My wife will not let me loose in a grocery store. I can strike up a conversation with anyone and she has caught me many times chatting with some woman. More than a few occasions I had to throw away phone numbers. I'm 48, 5'8", a bit of a Dadbod, and maybe a 7 or 8 in looks. I'm no prize but manage to get plenty of good attention through chat and better fashion sense thanks to mainly this channel. Now my wife knows I'll never cheat but it does keep her on her toes and still interested in me.
Being happily married gives a sense of stability that is used as a "safety net" in approaching women. It shouldn't be like that. You should have confidence in yourself, married or not, to be able to approach women and have a conversation with...
In the past, I met women through my social networks. I also did the online dating apps and fell into the trap of comparing dates. Not good. I waited a long time to get married and met my wife through a mutual friend. Since we were both involved in our local church, I knew that we had some compatability from the start. My biggest advice: Know Thyself!! Truth: When you are older you do not get the womens gaze that you may have had as a young man. The best thing for your appearance is losing weight and more fitted cloths. Also, get a nice hat and a watch. Blessings, my brothers.
Any place, anytime, any subject, I can start a conversation by making a witty remark about our surroundings. If I get a positive response, it is easy to continue the conversation. If not, I slowly walk away. It is a numbers game. Do it often and it is guaranteed you will get positive results. The more you do it, the better you get at it.
Strong advice. I’m almost 50. Wish I could talk to my younger, fitter self and tell him to get out of your head, stop the negative inner dialog, and just take the shot. I had no confidence when I was broke, young and fit and feared rejection. Now, I’m losing hair, struggling to stay fit, dealing with a plethora of health issues, but, yet, have more confidence now than 25+ years ago. I’m married now…because my wife took her shot!
Haven't approached a woman to converse with her since before the mystery disease. Honestly, with all the #metoo and hysterics surrounding dating and relationships it's hard to justify any sort of interaction with the opposite sex at this point, but I'll listen to what you have to say :).
If a woman shows interest with her eyes or a smile, I will approach. But otherwise, I wouldn't want to risk it. There are too many cons that I rather not deal with.
@renatocarotti9206 I agree with the striking out statement, and if it was just that I could deal with it. But nowadays, it doesn't just stop at striking out. Most of the time, you end up getting humiliated.
@@Diego-Designs It doesn't stop at getting humiliated. You may step up shoot your shot. Get her number, and still wind up getting ghosted. Women are harsh out here man.
This was a very solid video with some great points, but I've decided to focus more on bettering myself and taking care of my elderly parents rather than dealing with the craziness of dating today. I did a solid 2-3 year stint where I would dress up and converse with women at different events, including my 10 year high school reunion. I also took some time to observe the women that were out there and I wasn't really interested in what I was seeing. My plan is to take a few years to improve my health and appearance along with my fashion.
I'm with you as well. The other day I walked up to a woman and started a conversation and when I got home and followed up with it she ghosted me. That happened a few times. Getting someones contact info is not al that hard but taking it to the next level is something else entirely. I'm with you. Focusing on fashion and travel.
Over time women haven't changed as much as men have. They have reluctantly adapted. Look at some old Cary Grant movies and be a gentleman. They want the old school guy tactics.
My problem is I see plenty of women and I have no problem talking to them; however, many that I talk to are not what I’m looking for and I feel too old doing the casual thing!
I haven’t approached a woman in years … I don’t have the courage and I just turned 49… if and when I do it there has to be “CONTEXT “ meaning I have to see you on a regular basis, a store clerk , at work , at school , gym etc… I’m or approaching a complete stranger…. No way . Also she has to send “STRONG “ choosing signals so strong that a child can see it.
Spent a week in las vegas recently. I'm not a good looking guy at the moment(but working on it). I must have chatted up a different woman every hour depending on where I was with zero success other than some time passing conversation. In my last hour there i struck up a cuat with a woman 20 yrs younger than me(I'm 53). We had the best chat I had all week(of course). She said it was too bad I was taking off, we could have done something. The point is is that I kept at it and finally succeeded.
The lesson I learned was that I probably came off as a pickup artist all week long and that is why i failed. When i was leaving , i just talked without putting pressure on myself. The relaxation probably was what did the trick
Bro glad you succeeded. That's part of the game. Face a million rejections so someone can finally show you something. That something I personally can't stand about the game. It makes me feel like I'm this desperate man begging for any woman who will come along to pay me some attention because none of them like me. Like I have no standards and I will take whatever crumbs get thrown my way. Not everyone feels this way.
Maybe a year? depends on if i wanted to meet her or was just in a chat mood. Like if i was close to a woman in the grocery store and we were close by looking at food, i might strike up a conversation but it wasnt to get a number just was bored and was in a chatty mood. I think it has to be if you approach like its spontaneous and just be cool and relax ,laughter is always good.
I'm 57. Not an excuse but how do I approach a woman at this age, I haven't approached a woman in 25 years. I'm recently divorced. I'm not trying to meet women 20 years younger, prefer women close to my age.
Great timing! Working on a video now that will come out later next week. My single best piece of advice is to talk to people as if they are already your friend.
Totally understand rejection. But living life, and making decisions based on fear, or potential outcomes that don’t go your way, is no way to live. Just my opinion.
It isn't just rejection. I am more worried about being a nuisance, and I get irritated by women's expectation of being approached and being in charge of the whole issue.
Today! My work is male dominated, so when I see women at a few the accounts I visit, I engage beyond polite business dialogue (where appropriate because women at work are not always receptive). About 6 weeks ago I did ask a woman out on a date but she was flying back home prior to the day I had asked for. This same woman remember me complimenting her on her stylish jacket last October! All the signals were green until the return flight. I said didn't matter because it was worth it. Had a setback today due to timing but have yet to pull the trigger-might have to update if I get to yes. There is at least one "wing-woman" on RU-vid who offers the same advice you did, so there are some reliable dating coaches. Also, using bad dad jokes are great ice breakers. Live well and treat others well. Appreciate you, John!
John is now 2 Nd with his fashion ways Even thou he is so good John really is a world class motivational speaker And mark my words Before long John will have his own motivation channel and it will have 10 mullion plus veiwers Respect
Last week if I remember correctly. She was a restaurant manager, very pretty! She recommended Columbia River Steelhead Trout which was delicious. When I left, she literally ran out the door to see how I liked it. Had I got the job in Tillimook, I would probably be dating her now😊😊😊
Yes, talking to a girl you like is as simple as being confident to approach. However getting the results you want is a lot more complicated. I'm surprised you ignored the main reason most guys don't bother with it. It's not the red pill videos. It's rejection. It's not that most men can't handle it. They can. It's that, 9 times out of 10, a cold approach is rejected by the woman. And that's normal. It's their defense mechanism. A guy getting shut down so many times, will only result in a loss of interest. This happens to Tchad and Tyrone too. This is a more complex topic than the simple steps you give in this video. Especially when you're dealing with younger women. Then there is the risk of me2 and false accusations. It's a real thing, and should be taken seriously. Personally, I'm glad men are waking up and doing what is right to protect themselves these days. Yeah, the dating market is in crisis. It is the consequence of the society we have today. Good luck to anyone swimming in those waters.
@@40OverFashion The glass is always full - either full of fluid, or half full with fluid and the other half air and its various constituents. The scientist in me comes out whenever 'the glass' gets mentioned!
There is something that you didn't mention which is that stepping up and getting someones information is one thing. But then to get them to take the next step to follow through is something entirely different. Not to mention. All the men taking their shot only to be sent to the friend zone. This video definitely over simplifies something that is way more complicated. It's not as simple as get out of your head and approach a woman. If it was that simple the dating market would not look like it does.
Just a question , why single lady don’t give number out when asked for it then I say it’s okay but I say good bye to new chapter. Then she get upset when I walked away. Am I missing something here. It is bloody hard to move forward when getting hurt then I felt like I need to suicidal but I must fight for it to move on.
May 6th. Approched two women at a piano bar and danced with both of them until closing. I have been dating one of them since then. I am 56 and haning out with some friends at a concernt this past weekend in Austin, I had two women approach me and start talking to me. I like the lady I have been dating better, but overall I feel more confident and usually am the best dressed guy at any event I go to, even when wearing a T-shirt and blue jeans.
