Friends' Monica and Chandler - Romance Through Ridicule 

Monica saying - "No [I don't believe in soulmates]. I don’t think that you and I were destined to end up together. I think that we fell in love and work hard at our relationship. Some days we work really hard." That changed my whole approach to relationships. Love them as a couple and individual characters. Thank god the showrunners didn't screw them up by the end!

Chandler and Monica’s relationship eventually became the *rock* of the group. It says a lot when perhaps the most popular episode of the show is “The One Where Everyone Finds Out”.

Ross and Rachel were made for the audience during 1994-2004 , Monica and Chandler were made for all of us

Ross and Rachel : toxic and annoying couple Rachel and Joey : no sense and no chemistry couple Monica and Chandler : a healthy and amazing couple

Anything with Chandler is the best Best bromance : Joey and Chandler Best old friend : Ross and Chandler Best relationship : Monica and Chandler Best lines : himself

Their relationship can be summed up in one John Mulaney quote: "Being married is great, I didn't know relationships could make you feel better about yourself".

I adored how low-key Monica and Chandler's dynamic was in comparison to Ross and Rachel's constant drama. They cherished each other in little ways, and didn't need to rely on Grand Romantic Gestures to win the other over. May EVERYONE find their own Monica or Chandler some day! 👫💘

Wow. By making Monica and Chandler's relationship the EXACT opposite of Ross and Rachel's relationship, it became the most healthy (and best) relationship in the show.

Mondler is timeless. They're real, no extra drama, their ups and downs are cohesive to who they are. They never changed individually througout their relationship they just got better. Although they had their insecurities, they never let it truly affect each other in a negative way they always found a way out of their problems. This is a real relationship.

The biggest difference between them and ross and rachel is that they never tried to fix each other, they accepted all the flaws and developed their relationship together. Ross and rachel were very stubborn and selfish, they wanted to make the partner a match for their expectations. Thats why they never worked. Monica and chandler on the other hand understood that none of them were perfect but it didnt matter.fighting over stupid things to wrack something so good and pure was just not worth it.

And everyone thought chandler would be the last one to get married. He actually made the best husband.

Ross and Rachel were a TV relationship. Monica and Chandler were a real relationship.

"They can say that you're high maintainence but it's okay because I like maintaining you" is somehow the most romantic line on the show TT

Monica and Chandler ups the rewatch value of Friends.

Mondler is the proof that Writers should listen to their audience.

It bothered me that Rachel ,Phoebe and even Joey ,who adored them together, implied than Monica was too good for Chandler

I love how their romance was not that over the top and shoved into our faces. It was subtle and felt real in a way Ross and Rachel's didn't.

In an early episode, Monica gets out of the shower and is wearing a towel (and she looked hot!) and is complaining about her life and Chandler and she hug and he says, "You're the best looking girl I've ever seen, ....in real life" I thought you might have shown that.

They have such a healthy loving relationship compared to all the toxic relationships on TV.

This show lasted 10 years bc of Monica and Chandler. Each year of the last 5 was a new step in life for them. Dating secretly. Then publicly. Then living together and working toward getting engaged. Then married. Then babies. Nothing was rushed. The first 5 years their chemistry was hinted at and just under the surface enough...even if unplanned...that it made sense when they got together. That's what makes it THE BEST.

Monica and Chandler were couple goals before they were even a couple.

I always appreciated Chandler and Monica's relationship more than Ross and Rachel's one because they really grew and matured through it: especially Chandler, he may be the "funny one" but when he had to he was composed and supportive

I remember in like the first episode when Chandler slept over at her apartment and she watched him sleep. She looked like she adored him.

Yup, Chandler and Monica tease each other in love, while Ross and Rachel judge each other in fear.

I love how Monica doesn't want to have children from a donor when they find out they can't have children of their own, because she wants Chandler to play an equal part! I have always considered adoption a more wholesome option over surgeries and donors :)

Showing a Type A personality like me, that is Monica getting love and affection not just from Chandler but also from everyone else gives me so much hope.

I think a big part of it was that Courtney Cox and Matthew Perry really did like each other and where friends and that showed in their characters as well.

It's so adorable how Monica only wanted one baby but blessed with twins

Monica and Chandler were " the ultimate lobsters "

I said "awww" so many times while watching this. Monica and Chandler are so wholesome 😭

One moment I hate about Ross and Rachel's relationship is when, after a whole episode trying to get on good terms with Rachel's dad, they finally bound... over mocking Rachel for seeing a chiropractor. Later in that season, they belittle each other's fields of interest. So petty. Monica and Chandler don't ever do that.

chandler and monica & peralta and santiago are the best couples ever

Could they BE a better couple?

Analyze Ross and Monica's sibling relationship please

Perfect example of friends turned true love. They were honest with each other, even made fun of the stupid stuff (instead of keeping quite) and loved each other.

Honestly, "Why is your family Ross?" still remains one of the best comebacks I've ever heard XD

Peraltiago is today's Mondler.

I would not have rewatched this series so many times without Monica and Chandler.

If only all relationships were like this, how lucky we would all be.

"We May Not Be Who She Thinks We Are, But No-One Will Ever Love That Baby More Than Us." Monica.

I think their teasing each other works because it's rooted in the years long platonic friendship they first had. There's always the underlying love and respect there. There's no mean spiritedness and they don't take each other for granted. My other favorite sitcom is Everybody Loves Raymond, but in that case, Ray and Debra's making fun of each other is based on the power disparity within their marriage. They even did a whole episode on this idea.

I always preferred Monica and Chandlers’ relationship over Ross and Rachel. I saw a lot of myself in Monica and I had a crush on Chandler and so when they got together it gave me hope that love was possible in my own life.

Chandler: you opened all the presents without me? Monica: you kissed another woman! Chandler: call it even? Monica: ok! lol i wish this happened in real life

It's really impressive how much of a mature masculine man Chandler grew to be. He started off acting like a scared little boy desperate to make anyone and everyone laugh.

Chandler 's giggle when he opens Monica's messy closet brings me so much joy!!!!!

The amount of positivity in this comment section gives me hope for the world. All of us coming together to revel in American sitcom's best couple. I didn't expect to feel this good coming out of a RU-vid comment section.

Monica and Chandler were SO unexpected, but SO right. Despite the Rachel/Ross and Rachel/Joey fiascos, this proved the writer's knew how to write a proper relationship.

Those 4 dislikes are from Janice and her 3 backup accounts

That "I like maintaining you" scene is still one of my favorite moments of any sitcom and definitely one of Chandler's most shining moments in the series (though he had quite a few.)

I'm simple. I see Monica and Chandler, I hit click, I hit like.

Monica and Chandler have been one of my favourite fictional relationships ever since I was a teenager. I still remember watching that episode where they hooked up and the excitement I felt at following their love story.

I love how friends is 26 years old at the time of writing this and we are still finding things to talk about within the show.

Back in the day I shipped Ross and Rachel, but Monica and Chandler are wayyy more perfect for each other, because they're willing to put in the effort!

I love that scene when he hung the phone up on her mother for being mean to her.

After 25 years me and my wife still make fun of each other and we like watching reruns of this show. We look at Monica and Chandler and see a little bit of us in them.

Honestly, they paved the way for Jim and Pam. They were the ultimate friends to lovers romance.

Chandler and Monica are the epitome of beautiful healthy romance. Everything u said fits completely with them. They ARE the iconic couple that we should strive to be.

It is honestly so relieving to see Monica and Chandler sometimes- the fact that their friendship was already great on it's own and they did have concerns about messing that up. In the end, their companionship was based on choice and affection - not some outlandish fantasy like Rachel and Ross.

monica and chandler capture the mike schur lead couple dynamic person a: sarcasm, eccentricities, and a need to prove them self person b: type a, anxieties and greater emotional maturity jim and pam, leslie and ben, jake and amy, eleanor and chidi. as a fan of all these couples its probably why i monica and chandler were my favourite

I found it hilarious how couples like this or Barney and Robin in himym completely overshadowed (in himym it even destroyed) the supposedly main couple like Ross and Rachel/ Ted and Robin

Monica and Chandler were perfect for each other and the dynamic was so realistic. They are truly a sweet couple. Also, they are literally, two sides of my character

chandler and monica are one of the few love stories from classic television that depict a healthy sustainable relationship

Yes, Mondler are my OTP of this show! I loved how they were close friends even before they got together, as they already knew each other really well. Their good-natured bickering was incredibly endearing, as they knew that the other wouldn't take offence, and that it was part of THEIR thing! 💘👫

Monica proposing to Chandler is one of my all time favorite sit-com love scenes. I be bawling every time!! :)

Wisdom, maturity, understanding, empathy, clear thought process with great presentation skills, you ladies rock. It is always great to hear your Take

a relationship like Monica and Chandlers is seriously goals how amazing to be with someone who is not just a lover but a friend eventually looks fade you want someone you genuinely like to be around. Love them and love your videos!

Being too young to remember the first run of friends, I saw the final seasons before the first, and I think it's for that reason, that I actually considered Chandler and Monica the real protagonists of Friends. They're the only two people who have a meaningful character arc.

I love Chandler and Monica because they’re relationship wasn’t forced and it was so genuine and realistic. They were the backbone of the rest of the show. Ross and Rachel were soooo forced, too many expectations, immaturity, etc and after a certain point the show should’ve just hung it up. It was clearly brought up at the end by audience choice.

I actually learned a lot about where my boyfriend and I are in our own relationship from this video. Thank you.

My all-time favorite sitcom couple. Mondler was a match made in heaven. Ugh, the feels! They give me hope for love.

I was never able to get into this show until they became a couple.

Always seemed that Rachel and Phoebe were envious of their relationship

The best couple in Friends! Love their chemistry!

When everyone acknowledges the kind of a guy Chandler is but forget the reason for him being that is actually Monica❤️

These two were definitely the life blood of Friends. Their relationship became the heart of the show x

can't wait for when you eventually talk about Jake and Amy !!!

Monica and Chandler are truly the best on-screen couple I've ever seen.

The thing is they both knew their soulmates,but still ended up with person they really love😭❤

This video just gave me so much relationship advice that books couldn’t

You bet i play every Mondler related video, i really love this couple so much more than Ross and Rachel there is something about Chandler and Monica, their relationship is so healthy and real. I love that one episode where Chandler tried to clean the apartment and then Ross freaks him out by telling that Monica will be angry at him because Monica knows when something jas change on her place, but in the end Monica appreciates what Chandler did. It goes to shows that Monica is already comfortable letting other people takes control on things around her.

Two more things I would add that is likely why Chandler and Monica's relationship lasts compared to other relationships on the show: 1)It happened naturally and they were never forcing each other into a relationship 2)Their trust is what cemented and bonded their relationship, the perks of starting off as friends VS casual hook up, crushes, etc.

My take from these retrospectives is that Ross and Rachel's friends were FREAKING SAINTS for putting up with all their drama.

"Most importantly, we see we can not change our partners but we can offer them space to grow and our unconditional positive regard while they do and we can remind them that it is ok to laugh at ourselves"...Thank you

Monica and Chandler invented romantic banter

I like how half the fandom agree they prefer Monica and Chandler to Rachel and Ross. The on and off Rachel and Ross constantly did got tired with audiences. But their close friends have a better relationship they never realize was more healthy than their own.

100% facts: Even unscripted they were already "something". Their relationship didn't star from nowhere like Ross and Rachel or Joey and Rachel.

The difference between Monica+Chandler and Ross+Rachel is that Mondler was a real love story of two imperfect people growing up together, not a pre planned relationship that HAS to work out in the end because the script said so

Last time I am this early, Monica and Chandler are just 'goofing' around

Monica had many toxic traits. Chandler himself was insecure,afraid of a committed relationship. But the thing that amazes me most that,they never tried to fix each other.Instead they embraced each other with their flaws and found comfort in each other. And thats why Mondler could become a healthy and successful couple. Ross and Rachel were way too toxic for each other.Mondler was really the glue of the group.

Wow thankyou so much for saying that line "It's important to meet people where they actually are not where you want them to be"

ross and rachel is the typical tv romcom trope that ends with the character getting together but you do not see what the relationship is like Chandler and Monica got together, we saw how solid their relationship is, how they go through challenges... their maturity and self-awareness is such they decide first to hide the relationship from their friends to give it a chance to grow before submitting it to the scrutiny of the rest of the group

I also love how their relationship problems weren't linked to them being toxic but because of real life shit. Like Chandler having to live in Tulsa 5 days a week and they had to work extra hard to make their relationship work or when they had fertility problems and decided to adopt a baby or when Chandler decided to change his career and they had to live off on a budget that were lesser than they were used to or when Chandler had to actually face his terrible relationship with his father and invite them to their wedding or when Monica was feeling insecure and unsure of herself because of her mother, Chandler was always there to reassure her and remind her he loves her. You know, real life actual problems that actually make a relationship stronger. And they went through it all together with so much understanding and commitment to each other that makes you just wish the very best for the both of them because their love is so genuine. They really are the complete opposite of Rachel and Ross. While Ross was obviously the favorite child and was worshipped from the day he was born, Monica was always the fat sibling/friend who was always criticized and belittled by her mother. Rachel was the rich popular girl that everyone loved and envied and everything came easy for her while Chandler had to develop his own coping mechanism like making jokes to make people like him because he had such an unstable childhood. I think Chandler and Monica just understood how rare unconditional love and acceptance really is once they found it with each other because they never had it growing up which makes them work harder in their relationship because those things never came easy for them.

Monica and Chandler represent that what we want v what we need in a partner are two different things. Hence why Monica and Chandler work so well together, because they actually support and care for one another. Ross and Rachel are essentially the opposite, it's based more of want than actual need and therefore it crumbles.

My wife and I have a rule; Always go for the joke. You can apologize after if its warranted but jokes and laughter come first.

I think for me what makes the connection work is that there were always these subtle hints ways before they ended up together making it much more satisfying when did they did in a way it felt believable for instance in season 1 When Ross is having Ben you see that Monica has the same wish for herself someday watching as many people pass by with there newborns she exclaims it’s not fair and she wants one chandler is the one that goes up to her to reassure her she will get one even offering to get together with her if they’re older and single to fulfill her dream of motherhood then in the flashback episode that takes place just before the series you can see chandler found Monica attractive enough and didn’t understand why she didn’t have a boyfriend i think the two natural chemistry showed through the earlier seasons which made the pay off better in the end when they hooked up

Mondler is my second favourite couple, just behind Zenmasters (Jackie & Hyde from That 70s show) and they actually have a lot in common. Most importantly that them both didn’t try to fix their partners, they accepted each other’s flaws and work through them. 😊❤️

Monica and Chandler was my relationship goal.

honestly, i think part of the reason that the chemistry between mon and chandler was so strong, was because of the chemistry between matthew and courtney 🫶

Monica and Chandler are the best couple and the only good couple in Friends

PLS DO A VIDEO ON CHANDLER AND JOEY THE IMPORANCE OF BROMANCE