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Hair JEALOUSY! How to know if someone is jealous or envious of your hair

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@joybanks4974 Месяц назад

I have long natural coily hair. When I compliment those with beautiful short kinky hair, they look surprised. We need to embrace our natural hair at every length.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

true!

@callmechichi1711 Месяц назад

Instead of being jealous, people could use that energy to take down notes & work on their hair being healthy or long. Jealousy is a waste of time when anyone can achieve what they want. It just takes time, effort, & work. Some people just don’t want to put the work in 🤷🏽‍♀️. If you find yourself being jealous & saying rude things to people out of spite without putting the work in, then respectfully close that hole that’s on your face.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

true..

@Brandiisbeloved Месяц назад

sometimes people cant achieve what others have. The goal should be contentment and self acceptance and not trying to achieve everything youre jealous of because sometimes you cant for many reasons.

@littleleah310 29 дней назад

this

@GracieNzg Месяц назад

So true! One day I was wearing my natural hair straighten in a ponytail. One of my friends complimented me on how beautiful and long it looked. Then my sister (yes, my sister) interrupted her and said : “it’s broken in the nape anyways”. I completely forgot about this memory but your video brought it back lol. I can also relate to the time thing 😅. One day I had somebody tell me : “you have long hair because you stay at home all day” and I was like yes but I work too, I’m an entrepreneur. Then she was like : “yes but I have a real job outside, with a lot of things to do”. Okay so my hair is long because I have nothing to do, gotcha 🤣✅

@buhlemaz Месяц назад

Omg, the nerve of some people! 🤦🏽‍♀️

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

sis! o was told am retaining long hair because I was pregnant at the time. sometimes it comes from the most unexpected people in the most unexpected way and at the most unexpected time. why is it so important that the nape was broken? the hair was still long and beautiful so why not focus on the positive? I got told once my hair is long but full of split ends 😅

@janeenharrison1953 Месяц назад

ha! Why coulnd't she just say, how do you grow it long? Ask for advice is okay, lol.

@divinahbeauty250 Месяц назад

Girl I understand. I don't always wear my afro out but 1 day in particular when my hair got longer (past my shoulders) My mother was giving me compliments then a few days after when I had to wash my hair she told me about my mop head...sight 🤦🏾‍♀️ btw I have 4c hair and she has 4b

@Shadow_Viperess Месяц назад

I choked on my water at the stares lol. My bf mom was blown away when i wore my hair in an afro for a vacation. Shes a blk woman with a whit husband. She didnt have a good perception of natural hair due to her experiences. She was all over my because she loved that my hair was thick. I've NEVER SEEN HER REAL HAIR, but she told me her hair is thin. She told me she would love to have my hair thickness. Its like i get bownie points just for having it out.

@tiredoftheworld4834 Месяц назад

I have thick natural hair and my sister had thinner natural hair but she almost NEVER wears it out. I’m not gonna lie but having thicker hair (that some people complain about handling when styling it/maintaining) helps your self confidence… like when you put it in an Afro, etc. my thick hair helps me cover up a bad haircut. My sis doesn’t really like her hair and having thinner hair doesn’t help her case but I wish she embrace it and take more care of it. Then, she will learn to love it.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

I hope she was inspired more than anything…

@rosam674 Месяц назад

If you want to know "hair jealousy", visit a salon. Those stylists come from hell for sure. My hair has always been past shoulder length and as a result, I have suffered under their care over the years. So I stopped going to them. I started doing my hair and went natural even before I knew the natural movement was a thing. Now that I have grown my hair longer, they will NEVER touch it. The last time I went to a salon they told me I needed to cut off half my length. And they called that a trim.

@lola0600 Месяц назад

After I had my son I went to the hair salon to get my hair done. My whole pregnancy, I kept my hair in a bun, just wanted it to look nice. During my pregnancy my hair had literally grown to waist length. The stylist had me in the salon all day. She said she was going to make my hair look really nice. She cut my hair to shoulder, straighten it, giving me a mushroom hairstyle. I had to restyle my hair because it looked so crazy. I was young at the time, in the early 1990’s. That would not happen now.

@rosam674 Месяц назад

@@lola0600 😭😭😭😭😭😭

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

That’s CRAZY!

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

😫😫😫

@JesusIsGod. Месяц назад

The stares gets me. I’m honestly sick of it. 🤣🤣🤣

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️

@cherylwin9364 Месяц назад

I AM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR ADDRESSING THESE ISSUES, I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS, I AM ALMOST 60 AND GROWING UP IN THE USA OUR HAIR HAS ALWAYS BEEN AN ISSUE IN A PREDOMINANTLY CAUCASIAN SOCIETY, AND DEALING WITH THE KARENS THAT WANT TO GAWK,RIDICULE YET STILL TOUCH WITHOUT PERMISSION. I BELIEVE OUR HAIR HAS BEEN SHORT DUE TO COLONIZATION AND BEING RIPPED FROM OUR NATURAL ENVIRONMENT AND THE NATURAL PRODUCTS LIKE ALOE VERA AS WELL AS TRADITIONAL METHODS OF HOW OUR MOTHERS AND GRANDMOTHERS CARED FOR OUR HAIR. I’M SO GLAD TOO SEE THE YOUNGER GENERATION RECLAIMING NATURAL HAIR CARE. ❤️😇❤️🙏🏽👍🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

Thanks for sharing this! I think it’s so important to have these conversations

@kathyflemmings631 Месяц назад

I do also always compliment other black woman whether it be their outfits their hair I love us I think we are some of the most beautiful and amazing women not that other women are not but we are not usually complimented as much as, from my experience.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

Absolutely sis ❤️

@zundrasluxury6287 Месяц назад

What bothered me most is when your hair is flourishing and is long that people think that you are either mixed or it’s only genetically. I am working on my hair to receive your length. Thank you for informative content.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

Great point! keep at it! your hair will get there ❤️

@tiredoftheworld4834 Месяц назад

Yes!! I hate the “genetics” argument. They only say it if you’re black. I love how there are African ladies online defeating that harmful ideology.

@A_Wilson Месяц назад

It’s sad but true! I showed up to a family gathering with my hair looking longer, thicker and healthier than it’s ever been. One of my relatives starting suggesting product lines I should try. Now clearly what I was doing was working so why all the suggestions?? I think it was because she thought my hair shouldn’t look as good as it did! 😆

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

straaaaaangeeee!!😬

@naturalshatara9559 Месяц назад

That’s so crazy my little sister she is 16 has almost butt length hair and when we are around family trust I’m her bodyguard with family because I see scisssors or a knife anything that can cut I’m going in lbvs

@victoriasvibesss Месяц назад

This is a tactic I've seen my aunt do. I want to research what this behavior is called but it's basically like the person giving the advice is trying to elevate themselves and remind you that you still need improvement or your hair isn't even that great, as in, it's not at a healthy point. This is to be demeaning as if you still noticeably had damage or something to work on when clearly you are thriving but it's impossible for people like this to say that out of their mouth. They want to hold the power and if they recognize your greatness, to them they lose it.

@A_Wilson Месяц назад

@victoriasvibesss YES!!!! Girl I think you nailed it! She has a looser texture and has always been considered to have “good” hair, therefore the nicest. Ha ha, you nailed it! 👏💜

@kathyflemmings631 Месяц назад

I remember that my mother used to tell me don’t let anyone put their hands in your hair and I noticed that a lot of people would try to feel my hair when I was a child my mother always put my hair into two braids I didn’t understand it at that time but I know understand .

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

your mama is wise!❤️

@nkroks4492 Месяц назад

This was my dad. Protecting my head and warmed me to avoid people touching my head. Now I understand

@victoriasvibesss Месяц назад

wow, yea, others hands carry energy. indigenous standz has a video touching on this, it's worth the watch.

@novatastic1111 Месяц назад

Yes I’m scared to go to any hair dresser they make it worse !! Last time I went to get my braids done I had my hair in jumbo twist the lady took the ends and ripped it !!! I heard the rip!! All she had to do is take her time to pull out the ends !!! And had the nerve to tell me my hair is breaking !

@Brandiisbeloved Месяц назад

i have very dense hair and have had aunties who i have never seen their natural hair all my life tell me i have too much hair. Its so strange because how can i have too much when this is what God gave me. At my last job i had a male co worker who loved my hair and would always come to me for advice for his daughters hair. One day he suggested a woman wear her natural hair "like brandi". I wish he didnt say that because it caused so much problems surrounding my hair. That for the last 6 months of my job i wore it in twist or buns. If she wants to wear wigs thats her right. He should have never compared us. I will say she did start wearing her own hair. It was relaxed but i will say she looked way more beautiful with her own hair.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

wow that’s an odd comment. men are really blunt about what they like and he probably didn’t mean ill at all.

@ayeletp9150 Месяц назад

😂 love this. I had someone say, I didn't expect your hair to be long😂. I find the best way to deal with poor behaviour from others is just to disengage. Become a master at ignoring bad vibes...too much goodness to focus on🥰. Let them get jealous until they grow up, too 😂

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

good strategy but I struggle. am either so shocked I have no response to them or say the most unexpected 😅🙆🏽‍♀️

@victoriasvibesss Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiaries same

@bridgetralebala4142 Месяц назад

Its on my head its my hair....period!!! And no you cant touch it!😅😅😅 This journey is not fir the faint hearted. Thanks for sharing this difficult topic.❤🎉

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

Exactly!! it should be straight forward but but not for everyone I guess 😞

@esthertjones Месяц назад

We definitely have to uplift each other ❤

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

true!

@NaturallyHigh Месяц назад

“Your hair looks like so much work. I wouldn’t be able to deal with all that.”

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

sooooo salty girl!!! your hair is a dream! I can imagine the amount of let downs you get for having that gift! I for one have learnt so much from you and loooove your hair! been meaning to reach out for a consult/ collab! I think it would be great ❤️❤️❤️

@buhlemaz Месяц назад

I reckon there is a "Tall Poppy Syndrome" amongst us women in the natural hair community or women within communities where afro type hair is prominent. We have believed and have been taught that our hair doesn't grow and isn't "good hair" 💔. So perhaps for some, when they see hair out of the norm, their reaction is to thwart it so it can conform to the "norm." It's sad because a little curiosity has the ability to change so much! I personally admire your hair and hope to grow healthier hair by following your tips, I'm just not consistent nor patient, the stagnant length is all me, I'm claiming my "L" 😂

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

That’s a great point! wanting the “norm” to continue and sometimes it’s a subconscious reaction. girl the lazy natural routine is it for claiming your “L”

@Prettygirlwitinches Месяц назад

Another one underline jealousy tactic to me is when they say “girl if I had hair like you” or “I wish I had hair like you it gives me a cringe 😂

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

🤣🤣

@rewghob Месяц назад

I don't think those people are jealous. They are people who genuinely feel that they could never retain long hair. They see you as a unicorn.

@callmechichi1711 Месяц назад

You look beautiful hun.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

Thank you so much 🤗

@c.l.b1667 Месяц назад

I remember years ago when I had relaxed hair. A lady could not believe it was my real hair so she massaged my hair from the back feeling to see I it not a weave. Thank God I don't have to gift of jealousy lol. I admire other people I hair happy for them not jealous.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

Oh wow! Jealousy is no gift hun!🙄😅

@c.l.b1667 Месяц назад

@CoilyDiaries yes I know, but people are so good in it.

@belltillman6504 Месяц назад

Not only do our people do this but also other non black people do it. I live around mostly white and hawaiana people and they will dig in my hair touch my hair and even smell my hair without asking me. I just don’t understand it. I have never went up to a stranger and started touching them. So intrusive.

@stephanies3862 Месяц назад

I'm sorry but if I were you I would totally do it right back to them. Let them see just how awkward and nasty it is to have someones hands feel them up without their permission.. Lol 😏

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

wow 😮! no respect for personal space huh??🤔

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

🤪🤣🤣! things i don’t know them and how clean/ dirty their hair is so digging into theirs is not exactly my cup of tea😬

@stephanies3862 Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiaries I hear ya. Good point. Lol

@brigidmueni Месяц назад

I've gotten all these comments and so many more....the hate is mostly from my own family😂....my sister even went ahead to yank a hair strand that i was asking if it was in the right place as i did my hair cause i couldn't see😢

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

so sad!!!

@brigidmueni Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiarieswe need a part 2 please😂

@amb7412 20 дней назад

I had problems when I was younger and I had a weave or two long braids put in, girls tried to fight me. My freshman year in college was ridiculous< I couldn't believe young women at that age were so jealous and nasty. They did encourage the Back young men on campus to behave badly. several walked through my dorm and tried to break into my room. I was taking a nap.I didn't even know the young men. my locks had to be replaced. I caught the young ladies one by one and that solved the issues with them. I transferred and never looked back. I think its sad that people behaved this way. But, God covers you so you just keep looking forward. Now, I wear my own hair and I still have women asking me if Im wearing a wear. Some women!

@kathyflemmings631 Месяц назад

I also always got do you have something else in you like I couldn’t have that much hair and just be black!! I had to be mixed 🤨

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

yeeeeeeesssss!!!! forgot that one!!

@1GoldenBreeze Месяц назад

Yes, I have certainly experienced some of these types of statements and actions. The comment that bothers me most is when people say things like, "How did you get your hair to grow that long? Oh, you must be mixed!" It's as though they absolutely cancel out the fact that I've taken good care of my hair. The funny thing is that most of the time the person saying these things has a similar type 4 texture to mine.🤣🤷‍♀

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

true..

@ebonywatson9939 Месяц назад

Don’t forget “ your hair looks like a Brillo pad” lol the ultimate jealousy 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

ahhaha right?😆

@shondajohnson-ford838 Месяц назад

Right

@lnyawilliamsmoore Месяц назад

Mrs. You had me laughing 🤣 and Amening and shaking my head throughout this video. When a hamitic woman sees my long hair and slighly looks for wefts to see if it's my real hair 😫 😩 When will the madness end,Lord!? You look so pretty in your outfit and hairstyle,Pi🎉. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾😊

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

ahahha crazy!! 😝! thanks for the compliment though 🥰

@BelwillCoily Месяц назад

People staring at your hair: Bombastic Side- Eye 👀 🤭🤭🤣🤣

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@naturalshatara9559 Месяц назад

Men yes correct it’s crazy

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

😏😏😏

@jasmincraighead420 Месяц назад

All of this! I had a stylist rip through my hair detangling, give me a puffy af blowout, then try to claim that a third of my bra strap length hair was damaged and needed to be cut. The way I noped outta there 😮‍💨

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

😳😳😳😫😫

@janeenharrison1953 Месяц назад

funny! 😆 but don't be too judgemental. As Black Women, we are not used to seeing ourselves with loooong natural hair so the reactions are going to be mixed. But true! I barely have mine half way to the back of my neck and someone noticed the growth and swore it was genetic! lol. I took it in stride.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

Well said…

@tiredoftheworld4834 Месяц назад

It’s where that view comes from (yt supremacy) that pisses me off. There are African women who hate weaves and stay natural with long hair down their backs. But people swear up and down that the more black you are the more it is impossible

@Brandiisbeloved Месяц назад

not to take away from the message but whered you get that top? its beautiful

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

Thanks darl. it’s so old I can’t even remember. it’s actually a dress

@sanehmchunu3667 Месяц назад

One thing you need to know about the people working in Salons is that they know nothing about Length Retention, they dont know how to handle natural hair so it doesnt break...my dear forgive them😅. Reason why i dont go to salons anymore.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

🤔🤔🤔😞😞😞

@cheybrown2191 Месяц назад

I would never be jealous I wanna know all the secrets to get there lol 😅

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

right?!?!😅

@zundrasluxury6287 Месяц назад

Can you recommend small bands that I can use on the ends of my hair and that will not break off my hair in the bands. My hair is natural, and I usually wear it in 2 braids and bands on the end of it, but I note that after a couple of days when I retrieve the bands carefully I’m getting breakage. Please help!!!

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

I’d recommend vine wrapping in place of the bands ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1s1MR7Uv7MA.htmlsi=TkWMvLO2GKDzI5qD

@zundrasluxury6287 Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiaries my hair is not as long as yours, but I just did it and I’ll see how that works for me. I am going to get your book very soon.

@zundrasluxury6287 Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiaries also, I know that when my hair is straighter, it tends not to break as much. I know that wearing it in the natural state attends to break more.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

@@zundrasluxury6287nice!

@TrinaMorales-James Месяц назад

Hi love you I’m a mixed girl sorta but my mother is black with coily hair that’s below bra strength and I finally can sit on mine but other people say it’s because I’m mixed and couldn’t possibly be that I take good care of it,I get everything you’re saying 🤗

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

@@TrinaMorales-James girlllll🙄🙄🙄! Congratulations on growing your hair that long!

@luke184lisa Месяц назад

I get “knock, knock , knock” while in my bathroom… “Are you in the mirror again?.. are you doing your hair?..I have t o use the bathroom!”… (Me thinking) “DANG.. that monitoring spirit!”.

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

@@luke184lisa 🙄🙄🙄

@luke184lisa Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiaries Exactly… sooooooo annoying!

@luke184lisa Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiaries ❤️🙏🏽

@naturalshatara9559 Месяц назад

They cut too much off

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

worse if it’s without permission 😬

@naturalshatara9559 Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiaries that’s what happened to me and I’m traumatized

@CoilyDiaries Месяц назад

@@naturalshatara9559 😏 sorry girl!

@naturalshatara9559 Месяц назад

@@CoilyDiaries it happened in May, come to find out he was under the influence

@tiredoftheworld4834 Месяц назад

After I already got a haircut with a chunk missing on the left (I’ve slightly recovered), I went back to get my hair straightened (at my mother’s pounding request) for military ball. The lady doing my hair said I needed 1-2 MORE inches cut off. wtf. My hair was short enough… I personally looked for split ends before I went and they were barely 1 cm. Lies lies and more lies.