Groom's Shocking Wedding Speech Causes CHAOS, Bride Forced to Break Silence 

I was once invited to my ex's wedding and I didn't attend. I had no business going there.

Why didn't they just have the usual vows read by the officiant?? My husband is probably the shyest person I know, so we had the officiant read the usual, but we did write our own vows, we just read them privately, at home, with each other. But, we got remarried on our 15th wedding anniversary on the pitons in St. Lucia. It was a much smaller ceremony, and he felt comfortable reading his own vows that he wrote and so did I!! It was absolutely amazing!! We're married almost 30 years now!

He didn't even think to just say "I love you and I'm so happy to be marrying you". Basically, state a fact (I hope) and what's currently happening.

It breaks my heart to see purple haired bride saying her husband is “too good for her”, & you can tell she really believes it. And unlike others stating their marriage won’t last, unfortunately theirs will last, because she doesn’t believe she can do better, & she’ll stay no matter what.

She's stronger than I. he is a walking manifestation of cringe to me. Painful every time he talks

I'm sorry, these women are simply in denial of the type of men they married. I married a guy just like that and I am happily divorced now. They need to stand up for what they deserve

May we never marry any red flags! Smh 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Imagine being either of those women 😭😭 they think disrespect is not only ok but funny because they’ve been conditioned and desensitised by “take a joke! Don’t be so serious, you’re so sensitive!”

This chick was given a plethora of red flags and still said I do .

The man can't even take his own wedding seriously. He's definitely not taking that marriage seriously smfh

How come it's the women that defend the men, when it should be the guys explaining themselves? Mhm

Her insisting that "he's too good for me" is a giant 🚩🚩🚩. Edit: I was not coming for this woman in anyway! I was coming for the man. Period

I saw this on Instagram & was like, why would you say something so disgusting on your wedding day? And the fact he said nothing romantic at all and degrading her AND his ex girlfriend was there with a speech?! Yeah, narcissistic behavior indeed by the groom.

If she thinks he’s too good for her she needs to see a therapist, genuinely

Hiim taking 10 years to get married is already a huge red flag in itself. I wouldn't be surprised if it was just a shut-up ring

I actually pity these women who think that they deserve this kind of disrespect, who don't think that their spouse should treat them with kindness, who think it's normal that their spouses only focus on their bodies and not on feelings... Breaks my heart 😢

Seriously, Cody said that he gets zero respect and being called out from saying that and being so toxic she can do so much better and why did he invite his ex? seriously, he's in hot water.

Those are the type of guys who will laugh when you fall down and not help you up

I just can’t get over the fact that they hear their wives sweet vows and still make those vows says well a lot

Ok but the clip of the examples of good vows "when death chooses to take my hand I will hold you with the other" I'm literally crying.

It is so sad to me, to see these women express vulnerability and respect and admiration for their partners and then tolerate a man with the emotional depth of a teaspoon Its always women who says "i felt like no one would love me" "i was so broken" "you helped me pick up the pieces" who tolerate the absolute bare minimum effort these men are putting in when they deserve a husband who is just as excited and vulnerable and emotional on their wedding day as she is. Edit: the ACTUAL ICK when he kissed her and went "mm mmm yeah" 🤢🤢🤢 i mean STRAIGHT NAUSEA

27 year old man child smh

I've been to many weddings growing up and have even gotten the pleasure of attending one of my best friend's recently. And out of all those weddings I've been to, the couples that are still happily together, are the ones in which the groom either cried during his vows or gave a very emotionally heartfelt vow. All other ones in which the groom gave a "humourous" vow, the couple have separated or the groom is currently being disowned by my family for the way he's been treating his wife and we are quietly waiting for a divorce to free her of the emotional turmoil. We may not know these people, they might claim to know their relationship of 10+ years, but all I'm saying is that there is a pattern. And I can only feel sorry for the brides who feel like r husbands are "too good" for them. I only hope they can learn to love themselves more and see themselves as empowering.

I went to a wedding where I saw behind the scenes of both the groom and the bride getting ready. The groom hadn't written his vows and had his friends help him write something real quick while drinking beers. Meanwhile, the bride (who had planned and organized EVERYTHING completely herself) had written hers months ago, but was panicking while trying to get ready because apparently the groom had been upset her vows were typed and printed and told her THAT day she needed to rewrite them by hand. Between directing guests where to go, ensuring all the moving parts were in place, putting the bouquets, decor and buffet together, and getting _herself_ ready, she absolutely didn't have time to hand write her vows. She was SO stressed, so I and her mother jumped in and hand wrote those typed vows for her. Big yikes.

The bar is so low.

Bro but at least ask ChatGPT to write it 😂

This isn't the first red flag the groom put out but if his vows were tone deaf then his bride "the puzzle" wasn't listening.

Narcs always TAKE vulnerable people. Their childhoods prepared them for humiliation. Thanks moma and dad!

My husband and I both struggle with procrastination and mild anxiety when public speaking. We both decided right away that we would not write our own vows to declare in front of everybody. Wedding was smooth like butter.

I had been in a relationship with a narcissist for 7 years and I never realized the insane amount of abuse going on. It took me years to understand the extent of it. I would also always defend him and actually believed what I said because I was so brainwashed. So for people who say that we only saw 10 seconds and don't know enough to make judgement about their relationship... Just the fact that the brides, and not the grooms, came out to defend them and one said ''I don't deserve him" and the other "I was broken into pieces"... That's more telling to me than the actual vows themselves. I hope these brides will realize their actual worth eventually.

Okay this goes from bad to worse

These men are cringey as heck.

If my groom was that second dude and he said those things in his vows I would definitely be walking away. How crude and embarrassing.

NORMALIZE👏LEAVING👏MEN👏AT👏THE👏ALTAR👏 I CANT STRESS THIS ENOUGH 😫 ; if he brings you shame on your wedding day, he is going to embarrass you in the future.

We have got to stop being mad for women who aren’t. Let’s put our energy into women who actually need AND want support

The wife's are just delusional and would do anything just to have a man which is so sad. Teach your kids to learn to enjoy their alone time because if you don't, it raises desperate adults that end up with people who don't appreciate them.

I think the issue people actually have with the vows some people write - or don't - is that it feels like they don't really take the ceremony seriously. Like I get having fun with your vows and cracking jokes but the jokes themselves tend to be objectifying and misogynistic and it sucks to see go down on such an important day. Also SCREAMING AT THE FUNKYFROGBAIT CAMEO 😭😭😭

Imaging thinking so little of yourself, that you think this is all you deserve. She needs professional help badly.

Based on the video he has zero respect for her really, it's like he's been dragued into this wedding...Now, there must have been pleeeeeenty of signs before this, I don't think he showed an entire new personality on his wedding day...She know what she signed for

I never thought he'd make it this far Some kid in the audience: Nobody did! 😅

Both grooms sounds like they have not just zero, but NEGATIVE amount of respect for woman they're about to marry. I mean, it's fine if both versions had jokes in it. But if one sounds like something THOUGHTFUL and as if she says aloud something from very bottom of her heart, and his vow sounds like cutout from bad standup where man jokes about women being dumb and useless - call that person who's running around with red flag

So happy my husband actually wrote some vows lol

How disrespectful of him! This is a narcissist. Unfortunately, her eyes will open too late.

Married happily for almost 41 years now…our whole relationship is built upon our senses of humor. Yet our wedding was traditional vows (with the obey part included for both of us as that was our ONLY nod towards humor within our ceremony), BUT our reception is where we cut loose and friends who were in attendance STILL talk about how much fun they had at our reception. We became “marriage goals”in the rural area where we are from and to date one couple who are our friends and FOUR of our nieces/nephews have asked if it would be ok if they also got married on our wedding date because of the longevity of our marriage! And all five of those couples are still married. (Friends’ marriage is going on 39 years. Oldest niece to choose the same date will celebrate 26 years on our mutual date. The last one to marry on our wedding anniversary is another niece…she and her husband will celebrate seven years this year!) Reserve the humor for your reception or whatever party you have to celebrate the wedding. The wedding vows should be light-hearted but they should MEAN something! You’re taking a vow-not doing stand-up. I hope these marriages last IF the grooms treat the brides well. If these women are stuck in toxicity groomed to believe they don’t deserve anything more than what he’s willing to dole out then I hope these men go ahead and leave the women so they will be free to find themselves and live good lives. Never, ever settle, ladies. Never.

Marriage is a huge joke for most people. It’s like getting a yoga membership for a month. Once the trial is over, if you find you don’t like it, it’s easily abandoned.

Weddings are getting out of hand. From child-free being told to people at the last minute, to MILs wearing white, to exs now being invited into the wedding party. This is also just tasteless and gross

In both couples I see such disrespect the man holds for his wife. It’s disgusting.

Wonder how funny it will be when it’s their turn to pay for their daughter’s weddings and that’s the speech the groom gives.

My husband cried like a baby when he read his beautiful vows ❤ I didn't only because I paid alot for my makeup 😂

The officiant gave him so many chances but the groom couldnt deliver

I’m sorry but if my groom says that to me on our wedding day, i’m literally calling it quits. Practice self-love early on ladies and gentlemen before you enter a relationship. Love yourself, know your worth. No man is “too good” for you. No one can tell me otherwise.

Honestly how many women defend their abusive partners until they are found dead? So why won't they defend their toxic partner who has zero respect for them, which IS exactly how these 2 men see their now wives. No real man would ever disrespect or degrade their partner like this in front of their family and friends on what is suppose to be the most special day in their lives. So yeah the women can defend the act but that also shows how much they self respect they have for themselves, when the man they say loves them so much tells everyone present that all she is to him is a s** doll and as long as they know their place he will stay with them. That's just my opinion as a man maybe I'm wrong maybe I'm right, who knows, all I know for sure is that I see more and more women with no self respect and it is sad after how hard women have fought to be seen as more then just baby machines and home cooks.

For those brides defending their groom for showing his "personality", I'm 100% convinced that these are the same dudes that will make an inappropriate joke at a funeral. He's got the rest of his life and every other occasion to be funny and he chose his own wedding to be a clown.

9:43 “ it’s one thing to invite your ex to your wedding. It’s another thing to let them make a speech, I’m not ready for that level of maturity” 😂😂😂

My husband and I just said the classic vows to each other. We’ve been married 21 years. Maybe at our 50th wedding anniversary we’ll write some.

The length of relationship isn’t by itself the measure of successful relationship. Some people have committed themselves to suffering

I’ve learned, You can’t argue with people over who they choose to marry. They got to live with that choice themselves, they know what level of respect they deserve and what they want to put up with so we can only sit and watch and hope it works out well.

Still better than the groom who told his bride in front of everyone “tonight you can decide if you want to be a toaster stroodle or a twinkie. I would leave him right there

“The one thing you can’t control… the groom.” You 100% have control over the groom. Make sure you are marrying someone that will not embarrass you.

Do people still say "man and wife"? Gross, what is this, the 1950s?

The "female rage" is so true. As women, we all know that one friend, one sister, one mother, one female colleague who would do anything for her partner, who has her whole heart set on him, and yet he gives so little in return. But this (sorry, not sorry) first piece of garbage of a guy dares to say he's going to smack her a**? This is problematic on so many levels and not just a joke at all. He didn't understand how much she meant her words and the fact that he wasn't thinking about her and how his words would make her feel shows that there wasn't a single cell in his brain. Yes, I took that sentence personally on a meta-level as I believe many women have been or are in that situation. She didn't deserve to get such a weak response to her love. And it hurts to see others go through this. Maybe this is projecting, but still a but of truth we can all see in this situations. And the second piece of garbage with his obscene vows is a human disgrace. If the purple-haired lady is happy with him, so be it. But still, he could have said some nice things about her. Seeing other clips of beautiful vows, won't let me accept anything different. (Of course, this situation also exists for men, but this is about us women.)

I wouldn’t want my kids to go to the second wedding due to the vulgarity I definitely would not want to explain the nuance of the grooms words to kids who are 7 and under

I was in a secually abusive realationship noone that told me he was off or weird convinced me. I thought only I could understand the meaningful and respecting relationship between us. He always said he'd chase while crying crocodile tears. Ofcourse he never changed but I could have never seen it on my own. It hard to realize manipution when your in that deep.

Cringeworthy and awful. It’s the reason I plan on getting married in a courthouse.

Lot of armchair psychologists online, a real psychologist doesn't diagnose people based on 60 seconds of video.

That second guy was cringe af. Now that was embarrassing!

why does the second guy sound like he’s doing a school presentation 😭

The officiant responded on Reddit, the bride is his niece & said Cody is extremely socially awkward and hates the attention on him.. he also said the ex and the bride used to be best friends before she got with him

I really hope this is a huge misunderstanding and he just froze up under pressure. I’ve done that on stage before and it’s excruciating for everyone 😖

First Groom totally disrespected not only his bride but everyone there.

If people say “ you’re not gonna last” and you do but no one is like “I love the progress”. It doesn’t mean your breaking the odds…. It means you’re weak, conditioned and stuck. You deserve better than someone making a joke out of your life.

My MIL forced my husband to invite both of his exes, and it was so weird.

Fifty bucks says this marriage does better than most! Just ignore the jealous internet harpees.

Some people are happy rolling around in sh*t. They shouldn't be surprised when others judge them.

PRIEST: "Well, alright, it's YOUR funeral....for which I'll be available for a nominal fee."

This really does show women are more tolerant than men.

ew, well thank these ladies for taking these men away from being disrespectful to anyone else…that’s why they’re together cause he’s disrespectful and she allows it

He's a child.

Why are all these videographers posting these on their social media? Do they ask for permission or not because I can't imagine blasting something so intimate online and criticizing it like that without knowing them

Unfortunately, many women with low self-esteem which most of us have. Because society makes us that way, willingly accept this disrespect.

Michael… in front of your mom? Have some class omg.

They're your wedding vows, not open mic night.

The audience's laughs were not an expression of joy, but of discomfort.

I used to spin fire at the near University campus, near to a hall that they rent out for weddings. One time a wedding party came out to watch us and infront of the Bride, the Groom turned to me and said "This is the best thing to happen to me all day".... Cue the Bride turning and walking off. I wonder if they are still together?

Now "you saying "aww, look at that dog" about every dog you see" is a cute and appropriate joke!

The second girl is just a place holder and she doesn’t know it.

9:25 Dad: I thought he'd never make it this far Son: No one did! 😂😂

Nah, those vows were cringe as all and I am definitely with the internet on this one..Yikes

Although I may not personally agree with their approach to vows, I am astounded by the difficulty some individuals have in comprehending the possibility of such a lighthearted and playful dynamic between these individuals. It is important to recognize that not everyone shares the same preferences, and what may be perceived as red flags by some may be considered enjoyable and entertaining by others. Personally, I find their dynamic amusing and am genuinely happy for their enduring and blissful marriage. It is crucial to remember that personal preferences do not equate to superior knowledge or understanding.

Okay, that does it. I already tease my guy about how nice his buns are all of the time. If we get married, it's going into the vows. He gets to start, say all the sweet stuff I know he's gonna say, and then he's gonna hear an epic ode to his hindquarters. Not as revenge on the world. Not even to become a legend. Because he has the cutest laugh I've ever heard, and this will absolutely break him since he won't expect it.

His last name tells you where she found him-"Shein"🙃

Aww bless her, she even tried to do the funky entrance dance with him, but only she was dancing.

guys heres a tip: u can marry someone without a wedding. just in case u just want your partner and not need to embarrass yourselves. u can just do the paperworks.

I loved the vows from corpse bride and we will be using that

Everyone complains about rom-coms giving us unrealistic expectations about love and romance. But there is also a very common trope that romanticize disrespect and rudeness in relationships - when partners (one partner or both) always put down, insult, prank, "humble" and humiliate each other. I've seen it multiple times in movies, tv shows and books. In real life as well. Most people praise this type of behavior as healthy, wholesome, a sign of true love and good humor. A lot of people who outraged with these vows are the same people who call celebrity couples trolling each other on twitter or couples in tv shows always insulting each other "charming" and "couple goals". Let's be honest, if it was a Ryan Reynolds' tweet to Blake Lively most people would've found it "cute" and "romantic" but as some random guy's wedding vows it's disgusting and red flags. We praised this kind of behavior left and right for many years and than got extremely mad because someone had the bad taste to choose a very inappropriate time and place to express it. I personally know several quite young couples who literally play-act British tv show "Vicious" in their relationships. I don't get it but it's not my place to judge as long as everyone is happy and on the same page.

Man just recently on an Insta post we gathered with a bunch of people wondering what had happened with this woman... Thanks for this!

I died when you spoke about the other bad groom vows viral wedding at 11 minutes into the video because I was thinking of that literally the whole time lol 🤣

When a man shows you who he is, believe him.

WHY would you consent to having the video of your wedding posted for others to judge???

When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the Red Flags just look like flags.