Goth to Gentleman Transformation - How Changing My Style Changed My Life 

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I'm a Metalhead. But the beauty of wearing a suit you cannot deny.

Bro, I am proud of you. Nothing more needs said.

I'm 67 and older than your average viewer. I've always been drawn to the classic style for men. It was my "look" during my working career as a physician. It was my way of showing respect for my patients and profession.

Thank you for taking a risk by sharing your personal experience. Excellent video.

You make an excellent point that both the goth style and the dandy style have the same goal: stand out from the crowd. The question therefore is if you've really changed at your core ;). (And i dont think it's a problem if you havent, just embrace that need/feeling, that's what being authentic is all about.)

insane upgrade

The thing about long hair is, if you're going to have it, you need to dress and fragrance on the sharp side to balance it. If you go out in streetwear like dudes with close, clean haircuts do you'll get nothing but a "hippie" or "homeless" response. Long, healthy hair and a crispy wardrobe create a really interesting juxtaposition that I've found to be well-received by many. A bizarre reception I got when attending a funeral one time was from an older gentleman maybe in his 60s: I'm sitting down to my lunch and he says, "You must either be somebody famous or really smart or both."

Great video! I was a hardcore goth/emo in middle and high school. I'm 30 now and while I haven't completely abandoned all elements of that style, I've simply found ways to update it and add a more mature overtone to it. I still prefer mostly black clothing and still love to rock some jewelry, but I opt for a much more refined and dapper black wardrobe nowadays (blazers, dress shirts, leather shoes, slacks, etc.) as opposed to the "rocker" wardrobe I used to sport. Still feels true to who I am, while more in line with my current stage of life.

No, 😉this completely took me by surprise. Would never expect this. Two different worlds. Such a wonderful upgrade. Love this channel! I must confess that I was a heavily serious punk once 😂and now no-one would ever expect this (thanks God!), now I am a " polished girl from a good home" (but not really😉) Sending warm regards from London...🙋🏼‍♀

I’ve been following your videos for a couple months now, and this was a surprise. I never would have guessed you were once a goth. Great transformation and it’s really good to hear how your life has improved. You’re correct that it is a form of discrimination that employers are far less likely to hire someone with an alternative or nonconformist look, but people need to grow up and realize that that’s the way the world works. You can consciously rebel against the norm and probably put up with low-paying crappy jobs, or you can actively attempt to make yourself more employable and approachable. Unlike racial or gender discrimination, it’s your choice.

You make an excellent point about being treated nicer when dressing up. I have experienced the same, in many parts of life, from internal customers at work (who thankfully forget I'm 23) to strangers at my girlfriend's university. I'm also so glad to hear that dressing well has played a part in your career success, congratulations :)

Im am cureently reinventing myself to become of a gentleman, elegant, and confident.

I like your goth look! That had such a vibe!

You gotta hell of a lot of balls and integrity to show this. I'm mega impressed. Some may turn and walk away. As for me, I'm now a confirmed fan. You rock bigly! Thanks.

Great video. As an employer of a few Gen z’s they are amazed when i have them dress like gentlemen instead of children. They get respect for some the first time in their lives.

I like how clear headed you are, and how you express yourself clearly. You look at things in a practical manner, not bitter or grinding any axes. To me, that's even more impressive than your nice appearance, especially in a young man.

What a lovely story, congratulations on your transformation! 👏

Goth you does look legitimately cool.

I knew it! When I saw some of those posters you had up I knew you at least admired Gothic music. This comes as no surprise for me. Also 6’2?? Immediately thought of Peter Steele

You hit the nail on the head, great point. Dress to what your career demand and its norms. Dress and carry yourself to how you want to be perceived and treated.

You are an inspiration, my brother I hope more success will come to you. You deserve it. 🙌🏻

Well done and thanks for sharing! Once upon a time, I did a similar transformation. I couldn't help notice how you also changed, and improved, the style of your pocket square midway through the video. 😃

Congratulations on your transformation! Very impressive!

I just ran into your channel like a day ago. You're a really interesting character! Saw your book recommendation video which was excellent. Really impressive maturity and insights for such a young person. Keep on keepin' on!!

Thank you so much for sharing this part of your journey. I went through a time where I was wearing grey hoodie sweatshirts and baggy jeans. I was struggling at the time with depression. Now, I have made to measure suits and I am always conscious of my clothes. It’s been a long journey!

The last minute is the most important message. New sub, thanks mate.

Dress well not for other but for how others will treat you. It is one of the easiest things anyone can do to have a better experience through life.

This man is great! I feel inspired every time I watch a video, thanks for the content and have a great day

Evolution, growth, maturity and wisdom are, by no means, certain. There are countless examples, all around us. You seem to be on the right track. Well done!

This is an in-depth image-building video, thank you very much

omg! you are so inspirational!

Goth to boss. Dude's literally a real life RIchmond from IT Crowd

You should definitely do a wardrobe video of some of your favorite pieces and clothing you wear for different settings.

I love your channel and your advice. One of my favorite clothing items is Wrangler classic work shirts. They are in a cowboy style with snaps instead of buttons. This is similar to what Polo offers at a fraction of the cost. They are extremely durable and long wearing. The Wrangler logo is sewed-on and easy to remove. Check them out. Again congratulations on your RU-vid channel.

1,000,000% improvement!! CONGRATS!!

We evolve with age. With age comes wisdom. You are on a good trajectory for a great flight in life. Said an old Pilot once.

Much respect.. one of my closest friends was Goth throughout middle school, high school and all the way through JUCO. He Experienced some profound traumatic experiences as a child (non sexual) but lots of verbal and physical abuse. He didn’t want to be like the “others” at the time, and of course that factored into mockery, some form of bullying and harassment. He introduced me to literature authors like Mary shelley and Bram Stoker, this subculture most people wouldn’t understand. Anyways, now he works in banking and is one of the most stoic and pleasant souls to be around, for me he always was, I always cared. But for people that don’t know him, he’s a true gentleman.

I went to goth night here at one of the local clubs. I used to dress in suits all the time. And a lot of the goths we’re complimenting my dress. I guess it just depends really on the type of goth clothing you were going for. From the picture it looked more like metal type goth like Type O. I guess i wore and still wear more of Nick Cave suits type goth.

The inky black octopus looked disjointed from your style but now I see it’s a reflection of your early days. Glad you found what works for you!🍀

I respect your path my friend. I personally alternate between both styles myself. Goth is my casual style and gentlemanly (with a goth touch) is my formal style. I think you pull off both goth and gentleman styles very well.

The great thing about this video is the lesson for all people. Never stop progressing. I have so many friends who got to the hippy stage in the 1970s or the punk and goth stage in the early 80s, and just never moved on, either in dress, music or ideas. It is so sad.

I think it’s important to be genuine regardless of whatever style you happen to decide to rep. Versatility for a gentleman is essential, so if you can be sincere in whatever style you should happen to be in then all the better. I think you look great in both, and I appreciate your videos. I think what you impart in them is the essence of what it means to be a gentleman, to be confident while also making an effort, so no matter your circumstances or budget, you try to look your best because you are being your best. Cheers 🥂

That black octopus picture behind you hints at a Cthulhu aesthetic...still a little bit goth? 😂 I was never goth, but definitely a long-haired heavy metal fan dressed in black for many years. Eventually, my hair started falling out, and I think buzzing my hair off began my "men's style journey." I look WAY different than I used to, and I've found that studying men's style can actually be MORE FUN than rocking my old metal regalia.

Massive MASSIVE improvement

Went from Peter Steele to Peter Thiel.

You look so good as a goth! Goths can be gentlemen too, I'm sure you know. I used to be goth in a small town and it really helps you grow thick skin to all of the insults and the weird looks I got. I understood where they were coming from too, I'd often brace myself whenever I walked into a store or had an interaction with someone. I wanted to say "Yeah, look I know what you're thinking and yeah I feel a bit stupid dressing like this but I really like the look." That was over 20 years ago. Now I dress alternative now, simple classic black items and long t-shirts instead of dog collars, band t-shirts and too much makeup. Less is more.

bro really went to one extreme to the other 🤣 thanks for sharing you story!! I think one should aim for a middle ground generally speaking, not to look like a creep or not too fancy/poser. Then when jobs and professional goals do demand an especific style, go for it, but that doesn't need to be your everyday life setting !

You are a handsome guy in general but there is no question your current style is elegant and sophisticated. Also more masculine. Good for you !

It’s goes to show how opportunity’s open up when you are well dressed it gives you much more gravitas in your personal life and professional life

Massive improvement, but you already know that ;)

Brave move...reminding bravery is doing something you know may hurt you. Your advise is good, crossing age. Wisdom...rare that it comes to a person at all, rarer to come in youth.

It's inspiring to see you werent always pish posh, gives us all hope. Thanks for being a leader.

This reminds me so much of the From Goth 2 Boss video from The IT Crowd😂

Personally I go with both styles.

I never really had a style. Until my dad told me to try on his cowboy hat (gambler style I believe). I then looked in the mirror and saw the handsomest cowboy of my life. That one moment inspired me to adopt the cowboy aesthetic and life truly has changed.

Good for you man. As a constructive feedback: your hair surely will look better when organized.

Thank you for sharing with us,

I love both styles, but I can understand that you feel more confident in society with your new style. I would be interested to see just a pinch of goth influence mixed into your current look. I think hinting at the different sides of your personality can add interest. Also, slightly extravagant accents within an otherwise classic look can make you stand out from the crowd.

Bravo to you. Good job and I like your content.

Amazing video buddy

Thank you very much for sharing this about yourself. I too was a fan of Goth as we called it death rock in California going back a bit from you to sisters of mercy blood money album. I have always enjoyed your videos maybe this was due to your change and mine as well. Best regards

I can't help but notice when watching this video, it feels as if you changed for society. There are plenty of people who dress far more intensely who are very successful, I get maybe not dressing that way at your job but fully changing for your job? That's kind of a different story. As for dating life, regardless of what you look like, you aren't held back from meeting the right person, if someone genuinely decides they don't want to speak to you or date you based on your appearance, then that means you're not supposed to be together. In the thumbnail I realize you can only see one photo of your younger self. So I don't know how you truly LOOKED, but I don't see how a man having long hair automatically makes them feminine, or a man dressing in dark clothing automatically makes them unapproachable, undateable and unhireable. If you are truly happy with the way you are now, then that's fantastic! I just really hope you're doing this for you and you only, because it makes you happy.

remembers me of IT Crowd "from Goth to Boss" :D but good change nonetheless :)

I am proud of you. This topic provides a lot of intrigue. I upgraded my look to incorporate an indie rock aesthetic. Some elements of fashion from the 20th Century British Isles. It represents my roots of my family and our common interest - music. Is it possible to combine this classical look with some indie rock aesthetics?

You’ve grown a lot. 👏

I have seen a few of your videos in recent weeks, and I did subscribe as I find Gent Z fascinating and highly relevant. I wanted to make a comment that has no vitriol or judgment of you, simply an issue you are probably not aware of, and as a gentleman would probably appreciate knowing. I have seen visual and verbal references to Sean Connery as an actor and gentleman. In 1960, he gave an interview in Playboy magazine that indicated he felt there were circumstances in which it was appropriate to hit women. Later, in 1986, he had an interview with Barbara Walters, where he doubled down on the appropriateness of hitting women with an open hand vs. a fist. I simply suggest that you have a look at this and conclude whether he is someone you would actually want to present in your content as an example of a gentleman. I think you are tremendously well-meaning and sincere. I hope you take this as an issue to look into for yourself and not as controversy or shaming.

Inspiring...Thank you

You look far better now and you will get multitudes more respect dressing the way you do now

Welcome to the States mate 😎

Look up Richmond from the IT crowd TV series. Its nice when nature balances. All hail Cradle of Filth!

Couple of tips: 1 wider spread collar with that double breasted blazer. 2 diversify your ties, that Brooks Brothers stripe is a good starter but a bit cliched to the trained eye. Compliments on the dashing pocket square

I have also noticed how differently strangers react to me now that I have changed my clothing style. Great video!

personally i'm going more goth

Same path here, I stopped being a metalhead 4 years ago, now I wear suits too.

You should channel the inner goth look but with the gentleman look. Like silk brocade and ruffles like 16th century French aristocrat vampire except with Chelsea boots!!! 🤘🏼🎸

Wow, much better look now. Certain looks people wear well; you sir wear the present look well.

Love the content! What lead you down that path to change your style?

I was also goth at age 20. Now at 43 I dress in traditional men's wear. People say I have old man style. Don't think there is anything wrong with that. I get far more respect and have never compromised for the haters. Then and now.

Why did you personally decide to change your style? Looks great!! 😊

Iwas wondering if you was a goth geezer from your bauhaus posta! Thanks for the great vids!!

I see everyone comments how upgraded you are and I guess it is so for formal environment where you have to represent a company. But man, the long hair fits you also very well and I guess it could go with "gentleman style" if treated properly.

I’m wondering if you have any inkling about your next transformation. Or do you think you are settling into gent world for good.

I used to have a similar look when I was younger. I always felt comfortable. I wore black shirts black jeans. then I was in the army and there I changed my hair. I wore a uniform so my private clothing style was not a big thing but I started slowly to change my cloths. when I left the army I started a job where I also wore a uniform but not a military. and I always felt that people threaded me different when I had my uniform on, they said "it looks so nice". So I one day decided to stop wearing jeans and reduce the color black to a bare minimum. Now I wear button up shirts or polos and trousers like chinos. i also feel comfortable and I see on a daily basis that its easier in my interaction with other people private or in business.

Boy, you were lost... Glad you find your way

personally i don't want people to talk to me when i go out

Interesting and thanks for sharing. When you made the transformation did you have to drop those Goth friends or did they naturally fall by the wayside? Or maybe some of them are still friends now?

bro is majestic

Bravo!

That's some difference!

We all have our young wild adventures.....but only some of us grow up. Being a well dressed gent in this day and age is akin to being a long haired radical in 1964. Its exotic and rare.

Okay, so recently I left my goth phase, and I have been really interested in my appearance a lot more than before, so when I heard you also dyed your hair black, I was wondering how exactly you removed the hair dye or did you just let it fade out.

I want to hear more about the mental transformation. Why did you want to go from Goth to Gent? What triggered these changes? How did your Goth friends react to these changes?

Your new style is great.

Your current men's style looks awesome and I think looks the best, but the goth look was pretty awesome too!

I wanna be a music teacher one day, so I’m quite interested in learning classic style. But I’m also a huge metalhead so I’ll keep that goth stuff in the back pocket 😂

Question about your music style, once you settled into your image changes did you find difficulty finding those into the same genres as you among your more cleaned up friends or did image have little impact on what music everyone listened to? As a millennial elder emo type being cleaned up makes it harder to find those willing to hop in a mosh pit with me. Most of my acquaintances are more or less closeted with their music tastes haha.

i love both styles, right now I'm in a transitional point from teen to man, this will be the last year i have graphic tees unless it's pajamas lol, but I've gone with a darker color cloths, black, i do want to look somewhat goth, light goth but i also wanted to mix the Gentleman style with it, a goth Gentleman if you will, i want the goth elements to be light like a nice Little touch along side the Gentleman style. what do you think, also do you think you could do a video for the goths out there who want to look like men ? i love your videos, even though I'm not a zoomer I'm a Zillennial, 26 lol

I had a similar transformation. I played in metal bands DJed for most of my life and I had dreads down to my calves, piercings and such. One day I decided to start dressing my age and cut my hair. Eventually, I enjoyed living as a normie after so many years, living the oposite.

I have to say, you did look good as a Goth