I honesty hate when people use God as an excuse. Im not very religious myself but the basic thing to know is God loves everyone no matter what. That treatment is fit for a criminal not your son.
Hound Does Que? I know right. God even loves criminals, yes they can do horrible things but they get the chance to make it up even if it doesn't bring anyone back. Or if they might not, God still loves them, anyone, even if the don't go to heaven. That includes anyone in the universe, LGTB+, straights, Homophobics, etc. But never, never say God only loves certain people. No one has the right to say and twist God's words.
Victor Van they were being calm about it at first and based off of what I heard about the son talking a bunch of shit about his dad when his dad worked his ass off for that family and how he was saying that about religion really ticked me off. I think that he got what he deserved.
I am totally in shock. My body was shoocking. How can a family treat their kid like this..specialy parents(if u cannot support ur son being gay, atleast be kind to him and try to understand his feeling)...i hate this feeling. I am from India, here people r totally homophobic and some ppl even dnt kw tht homosexuality exists. People totally need to get educated of homosexuality.
This physically..physically hurt my heart. My father used to beat me and this triggered my fear and panic. I was adopted, and I was lucky enough that they didn't hate me or throw me out because of it. I met my birth family years later and my birth mother told me never tell your grandmother you're gay because she will disown you. Well for whatever reason my birth mother decided to tell my grandmother one day and I was told to never come and see her again. I believe in God, and for a long time I was mad at God because he made me this way and I thought why would He do this..make me different so that people didn't like me because I was gay. And then I realized it wasn't God I should be mad at because God made me who I am and God is love. God didn't hate me… man did. Jesus hung around prostitutes, beggars and people who had leprosy.. all the people that others wanted nothing to do with because they were sick and deemed unworthy of God's love. Well the Son of God came down and said to the priests in the temples..you're all wrong. Love one another. Love God above all else and love your neighbour as you love God. I know a lot of Gay people can't or won't believe in God because they as well think they are unloved by God or that they don't belong. That couldn't be further from the truth. I'm one of those were gay people who believe in God and am openly gay. I just want anyone that is feeling unloved that is reading this to know that you are loved. No matter what anybody else tells you we are made by God and loved by God. Don't let those people who speak false religion turn you away from God because that's exactly what the other side wants. Sorry for saying this… I'm sure it's out of context to the video… But I just want you to know… You who are reading this right now… That you are Loved… And you… Are not Alone. 🕊💕🕊
Cupcake your response made my eyes well up as well. Your very kind. Take care my new friend. And don't worry about your English, words spoken from the heart are always understood. ❤️
Paikiti X3 You’re the reason the world is a better place. You’re comment moved me more than you know. At our worst moments God still loves us. At our best moments man still finds fault. Love you ❤️🕊❤️
I hate it when people tell gays or any member of the LGBT+ community that they are terrible people I personally didn't have this problem when I came out, all of my family as well as most of my friends support me but I still hear all of the negativity towards the LGBT+ community
I have seen an article about this before. It's a good thing that Daniel himself is in a safe place surrounded by people who accepted him but yeah, it saddens and angers me when I hear about discrimination and homophobia here and there. It's hard to understand why some people just won't accept others and are willing to throw their own children just because of their religious belief. I have learned that being LGBTQ isn't always sunshine and rainbows, it's about acceptance and facing prejudice head on. I have to be thankful that I, along with most other people I know had it luck. I very much agree with you both too, even if I'm wary of religion, Bryan have made a good point to not to play the blame game. I hope Daniel is doing well, continuing to be where is he meant to be with acceptance and his parents have received karma. I can only hope for no other LGBTQ individuals to go through discrimination and to be loved and accepted as they should be.
When that time comes when I do have kids, if one of them is gay, I will support it with all my heart, I'm an accepting person anyway so it's just showing that parents should always accept their kids' sexuality. They gave birth to them and should always support what they're doing, no matter what as long as it makes them happy ❤💛💚💙💜💗❤💛💚💙💜💗❤💛💚💙💜💗❤💛💚💙💜💗❤💛💚💙💜💗 #loveeveryone
When that time comes when I do have kids, if one of them is gay, I will support it with all my heart, I'm an accepting person anyway so it's just showing that parents should always accept their kids' sexuality. They gave birth to them and should always support what they're doing, no matter what as long as it makes them happy ❤💛💚💙💜💗❤💛💚💙💜💗❤💛💚💙💜💗❤💛💚💙💜💗❤💛💚💙💜💗 #loveeveryone you're all beautiful, to those reading this comment, I pray for every single one of you to stay safe and to always stay strong and I love you and have a great and blessed day. Pascal and Bryan, I love you guys and just know that we all have to stand together and help others with their problems and stay safe and have a great and blessed day.
If you are in the US, and you fear this happening to you if/when you come out to your family: 1. Protect yourself. If you depend on your parents financially and/or are still living with them, *do* *nothing* until you can move out. If you have to, lie to them that you're str8 if that's what will protect you. 2. Build Support Get people around you, friends you are out to and trust, and build an emotional-support-network. If you're still dependent on your parents, do this Carefully and Discreetly. [Remember: you need to protect yourself.] If you can find a local LGBT+ organization, or PFLAG, they may have advice and/or resources that can help you, too. 3. Coming Out - Keep Control When the time comes - when you are independent of your parents and not reliant on them - when you have your support network - prepare for a Bad Reaction. Rehearse all of the ways you can respond … or not respond … to every reaction of theirs that you can think of. • Remember: the first one to get angry loses. The moment you lose control of your emotions, you've handed control over. • *You* need to be in control here. Don't come out in person, but write a letter and mail it. If you feel that you should come out in person, (A) do it someplace public; (B) bring along someone you trust. Control the situation. 4. Afterwards: Grieve. If things do go badly, then you need to face the reality of the situation, Right Then, Right There: you have just lost your parents. Grieve. *Wait* until you are in a safe location. Wait until you are with people you trust or are by yourself. Then, grieve. Grieve just as if you lost them in a car accident. Doesn't matter that they're still alive and throwing a snit-fit someplace and maybe hurling religious-based abuse at you. Your parents are now gone. The parents you thought existed are gone. So, you need to grieve. This is why you need that emotional support network. 5. Say Goodbye; Cut the Ties You will build a Family of Choice. You will get through this. But you will need to cut off your biological family, anyone who did not react with *unconditional* support. Anyone who doesn't understand that you need to protect yourself from attacks. Do not let any of your blood-relative pull you back in. You will only face more attacks, direct, indirect, subtle. So, again: Protect Yourself by cutting off contact. Keep Control by hanging up the phone, walking out, walking away from any attempt to pull you back in. If any of your biological family, parents included, want you in their life, they have to *earn* it from you by respecting *you* for you. If not, then you can't have them in your life any more than you can have anybody who wants to harm you in your life.
The ethernal issue of born this way and choosing a path, nevertheless the bad choice today was from his family, what a shame. Instead of loving him and fulfill Jesus example of caring, they choose the path of kicking him out, dishonest indeed. That said, we came a long way, there is much more to do. Education, support, love, acceptance.
Tear Drops but why tho? You just don't experience sexual attraction, that's all. Well I hope she comes around and notices that you are still her child.
That happen to me before with my family they regret it when I leave the house and I tell them "everyone is different and even you and also I am still your child but I love you guys when I was little but look at us now you guys are child abuse me and I guess this is good idiot's" and they try to call but they couldn't so I am having a great life and I am still scared to go back but I will try my best to stand up to my family ✊✊✊✊✊💕💕💕💕
Hello Bryan and Pascal, I skipped over the video. I've seen just a few seconds of it in the past, and turned it off. It's represents something I know exist, but I don't want to depress myself by watching it. But what you had to say about it, and your reactions, was very appropriate. I'm happy to hear the young gay man in the video is fine and doing alright.
I hate when someone thinks it's not a big deal to come out just because of the year I had a friend that I came out to and I was really scared to do so because have no idea how she would react I only came out to her because I wanted to start slow and when I told her that she said "why is it hard to come out? It's 2018 now" I was speechless
To everyone in the US who *had* to face this several years ago: Protect Yourself Please Please Please: Take legal steps to cut your biological family off. There are laws in the US that give them precedence over anyone else for medical decisions to financial control. And even if your married? No, gay-marriage Does Not protect you. The courts can ignore that and leave your grieving spouse out on the streets while your hateful family takes the property that you both own. So, *Please* protect yourself. Save up the money and have the appropriate legal documentation drawn up that severs all connection under the law with your biological family. Find a gay-friendly attorney to do it, and tell the attorney to go well above and beyond basic power-of-attorney and healthcare proxy. You need to protect yourself.
How can a mother do that to her child a mother who gave birth to her child throw them out for being gay does not matter what you are in the end you're still human being *smh* I get that it's hard to take in your son is not how you expected him or how you wanted him to grow up but in the end it's his choice and you should support him and accept that he's the way he is😐
I looked through your channel again and got to this video. My god! I had to stop watching because it made me feel sick! I just wanna cry right now for how this guy is treated and I didn't even make it through the video. I'm again so very grateful for my accepting family and friends. We need more love! And less hate!
I am 48 almost 49 when I came out to my mother she was good about it but I've had friends at that time and this was back in the 80s when people throughout their kids with nothing except the clothes on their back they didn't scream didn't yell that just threw amount and when I watch the video it makes me sad because it brings back all those horrible memories
im so glad to know people are stepping in for any person in the LGBTQ+ community. Coming out to my family went horribly wrong, but i am too young to be kicked out of my house. I am always terrified to talk to my family now, but i have very accepting friends to talk to instead. For anyone who is going through a tough time after coming out, whatever you came out as.. i wish you all luck, and you are all in my thoughts.
I'm lesbian and my family accepted me no problem. And all my lgbt friends have parents that accept them. But seriously if you can't accept the fact that your own kid might be lgbt, then you shouldn't have kids.
Mon dieu cette vidéo me rend très triste... quel plaisir d'entendre que vos expériences personnelles n'étaient pas du tout comme ça ! Je suis heureux de dire la même. Je comprends pas les gens qui peuvent renier leurs enfants sans éprouver de la culpabilité... particulièrement au nom de religion. Autant que je sache, l'amour et l'acceptation forment un des piliers principaux de christianisme moderne ? Apparemment pas...
There’s many youth who are homeless due to parents not accepting. And then what’s worse is when lgbtq community members reach out as adoptive parents and then the birth parents who use religion and bigotry as a justification for abandoning their child judge those who love regardless
I am a Christian, but it absolutely horrified me that some Christians think it is ok to treat people like trash because they don’t believe what they do. You don’t have to agree but it isn’t ok to yell or put someone down like this. I just want to apologize for this behavior
I came out in middle school, then my Mom outed me, and then my Dad outed me to the rest of the family. And, then I got outed in high school. After a rough childhood, my teens weren't easy either. But, I'm 24 now and feel like I've come a long way since then. Videos like this one send chills down my spine. I was in a few physical altercations kind of like that, but it's what gets left mentally that's the hard part.
This video really make me feel quite distress..it really makes my heart wreck..I really wish and hope that the person would get the opportunity to be loved from deep within..
That's the way my mother would react when Id tell her that I'm a lesbian she'd completely freak out my whole family would freak out i mean she hit me most of the time my step father did that too but it would be even worse when they find out that I'm a lesbian so I chose to try to be straight cuz I don't want to lose my family I'm 15 my mother would say that it's only a phase but it's not
My coming out wasnyt nearly as traumatizing. It def took a toll on her and it's still something that I can tell makes her a bit uncomfortable, but she loves me like her son still. I couldn't imagine this pain...8 years since this came out and I hope Daniel has found peace
If I had a son or daughter that happened to gay, bi, lesbian, trans etc... I would love them unconditionally. I am already a huge supporter of the LGBT+ community, so if my future child every came out to me I’d throw a party for them. I somewhat blame the parents because some parents raise their children making them believe that being gay is wrong. When in actually fact it is just as normal as being straight. Coming out to your family shouldn’t have to be this scary. I have seen a lot of movies pride, holding the man, the normal heart etc... and what LGBT+ people had to go through in the 70s / 80s broke my heart. I do hope people will be a lot more kinder in the future and a lot more accepting and loving. 🌈
Who ever treats any one like that deserves to not be able to have kids or a family I feel so sorry for the people that have to deal with this. Absolutely no one should be treated bad because of who they are they can't change
I have a feeling this family had big issues long before this happened! Sad when there is no love in ther family.Good reson to test the water before you come out to your parents!
I started riding my brothers skateboard, and I was good at it, so I asked my mom for my own skateboard, she said no, and the way she acted, shows that she didn't want me to ride it, because I was a girl, and so I'm even more afraid to come out to her are bi, I know that's not the worst but still, I'm very pressured to tell her
I never really grew up with the concept of coming out mostly due to the fact that my family never saw any reasoning as to why someone should have to come out because being LGBT+ is as normal as being straight. So when I started developing crushes on more then just the opposite sex no one batted an eye. Seeing this makes me so greatful that I have a family that accepts me for who I am. It's horrible that people just disown their just child just for being LGBT+. I'm so sorry for anyone that has to experience such terrible things.
That’s so sad... When someone came out, he/she will face a lot of hostility from the world, but the hate from their own parents should never be one of them! It’s ridiculous that someone will choose the fusty religious or social values instead of their own child.
hes right, its proof. the only reason we cant debunk other religious or spiritual beliefs yet is because its extra-terrestrial. we cant prove that NOW, but what we have proven is that we are born that way. we dont CHOOSE our sexual orientation or what we feel our gender identity should be
My friend came out as a lesbian a while ago and when she told her mom, her mom forced her to go to therapy and insulted her for not being human (her mom is a Muslim and religious). Through this, my friend got depressed. I was the first one she told and she was really scared that everyone will hate her and there were many tears. But I was there for her and I am Bi myself so...yeah...
I’m out to everyone except my family(excluding my mom and she’s very accepting) for this reason. Idk how my siblings would react, but this…is exactly how my dad would react…
I saw this video like 4 years ago. I was in shock, his own family against him. I don't know if you guys have the complete video, but I get soo mad and very sad make me cry like a baby. We have to change peoples mind. This world have NO place for hate or discrimination. I know how he feels after being a target by his own mother. That's probably the main reason why LGBTQ comite suicide. Is very hard not have support from the family, it's happens to me when I was younger. I told to my family " Don't get in my personal business and my intimate life " for their own good. My Mom understand the message, and so my whole family. This is my life and I PROUD of who I'm. I'm NOT weak anymore. So who ever tried to F%#÷ better think twice... or it will have face my " dark side ". To whom ever suffer this kind of rejection, be strong, be a warrior, be that soldier who no " enemies want to face ". I have battles every day, just like any one, but my feelings are soo much stronger. I know how it's feel, when I was in basement but I also spent sometime in the penthouse...... Thanks for your time guys.. Hugs from Puerto Rico. Don't allow others decide for you. Life is too short, so don't let others make desitions for you or for your partner. STOP them at once, and spread LOVE to all !! Even for those who said is our enemy. Bad for them, Not for us.
There's so much to say about this but one thing I can say is because of it it was a number one fear of coming out to my family which I still haven't fully done because I don't want this kind of reaction from the people I love and that's always going to be there and I've heard way worse horror stories and experience some very ugly people who knew what I was and made me feel ashamed of it but with all the issues I know there are going to be people out there who will accept me who will care about me and what I believe and who I am and I guess that's kind of thing to take away from this so thank you
when I told my dad I was bisexual, he talked to me a few days later telling me right at my face that he won't support me because it's like if I'm just looking for attention. but I really don't want attention, I just am bisexual.
This is why I'm afraid to tell my parents that I'm bi BC I don't know how my stepfather well react I'm afraid he'll hurt me.....and this just made it worse....😟
And conservatives wonder why more and more people are “leaving the faith”. THIS!^. This is why people are leaving! Because of the people who want to normalize this abusive behavior. Or even push it to its most extreme.
I applaud the family for sticking with what they believe. They are no longer obligated to care for him. They are well with there rights to kick him out, regardless of you alphabet people think.
Here the Truth i started crying like omg how can people be like that... The Family should be ok with it but they showed no Respect :( Thats just idk im speechless
People who use their religion as an excuse for bullying deserve to be treated poorly. Just because someone has different feelings or opinions about something, doesn’t mean you have the right to hit or abuse them.
A friend of mine had something similar happen to him when he came out - I'm not telling the full story because it's not my story to tell. He says a few years later that the family he has chosen and who chose him mean more to him than his birth family. He also says he doesn't hate his family as they gave him the greatest gift they could - they brought him to a country where he can love whoever he wants to instead of living in a country where it is still illegal to be him.
Yeah is things like this is why I'm scared to come out as well but I believe it will get better as time goes on for people in situations like this where this kind of reaction won't ever happen
I don’t know if I should cry for this guy, laugh at how dumb his family is, or roll my eyes so much that I can see my brain. His family is terrible. I hope “Daniel” is do ok.
*breathes in* .......... *breaths out* ...... Boi..... Can I cry... I came out to my friends a long time ago and.... Like... I lost (crying in the background) most of my friends... They.... Decided that they didn't like.. That I was... Bisexual. They thought that it was nasty... That I could like having sex with the male and female gender... But... I never said i liked having sex like that! I mean.. I'm not nasty.... I'm not... I dont- I would never do that! Just boom hook up with them like that. NO. It's stupid how people think that just because you like the same sex, that you would just throw yourself on them. I-it makes me sick knowing so many people think that if us... It makes me so sad.... After that I was depressed for quite a while... My parents found out a while ago and she accepted me. She held me in her arms and said it was okay to be that way. That it okay to like what you like and that she loved me no matter what. ^^ so people who have been in the same situation.... Dont hate yourself, there are plenty and I mean so many people out there that would accept you as you are. So dont give up, dont give in to horrible people. Be yourself... Be the person you were meant to be. Be the person you feel deep inside you are. Be happy to be you. Be happy and accept yourself... It gets better. It gets waaay better trust me. Happy pride month ^^ P.s I'm female Also I feel ya (people who are sad or crying bc of what happened in this video) hopefully Daniel is doing great.
The audacity of some people though like honestly why just tell them ok it’s fine your still out child like what the hell but like just that’s dumb I could write a novel about how I’m feeling about this right now but I’m not I’m just going to go if any of you have gone through this I’m sorry I hope you are ok things will get better I promise
You didn't deserve it. *hugs* If this happened to you recently, or even in the past few years, then I strongly suggest that you do a search for an archive of Dan Savage's newspaper column, "Savage Love", or his podcast. He has given advice to many young gay men & lesbian women about how to handle a family that is reacting like this. You didn't deserve what your family did to you.
I understand he works for a non-profit working with homeless Gay youth in Atlanta, I believe. I followed a rabbit hole of You-tube a year ago on him and learned he was well.
This pisses me off I have already seen this video and I turned the volume all the way down just watching their reactions I wish I could just give this person a hug and tell him he's loved it really angers me that people can be so intolerant and ignorant to society and the human brain and hormones inside the human brain
I'm a woman but I still support the gay community and in my opinion what the mother did was absolutely wrong because its not a chose they were born to be like that and they need to be proud like that, and she need to understand that and support that, because it's thier son, God make us all perfect, God made us to make purpose and God does'nt descriminate like that, God made us to be who we are...
I'm never gonna understand people like that. A good parent should support their child and help them have a happy life. And I'm catholic, and here's what i think: God made everyone unique and equal. Everyone is special. If God didn't love you, he wouldn't have made you that way. We are all equal under the name of God, and no matter who you are, you do not have the right to judge a person in any way like that. Only God can judge them. And yes, everyone has their own opinions, but the reality is that we are all equal. Gays, lesbians, bisexuals, straight people are all equal. We all choose who we want to love, and that is all that matters. It doesn't matter who it is. Love is beautiful and I think that everyone should be with whoever they want to be, wether it's same sexes or different sexes. The important thing is that you're happy. Sorry if some people might n ot agree with me, and I won't judge you, but that is my opinion.
I cried. This is absolutely horrifying, this is no way to treat your own flesh and blood. It is things like this that make me realize that the world is not just sunshine and rainbows, that there are people like this who actually say and do these things. In my opinion, you don't have to like the fact that homosexuality exists. You don't have to, because everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs. However, I believe that whatever you think, whatever you /want/ to think, you must treat absolutely everyone with basic respect. It is an act of being human. The most basic respect is what everyone, no matter their race, orientation or gender, deserves. As I said previously, you do not need to agree with absolutely everything that everyone is. That is not being asked of you. You just need to accept the fact that such things exist, and treat the person how you would like to be treated - as a decent human being, because that is what they are. They are human, as are you, therefore you must treat them the way that you want to be treated. That is why I abhor homophobia so much. It should not be a thing. (I realize that I have repeated myself many times here, but I had a point I needed to get across.)
Also the sad part about folks saying god didn’t make you that way... pardon me but god didn’t make the parent to be hateful and we didn’t make the choice to be hated.
This stuff pisses me off because I came out in middle school and where as my mother was very accepting, my girlfriends mother was not. And as a Christian I have read the bible and I have spent years arguing over LGBTQ+ rights and I have never left an arguement, others just leave because they cant argue against the word of God with the word of God.
