For Anyone Feeling Lost in Life 

I retired at 56 years old, single, with no kids. I am at peace with my life and I have never been happier.

Recently, I saw a post from an old batchmate of mine in high school. She's doing really well, going places I can't imagine myself going. She really seems to be living the life she wants. For a moment, I felt envious. I started questioning my growth because I saw someone my age who seems to be doing better and achieving greater things than I am. But then I said out loud, "But that is not my dream. My dream is to save enough money to purchase a farm and live somewhere quiet and peaceful." You are right. We are all walking through different paths of life. There is no one way to live, and we shouldn't shackle ourselves trying to pursue dreams that aren't even ours.

As a woman of almost 56 I wish I could tell the younger me to stay in the moment to understand that if you have passion for something it will still take a lot of hard work and perseverance. To open every door and walk through and to not be afraid. To ignore the naysayers and move forward with Strength, knowing that, it really is better to have tried and failed than to not try at all. Above all, NOBODY but you can make your life happen. It’s easier to sit and complain and make excuses than it is to do the real work. Look back without regrets. Wanting to ask for help is a wise thing not something to be embarrassed about. I love my therapist and I love who I am as a mature woman. You will get to the other side but you must go through life’s journey first. I also tell my adult children …. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. 🙌🏻🍑🧡Lisa

*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."* The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤

As someone in their early 20's trying to figure out this crazy thing called life, I can say I really appreciated this video!

“Having a job that’s fulfilling but also not being defined by it” ❤️ Yes yes yes! Every time you meet someone new, it is usually the first question they ask, as if it was the only thing that matters. As Heath Ledger once said: “no one asks if you’re happy” ✨

I needed this so much today! Life feels like a dance between becoming who we are meant to and enjoying the present moment ❤️

For many, our parents sacrificed so much for us to have a better life. At times, the life we are living is to honor them...Happiness only comes when our head hits the pillow and exhaustion flees.

“Living someone else's dream"...Can't help dropping a few comments when I see this line. I work in a communication start-up in Paris, and my everyday task is about posting all those beautiful and catchy things happening in "the most romantic city in the world", on multiple social media platforms. In another word, my "job" is to convince other people that grass is greener elsewhere and "you too, should pay a wonderful visit in this wonderful city -- AT LEAST ONCE IN YOUR LIFE", Which is ironically very against how I truly feel and want to spread as messages... How I truly feel is, life is not better elsewhere and we should stop projecting our fantasies on some faraway land. But I still can't figure out, what can we do, when all the businesses in the world are encouraging people to look at other people lifes, to sneer at contentment, to encourage people to constantly SHOWING, constantly LOOKING... Aren't everyone tired of that ?

I came from a rather poor family. When I was in high school, some of my closest friends were going to take a summer trip to Europe, which included France as well. Our principal and one teacher were also going on that trip -- both men whom I admired and liked very much. It looked like a dream trip, but ... impossible for me. Still, I wanted to go. One day at school, one of my friends met with me and informed me that his grandmother had informed him that if I wanted to go, then she would pay for it. All she wanted in return was for me to write about my trip. I believe she likely held me in high regard not only because I was her grandson's friend, but also because he had expressed to her how talented he thought I was in writing/telling stories. My own dad wouldn't give me $5, much less thousands for a trip abroad. To him, all travel outside the US was a useless waste of money, and I was regularly abused and discouraged from my creative side. My principal, teacher, friends, and my friend's grandmother believed in me, however. There's so much more I can say about all of this, but the short of it for me is as you said: that trip changed my life and mind drastically, in ways that classroom education just can't. I'm still looking to exit from the rat race, but I am living in Japan, buying an old, traditional house outside the city with its own well and land, and always thoughtful about what I can do to live more honestly to who I really am. It hasn't been met with support from anyone in my family -- only negativity -- so we don't talk anymore. However, the friends I've made in Asia are tremendous and I know we'll be close for as long as we're breathing. I shudder to think what my life would've been like without that trip to Europe.

This video is so timely, on my early 30's now, feel so lost and unmotivated. Anxiety and depression in and out for 5 years now. Listening to you is therapeutic. Thank you.

I thought I would be my own boss with an etsy and a dog training/walking business. It lasted for 3 years and then I moved and got a part time job at a family care clinic and have a homestead. This is what I want. Working minimally to have some money coming in and then taking care of my property and animals that support my living. It is so calm and rewarding. I am now feeling the best that I ever have and don't care that I'm not making as much as I used to.

Being 23, graduated undergrad in May 2020, been in between jobs and applying to more, I always forget to stop comparing myself and try to remember everyone truly has a different path. Thank you for this! Life is confusing and hard, we’ll all figure it out! 😊

Just turned 26, i can’t stop crying everyday feeling so lost i have no idea what i’m doing

It's amazing how success is always encouraged to be thrown away for something more. I honestly wish we just focused on our basic needs first. And separating our goals from the goals of someone else on social media. 💕

This video speaks to me a lot. I quit my job last 2016 due to anxiety and also due to the fact I just can't see myself being happy being in the position of my work superiors at that time. I was actually supposed to be promoted to a managerial position when I decided to quit because I knew that handling people and their work just isn't something I wanted to do. TBH until this day, there's still a part of me that feels that I just wasn't strong enough to deal with the pressures of being an adult. But at the same time, I'm also happier just pursuing a career in art. I'm not sure if I'll end up regretting this decision down the road but for now I do feel like I've achieved better peace of mind than before

"I don't know what I'm doing but I don't feel lost!" Another beautiful and inspiring vlog! Thank you!

I'm 21 and I'm geting closer to finishing university next year, so I've been thinking about it and about life and what's next for me recently. I feel so lost and desperate cause I obviously don't have my whole life figured out at 21 like society wants us to be. So thank you for this video

This is what so many people need to hear right now! I want to thank Sophie of Malama Life for her videos giving me and so many people inspiration and the courage to live our lives according to our own individual standards! I also want to say that RU-vidrs like Anh Lin from Girl and the Word who’s daily devotionals encourages many to have faith in a world of uncertainty and Fairyland Cottage with Niamh who shows her viewers that there’s beauty in simplicity! Im so thankful I found you all❤️❤️❤️

I am exactly like that. I work for one of the biggest banks in the world and I thought a promotion would make me happy...From an analyst to an associate, it doesn't change a thing and I actually have gotten more unhappy as workload pile up, despite higher pay...maybe the other half of the reason is because banking is not what I wanted to do to begin with

I couldn’t agree more with this video… At a young age society tells us what we want/desire… We need to follow our own path and our own journey and what makes our own soul happy.❣️🙏🏻

These visuals are breathtaking. I honestly used to crave structure, and I do still value it, but it no longer dictates my decisions. Thank you for sharing these encouraging words. ❤️

HI Sofie, Thank you for the video - I have been in Health Care Technology for over 30 years, and I too was climbing that ladder of success and trying to reach that "goal" but one day I realized the price was too high. The stress too high, and the lack of freedom in my life was too limited. I turned in my notice, took six months off to "reset" and started working again in Health Care Technology but in positions that will not domininate my time, thoughts, and emotions. I left it all behind and I am happier, healthier, and more relaxed.. It's good to see someone your age realizing what took me so many years... Bravo and well done.. Thanks again and take care. Nino

Living in Hawaii can be hard sometimes bc of how expensive everything is. So many people such as myself (at one point) working job to job, not being happy with what we're doing and feeling the pressure to conform to a life of obedience to the work force. It often made me impulsively quit jobs. I say, if you're feeling stuck and want out, don't do what the next person is doing. Be relentless in pursuing what you want to do. We have this misconception that we must work long hours and stay at a job for years bc that's what is expected of us to do. No, not everyone wants the traditional path in life. It's only natural that people begin to think outside of the pen and pioneer a new path for those of us who are lost. Perhaps that person is you! But you wouldn't know if you're too busy conforming to a 9-5. Nothing wrong with a 9-5, but it's not for everyone! If you're not feeling what you're doing for a living, you must take care of yourself.

I had felt that last year and I was 28yo. Chasing for what I thought I was lacking but neglect to see what I have. I was feeling ungrateful and unappreciative of the things happening in my life and now I lost all of what I have had.

PERFECT TIMING😭😭 I’ve been feeling so lost in life lately. Thank you for creating this ❤️❤️

Just what I needed. I’ve been watching your channel for a few months now and want you to know videos are very much appreciated and needed. As an introvert I sometimes struggle with expressing myself and at times I feel your videos actually help put my emotions into words. I’m 32 and currently figuring out the next chapter of my life. Your content have been a HUGE part of figuring myself out. Thank you so much for your content. Please don’t stop. Know your efforts are so appreciated 🙏🏽

The music is also calm. The gentle look is so pretty

Thank you for this!! I have been lost for a long time! This video spoke to my soul! 🌸

I had a similar experience to you, working all the time, being exhausted, not having any time for a life outside of work. I'm glad you found a better way.

Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. It can be so hard to find where we fit in with our identities and purpose when everyone else is telling our story. It can be difficult, but when we take control of the narrative of our own stories, we are able to live more fully and authentically.

Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. God bless you.

very inspiring Sophie , really loved it , you've been such an inspiration for me. Sending positivity towards your way today god bless !!!!

Thank you for posting this! Added so much to my day ❤️

Your videos are so calming and encouraging. Thank you!💐

You helped so many people with this video today! What you said just described my whole life. I was also struggling so much in unfullfilling jobs, school...until I realized that I was living the expectations of others. Now I go my own way, also knowing that some people might call it crazy or think negatively about it. But it's a mental training to always stay true to yourself, no matter what others think. And it feels great! ❤

For twenty years I worked so hard! To give my Mother all the things she always wanted! Starting with a house 🏡 The house of her dreams! And more ! I grow up looking how miserable my mom was ! With No money….no home 🏡 I promised myself to work hard 😓 and make her happy! I Did it!! I build a House From scratch I gave her Jewelry…money and everything! 3 Years ago She Died From cancer ! And 8 months before she Died she said to me “ IF I DIED ONE DAY DONT CRY ! SMILE BECAUSE YOU GAVE ME EVERYTHING “ two Things I have learned from this traumatic experience! One ☝🏼 Money wasn’t my happiness! The smile on my mom’s face! Was more important for me! And Two ✌🏼! We have everything to be happy !People who really cares about you, A beautiful day ! The Sun , The Moonlight, Mother Nature 🌬, a Moment of peace, The air you breathe!!! The smile of your Mother. 😔 I almost forgot! I promise her not to cry .😌

Lovely to hear what you are saying, so much truth. A long time ago I saw on the back of a heavy metal album the words "Follow your heart and you will last forever". That's exactly what you are talking about. Thank you.

This is such a beautiful way of reassessing our own routines. You know something is wrong when you are barely surviving from one day to another, from exhausting. Thank you for sharing.

Bless you, and thank you🌸 Your a wonderful soul, and i love your outlook. Keep looking for the life your seeking, and keep 'being' more than your 'doing'.

Your voice has a calming effect and all this information that you're sharing is so helpful, thanks for this!

A couple things; 1-I absolutely adore this beautiful little community you've created surrounding this channel! SO many comments are genuine, authentic, and relatable! 2-I 100% agree with everything you touched on. I myself have been struggling with this for a while. I compare myself to others who are slaying the traditional path of life, when my path is different. It makes it hard to be proud of myself some days when all I feel is that I am doing something "wrong" with how I'm doing life. I appreciate the reminder that we all cannot fit into this mold!

Thank you for the video. If I may say, you have an amazing voice. So calming for me.

Thank you for the video ⭐️

I'm late to this video but I'm going to keep coming back to this and rewatching this! I'm in my late 20's and I've worked in a post office for 5 years and I give myself a hard time over it, telling others that my job is for school leavers whilst they're figuring out what to do, but this job is so right for me, I have no stress there and I get every afternoon off which is what I've always wanted in a job, I get to talk to old people which I've always wanted, but I feel so embarrassed looking at others of my age doing really fancy jobs in London etc. I have done office jobs and hated every minute, I have tried 3 and hated all 3, and this current job feels so right for me but for some reason, I'm so embarrassed over it and feel like I have to explain to everyone why I don't have a fancy, well paid job even though this job is exactly what I want!! Thank you for this video, I really need this!

So peaceful. Things that may seem boring turn to be really healing from the social madness. Thanks.

These are very profound and inspirational tenets. Much respect and gratitude to you. 🙏

Amazing footage 😍 Tuesdays are quickly becoming my favorite day of the week 😉

I feel this way I am so relieved to see I am not alone thank you for sharing this has inspired me to live in my truth.

Really loved this one and related to it quite a bit. I also had a positive experience abroad in France, and am currently getting through my first corporate job with a similar perspective as yours. Thanks for this peaceful and thoughtful video!

Thank you so much for sending some comfort to my heart. ❤

you said you are making the rightdecision and I can tell you that you are making the right videos also...you are just amazing and I thank you for being who you are!

I just love your soft videos

God bless that you have some amazing friends to chill but sadly I don't have that luxury anymore. Thank you for taking the time to share your story.

I graduate college today & this couldn’t have came at a better time on my suggested video page💓 trying to figure out my next step has been so difficult & getting this degree was even more difficult, reading comments and watching your video put me to a bit of ease!

The timing of this video was so perfect because at times at 28 yrs old I find myself being so focused on finding exactly what my purpose is versus just enjoying the journey & I feel once we learn to let go and just enjoy doing what you love whatever that may be then I think we would eventually run into what were all put here to do and it will all make sense so thanks for the motivation Sophie as always & I hope you continue to have peace of mind & enjoy life because you don't only owe it to yourself but you deserve it

Love this and love that you're not letting yourself be defined by society's constructs!

Lovely Video Malama, encouraging others to life live on their terms, exactly what I needed.

I really love your voice and your story to inspire and heal everyone's soul. Thanks a lot.

Just subscribed! Love how calming you videos are!

so happy to see these kind of ideas and worldviews grow.

This channel is a gem and I am happy that I have discovered it because my perspective on life has changed. Thanks for creating these inspiring videos Sophie.

Keep giving this amount of inspiration and motivation to all tired souls. 💗🎐

i love watching ur videos and reading comments here, with their own experience in life ❤️ It gives me other perspectives in life.

A beautiful message. Thank you Sophie 🥰 everything you said was true, now that we have learnt this it’s time we teach the next generation what truly matters 💕

Deep message at the right time. A perfect video. Thanks so much, Sophie!

I really needed to hear these words, thank you Sophie 💙

Thank you for your amazing and encouraging video! I feel this resonates so much with many graduates who land up working at large companies, losing their personality and spreading materialism and negativity. It takes courage to set up your own channel. Your voice is so soothing!

Loved the ending! “I don’t know what I’m doing”! Great line! Yes, when we don’t follow the rules of the society/family (in terms of what should we do with our life) we might have moments when we feel like we don’t know what we are doing, that’s because we have the freedom to do what we want, and after a life in “chains” when you free yourself feels weird, like you get lost in a forest at night, but there’s excitement as well, as you felt the need to break free then it mean that you’ll find your way in the forest, as the forest it’s your home! Hope this makes sense! Anyway deep inside we know perfectly well which way we want to go! Beautiful video Sophie! Xx

So amazing post ! Thanks for sharing this.

Great video, and I love her voice. Thanks a lot

when I was feeling down, i just watch your videos. it's really make me feel better. Thank you so much Sophie

It feels so great that someone thinks the same as you and this is universal. I felt each and every word so relatable & connecting♥️ thanks a million for this video🙏

Keep calm and shine on ❤️

Love this video. I'm trying to transition between my reading teacher career and enjoy more time pursuing creative projects, gardening, nature photography, creative cooking, but without the structure that my job demands. I'm hoping that my blog can be a source of income as well as my health coaching practice. Thank you for being real and YOU. 🌺

That's so peaceful your way of life. I loved it. Thanks sharing.

This isn’t the channel I was looking for… but it is the one I needed.

소피 ! 언제나 좋은 내용을 방송해줘서 너무 고마워

Girl, you deserve MILLIONS of followers. I love every single word that you say and the way you talk flows so eloquently. Thank you for sharing all of your insight on slow living - I truly love your content! :)

What a beautiful message ...I really needed this video...thank you and the visuals are breathtaking ❤️

Thank you you are so therapeutic

Great video, very honest, and exceptionally real.

Your introduction spoke much of what I feel today. Thank you for speaking what my soul has felt. ☺️

Free Spirit. Love it❤️

Your mind is so beautiful Malama. I love listening to you and the way you explain complex topics. Thank you for sharing this video.

Hi Sophie 😊 - The illusion of happiness is a dangerous one that many if not all of us experience at some stage. Learning and gaining knowledge through active experiences as well as through books and other mediums are all important. We all learn in different ways for different things and discovering what that is for each of us is going to only benefit ourselves, others and the world. Self-awareness and having an authentic, open and honest conversation with ourselves will help guide us to our happiness. Reaching out and getting help along the way is also healthy and essential. Thank you as always for sharing and stay safe and well 💖👑

I completely resonate with the message in your vid today…I quit my job after 36 years and now I’m following my own path 😀🇬🇧

Thanks for the Inspiration, it is food for thought. Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪

Thank you so much. You are such a wise women at a young age 😊I know you are helping so many of us to remember what is so true and healthy.

My current situation now! 💪 I decided to stop living someone els e’s dreams and to bet on myself, like what you said, “I don’t know what I am doing, but I don’t feel lost.” 🥰 thank you so much!

THANK YOU...a lot of people are struggling with this one. Quitting is a hard choice because of the society's structured path... oh and what lies ahead in future... thank you for telling us that there is more to life than this path....

Thank you for your insight

Hi Malama, I am from Vietnam, it is not able enough to let me have many chance to see or watch the world or the other sight to see the world around me. I have been in the situation you told that. I am 25 years old and now i am starting or preparing for the next chapter in my life. I tried to listen more about myself, my heart and attend more about the sight around me to go with the flow-life because i just want to be life with my own life... not with their expectation. Thanks a lot!! Take care!!

Ohhh Sophie this video is what I needed the most thanks for making videos❤

I really love your soft and warm voice. It makes me heal from my tiredness

Just what I needed, Thank you ❣️ love your content and channel.🙂

It was so nice to see you smile! I have watched all of your videos and can’t remember ever seeing you smile 😊 your so sweet ,beautiful, inspiring and calming to listen to.

Just want to say thank you for your beautiful videos and for the inspiration you give ❤️

an old writer wrote in part: "it does not belong to man direct his own steps." The Greatest Teacher who ever lived said: "Happy are those conscious of their spiritual needs." When we understand what those words really mean, we begin to make decisions that bring us closer to a happier life now, with the prospect of everlasting happiness.

thank you for posting! it was definitely good timing