I'm 30 with no prospects...and still trying to get over someone I liked more than he liked me. This video is extremely encouraging. In order to allow God to move in our life we must believe he can do it. Have faith ladies! I decree that we will all be married soon 🙌🏾🙏🏾
I've just tugned 39 and still single. I'm not idolizing marriage, it has it's pros and cons just as singleness, but it is hard to live and serve alone😢
I really need prayer, I am 32 & I really worrying if I will get married. I know I need to change things in my life. Things like discipline & standing up for myself. I also keep struggling with my identity and confidence. I think I am good, then it just hits me and feel insecure. Really want to change
Hi Tana, Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate your openness. I think it’s great that you’ve identified areas in your life that you want to change. I know it must be hard wanting to make changes and feeling as if you are making progress one minute and then the next feeling as if you are back at square one. The wonderful thing is that God can help you make these changes. The bible tells us that God can transform us into new people by changing the way we think - and this happens through reading and meditating on the bible regularly. When we read the bible regularly we start seeing ourselves and our situation the way God does and this is what helps us change. Some things that really helped me when I was single (and still help me now) when I struggled in certain areas was (1) doing bible devotionals on the relevant topics like marriage, Christian dating, anxiety or self-esteem etc and (2) Doing checklists - I would make a list of bible scriptures for various things and put them in strategic places round the house e.g. I made a list of bible scriptures to read before going out to a party or on a date and I would put that beside the door - scriptures that told me how much God loved me, that I was fearfully and wonderfully made etc I also made a list of scriptures for when I would feel fearful or anxious and put those beside my mirror so I could read them when I was getting ready in the morning. Reading these scriptures daily helped changed the way I saw myself and the way I saw my situation - and because of this I started to change in various areas of my life with God’s help. The bible tells us that with God we can do ALL things. So don’t be discouraged. I will definitely pray for you. Please let me know how it goes. God bless & Take care
I’m 36 and gave up a long time ago. There’s so much work to be done in me. Healing from childhood wounds, etc. by the time I’ll be healed I’ll probably be like 87 years old and what’s the point then lol
@@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere don't think like that. With God all things are possible. I'm 34.. believing and working on me simultaneously.. I don't know when it will happen but it will. Be encouraged.. God has came through for me so many times throughout my life.. He never fails☺️✨
Hello everyone! Thank you for watching the latest video. I know being single can have its challenges and that the pandemic and lockdown have been tough for most singles. I hope this video encouraged you. Even though you may not understand everything that's going on....God still has plans for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Thank you for all your support 💝 God bless & take care.
I just want to thank you so much for not guilt tripping singles for wanting to get married like most people do, most people will say it's a sin to disire marriage because they claim you love being married more than Jesus christ when they can't even read your thoughts Thanks for the encouragement
I've decided to just be still, I don't have much control and God knows what's in my heart. You haven't lived until you hit rock bottom, you won't always feel enthusiastic. Also we must consider that not all of us are called for marriage.
I am 37, Christian, and a virgin. Twice engaged, but neither were true Christians and this only began to show after I said "yes" and the ring was on my finger. Sometimes I wish I had just gone ahead and made a life with either of them. AsI see the 20-somethings at church getting engaged and married, I feel like God has forgotten me and life is passing me by. How do I know when it's simply time to stop hoping and praying?
Hi Everlastinglove, thank you for your heartfelt comment. i know it must be hard but God has not forgotten you. The bible tells us that he will never forget us and that his thoughts towards us are more than the grains of sand. At times it may look like nothing is happening but God is still in control and he is definitely working. So don't give up! God can be trusted. During this time continue to read and mediate on the word of God (especially passages relating to God keeping his promises ), these will encourage you. Also i did a post on IG recommending some books that i found useful as a single but i will also include them in the description box of this video (please give me a few days). i hope this helps for now. God bless & take care
I think you must be careful to assume that god "blesses" those with marriage. I think you're assuming that something is wrong with you and those who do get married have 0 problems and living very happily. That's usually not the case 100% of the time and, like you said in your own post, you rather stay in an unhappy marriage with someone you're not sure of rather than being alone. I think that is the fault here. Don't assume that god will "bless" you and everything will be a-okay. Sometimes you best be careful what you wish for....
I woke up today frustrated, #1 my favorite TV pastor was at my local church speaking and I missed it and #2 I'M STILL SINGLE AND I DON'T EVEN SEE GOOD AVAILABLE MEN ANYWHERE 😫 I joined a few singles groups on FB and most the people are so sexually focused and these adult men act like teenagers and it's repulsive and unattractive. Funke, I was not raised in a traditional Christian home and I'm far FAR from perfect so the idea of meeting a man at church doesn't feel attainable either, especially at 40. I'm so discouraged. I'll be praying some of these verses you shared in this video ❤
Hi Dori, thanks for watching and for your honest comment. I know that it can feel frustrating and discouraging at times. what i found encouraging was that God was not limited by my circumstances or challenges. He is well able to do everything he has promised to. It is well. God bless & take care 💖
Thank you very much for the encouragement..i've fasted..prayed..but still not yet answered..am 36 yrs old..but still have faith and believe there is someone who God has chosen for me..and only time will tell.
Im on a video marathon and your videos are encouraging me to reconnect with God. I love how you said " Not being married has nothing to do with the type of person you."
Hi Rahnesha, thank you for watching the videos. I'm really glad you are finding them helpful. I'm excited for you that you are reconnecting with God, i know that God will do even more than you can think or imagine! He is faithful and he won't fail you. Take care & God bless.
I am 40 and still single it worries me daily thinking and discouraged why I am single and lonely and depressed can't find a Godly spouse to married me. So am so grateful for your videos they are very empowering to me and helps me to trust God more.
I’m currently 48 years old and I’m. still single! It is extremely hard to believe that this has happened to me. Since the age of 30, I spent my time working 60-72 hours a week and entertaining the wrong guys!
Hey Tolu, thank you for your encouraging comment. I'm so glad you found it helpful. It is well ... you can grow your faith by doing relevant bible devotionals and reading books etc. God hasn't forgotten about you. Take care & God bless!
I've been so deeply discouraged being single. I've just turned 48 years old. I've tried to work on getting healed but it's been along,long road. I do believe that it is getting closer. I've seen progress but there has been a lot of ups and downs. I've listened to tons of videos but I think this one has really addressed a lot of my issues.
God will send me a godly husband for me and my life and dreams and faith hands his wisdom and grace of his glory by God's gifted. Lord bless me a good man for my dreams in 2021. AMEN 🙏🙏🙏
Hi Tiffany, Thanks for watching and for your lovely comment. I know the wait can be difficult, but don’t loose hope. You are desiring something that God created and said was good. Keep reminding yourself that he is faithful, that nothing is too hard for him and that he said he would grant you the desires of your heart. God bless & take care
I have watched your video for the pass two days now and you have been nothing but encouraging to me- sometimes I feel like time n life is just passing me by but I’m believing that God will honor me with a spouse and bless my womb once I continue to grow with him. Thank you so much for the lessons taught!☺️💯
Excellent video. I have been single a very long time. I don't care what people think. I feel the abstinence is quite challenging! Lord has kept me in this and He has completely captured my heart. I am a different woman ..Pray for me as my boyfriend and I may marry. He's a wonderful brother but the enemy really attacked our courtship. It was insane!!
Hi Dani, thank you for watching and for your comment. I'm glad you found it helpful and i'm glad that you leaned on God during this season. Sorry to hear about the challenges in your relationship. Keep praying and leaning on God, nothing is hidden from God and he will continue to guide you and help you. Take care & God bless
I love your videos so much. I will subscribe to follow your teachings of marriage cuz I am 32 but worried cuz I am not married 👰no child. Please pray for me 😔😔
Hi Funke, thanks so much for this video. I've definitely felt very discouraged especially as a single parent of a teenager my situation is very different to a lot of singles and it can be frustrating and lonely seeing time go by year and after year and always being the odd one out in all circles and the shame I have felt in previous years as part of the African community and our churches (I had my son in my early 20s). I've received several prophecies about getting married and I do not doubt that God has answered my prayer but just don't understand why it's taking so long. I am confident all previous spiritual hindrances have been removed. I also don't know if I should be doing something like on line dating however I've never really felt a peace about that and don't feel that I've waited this long just to meet someone online. Also conscious of the prophecies ive received which did not describe me meeting my husband online. I truly want God's best for me and my son. But I'm literally just here with not even a single man approaching me.
Hi dancer2cry4, thanks for watching and for your comment. Your comment is a common concern for Christian singles. In 1 Corinthians Paul says 'he wishes everyone could be like him (single and not desiring marriage) but he adds that each person has their own gift from God'. If you desire to be married then you don't have the gift of singleness. There is nothing wrong with desiring marriage AND there is nothing wrong with not desiring marriage. You can serve God wholeheartedly in either state. The bible makes it clear that neither state is better than the other in God's eyes. If you are a born again Christian single who desires marriage then God desires to bless you with marriage. I hope that helps. God bless & take care
IM chirstian, 41and single. Girl the societal pressure is real but i trust God and have decided to live God's purpose for my life and have fun. Whoever is coming will find me on the way.
Thank you for your words of encouragement and hope, I had forgotten how much God wants to grant our wishes as marriage at his own timing. Your word are helping me to have faith and get prepared for marriage during g my waiting season. God bless!
You are a blessing. I feel like the Lord led me to your videos to be encouraged in this season. Thank you for your obedience! You are beautiful and the Lord has given you much wisdom. Many blessings to you and your family~ Keep up the good work, sister!
Dear Jesus is the Way, thank you fo watching and for your wonderful comment. I appreciate it. I'm really glad you you found the video helpful. Merry Xmas. God bless & take care
UPDATE: Hi Everyone, DETAILS OF THE BOOKS I mentioned have now been included in the description box. There is also a link to the IG post where there are images of the books with a quick review. Let me know if you read any of the books and how you found it. God bless & take care ❤❤
Very good vid! One of my biggest pet peeves are some Christian individuals, and otherwise, who use the Word to discourage those who are single and want marriage. The problem is that these type of people conflate the idea of an initial interest and desire of marriage with it being ones idol and not being content. Again, major conflation. It’s ironic because quite a few are married themselves lol. Their take is that if one is not content with Jesus being their spouse then it means they hate Him. The question I have for them is if that’s the case then why are they married? Given their take on it, them being married would show they don’t love Jesus and idolize marriage. See how silly that sounds lol.
Cont… That said, what’s good for the goose must not be good for the gander. What amazes me is that these “critics” would even have a problem with a single person wanting to do a relationship the right way lol! That’s how you know the devil plays a role in that nonsense lol. Even worse, let’s say that single person said “I’m tired of being lonely so I’m going to hit the club this week and…” & then that critic says “Don’t do that, you should do it the right way and get married” lol! At the end of the day we have to be very mindful of who we listen to especially regarding this kind of stuff. Marriage is a beautiful thing as God Himself created it.
Hi Watitduful, thanks for watching & for your comment. You are right; Marriage is created by God and there is nothing wrong with desiring marriage. The important thing is to put God first in our lives. Our relationship with God is what helps us to have fufilling and succesful marriages. God bless & take care
This video was so encouraging! This is exactly what I have been struggling with. I feel as though God sent me to your video. Thank you so much! God Bless
Thank you, as always, for your videos. You are definitely doing Gods work. Please never get discouraged or caught up over RU-vid numbers. You are helping so many people!! Could you possibly do a video on fasting for 40 days? The idea came to me once, but I don’t truly understand the concept of 40 days without food...
Thanks for such an encouraging comment LeeLee! I really appreciate it. Regarding the 40 day fasting - i fasted everyday until 5pm when i would eat a meal etc. I did that everyday for 40 days. I would love to do a video on fasting, it does have value but there can be some misunderstanding around it. Thanks for the suggestion. Have a great week! God bless & take care
Funke Christian Oh!!! Not eating until 5 makes sense. I couldn’t figure out how people survive without anything at all for 40 days! I know God is amazing and can do anything, but that sounded kind of questionable. 😂
Preapare? How do you know that marriage is for everyone? I may want to marry but God doesn't. Preaparing, the way you said, means to open our heart for more disapointment and more hurt when marriage doesn t happen.
Hi AS, thanks for your comment. It is true that not everyone who desires marriage will get married but this is not because God has changed his mind or because he doesn't keep his promises. In the Bible in many scriptures, we see that God is a promise keeping God and he does not lie. As Christians we have a part to play in receiving from God; living Godly lives, repenting when we sin, building our faith to receive from God (this is important), waiting on God patiently and trusting in God alone. We won’t always know why some people seem to do everything that is needed but still don’t get married but we can be sure it’s not because God changes his mind in some way. If you are a born again Christian and you desire marriage then God desires to bless you with marriage. In the Bible God said he would withhold no good thing from us and he also says that marriage is a good thing. Preparing for marriage is important because it is a sign of your faith in the fact that you will get married. Faith is important to receiving from God. It is also important to trust God. We have to believe in God’s goodness and the fact that God keeps to his word. I know it can be difficult preparing for marriage and wondering if we will ever get married but this is where faith and trust come in, we have to believe that God is a promise keeping God that he wouldn’t say that marriage is a good thing but its not for his children even though they desire it. I hope it makes sense. God bless & take care
@@funkechristian203 Thank you!! What do u think about age differences? I m 36, and almost all the single men that i meet are younger then me? Some of them much much younger and that makes me feel unsure and umconfortable.
Thank you so much for the video! I get a lot of Criticism for being optimistic about love and that I’ll never have what I want! It hurts my best friend went through the long wait too so I was genuinely happy when she found love because I understand her, but it seems she considers me a disappointment and a threat that I’m still single that she even called me: Loveless, broken record, single, old, unmarried Obviously I’m not taken back and I believe she’s not truly happy because she might have rushed it
Hi Pearl of perfection, thank you for your comment. keep being optimistic and waiting for the one God has for you. It is worth it! God bless & take care
It seems that many people that desire marriage the most and have the best temperament and beliefs don’t get married. I’m in my 50s and never married and I think a lot of good Christians get the short end of the stick. Lifelong singleness with Christian values is a heavy burden. It’s hurtful to grow old with a God given desire that you no longer can feel any expectation of it ever being fulfilled.
Hi jwow, thank you for watching and taking the time to leave a comment. I was really touched by your comment. I know it’s difficult but please do not go by how long you’ve waited and how old you are etc instead go by what the bible says, that God will never change his mind, he will not fail you or forsake you and that nothing is too hard for him and that he will grant you the desires of your heart. I don’t know why the wait has been so long…but don’t give up because God is more than able. Be encouraged and don’t stop believing God for marriage, ask him to guide you and reveal things to you. I have a video titled for Christian single women worried they won’t get married here is the link ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gE2XiD-VTQs.html. Please watch it when you get the chance. I think you will find it helpful. Thanks again for the comment and I hope this has been of help. God bless and take care.
@@funkechristian203 I really don’t know what to think anymore. Should I pray for marriage in old age? Not sure what good that would be? Should I pray that God would take away a desire that is nothing more than a painful distraction in life ? Would he even do that? I think singleness in the Christian church is a very confusing painful experience . I can understand external problems in this evil world causing pain but this is a desire created by God that is so unyielding in my mind distracting me from moving on and concentrating on something else. Why would God “bless” me with marriage in old age instead of freeing my mind so I can finally be more clear minded and useful in life?
Thanks for teaching us, your younger sisters, how to put God first in all that we desire and pray for! I learn a lot from your videos and your obedience! God bless you and continue to use you for His glory, in Jesus name, amen🔥💜🙏🏽
I love your videos. You’re lovely and very encouraging. But I think a key element that’s left out (by lots of people) is that being a wife means a lot. So many women, myself included, have lots of healing and inner work that needs to be done in Christ before we are ready. Why would God send one of His good sons to a broken woman with all kinds of issues? Can’t manage finances, is insecure, etc. Not trying to be negative, just realistic. If we are not the help meets God created us to be, why would He give us this blessing? I’m not a mom but if I was, I certainly wouldn’t want my son marrying some useless woman who thinks she should be married just because. We should be equally yoked and that goes beyond simply belief in Christ. You are a very elegant, articulate and obviously Christ filled woman but I’d bet most of these viewers are not anywhere close to that and therefore believing in some fairytale that will unlikely come true.
Hi Sheena, thank you for watching and for your honest comment. You are very right that it is important to prepare for marriage. This is why the season of singleness is so important because God can prepare us, heal us and help us discover who we are in Christ - all this will be a wonderful blessing in our marriages. But it is also important for people to know that God can still bring a person to marriage who still has baggage, issues and who still needs healing. This is because what is also important is that we are submitted to God i.e knowing that it is not just about who we are it is about God’s help and grace in marriage (or in any other area in life). For many people the journey of healing and restoration will be ongoing but God can still use them in marriage while they are still on the journey. Thanks again. God bless & take care
Hey Blessed by the best, thank you for watching, I’m glad you found it useful. I do have a video called ‘Don’t waste the wait - preparing for Christian marriage’ here is the link ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-kHZUJ9V8hy0.html. As I mentioned in this video preparation for marriage will be different from person to person as we are all different. But there are certain things that we should all do in preparation for marriage - understanding how God created marriage to be, understanding the role of a wife/husband in a Godly marriage, understanding our identity in Christ etc. The other things we can do will depend on us as individuals e.g. for some it will be addressing and seeking deliverance from addictions or anger issues or low self-esteem for others it may be working through past hurts or trauma with God. The season of singleness is THE BEST TIME to address these things with God. A successful marriage starts while we are single. When we are single we are not responsible to a spouse so we have that opportunity to really work through things with God. That doesn’t mean we have to be perfect to get married but it is wise to start working with God on these things before marriage. Proper preparation will really benefit us and our marriages when we get married. I hope this helps. God bless & take care
Your video's are amazing sister, thank you for taking your time and explaining everything so good through the Holy Spirit! I have a question, how does God speak to you, through the bible or words in the spirit? I'm learning to hear the voice of God more clear, and sometimes I'm confused...I hope to hear from you, God bless you!
Hi Talia, thanks for watching and for your lovely comment and question. i'm glad you've found the videos helpful. God speaks to me in several ways, through his word, through the holy spirit, through prayer (as i am praying i start to have a deeper insight into what i'm talking to God about, i know this is God revealing things to me), through people - sometimes a person, usually my husband will say something that confirms what God has been telling me, through dreams (but i am careful with this as dreams can come from our own subcouncious and even the devil). What helps me to be sure that i'm hearing from God, if i have doubts, is (1) reading the bible consistently. God will never say diffirent to what is in his word the Bible (2) asking God to confirm a word. I hope this helps. Thanks again. God bless & take care
Can you please tell us how God spoke to you saying you have made marriage an idol and to fast? Was it in an audio form? A dream? How can one get these personalized messages from God? Knowing that I'm a born again Christian but never heard him.
Thanks for watching and for your question. I hear from God in different ways: when I’m praying, when I’m reading the bible (I will sense that God is trying to speak to me through what I’m reading), when I’m praising God and through someone else usually my husband. If I’m not sure what I’ve heard is from God, I will check the bible, pray or wait on God to confirm it again. It is not an audible voice, it is an inner voice. The most important thing when it comes to hearing from God is to be reading the bible regularly. The Bible is God’s word so God would never say anything to us that is contrary to what is in the Bible. This is important to know because the Devil can try and speak to us and make us think we are hearing from God. Give it time. As you build a relationship with God through spending time with him and reading the bible you will become more sensitive to him speaking to you and you will know when its God speaking to you and when its not. There are times when there will be no doubt that God is telling you something and there will be other times when it’s a ‘still small voice’. I hope this helps.
Hi Lila, thank you for watching and for your question. God desires marriage for his Children that desire it & with God it is not too late to get married. Continue to pray and put your trust in God. Nothing is too hard for him. God bless & take care
when you first met your husband, were you physically attracted to him? I'm talking to someone now who's 9 years older than me, I'm 28 and he is 37. Is that something I shouldn't look into and focus on his qualities? he has great qualities but I'm not physically attracted. any advice??? I want a healthy intimate relationship with my husband.
Hi there, thanks watching and for your great question. I answer this question in my video CHRISTIAN DATING AND SINGLE LIFE QUESTIONS ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-HWze3AD-kL0.html. The video has chapter so you’ll be able to find the question easily. I hope this helps. God bless
Thank you for your videos! Just want to ask if you belive that everybody will find a spouse in the end? It seems so from your videos. Though I believe that marriage from God is a good thing and majority of Christians will get married sooner or later, God hasn't promised anywhere in the Bible that he would give a spouse to everybody. Being single the whole life is as valid and blessed as being married. And single season isn't just a preparation for a marriage. Both statuses have their own stuggles. Married women are often more lonely than single women. Both can be blessed or terrible depending whether we obey God or not. Though it can be more difficult to be single in this world it's not a plan B and it can be what God wants for our whole life. I know a lot of attractive single women in their 40s ans 50s and they live a beautiful lives, have lots of close friendships and use their singleness really as a gift for others in church and in the world. Does it mean they completely stopped to desire for a husband? No, but they desire God's will more. The goal of this earthly life is not a good marriage, it's so much more! It's Christ himself. God might give us a godly spouse alongside or he might not, it's up to His perfect providence. Christians submitting to God faithfully day by day will not miss anything good God's prepared them. If marriage is a part of it, you'll get it at the right time, if it's not, you'll get different blessings (and challenges). God is good the same to all of us.
Hello Dagmar, thank you for watching and for your heartfelt comment. There is nothing wrong with desiring marriage AND there is nothing wrong with not desiring marriage. You can serve God wholeheartedly in either state. The bible makes it clear that neither state is better than the other in God's eyes. God created marriage and it is important to him. It is not a man-made institution. In the bible God did not promise marriage to everyone that is because (1) Not everyone desires marriage. Like Paul some people have the gift of singleness (2) our ability to receive marriage or any of God’s other promises like health, long life, salvation are not dependant on God alone. God has already provided all this for us but we need to receive them for ourselves by faith. The bible tells us that every promise of God is ‘Yes’& ‘Amen’, this means God always sticks to his promises. Everyone that desires marriage can receive marriage from God through faith. In my video: How to build intimacy with God I explain the importance and the benefits of intimacy with God. Only God can complete us, accept us unconditionally and forgive us not marriage. We need God to help us build and enjoy blessed marriages. In this video I explain that the season of singleness is the ideal time to (1) build intimacy with God and experience his love (2) get to know who you are in Christ (3) get to know all that you can do with God through Christ (3) Understand God’s purpose for marriage and prepare for a Godly marriage. You can find these videos in the single Christians playlist. They will address the points you raised. The link is: ru-vid.com/group/PLYlgR1qHuxhzVa32bHaYwN3vTkpzAKWsr I hope this helps. God bless & take care
@@esthertakyiwaa4158 Hello Esther, i have now included details of the books in the description box. There is also a link to the IG post that has images of the books. God bless & take care
For people who want to see reality, try going to an senior care facility. You might get really depressed but brace yourselves. There are a LOT of people who never married, and a lot who wished they had. So with that in mind, yeah some folks might never find someone. You won't really know that truth until you reached the ages of 70+ and find yourself in a plain room with no one visiting and waiting for your time.
