I love being single, it took some time to get me into this mindset. God has used me in tremendous ways to do His purposes while I am here on earth. I know unconditional love and I preach the gospel to myself daily because that is ultimate love. It reaffirms my worth when I preach the gospel to myself. I have been praying and preparing for marriage while being single for years. I know I have worth regardless of whatever status God has decided to place me. Praying for marriage isn’t the only thing that I pray and have faith for. I have had a woman laugh at me because she said she had a husband and I didn’t have one. When this woman did this to me I knew who was speaking to me and how the enemy wanted to attack me through that moment. The Lord has built me up so much so that her statement and laughing at me didn’t affect me. I know my worth and it doesn’t come from man. I know who I am.
To me it sounds like deep down you still care about and desire marriage Saundra. One thing the enemy wants you to do is not gain a relationship with God and wants you to use God as a means of escapism for the feelings of defeatism. A lot of people fall into that and mistake it for a tight relationship with God. I did that for a long time so I know what that feels like. It’s like food that looks good but it has no flavor. God will give you the flavor and wants you to have that with Him. The enemy wants you to get artificial flavoring that wears off quick so you keep coming back for another empty fix. On a 3D level that’s what addiction is emblematic of. The artificial flavoring will eventually be your demise. The demise in this case is being in darkness and distant from God. God wants you to be straight up with Him about everything whether it’s your desires, frustrations, hopes, anger, etc. My advice would be to actually have a conversation with God and be very open. Hold nothing back. We already know He’s with us and hears us and will Talk to us. Give it a try. Even with the marriage thing, if that’s what you truly want then tell Him. Don’t try to save face anymore Saundra. Be real with God and be real with yourself. Give it a try! God bless Saundra!
Marriage is idolized in the chirstian world. Not just of singles, but in the church! If we feel we are less than, it is because singles are not celebrated or supported. Marriages and people with children are. I'm so tired of hearing that singles should change when we also need to address the whole issue.
Hi Marilyn, thank you for watching and for your honest comment! I can understand your frustration. You are right that marriage is idolised by married people as well not just singles. Unfortunately, some singles are made to feel ashamed for desiring marriage which is not of God. Marriage was created by God and there is nothing wrong with desiring marriage. I just posted a short video on my Instagram page about this today, here is the link if you would like to watch it: instagram.com/funkechristian.life/ . It is important for all Christians (not just singles) to have our identity fully in Christ; in who God says we are and not who people say we are. People will always have their own opinions or perspective on things and its important that we don’t allow people’s wrong opinions to determine how we feel about ourselves. When God spoke to me and told me I had made marriage an idol, he still told me that I would get married. I talk about this in my video ‘How I met my husband’. So singles should not feel that they have to change themselves or their desire for marriage. They are not less than because they are single. And any changes we make about ourselves should be with God’s leading and God’s help. I hope this explains it better. God bless and take care
Marriage and relationships are idolized in the secular world too. I have been made fun of and shamed so much my entire adult life for being single that I now refuse to talk about it anymore. Im sick of being seen as less just cuz I dont have a man in my life by a certain age.
Yes I get reminded that I’m not blessed because I’m not married with children and maybe God made me this way to remain single. And that God chose to bless my siblings instead. Yet here I’ve been waiting since my youth and now I’m 39, still saving sex for marriage. Waiting that long in my opinion is also a blessing because I spent that time with my faith and I helped my family. The Christian marriage in America has negative cultural pressures at times. If you are single and of a certain age you must have something wrong with you. Waiting in my experience has been mostly happy and peaceful. But most of the painful moments I experienced were from discouraging words from fellow Christians or family who treated me as though I’ve failed. Saying yes you not being married is a type of failure. I say how? I’ve been waiting all this time on God and i still have the desire for marriage which comes from God. Oh but you must be doing something wrong if it hasn’t happened yet and God is making you wait longer. That is an unhealthy mindset and can be damaging.
Marriage (or should I say weddings in the secular world especially) is idolised all around the world. This is also an aspect of social culture. Yes, the church needs to celebrate ALL VOCATIONS. It is ok to desire marriage but not be obsessed about it.
I actually asked God for divine direction today. Watching your videos is part of the answer to my prayer. Thank you so much for yielding yourself to God. Thank you for being a blessing!
I just want to say thank you . I just subscribed to your channel. I don't know why but last night the singleness period really hit me hard this year, especially around the holidays. Normally I get through the moments but last night was rally hard. I always felt like that's the one area in my life that has been a constant struggle. I will be 33 next year and I started feeling like as each years passes by that I was losing hope. It's very hard when the one thing you pray for and every one around you, like literally whether in church or at work, is getting blessed with it. It got to the point that a few times I asked God to remove the desire if it wasn't from Him because I get tired of feeling like I've been bypassed in this area of my life. It's even harder when you have the faith for someone else but not even myself. I don't idolize marriage and I know it's not the end all and be all in life. I asked the Lord for help and for some reason your video popped up in my feed. I use to think I was undeserving, and that I wasn't good enough. A lot of times I thought something must be wrong with me or I must be doing something wrong. I've been doing all I can to prepare. I just want to say thank you. When you mentioned you had 4 kids it actually revived my hope. I always wanted 3 kids but I figured I'm getting older that may not happen for me and I'm not even married let alone have anyone courting me yet. I thank God I came across your channel. God bless you Sis and thank you.
Hi Starl33tt, thank you for your wonderful comment. I;m glad that the video was helpful to you. Hold on to your desire and faith for marriage. God desires a blessed marriage for all of us who desire it. God bless & take care
Hey Everyone, Thank you for watching! I really hope you found it useful and that it ministered to you in some way. I know the single season can have its challenges but i am thankful for my season of singleness because it allowed me to understand who i was in Christ and all i am able to do in him. Thanks for all your support and encouragement. I cant wait to read your comments🙂 Take care & God bless.
Great point about putting God first and not letting other people and the devil make you feel bad about yourself. I recently made a video for Christian singles on my RU-vid channel and had some of the same points. My video was made from the perspective of a 22 year old man who has never really been in a serious relationship, so my video was mostly about focusing on your relationship with God and not letting what you see other people doing influence your own choices and mindset. (How I have joy in what I currently have and do not put pressure on relationships).
From a Christian guy,this video was cool. Once your mindset is renewed to understand that there is a building of relationship between your self and God in the waiting room,all else becomes easy.❤
I am so much encouraged, I am now 36 years old ,still single and I sometimes thought there was something wrong with me but after following your messages I have hope and have more desire to know and love God .
Funke don’t waste the wait..you made a valuable point when you are single you don’t have a divide attention, you can give ALL your attention to God and grow. I would also add fall in love with Jesus first before giving your heart to someone else.
Thank you for your encouraging words. I was losing hope. Today I am reaffirming my trust in God. I am going to get married. I am someone's wife. I will have children. I am someone's mother. In the mighty name of Jesus, I am committed to fighting the good fight and building my faith and intimacy with God. I am claiming victory! God bless you, your family, and your ministry.
Hi Nerlyne. Amen to your wonderful prayer/confession. You are on the right track! . we have to believe God's word and trust him to keep his promises and then stand our ground against all the devil's attempts to make us doubt and give up! Thankfully Jesus has defeated the devil and given us authority over him. God bless & take care
Honestly it has never crossed my mind that the devil doesn't want Christian singles to get married. Ive been focused in wanting marriage that this is something I never thought of 🤷♀️Thank you
Hi Carla, thank you for your lovely comment. You are blessed when God is your everything. I pray that he will bless you with a godly husband. God bless & take care
Wow I discovered you 4 days ago, and God knows how much I'm blessed and grateful for that ! Your words are so so powerful to me . Stay blessed Funke, I don't know you personally, but I love you so much ! Stay blessed !
Been single all my 60+ years! Thought I was being celibate too. Not even close! Self pleasure and looking at inappropriate material negated that. Been celibate 6 weeks!
God answers prayers! I wish I came across your videos earlier but I believe God's timing is perfect still. I came across your videos when I was feeling quite frustrated about 3 weeks ago, I turned 29 almost a month ago and the turning 30 bug bit me I guess. I would always pray to God as Joyce Meyer would advice that we should pray for God's protection against the devil's deception and pray to be lead into His truth and coming across your content is exactly part of that for me. Thank you ❤.
I believe that God brought me to this channel. The articulation of everything you're saying is on point. You're so elaborate and spirit-led. So grateful❤
I really like your channel and the wisdom God has given you to share with women in the wait over 30. Keep doing what your doing sis. I pray to have the same boldness when the time comes for me to launch out in a similar way. I am a wife in waiting at the age of 42. What a love affair it’s been with The King (Christ)!
Dear Renew my Soul, thank you for watching and for your wonderful comment. I appreciate it. I'm glad that you've found the videos useful. I'm sure that your marriage testimony and your testimony even now will be a amazing blessing to many people as well. Thanks again. God bless & take care
Thank you, this is washing away some wrong believes in my mind. Marriage is a gift and a blessing. Indeed God does not have favourites and wants to prosper and give all blessings to us.
Hi Strll Strll, thanks for the comment! Im so glad you found it useful. Let me know if you have any ideas for future videos. Thanks again. Take care & God bless.
I'm so thankful I came across your channel😍. I'm a single mother and age 35. This year has been challenging. I realize I have been looking outside myself instead to God. I just re-dedicated my life to Christ. Your words are so encouraging.
Thank you so much sister. I come back to this video over and over again. I can now say with complete confidence that I am getting married soon. Thank you. ❤
Only God knows to what extent ur contents are ministering to me. I should have known you years before but i know and believe this the right season God has connected me with you. Am truly transformed.
God will send me a godly husband for me and my life and dreams and faith hands his wisdom and grace of his glory by God's gifted. Lord bless me a good man for my dreams
Your videos are absolutely amazing. But can you add a video addressing the aging/Childbearing issue? I am 46, never married, no kids and now caring for parents. I've always expected and believed for my husband. So it does get more challenging to believe. ** I love your emphasis on the Word, too!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
HI Joycia, thank you for your comment. I will do a video on this. I know that it must be challenging to believe God at times. God is faithful and he will not allow you to be put to shame. God bless & take care
Joycia I'm going to turn 47 on April 2nd I never married no kids you have no clue how regretted that I I haven't. Have kids while I have a boyfriend on when I was younger I never thought that I'm going to being single for so long like this the saddest part we women have a limited time to have children I believe on Holy Spirit I believe on God. But my waiting list is so long I still have a desire to have kids I wish I don't have that
@@leyamark3916 if you think with faith, then there is no limit as to when we can have children. God can do ANYTHING for us. Read the word of God and speak life (the Word) into your dreams. You also need to check your heart as to why you want marriage. Loneliness and personal desires don't cut it with God, real as they may be. Your purposes must align with His.
I appreciate a lot your video because it encourages everyone to build a special and close relationship to God, scriptures, prayer. It’s profound and go beyond the idea of getting married. Thank you. May God bless you and His Holy Spirit always be with you. Amen
This your videos did a lots in my life really,,,,,i was just about to give up on God,and go back in world looks for a man to marry me,,cause am tired of being single,but now by listening to you,am touched
I don't know why but this video was listed perhaps by algorithm. I think it may be divine guidance. I am Catholic living in Korea as Korean and single in my 40s. I am grateful and blessed to watch this and send my support for your mission in regards to godly marriage!
Thank you very much for your fabulous advice 😀 you know I been single for 15 year. After I got divorced I got discouraged about men, but now I'm desperate to get married because I'm 50 years old.
Hi Nancy, thank you for watching & for your comment. I'm glad you found it helpful. God is faithful. Continue to build your faith for marriage and ask him to guide you. God bless & take care
I love that Funke covers this topic with balance. Be fully immersed in Christ but live your life. Build your faith that God even wants marriage for you and know that the devil will fight to prevent it. All good. I felt ashamed for wanting marriage and being frustrated it wasnt happening because "i was making it an idol". It's not right. Marriage has legitimate benefits in this life for more than just ourselves and it glorifies God. Our hearts can get out of kilter if we are not rooted well in God, but wanting to be married is not idolizing it! Marriage is a blessing
Me too! I used to think God was withholding it from me. That it was because I hadnt served Him enough or didnt become close to Him enough. We dont earn marriage. It is a blessing He WANTS to give us. A lot of the long delays in marriages we are seeing are not because of "God's timing" but of the devil interfering. It cant be that godly women marrying very late in life is all God's timing. It makes no sense.
I did subscribe to your channel a few days ago but then I am already feeling Blessed and encouraged in my season of waiting on God. God bless you so much my sister as you continue being a blessing to us.
Thank you for encouraging me, I have been struggling with being single. You're videos are very helpful to me and helped me to see things so different. Thank you, God bless you and your family 🙏🏾
Super motivating and such an inspiring video. I am very happy to have come to the understanding that "this period of singlehood" too shall pass. It is how well I make use of this time that matters most. This prompted me to be more active in church and just really get to know me and God well. I am super glad I did this now rather than later💕
It’s important to note that not everyone is meant for marriage. The apostle Paul commended single hood but said marriage would be better to not be overcome with physical desires. I’m personally at a place that whatever God’s will let it be. So as long as I’m content with His yes or no. Just as long as I’m completely working for the Kingdom of God. Thank you for your awesome video. Hope to see more. Keep being a blessing. Take care ❤️🥰
Hi Joanne, thank you for your lovely comment. I'm glad you found the video helpful. You are right that not everyone desires marriage and that is fine. BUT If a christian does desire marriage then God desires marriage for them and they can build their faith to receive marriage from God. I have 2 recent videos that address this; 5 reasons not to give up hope of ever getting married ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ecxjSJHsiJ0.html and 3 things you should do if you have given up hope of getting married ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-TrwySFji_Y0.html. I know you haven't given up hope of getting married but the first video explains what Paul said about singlehood & marriage as well as other reasons that singles may think that marriage is not God's will for them. I hope you find them helpful. Thanks again. God bless & take care 💖
i have discovered your chanel this week of greatings, thank you for the advice and pardon mw english am a french speaker. and you are right we need to build a solid relationship with our father Lord in every aspect of ours lives. Thank again
New subby here, I praise God for this channel, for your ministry and for the great and valuable content shared in this video! This is the season I am in : lastly felt led to study the Bible and believe the promises of God for me regarding my identity, God's love for me, etc.... I feel like God wants to fix so many misconceptions about who He says I am, before getting married! So this channel is like a confirmation that this is the season God wants me in! Keep great videos coming, God bless you🙏🏽
Hey Letitia, thanks for watching, subbing and leaving such an encouraging comment! I'm so glad this video ministered to you and I'm also really excited for you because it sounds like God is doing something in your life, he's doing a work in you which will ultimately lead to wonderful blessings. God bless & take care
I'm very spiritual and have experienced god within myself. Experienced the unity of all things and I love your energy. I don't label myself a Christian or any other thing besides I AM. You kind of lost me at the devil stuff. The devil is an illusion, an absence of light. There is no power in anything other than god. The way a dark room has no power to resist the light of a match. No energy needs to be spent fighting illusion! There is only love and no one is under attack whether they call themselves Christians or not 🤷♀️
Hi Jess, thanks for watching & for your honest comment. The Devil is not an illusion and he is very real. The Bible makes it clear that he exists and that his main aim is to Kill, to steal and to destroy. The wonderful news is that Jesus defeated the devil through his sacrifice on the cross. This means that as Born again believers our lives belong to Christ and we are children of God. The Devil no longer has dominion over us. For more information on this please watch my video HOW TO BECOME A BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-6cOOeeBOVL4.html. I answer alot of questions in the video which are helpful. Take care & God bless
While you seem like a good person Jess I have to critique your ideology and do it in love & concern. The ideology you’re embracing is essentially satanism being that satanism emphasizes the idea of self godship & seeking salvation in oneself. Jesus is He, not me, you, or any other created person, animal, or thing. The devil is very real Jess. Even those who are deep into the craft know this as they ultimately give veneration to and worship lucifer & venerate other demons who are under rulership of lucifer. Furthermore, those in the craft even know who Jesus is too believe it or not. These are facts and I highly encourage you to leave that stuff alone fast. The devil is a liar and wants to keep you from Jesus. You won’t find salvation in yourself Jess. Only in Jesus as He is the direct access to the Father. Nothing but facts.
@@watitduful The father is within me that's what I mean, I am not speaking about seeking salvation in the ego self. The ego mind is what is symbolized as 'satan' but it is illusion. Thanks for your input :)
Dear Emma, thank you for watching and for your comment. These are uncertain times but We know that God never changes and neither do his promises towards us. We can continue to trust God knowing that he will not fail us. Merry Xmas. God bless & take care
People got married a very young age and Mary to stay together a lot better than them. They didn’t because it will compare for marriage evidence to learn necessary skills yes baby and then scared to stay home to take a break too. But this whole thing about being careful. Sounds pretty wildly like finding yourself”.
Thank you sooo much for this video! You hit on a lot of things many people who talk about this topic don’t discuss. I’m sooo grateful! I’m encouraged to fight the good fight of faith. And believe before I receive! Amen. Glory hallelujah!
Hi LelsShavon55, thanks for your comment. I'm glad you found the video helpful and that you are encouraged to fight the good fight of faith. Faith is important to receiving from God. God bless & take care
I'm so tired of not seeing the promise that God made. He asked me to leave everything (including my boyfriend, dog, home) and to move into a new country. I did all that and then, He decide to walk away and put me in a DRY season. It is so hard to keep my faith.
Please Hang in there, God never ever walks away. “Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble in dread before them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not fail you or abandon you.” Deuteronomy 31:6 AMP
Hi Raluca, thanks for watching and thanks for your honest comment. I know it can be hard to keep the faith when it seems like you are in a dry or stagnant season. But even when it feels like nothing is happening - God is at work. The bible tells us that 'in all things he works for our good'. God is with you and he knows what he's doing. Trust him. There were times when i was single where i felt that everything was wrong etc but with time i learned to trust God and really hold on to him during those times. Find a few (2 or 3 or more) bible scriptures that encourage you and go over them daily, make a daily descion to trust God . Remind yourself of all the miraculous things he did in the bible and that he still does those miracles in our lives. It is well. Merry Xmas. God bless & take care
I'm sure God didn't asked you to confuse you... So keep the faith and trust in the Lord. Can I know in what kind of way God did ask you? So though the Bible or a strong feeling? God bless you sister
Thank you so much for your effort Sis! God bless you soo much for your efforts and for taking your time on explaining things with scripture, patience, and in great detail! It's such a huge blessing to anyone watching! May God continue to bless and keep you in Jesus mighty name! Amen and amen!
