Yes, they like their traumatised slaves. They hare "equals" who see no reason to submit and therefore won't. Useless to them. They want to someone to boss around and psychologically abuse who won't leave the second he realises how much of a self loathing, self destructive, weird and creepy liability she is.
A handsome man alone is a man on his purpose. He knows his priorities. He's not necessarily lonely, just alone. A man at one with himself doesn't need validation from anyone.
That's partially true, we all need external validation from people, we are social beings not lone wolfs. Human beings are not like cats, you need a pack at the very least if not a love interest, your pack being your family and friends for instance(those still give you validation and positive reinforcement.)
To: "He's not necessarily lonely, just alone" My Question: Who is he? Every person feels differently...... However, being alone can feel lonely at some point because we are human-social beings, whose brains naturally need healthy commection and also touch, tenderness, exchange, security, closeness and appreciation. Saying: Alone is not lonely is - sorry - a no-brainer/rationalization 🙂
What’s worked for me is not caring whether women notice me or not, just being in the moment enjoying my life. And if they approach I treat them like everyone else, there’s no pedestal. Nobody is better than anyone.
Have always done this. Almost purposely maintained a low key oblivious nature to women’s interactions. I never saw the point in doing some jester dance approach to women. I just treat people as people. I think it throws women off because they think I’m flirting or expect flirting when I’m just chilling
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
In my early 20s, I returned to college after I going from 315 pounds to 210 pounds through years of training. I also got a solid tan from my summer job, quality clothes, kept/ built muscle and kept my teeth clean. I earned a reputation as a “hot guy” when I returned to college, but it then became the loneliest time of my life. Guys didn’t laugh at my jokes and it felt like more and more guys were sizing me up or talking shit behind my back. Women who I knew would look away and appear on guard when I was around, and people stopped smiling at me. Oddly enough, more women than I expected would start to look at me with a kind of insecure frown- like I reminded them of some high school crush they couldn’t date. Suddenly, since I hung out with the artistic crowd, I became a kind of target for everyone’s insecurities. Which is weird because I grew up as the funny fat kid with glasses. But imagine if Chris Farley suddenly looked like Chris Hemsworth in Thor- the jokes just don’t work anymore. It was a massive eye opening experience where suddenly I realized that attractive people get judged WAY more than the average person. So @DannyVera, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about
100%. When you become a better version of yourself, good looking and successful in business, be prepared to “lose” 70-80% of your normal surroundings and situations. Envy and resentment in a form of phenomenon called schadenfreude will develop. Stay strong, keep your boundaries, don’t change the course. It always gets worse before it gets better.
Spot on, got a very similar story. I keep meeting some old co-workers at the gym, some of them straight up ignore me, some of them frown at me, guess who actually had a good talk with me? Another good looking guy lmao.
@@jackward770that's actually part of the problem here and why a lot of people don't like those who are very attractive. I don't respect anyone who just expects to get whatever they want because they're good looking. You have to have personality. Otherwise you're just a mannequin with a pulse.
What happens is you end up on dating apps, you set up dates then you cancel on them, because it wastes too much time, you just wanted to know if you can still swing, if you can still pull
Guys, NEVER EVER dumb yourself down, I am speaking from experience. You either live the life as a loner or aim for higher quality/category people. Once I dumbed myself down to fit in it bacame a trap that is not easy to get out of. I didn't know any better before but now I do and am working on myself to reclaim my spot.
I am guilty of doing that. Especially at work. I am decent looking, intelligent, and introspective. My idea of interesting topics would be religion or philosophy, or books that I have read. But usually my male coworkers are just into the predictable stuff, like sports or movies or video games. Or they just spend a lot of time goofing off. I sometimes feel that if I don't dumb myself down, people will judge me as being too serious or quiet, or of not wanting to associate with them. But then once I dumb myself down, I end up overdoing it, and then people no longer take me seriously.
And the worst part about all this is you can’t complain about it to anyone… imagine someone more attractive than you complaining to you about how much it sucks being attractive, you’d tell them to F off
@@r.i.proach7135 are you saying you’re ugly and being ugly isn’t great? Sure, I’ll grant that, being ugly isn’t fun. But hey at least ugly people can gripe about it without sounding like a narcissist. There’s even a whole genre of content made to help ugly people feel validated, it’s called black pill
Lol… Thank god for letting me grow up in the 80’s; When men and women started dating, simply because they liked each other. Now, it has become this over complicated mess, thanks to social media. It has made everyone so self absorbed and narcissistic, that they expect more out of a relationship than they are willing to give!.
One big thing being good looking is how much other men try and cut you down. They say you look “gay” or similar shit because they’re jealous. It’s probably what they’d say to a women who was there about you too so they don’t see you as an option. Men can be bigger haters than other women to each other. Like damn, this is how I was born it’s not my fault. Lol
we CAN control how we look. We could easily stop eating healthy, exercising and dressing well and be losers like the rest of them. That's why they try to shame us, to keep us from shining so bright.
This guy speaks the truth. I was constantly told growing up that I was a very handsome man. Girls would flirt and try to get my attention in my teenage years. However, as a adult in my 20 and 30s, I noticed women seemed to either ignore me or stare at me with a blank expression on their face like they discovered something and don't know how to react to it. Some women seemed angry when they noticed me. Sometimes, I would catch women looking at me, and then they would quickly turn and walk away. Men seemed annoyed by my presence and would try to act tough, especially if we were around women. My own friends would even try to put me down about my appearance and physique. It was very strange and I started to think something was wrong with me. I thought maybe I wasn't physically attractive anymore. But I knew I was in great shape during those years. I worked out almost everyday, and I ate a healthy diet. So it was very puzzling to me. However, I finally realized the truth of being a handsome man after years of frustration and loneliness which is mentioned in this video. Average women and men are jealous and envious of handsome men, especially handsome and successful men. The average woman sees handsome men as out of her league and despises him for it. Women are all about their beauty because that is their way of attracting men. They want to be worshiped by men for their beauty. A handsome man threatens their ego because it crushes their power of beauty to control men in a relationship. This is why women often date men less attractive than them. Its a power dynamic where they can have the upper hand in a relationship. The only women that will typically show attraction towards handsome men are very attractive women. This has been true in my experience. I notice very attractive women smile at me but average looking women act like I'm the plague. So the bottom line is handsome men need to seek out very attractive women... more attractive than themselves. Its the only way the dynamic will work with women. Most women are very insecure.
I'm particularly annoyed at how the average guy looks at you, even ppl u'd think friends. It's especially an issue if you're a pretty "bro" type and and seek to get-along & cooperate rather than compete over women ( I hate this behavior so much, idc how natural in the animal world it is, we CAN and SHOULD be better) , heck some gaming sessions on a night with the boys is still one of my fav activities now in my early 30s ~ it's like sacred to me, hah, but there's the odd out-of-place jab related to physique or even typical gay-jokes towards a straight guy because he tries to maintain stay fit & healthy. I just try to mildly laugh it off but my god, is it eye-roll inducing. One of the worst things for me is seeing a guy, whom you've been seemingly on pretty good terms with, and you even talked about the issues with relationships nowadays, even agreed on the vanity of a lot of women, will quickly sell you under the rug the 1st chance he gets if a situation ever arises where u'r having an argument with some woman he's into and take her side in the hopes of getting some ~ doesn't even matter if he fails or only gets something short term, he's willing to break a friendship with you just for the chance. Then I'm left sitting there dumbfounded, one more layer of innocence regarding how I view the world being peeled, and realizing these guys too, are as shallow & vane as the women I mentioned. What makes it the worse is that you thought you came to a common understanding, and you'll not fall for simply tricks and sell your bro for a slight chance for some puss, not even great puss, but pretty MID one to boot, and yet White Knighting & Simping rules supreme - as a result, it also further servers to overinflate the ego of these women. And with women yea, it's exactly as you said. They want to be the priority, so while yea, they'll be more attracted to you if you're attractive, it seems as if it's like a cardinal sin if you ever dedicate more, or even an equal amount of time to maintaining yourself rather than making sure she's getting her needs & wants.
Holy shit you just described my life. It’s as if I turned 20 and suddenly turned from Prince Charming into a goblin in terms of female interest. I always see them staring with a blank look on their faces. Plain fucking weird. And then if a approach which I don’t do often as I’ve lost confidence in it, suddenly the interest is gone and my back starts to hurt from carrying the convo
same here, except that ugly/fat/old/drunken/slutty women are totally into me without any shame. I get my butt grabbed and asked for a dance by them all the time. however, the hot ones are usually acting really hostile towards me (with rare exceptions). it's like they feel ashamed to admit what they really feel so they over compensate by treating me like I was nothing to them.
Hi Dan I just wanted you to know that women also feel lonely, thanks for your input I found it to be very helpful, I’m not sure of how easy it maybe to remind oneself,but U R right at times God keeping others away is helpful.✌️🦋
I had a major glow up in my late teens early 20s and i identify with everything in this video. Some suggestions based on my life experience: 1. Accept your gift and learn to love who you are and be proud. You will feel isolated and alone at times. Your Timidity, insecurity and need or looking to be accepted is going to be taken as weakness and exploited and used against you, so get rid of it 2. You are a one man show. Stop looking to fit in with people and groups and deal with people based on how well they treat you. You will find your own tribe naturally. Dont force relationships, whoever is meant to be in your life will be in your life 3. Learn to be disciplined and self sufficient. This will protect you from haters
I’ve noticed when I hang out with other people of similar looks / high success, there is no competition. They are secure in themselves and compliment and support you. People below you want to bring you to their level. Level up your social group.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
@@paulbrolly5421I appreciate these comments, I’m going through this now with two former friends that always try to bring me down, talk about “money” and mock me it’s funny honestly but it’s hurtful how they have switched up. Luckily I have other friends and parents that are very confident as well and aren’t toxic af
I’m a “conventionally attractive” woman and watched this out of curiosity. The experience is pretty similar- people act all kinds of crazy around you because you trigger their insecurities. If you are also insecure, you’re in for a very hard time.
100%. When you become a better version of yourself, good looking and successful in business, be prepared to “lose” 70-80% of your normal surroundings and situations. Envy and resentment in a form of phenomenon called schadenfreude will develop. Stay strong, keep your boundaries, don’t change the course. It always gets worse before it gets better.
In order to be successful at something, you need to be disciplined. Which means using your time wisely. Which means spending less time with friends or staying out late. Which means being alone more often. Yes, it is a lonely path, because very few people are disciplined, or are able to appreciate the amount of work required to achieve goals.
😂story of my life, might as well change my name. All you needed to add was how they add a derogatory term at the end of telling you to remain silent such as 'buddy, mate or pal'
@alexhowley9834 yes sir. I've been stabbed in the back so many times for being tall and non ugly to the point where I can be friends with someone who can't get a girlfriend etc. Cause it's just a matter of time before they get jealous and stab me in the back because of it. It just seems like all my tall attractive friends never have a problem with me. Weird
You don't need to be tall to be attractive and experience exactly all of this described in the video. I am 5'8 and banged girls taller than me with a boyfriend taller than me.
I'm definitley on the taller side (6'5) and take my physical fitness seriously, so I'm pretty lean, and I Cannot tell you how many times people have said this line to me when they actually get to know me "You know you're a lot nicer than I had initially thought, you're just really unapproachable" This guy nailed it
Exactly this bro, I'm not nearly as tall as you (6'1) take my health seriously and currently am in the best shape of my life in my late 20s (used to be a little over weight) and have dated a decent amount, so many people are surprised when I do my best to be kind and polite to anyone I interact with. I do have a rbf but I think it scares people away
@@JonesyTheFirst69 nailed it! It’s so funny how deceiving looks can be. Don’t get me wrong there are plenty of people who look as superficial as they are internally, but I’ve also met plenty of others who have strong character traits internally even if on the outside they “seem” shallow
when I was in high school, girls would tell me how cute I was. They seemed so innocent and sweet. Until the day I sat in front of the bus and they were all behind me and didn't know I was there. I was given a great gift when I got to hear all the vile, toxic and evil things that they had to say about me, other guys and what they really think. I was in shock and the next day I started my new life. Working hard, making money, saving money, starting businesses, starting hobbies, learning new things, making myself the best I can be. And never never forgetting what I heard that day. I am now still the cute guy, but much more successful, wealthy, and living a great life. My message to you is "work on yourself" and do not let others ruin your happiness and your future. Peace to all my brothers out there.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
@@Eunjiiimo2 Amen Brother. I repent from my last comment I’m a sinner. God decides for us we have corage and will. He is lighting us the way all the time. But we do not have the courage sometimes to do what has to be done. The world needs to get closer to God. God is the answer.
Groups of young men always harass me, whether I'm walking or cycling. But when I walk straight through their groups, like cut through them instead of going around, they say less or nothing.
Man this hits home way too hard. Being 6'7, 250 solid trained pounds, 6 times a week for 10 years. Nice clothes, clean looks...it gets lonely. Men size you up and want to start fights when you just want to party, and the women you get to know mostly just use as a trophy with no real deeper intentions. Luckily I am happy being alone, keep working on myself everyday on different goals. Weird situation. A plus, most of my male friends are above 6' and feel the same kind of struggles - so we keep struggling together 😂
What I noticed is that people create relationships based on the similarity of their cognitive and social levels. Whenever they impose a judgment on you that you are different, they act strangely with you. ... The annoying thing is that insecurity remains, no matter how comfortable you appear with them, they still act strangely. It's like a hidden hatred. Some men don't even look at you for fear you'll see him. How strange it is to see men acting like women.
That goes both ways. I've tried chatting up guys who are really attractive and they've acted like they would have preferred I not done that. Nothing at all weird on my part either, just general hey how's it going stuff. And I know it's just tribalism stuff on their part, because I wasn't on their level.
@@BigBadJerryRogers I think that most of the differences are differences in common interests or a common approach. You may be handsome, but all you have is your appearance as a status to benefit from, but the meetings remain superficial, while the majority get to know each other easily, as if they had a common code. ... I always see people laughing and getting to know each other. Most of them are normal in appearance, sometimes less so. When I talk to them, I feel like I have entered a room full of shy women, due to the extreme silence and pretense. Some of them are very nice and pretend, but as you said, they act as if they wish you had not spoken to them. ... To add, in recent times I have begun to notice that the secret to belonging is sometimes the lifting of formalities, and I personally set limits with my seriousness in dealing.
@@yvesalya3914 well that's part of what I was referring to, you have to be easy going if you want anyone to respond to you and be willing to engage with you any further, that goes for everyone regardless of looks. Nobody wants to have to work to talk to someone, so if you are humorless, give nothing back in trying to be easy to talk with, people are going to not bother. Never be too serious unless it's required.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
Cmon bro you must being doing something wrong. Maybe stop feeling sorry for yourself, self pity is the least attractive trait. Btw I'm only saying this cos I see from your pfp you have no excuse, you should be able to find a nice girl.
I think we feel lonely because we think, since we are good looking, our significant other has to be at least as good looking as us. But good looking women are really hard to get. At least a quality one. Which means we have to either settle or be alone.
@@VisceralCarbon Well, men tend to be solitary creatures. We tend to not have many friends. Just a few close ones. But I think it's normal for it to be more difficult to make friends once you get older.
I’ve had plenty of so called friends, tell me how handsome I am. But, every girl I date or interested in they constantly find flaws for why it won’t work. I have heard the saying “I’m worried about you bro” only when I’m seeing a girl and it’s going well. This line has never been used when I’m single or after a break up. I’ve found getting rid of these friends and keeping my dating life quiet in general been helpful. I relate a lot to this video, but anyone who thinks being handsome is make or break is totally wrong. I’ve had girls reject me and said “you’re too handsome for me”. Everyone has their obstacles. If your reading this, I hope you are doing well in life, and please never give up
Nah, Corey Wayne got all of his stuff from Patrice O'Neal and still isn't as good. Patrice is the king of understanding women and relationships.@@ralf4k
Less attractive people love searching for & pointing out any minor flaws that a G/L man might have. Once I had some cuts & scratches on my hands & arms from doing some yard work, the first thing this cow who I thought was my friend said to me was “not so perfect now are you?” WTF! - needless to say, I don’t waste my time doing anything for her any more.
I get this all the fucking time. People project their shit onto me and it's infuriating. Before I corrected the record, some of my colleagues were guessing my relationship status/history. People guessed I had several girlfriends at the same time, or that I'd been married for years (I'm 25). When I told them I've never had a girlfriend or so much as held a woman's hand, they straight-up thought I was lying, making fun of people who "actually" struggle with dating. Later in the year, I expressed my interest in someone whom I'd been exploring a friendship with -- I hadn't expected to develop feelings for her, bc I'd resigned myself to my lonliness after years of isolation, but it happened. When I finally told her, she started pacing excitedly back and forth, smiling, saying to me, "Ohhhhhh my god, I never thought someone like you would be interested in someone like me." I did not understand what she meant by that but I later found out all of our mutual friends thought I was way beyond her league. She probably did, too. And for me, I don't really think in those terms. I just want to be happy. I genuinely thought this person was gorgeous and funny and smart and all the things you do when you're in love. But she decided not to be with me. "You'll find someone else." I don't know, man. I'm trying but I just don't know. This is not entirely other people's fault, though. I dress and act like I don't care what others think and this is intimidating (apparently). I'm very open and honest and don't get embarrassed easily, either. I've also not been emotionally available because I thought something was wrong with me my whole life. Only now with therapy and fitness and emotional vulernability have I begun to feel less hopeless. But it still comes around everyone once in awhile.
I have never related more to a comment in my entire life. Recently went on a date after almost a year of isolation, girl tried to come onto me and I stopped her because I like to go slow (we met legit 2 hours prior) she got mad and had me take her home. I’m pretty sure she wanted to smash and then ditch me. Sounds optimal to some dudes but I genuinely hate that and just want a good girl friend that I can enjoy life with. Almost every girlfriend I’ve had has been shocked of my interest, and then extremely jealous, distrusting of my intentions, and overall belittling because they think I’m on some high horse. I constantly feel the need to belittle myself before others can get the chance to. It’s honestly miserable at times.
I understand the struggle, man. Can't talk to anyone without them thinking I'm sleeping with a bunch of other people at the same time. The intimidation of showing the "I don't care vibe" really resonates as well. Hang in there.
@@jefferyepstein399A girl left me because I wouldn't be official or forthright in asking her out, cos I said I wanted to get to know her over 6 months.
Bro so true. The passive aggressive bs we face from other dudes is mind blowing. I had to tell my boss to tell another guy to stop talking to me at work bc I knew it would keep on. It’s like they try to say passive aggressive comments when others are around to make you look like a loser to everyone.
Huge cope. Studies shows that lonely people have a lower life expectations than people who have a strong support system (family, friends...) read more about biology.
Hi there Michael, I just wanted to reach out to let U know that it’s probably because U R a very nice looking young man. U look like my son, stay true to U the right girl will come✌️🦋
I’m 26 and never had a gf. Not even a date. However, everyone assumes I’m a playboy who bangs a bunch of chicks. I’ve had clients and colleagues of mine say to me that I must have lots of options in dating when it’s actually the opposite. I have no problems getting a girl’s contact info but when I try to set up a date they come up with excuses to avoid seeing me. At this point I don’t even try anymore.
I broke up with my ex a while ago due to her insecurity, she would imply that I fool around with other women so I tried to alleviate her concerns, that didn't work so she started calling me awful names and other forms of disrespect, when she crossed that line I was done with her, now I struggle to get numbers and go on dates, I get straight up ignored or awkward vibes from most women, I've had family and a few close friends complement me on my looks so I know I'm not some sort of freak, I hate this lonely feeling I'm dealing with, I hate the way people think I have a huge ego and I'm someone whos a threat, life is already hard for everyone, why do we all gotta try and cut each others throats?
well if she implied that maybe she wanted you to do that and start a harem? anyways you guys dont realize the power you have over women always can get another woman
Hello there, as I scrolled through many quotes I found yours and interesting enough my attention was caught by the statement of being U being some sort of freak! I just wanted to let u know to please
Ooops sorry please don’t feel this way; as a woman who has been through much of what u have been through as well,if U can get pets & also try to volunteer some of your time at pet shelters or other places it may help soothe the feelings if u need to reach out like this platform it’s ok to allow others to care 4 U ✌️🦋
THANK YOU! I needed this gem! I am not "handsome" per-se, just different enough form my local/national demographic to be considered good looking, and hearing all these points from an outsider was a breath of fresh air that assured me I was not being paranoid. And yeah, to sum the situation up in a single sentence: When you're decent looking, you always have a giant target on your back.
Dosent seem like they are that independent strong women end of the day, if they cant stay with you. I thought everybody were more into having good looking partner. I wouldnt get no insecurities for having good looking partner, when if its average looking. I wont even be that intrested on her. Funny how women make fun off ugly guys, but at the same time too insecure to be with preatty guys. Kind of ironic.😂🤦♂️
Well it also could be that these women only see you as a ken doll and nothing more. A lot of men don't want some relationship with the girl they see at the strip club either.
the More handsome you are the Nicer you have to Be the More humble you have to behave the more Genuine you have to be, it is a responsability for me to Lead others That if this Handsome guy can be that humble you as an avg guy have no Business feeling like you are james bond I always saw that Hot guys had a bad Rep of being douchy So I took it upon myself to Be The most Humble and actually Make everyone feel important i Compliment other men and Alway talk to that shy or girl ... remember if youre handsome other people are looking at you To lead them to be better people
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
Dude stop that. You 'people pleasing'. You don't have to do shit! Fck those people who go against you because you just exist. How are you to entitle yourself that YOU have to lead anyone? Just do what you love to do and don't give a damn about what any sheep thinks about you. I can just tell you out kg experience. I'm a very attractive man myself and what you say reminded me on myself years ago. It is better that nobody likes you, BUT respects (and fears) you. When you look good they gonna like you anyways. Remember that!
Damn, this is true. I actually started isolating myself and focusing on myself. I was overthinking alot of things and maybe I should stop working out and etc. But currently I had to push myself back to where I was. It is tough
I decided to level up on my looks and clothes. And I noticed that women don't even look at me. They always look straight forward. I even had one tell me not to look at her.
Similar issue here, women 20-35 do not even look, but outside those boundaries I get heaps of looks. Something happens to women after school and university, they lose all sense of reality and are hyper focused on a particular type of man only. This man will be dressed in athletic clothing, talking loudly to his equally attractive male friend and that's what they want.
I don't .....they stare at me and give me convo and play . But I learned to tone it down and I still get the same results . I don't approach either they come to me. I just pay them no mind when I'm out
I've received this treatment constantly through my 20s, and I've often fallen into the trap of thinking something is wrong with me, which destroyed my confidence and led to years of isolation. A few years ago, I started semen retention out of curiosity. Since then, my confidence and resilience have skyrocketed astronomically. Elevating myself has made the envy from men worse, along with women downplaying my importance to them and acting like I don't exist. However, it doesn't bother me like it used to because behind the facade, I can see that they actually are very attracted to me.
I am ridiculously handsome, a decent looking coworker just told me out of nowhere that i would be too short for her to date me. I am 6’2 by the way. Its like they know that they have no chance so they are coming up with excuses for themselves.
I think we need proof you are ridiculously handsome. Just typing it on RU-vid doesn't prove it. Not wishing to be harsh but anyone can claim anything online. Doesn't make it true. And the number of men that would be considered ridiculously handsome by both men and women is, in my opinion, a very small amount. The world is not full of ridiculously handsome men. They're probably less than 5 percent of the entire male global population. Maybe smaller than 5 percent (depending how good looking - for example 9 out of 10).
@@Isikkkcan I’ve had that one too, bitches who don’t even know me or anything about me, approaching me out of the blue & telling me that they wouldn’t date a tall/v.attractive/muscular man. Wtf? I tell them that I wouldn’t date anyone who is totally insecure about themselves.
@@Isikkkcan Women also use excuses to not date when they aren't attracted. Saying you are too short is obviously a lie. I see many chubby and average looking women with handsome guys
Danny, you’re right! Resiliency and being comfortable with being uncomfortable is the best path in dealing with people, men and women, whom are jealous and envious of you. Focusing on my goals , purpose, and having patience is my best option.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
If you are attractive and want to be happy… at your happiest, cultivating a certain gregariousness towards people will go a long way. We intimidate people, so showing some vulnerability ourselves goes a long way towards making people trust and like us. I get compliments on my attractiveness ALOT.. to the point my Gf has gotten upset that I’m always getting compliments and she’s not. To help with this, I always compliment her when someone gives me a compliment. If someone stops me in the middle of the street and tells me “hey man… I just wanted to say you are a REALLY good looking man, no homo but for real” I’ll thank him and then say something to my girl like “and you’re looking so amazing babe” or some such…. It helps. Funny thing is that I’m not THAT attractive. I’m far from a male model and I’m old now to boot.. but the clothes I wear, the way I carry myself and my meticulous beard upkeep keeps the compliments coming. I’m not gonna complain, but I’ve definitely also noticed that people won’t open up to me like they used to back when I wasn’t receiving all these compliments.
This! You nailed it with the gregariousness thing. People assume that a tall handsome guy MUST surely happy, secure & confident. They therefore expect him to be open and warm, because he’s seemingly got it all. When he isn’t warm and gregarious, they assume he’s arrogant, conceited or vain. It’s hard to have this gregarious mindset when you’re feeling isolated and shunned by others, wondering if there’s something wrong with you, and having your guard up.
They'll be playful around others, but serious and stressed out w/ you. Or they crowdsource or mobbing you w/ like three or more ppl to socialize w/ you at one time. You'll always be outnumbered, ppl rarely deal w/ you one on one.
This is spot on. There's only been one time in my life where I feel people treated me normally was during my senior year in high school when my face was covered in acne. My self-confidence was at its lowest and I was super depressed. Yet, more people approached me and talked to me at that time than during any other time of my life. In fact, I didn't have the confidence to ask anyone out to senior prom, and one of the prettiest girls in the school ended up asking me!
Interesting, the other situation I had was during the pandemic because I didn't wear a mask, so many people talked to me compared to normal. It's like they couldn't decide who was average to talk to cos their face was covered.
Brother, everything you said describes me exactly! I agree 100% with everything you said. I've watched so many other related videos on this subject but yours is the best. I have always been considered great looking and work out on a regular basis. I took first place in a competition in 2022, and since then it's been nothing but hatred and jealousy, esp from women! I knew guys can get very envious and jealous of other men, but I found out recently so can women! And yes, you are right about men hating handsome men. I've had that problem all my life! Can't seem to trust anyone.
I spent the day in isolation today bro. It be mad confusing having girls stare at you, seem highly interested, then be scared to talk to you. I just stayed away from society today.
This was a huge problem for me being 6'4'' and decently looking for most of my life. I definitely got gaslighted early on and believed I was ugly and that something was truly wrong with me. It was only until 30+ I realized that people were playing mental gymnastics to make THEMSELVES feel better for THEIR insecurities. Eventually discovering semen retention/nofap, I found myself no longer giving a fuck what anyone thought. I am now fucking free to be myself and I NEVER give anything a second thought. Whether you like me or not, doesn't change a fucking thing in my head now. It is quite honestly the most freeing fucking experience I've ever had.
Female here but there are many points I related to not that I think I'm the most beautiful but I had no idea men go through jealousy or envy too for their appearance. I'm so sorry for anyone who has had to go through this. I relate to feeling lonely and people making comments about my appearance and feeling a sense of confusion. My heart really goes out to any man that has dealt with this and has genuine good intentions. Please know there is a woman out there that will love you for you.
I don’t think this matter or implies to women. If you are a beautiful woman, no way men will ignore your especially rich men. Unless you have a bad attitude(excuse me for this ). Men really experience this. I’m a good looking guy and I relate to this. I don’t know if it’s because I have a sigma personality.
It is harder for good looking men than women...since most women even average ones are surrounded by male simps ,it makes women have alot of options and ego boosted all the time..handsome men kinda intimidate women and like he said they will create prejudments about you like player ,narcissist,hard to please or control...
I'm one of these men. Women will make excuses why they broke up. My counselor said women date below themselves and that most have low self-esteem due to being treated badly by men, so they presume a good looking guy will cheat. Hence they bail. I've given up. Money will get you women over looks. Bottom line is there are a lot of damaged women out there due to men treating them bad. I'm staying single here on out.
Yeah im the same i know i am women check me out but ignore my approach and men just stare to intimidate me, i dont react im now confident in myself but it is hard.
It might have been easier in the past to get away with looks only, but now you're income is visible by online social verification. If you don't have money to match, it's transient friendships only. I have plenty of fun with the young women at work, but I am not even in their consideration for a future due to obvious income failings. However that is also my choice to live at the minimum.
Who told you this? A woman counsellor? Women’s low self-esteem, insecurities & their “damage” is not caused by men. They are conditioned that way by other women, social media, advertising, the education system, etc, & it feeds into the way their brains are hardwired for attention & emotional turmoil. It’s very convenient for men to be blamed yet again for all the problems that these women have isn’t it?
And women will rarely admit how attracted to you they really are, unless you're really not that attractive. How many women have you dated who actually gave you any credit? I bet it's very few. I'm just saying this because sometimes we'll feel like "Maybe I'm just too into myself and not that good looking", but then some random outspoken lady will say "Oh my God, wow you're so handsome! Are you married?" or whatever... and the confusion starts all over again! Lol (I hope someone can relate)
Anyone who’s an 8 and up can relate to this this shit is so annoying..whenever you go to look at someone in public you can tell they were looking at you so you turn to look at them but right as your looking at them they’re in the middle of turning their head away from you 😂 it drives me insane!!! because this happens everyday one way or another.. I’m literally tired of going out in public. Or you’ll see a group of coworkers talking but as soon as u walk up they all start acting different..or you’ll literally watch an average guy talk to people at your job so smoothly then as soon as u go to talk to them they’re visibly uncomfortable and short with you.. nothing flows because peoples nerves are going haywire when you’re around…
I don't know about co-workers but what might work apart from that is changing your image. You can't change your looks but you can change your appearance.
Same here something I didn’t see you mention but I’ve also experienced is when you walk in a store where people are talking, your presence is felt and then all of the sudden dead silence.. or the guy who is clearly analyzing you , you make eye contact with him but he won’t look away trying to intimidate you. I always smirk like yeah I know you see this greatness and I know u hate me. On the flip side I really don’t like it because I would like to connect but tend to feel my attractiveness is a barrier for some which causes me to be in my head a bit. I catch myself having some form of anxiety at times before I step into public because I’m aware of what I will run into. A bunch of insecure goobers. I always try to remind myself “look the only reason they act like this is because they aren’t you. “ So I hold my head higher. Still is tough at times. The only great conversations I’ve had are with people who are secure within themselves otherwise it’s some goober who acts like I’m not there or is trying to speak negatively on my life and who I am as a person TO OTHER PEOPLE but it’s hilarious because they have the slightest clue who I am. it’s all based on inferences they’ve assumed onto me , which is based on first impression, which is usually based on appearance (clothes, face, body) just crazy how some people treat you even when they don’t know you or so called “friends” in secret competition with you. It’s tough but on everything I love I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. Glad I’m not the only one.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
I get the head turns, only from women tho. With men they consistently want ALL THE eye contact, very sus btw. But I know what you mean the attention is annoying AF 😡
The story of my life. - Women would either go psycho on me, or if I rejected them they would explode in madness - or other guys would talk shit behind my back, invent stories or even come on to me - gay guys would harass me or develop fixations on me - the girls I was interested in would be totally ignoring me or even putting me down - I would be misjudged before people even spoke to me - I would be objectified in certain scenarios - girls with boyfriends would use me and/or come on to me to make their partner jealous (thus creating conflicts I did not cause at all) - I would be hated by some and weirdly idolized by others - women would want to be seen in public with me - people would too often totally misread me as they would be under the impression that I was into them when I would just be talking to them - folks would suddenly be flashing me and/or grope me - strangers would offer to pay me to have sex with them and their wives - some would become unhealthily possessive of me ...and I could go on and on and on........ My best buddy is a chubby, unattractive, non-competitive amazing guy who's got my back. No issues, no jealousy at all. At the gym some guys above average can give out some hateful energy while others seem so intimidated to the point of having some weird sort of admiration from a safe distance. Weird. Just always been weird.
Ok parked my truck … WOW… I needed to hear this. Ironically, I was having these thoughts as I was coming out of the gym at work. This video is so relatable. I’m turning 42 next week and still single with no kids, women praise me about my looks and how handsome and when I make the approach I get turned away because they feel so insecure because they think im a cheater and womanizer. But like a lot folks said… a man alone has a purpose, is focused, and working towards new challenges and adventure. Keep your circle small and your faith wide. Believe that God has something in stored for you and keep pressing forward. Do not settle for the sake of feeling lonely, strive to become the better version of yourself. Stay healthy brothers and sisters. I am new subscriber
The only women we can get are single moms and ones we've known for at least a year. The rest fall into the category of everything you said. Cold approach and dating apps? Not happening
There may be some truth to this about handsome men but the Definite Truth is that Humbly Confident Men/People, who are GOOD with Who and What they are, without any outside validation or anything ADDED to them, will mostly live a lonely life because insecure, narcissistic individuals will not understand them or have the ability to deal with their confidence... .. Another thing is that insecurity is at an All-Time High at present and only the people that are Truly Confident will know this and be quiet about it until its time to speak on it in a wise way. The Insecure Ones will always be LOUD about their NOT being insecure...
I try to be optimistic in my views. Being open and being able to joke with everyone and when the time comes, be stoic, firm, intelligent, quick to make logical decisions have come to give me a majority of respect and be joyful to be around with. That is if you're already keeping your promises to yourself by trying to level up your life in areas you want to improbe and being displined. There are those who try to size you up due to their lack of insecurity, but that shouldn't phase you. Have your circles to chill, take advice, business, etc. Have balance, life is much more simple, less fear leads to less stress and decisions you won't look back on.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -- J o h n 3 :16
I get told I am good-looking all the time (by random people at bars, people I know at the gym, etc) but I feel like calling myself handsome seems like a copout, like there must be another reason why I feel this way. I have experienced 9/10 things you just spoke about. I've been in this position since I left school and dating options are very few and far between. My lack of success has always been followed by more self-improvement, but it literally does nothing.
1- Men see each other as competitors, so average man will percive you as a thread and try to exclude you or bring you down with jokes and offenses 2- You will have enough experience with modern woman to really know that you cannot trust any of them That’s why
Men are only competitive if they have to be around each other. Like at work. Apart from that, they just go separate ways. They'll just avoid you, not stay and compete.
@@BigBadJerryRogers yeah its true, but in general those kind of “attacks” will happen at any social situation where girls are envolved. Even if you have no interest in them, in some cases even if the guy is already your friend
@@arrascaBP eh, that's just life. Anyone who does that to you was never any kind of friend you need and as soon as it starts the right thing to do is remove yourself from the situation. Doesn't have to be a thing.
@@BigBadJerryRogers Well, cutting friends and removing yourself from social interactions leads to isolation. But i’m not complaining bro, it is what it is, just explaining why handsome man tends to be lonely. If you are a good looking guy you know what i’m about, but there’s the pros too, i still prefer to looks amazing
It feels like you were talking to me. I was a male model in my 20s after I left the military. I was rated a 9. I had women after me constantly. Ever since I moved to a new city, there's been absolutely nothing. I've had over 200 rejections in 10 months. I have 9% body fat now, am 5'11, 165, absolutely shredded. But women mostly completely ignore me, and reject me instantly when I ask them out. I've been really confused. I know it's not me.
Maybe you're not as good looking as you think or rather women don't think you're as good looking as you think. Maybe you lack sufficient social skills, you're shy or anxious. Could be many reasons. Not just your looks.
Definitely very attractive. I did male modeling for a bit, I was a tall, slim prettyboy, long red hair and green eyes. I'd have beautiful women just take me home after class in college. I was hooking up with sorority girls, women on the soccer team, volleyball, etc. I'm 44 now, and look 31 or so. Metabolic age is 33. I have 9% body fat, and have very good muscular genetics. It's not my looks at all. I'm better at social skills than I was. I think it's the city I'm in, never had a problem other than here.
Have you really tried to put yourself in lots of diverse settings for interactions with people? Or are you just sticking with your possibly limited comfort zones?
@@BigBadJerryRogers honestly no. I moved to a new town and don’t have any friends here, and although that shouldn’t matter, I rarely have gone into those situations. Each time I connected with people but never met an available girl.
@@Sorcerers_Apprentice_11 appreciate the admission. This is a lot of the problem. You have to make more of an effort, that's life. And at least you're making connections, the more you do that the bigger your circle grows and more possibilities come
What matters most is how you connect with people not how you look. And don't stress too much about being self aware all the time. Sometimes, it's just you overthinking things. Just be yourself and the right people will come into your life naturally.
Never resonated with a video so much in my life. So glad I watched this. I’ve had many comments since I started training at 14 (now 28) directed at me “oh I thought you’d be a dick but you’re actually really nice” purely based on the fact I was in shape and looked after myself. Now I rarely get invited to anything, do life on my own and still get jealous comments. Glad to see I’m not alone. “I’d rather be covered in sweat in the gym, than clothes on the beach”.
At this point most guys don't want you stealing their chicks. I embrace it and don't care. Picking up a good woman is really what I want anyway more than guy friends. My guy friends can be co-workers or people at church.
This vid is so on point. There is a natural jealousy for guys who are better looking and it leads to exclusion because they are seen as competition or as described.. unattainable. Great vid
I agree with the accessment that Resilance is a quality most men in general need to aquire, along with Maturity! I heard words from some "pimp" once, which said basically, "The pimp road🛣️ is a lonely one"!🕺✊✌️
My God this couldn’t have come at a better time. Been feeling EXACTLY like this and it’s been hell being so lonely. Especially when it seems like no dudes even want to be friends but I get compliments and stares from strangers.
Thank you for this. It hits home to my experience throughout my life. I get many compliments over my looks but I'm usually alone and it's difficult for me to flirt without coming across as a jerk. I have to hold back on any cockiness whereas the next guy can say things that are downright offensive imo, without facing any backlash. I hate being thought of as unattainable and unapproachable.
I have a hard time accepting the label of "handsome" or "attractive" as an explanation for my experience. Too many people overrate themselves and I refuse to be so delusionally cringe (at least publicly). Still, the fact that you make a video like this despite the arguably small audience it's intended for is helpful. In private where I'm free to reflect, I can sort through in earnest how it might apply to me and adjust my outlook accordingly. Resilience is well-named as a virtue to include here. Wish I had friends like you irl but I'm a big fan of your content regardless, Danny.
Recently came to terms with this situation. I’m used to being alone but I just get disappointed in how people act sometimes cause I wouldn’t do that to them but you’re right resilience and increasing your standards are the only way.
I’m honestly paranoid at this point with how many betrayals from “friends” I’ve had, hateful comments from unattractive girls, dumb douchebag jealous guys trying to compete with me and general backstabbing against me. I just want a beautiful smart girlfriend I can run away with at this point and not have contact with anyone else 😂
I stumbled across this video by chance and...I really appreciated it. I was often complimented for my looks and my voice - it was mostly from 1. guy friends 2. family (doesn't really count, does it) 3. older women (50plus) 4. girlfriends. I know I'm no Bvlgari ambassador material, but contrary to these remarks I had zero attention in public. Well known "signs women find you attractive" was NIL. No one looked nervous around me, no double takes, no frequent eye contacts and of course, no one ever came to chat me up (I'm too shy to go and chat anyone up myself though). And I came to make sense of this as "mkay, people who compliment my looks are being polite" But it got more and more annoying when someone compliments my looks. "You must have a pretty girlfriend" "a lot of girls must like you" all that turned in my mind as "are they mocking me? Am I giving off an aura that I like my looks so much and they're annoyed?? why are they so mean?" I don't think I'm terrible looking, perhaps some fortunate features - tall nose and a bit sharp for an asian, that kinda thing. But I see so many "average" (nothing against them, I'm sure their personality is great) guys with relatively attractives partners, and I purely wondered what is going on. I mean some women seemed to be visibly turned off by the idea of dating me - a female friend made this scrunchy face when we were having drinks with other friends, and on the topic of relationships, she mentioned "ok, let's pretend you guys are dating, right? and let's say you, as a boyfriend did this..." It's not like I asked her for coffee even lol And yet, from time to time, I still get compliments. It literally made zero sense! I wished they would stop mentioning anything about my looks, I wished i could wallow and be happy I'm just another average or maybe even lesser guy. Stop giving me weird confidence boosters that the real world isn't relflecting! I don't want to be delusional! It drove me nuts And it'll seem whiney to be "oh but women don't talk to me" - it's sincere, but it's clearly going to sound like I want attention. Not really, I just wanted to be real. Sorry this became so long, but out of everything out there, you are the only person who gave the closest thing to a convincing explanation. Thank you.
Very insightful and touches on a topic that is rarely if ever spoken about or understood. I’ve struggled with this through out my life and never understood why. Thank you
Incredibly beautiful women also get approached less because men assume they will reject them so they go after plus size or Average looking women inflating their egos.
Women are not looking at you because they don't find you attractive or handsome. You don't have to come up with all these mental gymnastics. She just doesn't like you no matter the "stud" you imagine when you look in the mirror. Hope this helps!
It's not about confidence in your appearance, it's about the objective fact that you have a symmetrical face and a masculine face and you look good. A good way to check this is with unfamiliar children, if they look at you and smile when you smile at them - then you are attractive. But adult women and men will sometimes judge you badly because of their own insecurities. As an attractive man, I have often encountered and continue to encounter this.
Not to brag here but he just described my life perfectly. I'm 27, 186cm and 87kg with a muscular frame. From how women treat me i know i'm fairly attractive. I have slept with more than 100 girls, whom some just straight up used me for sex. I used to have some friends but they always ended up snaking me out of jealousy or didn't want me around because they were intimitated. I never get invited for activities or i never get hit up for something. It brought serious damage to my self image and i always thought there was something wrong with me or my character, while i'm surely not an asshole or anything. I tend to focus on myself only these days..
I get women telling me I should model, called me beautiful, handsome, hot, and they thought I was a movie star overseas. Even lesbians sometimes are in love with me. Then later they ghost me lmao.
As an adult I've finally been able to overcome my past trauma and insecurities and finally recognize that I'm an attractive man. But this hasn't made me any less lonely. I get a lot of attention from women for my looks but as soon as I try to just be friendly and have a conversation that treat me like I'm an asshole immediately. It hurts because I'm a man at tune with his emotions and a kind person, but no one gives me a chance. When I try to talk about my loneliness people just laugh at me and dismiss me. I often wonder if I would do better becoming less attractive.
Great handsome men game videos man. I've been strugling with that for a while and could not find confort and meaning in this issue. This discussion helped me understanding myself better and how to approach it with more consciously Thanks! Cheers from Brazil
Bro everything you spoke about is exactly what I've experienced in my adult life. Thanks for covering this topic I never realized how common it aurally was.
This has kind of been my life recently, come back home after things didn’t work out in college. Fell into a deep depression and decided to get myself back in shape really to save my life. Went from 260-250 all the way down to 200-210 and I look like a completely different person. Heard all the congratulations and things like that then eventually things started shifting around me and I started getting looks from both men and women like they can’t believe at what they’re looking at. Then dealt with some jealousy from guys from a gym I used to go to and to say the least some people tried to f*ck me over. It can be a bit discouraging but I rather deal with these problems then deal with problems with my health. Stay Strong out here good people 💙💪🏾
You said it bro, how many women & other dudes expect you to be dumb & useless? They get a shock when they see that we are smart & capable as well as GL. At that point they just can’t deal! A double whammy & in their eyes even more reason to hate us!
For me the biggest thing that turns women away is that I’m intimidatingly attractive AND very smart, not school smarts but just life philosophy and psychology. I can dive into any subject without bias of political ideology which makes me see through people, so you add that on top of the fact that my looks make them uncomfortable and it’s a double whammy. I spend a lot of time alone meditating, working out and reading
You know, I've been looking at a lot of videos like these on RU-vid but I can say that yours provided a breath of fresh air. I thought at one point I was going crazy or something was utterly wrong with me but, everything that you stated has been spot on and an internal confidence booster. Thanks for posting.
A semi cure to the problem is to be genuinely kind to people and humble. Be someone that people can approach. If they don't approach, you do the approaching, but be someone that people can be comfortable with.
it just kind of funny. Since you have all shared your stories, I ll join in :D. When I was around my 17-18 girls were drawn to me, I didn't even have to engage, they engaged me. I was a skinny dude around 5'10 with a pretty lean face and modest athlete(kind of) body, ripped, but skinny lean. Today I'm 24 and I have never looked better in my life, added 30 pounds of muscle, got tattooed, improved my style, confidence skyrocketed, everything just flourished but the thing I started to notice is that you get LESS attention. It's not like you really do not get it, it's almost like girls are doing it on purpose to shatter your confidence, bitch face mentality, I can see them mostly staring at the arms or me directly but it's not as often as when I was younger. It's such a strange phenomenon, you have leveled up enormously but it almost started getting harder or Idk, I would love to hear your stories and opinions :D
there is also a prejudice that your looks bring when people judge your intellectual capacities, so despite having 2 masters degrees from top universities I often put geeky glasses on on purpose to "hide" my face and wear baggy clothing/suits/shirts in the interviews/business meetings to try to appear more fat/out of shape than I actually am
I think it comes down to that some* women want the ego boost to see that you're attracted (similar game is played on dating apps). Once they know they can get you, they get what they wanted. They need it because a lot of women are insecure and are pure validation seekers.
I’m gay, not young, but have people flirting with me a lot. But I get hated an awful lot too, stalked by those who loathe me, and shouldn’t find me to be worth that effort. And as an ENTP, the contradiction is confounding. It’s almost as though life is an energy, and if you’re gifted, then you have to pay the price for that “gift.”
Dude, this guys is killing it. Recently I've decided to start going out because what this guy is talking about with isolation. Now I'm not super attractive but definitely above average, and my wing man has been pulling some shady sh*t lately. I just don't understand why some dudes get jealous, and especially my wing because he has big muscles and a boatload of confidence. Anytime a girl shows high level of interest this dude AMOGs me and tries to steal the girl. I still get some batties to text with, but I may need to start going out alone after watching this video.
