There is a huge contradiction preaching mental freedom around food and then eating a fruit-based diet. The pipeline from ED to fruitarian/raw vegan seems to be very high.
@@cwb1400 I know a lot of vegans and none of them have an ED. Both our arguments are invalid, lol. It's so obvious that you just have problem with vegan diet per se. I am not a vegan but even quick research easily prove that it can be balanced and nutritient dense diet, maybe watch some of Abby's videos for an easy way;)
I went from severe calorie restriction to intermittent fasting, believing that I was finally “healing” my relationship with food. I did OMAD for a while and even Alternate Day Fasting a bit. Instead of healing, I developed a stubborn little binge habit. It got to the point where I couldn’t even go 2 days without a binge. Finally, I got rid of ALL the IF people from my life, deleted My Fitness Pal and just took the plunge to heal myself. I’ve been making very small but fantastic improvements with my relationship with food and best of all, it’s now been almost 3 weeks since my last binge! This is huge for me! I have only just begun and have a long road ahead but I NEVER wish a life of restriction for me anymore.
My Fitness Pal was one of the factors in my ED. 🙈 I much prefer chronometer just to track micros. But as soon as it becomes obsessive I take a break. IF didn't help me either. Tried that again last year and ended up binging instead. 😅
ED recovery influencers who are clearly not recovered, food freedom coaches who are drastically underweight, but claim to eat everything under the sun. It’s harmful. At least let ppl know that they are most likely going to recover into a larger body, which is fine! It makes people feel bad to see these influencers preaching food freedom, eating everything, and still being drastically underweight.
When someone asks you, how are you so slim if you are eating this? First, one meal can not make you obese, that is magic thinking. Second: Tell them the truth. This is one meal, I'm not eating this everyday every meal. I am sharing now with you this meal and enjoying it but it is not my everyday. I like exercising too so that is a factor to be mindful about. Some cases might be about their metabolism and eat whatever without gaining any weight. These types are the ones who struggle with gaining weight and muscle most of the time. But in my case "my secret" is NOT a secret. It is what it is. Balance. One meal can not make you skinny or obese. And food is for what it is: fuel (that is my mindset and I could be TOTALLY wrong but I'm not going to tell anyone a lie).
@@angrybirdie999 I was underweight and eating 2400kcal before, I've never had an eating disorder and a good portion of my diet was "junk food" (I wasn't concerned about eating healthy, I just felt super hungry). Some people's bodies just work differently, so you never know. That also means that you won't get the same body type as someone else just because you eat the same. Everyone is different and that's ok
Thank you! I’ve felt like there is a super sneaky anorexia/bulimia to orthorexia “pipeline”, masquerading as finding “food freedom”, that’s been ignored for a long time, and it’s relieving to see it finally recognized. I used to constantly be on a path to find the “perfect well-balanced” diet and I truly believed that one day I would finally figure it out if I kept trying hard enough. I think we should learn to prioritize freedom from thinking about food excessively as much as ”food freedom”. I try to remind myself that I’m not going to receive an award on my deathbed for following a particular diet or set of rules, and I won’t care then anyways.
All those protruding bones are so upsetting, esp going from a body that is not at all overweight to one that eventually reaches obvious underweight with the first example (which these wellness =orthorexic people never tell you is worse for your health than being a bit overweight)
THIS!! YES!!! And then them using the "people can be healthy at all sizes" to an extent YES but there is no reason why a persons bones should be sticking out. if you had a pet and their bones/ribs sticking out, you would normally take them to the vet and vet will advise to help them gain weight....
When someone says that this food is "poison for your body" I can't stop rolling my eyes I feel compelled to tell them, that they are so wrong. Or when they call diet as a lifestyle and say that your body is in the process of withdrawal because that stuff is crack, I am so repulsed. And then there is that one dude in a grocery store telling me that there is 33% added sugar in my Oatmilk and how I should eat "real" food... It shouldn't take this much energy from humans to JUST drink a damn oatmilk latte with actual caffeine sugar. Nonono. Instead, I need to go home and forge some dandelion root, milk a cow and use some forest wood that is ethically procured to rub stones and create some fire to brew some health potion that would solve all my life's problems.
Sorry, I guess my statement was misinterpreted. This isn’t a comment on Abbey herself. Her statements are always misinterpreted and as a RU-vidr, I totally understand how challenging it can be to speak about all the nurtition without pissing people off. I'm grateful that she calls out BS from people like the new freelee over here. I attribute all the nutritional information I have to her and refer everyone to this channel. I am taking about the food police in the real world and how challenging it is to dish them.
@@kittster2785only....she wasn't comparing fruit juice or soda to lead. She was making an elaborate example of two disparate items. Fruit juice to soda and then zinc to lead. Not the best comparison at all but she wasn't comparing soda to lead. So...again she didn't say any food or drink was poison.
I have a full medical team including RD and SW because I needed to lose weight after gaining on a medication and I have a history of disordered eating. I literally have a team at my finger tips, two years worth of regular appointments and would argue my relationship with food is the healthiest it has ever been… Even I felt the pull of that first first video. That’s… that’s some powerful marketing right there.
Its good to have some of these things brought in the light. It wasn't until I talked to a registered dietitian that I was able to look at food in a whole new way. Forcing yourself to just eat fruit isn't gonna fix your relationship with food lol.
Exactly how I'm trying to get help with some of my own issues. And I have no support behind it besides my mom and my doc. I live with my sibling and their fam. I started figuring out ways to include things like more fruits and veggies in just my own diet. All they did was complain about the amount of food I bought and if I was sick because i bought vegetables. They've also made comments about their experience with registered dieticians who were just trying to get them to buy a $400+ meal plan. It feels so frustrating 😔 im not looking for full blown support but their attitude really gets to me sometimes.
@@AbbeysKitchen Maybe it can be, Abbey, but I have yet to have that experience. The one I talked to said everyone knows what to eat, it's more a matter of addressing emotional eating, for which she had a course, but no room. And yes, that may be the first step, but after she said that was there no advice, no help, nothing to guide me. The other one I talked to said to eliminate the foods I thought upset my stomach. The GI doc I talked to literally said, "change your entire lifestyle", and walked away. (I was in the hospital).
Regardless of what the creator looks like, no one should be claiming to sell you a program to heal an ED without qualifications - period! Ideally you'd be able to get one-on-one, personalized guidance from a qualified professional or team that you meet with individually, but I know that's definitely not always possible. While I think people are always going to share their personal experiences online and there may be people who choose to take that as advice, I wish there was a way to stop people from selling programs when they have no knowledge on the psychology and treatment of EDs beyond their own experience.
The real problem is the driving force behind a lot of disordered eating is the desire to fit the societal ideal of beauty (to receive better treatment, get better opportunities, be associated with good qualities, etc) - and as the decades have gone that has increasingly focused on the body, which often requires either being genetically "gifted", extreme dedication/years of training, and/or often the privilege and resources to make it a major priority. Most influencers don't blow up purely for their talent, they blow up for their looks and that is why they rise to the top of the algorithms.
I had started a “wellness” journey, at work one day I passed out. Went to the doctor and he decided I was dehydrated (despite me arguing I was more hydrated than usual) he then decided to mention that I should try intermittent fasting to lose weight (I’m 185lb) as it had worked for some of his patients. I was uncomfortable so wrapped up the appointment and as I was about to walk out the door he decided to take my blood sugar. I was .1 from being in an ambulance. I had to be fed numerous jellybeans before the angel of a nurse told the doctor she didn’t give a damn about his opinion, she was going to give me carbs. At which point I was finally healthy enough to go home 3 hours later Let’s say I listened to that doctor and went home and didn’t eat? He could have killed me with his advice
behind this content there's always an influencer who wants to work as little as possible to get the maximum return from people. they don't care about the content, they are trying to maintain their lifestyles and keep on traveling by taking advantage of their audience.
I am so so so happy you talked about this! I am recovering from an ED and I was just discussing with my therapist about how frustrated I feel when looking at social media. I so often bump into pages with unrealistic bodies (sometimes with pictures full on edited) and promises of extreme thinness BUT all promoting intuitive eating. I would like them to understand how hard ED recovery is. Personally, I approached intuitive eating with the secret wish that it will make me lose weight, and when it didn't happen my ED came back strong. I'm already struggling a lot to make sense of food freedom as NOT a diet and I know a lot of people are experiencing the same. We really DO NOT need these catfishing accounts. Thank you so much, Abbey 💚💚💚
Very interesting, as I have also been watching Of Herbs and Altars where they talk about so-called recovered ED influencers actually covertly encouraging EDs.
Skinny propaganda used to be more blatant but we didn’t have the information to see it. Now we have the knowledge to know better so the tactics on fat phobia, and restrictive/diet lifestyle has gotten SO SNEAKY!!! It’s upsetting to see it all laid out like this 😵💫 thank you for enlightening us
I needed this today haha. Fasting everywhere lately. It’s crazy watching thinness come back to the forefront. I’m so glad to be an adult this time around tbh.
From someone who has recently lost over 100lbs and kept it off for the past two years (but has also gained and lost 70 lbs three more times in the last 25 years) it is basically impossible not to have a f**d up relationship with food and exercise. Anytime I try "intuitive eating" my "intuition tells me eat all the junk food I can get my hands on and not do any exercise. This obviously doesn't work. For me, food is numbers. Count every calorie I eat and every calorie I burn. If I'm not doing that, the weight just keeps creeping up. I hate it, it is tedious and annoying, but for someone like me who has never been naturally thin, it's the only thing that works.
Maybe someday you will manage to find the reason what you are compensating with food and heal your relationship with food (of course without pressure, otherwise it wouldn't be intuitive eating anymore), I think nothing is impossible.❤(I hope that ain't sond rude, i just wanted say something that I would like to hear.)
I’ve got news for Page- I actually do deserve a personal pan pizza from Pizza Hut. That sounds delicious and brings me back to elementary school and Book-It. But seriously, can we normalize body fat (and no I don’t mean excess body fat or obesity)? I’m a thin girl and I always have been but even at my best I’ve got a little body fat. The majority of people do. Let’s stop demonizing it and acknowledge humans have body fat and that’s normal.
True. I’m almost underweight, only reason I’m not is because I have a bit more muscle mass than most people - and I still have some body fat. Most people on social media who apparently don’t have any body fat are just good at hiding it. But it creates so much insecurity, even though some amount of body fat is completely normal and shouldn’t be seen as a bad or unattractive or even unhealthy thing.
Seeing these makes me so sad….and frustrated! I work as a nutrition coach for athletes ( with a certification to do so!) And come from a DE background. Especially for the first influencer, someone can eat 80/20 and still not look like her, and this can lead to feelings of failure and further frustration. The idea that your personal experience works for EVERYONE is faulty. And sad to see these individuals being ‘overweight’ in the befores…..aren’t. The mental ‘freedom’ clearly isn’t there.
Finding Abbey helped me heal my relationship with food. The idea I can add to a meal to make it more satiating and balanced rather than take away was eye opening. I started to view what nutrients I had on the plate rather than giving it moral value. Now I recommend this channel to my friends too.
Have to say I got burned by fasting last year, after years of ED recovery and being in a good place I thought I could get away with fasting without it triggering me.. I think I was genuinely captured by the benefits of increased energy, clearer skin and others, instead of weight loss but inevitably at some point something changed, and I ended up in a uncomfortable binge, restrict and shame cycle again. Luckily having gone through the process of recovery a few times before now it hasn't taken long to get to a healthy place, viewing food as nourishment physically and mentally again. It does get easier each time and channels like this are always a great reminder of how entrenched diet culture is!
Can you make a video on tips on how to eat during Lenten season/Ramadan? It would be very helpful for a lot of people that are religious and have struggled with disordered eating
Genuinely confused. You promote yourself as being someone who can be trusted. But you’re taking sponsorships from a company only available in the states, saying you recommend them because it has allowed you to take something off your plate. But you live in Canada so you can’t use them. So are you just outright lying? Am I missing something?
I discovered the influrncers in Ed recovery from bulimia and swung right into anorexia and exercise bulimia - now having to recover from overtraining and refeeding syndrome at the lowest weight I've been since 5th grade, when I am 26 yrs old. It's awful
Fr why am I seeing size 2 women undergo weight loss journeys/eating in calorie deficits!? I’ve realized I never want to sacrifice my energy to be as small as possible. Cardiovascular health, strength training, and EATING ENOUGH are all pillars of good health
As a former Anorexic and current competitive Bodybuilder and Fitness Coach who actually specializes in ED recovery, I am HORRIFIED. Horrified, I am the one who has to help people out of the black hole when they've done ALL of this bullshit and don't know which way is up.
You don’t think bodybuilding also has a super high rate of eating disorders and disordered thinking centered around bodies leading to disordered eating? To be good at bodybuilding, you have to inherently restrict food, even to the point of discomfort, correct?
@@osazecole9325 First of all, I never said that I didn't think bodybuilding has a super high rate of ED. It does. For ME, personally, bodybuilding is HOW I healed from my ED, how I actually reversed my Osteoporosis (via DEXA), and how I learned to be OK with the fluctuations of a body as it moves through massing and cutting phases. I'm 40 lbs heavier than I was but still super small; I only restrict food when I am in contest prep. That's a temporary state, and then you reverse diet your way back up to maintenance or above. My relationship with food is strong now because food isn't restricted, I have so much muscle that the muscle demands calories for everything it needs to do. So, no need to get defensive - I know my experience is atypical but it's one of the things that makes me a great bodybuilder and coach.
@@kittster2785 then what is your understanding of how single digit body fat is achieved as well as when would it ever be necessary for health? Does bodybuilding allow for developing a healthy relationship with food that doesn’t center around exchanging calories for trophies and recognition? Does this profession make it difficult for people to be empowered to eat intuitively for health (not aesthetics) or only with access to MyFitnessPal and a food scale?
Love your videos, Abbey. Random, genuine question as someone looking for a cleaning service I can trust-as a Canadian, how did you try this service if it’s only available in the US? Did I miss something?
@Abbey Sharp thank you for calling out the obvious and subtle issues because that messaging (from not only influencers-but also the health and whole diet industry) does inspire disordered eating even in people who don’t have a full-blown ED.
"intuitive eating" is a seductive term without any additional framework. For some people not eating ice cream all day or eating a vegetable is considered a "diet". What is the balance? I'd like to hear more about recovery from ed's.
As someone recovering from an eating disorder-I'm so grateful to have stepped off this miserable merry go round! It's so lovely to finally be in a place where I can see through the toxic veil of dieting and how it takes the joy out of your precious life......!
Hi Abbey, thanks for this! I once told a “coach” who forwardly claimed to help people overcome EDs that it’s actually illegal (at least as far as I know in Canada). It’s such a complicated process that, like you said, requires qualifications, experience and often a team. Isn’t there something people can do in terms of legal actions to stop unqualified people from providing such services? If we all take action when we see this, eventually things could change (or so I hope!)
For me fasting actually has almost totally fixed my relationship with food. I have been a binge eater off and on for years, when I started doing extended fasts (5+ days) it broke my boy away from sugars, fast food, and other foods that weren't healthy or contributing to the lifestyle I wanted. Also, when you do extended fasts, you become so hungry that everything sounds good, and for me, I could feel my body craving nutrition. What I typically want during those fasts are things like salads, chicken, smoothies, and grilled veggies. For me, fasting takes away the temptation of unhealthy foods. As I come off fasting, I've made the change in my diet to not be restrictive with foods but to have a wide range of foods that I like in my home, but I prioritize the foods that my body wants and needs. I feel less of an urge to binge like this and have dropped the scarcity mindset with food and have learned to love nourishment over pleasure in my diet. This approach is not for everyone, but it works wonders for me.
I genuinely think that learning to be "comfortable with discomfort" can be a really helpful practice in overcoming food addiction. I know I was using food as a coping mechanism for a while after a bad break up. Now I'm learning better to interpret when I'm hungry versus when I'm just anxious and turning to food to numb those feelings. Being okay with feeling the discomfort of the anxiety and working through it has been really important to me. I don't know all of the context of the specific creator referenced, but I don't think that adage should be dismissed out of hand.
I just wanna say, your videos are absolutely amazing. I'm a chef and am about as far from an ED as humanly possible. I love food so much and live for it. That being said I'm a polyamorous person and I haven't dated someone in 9 years who hasn't struggled with an ED. I really try to support my partners to the best of my ability but it's very difficult for me to understand as I'm also on the spectrum. I do think I do a good job of supporting the people who have EDs but I've been struggling to understand it and I feel like after binge watching a lot of your videos I have a MUCH better understanding of EDs. Keep up the good work.
At some point these people are going to be held accountable- thinking Brittany Dawn as an example. I think RD’s who work with patients have malpractice insurance and what not because this is really serious stuff. Selling diets and getting paid to guide people is actually regulated in the health industry. Maybe Abbey can address this further, but it’s just so dangerous to be out here selling this stuff to people when you have no training or accountability mechanisms in place.
I agree there are many "influencers" who shill Optivia or Bodi , or Prove It. But in the end they have no credentials and only care if you buy their products.
The Unnatural Vegan just did a video on Page and pointed out that she's toned now because she now does strength training and never did while on any of her other diets 🤦🏼♀️
i am sorry but there is NOTHING wrong with limiting processed foods to a minimum! there is so much research out there on how processed food is harming our health, f.e. the gut microbiome (and also the environment). Saying that avoiding them is an ED is insane ! Real food freedom is if you are not craving sugary, fatty processed foods all the time. Food freedom is, if you can have a cake or pizza once a week without feeling bad but also without feeling like you have to eat that crap every single day Cravings are not the same as out bodies "needs". An alcoholic will also crave alcohol. Food addiction is real. And processed foods are in fact designed to make people addicted. There is a difference between calorie and foodrestriction because you are afraid of gaining weight etc. but that does not mean that people who care about what they put into their body have an ED. if scientists like Huberman or any of their podcasts guests say "avoid processed food" people will respect that, if a female influencer says "I eat 80 % healthy and limit processed food to 20%" people say "omg that girl has an ED." seriously xD get a grip people !
its extremely pervasive and triggering. I am a thin woman in my late twenties, but when I see even thinner influencers spouting wellness tricks to maintain a "healthy physique" that is clearly very low body fat and unachievable by most, it makes me feel inadequate. I am a runner, and building muscle and eating lots of food and often "junk/dirty" food is essential to meeting my energy output, and I wish more influencers would focus on feeling strong and energetic via diet, and true ~balance~ rather than looking extremely thin. being lean is great, but leanness and true health is going to look different on each body. Altho I prefer the way I look when I weigh less, I FEEL and perform better when I'm about 10 pounds heavier. And thats okay! I would wager that most of these women have irregular periods, low energy/sex drive, and gaslight themselves into feeling good because they are obsessed with the way they look. I've been there! And I'd rather be slightly heavier and feel 250% better and be able to focus on things other than my next meal because my hormones, brain and muscles are actually nourished with an unrestricted diet and balance between training and true rest. I wish these ladies could see how beautiful their bodies are and feel confident without body checking or hyperfixating on the thinness of their thighs or tone in their abs 💙
Informative video. I dont have an ED. I am very much into learning about proper nutrition to treat a metabolic syndrome. I find most videos mention weight loss to attract views. Moderation and not feeling deprived or discipline and control is needed to get to a point of food freedom. I worry for those with ED watching these influencers.Weight loss and being in your ideal weight happens when you decide to eat whole, least to no processed, no added sugar food.
I don't see what's wrong with showing the sugar content in those dunkin drinks. People should be aware of what they're putting in their body. I'd personally feel really horrible physically from having that much sugar in a coffee, as someone who used to mindlessly consume I think it's helpful information.
Thanks for the video. I'm confused about your sponser (it sounds great btw) but you said it's only available in the US. Aren't you in Canada? How are you using the cleaning service?
@@user-fc4xg5ym1t wow. So promoting (and getting paid for it) a service that isn't even used by her. Very ingenuine. Not sure about the rest of her content then sure can ignore and fast forward the sponsored part of the video but I can't stand creators who promote things they don't actually use 😪 I'm sure there are a lot out there that do but still frustrating
I am not on Tik Tok, but learning about these “influencers” seriously infuriates me! I worry about people actually taking health advice from any of these influencers.
I had a conversation with a huge keto fan, and was swearing by the "fact" that your body processes fruit the same way it processes a snickers. She kind of rolled her eyes at me when I said theres a little more to it 😅 NO DISREPECT to all you keto fans, I just dont want to be called wrong for thinking something else
When she says "body respect" ma'am I needed that today. I started working out recently and for the first time in my life it wasn't as a punishment. I've been eating more veggies and for the first time not as a punishment. This time it's actually just so I feel better emotionally and physically. It's not about morals of whether I'm good or bad or if i ate 'poorly' before. It is so freeing. Just had a chocolate muffin before writing this too and idc it was yummy I don't feel guilt I feel full.
im so glad you made this video. ove still been following similar accounts and it has been holding me back from (using the term carefully because i never got diagnosed with ed/orthorexia) full recovery. since just eating what i crave, while implementing higher protein, vegetable foward snacks and meals, i can actually stop eating when im full. i can eat sweets and dont run to the gym afterwards to burn it off. i can eat three meals a day. not to be dramatic but not consuming and engaging with this sort of content made me the "healthiest" ive ever been,mentally.
I so appreciate you talking about this. Diet culture to the extreme is so damaging on the mind and body. I just started an intensive IOP program. My life revolves around exercise & calorie counting, with a very limited amount of foods I can eat. After 13 years of being fully recovered, it was easy to dismiss the signs of relapse with diet culture being so heavily promoted as healthy. I’m now struggling with liver, cardiac, and kidney issues. My hair has gotten very thin, and I developed iron deficiency anemia so severe that I need transfusions. Also, despite being very active, I’ve begun developing pressure ulcers. With makeup and hair extensions, these negative consequences are easy enough to hide, which is more evidence that influencers don’t talk about the negative effects of their extreme diets.
I'm also concerned at the percentage of Dietitians/Nutritionists who previously had EDs and wonder if they use their knowledge to cover up and support their condition. Not saying you are Abbey however I am wondering if some of these online fitness influencers and online dietitians aren't all that different.
as karlie said, most nutrition professionals have a hx of disordered eating (and many "nutritionists" i see online clearly are still in the thick of it). not unlike the fact that most psychologists have probably dealt with mental health issues, many may be on medication. as long as it is not affecting their work and their recommendations, then our medical history is not a problem.
NUANCE. When someone says intuitive eating they mean they are eating mostly what they like and crave … and it tends to align with their goals may it be losing weight or fat. They’re saying before they use to have cravings and now how they eat feels natural and not restrictive to them…. Nuance . It really is the ideal way of losing weight if possible for your whole is trying to. Including bigger people, there is no one way to lose it it is mainly calorie deficit but by eating “intuitively lower calorie foods ex fruits veg etc etc “ they’re literally taking out the mental stress and obsession over food which is why people often gain weight in the first place or the opposite have ed. If they see food as addictive on a holy grail they do……. So these women did “intuitive eating aka eating less calorie foods etc fasting sometimes because they weren’t hungry …. And got their DREAM BODY . Do you have a problem with that ?😊
What is the alternative? How do you lose weight without calorie restrictions and being disciplined about exercising? From the dawn of history, people always wanted to look good and wanted to be desired by their partner. Nothing's wrong in wanting to have a beautiful fit body. If done right and not harming your health but actually improving it, why is this instagram wellness so bad. I don't understand. Fasting has been linked to anti ageing, and we all want to look and feel younger.
Abbey- I just really appreciate you. The last few years watching your videos you have helped me and my overloaded "food rules" brain to really abandon those rules and go on my own journey to heal my relationship with food. It's been a rough journey but your videos continue to confront the things I KNOW seem wrong but can't always put my finger on. I appreciate your shorts where you show a dietician eating at fast food restaurants and how to make simple foods into HCC's. It's taken until now to realize what a big deal it is that I'm finally believing I can let go of this lifelong struggle with food that is fueled by my family of origin. I recently visited a family member that used the "rebranded" terms for these diets and I SAW RIGHT THROUGH IT. 🎉
Such a good video and important message Abbey! Never enough on this topic I feel like these types of meritocracy selling influencers so called coaches (fake) basically take one or two general common sense factual rule, like the 80/20 that everyone knows, and extrapolates several inferences from it that do not follow. They are extremely persuasive towards vulnerable individuals and request disproportionate amounts of money for their "guidance" services that lack a real concern, integrated help from an actual professional
You can be extremely healthy eating what Abbey calls a "restrictive" or "orthorexic" diet. You could also call it self care by eating only the very best foods you can obtain. Listen to Dr Esselstyn, Dr Micheal Greger, Dr Doug Lyle, Dr McDougall etc. By Abbey's standards the way they recommend eating is at the very least "restrictive". Their results on human health are spectacular though. She'd probably diagnose me as orthorexic if she saw my diet following their recommendations. I have almost a decade of glowing good health and a slim functional body so call me whatever you want I guess.🤷🏼♀️. These content creators give me value with their great meal ideas. I like that Abbey introduces them, there's been a few good ones I learned about from her.
I like this comment a lot and it really resonates with me. I am not a young woman as these influencers and Abbey are, but when I was, I could eat anything and not gain weight. I was active, but I knew I was lucky because I never felt the need to diet or restrict. I definitely felt it was all about moderation and eating balanced, healthy meals most of the time, and it seemed to be working for me. Fast forward to middle age, and it turns out that everyone in my family, including myself, has either cholesterol problems or diabetes or high blood pressure or a combo of all three. Erring on the side of casual and leaning in to the mantra that there are “no bad foods” because of the possibility triggering an Eating Disorder or Orthorexia seems to bring the risk of other health problems later in life (for some….others seem to be lucky enough to indulge in delicious Personal Pan pizzas with impunity!)
I've been diagnosed Anorexia Nervosa for 20 years. I actually tried to be vegan later in life. Because I could continue to restrict and cut more and more foods out, that I suddenly "couldn't eat" anymore. Back to the first sentence.. That's exactly what I did when I ended up with a lifelong E.D.
Intuitive eating is not a diet, period. If you are restricting, including fasting, and essentially ignoring your body’s natural hunger and fullness cues… IT’S NOT INTUITIVE EATING. And because intuitive eating has honestly changed my life in so many positive ways, it irks me to see the term being weaponized to manipulate people into a diet in disguise in the name of vanity. Intuitive eating is an incredible tool for healing and I hope that this sick trend can end so that people can find their way back to true wellness utilizing its framework.
I’m really struggling right now with food. I’ve lost 100 pounds and it’s taken a long time and I still have 50 to go and it just feels like I don’t want to eat some times to get the rest of the weight off even though I know it’s not the smartest thing and I end up not sleeping well and getting up at 2 am to try and find something without carbs to eat and it’s just like ugh right now
I started at 299 got down to 260 and had a doctor tell me to eat 1500 calories and work out(I don’t think she believed I would actually stick to that) but I did and lost weight fast I had to had been eating 2500 before that and now I feel like I’m adapted and I’m frustrated at 195
Overcoming an eating disorder takes so much work. It infuriates me that these self-proclaimed "food freedom" coaches are prying on vulnerable folks that are in the throes of an ED. I swear the new buzz word for disordered eating/diet culture is "balancing hormones". As soon as I hear that phrase I run for the hills and immediately unfollow.
I’m on IF for almost 2 years and it’s the best lifestyle for me! I see lots of benefits not just physically but mentally. However, I believe it’s not for everyone. I mean I would never preach about IF to anyone, unless I got some sort of medical degree.
I started IF (16/8) at 66. Although I'm fine with my weight, finally, i started IF for glucose & cholesterol control because I don't want to go on meds. I've a lifelong history of disordered eating from my parents calling me "garbage pit" for eating yet they also said I had to clean my plate. When I came home from tech school in the Navy, mom's 1st words were "you've gotten fat." Now she's 92 & weighs herself fanatically every day & announces her weight. It's so triggering that I finally snapped & told her it's unhealthy mentally & physically to be so obsessed with the scale.
The body checks the first influencer is doing constantly is problematic in of itself. I work as a registered nurse and my anorexic patient was constantly doing body checks. And her body looks too thin, so she’s definitely trending into that direction. Scary because young women are watching her content and taking it to heart.
Ohhh your dog trying to peek over the kitchen counter is so cute 🥰. Just started the video, but had to say it 😂 Edit: just finished the video. Thank you so much for talking about this. Great video!
Let go of losing weight. Do behaviors that are health-promoting regardless of your size such as eating a varied diet that leaves you feeling satisfied, drinking plenty of water, making time for regular physical movement, and getting enough sleep. If you're doing all those things and you're getting regular checkups with your doctor and you're still in a larger body, then being in a larger body is not unhealthy for you. Intentional weight loss A. Does not work in the longer term for 90%+ of people, B. Does not inherently make you healthier if the behaviors are not health promoting (such as calorie restriction or food obsession) and C. Can make your health worse overall in the long term. Losing weight is not everything.
I have gastroparesis (paralyzed stomach) and not eating enough can lead to weight gain because if you starve your body it will try and retain everything, every calorie it possibly can.
As a Bodybuilder, body checks to me are actually a good reference to see if the coach has done good work with clients so far. It's also normal to do them regularly for me. But it's a different perspective, it's not really emotional, I just look at what I've built up and what needs more work. And of course I need discipline and a clean diet because I have a goal to achieve. Of course it's nice to just eat whatever and however much you want, but it's also nice to stay up partying all night or drive a car with high speed. You can do that sometimes, but you have to be aware of the consequences, and being disciplined with food is not a disorder in my opinion, UNLESS it becomes extreme like malnutrition or even a prep diet in my case. And of course selling weird one-sided diets is counterproductive too. But if a Bodybuilding coach writes a meal plan, usually they pay much attention to nutrients and required calories so the athletes can perform well. Maybe my view is not suitable for general folks so please don't hate on me🙏🏻
Can't speak to any detailed knowledge since I spend more time in strength training but I thought body building had a seasonality to it, so to speak. Like, you build your body to look a certain way for a couple weeks or months but there's an acknowledgement that looking like your before photos is fine too when you're not in season for certain builds. 🤔
@@stephanieok5365 that's true, but we aspire to obviously build up during off season, so looking like "before" is not really the goal. Usually during off season we still have fixed calories, and right after a show there are recovery diets or reverse diets
Even just watching the third one i found myself thinking "i wish i could look like that" i dont know how to get the idea out of my head that id be happier in a smaller body
There is no such thing as toned, you either build muscle or lose it. It is an outdated term used to appeal to women at gyms because so many of them didn't want to "get bulky". 🙄
I see nothing wrong with eating Clean 80% and 20% just complete junk if you want, obesity is incredibly unhealthy too but we aren't allowed to say that today
The idea of "food freedom" is complicated to me. I've been thin my whole life and I never worried about weight as much as I did about not fainting. I can't skip a meal because it ruins my day, I get nauseous, headaches and I even faint sometimes, so I don't feel like I can be free in the way that I always have to be aware of what my next meal will be, plus I'm a vegetarian. So, having said that I just wanted to point out that even for the thin ones sometimes that's not possible either, and that's okay too.
Less than 3% of US women have anorexia or bulemia and more than 42% are obese. You need to center your approach less on this wild minority and more towards the obese people who you seem to just want to apologize for
Just a random 50 year old lady here. I’m thinking how when our identity is grounded in God’s truth, we realize our worth is not related to external things at all. You need to realize you are a daughter of the King of Kings! You were born already glowing, with God’s light within you! 🙏🏼
Abbey I am so confused! I am very overweight and according to your macros video I should be eating a minimum of 150g of protein per day since I am trying to lose weight. I really cant manage to get that much protein in my diet. I can maybe get in 60g, but over twice that amount is nearly impossible. I’m trying to get my protein from meat, beans, etc, but it’s just too filling. Should I just eat 5 chicken breasts a day? How would I possibly have room for anything else?
Aim for 90-100, would that be more doable? I'm not trying to lose weight but I do track my protein intake and I average 80-100g on most days, through vegetarian high-protein foods like skyr, in addition to lots of legumes, nutritional yeast and eggs. That gets me to that range fairly easily on about 1800-1900 kcal a day. Maybe adding in a protein powder you like could also boost your numbers?
