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At this age we can be the person we needed when we were younger. Helping someone else even if it’s minimum could be a life changer.

To paraphrase something I heard once - In your twenties you worried about what everyone thought. In your thirties you didn't care what anyone thought. By your forties, you realized nobody ever thought about you.

After my third time through anger management, I finally let go of resentment and feelings I'd been wronged in life. I quit caring what people thought, or think.

When you're 20, you care what other people think about you. When you're 40, you don't care what other people think about you. When you're 60, you realize they were never thinking about you anyway.

Already paid it forward to bunch of lads 20 years younger than me. Not only I listened to them and gave guidance. But they were willing to teach an old dog to learn a few new tricks. To stay relevant and keep up with the pack.

Great video John. Yes, the phrase “Loose yourself in the service of others” continues to be a guiding light for me when I’m feeling down or not optimal. When my down-stroke fades, and it does, I have a decent feeling of accomplishment personally and usually gratitude from those that I helped. This method, is far from perfect, but It sure beats a self-pity party, every time.

About holding grudges: I heard a powerful quote on another RU-vid channel. “In order to let go and move on from people and past experiences it is necessary to outgrow the version of yourself that was present when these people and past experiences were present in your life.”

John, your channel is a very important part of my daily life. Videos like this help me stay on track. It's too bad I can't return to you what you give to me. Be well, my friend. I hope we meet some day in the future.

Something that’s stuck with me is to never stop learning or making/accepting changes. Science shows that doing new things creates new neuron connections in brain and does make a difference on memory and fighting dementia or related problems. Taking different path to store or to home is simple example. Or read up on basics of something you - it gives awareness, sometimes talking points with new acquaintances or friends, and keeps your mind active. Legend.

Paying it forward. That is the best possible advice from your video here. It cannot be overemphasized enough. When you hit 70, it'll really hit home.

STOP BEING CLOSED MINDED. I find that traveling to other countries really helps me get a perspective on how other people think and believe and I always try to get inside their head to see why they do things. In doing so, my perspective is really opened up.

Another solid video John. This is what I needed on a Monday morning.🙏🏼

Great video. I do get hopeless about my life at times, but I always wind up snapping out of it and I make some sort of progress.

THANK YOU…I your words of encouragement are just what is needed.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Good stuff John, thanks!

The most solid advice anyone can give. Great video. Love your channel. Thank You.

Great talk ❤very good points! Have to agree on what you’re saying 😅Thanks John 😊

Thanks for your opinions. I really appreciated John.

On point, John!

Beautiful message, it really hit my soul Thank You.

Great video and insights/perspective John!

Great video John, thanks!

Great stuff!

Thank you. Big fan of your channel. The deal for today is great in which I took advantage.

Inspiring - thank you!

Great advice as always !

Yes you are! Your information is very valuable.

Absolutely true

Thank you and great video

Just watched a few of this guy’s videos today. Some of the best content on RU-vid in my opinion. Great stuff man!

This is a great vlog and it was exactly what I needed to hear to start my week. Thank you.👍🙏😎

It's a very useful video. I cannot agree more with your advices: keep moving forward, try new things, be curious and open minded.

Let it go! Amen.

Thanks Brother... I've been in a 50's funk and this video is just what the Doctor ordered. Thank you so much!

Good points. I learned long ago. Forgive immediately. That doesn’t mean forget - tigers don’t change their stripes, so understand who you’re dealing with. But ongoing resentment will hurt only one person - you.

Thank you. Good and, for me, timely advice.

#1: I agree 100% John. I'm 56 now without a family or a lady. Ever. #3: Agree again on letting go. I'm working hard on it and the bastard still knows it. I'm giving back by serving on the Executive Board for my American Legion post. In my humble opinion, the only other way to serve with great honor is being a member of the Veterans of Foreign Wars. Great video John! Hoppy

rotated your painting again :)

Excellent video John! 👍🏽

Well said. And, look at life as: Everyday is an Opportunity!

Fail Forward!! I got ya boss! Thanks for the video John! 👍🏽

Great video…thank you.

I'm still in my mid 30's gonna subscribe and follow those that are older than me and walk the path and learn.

A to the effing men! Good reminders to keep moving forward, John. Today is my 58th birthday and thankfully I learned to do what you mentioned here at 39! I've developed a comfortable lifestyle, had successes and goals achieved, learned how to let go and move on. I have been the giver of and recipient of kindness. Today, a young woman acquaintance of mine made me some cake for my birthday and brought it to me at the bistro we see each other at. Always good to be reminded of how to keep living well as we age. And yes, good sir, you are having a meaningful impact because you speak truth to power and no bullshit. Keep up the good work and let's all pay it forward. Appreciate you, John!

Great video, John. You’re looking good.

Great video John, beautiful for a Monday. :) Have a great week. Jon

Good stuff

I loved this video John, great advice for everyone as I've already jumped on most of this as I got older. #legend

Great videos as always, thank you. I'm just now trying out black dress shirts for work and play; if I'm wearing dark blue jeans with them, what shoes will work?

I concur with you, no matter the age, always seek new experiences and say yes to life's adventures. A person might go out but a person should never give up. Keep the faith people. By the way, almost time to celebrate a positive change in my life.

Great video which puts a lot into perspective. As someone who is well past the 40 mark, I sometimes find myself looking back to when I was younger and thinking "if only I knew then what I know now". Life is the best teacher, and with age comes wisdom and experience. I find myself living a more routinely structured "boring" life than I used to when I was younger. Go to work, go grocery shopping, go to the gym. Rinse and repeat. And that's perfectly ok. My priorities in life have changed. The minor insignificant details that once bothered me no longer do; it really is important to just let go. What's interesting is that this "not caring anymore" can, ironically, be a double-edged sword of sorts. The less we care, the more likely we are to turn down those opportunities which come along because we feel that it's "been there done that". Missed opportunities in life, whether they be meeting new people or learning new things, become increasingly important precisely because the clock is ticking and we are not getting any younger. The worst thing is to regretfully think "I should have when I had the chance."

Excellent video John! H.O.P.E. stands for helping other people everyday and you motivate others!💪

Moving Forward Mondays. I like it sir!

Thanks John. Did you change the orientation of your new painting?

Thank you George - l never heard a truer word.

I'm 54 and considering running another 50 mile race next year. If you let getting old get to you it will kill you!

Great advice...the first one in particular about the inevitability of all of leaving this earth is well explained in the Stoic domain that I recommend people explore. Much of what you say is rooted in Stoicism. Memento Mori is basically the idea that we're all going to be leaving this earth and by acknowledging that, we can be inspired to make the very most of every day. Thank you for what you do!

I've always liked the saying "Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." (origin unknown - often falsely attributed to Buddha)

John John John…you hit the mail on the head on this one. Thank you!

Thanks from Rio de Janeiro (Brazil)

John, I always "eagerly" look forward to your words of "inspiration" even as a fellow 54 year old "brother 😊🙏".

Hi, John. This one is very good. Useful. I am the same age as you are. Well. It is never late to start again to do new stuff, profession, hobbies. And enjoy the life with the family and other people. Again, this one is good and full of inspiration for youngsters like us. :-)

I made a decision to try my best not to add any misery to the world. I occasionally fail but the real winner is myself. Give it a try

Be the change you wish to see in the world!

Great advice as always John IDGAC is absolutely my 💯 point of view Having looked at recent videos I've realised that I'm not an Alpha I'm a Sigma

This is theost inspiring lecture that I've heard so far.. The fact you're 54 gives me hope. Thank you 🙏🙏. I was the mother of all the nine things you've mentioned here. Today I started shedding my outer shell. Thank you once again.. 🙏🙏 :- funny you said youre not a psychiatric... 🤔

very good post. It shows you are more than just clothes :-)

Your my 先生！for many issues!! Peace and Love from Japan 🇯🇵 I wonder 🧐if I could purchase that products from Japan 😊

On the money from beginning to end. Being close minded is the Achilles heel for a whole lot of guys. The older they are the worse too. I'm almost 54 myself and couldn't have said any of this any better. Great video.

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All this is true. At 70 it really is true. But also, you can’t get away from the thought what difference does it all make? Lol! Dust in the wind…..thx John!

Two things regarding Point One. First, my uncle turned 58 and was morose about it. My aunt said to him: "But you're only middle-aged.' He replied: "You think? How many 116-year-olds do you know?" Second, when I was in high school, the most profound thing any teacher said to me was: "Remember, if you are very lucky, you get only 30,000 days on this planet. That's all. Make sure every one of them counts."

Time is the only asset credited to our life account the moment we are born. All human beings have this asset irrespective of their gender, religion, and nationality. Time once gone is gone forever. Therefore, time is the most valuable and precious asset and it should be spent and invested judiciously.

I can't add anything to what you've said. This isn't brand-new info for me, it's more like affirming. I've been running around "preaching this gospel" to several people around me, even those who are younger than I (I'm 55). Thanks for the words of wisdom 😅.

Resentment robs that person of all positive vibes

Hey, at nearly 63, I can still do the things I could do when I was 25, just not as often, as quickly, as long, .......

I quit drinking in my 20's. If I sit at a bar it's going to be one that almost always serves food and it's going to be only alcoholic drinks that I drink.

62 and never tried

To tell you the truth I hated the club scene in my 20's the music was always loud and overly crowded and you can't talk without shouting. Bridges Scoreboard in Griffith, In. has a separate bar that was less crowded and a lot quieter it was such a cool place, to get away from the club room. The money spent and the morning hangovers it wasn't worth it when waking up every morning even without the hangovers. So on Dec 31st in 1996 was my last drink ever at the Rum Keg in Winter Haven, FL. I'm like I had enough and went cold turkey. When I was a cab driver I hated dealing with stupid drunks. We have Billiards room that I used to go to before the fire to eat late dinners when every restaurant was closed that was the extent of my hanging out with the younger crowd. Just eating and having my Cola's and leaving after watching a game or something. Even at the Ave Bar on a Friday night or Saturday night having dinner and then just relaxing by myself sitting in one of the lounge chairs and reading.

As people age they can empathize more with others. This means very much “giving a crap”, talking less, and listening more. It isn’t all about you. Older people can increase the amount of their giving to others, whether as time or money or volunteering your skills. Anger and resentment is never the answer.

“Only put off until tomorrow what you’re willing to die having left undone” Pablo Picasso

If someone has a problem with me, he can give me a call; if he hasn’t my number, he knows me barely and has no right to criticize me… But: if a real friend criticizes me, he wants to help me to become a better person.. so this critique is very important..!

It is said you only live once, not true you only die once and live every other day... If you are blessed to have shelter food family friends then don't waste it others are much less fortunate... 💙

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Drama happens at home 😄

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The average 40 year old guy has around 2080 weeks left to live. This might seem like a lot, but it isn't when you factor in that you'll be asleep for around a 3rd of this time. So you may want to consider "Rage Quitting" from the online dating market.

I did that that when I was 25. You’re 20 years late.

Here’s the way I look at it… I’m 63 years old right now. I recently had a couple health issues and I’m not sure if those are gonna present a problem for me in retirement or not. However, if I go back 15 years when I was 48, it seems like just yesterday! 15 years and bam 💥 I’m 63. So in my eyes, 15 years forward is going to be even faster and I will be 78, if… I’m still alive. Am I gonna have Good health? Am I going to be physically independent and capable of doing things that One would want to do during retirement? Probably not, and I will definitely be slowing down and might not have the energy…so, someday is now! I gotta get busy living! A new girlfriend is helpful.

Noticed you moved the artwork vertical. It looks amazing!

Holding a grudge is basically drinking poison and expecting the other person to die

Am I a mirror? 😂

Do You HAVE TO remind us! Do You REALLY have to? Man..... You should take care a little more about our inner happiness based on our own delusions, You know? 😄 (Thank You for useful advices!) 👍

Where did u get that shirt

John I am 60 and loving my life. I have a beautiful blonde lady who loves me and two wonderful children….. I am so proud of them both….. Growing old is not all bad. Pete from Australia 🦘🦘

FUDGE!!! I am getting old!!!! John, great video, but you have made me feel older than I should!

STOP Doing These Things Over 40: saying "dude".

Almost 60, not a guy. Looks like you changed your art. Positive. Calm, peace. Do you believe in God? Pray you do. I heard someone explain us as people like this. Our spirit lives forever, but our body gets old and dies. I always wondered why I feel and I am that child.

I made my money when I was young. Now I have fun, I lost interest in cars, picked up other interests Life is good. Backwards baseballs hats need to stop at 45-50 years old!!!!!!! Period.