!💜
My relaxed hair was breaking badly and thinning out and I didn’t know why .my hair was long MBL . So I decide to go natural to learn my hair more In 2015 .But last year June I went back relaxed because natural hair was expensive to maintain my hair drink a lot of products. I wasn’t seeing length, and I had single strand knots. And I’m happy about my relaxed hair it’s longer and I can trim easily . It’s low maintenance. And since I’ve studied hair, I learn to use, rice water, onion juice and iron supplements for shedding hair , moisture and seal every other day and wash my hair once a week. I no longer buy expensive products now I know about protein moisture balance. I relax every 12-14 weeks instead of 6 weeks back in the day and use less heat I flat iron on special well dress occasions
Thank you for sharing your reasons for relaxing. Expense is definitely a factor to consider. Sounds like you circled back to relaxed hair with better knowledge and understanding of how to achieve healthy relaxed hair. Good stuff!!
Yes I live in the tropics so honey 🍯 avocado 🥑 banana 🍌 coconut 🥥 oil castor oil are freely accessible to me I can mix soMe or the other in tresseme conditioner when my hair needs it. Clarify my hair with apple cider vinegar. Oil my scalp . Results are the same. I’m good on hair scheme products they sell out there.
You have ssk because somthing in your hair regimine was off. I ised to have a tone of ssk throughout the length of my hair. Thats changed when I learned how to properly moisturize my hair and maintained a good moisture-protein balance.
Wow! Your relaxer game is strong. Last week I relaxed my hair for the first time in years, and I kid you not there were single knots everywhere. Have to trim off 3”.
I have been natural for 5 years and I relaxed my hair about 2 months ago and I love it. I went back to relaxed hair because of maintenance and my hair seems to absorb moisture better when it’s relaxed. I am glad I did allow my hair to grow out and I got length I can see a lot better now that I’m relaxed that doesn’t revert back in 5 minutes after I flat iron it. Definitely missed relaxed hair 😩❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I just spoke about this on my live video today! I get all these suggested videos on youtube about naturals going back to relaxers. Hopefully, this time around their journeys will be more pleasant and fruitful! great video sis your hair looks amazing!
I've been seeing the trends, but for me I don't have any plans to go back to relaxing. My last relaxer was in 2010, I was in 9th grade. I went natural b/c I never knew what my hair texture was like, and my hair was damaged from not knowing how to take care of it. I was learning how to take care of my hair in general while going natural from seeing all the ladies on the hair forums. So for me, I would have to learn how to take care of relaxed hair, because before I was natural I was relaxing my own hair like... only one year maybe on my own. And before that my mom was relaxing it for me, and she's been natural for a few years now too. Overall, I've only been relaxed a short period of my life, and I mainly remember the smell, and the difficultly to relax it on my own, I would always over process b/c I have thick hair and couldn't get through it quick enough 😅 You're blessed to have someone help you. I'll never say never, because natural hair is not a piece of cake either, but I've just grown accustomed to it over these 10 years.
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Your natural hair is soooo pretty. I just hope we get to a point where relaxed or natural, there is respect. I don’t like being told I hate myself because I relax. Because as a 4c girl, my relaxed hair still looks African American in texture. Ain’t NOBODY trying to be another race!,,
I feel like years ago, a lot of people were going natural just because it was trending. That's why I think many of those people will go back to relaxers.
If someone decides to leave their hair how it naturally comes out of their head, I wouldn’t consider that a trend. It’s just considered leaving your hair how it is.
First off... beautiful hair! 😍😍😍. I recently relaxed after 8 years natural. I was actually on a loc journey when I decided that I was done. So I took 10 days to comb out my locs and relaxed my hair. It was on my mind for years.... I personally was trying to hang on to my natural hair because I felt I had too. I feel more like me with my relaxed hair and I have no regrets at all! My hair was long and relaxed before the big chop and I don’t regret going natural either. 2 months back relaxed and I’m so glad I followed what I wanted to do! Keep bringing great content!
Awww thank you so much. Yesss, no regrets. It’s amazing to hear your journey and how you successfully went from loc’d to relaxed hair. Enjoy it!! Thank you for watching.
So I’m slowly transitioning back to natural for the second time. I loved having relaxed hair, it was easy maintenance (as I can be lazy with hair and I’m always on the go) and how I was able to work with it and create a variety of styles. I’m curious about having natural hair, and feel a lot more informed and ready to maintain it, in comparison to when I first went natural. But if you want to have relaxed hair, there is nothing wrong with it. Hair is hair, and it is your decision. If this transition does not work the second time round, I might go back myself. 🤷🏾♀️
Did the same thing as you. Went back natural 2 1/2 years ago after going back to relaxers. Hated it. I missed the volume, thickness, texture, everything. Never thought I would miss it and actually fall in love with my natural hair. Now that I know how to embrace it and take care of it I can't even explain how much confidence it gave me. Hope it will be the same for you 💕
Im one of the narural going back to relaxed hair. I did my relaxer 2day and it is such a relief! I have been natural for 6 years and i was tired of my single strands knots, breakage and the time consuming of taking care of my hair. I love my relaxed hair 🥰
I'm considering getting a relaxer because of your channel! Thanks for all of the gems for having healthy relaxed hair! And the water running in the back is so relaxing lol
Relaxing my hair that’s been natural for about 5 years now as I’m watching this video 😂!! You the OG sis I have been watching your videos for years now!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge ❤️
I literally always say this to people. I got relaxers for YEARS by a PROFESSIONAL! from 16-25. I only got it relaxed twice a year. I think a lot of people who had bad experiences with relaxers had someone who didnt know what they were doing putting them in. I never had any issues, my hair was in great condition, it was long and healthy, I always refused to go natural because I liked the ease of styling that came with having relaxed hair at a young age when I didn't know how to style my hair. I went natural 3 years ago because I wanted to do some bleaching and dying to my hair and I didn't want to risk breakage with the relaxer. I'm enjoying being natural but there are times I miss my relaxed hair. I say all this to say, we don't give energy to relaxer-shamers. It's my hair, mind your business, cause you don't even know what you're talking about. When I get bored again with my hair or tired of natural maintenance I'll be right back on #teamrelaxer
I’ve been following you since my relaxer days and you taught me so much about caring for my hair. Been natural for 6 years and I don’t plan to go back. I never had broken off relaxed hair ppl used to ask me if I had weave and tell me I had “perm box” hair. It was always healthy n bouncy. Natural is a challenge due to my occupation, it can be boring and yes time consuming, but I love my hair. I’ve cut,colored, weaved, wigged but I love my natural. I’m on a growth journey now and have seen growth in the last year. Ppl can’t believe. I say whatever works best. Life is more than hair. And I love your hair. I’ve been following you since you first started in you tube. Im glad to see you doing more videos.
I was natural for 6 years and just went back I'm so happy I did. What's the point of my hair if I dont wear it out. My natural hair was too much shrinkage and I love that I can rock my thick hair now hassle free
You’re such an inspiration. People are so judged for being or wanting to be relaxed. It’s relieving to see how confident you are. There are no much relaxed hair RU-vidrs also. I’m a 4C natural and i’ll be relaxing soon bc my hair is just too much work and it doesn’t fit my busy lifestyle
I jus relaxed a month ago after 15 yrs natural. I did it b/c of the maintenance & I dont even have 4c hair! I love it. From the wash days to night routines to the simple ponytail I can now do. I'm happy I made the change. I watched you for a month before doing it so thank you lol.
I was natural for 9years and you are correct. ITS SO MUCH WORK. I couldn’t take care of it and manage it. I can back to the relaxed hair and I’m so happy. Now I’m trying to get back in the groove or moisturizing and wrapping my hair at night. You have definitely helped me back in this transition,THANK YOU!!
I’m so late to the game with this video but I am a natural who is highly thinking of going back to being relaxed and I have come across your videos the most which are very informative and simple processes. Literally I was relaxed and stopped because I experienced a lot of breakage, couldn’t grow passed my shoulders, super dry and I used too much heat! Natural for 7 years now and it’s exhausting, takes so much of my time because my hair is extremely thick and course and detangling my hair is a hassle. I literally have cried over my hair and it’s just time for something a little more manageable for myself so that I don’t always have to rely on others for my hair care. Thank you for your videos! 💜
Your hair is gorgeous! I def see more naturals altering the state of their hair to make it more easier to manage and to show off more the length they’ve spent years growing!
After being natural for over 3 years I relaxed my hair. I was SICK. AND. TIREDT. But honestly being natural really taught me to take care of my hair, which I wasn't doing before, and be more comfortable wearing my own hair. Now I made a choice to relax my hair because I wanted to and because of what was easier for me. It didn't come from a place of insecurity anymore. Thanks to channels like yours I am able to find new way to take care of my hair as well.
I am one of those ladies that’s over it!! I’ll be starting my relaxed hair journey on February 13th. I’ve been natural for 7 years! I’m over unmanageable hair. I live a very busy life and I don’t have time to play with my hair. I don’t feel confident if my hair doesn’t look good and I’ve had far too many bad hair days! IM READY!
TassyMaee 365 I totally feel your pain! I was so tired of not knowing how my hair was going to turn out. Every time I blow dried my ends were terrible and couldn’t retain length. I had mid back relaxed hair. I’m going to be a straight natural because I love the fullness of my hair.
After finding ur channel, it’s helping me to be confident about going back to relaxed hair. I’ve been natural since 2011 & I think I’m ready to revisit relaxers again, this time doing it how you’ve taught. Thanks! 🖤 I’m planning on going back relaxed 1/1/2021 (so I can def say I gave it 10 full yrs) bcuz I wanna see for myself that I can grow it healthy like urs...
I’ve been natural for 3 going on 4 years now. I had pretty healthy relaxed hair until I started playing with color and ended up going natural. I’ve contemplated going back to relaxed hair because of time and money it takes to have healthy natural hair however after doing research on how chemicals in relaxers can affect your body I have decided to transition to heat trained natural hair instead of relaxing. My hair is more manageable now however I’m still struggling with finding the right products for heat training my hair. I can’t say I will never relax my hair but as of right now this seems to be the best option for me
I don't get why some ladies are even making it so serious about going back to relaxers. I have been natural for about three years and I am on the fence about keeping my style. I can only do twists right now and I love it but that has been the only natural hairstyle I can get to and its a little boring. I straightened my natural hair and I saw my length again and it was nice. I feel like I could see my hair again. I decided I was gonna do what I wanted to do with my hair, I am not tied to any style.
Yes Yess and Yesss to all the quotes you said in this video!!! Please lets leave ALL that in 2019!!! Excellent video and Absolutely beautiful hair!! Tfs!
I agree....I see the change where a lot of naturals are going back to relaxers. I think it’s a good thing either way.....both relaxed and natural hair are beautiful....and taking care of your hair regardless of the state it’s in is the key.
My relaxed hair may never look anywhere even near as glorious as yours does, but you inspire me to keep giving it the love and care it deserves. I've been trying to understand it for 4 years of trial and error and through setback after setback, but I'm finally seeing results and I feel that 2020 will be my year of progress.
I'm natural and I've learned that a lot of people who are natural really don't know how to properly care for their hair to keep styling and maintence time to a minimum. I tried so many different methods and finally came across a few stylists who taught me how easy natural hair can be. I don't spend more than 2 hours on my hair every week. I like that people are going back to relaxers because I like seeing the variety but it makes me sad seeing so many people complain about natural hair being difficult and how they aren't able to figure it out. I wish I could teach everyone that natural hair really is not difficult and how to take better care of their hair in general relaxed or natural. We just have to remember the basic principles of haircare. And I think we do an unnecessary amount of things to our hair thinking we have to to make it healthy. But it really doesn't take all that. Hair is a lot easier than we make it.
I'm natural and plan to stay that way. My hair has never been as long as it is now while relaxed. Detangling my BSL natural hair takes around 10-12 minutes on wash day but I have fine, type 4a hair. Because of my fine, average density hair wearing a relaxer doesn't work well, it ends up looking too thin and flat with no body. When I was relaxed I never needed regular strength relaxers, they were too strong; mild strength was used and they didn't need to be left in long. Also I never flat ironed my hair like you're doing now, because it was already straight, I just blow dried it. I could never understand the fear of rain while relaxed because getting my hair wet didn't cause an issue. I now know that coarse hair behaves very differently than fine hair. I wish that I had coarse hair, then I probably would relax. Your hair is beautiful!
I was natural but my hair was thick hard to maintaining and it take a lot of time it not as simple as it shows so I have relax my hair in November 2019 and am loving my hair so much And in Tanzania not a lot of people take care of their hair but doing natural help to take care of my relaxer Thank you so much am learning from you
Awesome. I say this to people all the time, taking care of your natural hair is very similar to relaxed hair - with some exceptions. Enjoy your relaxed hair journey!!
I’m one of those people I am 4 months texlaxed at this point...I was natural for 5+ years...I was SOOO over the whole wash day process(went from 2-4 hours down to 45 mins to 1 hour), was over twisting every night and I just missed my straight hair...The last time I was natural and decided to relax I instantly regretted it...Not this time...It is truly less maintenance for me...I have so much more knowledge about hair and use a lot of the same practices I learned during my natural days(have had to use different products because my relaxed hair doesn’t seem to like the same things my natural hair did)...My hair is thriving...I may flat iron 2x per month...it’s just a completely different experience this go round and I love it
I just relaxed my hair following your relaxer routine and my hair is thriving. I love my hair so much. I was natural since 2014 and I never wore it out and always had it hidden under braids and wigs. I love now that I can wear it out and it’s much less maintenance. I definitely learned how to take care of my hair when I was natural so now I can implement that into taking care of my relaxed hair
I transitioned for 11 months and was natural for 4 years and 7 months. I recently just Tex-Laxed in December because I had SO MANY single strand knots and it took so much length away. I also feel being in the military natural hair is a struggle to maintain, personally. I had 4a/4b hair but wearing a bun all day and barely being able to switch up looks was slightly damaging and I feel my hair was not growing and retaining length as it could. Now that I am relaxed I feel free to do different styles without it taking ALL day and see truly when my ends need extra care. Now I’m on a journey to grow my hair and keep it as healthy as possible while being relaxed. Which I think should be easy since I’ll just apply my natural hair care to my relaxed hair.
I enjoy seeing you do your hair. My last perm was june 2011. I accidentally came across natural hair videos and fell in love with the look. I love afros and have 4c bra strap length hair. Although I almost never wear my hair out ( go to is black scarf with bangs out) and my hair takes hours to detangle I dont see myself going back to relaxers. I feel like a queen when I wear my fro and I dont miss the scabs and my scalp peeling or feeling like "I need a perm" whenever an event came up.
Your hair is lovely! I actually will never go back to relaxer, the smell of the stuff makes me nauseous, plus I love my curls 😊 I actually don't need a lot of time with my hair, I only do quick wngs every few days. I'm just glad to have so much more knowledge and products catering to us than there was even 20 years ago 👍🏿 so we can all do our hair however we please and keep it healthy.
Much respect to you guys who relax. I think it’s great if it saves you time. I “went natural” back in ‘94 and I am never going back to the “creamy crack”.
I went back to relaxed hair two weeks ago after 11 years. I was tired and exhausted. I am happy to go back. My life is easier now. My Saturdays are mine now.
I don't understand how you've been here since the top of black hair care videos and don't have a million subs! Underrated!! Thank you so much for sharing even though im no longer relaxed.
Natural hair is overrated to say the least! Natural for 2 years and getting a relaxer this weekend! I’m so glad I found you, this time around I can do it right. I’m studying for my Law School entrance exam and raising two girls by myself. Both girls have hair for days. I just don’t have the time or energy at the end of the day. You have gained my trust in just a few videos that I’ve had the pleasure to watch thus far! Thank you! More hair, more hair! 🙏🏾
Hey, just wanted to say I really enjoy watching your videos and all the information you have given in taking care of your relaxed hair. I have been natural for 7 years. I just relaxed my hair last week at the salon. I have no regrets and like others I was just over it. I just became tired of wash days, my hair took a whole day in a half to dry, it was hard to braid, twist bc it was soo thick...4c. No matter what product I used it didn't feel soft and would just dry up quickly. When I silk pressed and I sweat or any type of humidity my hair would puff back up which was a waste of time, energy and money. It was a journey and good while it lasted. Now I just love my relaxed hair and using a lot of your tips to manage and take care of it so it can continue to flourish.
I’ve been natural for years now and I liked my relaxed hair too. I started wearing weaves when I was about 24 and got addicted! I stopped relaxing because I didn’t see the point anymore because I was never wearing my natural hair out. I still care for my hair, deep conditioning etc but I don’t see myself going back to relaxers ever. Your hair is beautiful btw.
After 4 years of being natural, I went back to relaxing on Oct 10, 2020 because I was over the dryness. No matter what I did, my hair would not retain moisture after 2 days. I tried. I never thought I would go back to relaxing 4 years ago, but to date, it was the best decision for me. I am loving that I can wear my hair into a straight back ponytail and it's sleek. I came to your channel for tips and I am loving getting reintroduced to my relaxed hair.
I love your hair and videos. I'm in a relaxed hair Facebook group and yeah, a lot of naturals have been going back to relaxed hair. They've been asking about the whole healthy relaxed hair care. And when they do get relaxed they're so happy with their hair. Like you I'm also over the questions and comments about my staying relaxed when everyone around has gone natural. Like really! Its my hair I can even go bald if I want to.
3 years Natural n went back to Relaxed after watching these tutorials. 8 weeks post relaxer. Trying to hold out but my edges are cooling chileee! Lol but I’m with the Relaxed n proper care team
Let me first say that your hair looks great! Thank you for discussing your thoughts on relaxers. With the media recently focusing on the possible health risks, I was curious to know how you still felt about relaxing your hair. Thank you for sharing how you build your hair back up after a relaxer too.
I’m soooo glad I relaxed, I was natural for two years and my hair was so much to deal with especially with working out. So much easier now... I switched over because I woke up and I was like I spend so much time on it for it to be cute and I’m OVER IT relaxed 2 months ago happily!
Beautiful hair, you are the Queen of healthy relaxed hair. I thought this video was interesting, I agree that usually people stop relaxing their hair because something happens to it. I stopped relaxing my hair over a year ago as I noticed that my hair was beginning to lose it's density after being relaxed for 20 years, my scalp was extremely dry and my edges kept thinning out (due to a bad relaxer in my teens and numerous scalp burns over the years). I loved my long relaxed hair but it was the right time to stop for me. I do think naturals are more educated about looking after their hair in general, therefore it's much easier to switch back to relaxers with this knowledge and more product choice.
I just stumbled upon your channel and love your content!! I think part of the issue is the natural hair community frowned upon women who used heat and other alternatives to help manage their hair. I made the decision to go relaxer free back in 2012. It wasn’t a easy decision because I knew I wasn’t going to be a typical natural ( not into doing twist outs and things of that nature). I knew I would probably wear my hair in a straight style most of the time. I feel like the natural hair community frowned upon naturals who use heat or keratin treatments. I didn’t give in to the notion of no heat, because I needed a simple hair routine that didn’t require a lot of maintenance. Every summer since I went relaxer free I get an amino acid treatment by Design Essentials to help me maintain my hair during the summer months (don’t have to worry about my hair reverting other frizzing up). My hair has thrived being a straight haired natural ( my stylist said I have a lot of hair strands, but I also have fine textured, low porosity hair). I also dealt with a uterine fibroid and read some research that suggested chemical relaxers can be correlated with the growth of fibroids. So that’s why I probably won’t relax again. However, no one should be judged for doing so.
I hadn’t even thought about going back to natural hair until I started watching your videos about a week ago. Your hair is absolutely beautiful! Today is my eight year nappiversary! It’s been interesting but I’m only just now beginning to really take care of my hair properly and consistently. Like literally I started two-three week ago. It’s amazing that I already see a lot of improvement in my hair. You touched on that point in the video - no matter what, you must take care of your hair. That, for black women, is the problem. I don’t think most of us want to take care of our hair. There’s a tendency to purchase products, use chemicals, install hairstyles, etc in the belief that those will replace day to day care like you do. We look at white women and envy what appears to be wash-and-go hair while ignoring that almost all of them do daily hair care. Washing your hair and combing it is care. How many of us do that even weekly? I know I don’t. So, I guess I say to myself that I shouldn’t look at your hair and expect to have the same results. I have to access my own hair, my lifestyle and honestly my own reality before making a decision. Neither path is really easier. It just has to be the path you want to walk. If people are going back to relaxers, I hope they are doing it with eyes wide open. You still have to take care of your hair.
I’m so done with natural hair. I’ve been natural for almost 8 years now and I’m 20 years old now. I was relaxed when I was little but since I was young I didn’t do research enough on relaxed hair now I’m ready for it. I can honestly say I hate my natural hair it never agreed with me ever. I just wanted to say watching your videos has given me confidence in taking care of relaxed hair and soon I will be relaxed in the spring. So thank you for your videos!!!
My hairdresser has mentioned to me that quite a few of her clients have gone back to being relaxed. They thought natural hair would be easier. I'm good right now being relaxed. Had a set back but I'm back on track now!
I just relaxed last weekend (June 2021). I sat on the decision for over a year because of the natural hair comments *eyeroll* Been watching your videos weekly, and am excited about this new journey.
This was my 3rd time going back natural. I relaxed my hair after 1 year and 5 months, Jan 2021. I enjoyed my natural hair, especially when I big chopped. I relaxed because I have a busy life and I spent a lot of time moisturizing/fixing my hair every day! Now I roller-set once a week and wake up and take my hair down, no more than 8 min😀. If I go back natural I will stay TWA. I am team natural and team relaxed. Every head of hair is beautiful in my eyes!
I am watching this video in 2022 and since I first watch one of your videos I knew I had to go back to relaxed hair. The last time I relaxed my hair was in 2017 or 2018. I spent 2018 and 2019 in transition so I could get my hair totally natural but sincerely speaking, I don't get used to my natural hair and the time spent on it is too much. Now seeing how healthy and strong your hair looks, I have decided to go back to relaxed hair. Thank you very much for your tips and sharing your routines.
I ever be relaxed , I live my relaxed hair never thought to go natural. I love your hair girl , you gives us hope and motivation to have long healthy relaxed hair...
I tried natural hair for 4yrs and it was way to much work and money. I don't like messy hair so I spent a lot of time and energy trying to get my hair just right which caused a lot of ☹. I am happy with my relaxed hair. 👍
Sorry to hear. Glad to hear you are happy with your decision. While natural, would you say the constant manipulation (to get your hair just right) caused a lot of breakage?
Yes and "BYE FELICIA" I love my relaxed hair and I have been following you and you taught me so much about taking care of my hair and I have to tell you I love my relaxed hair because of you and lots of prayer 🙏❤️🙂 Thank you so much for all you have brought to us and I will continue to follow you much love and respect 💖 God Bless you 🙏❤️ "TEAMRELAXEDHAIR#
I want to go back to being relaxed so bad! My hair was longer and much healthier. I feel like the growth has been stagnant ever since I went natural about 4 years or so ago. (Been relaxed since about 12 years old with SUPER thick hair) if I don’t see any growth by the summer I’m probably going back. Thanks for sharing!
Exhaust all options but waiting until Summer is a good option. By then you should notice if there’s been a significant change in progress. Why did you decide to go natural 4 years ago?
Hi Val! Glorious hair as usual! Yes, I’ve noticed the wave and also a part of it. I’ve also mentioned on my channel how over it I was and how I was over it. I hope everyone does what they need to!
I use the same relaxer as you, I relaxed for the first time in late November after 5 years natural. Honestly your website is my bible thus far and I feel like being natural taught me SO MUCH about how to properly care for hair, so I’m confident in my new relaxed journey. Now I know how to properly moisturize/seal, detangle, maintain protein balance, protective style etc. I just couldn’t keep up with my super thick and coily hair anymore. My wash days are much easier now!
I was natural from about 2014-15 axp until last August ... my relaxed hair is much more easier to maintain. However i am almost 6 months into my relaxer and i haven't done a touch up yet!! I love your videos on your relaxed hair journey and always look forward to watching. Be blessed always!!
I just found your channel yesterday. I'm just browsing through and I know I've found the right one to help me during my transition back to relaxed hair. I was natural for 10 years and got a relaxer a year ago. I went natural mainly because I couldn't afford salon visits when the '07 recession hit. I enjoyed the journey and just learning about my hair and how to care for it. My hair had always been done by someone else until I did that big chop! I'm on a personal style journey now ro get out of a style rut, and I relaxed my hair again to get out of a hair rut. I too am over the grief that black women constantly give each other about hair. I've recently wondered if women of other races do that to each other!
So happy that you found my channel. Please let me know what content you would like to see from me that will help you along your relaxed hair journey. Glad to hear you are out of your hair rut. That’s never fun. Enjoy your hair, girl!!
@@HairliciousInc Thanks I plan on enjoying it :) I'm in a situation where I might have to do my own relaxer until a stylist I'm comfortable with comes along. I'm a military spouse in Germany so people are always moving in and out. I've been waiting over a year! I've never done my own relaxer before so if you could do a video with tips for doing a relaxer at home that would be great.
Ok I just got the time to look through more of your videos and I saw your relaxer routine. I'm defintely going to go with the ORS line in addition to ordering the other products. I have never heard of protecting the previously relaxed hair prior to relaxing before!
Hey Sunshyne, I have loved your videos for years!!!! And truly enjoyed watching your progress. You are very inspiring. Ive enjoyed being natural and relaxed. I’m currently relaxed and this is what I’m using on relaxer day: Motions regular relaxer, Motions active moisture neutralizing shampoo, Keracare curlessence moisturizing shampoo, Aphogee 2 min reconstructor, TGIN honey miracle hair mask, Suave coconut milk conditioner and Redken mega soft hydra melt and ORS olive oil moisturizer. Thank you
Keeping natural hair in a humid climate was enough to make me turn back to being texlax and a BKT to get the bone straight look. No more single strand knots. I loved my 3c/4a curls, but not the single strand knots and battling humidity for any look I tried. My hair seemed to be infested with single strand knots as a natural 😂
I've been natural since 1989 when it WAS NOT trendy, cool, etc. Watching your video makes me want to relax my hair. I've done all of the natural styles out there to be done in that 30 year span of time...I'm done! When relaxed my hair WAS NOT damaged, it was actually healthy like yours. I couldn't figure out the excessive split ends and loath single strand knots which are a curse. The knots are the reason for the split ends and I found myself having to cut more hair because of them. Yup, I'm relaxing for sure. Thanks for the video and discussion. Blessed be.
Hello SUNSHINE! Very interesting indeed that naturalistas are reverting. It's simple..manageability! And thanks to hair gurus like you Dominique Baker and Colleenmariet (you are my 3 favs), you have showed us that relaxed hair can be healthy. You have helped to educate us and have introduced us to SO MANY WONDERFUL products that will help your hair at any stage (texlax, relax, transitioning, natural). I love that now I only relax my hair 3 times a year and the hair doesn't have t be BONE STRAIGHT. I have trained my stylist (it was a struggle but she finally got it!). Texturize is a beautiful thing. It really is having the best of both worlds. Whatever anyone decides, it's a process and a journey. Hair is hair...period! :)Love the content....keep it coming! Request: Can you deep dive into the Olapex 3 and how you apply it? Thanks lovely. xoxo
