Friends' Richard - The One that Got Away 

Monice and Chandler ❤️

Can you add a list of all the movies you mention and compare in your videos? It would be super helpful and I would love to watch the ones I haven't seen before just to get a better understanding of the comparisons if nothing else!

Hey, what's the music you used in this video? Sounds so familiar it's bugging me

Why do you guys dislike Chandler or something?

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ΑΡΙΣΤΟΤΕΛΗΣ ΛΑΧΑΝΟΠΟΥΛΟΣ I literally laughed out loud

OH... MY... GOD!

loooooool

haha they are two guest actors that I love

amazin

Mega Margaux so true. If i was Monica’s dad i would have been way more angry.

Yeah, but she was 'fat' back then, hence 'unattractive' (according to the show's logic), and hence he wouldn't have considered her that way. Apparently, and again, in the story, not even boys her age did.

cynical cenobia the fact that Monica’s attractiveness determines if the relationship is creepy is kinda messed up, dont you agree? Same goes for Richard, im sure if he was played by a less good-looking actor people would feel a bit different. But Tom Selleck is hot so its ok.

true, atleast they seem to haven"t seen eachother years before. otherwise it would just be creepy

@@claymathews8814 You really can''t read, can you? I specifically highlighted that within the universe of the show Friends, 'fat Monica' was meant to be unattractive - it was a running joke pretty much throughout the whole series that men weren't interested in her in the past bc of her weight. So, no, I strongly doubt that Richard looked at her at 6 and thought: 'can't wait for her to be legal.' So do take your post-modern virtue-signalling feminist rubbish where it belongs: the depths of intentional misreading & stupidity. Thanks.

right on

Well said 👍

I agree, Richard might have been the dashing, sophisticated older gentleman that Monica THOUGHT that she wanted, but Chandler was the sweet, charming goof ball that Monica loved and needed! 💘👫

Heyyy speak for yourself I had the biggest crush in Chandler, nah I 100% get what you mean though :) ❤️ I have a thing for self deprecating humour so I’ve always fancied Chandler lol

Yup, no where is this more evident in the episode when they're starting the wedding planning and Chandler says that he doesn't want to spend all his savings on a wedding, and he talks about the future of a home outside the city and children...Chandler sees the whole picture, the life that the wedding with Monica truly marks the start of

"Mommy issues" but yeah

It's "Parents issues"

Her dad wasn't all that bad tbh

I'm thinking Electra Complex

Monica had parents' issues, not only with her father. Her mother was even more annoying.

I second that, there's also the issue of him being her dad's best friend, and he likely saw her grow up in front of him, even if he never actually found Monica attractive until she was well in her twenties.

Maybe he imprinted on her, Jacob style.

@@lh9591 YOU NICKNAMED MY DAUGHTER AFTER THE LOCH NESS MONSTER?!

I don't think the age difference is bad because they are both legal adults, but I do think the fact that he knew her when she was little was weird. Still prefer them over Mondler anyday though

Tell that to Vic Sotto, a Filipino celebrity who literally carried his wife as a baby years before he married her. 😂

But you build the right one, it doesn't magically appear.

That's beautiful.

I love that

Sebas Tian I could not love this post more.

After the most horrible divorce and heartbreak at a very young age, this has brought me comfort in very low moments

😂😂😂

Communication is key in a relationship

"I feel so bad for you. That's YOUR ex. And I have Richard

Her losing all that weight took a lot of discipline too.

I love Monica. And Mondler is the best couple in the show

YES YES YES!!!! I hate when Monica are judged exactly for what makes her so strong, and for someone like me, who loves discipline and organization, she's a sweet reminder that I'm not crazy, just a little bit Monica.

Me too!

Totally. Monica is realistic, Rachel is more a dreamer. She works for what she has and her couple with Chandler is way more realistic.

absolutely nailed it.

100%

Also if you think about it, if Monika had the whole struggling to birth a child issue with Richard, he most likely would have told her to give up as he never really wanted children anyway whereas Chandler did whatever it took to try and fulfil her dream of becoming a mother and finally found a solution. Richard would have never opted for adoption

Yess

YUUUPPP THEY BROUGHT OUT THE BEST IN EACH OTHER

Eh, that is not aleays true. Love can last.

We used to be idiots

u had to make it weird😂

@@aryamanm2170 its the truth

@@monsterenergyfiendd but u dont say it out loud godammit..omg im gonna have nightmares now..

@@aryamanm2170 Hahaha I'm sorry

Or in this case, Erica...

@Jay Anthony WHAT?! Are you saying a man can't know a kid without sexualising her?

NewsFromNY you said that acting like it’s not weird when it IS weird.

I agree. The age difference never bothered me. Him knowing her as she grew up and being her dad's best friend was creepy to me.

NewsFromNY the knowing her as a child part and the sleeping with the babusitter part

​@@rachelsanchis I mean yeah, nothing is wrong with that. As long as the relationship is two consenting adults on the same mental wavelength, who cares? I'd like to give your parents the benefit of the doubt and say your dad didn't see your mom in a more sexualized light until they were both adults. I don't think there's absolutely anything inherently wrong with that because it's specifically not predatory. And I don't think there's any reason for those people to be apart if they suit each other. But if I were either of the people in the relationship, it would make me feel weird and I would just try not to think about it too much. But weird does not necessarily equal wrong in my book. So good for them, I hope they continue their happiness for decades to come.

Agreed! He just got back Minsk after a failed research project, he loves Phoebe so much since the beginning and his ending was humiliating.

I think that David WAS Phoebe's endgame, after breakup with Mike, that would be the reason why they brought him back. But since the viewers loved Phoebe&Mike so much they rewrote the story in a - I gotta say - sloppy, harsh way.

@@AgnessaMo exactly that was the original plan

Agnieszka M personally, i love david for phoebe more than mike. mike was kinda....meh. idk i just felt like there was so much build up with david and phoebe and to just squash their love story like that felt really shitty.

Oh I loved David and sometimes when I'm rewatching Friends, I wonder if he might have been a better choice for Phoebe.

Black Ninja it’s still weird idk how you can defend even whatever your reason is

I know, even though Richard and Monica were both adults when they started dating, it's still somewhat icky that he knew her from when she was a small child. 😳

@Black Ninja and it still sounds disgusting

Yup imagine how the parents would have felt

Not really People focusing on age gaps rather than what the two acutely are at the moment and what they want is kind of annoying, they choose each other and both are adults

I agree, while Phoebe is my favourite of the three leading ladies, I've realized that I'm a total Monica, since I have her obsession with being clean, cooking, and looking after people! 🍳😂

@@trinaq You and me both. Monica has been my favorite of the girls since childhood but, as I get older, I realize I relate with her the most.

Agreed. I love her and I see myself in her

@Chris I see why. Rachel is kinda like representing the "ambition" of females to be independent, strong but still loving and caring towards their kin.

To me, that's Phoebe, although Rachel is probably my favorite, but I definitely see where you're coming from

Definitely, the writer's could never even remember their own canon. Joey: "I have only ever been in love once, with you [Rachel]." Season 3: "HELLO!!!"

Tyrant-Den wait what happened in season 3

@@ClairandHerImaginaryCat Joey has an intense relationship with this actress Kate, which was at least as serious as anything he felt for Rachel except it was also believable and not forced.

@Elisabeth Fitness I hv heard almost 14 writes worked on the show during its peak .

it's always easier to see things from almost 2 decades later than when the show was still running

Nymeria that’s amazing

Congrats! An awesome origin story! What a beautiful thing, through sickness and health to walk hand in hand with a partner, to know you won’t take the turns alone. I hope you have many happy years together.

Nymeria, congratulations!

Aawww

Noiceee

Hear hear!

Amen

Real

FIESTA FLANDERS Yeah!! They should do one on the love triangle of Elizabeth Swann, Will Turner and Commodore Norrington I’ve heard decent arguments for why she should’ve been with him. Bold move by Disney for them to encourage her to go with the risky romantic option

@@MalloryNewcomb Since we're talking about Disney here, pairing her with Norrington would have been way bolder move.

pretty cool

Which one was Ross?

davincent98- he doesn't fit in this trope. He's more of a "nice guy"

bs4e ooooh. That’s true. I’m reframing my narrative in my own “the one that got away” story after this.

Me too. Im was looking this comment

Nah. He found love again.

I don't think so, he's old enough to not need a romantic partner for life anymore. But Monica, of course, is better of with Chandler.

Fer Aguilar Aw!! That’s not a nice view of older ppl. I’m not that old yet but I’m 35 and I hope ppl don’t think about me like that if I’m still single at 55! Lol jeez.

This is a pretty bad take tho

Heyyy,, I hope you are doing good.

@@JaveriaYousuf thank you for asking. I didn't even remember about this comment I made 7 months ago 😂😂 I have been well. Really well. I have accepted my reality and made peace with what happened. And almost happy making a life for me, myself and I 😋

@@Thisworldisagoner yaaas. I'm happy to hear that. 💖

How are you now?! 😊😊

The same thing happened to me recently and I completely felt what you felt. Hope you're doing much better now, and I know time will heal everything.

Yvanna Bats Thank you!

Yeah, it's one thing for people to have large age gaps. I have no problem, as long as both are adults, and it's a genuine loving relationship But when it goes so far as the elder knowing the younger when they were a Child it's just weird.... 😳

Luckily, Monica and Tim, Richard's son, realized how icky it would be if they got together, and the other friends even lampshade it with "If things work out between you and Tim, you'll be able to tell your kids "That's not how your grandfather used to do it"! 😳

I remember finding out that richard had a son monica's age and I wished so hard that they had run into each other before grown-up Monica met Richard.

If she started dating Richard's son it would be super weird

Well, while that would have been more realistic it would have sucked storytelling-wise

Dude I totally agree Rachel deserved to get the career she dreamed about and honestly giving all that up for a guy

@@mexsand2790 love will always mean more in the long run than a selfish personal goal

I could not agree more!

@@mexsand2790 that could have changed, instead of letting them get together, the showrunners could have made ross go and live with rachel in paris.

not really, meant for fleabag maybe, but for him? she literally made him the worst he could possibly be, and we still don't know how is going to turn out for her, she still has a lot to deal with

@@Jacksabbath44 I agree with you even tho I ship them. But the ending where they split up is still one of the most gut wrenching scene ever.

This 'Fleabag' isn't a 10-year old altar boy I hope?

@main I'm 99% sure it was a joke. No need to get defensive.

@@ives6622 It was.

Well explained, thank you for writing this!

@@Kiuraish I dont get their point

There are loves that are special and nothing will ever compare. That is what the trope means.

Raul What this person is trying to say is that sometimes, you are in love with the idea of the TIME you spent with that person rather than the love you used to share. It’s why “High School Lost Loves” are so common, because people miss being young and having no worries rather than the person themselves. Super random example, but it’s kinda like how King Henry the VIII idealized Jane Seymour (his third wife) because she died very early into their marriage (a year after). At the time of her death, he was still one of the most attractive men alive, had just gotten the heir he so wanted, and his reign was thriving. On his deathbed, when he was fat and stinky and ugly and hated by nearly everyone, he demanded to be buried next to him as she “was the only one he truly loved” (this, again, was coming from a man with six wives). Which, according to historians, was completely false when Jane was alive-as he had been threatening her with violence constantly, forbidden from speaking publicly, and it was fairly well-known that he had told his courtiers that if she failed to give him a son or made him angry he would have her executed like her cousin (his previous wife. But, because he associated his peak with the time she was in his life, she became the symbol of everything he missed. TLDR; Some people don’t miss the relationship; they miss the person they use to be.

While I do agree with this, miss opportunities are real too. I know a number of people who did find their way into each other again and got married. They made it work as they've grown more mature enough to handle the relationship better.

Kate Roy I remember that and being like that’s quite the way to confess you love Monica and also I felt that line but as a straight female

Isnt that how it supposed to be though?

Humanoide #707 That’s what my Dad always says. But I think the distinction isn’t just that you only have sex with people you feel strongly connected to emotionally, but you don’t really feel... aroused by someone until you form a mental bond. They’re not really seen as a prospective love interest until they fire up your mind and establish common ground. You can notice someone is extremely attractive or in revealing clothes without having a sexual response. But at some point the switch gets flipped. I think it’s part of why I think the saying, “It meant nothing to me,” when an affair is discovered is the worst thing in the world to hear. If you’re going to ruin everything, all the trust in the relationship, it BETTER the hell be for the true love of your life you found belatedly. If it’s... just some no one and a cheap trifling thing you could so easily have passed on, and merely didn’t feel the need to... why is that somehow better!?!? I do wonder if demisexuals have more secure marriages, due to less cheating and being married to someone they have a common bond with before they dealt with intense sexual urges. Being married to your best friend is kind of the best thing ever.

"Demisexual" is a distinction that doesn't need to exist. I don't get why so many people are obsessed with making identities out of who they fuck.

sharksandsheep it kinda does need to exist though. Not finding someone attractive unless you build a bond with them isn't all that common. Most people do find themselves sexually attracted to people they barely know; the thing is, if you don't act on it, it doesn't mean you're not into them, it means for instance your morality doesn't let you sleep with someone you barely know, it's your way of thinking, not the fact that you don't find them hot. Being unable to see someone sexually unless you build a relationship with them is different than that. And if those people want their label, why not ? I think it's cool how different we all are, why not express it if you need to?

Ugh, please don’t compare Richard to Ted...

Agreed

@@symmetrykidkun8 yes I agree don't put down one of them in order to lift the other up please

exactly! implying that the woman should divorce a guy who was perfect for her just to get back together with the guy who wasn’t suited for her AT ALL once he got the stuff he wanted and she didn’t is shitty writing. it would be the same as if monica got together with richard once she got the kids he didn’t want from another man. also, I agree that richard and ted shouldn’t be compared, ted is way worse than him.

I think you just described Jacob dating Bella and Edward's daughter..... LOL (I am ashamed to think I know "Twilight" to be able to make a joke with it...)

PBK K Hey, I have Spice Girls lyrics in my memory where scientific equations should be. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We all have our faults. 😜

Johnnessa Germain especially because joey and rachel had some history

I feel more like if dated Erica considering Chandler is his best friend .

@@Crochetique424 Chandler and Monica would be so mad a Joey!

The age doesn't stop many, many other old men have children so it is not completely insane to think that a man who is in love with a woman might want to have children with her.

My parents have a 20 year age difference. My dad already had kids from a previous marriage before marrying my mom, and it was him, not my mom, who really pushed for kids even though he was older.

Chandler and Monica didn't believe in soulmates though. Their relationship worked because they made it work.

But it happens, you sometimes see men with kids in their 20s or 30s from a first marriage, having babies with their young new wife

They did break up in a good and mature way. He realized that she wanted children and she realized his heart wasn’t into it. They still cared about each other in the end. He’s really a great guy

Is the rose from beyond the grave

@@pixiedust8545 No I just made a cheap shot at How I Met Your Mother

Ah, Robin should've stayed married to Barney and Tracy shouldn't have died

It could be happend

until now I never realized how mondler is another proof of how terrible himym ending was

Isabella Bass he didn’t even recognize her when he saw her again too

that’s like saying it would not be weird for Joey to date Emma later in life

@@iiamromika wouldn’t compare the two since he sleeps with all of New York and probably California which is where he moved too in his show.

But people grow and perception changes. I dont know why people dont understand this.

Homez18 That’s somewhat true but he was there to hold her as a baby and most likely there to change her diaper, refill her bottle, rock her to sleep, etc-she probably even considered him an uncle at one point in time. How do you go from holding your best friends baby, then 20 something years later you’re having sex with that same child?

@@silenceisbetterthannonsense well their not even a frigging child anymore are they?

That reason may be dumb tho. Or no longer apply

@@paloma4444 depends

@@user-nv3sh5jh3p I'm not denying the possibility of it said by Raul. I said it, it can be dumb depending on whose perspective it is.

berlineczka this is so true. we have seen so many reasons why Ted and Robin didn’t work out romantically... and then we get that ending.

Here's the thing about the ending, the only reason Robin and Ted wouldn't work out young is because Ted wanted a family, after he built one and his wife died, it makes sense to go back to a friend you Care for deeply, it would have been fine if Tracy wasn't such a great person lol

I totally agree. I think that's the reason why the HIMYM-Finale was awfully received. Both characters got the chance to evolve and find their right fit (Ted found Tracy, Robin took care of her career and found Barney) but the writers probably still were so in love with their original idea of Ted and Robin ending up together that they just couldn't let it go. When in a better world they should've had the balls to change their originally planned ending.

who the hell is tod

@@X_nien_vh Nah that stuff was probably nothing more than just a bunch of excuses to keep them apart until the ending

I guess it has to do with the fact that Richard came early and Mike came late. In earlier seasons, the cast wasn't nearly as close as they became later on so, Richard was easily welcome. But by the end the 6 of them had become so strong that nobody could get in that intimate circle of friends. Not just Mike. And Richard was awed and charismatic and they looked up to him. While mike was a little awkward and not really interested in the stuff that the group usually got up to.

I thought that was great, that he didn't feel the need to blend in, be liked, he just wanted to be with her

that’s a realistic representation tho not every single one of your friends significant other is gonna get along with the friend group also another huge difference is the fact that rachel and monica still lived together and joey and chandler were right across the hall so anytime richard was at her apartment he was automatically surrounded by the group while phoebe lived separately.

I would love this! And then if that video does well, I'd like to see the older woman younger people dynamic and how it contrasts. I feel like people are ready to judge women who date younger than their age group a lot quicker than men that do the same thing. And that's probably just because it's more common for men. But it's an interesting topic. And though the trope is focused on straight relationships (because honestly what isn't?), I'm interested in learning about the few queer examples that must exist in media.

@@penelopeclaire539 Do you know what Pederasty is?

@@penelopeclaire539 Really..? I've seen opposite..at least in the modern times. That was the case mostly in the past

Same here. I thought we were my favourite couple, Monica and Chandler. Nope. Didn't happen. I am just hopeful for ever finding my Chandler.

I'm not into older men, but something about him keeps bypassing that. He just has this air about him, ya know?

@@Takisan111 yes. Yes YES! The suavity,. The old world charm, that deep voice, that dimples! All men crush come and go.. Selleck is a fine wine 🥰

@Laverne Blaszczyk the jaw tho!

The chest hair does it for me...purrrrrr 😻😻😻

@@Lilah_Ninigigun_Belet-Eanna Oooooooh yeah!!

Their take on the trope was kimda bad tho

@@paloma4444 How come?

Hugs! They never are the same, and you risk ruining the beautiful memories you left behind. Be strong!

I broke up too. And somehow I end up thinking about how it would be like if we meet again many years later and both are single. Will we hit it off again. But then I try to remember how he left me. If he can do that so easily, I don't think he deserves me.

Awww I hope things get better for you

@Bisexual Ichigo I believe this video will help you to heal. It certainly gave me a chance at closure which I didn’t have! :')

Sending good vibes, hope you get them

ME

The thing my mother’s always told me (and she really IS a very wise woman) is that if you subscribe to true love, this IS a stepping stone to helping round out your edges so you can be ready to take that step hand in hand with your perfect person. And if you don’t subscribe to the true love idea, people date multiple people the vast majority of the time. Eventually the odds will play out in your favor, but you have to keep trying to make that work, if not by looking for love, then by keeping your heart always open to it. Take time to grieve the future that might have been, the you you might have become. It IS a very real loss. An entire possible lifetime. But now, all the other possibilities are open to you. Keep your chin up, your heart open, and you will find your way. Hang in there.

@Mariana Caballero I thing there is already one. At least about Ross/Rachel for sure.

@@dvchel there is Ross/Rachel, Phoebe/Joey, that's why we need Mónica/Chandler

It's only a terrible memory because of whiny people

Society can definitely favour Richard&Monica type of couple dynamic over Chandler&Monica. Maybe the appeal is that it's seen as more traditional, and romantic.

Lol Monica dated Richard because of fucked up daddy issues it’s not respect it’s creepy fatherly admiration. Hers and Chandler is more natural, friends and equals relationship

There was a moment in the show where it was actually chandler leading the way in the relationship. So it eventually balances out. (Then they have a final shift where they both are walking hand in hand, forward)

xJackDarkStonex Exactly they’re equals, Chandler is simply subtle when he leads the relationship (like the adoption, it’s all him). Monica was admiring Richard not really respecting him in an equals way, because she was jobless and so scared of her parents, it was Freudian

Black Ninja Idk Richard and Monica were a really good couple but you can’t compare the love Monica and Chandler have for eachother. I love how chandler convinced their surrogate to let them have the baby and he did it in such a beautiful way and there’s so much more .Chandler needs Monica and Monica needs chandler .

Shawna Seniw I hope they make a video about this beautiful movie

That's the part where I cried. That series is perfect to me in all its fantasy and reality.

I want to see this video too so that why I can find out if there is truth behind the fan theory that Monica is not Jack’s daughter.

Omg yes. This is the perfect analogy

Like she didn’t want kids so he did that with someone else then when he was done got with her. Messsed up.